October 12, 2024 • 40 mins
How do we who are accustomed to things moving fast in our society deal with delayed gratification?! For us young adults, this could be a major growing pain. But, it teaches us patience and makes us better. We dive into this and more in this brand new episode of Unrehearsed!!
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That camera's rolling too?
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That camera's rolling, that camera's rolling, that camera's rolling.
Hey guys, we're back to unrehearsed.
It's your girl, Dej Sean Force is gonna get us.
Your girl, Moe.
I almost said it and I ain't Moe.
Oh, well we should have did that.
I thought you were going to come here.
I didn't know if you were going to do that.
I was like, oh man.
What's up, y'all?
It's your boy Dej Sean Force.
Welcome back to another episode of unrehearsed season two.
Dang, season two.
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Again.
And this one, we back with another characteristic of success episode.
One thing I really like about this whole characteristic of success series, and just it's really, this
particular thing I'm getting at is actually kind of part of the nature of the show, unrehearsed
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itself, is the fact that we give our experiences as it's happening.
You know what I mean?
It's cool when someone makes it to the top and then they get the documentary of their
rise.
I think that's, you know, that makes sense.
It's absolutely, you know, it makes sense.
But it's a different take when you kind of document it on your way up.
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As opposed to the prime of my career is done now here is my documentary or something like
that.
Or the glory days are over now here is something like that.
Maybe there's even a purpose in that.
Like when it comes to like, I think about just like, because they could document it
like in between obviously, but like I'm just thinking like financially, it's like, oh,
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like you almost like you've remained a mystery for so long.
And then it's like, now you can see who I really am.
Documentary.
Yeah, I definitely I definitely get the air of it and stuff.
But you know what I like doing here, it's kind of like giving you, you know, giving
people the experiences that I'm encountering, that we're encountering as it's happening.
Yeah.
So you know, you guys can know, you know, we capture a moment in time, y'all can go
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back on it in 10, 15 years.
But today's characteristics of success episode is delayed satisfaction.
You know anything about that?
Or if I just don't start to cry, delayed satisfaction.
Yes.
I mean, I want to say what everyone says, because it's just like, oh, here we go again.
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Everybody like everyone.
Yo, y'all, everybody in their mother, they be over here talking about like how, you know,
we live in a microwave.
It's a microwave generation.
That's all that you hear like all the time.
It's a microwave generation.
Your kids want everything too soon.
You want it so fast.
You know, we need we need to be like crock pots.
You know, you just need to let it sit there.
You need to let it cook.
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New York.
It is New York.
This is Harley Quinn.
This is Harley Quinn.
This is Gotham.
Yeah, this is Gotham.
Oh, really?
Yeah, like New York with a hint of something else.
Oh, really?
I went to like New York and like, is that awesome?
Anyways, while the boys are talking, that's what I was saying.
So yeah, it's like, you know, you just be over here like microwave.
The Jersey.
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The Jersey.
The microwave generation.
And so it's like you want everything fast, you know, but then we live in a digital age
so that like plays part too.
You know, so it's just like it's just a lot of stuff going on with you young people.
And I get it because I, you know, I was once young as well.
So I'm just kidding.
No, no.
Side note.
I mean, I don't know about all that, sir.
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Have we said that before?
I don't know if I've actually said that to her.
She has like 12 videos.
Wow.
Access.
I'm just kidding.
But you know, if you can be like, I mean, go in there and be like another Tara Strong
for those that know her.
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You know, Tara Stone?
No, you said it.
Oh, are you serious?
Oh, that's crazy.
I didn't tell you.
Timmy Turner.
I really watched him.
Wow.
You're going to be OK.
I'm OK with that.
There was a golden age and then it was like, I ain't really nothing anymore.
You get the earliest stuff.
No, but I was on a summer.
I just got a little bit of a
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gravity falls.
Gravity falls.
Well, that show, if you're if you're into like sci fi mystery and like history, like
that's the kind of and dark jokes.
Yeah, I was like, not really a kids show, although we're playing it on this.
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Yeah.
I'm understanding.
But yeah, definitely feeling more like a doleful maybe.
I don't know.
Anyways, we're getting off.
Yeah.
Anyways, go ahead.
I mean, I think you're going to get a little bit of late satisfaction.
Late satisfaction.
Yeah.
Well, I mean, here's my.
Well, even though you said a lot of people say awesome microwave generation, I mean,
I are they lying but not lying.
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I can't tell you how many things that I've gone off of that I gone after that I wanted
in a sense right away.
And I get both sides of it.
Obviously, great things take time, you know that as well, but you wanting it right away
could be a sign of how much it means.
Yeah.
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You know, you want that you really because you know, you dream about it all the time.
You write it out in your business plan all the time or whatever, you know, your plan
for your life in general.
Maybe it's not a business plan and you can see that.
And then it kind of then it's kind of frustration happens that I know, at least within myself,
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where me and my overthinking behind where you notice you see, let's call it the top.
You see the top that you want to get to and then you see where you are now and then you
become frustrated by the gap in between.
Right.
Like you think I got to get up there, but you're down here, not necessarily at the bottom,
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but you're you know, you're not there yet.
You notice that gap in the middle and it can kind of frustrate you.
It can kind of frustrate you and then get you to be in a rushing mode.
Yeah.
And then other not so good things happen.
Right.
Because you go over here making moves, trying to rush.
You're trying to rush it.
You're trying to get it and then maybe you get a rushed version of that and it's completely
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not what you wanted because it's a rushed version of it.
But yeah, that's what I've I've noticed.
