March 10, 2025 • 34 mins
Transformation begins when you confront the untruths you tell yourself. This week, we delve into the self-lies that hold you back and explore how breaking these habits can enhance your journey toward authenticity and self-love.
• The nature of self-betrayal
• Common lies we tell ourselves
• The impact of broken promises on self-trust
• Strategies for rebuilding self-worth
• Fear of failure and comfort zone traps
• Actionable steps to commit to yourself
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, beautiful souls, welcome back to another episode
of Unleash your Inner Radiance.
I'm your host, lisa, certifiedlife wellness and transformation
coach, best-selling author andyour biggest cheerleader on this
journey to self-growth andauthenticity.
Today, we need to have a realraw, unfiltered conversation,
(00:22):
and I want you to be honest,unfiltered conversation.
And I want you to be honest.
How long are you going to lieto yourself?
How long are you going to makepromises you don't keep?
How long are you going to pushyour dreams, your goals and your
(00:52):
happiness to the side?
This episode is going to be awake-up call for some people.
I know when I went through it,part of my journey, it was
definitely a wake-up call for me, but I don't want you to worry,
because this conversation thatwe're going to have today is
(01:13):
coming from a place of love.
So I want you to remember that.
So buckle up, take a deep breathand let's dive in the lies that
we tell ourselves.
I mean let's dive in the liesthat we tell ourselves.
I mean let's get real.
How many times have you toldyourself I'll start Monday, this
(01:37):
is my year, I'm done with toxicrelationships, or I'm finally
going to put myself first?
And I could keep going withthose, because I, then you, end
(02:08):
up breaking that promise dayslater.
The problem isn't that yourword doesn't matter.
(02:30):
That's what you're doing.
Is you're telling yourself thatyour word doesn't matter?
Your word doesn't matter?
And let me tell you, yoursubconscious is always listening
(03:00):
, so is that what you want totell yourself?
Here's some common lies that wetell ourselves, besides those
ones that I just mentioned.
I'll start when I'm ready.
Newsflash.
You'll never be fully ready.
(03:20):
Never, never, never.
I just need more motivation.
You don't need motivation.
What you need is discipline,because you need to be
(03:41):
disciplined so you get on thattreadmill.
You need to be disciplined sothat you eat better.
You need to be disciplined sothat you get out of bed when
your alarm goes off.
That is also a habit.
But and all these are kind ofhabits If you're disciplined,
(04:02):
then you create a habit.
That is a habit, right?
How about the last one?
This is just who I am.
That's a story, that's not afact.
So let's get real.
How many times have you justlooked at yourself in the mirror
and said this time I mean it2025 is going to be my year.
(04:29):
This time I mean it Only tobreak your promise a few days,
weeks or even hours later.
We make commitments toourselves all the times Like I'm
(04:58):
going to wake up early and workout.
I'm finally leaving that toxicjob out.
I'm finally leaving that toxicjob.
I'm going to set boundaries andstop saying yes when I mean no.
And yet how often do we followthrough?
Now, on the exercise thing, I'mguilty of that one Day in and
(05:23):
day out, because I have so manythings that I want to do and
apparently getting on thattreadmill is not one of them
that I'm disciplined enough todo.
But remember, every time youbreak a promise to yourself, you
(05:49):
are sending yourself consciousa message that your word doesn't
matter, that you don't matter.
You're reinforcing a patternthat says it's okay to let
myself down.
I can always start over later.
You can always start over later, but is it right to always let
(06:25):
yourself down?
So I want to break that down alittle bit, because later always
turns into next week, nextmonth, next year and before you
know it, you wake up and wonderhow did it get this bad?
How did I get to this point?
(06:50):
So let's talk about the realcost of self-betrayal.
It's not just about skipping aworkout or pushing that dream
aside.
The deeper issue that is hereis that every time you don't
(07:11):
follow through, you chip away atyour self-trust, and when
self-trust is broken, yourconfidence goes with it.
