You Didn’t Lose Self-Belief; You Just Forgot Where You Put It

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Cold wind, bright leaves, and a quiet nudge to look within—this episode turns the season’s shift into a guide for moving from self-doubt to steady self-belief. We talk honestly about how confidence gets chipped away by old stories, why waiting to feel “ready” keeps us stuck, and how choosing action through doubt becomes the most reliable path to growth.

I share a simple, science-backed approach to kinder self-talk that actually rewires your brain. You’ll learn how negative scripts train your mind to predict failure and how believable affirmations—with vivid imagery and calm breathing—build new neural pathways for confidence and resilience. Then we bring it down to earth: one small promise at a time. From drinking the water you planned to taking the ten-minute walk and honoring rest, these micro-commitments rebuild self-trust like deposits in a savings account.

We also practice an embodied moment of reflection. You’ll thank the you from five years ago for getting you here, then meet the grounded, radiant you you’re becoming—someone who stands taller, speaks gently, and moves with purpose. We anchor it with a mirror mantra you can use today: I am capable of amazing things. If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your worth, to make your words a healing balm instead of a weapon, and to let small consistent actions reshape your identity, this conversation will meet you right where you are.

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I am strong, even when I feel unsure.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:29):
Hey, beautiful souls.
It's Lisa, your catalyst life,wellness, and transformation
coach and real estate agent inthe state of Minnesota.
And I want to welcome you backto another episode of Unleash
Your Inner Radiance.
I don't know about you, butOctober always makes me slow

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down and reflect.
You know, the air feelsdifferent, especially today if
you're in Minnesota.
I am recording this on the 21st.
So I'm recording it early, butit is blustery cold outside
today.
So when I say the air feelsdifferent, boy, do I mean the
air feels different.

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It feels like it could snow.
You know, the leaves, they aredefinitely showing off the
colors before they let go.
And a lot of them are letting gotoday.
So I don't know what tomorrow'sgoing to bring.
But somewhere in that process,I'm reminded that change, though

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sometimes messy, is alsomagical.
So this month, I want to talkabout something that I think so
many of us struggle withquietly.
Believing in ourselves.

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Life's a million decisions, bigand small.
Feeling unsure doesn't mean youare not sure.
It means you are strong.
You're here to face doubt, ownit, and push forward.

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Self-belief isn't about feelingdoubt.
It is about choosing to movethrough the doubt anyway.
So now you're probably thinking,okay, if we're talking about
self-doubt, where doesself-doubt and self-belief

(02:53):
where?
If we're talking aboutself-doubt and self-belief,
where did self-belief go?
So let's talk about that and geta little honest for a second.
When was the last time youreally believed in yourself?

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Not the kind that isconditional.
So not the belief that'sconditional.
Like I'll believe in myself whenI lose ten pounds.
Or when my business takes off,I'll believe in myself.
Or when I finally feel confidentenough, I'll believe in myself.

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I am talking about the deepsoul-level belief.
The kind that says, I am enoughright now as I am.
I am enough right now as I am.

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Do you believe in that?
Do you feel it in your heart?
Do you feel it down deep in yoursoul when you say, I am enough
right now, as I am?
For many of us, somewhere alongthe way, life chipped away at

(04:34):
the inner knowing.
I know mine was chipped awayquite a bit.
Maybe it was a parent who toldyou not to dream big.
Maybe it was a heartbreak thatleft you feeling unworthy.
Maybe you felt unworthy as achild, continued into your

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marriage feeling unworthy.
Maybe it's really deep.
Or maybe it was the day that yourealized you've been showing up
for everyone else except foryourself.
I know I realized that.

(05:15):
And it was hard.
But here's the truth you reallynever lost your self-belief.
You just forgot where you putit.
Sometimes that just gets likeshoved on the back burner, back
in the back of your mind.
Just forget about it, right?

(05:37):
So right now is the season tofind it again.
So how about if we do that?
So I want to talk about thescience and the soul of
self-belief.
So we're gonna get a little bitbrain science with heart wisdom

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kind of thing going on.
And you're thinking, okay, Lisa,let's see how you do on this.
Because I love you.
That's why we're gonna do this,okay?
So bear with me.
Self-belief is more thanmindset, way more than mindset.
It actually is how your brainwires itself to expect success

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or failure.
So, like every time you speaknegatively to yourself, you
usually do that in your brain.
Although some people have afull-on conversation with
themselves, and you say thingsto yourself like, I can't do
this, I'm not good enough.
Your brain fires pathways thatreinforce that story.

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Because it's just a story.
Because think back when you werea kid, you had all the
self-confidence, the self-worth,the self-belief until somebody
shut you down.
So here is the magical part.
When you speak kindness,encouragement, and belief into

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yourself, you start to rewireyour brain.
So you are literally trainingyour brain to expect positive
outcomes.
So if you're gonna have thatnegative thought about going on
stage or doing a podcast ordoing whatever it is you're

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gonna do, right?
Starting that business, guesswhat?
Why can't you have a positivethought about that?
Why do you have to have anegative thought?
You just need to turn thatnegative thought into a positive
thought and envision yourselfbeing a successful podcaster.
Envision yourself being asuccessful small business owner,

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right?
That's what we need to do.
So when you are saying negativethings to yourself, what you
need to say is stuff like this.
I am capable of amazing things.
I always figure it out.
I'm growing into someone I'mproud of.

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You are building new neuralpathways of confidence and
self-trust.
And how fun is it to say thingslike that to yourself?
I am capable of amazing things.
I always figure it out.
I'm growing into someone I'mproud of.
We should all be proud ofourselves.