And then it becomes about, OK, you know, you got to stay consistent.
You know, you got to keep doing what you got to do.
It's like, OK, how do you play out of peace of mind while you're trying to
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turns back around?
Bro.
But not like you.
How do you do yourself peace of mind while you're doing what you're going to try to close
that gap?
And that's really where it gets tricky.
And that's where you kind of get antsy.
At least for me, that's where you got to remember like your blade satisfaction.
You know, it's I find it's better.
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I mean, this is really like a life lesson.
It's better if it doesn't come.
Yeah.
You know, if I wanted something, no matter how good that thing can be, and then I get it
relatively right away.
I'm still happy I got it, but it don't mean as much because I didn't know when it was time.
Yeah.
So you're talking about work.
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I'm I'm entrepreneurship minded.
You know, that's me.
I'm just kidding.
I'm just kidding.
But I'm talking more so in the sense of just the different goals and business goals that I have for myself for my life.
But it doesn't necessarily have to be.
It could kind of be like an all together thing.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
That's why I was like, oh, it can definitely be an all together thing.
Like, I just think about me for those of you who don't know, I'm such a foodie.
You know, so if you ever think about me, just give me like a good card to a nice restaurant and I'm happy.
Very simple to please.
Anyways, the point is that, you know, I even think about like food, for example, because I honestly, as you were talking about all that I kept thinking about,
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like, how did it be like that was it really do?
I'm just going to.
Sorry, the wind is great.
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Rain came and when you know that one, my house was built on that song fire makes you want to cry.
I'm safe.
I don't know.
I'm saying Christ is my firm foundation.
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She's singing it is what you don't.
Dang.
OK, I think we're good.
Hello.
Yeah.
Hello.
Is anyone there?
No, but you were saying about like food.
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Yes.
Thank you.
Jump right back into it.
So yeah, so specifically with food, like, you know, I just think about how like sometimes like I could really just want a burger, you know, and when I was younger, I'd be like, oh, or I just like, you know, I feel like we throw tantrums.
Can we talk about that?
I feel like as adults, like we really be throwing adult tantrums like it might just be in the privacy of our room, but we like, you know, just like laying on your bed like life is hard, you know, and then we just get back up and we're like, all right, we can't cry about it.
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We got to keep going.
Or you can cry about cry about it and then just keep going anyway.
But I just feel like, you know, sometimes I go on a burger and I'm like, oh, I'm gonna like get it and I can get it right there in that moment.
I'm like, dang, that was good.
You know, and that's like it literally was like, oh, that was the end.
Yeah, the end.
End of story.
But then it's like when it's like that, you know, we're like, we're not going to eat a burger right now.
Like, you know, we're going to continue like, you know, have a little healthier lifestyle, maybe like next week or so you get yourself a burger.
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By the time that next week comes and like I still be like the burgers still be in my mind.
Like it'll still pop up.
So by the time I eat it that next week, like it tastes all the more better because I'm like, I've waited for you my whole life.
But I'm like, I've waited for you.
But it's like imagine Mo holding a burger and saying I've waited.
I think she said that.
I think that's the whole point.
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Anyways, I waited for you.
All the emotions.
I need to see a tear coming down as I'm like going to take a break.
Not one, but two.
So yeah, but it's just like even so I'm thinking about food, but like it literally is a general thing.
Like specifically when it comes to work, specifically when it comes to work, like I do feel that it is a lot harder for delayed satisfaction.
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But I don't think it's me.
I don't think it's our fault.
Like I don't like again, I just have to keep going back to just like television.
Like I just feel like it was so much more before TV was even a thing.
Like even if we just had radio, like, you know, I just feel that it was so much more easier to have the mindset of just like, you know, things don't come like right away.
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Things don't come instantly.
But I do feel that, you know, part of just the like, what would you say the effects, the effect of having living in a digital age, part of the effect of having, you know, phones and just like, you know, everything here.
At our fingertips is that mindset that things do come easily even fast food, even freaking fast food, you know.
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But so many things can like come into the reason why satisfaction, you know, why we are wired to think like, oh, we need things like right here right away.
And I just feel like it's not just.
Yeah, because for example, one thing that I'm thinking about is, you know, fast food. Let's talk about it because you brought it up with me talking about it again.
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But fast food, because simply like, you know, for myself, like one thing that I learned about myself is like, oh, like if I cook at home and like I already have food already ready, like that is my fast food, like from home.
You know, but fast food, it's like it's convenient and it's right there like and it's cheap, which is like crazy. We're not going to get on that because there's a whole other soapbox of like how is fast food more cheaper than healthy foods like we're not going to get on that.
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But yeah, and so but also like I just think of different things like, you know, delayed satisfaction.
It could also mean like, I don't know, because I'm thinking of it on both parts. I'm also thinking about like laziness.
Like when it comes to delayed satisfaction, because sometimes, sometimes our satisfaction doesn't have to be as delayed as we have in our minds.
But we just aren't putting in that work to get there faster.
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Because I don't want to just make this like a negative thing or like, oh, you're supposed to be delayed like no sometimes you're like literally you're so like it's not even that hard of a thing.
It's just like such a short like path or such a short journey, but you're just you're lazy.
Oh, yeah. So when I was bringing up the subject, I was in my mind.
I'm assuming that you're doing what you got to do. Okay. You know what I mean? Okay. Yeah.
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Because when I was I was sharing examples of like my personal experiences, yeah, and I make sure I do what I got to do.
Like I check myself. I asked others questions and I just make sure make sure all of my boxes are checked because you can delay your outcome that you want if you're not doing what you need to do to achieve that.