So if you're a person that'sstruggling with a lack of
self-confidence, think back toall the self-trust issues you've
(07:38):
created with yourself and yoursubconscious, because you can
refrain your self-conscious, butyou need to have an intention
and the discipline to do it.
So when you lose yourself-confidence, you stop
(07:59):
believing in yourself.
If you don't keep your ownpromises, why would you trust
yourself?
To take on something big, youhave to have trust in yourself.
You have to believe in yourself.
You have to have self-worth andself-confidence, because you'll
(08:24):
start second-guessingabsolutely everything when you
don't follow through.
You lose faith in your abilityto make even the smallest
decisions.
You allow yourself to settlebecause, deep down, if you don't
believe in your own worth, whywould you expect more for
(08:49):
yourself?
The problem isn't that you can'tdo it.
The problem isn't that we can'tdo.
It isn't that we can't do it.
The problem is that you've beenteaching yourself that it's
(09:12):
okay not to do it.
Whatever that thing is, you'reteaching yourself that it's okay
not to do it.
But here's the truth.
Every time you say you're goingto do something and actually
follow through with what yousaid you're going to do, you're
(09:34):
rebuilding the trust in yourself, and trust is the foundation of
confidence, self-worth and realtransformation.
That's so powerful that onelittle thing, all you have to do
(10:00):
, is follow through on somethingyou tell yourself you're going
to do, and you start rebuildingeverything.
So let's dig into why we keepbreaking these promises.
In the first place, we wouldn'tflake on our best friend yet we
(10:29):
cancel on ourselves all thetime.
Why is that?
Because we've becomeconditioned and we've
reconditioned ourselves tobelieve that our own priorities
(10:50):
can wait, that we'll get to itlater.
But it turns out that laterturns into never, and every
broken promises that you make toyourself chips away at your
confidence.
So why does this happen?
(11:12):
Why does this happen?
Why has this happened?
Why is this happening?
Why, because we're standingthere and we're saying I'm going
to do this, and then we don'tdo it.
So in your mind, in yoursubconscious, you're saying I'm
going to do this.
Then we don't do it.
So in your mind, in yourself-conscious, you're saying
I'm going to do this, this, thisand this, and then you don't do
(11:32):
one of those things or two ofthose things.
So why does this happen?
Well, one fear of failure.
We don't want to try and fail.
Fail, so we don't try at all.
Two comfort zones Change isuncomfortable, even when we know
(11:57):
we need it.
Lack of self-worth Deep down,we don't fully believe we
deserve better.
If you've ever struggled withlack of self-worth, it is a
(12:19):
tough thing.
I struggled with self-worth myentire life.
I struggled with self-worth myentire life and fear of failure
and comfort zones really get inmy way, because I want to do
(12:40):
something but I'm definitelyafraid to fail.
Or in some cases, I believe I'malmost afraid of success, which
is really odd.
But let's talk about fear offailure, because it is the
silent dream killer.
What if I try and I fail?
What if I put myself out thereand I'm not good enough?
(13:04):
What if I give it everythingand I still don't succeed?
Now what if I put it out thereand I'm not right?
(13:30):
So part of my thing was well,who's going to listen to me?
And what if I'm not good enough?
But what if I am?
And what if people do listen tome?
And guess what People do?
So I'm just saying go for it.
(13:50):
Okay, go for it.
Fear of failure is the numberone reason we stay stuck, not
because we're lazy, not becausewe don't want it badly enough,
but because we're terrified thatwe'll try and it won't work.
And that fear, that fear isparalyzing and it can be
(14:19):
paralyzing.
So, instead of trying to riskfailure, what do we do?
We self-sabotage before we evenbegin and we just convince
ourselves that I'll start whenI'm more prepared.
Lie, you'll never feel fullyready.
(14:41):
I need more time to think aboutit.
Lie, you're just delayingaction.
I need more time to think aboutit.
Lie, you're just delayingaction.
I don't have what it takes.
Lie, you've never givenyourself the chance to prove
(15:05):
otherwise.
So here's a reality check.
The most successful people inthe world have failed Many, many
, many, many times, becausethat's how you grow.
