Building Resilience and Embracing Inner Power

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, my Radiant Souls and welcome back to
another empowering episode ofUnleash your Inner Radiance.
I'm Lisa Dorn, your Life andTransformation Coach, Real
Estate Agent here in very coldMinnesota, and International
Author.
In our latest, last episode, wetalked about setting dreams and

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goals for an amazing 2025.
Today, we're going to go deeper.
We're diving into the sneaky,self-destructive patterns of
self-sabotage and thetransformative power of
resilience.
If you ever felt like you arestanding in your own way or

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struggling to bounce back fromlife's challenges, this episode
is for you.
Let's explore how to stopself-sabotaging and start
showing up as the powerful,radiant person you are meant to
be.
Let's get started.
We're going to talk a littlebit about understanding

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self-sabotage.
We're going to talk a littlebit about understanding
self-sabotage Becauseself-sabotage is a term that
we've all heard.
But what does it really mean?
Because, at its core,self-sabotage is when we do
things, often unconsciously,that get in the way of our own

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success.
Have you ever done that?
Have you ever experienced that?
It's kind of like here's anexample Skipping the gym even
though you know you arecommitted to a healthier
lifestyle.
It's procrastinating on thatwork project that could lead to

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a promotion.
It's pushing people awaybecause you are afraid of
getting hurt.
But why do we do this?
Self-sabotage often stems fromdeeper issues, from deeper
issues in our childhood.
Some of them are like fear offailure or success, low

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self-esteem, low self-worth,perfectionism.
I struggle with all of these.
The last one is past trauma orlimiting beliefs.

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We all struggle with thesethings.
I myself struggle with all fourof them at any given minute of
a day.
So I want to take a moment hereto reflect.
Think about a time when you'veself-sabotaged your own progress
.
Maybe you're trying to stick toa goal and something or someone

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pulled you off track.
Write it down, if you can,because awareness is the first
step to breaking free fromself-sabotage.
Once we can name it, we cantame it, but we need to name it
first.

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So, following that, I want totalk about the root of
self-sabotage and dig just alittle bit deeper behind why we
all struggle with self-sabotage.
Because if you have ever heardthat a habit is a habit, right,

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so not doing something is ahabit.
Not getting out of bed in themorning when your alarm goes off
is a habit.
And not getting out of bed inthe morning when your alarm goes
off is a habit.
People say that I'm sorry, Ijust can't get in the habit of
working out in the morning, butyou have a habit of hitting

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snooze.
Just going to say that is athing, because we often use
self-sabotage to protectourselves from discomfort.
Change is hard, growth is hard,and our brains are wired to

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avoid pain and stick with whatfeels safe and familiar, even
when safe means staying stuck.
So I'm going to give you fourcommon root causes of

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self-sabotage.
One is fear of failure, becauseit's easier to avoid trying
than to risk failing.
Two fear of success.
What if you succeed and youcan't keep up?
What if people expect more fromyou?

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What?
What if they expect more?
Three imposter syndrome Feelinglike you're not worthy of
success can lead you tounconsciously sabotage it.
Do you do this?
I know I'm guilty of it and Ihave yet to figure out why.

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Number four unresolved pastexperiences.
Maybe you were told as a childthat you weren't good enough.
Maybe you were told as a childthat you weren't good enough and

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those words became the scriptthat you replay over and, over
and over in your mind.
You see, the key to overcomingself-sabotage is identifying
these stories you've beentelling yourself, because I want
you to think are they true orare they just outdated

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narratives that really, truly,no longer serve you?
Mine fall in that categoryBuilding resilience.
We're going to shift gears andtalk about resilience, because

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resilience is your ability tobounce back from challenges, to
adapt and to keep going, evenwhen things get so tough that
you just want to hide.
It is the antidote toself-sabotage, because when you
build resilience, you buildtrust in yourself, trust that
you can handle whatever comesyour way.

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So let's talk about how we canstart building resilience.
And, trust me, I need topractice these five steps,
because I had something happento me over the last week that

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really struck me in the heart,really struck me in the heart,
and it really knocked my selfconfidence down and my self
worth down, and I literally havebeen trying to figure out how
to be more resilient in this.
So, one, we need to practiceself-compassion.

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Talk to yourself like you woulda friend, instead of saying I'm
such a failure.
Try, I made a mistake, but I amlearning and growing.
Two, reframe the challenges.

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Instead of seeing setbacks asroadblocks which mine became a
huge roadblock this week seethem as opportunities to grow
and ask yourself what can Ilearn from this?
Three, strengthen your supportsystem, because resilience isn't

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built alone, so lean on friends, family, a coach who believes
in you and reminds you of yourstrength.
Four create healthy habits.

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Did you know that physicalhealth and mental health are
really deeply connected?
Exercise, sleep and nutritionall play a huge role in building
resilience.
Celebrate small wins.

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Resilience grows when yourecognize your progress, no
matter how small.
Every step forward counts.
Our last segment strategies tostop self-sabotage.
This one is my toughest,because I struggle with

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self-sabotage like there is notomorrow and I see it in a lot
of things that I do and I'm notsuccessful in.
So, now that we've explored thewhy behind self-sabotage and
the power of resilience, I wantto talk a little bit about
actionable strategies to stopself-sabotage, about actionable

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strategies to stop self-sabotage, and I'm going to practice
these this week and I want youto practice them with me.
One identify your triggers.
What situations or emotionslead you to self-sabotage?
Because that awareness is key.

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Mine is usually my emotions,which are things that are
trapped in me.
Two create a plan.
If you know you tend toprocrastinate.
Set smaller, more manageablegoals and break the big tasks
into small, bite-sized pieces.
Three set boundaries.

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I am notorious for not settingboundaries.
And when I do set boundaries,sometimes they come back to
haunt me.
But sometimes self-sabotagecomes from saying yes to things
that drain us.
So learn to say no to whatreally truly doesn't align with

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your goals.
Four visualize your success.
Spend time imagining what itwill feel like to achieve your
goal.
Make it so real in your mindthat it feels attainable.

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Five replace negative self-talk.
When you catch yourself sayingI am never good enough, I'll
never be good enough, write itdown, because I want you to stop

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and reframe it.
Try, I am capable and I amlearning as I go.
Seek accountability is numbersix.
Find a coach, a friend or amentor who can help you stay on
track and call you out when youare veering off course.
Seven practice patience,because change takes time.

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So celebrate every progressinstead of perfection.
Huge, huge thing.
I struggle with that a lotbecause I need to know this
before I can do this instead ofjust doing it right.
I don't need to know everythingabout it before I do it,
because if I don't do it, I'mnot taking a chance, and if I

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don't do it, then I'm not takingthat chance that I'll fail and
I'll grow from it.
So I want to say this is yourjourney to freedom.
My friends, self-sabotagedoesn't have to define you.

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With awareness and compassionand resilience, you can break
free from those old patterns andstep into the life that you
deserve.
Remember, you are not yourmistakes.
You are the radiant, powerfulperson who keeps showing up and

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trying again.
If this episode resonated withyou, share it with someone who
needs to hear it.
Let's spread this message ofhope and transformation far and
wide.
And if you are ready to dive indeeper into this journey,

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connect with me on social mediaor visit my website at
changeyourlifewithlisacom, andtogether we can rewrite your
story.
Until next time, keep shining,keep striving and keep stepping
into your power.
This is Lisa Dorn and I'll seeyou in the next episode.

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Remember you are stronger thanyou think, more capable than you
know.
Here's to your radiant journey.