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So I want to make that clear. This is the assumption that you're doing you got to do.
So going back then to the assumption that you are doing what you got to do. I would just say a lot of times like we get so caught up on the destination.
That's true. We really do. You know, it's like, oh, I have this thing like and I want to get there.
Like I just want it to be there already. But it's like, you know, by the time that you get to that place, you're going to be such a different person.
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Like you're going to have a different mindset, you know, like you might even have like, you know, things are different like finances family, you know, like spiritually, you might even be very different than what you are right now.
You said what?
Oh, yeah. Yeah. And so I was going to say I just had a question because you have brought up laziness.
That's a really good lay we can go down because like,
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how does one really identify if they're not? How does one really spot if they're not doing?
So, like, there's laziness in the obvious sense, right? You're not doing anything.
Obviously, you're going to get nowhere. But then there's someone who's actually doing some stuff, but may not be doing enough.
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How does one just a question to the floor? How can one spot that?
How does one know if you're not doing enough?
I feel like that takes a lot of self reflection because let's just start off with the one at the bottom.
Laziness, just pure like you're purely lazy and you're not doing anything.
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I would just find that you're like constantly talking about like, well, I want to do this. I want to do that.
Oh, I have all these dreams. But you literally don't do anything like you don't put in any work.
You don't invest any money like you're not even you're over here like having the like this conversation like, oh, I want to do this.
I want to do that. But you're unhappy like you're unhappy with where you are. And that's your fault.
Like your life is your fault. Like you're unhappy because of you.
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Because the time that you have that's free where you can actually be doing something with yourself.
You're choosing to sit on the couch. You're choosing to, oh, like spend time with the homies when you could be like investing in yourself.
You're choosing to just, you know, not do anything like you're just choosing to stay on like Facebook all day.
Stay on social media all day. You're choosing to be on the game. Yeah, I'm calling out.
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You're choosing to be on the game all day and like not do anything with your life.
And then you're like, oh, like, you know, yours are going to go past and you're going to be upset.
You're going to be sad. But that's again, it's your fault. Like your life is your fault.
Like anything that happens like not everything that happens, obviously, because like everything, not everything, you know,
but like if you're unhappy with your life, like you have the power to change it. You have the power to do something about that.
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So but if you're being lazy, like nobody can help you if you can't help yourself, you know, and just this is just a side note.
Because one thing that I found was that in you being lazy, like people most likely aren't going to want to help you because they're like you can do it.
But you're just playing around. But when you actually start working towards things and like people start seeing that and you're like,
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this is the vision. This is the dream and you're working towards things like people are more willing to actually help you.
They're more willing to like give a lending hand because they see like, oh, this isn't just me like wasting my time like I'm investing in you.
And so like when you make it or like, you know, when you get to the goal that you have like I'm going to be proud.
First, I'm going to be proud of you. But then secondly, I'm going to be like, I am so happy.
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Like I have such a piece with helping you because like my help was not in vain.
But oftentimes like we can take advantage of people and they can literally feel like, dang, I helped you.
And like you didn't even help yourself. Like what was the point of that? You know what I mean?
No, you're good. That's that's that's truth right there. And there's even a saying, God helps those who help themselves.
So even God is like, if you're just not doing these, I mean, you know, God's going to make you equal opportunities anyway.
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But if you're not doing anything, we all have the, you know, the ability to do something.
You know, I mean, we have to there's a verse in the Bible thing I want to say.
Yes. And Deuteronomy, I'm a paraphrasing, but it's pretty much it was telling because, you know, Moses was on his way out.
I was going to die. And then but the Israelites were going over to the promised land and the whole theme of like the first maybe first 10 chapters or whatever.
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Like Deuteronomy was like, remember, pretty much remember God when you get everything that you can promise someone.
And there was a particular part where it was like, even when you get wealth, yeah, you could say, well, I got up and got that wealth.
I have to put in that work. And that's absolutely true. That's facts. Yeah.
But it also says true, but God gave you the power and the abilities to. Yeah.
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So that's that's that's like really good. I just want to touch on that for two seconds.
Like I can testify for myself, like I would say that I was very lazy, like and I can honestly say that, like I was a very lazy person.
Like I would be like, oh, I want to do this and I want to do that. But like I would never actually put in the time.
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And some like most times it was because I felt like, oh, like I didn't have time or or the other thing was that I was just like, oh, like, you know, God, I want to do this.
But I would never actually put in the work. And for some reason in my brain, because honestly, I think a lot of us just needs to change the way that our brains are wired.
We just need to change our minds and our thoughts, because at that time, like I was very much in the like, OK, God, I want to do this.
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But like never actually thinking like, oh, I need to be working like, oh, I need to be the one taking the steps.
Oh, man, I got to do it right. No, seriously, because it's like, oh, you know, I can do all things through Christ or like everything is possible with God.
And a lot of times like we think that we're going to get like to someplace on a miracle.
You know, we think that we're going to get to someplace like on a wonder on a sign.
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But it's just like, here is your sign. Like, go put in the work. Here's your sign.
Like, get off the couch, like throw away your game, counsel, counsel, counsel, counsel, throw it away, throw it away.
I don't know why I just feel like men like I just feel like, you know what, man, I'm going to just let you all know, like, I'm really rooting for you all.
Like, I know a lot of people are like men are trash and stuff, but like, I know that it's rough out here for you all.
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Like, life is not easy and you all just have a lot of responsibility and I can respect that.
And women don't come for me. Like, don't come for me because like, I understand that like women, we do a lot too.