But they didn't let failuredefine them grow.
(15:27):
But they didn't let failuredefine them Because, whatever
that failure was, use it as astepping block for growth.
They saw it as part of theprocess.
And that's exactly what it is.
Failure isn't proof that you'renot good enough.
It's proof that you're growing.
(15:51):
Let's do a little mindset shift.
What if, instead of fearingfailure, you saw it as evidence
that you're on the right path?
You're on the right path.
What if every mistake was justa stepping stone instead of a
dead end or a cul-de-sac?
(16:14):
It's more like a cul-de-sac youcan go in and you come back out
.
Dead end you're just kind ofstuck there.
Let's talk about comfort zones,because they are the trap that
feels like safety.
I'm fine, things aren't bad.
(16:37):
At least I know what to expect.
Have you said any of thosethings to yourself?
Because do these sound familiar?
That's the voice of comfortzones, the sneaky little trap
that keeps us stuck insituations we say we don't want,
but stay in anyway, because yousay you really don't want that,
(17:05):
because you're more comfortableright where you're at.
Because here's the truth changeis uncomfortable, even when you
know it's necessary.
So we cling to the familiar,even when it's necessary.
(17:25):
So we cling to the familiar,even when it's toxic, because
the comfort feels safe.
Our brains are wired to avoiduncertainty.
Even if it means settling, wefear the unknown.
What if the new path is worse?
(17:48):
What if we fail?
What if it's harder than weexpected?
Or we tell ourselves we havetime?
I'll get serious about myhealth later.
I'll start that business whenthe timing is right.
(18:09):
But let me ask you this?
Has waiting ever made you feelbetter?
Has staying in your comfortzone ever led to real happiness?
Here's another reality check.
(18:35):
Your comfort zone might feelsafe, but it's also where dreams
go to die.
If you want change, you have toget uncomfortable period Period
.
And here's a little mindsetshift for you Instead of asking
what if I fail, ask yourselfwhat if I succeed.
(18:56):
Instead of fearing discomfortand the scariness of it, start
seeing it as the price of growthof it.
Start seeing it as the price ofgrowth Lack of self worth,
something I struggled with formy entire life, and it is the
(19:16):
deepest root of all.
Have you ever asked yourself aquestion like who am I to chase
this dream?
Who am I to think I deservebetter?
This is a big one, because deep, deep down, a lot of us don't
(19:37):
follow through on our goals,because we don't actually
believe that we are worthy ofthe success, the happiness or
the love.
Maybe you grew up in a homewhere you were told to be
realistic.
Maybe life has knocked you downso many times that you are
(20:02):
convinced, and you haveconvinced yourself, that
settling is just what peoplelike you do.
So you self-sabotage yourself,you shrink, you avoid taking up
space, because if you trulybelieve you are worthy of more,
(20:27):
why wouldn't you fight for it?
I struggled with self-worth indifferent ways and I, even today
, struggle with it, becausethere are some things that stop
(20:48):
me dead in my tracks, and it'smind-boggling to even myself,
but it still is there and lifehas knocked me down several
times and then it seems likeevery time I start to get back
(21:10):
up, something else happens.
But that is just the reality oflife, right?
So I just need to be confidentand build my self-worth up,
because here's a reality checkfor both you and me you are not
(21:33):
broken, you are not unworthy,but if you don't believe that
for yourself, no amount ofsuccess will ever be enough.
That is my reality, that isyour reality, that is everyone's
reality.
You are not broken, you are notunworthy, but if you don't
(21:59):
believe that, for yourself, nomatter the amount of success
will ever be enough.
So here's a mind shift on that.
Your worth is not something youearn.
It's not.
(22:21):
It is something that you claim,and I want you to claim it.
And the second you start actinglike you matter, the world will
(22:45):
reflect that right back to you.
Now let's talk about how to stopthe cycle and keep your
promises.
The good news is that you canrebuild yourself, starting today
.
Why not today?
Let's start, but it requiresaction, not just your words.
(23:06):
Requires action, not just yourwords.
So let's talk about somegame-changing strategies.
