5. Me First, For Once: Tenderness, Boundaries & Coming Back to Yourself

✨ You’re not selfish for putting yourself first. You’re just tired of disappearing so others can stay comfortable.

In this soft but powerful episode, Caitlin Gil-Soto walks you through how to stop emotionally abandoning yourself and start building a life where you count too.

🔹 What We Explore:

Segment 1 — The Cost of Abandoning Yourself
We talk about how many of us were raised in survival mode and learned to feel guilty for having needs.
📝 Journal Prompt: When was the first time you felt like caring for yourself made you weak?

Segment 2 — Your Inner Child & Reparenting
We explore how that younger version of you still runs the show… and how to create safety from within.
📝 Journal Prompt: As a child, what version of yourself did you hide in order to be loved?

Segment 3 — People Pleasing in Dominican Homes
Cultural truths: how Dominican and immigrant households shape guilt and boundaries.
📝 Journal Prompt: What emotional role were you given as a child that no longer belongs to you?

Segment 4 — Saying No Without Guilt
Caitlin shares a real story about saying “no” to family — and how it brought freedom.
📝 Journal Prompt: Where do you keep saying yes out of habit, even though you know it should be a no?

Segment 5 — Self-Talk & Speaking Life
What you repeat, you believe. We talk about self-sabotage and shifting your inner dialogue.
📝 Journal Prompt: What lie about yourself have you been repeating for years without realizing?

Segment 6 — Rest, Faith & Receiving
Rest is also faith. We unpack how trusting God means releasing the hustle.
📝 Journal Prompt: What form of rest do you need to reclaim without guilt?

Segment 7 — Manifestation, Abundance & the Subconscious
Inspired by Florence Scovel Shinn, we explore breaking inherited scarcity and speaking from faith.
📝 Journal Prompt: What belief about money, love, or success did you inherit that no longer serves you?

Final Prayer — Dominican Style
A guided prayer to say together — letting go of fear and returning to God’s peace.

💬 Episode Affirmation:
“I speak life over my body, my mind, and my spirit. I feel safe choosing myself.”

🔗 Resources:
🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & YouTube
🛒 Grab your healing journal on Amazon - search Caitlin Gil-Soto
📲 Connect on IG: @caitlinlajefaa + @unfilandunapologeticpod and TikTok @caitlajefa

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