And I get that. Like, I just really want to uplift men on this episode because I feel like there's so much more that needs to be.
I feel like there's so much more, so much potential that you all just be sleeping on and there's so much more that you all could be doing.
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So I just really want this to be like an episode where you all are encouraged because like, you know, we need we need you all.
Like, we need you all to go out and like put into the world whatever God put in you all.
Like, you know what I mean? And so, yeah, so I just I'm rooting for you all. I just want you all to know.
Like, yeah, I digress.
Can I ask you something? No.
Next time. Next time.
Do you have something against gamers? Gamers? Yeah.
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No, there's just like this. I mean, no, I don't. I don't have anything against gamers. Me? No, I don't.
I don't have anything. I think she was just saying.
I know. I know. She keeps saying, God, I'm like, yeah.
It's because one of the vices, you're getting convicted.
It's because it's one of the vices.
Like when it comes to men specifically, like, you know, y'all are distracted by different things that women are distracted by.
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Most women aren't sitting up there playing the game. Most women are on Instagram.
Let's be real. Most women are on social media. But for a guy that's like your social media is gaming.
Yeah. So, yeah. So that's why I was like gaming.
Black Ops 1, Black Ops 2, Black Ops 2.
Model Warfare 2. Model Warfare 2.
See the little things. So I'm not coming. If you play games, like, stop.
Yeah, she's talking about in the sense of like, you know, if that's because we all. Yeah.
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We all have. There's something. For example, I'll just use myself as an example.
When starting my journey, you know, you want to do something better. You want to do something more.
You know, try to elevate yourself. You got to look at what you currently deal with, what your current habits are.
And you kind of have to do some re-wiring. You got to reshape your mind.
You got to move some pieces and stuff like that.
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And so one of the things that I had to do was I had to kind of like not go out as much.
I was going out a lot. It was a time where especially like right after I graduated high school,
that summer after graduation, I was out.
Like I would work and then I would be out.
And I mean, I'm out till I have no choice but to come home. I was out.
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But when it came time to like, you know, really focus up and be on my thing, be on my business, you know, it's like, OK,
I'm not going to like just completely ghost my friends and not be friends with them no more.
But I got to prioritize pretty much what she's ultimately getting at.
And so quiet, you know what I'm saying, you know what I'm saying. It's just not getting the message.
But I had to prioritize. Like I'm obviously going to stay in touch with y'all.
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I'm going to keep getting with y'all, y'all are family at this point.
And I still am in touch with them to this day. It's been several years since we graduated.
But I got to build something up for myself.
And so, you know, sometimes what you really love and what really kind of, you know, makes you feel good,
though it may be good, can also you can love it a little bit too much and it becomes a distraction.
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And so that's what she's getting at the video games.
I feel you Ricky. I just downloaded Spider-Man 2 last night.
No, it comes with my dog.
I pre-ordered it and it was on. She's like, video games? I don't even play any of them.
Thank you for putting that in.
No, but it's crazy. Like we buy these new games, right? And we intend to play them.
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But because like the way how we are now is like we're more into building ourselves now.
It's like we don't we don't even touch them for like months after it comes out.
I bought a PS5 for my past birthday and I played it.
I had a week off of work, so I had a bunch of time outside of like exercise and stuff like that.
And I was like, OK, I'm just going to just straight stress free. I didn't work on music.
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I didn't work on podcasts and films, no nothing business related.
When bought me a PS5, the price finally went back down to where it needed to be.
And I was like, bad, PS5 for $4.49. I'm getting it.
No way.
Copped the Call of Duty game, played it for about a week.
It's been a couple of months since. And now that the Spider-Man game is coming out.
You know, I'm going to play it.
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But that thing just sits there and collects dust because I'm more focused on, you know, everything else.
And yeah, but back to what Mo was saying, what you were saying about video games.
I'm just kidding. We got to defend the brethren.
I know.
But like, I understand. Like there is a reason why I asked about like, OK, how do you how can you spot whether or not you're actually doing enough?
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You can, if you're not careful, be in the way of your own self.
So it's like for me to because, you know, if you know me, if you check out my music or just interviews or just check out the podcast, you might hear me say at times,
I don't want 10, 20, 30 years to go by.
And I look back at these moments and be like, dang, I didn't do enough because I'm not going to be able to really forgive myself.
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I'll figure out a way to live with it.
But I'm not really going to look at myself the same if I have those kind of thoughts 10, 20, 30 years from now.
So one of the ways I look at, you know, I ask myself, OK, am I doing enough?
It's like I just I write out or mentally I write out, OK, all of these things.
These boxes need to be checked. How am I checking those boxes lately?
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You know what I'm saying? If, you know, for example, I want to make it in music.
OK, what am I doing creatively first? If you music got to be good, what am I doing creatively first to give myself a fighting chance?
OK, am I standing out? Is my production standing out? Is the bar standing out?
Is the quality standing out? What are we talking about here? How's the music videos looking?
Are we just doing this on the camera in the music videos or are we are we going a little bit more above and beyond?
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In and out, in and out.
OK, now transition. You know, whip cuts and stuff like that.
What are we doing? So that constant self reflection, not just the music, but in every aspect of the work part of it.
And then my character, my relationship with God, my physical health.
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What am I doing to keep my to get myself to where I really want?
And then I won't stop there. I'll ask others. I asked you one time.
I said, OK, Mo, as a as an artist, because she's heard the album that's currently at the time of a shooting.
This is probably out when this comes out. But at the time of a shooting, this is not released.
But she heard it. We had like a little listening session amongst the team and stuff like that.