One stop making empty promises.
If you say you're going to dosomething, mean it.
Start small.
Set one non-negotiable goal andkeep it.
Two write it down.
(23:36):
When you put it on paper, it'sreal.
A goal isn't just written, it'sjust a wish, so write it down.
I wish that this would happen.
It's like if you say a goal inyour head, then you can always
do that thing with your mindright, you're self-conscious,
(23:57):
subconscious, but if you writeit down, it's there in front of
you.
It's there for you to look at.
Call yourself out is three Ifyou hear yourself making excuses
, pause and ask is this true oris this fear taking Talking?
(24:21):
Is this fear talking?
It's not taking you anywhere?
Oh, it's taking your happiness,but is it fear talking?
Oh, it's taking your happiness,but is it fear talking?
Because you need to learn tostart calling yourself out.
(24:41):
The other thing you can do isnumber four find an
accountability partner.
You don't have to do this alone.
Get someone who will lovinglycall you out when you start
slipping, someone who willlovingly call you out when you
start slipping.
And then five take one actiontoday, not tomorrow.
Today, because small steps leadto massive transformation.
(25:01):
I want you to remember thatyour words to yourself matter,
because here's the truth you arecapable of so much more than
you are giving yourself creditfor.
The only thing standing in yourway is you.
(25:25):
So I'll ask this one last timehow are you going to lie to
yourself?
How long are you going to breakpromises to yourself?
Isn't it time to finally showup for you?
(25:48):
I believe in you.
Now.
It's time for you to believe inyourself.
It's time to stop lying toyourself.
You say you want more, you sayyou're tired of feeling stuck,
but are you actually willing todo something about it?
(26:09):
Because the truth is, no one iscoming to save you, no one is
going to force you to change.
The only person who can breakthis cycle is you, and that
starts by keeping just onepromise today, not tomorrow, not
(26:34):
next week.
Today.
So here's an action step foryou, right now, before you move
(26:54):
on with your day, make one smallcommitment and follow through
Just one, because every singletime you promise to yourself,
and every time you keep apromise to yourself, you take
your power back, and I want youto take your power back, and I
want you to take your power back.
Did this episode hit home?
If it did, please share it witha friend.
(27:16):
Please tag me on Instagram atlifecoaching, underscore with
Lisa and tell me your biggesttakeaway let's start keeping our
promises to ourselves, becauseyou deserve it.
Hey, beautiful souls, welcome back to another episode
of Unleash your Inner Radiance.
I'm your host, lisa, certifiedlife wellness and transformation
coach, best-selling author andyour biggest cheerleader on this
journey to self-growth andauthenticity.
Today, we need to have a realraw, unfiltered conversation,
(00:22):
and I want you to be honest,unfiltered conversation.
And I want you to be honest.
How long are you going to lieto yourself?
How long are you going to makepromises you don't keep?
How long are you going to pushyour dreams, your goals and your
(00:52):
happiness to the side?
This episode is going to be awake-up call for some people.
I know when I went through it,part of my journey, it was
definitely a wake-up call for me, but I don't want you to worry,
because this conversation thatwe're going to have today is
(01:13):
coming from a place of love.
So I want you to remember that.
So buckle up, take a deep breathand let's dive in the lies that
we tell ourselves.
I mean let's dive in the liesthat we tell ourselves.
I mean let's get real.
How many times have you toldyourself I'll start Monday, this
(01:37):
is my year, I'm done with toxicrelationships, or I'm finally
going to put myself first?
And I could keep going withthose, because I, then you, end
(02:08):
up breaking that promise dayslater.
The problem isn't that yourword doesn't matter.
(02:30):
That's what you're doing.
Is you're telling yourself thatyour word doesn't matter?
Your word doesn't matter?
And let me tell you, yoursubconscious is always listening
(03:00):
, so is that what you want totell yourself?
Here's some common lies that wetell ourselves, besides those
ones that I just mentioned.
I'll start when I'm ready.
Newsflash.
You'll never be fully ready.
(03:20):
Never, never, never.
