Transform Challenges into Growth: Empower Your Life Through Resilience and Self-Worth

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Navigating the emotional terrain of caregiving while confronting personal growth might seem overwhelming, but it's a pivotal journey many of us face. This episode takes you on a reflective path through the challenges of being a life wellness and transformation coach, especially when life presents its toughest trials. Picture a week filled with emotional upheaval—from attending the transformative Empower You conference in Chicago to grappling with the reality of a father's dementia diagnosis and entering hospice. All of this while confronting the self-sabotaging tendencies we often carry during turbulent times. As we discuss the universal nature of struggles, you'll hear about the profound impact of others' stories, like those shared in Shamina Taylor's "Unlocking the Quantum Woman," which remind us that, despite our individual battles, we are never truly alone.

Embrace the uplifting message of self-worth and the power of rewriting your own narrative, even amidst the toughest adversities. This episode promises to provide a fresh perspective on resilience and personal development, showcasing how these elements play a crucial role in our ability to overcome life's setbacks. I also share insights into my masterclass, designed to help others navigate their growth journeys, along with a sneak peek of changes to our podcast schedule. Prepare for an empowering start to your week with our new "Monday Mindsets" episodes, offering consistent inspiration, and keep an eye out for insightful guest interviews on Thursdays. Join us as we learn to transform adversity into opportunities for growth, connection, and healing.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello and welcome to another Monday Mindset of
Unleash your Inner Radiance.
Oh, my goodness, it's going tobe a tough day.
I'm sorry.
I am Lisa and I am a lifewellness and transformation
coach and I am so excited foryou guys to be here today.
I am just going to wing thisone today really, really, really

(00:22):
wing it, because something isreally on my mind today.
So I just got back from a weekago, an Empower you conference
in Chicago which, to tell youthe truth, was actually life
changing.
But what is funny about thiswhole thing is it's not only

(00:44):
life changing, but it kind ofput me in a funk, like I just
was, like I don't even know whatto do with myself, because I
felt like I was leveling up somuch when I was there.
And then I'm like I don't knowwhat happened this week.
Well, I know what happened, butwork happened and my dad

(01:08):
happened.
So my dad is struggling withdementia and he is starting
hospice and it's just reallytough on me because he's become
really super, super angry, super, super angry.

(01:28):
So I just want to talk about awhole bunch of different things
today, because I just want totalk about everything that's on
my mind and just share them withyou, because maybe you're
struggling with somebody who hasdementia and you know, I just I
don't know it's it's not fair,it's really truly not fair that

(01:54):
any of us should have tostruggle with that.
But you know we are and my dadis a very angry person right now
, which I don't blame himbecause a very angry person
right now, which I don't blamehim because you know he doesn't
know who I am and I'm hiscaregiver and he says horrible
things to me when I'm visitinghim because he's just not happy

(02:15):
and but that's okay.
So if anybody else isstruggling with someone who is
struggling with dementia, please, please, I would love to chat
because I you know it's not avery good Monday mindset thing
to talk about, but it was justreally on my heart and it's been
a rough weekend with my dad, soI just wanted to share that.

(02:38):
Another thing I wanted to talkto you about is I had this like
revelation while I was listeningto a book.
So I am, I love to listen tobooks and I especially love to
listen to books when the authoris the one doing the readings.
So I am reading, or listeningto, unlocking the Quantum Woman

(03:02):
by Shamina Taylor.
Now this woman is out of thisworld but and she just has
transformed her life like noother, and, as I've been on my
journey of forgiveness and allthat kind of stuff over the last

(03:25):
three, four years, I'm so gladthat I found her.
But what was really the thingthat just made me stop and go?
Whoa, in chapter nine of herbook.
She is talking about one of herclients, is talking about one of

(03:50):
her clients and one of herclients is named Lisa.
How ironic that my name is Lisa, but she is describing this
woman and her experiences to a Tto my life and I'm like, and
I'm like I wasn't even yourclient, but there's another Lisa
out there that has experiencedwhat I have experienced and it

(04:12):
is just, it was actually mindblowing because I was like what?
What?
You are describing my life.
You are describing my divorce.
You are describing my marriageforce.
You are describing my marriage.