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And I asked her, I said, OK, be one thousand percent right and just fair. Just be one thousand percent honest.
You can tell me I'm hot garbage. I want to be told I'm hot garbage.
I can take it. I'm looking for someone to tell me I'm hot garbage and tell me why.
And then I'm like, Kate, how am I as an artist?
And then she gave me her honest, fair breakdown. I was like dog water.
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She's like trash. But she gave me an honest, like realistic, critical breakdown.
And I was like, that's right. That's fair.
Like I gave one of myself before I asked her.
And some of the things that she was saying was some of the things I noticed about myself.
And then I asked Ryan, who A&R's.
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And he was no one knew I gave an assessment to myself.
I'm just seeing what everyone else got to say.
And they was hitting on some of the same things. I was like, OK, there's some work that needs to be done in these areas.
If I obviously I caught it. But if others are catching it as well, if others would like to see improvements here as well.
OK, cool. I know what we got to focus on and stuff like that.
So I think it's constantly taking yourself. You know, there are great things take time.
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But, you know, if you're doing what you got to do and you know, you following God and you're doing what you got to do is going to come in its time.
It's not going to come. We I heard someone say we're in a rush, not God.
Oh, that hurt my soul. And in a sense, I was like, I was like, you right. And I'm mad that you write.
I'm upset and frustrated that you told me the truth. How dare you?
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Because it's like, oh, no, for real. I find myself wanting it because it matters.
I find myself wanting it so bad. But God is there.
So like I'm saying, like, you know, you're going to get it if God told you it's yours.
Yeah, what's yours is yours. That's a whole episode. We're not going to get into it.
We'll get to it in another episode. Yeah. Maybe the next few days. Maybe I got to write that down somewhere.
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But, um, yeah, like it was yours. You won't get to it. And but there's a process.
And I find because we talk about experiences as they're happening, I find that process.
There's only at least with me, there's only there has only been a certain part of the process that I've been able to understand.
And there's always been enough to keep me going. But then there's other aspects of the world.
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It's like, I got questions here. I don't really get this. Is this going to work? Is this going to happen?
Yeah, they know that type of thing. But then, like, you know, God's not going to reveal everything to you.
Like, you know, because then, you know, maybe it's just not for you to know.
You got to put in your work and you'll understand more as you go along.
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But the late satisfaction by the time by the time it comes for me, I just imagine I'm going to be a big old baby.
Yeah. And I'm going to hate that. I'm going to find me a bathroom to run into.
If I feel it, if I feel it's coming, you're going to see me sprint like just an unwarranted sprint.
But I just imagine that's going to be me because I'm thinking about all of the years that is going into this stuff that has happened,
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that's impacted that has nothing that you would think has nothing to do with this.
So a bit of a story that I can tell about not this episode. You know, I realize that I don't like that it's called the late satisfaction.
Why? Like, because I mean, I just don't like it. What do you feel like it's a better because I'm like, that's a good question.
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I'm not sure. But it's like because we call it delayed.
Like, I feel like just even saying delayed satisfaction, like it almost seems like, like, you know what I mean?
I think I have this negative connotation. But that's really that's really us.
Because it's not delayed, though, because what you literally just feel like what you is delayed to us.
OK, in our minds, it's not delayed to God because you're finding the Bible.
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I was like, what do we call it? Delight, delight, delight, delight satisfaction, delayed, delayed in our minds.
Because, like, you know, I mean, just growing up in church, I've heard a lot of people say over and over again, like our timing is in God's timing.
And I was just, you know, yeah, it's like you don't talk to me. You're frustrated because you know it's right.
Yeah. You know what I mean? You know, it's going against something on the inside of you.
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Yeah. And it's delayed to us because I mean, if you ask anyone, hey, picture your highest achievement or whatever it is, whatever it is that you're going for and that you truly want.
You want it in a year or you want it in 12 years?
Everyone's going to be saying, let me get that joint in the year. We're trying to get to the top now.
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But realistically speaking, there's things that has to happen that goes into it that God orchestrates.
And so it feels delayed to us. But you're reading the Bible and not at a point in time.
You're meant to get it at this particular time. Yeah.
You tried to rush it. You still came at the time that it was supposed to come.
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Right. And I want to add to that. I just like two things, two things, two things.
So first thing is whoever threw that prize is kidding. It has nothing to do with anything.
The first thing was just like all that I keep thinking of is just like a seed, you know, and when you plant a seed in the ground, like it doesn't just become a tree overnight.
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It's got to be dope, not going to lie, but it doesn't. It doesn't just become a tree overnight. And so this is just like encouragement because obviously when we have a goal, you know, when we're growing and things like that,
there's like a whole process. I literally want to challenge you all to Google how does the seed grow?
Because you'll learn that it starts off as a seed and then there's this breaking that needs to happen so that the seed comes out of its shell and then it takes roots.
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And then like and it's just all this is happening like, you know, with no one seeing. Underground. It's all happening underground.
And then eventually like, you know, it comes up, but it's not even a full tree yet. It's just like this little just this little stem, this little sprout that you see, you know, and eventually like then it becomes this like big thing.
And so like when it comes to delayed satisfaction, like I just want to give encouragement to think of it as that. Just be like we're, you know, we're in process, we're growing.
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And then also just like what we were saying, like just think about the things that you need because what does what does the seed need? It needs water. It needs sunlight. You know what I mean?
Like it needs someone to talk to it and it's like, hey, like you're beautiful and you're great. And it needs time. It really needs time.