I just need more motivation.
You don't need motivation.
What you need is discipline,because you need to be
(03:41):
disciplined so you get on thattreadmill.
You need to be disciplined sothat you eat better.
You need to be disciplined sothat you get out of bed when
your alarm goes off.
That is also a habit.
But and all these are kind ofhabits If you're disciplined,
(04:02):
then you create a habit.
That is a habit, right?
How about the last one?
This is just who I am.
That's a story, that's not afact.
So let's get real.
How many times have you justlooked at yourself in the mirror
and said this time I mean it2025 is going to be my year.
(04:29):
This time I mean it Only tobreak your promise a few days,
weeks or even hours later.
We make commitments toourselves all the times Like I'm
(04:58):
going to wake up early and workout.
I'm finally leaving that toxicjob out.
I'm finally leaving that toxicjob.
I'm going to set boundaries andstop saying yes when I mean no.
And yet how often do we followthrough?
Now, on the exercise thing, I'mguilty of that one Day in and
(05:23):
day out, because I have so manythings that I want to do and
apparently getting on thattreadmill is not one of them
that I'm disciplined enough todo.
But remember, every time youbreak a promise to yourself, you
(05:49):
are sending yourself consciousa message that your word doesn't
matter, that you don't matter.
You're reinforcing a patternthat says it's okay to let
myself down.
I can always start over later.
You can always start over later, but is it right to always let
(06:25):
yourself down?
So I want to break that down alittle bit, because later always
turns into next week, nextmonth, next year and before you
know it, you wake up and wonderhow did it get this bad?
How did I get to this point?
(06:50):
So let's talk about the realcost of self-betrayal.
It's not just about skipping aworkout or pushing that dream
aside.
The deeper issue that is hereis that every time you don't
(07:11):
follow through, you chip away atyour self-trust, and when
self-trust is broken, yourconfidence goes with it.
So if you're a person that'sstruggling with a lack of
self-confidence, think back toall the self-trust issues you've
(07:38):
created with yourself and yoursubconscious, because you can
refrain your self-conscious, butyou need to have an intention
and the discipline to do it.
So when you lose yourself-confidence, you stop
(07:59):
believing in yourself.
If you don't keep your ownpromises, why would you trust
yourself?
To take on something big, youhave to have trust in yourself.
You have to believe in yourself.
You have to have self-worth andself-confidence, because you'll
(08:24):
start second-guessingabsolutely everything when you
don't follow through.
You lose faith in your abilityto make even the smallest
decisions.
You allow yourself to settlebecause, deep down, if you don't
believe in your own worth, whywould you expect more for
(08:49):
yourself?
The problem isn't that you can'tdo it.
The problem isn't that we can'tdo.
It isn't that we can't do it.
The problem is that you've beenteaching yourself that it's
(09:12):
okay not to do it.
Whatever that thing is, you'reteaching yourself that it's okay
not to do it.
But here's the truth.
Every time you say you're goingto do something and actually
follow through with what yousaid you're going to do, you're
(09:34):
rebuilding the trust in yourself, and trust is the foundation of
confidence, self-worth and realtransformation.
That's so powerful that onelittle thing, all you have to do
(10:00):
, is follow through on somethingyou tell yourself you're going
to do, and you start rebuildingeverything.
So let's dig into why we keepbreaking these promises.
In the first place, we wouldn'tflake on our best friend yet we
(10:29):
cancel on ourselves all thetime.
Why is that?
Because we've becomeconditioned and we've
reconditioned ourselves tobelieve that our own priorities
(10:50):
can wait, that we'll get to itlater.
But it turns out that laterturns into never, and every
broken promises that you make toyourself chips away at your
confidence.
So why does this happen?
(11:12):
Why does this happen?
Why has this happened?
Why is this happening?
Why, because we're standingthere and we're saying I'm going
to do this, and then we don'tdo it.
So in your mind, in yoursubconscious, you're saying I'm
going to do this.
Then we don't do it.