(04:37):
You are describing the friendwho I had that I supported her
and I lived through it and shewas not a very nice person to me

(04:57):
for what I did for her and itjust made me think that you know
when you're going throughsomething that's horrible, when
you're going through a horriblemarriage or a horrible divorce
or financial troubles, orsomeone who is not paying you

(05:17):
rent and who's taking advantageof you and then turns everybody
against you and then turnseverybody against you.
It just was.
It just made me think, wow, I'mnot the only person that that
has happened to.
This is not just me that thishappened to, and so I know this

(05:47):
is supposed to be a MondayMindset episode and I know that
you know we should be talkingabout good things because we
need to have a positive mindset,but you know, it just makes you
think that all those times thatyou thought you were going
through something alone and thisis only happening to you and

(06:08):
this is not happening to anyoneelse Be sure you reach out to
somebody and ask for help, orreach out to somebody to talk to
, because you are not goingthrough it alone.
You are not the only personthat this experience is

(06:30):
happening to.
It's like, it's like it wasjust literally mind blowing
Cause I'm like she is literallytalking about me, me, I wish I
could be coached by her, but Ican't afford her.
But it's like, wow, wow, Iwasn't going through that alone.

(06:51):
Somebody else went through italong with me and she coached
them.
She coached them through it.
You know, when I went througheverything, I I guess I was kind
of selfish.
When I came out of my marriageI took care of myself in in in

(07:16):
not a very good way, but I feelfor my daughters, who didn't get
what they needed when I wastrying to find myself and I

(07:36):
can't take that back and I can'tchange it.
I can't change what we all wentthrough.
I can't change anything.
Anything.

(07:59):
But what I did figure out inwriting my chapter in
Unstoppable 4, the powerhouseedition, was that I can change
and rewrite the story.
All I have to do is rewrite thestory.
But to rewrite the story, all Ihave to do is rewrite the story

(08:21):
.
But to rewrite the story takesa lot.
It takes a lot of personaldevelopment and to look inside
of us to figure out where ourtriggers are that block us up

(08:46):
every time of us, to figure outhow to bring out that person
that we all have inside of us,that had dreams and ambitions

(09:07):
and goals that were maybeknocked down, were not allowed
to happen, were, I don't know,just squished by somebody For
all those people who think thatthey are not enough, they are
not worth it.
You are not worth it.

(09:28):
You know something that my dadsaid to me today.
Now he has dementia and hedidn't know who I was today.
I know he treats the staff bad,but he told me that I was
worthless today and I couldn'tdo anything right.
That hurt.
This is my dad, but you know,that's not the first time I've

(09:59):
been told that by anyone notnecessarily my dad, um but these
are the things that you need toreally just step back and go.
These are the things that weresaid to me.

(10:21):
These are the things that now Ibelieve about myself.
Are they true?
Are they really true?
The things that you are sayingto yourself?
Are those things that were saidto you, whether it was when you

(10:45):
were growing up, by boyfriends,by ex-husbands, by your husband
, by co-workers, by people whoyou thought were your friends?
Are they really what's trueabout you?
Are they really the things thatyou should be repeating to
yourself?
Because what you really need todo is you need to and I'm going

(11:15):
to do this because I need tofigure out what my triggers are,
and I'm going to do thisbecause I need to figure out
what my triggers are when I getangry about something silly.
I want to know why I got angry.
What story inside of me, whatpain inside of me caused me to

(11:39):
react that way, caused you tosay, whoa, that reaction came
from somewhere.
Where did it come from?
Where in my heart, in my soul,in my gut?

(12:00):
Where where did that thing thatjust threw me for a loop and
caused me to react that way?
Where did that come from?
Where you know?
Come from when you know.
Shamina recommends like atrigger book, which I think I'm

(12:24):
going to try, because it justwhen you hear something that
that you know happens to you.
So she's talking about hertrigger book and I'm like you
know, certain things trigger meand I don't know why they're
triggering you.
But we can only work onourselves to a certain point and

(12:49):
then we have to say there's gotto be more.
There's got to be things in usthat either people have said to
us that have caused us to thinka certain way, or traumas or
something else has happened tous, like when we were five or
six or seven, and we have tolook at those things and go.

(13:12):
Those are deep down in our soulor deep down in our gut.
That's where we get the painand we need to figure out how to
quash those.
We need to figure out how tosay no more, no, it's not
happening, we're done, we're notgoing to do this, we're not

(13:34):
going to have these triggers.
But what I thought was funabout the way she created her
trigger book was it helps youbecause you're like oh, I
reacted to this, but you alsowrite down where it came from,
so you can try to figure outwhat's keeping you blocked,

(14:02):
what's keeping your financesblocked, what's keeping your
forgiveness blocked, what'skeeping you from just living the
best life that you can live.
And you know, as an adult, as aparent, we make mistakes.
We make mistakes that affectour kids, even if they're adults

(14:28):
.
We make mistakes and we need tofigure out how to make them
right.
But things have also happenedto us that we need to work
through.
So I don't know, it's just awhole bunch of stuff just

