Upgrade Your Circle, Elevate Your Life

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Your circle determines your ceiling. This powerful truth sits at the heart of personal transformation, yet many of us overlook how profoundly our peer groups shape our potential.

Diving into fascinating research, we discover that our friends' influence extends far beyond casual interactions—Harvard studies show that if your close friends become obese, your own risk increases by 57%, while other research reveals that surrounding yourself with happy people can boost your happiness by 25%. These aren't just statistics; they're wake-up calls to be intentional about who occupies your inner circle.

The right people in your life should challenge you to step beyond comfort zones, genuinely believe in your wildest dreams, inspire you through their actions, provide loving accountability, and—perhaps most importantly—celebrate your authentic self without asking you to shrink or wear masks. But finding these connections requires courage and clarity. Sometimes your personal growth means outgrowing certain relationships, and that's perfectly okay. As we explore in this episode, some friendships are seasonal, and divine connections often appear exactly when you need them.

For those ready to elevate their peer group, we offer practical pathways: faith-based communities, mastermind groups, personal development events, and purposeful networking. These environments connect you with like-minded individuals who share your commitment to growth. We also recommend transformative books like "Who Not How" by Dan Sullivan and "Atomic Habits" by James Clear that illuminate the power of collaboration and consistent improvement.

The question that can transform your life is simple yet profound: "Are the people in my life helping me step into my best self?" If not, it's time to make shifts. Remember, God has placed specific people in your path for a reason—pay attention to these divine connections and watch how they elevate every aspect of your existence. Your breakthrough might be just one relationship away.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, beautiful souls, welcome back to another Mindset
Monday on.
Unleash your Inner Radiance.
I'm Lisa, your Catalyst, life,wellness and Transformation
Coach, and today we are divinginto something that can truly
change your life finding theright people and upgrading your
peer group.
If you ever felt stuck, heldback or just not growing the way

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you want to, this episode's foryou.
We're talking about the peoplearound you who influence your
mindset, your dreams and,ultimately, your future.
So grab a cup of coffee or, ifyou're like me, something
stronger.
Oh, just kidding, it is Mondaymorning and we're not going to
do that.
So, anyway, let's dive in whyyour peer groups matter.

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You've probably heard thisbefore.
You are the average of the fivepeople you spend the most time
with.
Jim Rohn said it first and letme tell you said it first and

(01:10):
let me tell you science packs itup.
Studies show that behaviors,habits and even financial status
tend to align with the peopleyou surround yourself with.
So if you want to grow, thriveand become the person God meant
for you to be, you need to beintentional about who's in your
circle.
Here is some really fascinatingresearch.

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A Harvard study on socialnetworks found that if your
close friends become obese.
Your risk of obesity increasesby 57%, even if they live far
away.
This just proves how muchinfluence people have on our

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habits.
Another study in the Journal ofPersonality and Social
Psychology found that thehappiness of the people around
you affects your own happinessby up to 25%.
So are you hanging around withhappy people?

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So now, if this works fornegative habits, imagine what it
can do for you when yousurround yourself with uplifting
, goal-crushing, faith-drivenpeople.
That's the kind of energy shiftwe are aiming for today.

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So five reasons why you shouldfind a new peer group, one.
They challenge you to be abetter person.
Growth happens outside yourcomfort zone, and the right
people push you toward andforward instead of letting you

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stay in your safe place andletting you stay stagnant.
So step out of your comfortzone.
What, what action today can youdo to put you in the direction
of the life you want?
That is gonna make you step outof your comfort zone.
Whatever that is, do that todayand come back and tell me how

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it went.
Two believe in your dreams.
Have you ever shared a dreamwith someone, only to have them
laugh and doubt you?
Yeah, that's not really thevibe we want, is it.
So find people that say, yes,yes, you can do this, yes, I

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believe in you, I believe in you.
Three they inspire you throughtheir own actions.
So find a peer group ofsomebody who is doing the thing
and copy them, because ifthey're doing it, it can be done

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.
Right.
So be around people who aremotivated, successful and
God-led individuals, becausethey naturally raise your
standards.
Isn't that weird?
That's weird, anyway, but justthe people you're around, they
just naturally raise yourstandard.

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Four they provideaccountability.
Accountability is key.
Sometimes we just need thatfriend who won't let us settle
or quit on ourselves.
Do you have that friend?
If not, I'll be that friend.
Five they support yourauthentic self.

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Right now, people wear a lot ofmasks, right, and I truly don't
think people are who theyactually are.
And we want to be around theright group, because the right

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group isn't going to ask you toshrink or change to fit in.
They're not going to ask you toput on a mask just to fit in
with them, right.
Instead, they will celebratethe real radiant you.
So find that group.
That's the group you need.
You need.