So in your mind, in yourself-conscious, you're saying
I'm going to do this, this, thisand this, and then you don't do
(11:32):
one of those things or two ofthose things.
So why does this happen?
Well, one fear of failure.
We don't want to try and fail.
Fail, so we don't try at all.
Two comfort zones Change isuncomfortable, even when we know
(11:57):
we need it.
Lack of self-worth Deep down,we don't fully believe we
deserve better.
If you've ever struggled withlack of self-worth, it is a
(12:19):
tough thing.
I struggled with self-worth myentire life.
I struggled with self-worth myentire life and fear of failure
and comfort zones really get inmy way, because I want to do
(12:40):
something but I'm definitelyafraid to fail.
Or in some cases, I believe I'malmost afraid of success, which
is really odd.
But let's talk about fear offailure, because it is the
silent dream killer.
What if I try and I fail?
What if I put myself out thereand I'm not good enough?
(13:04):
What if I give it everythingand I still don't succeed?
Now what if I put it out thereand I'm not right?
(13:30):
So part of my thing was well,who's going to listen to me?
And what if I'm not good enough?
But what if I am?
And what if people do listen tome?
And guess what People do?
So I'm just saying go for it.
(13:50):
Okay, go for it.
Fear of failure is the numberone reason we stay stuck, not
because we're lazy, not becausewe don't want it badly enough,
but because we're terrified thatwe'll try and it won't work.
And that fear, that fear isparalyzing and it can be
(14:19):
paralyzing.
So, instead of trying to riskfailure, what do we do?
We self-sabotage before we evenbegin and we just convince
ourselves that I'll start whenI'm more prepared.
Lie, you'll never feel fullyready.
(14:41):
I need more time to think aboutit.
Lie, you're just delayingaction.
I need more time to think aboutit.
Lie, you're just delayingaction.
I don't have what it takes.
Lie, you've never givenyourself the chance to prove
(15:05):
otherwise.
So here's a reality check.
The most successful people inthe world have failed Many, many
, many, many times, becausethat's how you grow.
But they didn't let failuredefine them grow.
(15:27):
But they didn't let failuredefine them Because, whatever
that failure was, use it as astepping block for growth.
They saw it as part of theprocess.
And that's exactly what it is.
Failure isn't proof that you'renot good enough.
It's proof that you're growing.
(15:51):
Let's do a little mindset shift.
What if, instead of fearingfailure, you saw it as evidence
that you're on the right path?
You're on the right path.
What if every mistake was justa stepping stone instead of a
dead end or a cul-de-sac?
(16:14):
It's more like a cul-de-sac youcan go in and you come back out
.
Dead end you're just kind ofstuck there.
Let's talk about comfort zones,because they are the trap that
feels like safety.
I'm fine, things aren't bad.
(16:37):
At least I know what to expect.
Have you said any of thosethings to yourself?
Because do these sound familiar?
That's the voice of comfortzones, the sneaky little trap
that keeps us stuck insituations we say we don't want,
but stay in anyway, because yousay you really don't want that,
(17:05):
because you're more comfortableright where you're at.
Because here's the truth changeis uncomfortable, even when you
know it's necessary.
So we cling to the familiar,even when it's necessary.
(17:25):
So we cling to the familiar,even when it's toxic, because
the comfort feels safe.
Our brains are wired to avoiduncertainty.
Even if it means settling, wefear the unknown.
What if the new path is worse?
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What if we fail?
What if it's harder than weexpected?
Or we tell ourselves we havetime?
I'll get serious about myhealth later.
I'll start that business whenthe timing is right.
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But let me ask you this?
Has waiting ever made you feelbetter?
Has staying in your comfortzone ever led to real happiness?
Here's another reality check.
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Your comfort zone might feelsafe, but it's also where dreams
go to die.
If you want change, you have toget uncomfortable period Period
.
And here's a little mindsetshift for you Instead of asking
what if I fail, ask yourselfwhat if I succeed.
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Instead of fearing discomfortand the scariness of it, start
seeing it as the price of growthof it.
Start seeing it as the price ofgrowth Lack of self worth,
something I struggled with formy entire life, and it is the
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deepest root of all.