Like a seed cannot buy its time to like, okay, let's hurry up. Let's grow faster. Like that's not how it works.
You just got it. The seed literally has to go through whatever the earth is going through. You know what I mean?
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And so it's like we have to go through whatever life is like bringing us, you know, but all those things, all those different things, like just take them and just all the different trials.
Like they are literally tools and instruments that are helping us to grow in our character, you know, because you don't want to end up getting somewhere in your character's trash.
I'm like because what got you there, you know, ain't going to keep you there because talent only goes so far. You know what I mean?
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But it's like character that keeps you there. It's character that helps you stay and that gets you in rooms that you never thought you could even be in.
And then the other thing that I was thinking of, excuse me, as well, I forgot.
So yeah, yeah. And it's actually, he says something dope about like a seed can't be planted and then just sprouting become a tree overnight.
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Yeah. And the thought that came to mind was like, man, if life was like that, everybody would be doing it. Yeah.
Like everybody would be going for success or whatever it is I'm going for, my version of success come that quick.
Everyone's going for it. There's no challenges. There's no character building. There's no lessons learned.
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But the fact that it takes that kind of time and that kind of time, that kind of nurturing and all that kind of stuff.
I find in my journey towards my version of the top that it provides that character build is 1000 percent been the best part.
One thousand percent. And then you learn more about yourself along the way. Yeah.
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And not only that, I feel like it just makes you more proud of yourself because I feel like if at the end of the day, like you have the time, everyone's like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
It's like, but how do you like how do you feel about you? Because you sleep with you at night. You know what I mean?
Like you look at you every day, you with yourself. So it's like at the end of the day, like, you know, you had someone else's version of like satisfaction.
And they're like, dang, like I'm so unhappy. It's like, we don't want that for you. That's trash. That's dog water.
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So yeah. Oh, and then I remember the other thing that I was going to say. So the other thing that I was going to say was, oh, the other thing I was going to say is like, I just like I just felt led to just talk about restoration really quickly.
Because I do feel like a lot of times like, you know, maybe you did do like the get rich quick scheme and things like that.
And things didn't pan out for you, you know, or maybe like you started and you were like, this is taking too long.
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So you wait. And like, I just really want to encourage you like, just let you know about is a restore like God restores.
And like, I really do believe that when we come to God with this is to your heart and we really repent and we're like, OK, God, like, you know, I tried in my way.
I was over here doing all this like and it just did not work out. So like, I'm ready to do it your way.
God, like one, like he will build your character, you know, like he will definitely like your character has to build, you know, like he's going to bring the right people into your life, the right people for you that you need to be partnering with.
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And then the other thing too is like, he's going to like the way that it works is like God literally, he's going to like put you back to where you would have been.
You know what I mean? God is a redeemer of time. Like, he's not just going to be like, OK, like you're ready for it now.
Like, it's going to take you like 40 more years to get there. Like, I really believe that he's so gracious and he's so merciful that he's like, you literally wasted two years.
But when I get you there, it's like those two years like you didn't even they aren't even going to be wasted because he's going to like accelerate it, you know.
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And so I just want to encourage somebody like if you were like working towards something and you just got tired of like that delayed satisfaction, you settled like.
Don't settle like don't settle anymore. Don't continue to let settling be a part of your life.
Be like, you know, flowing into all these other areas because they are better than nothing.
I'm like, you all are better than that. Like, you all deserve the best.
OK, like literally the best. And so it's like so important that you all see that you all see that in yourselves.
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So, yeah, so I just want to encourage anybody like if you really like if you just quit and you were like, I'm out of the race, like get back in the race.
Literally, it might not look the same, but, you know, like he got for just like wisdom for counsel, you know, and just for like strategy and planning, you know, and then just go after it like whatever it is because he does redeem.
Like he does it all the time. You know, he did it with me as well.
And so, yeah, I just want to testify and just say like, you all got this like delayed satisfaction is so worth it.
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It's so worth it because you're going to get to the top and you're going to be like you're going to look back and be like, wow, like I'm so grateful that all that stuff happened because like I wouldn't be who I am.
By the time I get there. I think that's what it comes back down to like, you know, it's about our character because it's like if we get it right then right there like there's probably so many things that would cause us to mess up the good thing that we get like the good accomplishment like whatever it is the accolades whatever whatever.
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But yeah, but then when it's like we have that time to develop our character, you know, when we get there like you know we we aren't like I said we aren't the same people.
And it's like I just like that's what God wants for us at the end of the day. He's like, you know, what's your character like because your talent is great like he gifted that to you.
But you know, like if your character is trash, it's like none of that is worth it. Like it's not even going to be as good because then you're just going to ruin it like you're literally going to mess yourself up.
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So don't do that. Don't do that. I digress.
I don't know.
Dropping a lot of jibs.
Okay.
I rehearsed.
Okay, literally.
Stop.
This is yours.
Get out of here.
But now I think that's a good note to end on.
That's a good note to end on something like this like, you know, I believe we can always add to it because the journey is ongoing.
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It is.
It is.
But if I had any closing remarks, I mean, I will say great things take time.
Yeah.
And you know, just use that time that you're building and growing. Use that time just wisely to know yourself, get to know yourself, get to know God more.
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And then just figure out ways to just better improve all around.
I mean, you know, don't want to don't put no sort of limitations or cap on yourself.
Anything you you just never know.
I'm saying the things that you may be overlooking could end up being a thing that could enhance whatever it is that you're trying to build on.
But ladies and gentlemen, that's been a whole nother episode of Unrehearsed in season two form.
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That camera's rolling, that camera's rolling, that camera's rolling.