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We should all be proud ofourselves.
Because this thing that you'regoing to do when you're building
this new neural pathways, it'snot toxic positivity.
You're kind of thinking, oh,okay, that's just kind of, you

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know, I'm kind of gonna saythese things to myself.
But it's not toxic, right?
You're saying nice things toyourself, it's neuroplasticity.
That's a tough word to say, andit's powerful because it rewires
your brain to think of positivethings.
So today, if you take anythingfrom this episode, let it be

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this your self-talk is either aweapon or a healing balm.
Choose wisely.
Choose wisely.
So, how can we build that trust?
How can we build self-trust?

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We can do that by one promise toourselves at a time.
So let's go a little bit deeperon that one.
Because self-belief starts withself-trust.
So if we don't have theself-belief, that means there's
deeper issues and we probablydon't trust ourselves.

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So think about how you buildtrust with another person.
It's through consistency, right?
If you show up consistently, youbuild trust, no like and trust,
right?
When they say they'll dosomething and they actually do

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it, you start to rely on them.
And you start to think, I trustthem.
Well, the same thing happenswith yourself.
Every time you break a promiseto yourself, like skipping the
gym, staying quiet when youshould have spoken up, ignoring

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that inner voice, your brainlearns, I can't count on me.
So we need to unteach the Ican't count on me thing to your
brain.
But the beautiful is so that'swhat the beautiful thing is,
though, because you can rebuildthat trust one small promise at

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a time.
You just need to start simple.
Like drinking the water that yousay you'll drink every day.
Do you know you're supposed todrink half your body weight and
water every day?
I can guarantee you're not doingthat because you know what?
I'm not doing that.
But so that's one thing.

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Drink the water you said youwould drink.
Take the walk that you said youwould take.
Rest when you said you wouldrest.
Now, taking the walk when yousaid you'd take a walk, there's
always a bazillion things thatyou can do, right?
Just take the walk.
If you're like me, when you tryto rest, and I try to sit

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quietly and read a book orsomething.
I mean, actually read a book,not listen to a book.
I need to be doing something.
But I think I need to rest more.
So you can also speak kindlywhen you promised to be gentle.

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So these are just things thatthey're just little things that
we don't think about, but wealways let ourselves down.
So we're let we're taking awaythat self-trust.
My self-trust said, I'm gonnadrink half my body weight in
water today.
If I didn't do it, I'm I don'thave that self-trust.

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I'm not building that self-trustup in me.
So each little act is a boat foryour future self.
And before long, you just wakeup one morning realizing, oh my
gosh, I trust me again.
I'm up at five o'clock, I'm onthat treadmill, I'm taking that
walk, I'm drinking that water,and you trust yourself again.

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It just takes small littlesteps.
So if you take those smalllittle steps, then you gain this
energy of I am capable ofamazing things.
So if you're doing all thosethings, you're trusting

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yourself, and then you just havethis feeling deep down inside of
you that you are capable ofamazing things.
So I want to pause right here,and I want to invite you to say
it with me.
Wherever you are, whether you'redriving, I'm not asking you to
close your eyes.
Maybe you're in the car, don'tclose your eyes, maybe you're

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walking, or maybe you're justsitting with your coffee,
watching the leaves fall,watching the wind blow, which
I'm doing.
I want you to say this out loudand I want you to feel it.
I am capable of amazing things.
Repeat it.
I am capable of amazing things.

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Now say it again.
Now say it louder this time.
I am capable of amazing things.
Because you are.
I want you to do something forme.
I want you to take I am amazing,I am capable of amazing things,

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and I want you to stand in frontof the mirror.
I want you to look yourself inthe eye and say, I am capable of
amazing things.
And I want you to believe it.
Because even when life hasknocked you down, even when

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you're not sure how you will getback up, even when you don't
believe it yet, and I said yet,you are capable.
And you are allowed to take upspace in your own story again.

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So this fall, as the worldbegins to change, let that shift
inspire you to change what'shappening inside of you.
Maybe you start showing up foryourself the way you always show
up for everyone else.

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Maybe you stop playing small andstart saying yes to the version
of you that has been waiting tobe seen.
You know they're in there.
So let's do a moment ofreflection.

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I want you to take a deepbreath.
I want you to inhale throughyour nose and exhale through
your mouth.
You don't need to close youreyes if you're driving.
Take another deep breath inthrough your nose and exhale
through your mouth.
Now I want you to picture theperson you were five years ago.

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Think of everything she's gonethrough.
The heartbreak, the lessons, thecourage it took just to get here
to this point.
Now whisper to her.
You did it.
You made it.
Then picture the woman you'rebecoming.

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She's grounded, she's radiant,she trusts herself, and she's
walking with purpose into thenext season of her life.
That's you.
That is who you are becoming.
And she knows deep down that sheis capable of amazing things.

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Isn't that deep?
Yes, it is.
So as you moved through thisweek, as you move through this
week, if you listen to the lastepisode, please go back and
listen to that one because thatmakes this one make a lot of
sense, right?
So as you move through thisweek, and I want you to carry

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this message and this reminderin your heart.
You don't need anyone else tovalidate your worth.
You are your own permissionslip.
This is your season to believein yourself again,
unapologetically,wholeheartedly, and very

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bravely.
Because when you do, you don'tjust change your life, you
inspire all the people aroundyou to believe in theirs too.
And that's powerful.
So I want you to go out theretoday.
I want you to stand tall.

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I want you to speak gently, andI want you to remember you are
capable of amazing things.
You are worthy of the life youdream of, and you are your
story.
You and your story are far fromover.
Thank you for tuning in toUnleash Your Inner Radiance.

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If this episode spoke to yoursoul, share it with a friend who
needs to hear it too, please.
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Radiant Conversation.
Until next time, I'm Lisa, yourCatalyst Life Wildless and
Transformation Coach.
And I want to remind you tobelieve in your power, embrace

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your growth, and always, alwaysunleash your inner radiance.
See you next week.