Have you ever asked yourself aquestion like who am I to chase
this dream?
Who am I to think I deservebetter?
This is a big one, because deep, deep down, a lot of us don't
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follow through on our goals,because we don't actually
believe that we are worthy ofthe success, the happiness or
the love.
Maybe you grew up in a homewhere you were told to be
realistic.
Maybe life has knocked you downso many times that you are
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convinced, and you haveconvinced yourself, that
settling is just what peoplelike you do.
So you self-sabotage yourself,you shrink, you avoid taking up
space, because if you trulybelieve you are worthy of more,
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why wouldn't you fight for it?
I struggled with self-worth indifferent ways and I, even today
, struggle with it, becausethere are some things that stop
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me dead in my tracks, and it'smind-boggling to even myself,
but it still is there and lifehas knocked me down several
times and then it seems likeevery time I start to get back
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up, something else happens.
But that is just the reality oflife, right?
So I just need to be confidentand build my self-worth up,
because here's a reality checkfor both you and me you are not
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broken, you are not unworthy,but if you don't believe that
for yourself, no amount ofsuccess will ever be enough.
That is my reality, that isyour reality, that is everyone's
reality.
You are not broken, you are notunworthy, but if you don't
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believe that, for yourself, nomatter the amount of success
will ever be enough.
So here's a mind shift on that.
Your worth is not something youearn.
It's not.
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It is something that you claim,and I want you to claim it.
And the second you start actinglike you matter, the world will
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reflect that right back to you.
Now let's talk about how to stopthe cycle and keep your
promises.
The good news is that you canrebuild yourself, starting today
.
Why not today?
Let's start, but it requiresaction, not just your words.
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Requires action, not just yourwords.
So let's talk about somegame-changing strategies.
One stop making empty promises.
If you say you're going to dosomething, mean it.
Start small.
Set one non-negotiable goal andkeep it.
Two write it down.
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When you put it on paper, it'sreal.
A goal isn't just written, it'sjust a wish, so write it down.
I wish that this would happen.
It's like if you say a goal inyour head, then you can always
do that thing with your mindright, you're self-conscious,
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subconscious, but if you writeit down, it's there in front of
you.
It's there for you to look at.
Call yourself out is three Ifyou hear yourself making excuses
, pause and ask is this true oris this fear taking Talking?
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Is this fear talking?
It's not taking you anywhere?
Oh, it's taking your happiness,but is it fear talking?
Oh, it's taking your happiness,but is it fear talking?
Because you need to learn tostart calling yourself out.
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The other thing you can do isnumber four find an
accountability partner.
You don't have to do this alone.
Get someone who will lovinglycall you out when you start
slipping, someone who willlovingly call you out when you
start slipping.
And then five take one actiontoday, not tomorrow.
Today, because small steps leadto massive transformation.
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I want you to remember thatyour words to yourself matter,
because here's the truth you arecapable of so much more than
you are giving yourself creditfor.
The only thing standing in yourway is you.
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So I'll ask this one last timehow are you going to lie to
yourself?
How long are you going to breakpromises to yourself?
Isn't it time to finally showup for you?
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I believe in you.
Now.
It's time for you to believe inyourself.
It's time to stop lying toyourself.
You say you want more, you sayyou're tired of feeling stuck,
but are you actually willing todo something about it?
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Because the truth is, no one iscoming to save you, no one is
going to force you to change.
The only person who can breakthis cycle is you, and that
starts by keeping just onepromise today, not tomorrow, not
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next week.
Today.
So here's an action step foryou, right now, before you move
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on with your day, make one smallcommitment and follow through
Just one, because every singletime you promise to yourself,
and every time you keep apromise to yourself, you take
your power back, and I want youto take your power back, and I
want you to take your power back.
Did this episode hit home?
If it did, please share it witha friend.
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Please tag me on Instagram atlifecoaching, underscore with
Lisa and tell me your biggesttakeaway let's start keeping our
promises to ourselves, becauseyou deserve it.
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