Hey guys, we're back to unrehearsed.
It's your girl, Dej Sean Force is gonna get us.
Your girl, Moe.
I almost said it and I ain't Moe.
Oh, well we should have did that.
I thought you were going to come here.
I didn't know if you were going to do that.
I was like, oh man.
What's up, y'all?
It's your boy Dej Sean Force.
Welcome back to another episode of unrehearsed season two.
Dang, season two.
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Again.
And this one, we back with another characteristic of success episode.
One thing I really like about this whole characteristic of success series, and just it's really, this
particular thing I'm getting at is actually kind of part of the nature of the show, unrehearsed
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itself, is the fact that we give our experiences as it's happening.
You know what I mean?
It's cool when someone makes it to the top and then they get the documentary of their
rise.
I think that's, you know, that makes sense.
It's absolutely, you know, it makes sense.
But it's a different take when you kind of document it on your way up.
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As opposed to the prime of my career is done now here is my documentary or something like
that.
Or the glory days are over now here is something like that.
Maybe there's even a purpose in that.
Like when it comes to like, I think about just like, because they could document it
like in between obviously, but like I'm just thinking like financially, it's like, oh,
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like you almost like you've remained a mystery for so long.
And then it's like, now you can see who I really am.
Documentary.
Yeah, I definitely I definitely get the air of it and stuff.
But you know what I like doing here, it's kind of like giving you, you know, giving
people the experiences that I'm encountering, that we're encountering as it's happening.
Yeah.
So you know, you guys can know, you know, we capture a moment in time, y'all can go
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back on it in 10, 15 years.
But today's characteristics of success episode is delayed satisfaction.
You know anything about that?
Or if I just don't start to cry, delayed satisfaction.
Yes.
I mean, I want to say what everyone says, because it's just like, oh, here we go again.
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Everybody like everyone.
Yo, y'all, everybody in their mother, they be over here talking about like how, you know,
we live in a microwave.
It's a microwave generation.
That's all that you hear like all the time.
It's a microwave generation.
Your kids want everything too soon.
You want it so fast.
You know, we need we need to be like crock pots.
You know, you just need to let it sit there.
You need to let it cook.
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New York.
It is New York.
This is Harley Quinn.
This is Harley Quinn.
This is Gotham.
Yeah, this is Gotham.
Oh, really?
Yeah, like New York with a hint of something else.
Oh, really?
I went to like New York and like, is that awesome?
Anyways, while the boys are talking, that's what I was saying.
So yeah, it's like, you know, you just be over here like microwave.
The Jersey.
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The Jersey.
The microwave generation.
And so it's like you want everything fast, you know, but then we live in a digital age
so that like plays part too.
You know, so it's just like it's just a lot of stuff going on with you young people.
And I get it because I, you know, I was once young as well.
So I'm just kidding.
No, no.
Side note.
I mean, I don't know about all that, sir.
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Have we said that before?
I don't know if I've actually said that to her.
She has like 12 videos.
Wow.
Access.
I'm just kidding.
But you know, if you can be like, I mean, go in there and be like another Tara Strong
for those that know her.
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You know, Tara Stone?
No, you said it.
Oh, are you serious?
Oh, that's crazy.
I didn't tell you.
Timmy Turner.
I really watched him.
Wow.
You're going to be OK.
I'm OK with that.
There was a golden age and then it was like, I ain't really nothing anymore.
You get the earliest stuff.
No, but I was on a summer.
I just got a little bit of a
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gravity falls.
Gravity falls.
Well, that show, if you're if you're into like sci fi mystery and like history, like
that's the kind of and dark jokes.
Yeah, I was like, not really a kids show, although we're playing it on this.
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Yeah.
I'm understanding.
But yeah, definitely feeling more like a doleful maybe.
I don't know.
Anyways, we're getting off.
Yeah.
Anyways, go ahead.
I mean, I think you're going to get a little bit of late satisfaction.
Late satisfaction.
Yeah.
Well, I mean, here's my.
Well, even though you said a lot of people say awesome microwave generation, I mean,
I are they lying but not lying.
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I can't tell you how many things that I've gone off of that I gone after that I wanted
in a sense right away.
And I get both sides of it.
Obviously, great things take time, you know that as well, but you wanting it right away
could be a sign of how much it means.
Yeah.
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You know, you want that you really because you know, you dream about it all the time.
You write it out in your business plan all the time or whatever, you know, your plan
for your life in general.
Maybe it's not a business plan and you can see that.
And then it kind of then it's kind of frustration happens that I know, at least within myself,
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where me and my overthinking behind where you notice you see, let's call it the top.
You see the top that you want to get to and then you see where you are now and then you
become frustrated by the gap in between.
Right.
Like you think I got to get up there, but you're down here, not necessarily at the bottom,
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but you're you know, you're not there yet.
You notice that gap in the middle and it can kind of frustrate you.
It can kind of frustrate you and then get you to be in a rushing mode.
Yeah.
And then other not so good things happen.
Right.
Because you go over here making moves, trying to rush.
You're trying to rush it.
You're trying to get it and then maybe you get a rushed version of that and it's completely
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not what you wanted because it's a rushed version of it.
But yeah, that's what I've I've noticed.
And then it becomes about, OK, you know, you got to stay consistent.
You know, you got to keep doing what you got to do.
It's like, OK, how do you play out of peace of mind while you're trying to
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turns back around?
Bro.
But not like you.
How do you do yourself peace of mind while you're doing what you're going to try to close
that gap?
And that's really where it gets tricky.
And that's where you kind of get antsy.
