When you’re in relationship, do you find yourself so worried that something will go wrong that you want to badger the other person for reassurance? Maybe you have the opposite feeling and in relationship often feel yourself shutting down or running away when things get vulnerable? Or maybe you’re go back and forth between both of those feelings and never feel secure when you’re getting close to someone.
This week I’m talking with Nicole Walker about:
- What attachment theory is, and how it relates to the ways we subconsciously approach relationships.
- The four different attachment styles, and how our family dynamics as children shape these styles.
- How anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles leave us feeling misunderstood and disconnected from the love and connection we desire.
- What secure attachment is, and why it’s what we should be working toward.
- Practical tips for how we can heal insecure attachment to receive more security, safety, and love.
About Nicole:
Nicole Walker is a licensed counselor and relationship coach. Her company, Renovate Your Relationships, offers courses and coaching and has become the trusted guide for modern adults who want to find and keep the love they deserve without the shame, stigma, or confusion.
IG: @renoyourrelationships
Website: renovateyourrelationships.com
Course: Renovate Your Foundations
Free Attachment Styles Workbook
Mentioned in this episode:
Mary Ainsworth’s Strange Situation Experiment
The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller
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