(14:54):
because it's just been a week.
It's been a hard week at work,it's been a hard week with my
dad, who is just really kind ofgiving up, and it's just been, I

(15:17):
don't know, just an emotionalweek.
And it snowed here in Minnesotaand that was kind of icky and
we didn't have everything closedup before it snowed, so we had
to do a lot of work yesterdayand I don't know, it's just

(15:39):
things you just want to talkabout that sometimes you just
need to talk about.
But that was my week.
So you know, what are you guysstruggling with right now that
you would like me to come onhere and talk about?
Because I would love ideas, Iwould love things to talk about
with you guys.
What do you guys want to hear?
What do you guys want to do?
Oh, by the way, I'm puttingtogether a masterclass.

(16:00):
I haven't decided exactly whenI'm going to do it, but if you
are looking for a masterclass tojoin with other like-minded
women, I would love for you toreach out to me because I would
love to get you the information.

(16:20):
But I guess I want to thank youguys for listening.
Today it literally was kind ofall over the board because
there's just so many to thinkabout.
But you know, I guess, with allmy things that I went through

(16:44):
this week, I kind of saw how Iself-sabotage, because you kind
of go down a rabbit hole andyou're just like, okay, well,
I'm in my rabbit hole and Idon't know how to get back out,
you know, and sometimes you justgo in and you're just like no,

(17:08):
I'm stuck, and you just kind ofget down on yourself and things
just aren't working out the wayyou want them to work out.
But do know that you are notalone in your struggles.
We all have them.
We all get a little bitdepressed, we all get you know a
little bit.
We all get a little bitdepressed, we all get you know a

(17:28):
little bit whatever.
And you know we've got theelection on Tuesday and there's
a lot of fighting right now, alot of name-calling and a lot of
angry people, but so there'sjust so much emotion, so much

(17:50):
emotion.
And yeah, I don't know, butthis is Mindset Monday.
I do not have an affirmation foryou, my goodness.
Affirmation for you, mygoodness, can't even think of

(18:13):
one off the top of my head.
But I want to give yousomething to get bit of my book.
Because one thing that I thinkwould be fun when is me?

(18:34):
183.
Where am I?
Oh, there I am.
You know what the title of mychapter is.
The title of my chapter is.
You Can't change it, but youcan rewrite it.
So what story do you want torewrite.
I want to rewrite the story ofmy dad having dementia.
That's the story I want torewrite right now, because it is

(18:59):
such an ugly story to have.
I want to rewrite the story anduse everything that I went
through to help everyone.
So, let's see, I am going toread part of my chapter.

(19:28):
And how about this?
I am going to read a part of mychapter for you guys.
So let's do this.
I affirm that I am enough, justas I am.

(19:51):
My worth is inherent and Ihonor myself for the journey
that I have walked.
I choose to live each day withintention, with and an
unwavering commitment to growth.
Together, we can rise above anychallenge and create lives that

(20:19):
reflect our deepest desires andtrue selves desires and true
selves.
I am an unstoppable and I amready for all that lies ahead.
How's that for your affirmationfrom Mindset Monday?
I think that's pretty good.

(20:43):
Anyway, I want to thank you guysfor listening today, because I
was kind of like this happenedand this happened and this
happened.
But that's kind of the way myweek went, and when you're in
this up-leveling direction, Iknow that you can be kind of all
befuddled, which is what kindof happened to me this week and
I literally just went down arabbit hole and I'm like I just

(21:05):
can't even get out.
This is this, is this.
So I just wanted to share whatmy life is actually like and,
yeah, that's what I wanted to do.
And then I got to share alittle bit of what I wrote.
So if anybody would like mybook, please reach out because I
have copies and I will sign.

(21:26):
They are $25.
Let's see what else.
That's all I got.
I want you guys to we're in thefirst week of November.
It is election day on Tuesday.
If you live in Minnesota, it'skind of chilly.
It snowed last week, which waskind of weird Halloween.

(21:48):
It snowed, go figure.
But I want you guys to rememberthat you guys are worth it.
You are worth it.
Don't let anybody ever dullyour sparkle.
Thank you for joining me onUnleash your Inner Radiance, and
I will be back next Monday,kind of changing it up a little

(22:12):
bit.
If I have interviews, they willdrop on Thursdays, but on
Mondays I'm going to keep it asmy Monday Mindsets.
So you might have Mondays andThursdays, but you'll definitely
always have Mondays.
So so thank you from the bottomof my heart for all of your
support and for being here withme and have a great week.