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So here let's go into like fivelessons about peer groups and
growth, because we want you tofind the right friends, right.
But one not everyone is meantto stay in your life forever.
Some friendships are seasonal,and they're meant to be seasonal
, and that's okay, because yourgrowth often means outgrowing

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certain relationships.
So maybe if you outgrew arelationship recently, it's
because you're growing.
Two your environment shapesyour mindset.
If you constantly hearnegativity, doubt or gossip, it

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seeps into your own thinking.
So choose wisely.
I know I've asked you guys tosend I mean this talks.
This goes with what we say toourselves in our brain too.
Right, I mean, let's just gowith that.
But that's why I want you tokeep a journal in your car when
you're driving and if your mindgoes to something, just jot it

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down, because we should be notsaying mean things, right, and I
know peers will be unsupportivesometimes too, which is why
we're talking about getting themout of our lives.
But we also need to get thenegativity out of our brains,
because the things we're sayingto ourselves we would not say to
our friends, or maybe we shouldsay to our friends.

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Anyway, that's for a wholenother episode, but your mindset
.
This goes with people whosupport you and how you support
yourself.
Three it is okay to walk alonefor a while.
It is.
I did that in 2014-15.

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I just 16.
I needed to be alone and awayfrom friends, and that was okay,
because finding the right tribetakes time.
So don't rush intorelationships that don't align
with your vision.
Do you even know what yourvision is?

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Four God places people in yourpath for a reason you know.
Sometimes you meet somebody andyou're like why was I meant to
meet that person?
So pay attention to divineconnections, because sometimes

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an unexpected encounter leads toa lifelong friendship or
mentorship.
I just met somebody.
I got something from a retreatthat I went right In my little
goodie bag and I now have a newfriend.
Her name is Crystal.

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She's in New York.
We just hit it off.
Yes, it's only by chat, butstill, why was she put in my
world?
Why?
Why?
You know it's just, it's just,I don't know, it's just weird.
Five energy is contagious, soyou need to protect yours Right.

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The right peer group willenergize you, not drain you.
I have been in groups.
People just drain and suck thelife out of you so that you mask
up and be what they want you tobe.
You don't need those kind ofpeople, because if you feel

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exhausted after being withcertain people.
That's your cue to shift.
That's your cue to find a newpeer group.
That's your cue to find a newgroup.
So here are some ways if youneed to find a new group that

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will help you grow, one you canget involved in faith-based
communities Bible studies,church groups or faith-driven
masterminds that connect youwith like-minded people.
They really do a good job atthat.
Or you can join a mastermind orcoaching peer group.
Just surround yourself withambitious people who are

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committed to growth.
That is really important.
Attend personal developmentevents.
I love to do this.
Conferences, retreats or evenonline summits can introduce you
to people that are on the samejourney.
And when I tell you, I lovepersonal development, I didn't

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always.
That is a journey I just reallytruly started on about seven
years ago and really truly inthe last four years.
So I tend to conference becauseI tend to retreat.

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They're just fun and you justget to be yourself and you just
get to be with people who are inthe same mindset.
I want you to network withpurpose.
So be intentional about whereyou spend your time and who you

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engage with.
I love to go to conferencesbecause I meet new people.
I love to talk to people.
I love to meet new people.
Let go of fear and step intothe rooms you deserve to be in.
I want you to not let impostersyndrome keep you from elevating

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your life, because you're notan imposter.
Be your authentic self.
If you want to dive deeper, hereare some amazing books to check
out the compound effect.
By Darren Hardy um, this one issmall changes, big results.

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Two is who, not how.
By Dan Sullivan.
This is the Power ofCollaboration and this is the
book if you are looking forreasons to meet people.
This book is amazing.
It actually explains why peoplewere put in your life as you're

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moving through.
It's really cool.
Three Atomic Habits by JamesClear Just this teaches you how
to elevate your habits to matchyour new peer group.
Five Love Language.
Four is Five Love Languages ofFriendship by Gary Chapman Love

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Languages of Friendship by GaryChapman.
He teaches you how tounderstand relationships better.
And five is High PerformanceHabits Wow, I need some coffee.
By Brendan Burchard yeah, he'sBrendan Burchard, anyway.
Well, that was a powerfulconversation.

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I hope this episode inspires youto take a look at who's in your
life, to take a look at whoyour peer group is and to ask
are they helping me step into mybest self?
That is the question for today,into my best self.
That is the question for todayFor your peer group and your
friends.
Are they helping me step intomy best self?

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If not, it's time to make someshifts.
Remember, you are not stuckwhere you are.
God has big plans for you andhe often works through people he
places in your lives.
He often works through peoplehe places in our lives.

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Until next time, keep shining,keep growing and keep stepping

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boldly into the life you aremeant to live.