At least for me, that's where you got to remember like your blade satisfaction.
You know, it's I find it's better.
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I mean, this is really like a life lesson.
It's better if it doesn't come.
Yeah.
You know, if I wanted something, no matter how good that thing can be, and then I get it
relatively right away.
I'm still happy I got it, but it don't mean as much because I didn't know when it was time.
Yeah.
So you're talking about work.
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I'm I'm entrepreneurship minded.
You know, that's me.
I'm just kidding.
I'm just kidding.
But I'm talking more so in the sense of just the different goals and business goals that I have for myself for my life.
But it doesn't necessarily have to be.
It could kind of be like an all together thing.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
That's why I was like, oh, it can definitely be an all together thing.
Like, I just think about me for those of you who don't know, I'm such a foodie.
You know, so if you ever think about me, just give me like a good card to a nice restaurant and I'm happy.
Very simple to please.
Anyways, the point is that, you know, I even think about like food, for example, because I honestly, as you were talking about all that I kept thinking about,
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like, how did it be like that was it really do?
I'm just going to.
Sorry, the wind is great.
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Rain came and when you know that one, my house was built on that song fire makes you want to cry.
I'm safe.
I don't know.
I'm saying Christ is my firm foundation.
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She's singing it is what you don't.
Dang.
OK, I think we're good.
Hello.
Yeah.
Hello.
Is anyone there?
No, but you were saying about like food.
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Yes.
Thank you.
Jump right back into it.
So yeah, so specifically with food, like, you know, I just think about how like sometimes like I could really just want a burger, you know, and when I was younger, I'd be like, oh, or I just like, you know, I feel like we throw tantrums.
Can we talk about that?
I feel like as adults, like we really be throwing adult tantrums like it might just be in the privacy of our room, but we like, you know, just like laying on your bed like life is hard, you know, and then we just get back up and we're like, all right, we can't cry about it.
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We got to keep going.
Or you can cry about cry about it and then just keep going anyway.
But I just feel like, you know, sometimes I go on a burger and I'm like, oh, I'm gonna like get it and I can get it right there in that moment.
I'm like, dang, that was good.
You know, and that's like it literally was like, oh, that was the end.
Yeah, the end.
End of story.
But then it's like when it's like that, you know, we're like, we're not going to eat a burger right now.
Like, you know, we're going to continue like, you know, have a little healthier lifestyle, maybe like next week or so you get yourself a burger.
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By the time that next week comes and like I still be like the burgers still be in my mind.
Like it'll still pop up.
So by the time I eat it that next week, like it tastes all the more better because I'm like, I've waited for you my whole life.
But I'm like, I've waited for you.
But it's like imagine Mo holding a burger and saying I've waited.
I think she said that.
I think that's the whole point.
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Anyways, I waited for you.
All the emotions.
I need to see a tear coming down as I'm like going to take a break.
Not one, but two.
So yeah, but it's just like even so I'm thinking about food, but like it literally is a general thing.
Like specifically when it comes to work, specifically when it comes to work, like I do feel that it is a lot harder for delayed satisfaction.
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But I don't think it's me.
I don't think it's our fault.
Like I don't like again, I just have to keep going back to just like television.
Like I just feel like it was so much more before TV was even a thing.
Like even if we just had radio, like, you know, I just feel that it was so much more easier to have the mindset of just like, you know, things don't come like right away.
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Things don't come instantly.
But I do feel that, you know, part of just the like, what would you say the effects, the effect of having living in a digital age, part of the effect of having, you know, phones and just like, you know, everything here.
At our fingertips is that mindset that things do come easily even fast food, even freaking fast food, you know.
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But so many things can like come into the reason why satisfaction, you know, why we are wired to think like, oh, we need things like right here right away.
And I just feel like it's not just.
Yeah, because for example, one thing that I'm thinking about is, you know, fast food. Let's talk about it because you brought it up with me talking about it again.
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But fast food, because simply like, you know, for myself, like one thing that I learned about myself is like, oh, like if I cook at home and like I already have food already ready, like that is my fast food, like from home.
You know, but fast food, it's like it's convenient and it's right there like and it's cheap, which is like crazy. We're not going to get on that because there's a whole other soapbox of like how is fast food more cheaper than healthy foods like we're not going to get on that.
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But yeah, and so but also like I just think of different things like, you know, delayed satisfaction.
It could also mean like, I don't know, because I'm thinking of it on both parts. I'm also thinking about like laziness.
Like when it comes to delayed satisfaction, because sometimes, sometimes our satisfaction doesn't have to be as delayed as we have in our minds.
But we just aren't putting in that work to get there faster.
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Because I don't want to just make this like a negative thing or like, oh, you're supposed to be delayed like no sometimes you're like literally you're so like it's not even that hard of a thing.
It's just like such a short like path or such a short journey, but you're just you're lazy.
Oh, yeah. So when I was bringing up the subject, I was in my mind.
I'm assuming that you're doing what you got to do. Okay. You know what I mean? Okay. Yeah.
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Because when I was I was sharing examples of like my personal experiences, yeah, and I make sure I do what I got to do.
Like I check myself. I asked others questions and I just make sure make sure all of my boxes are checked because you can delay your outcome that you want if you're not doing what you need to do to achieve that.
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So I want to make that clear. This is the assumption that you're doing you got to do.
So going back then to the assumption that you are doing what you got to do. I would just say a lot of times like we get so caught up on the destination.
That's true. We really do. You know, it's like, oh, I have this thing like and I want to get there.
Like I just want it to be there already. But it's like, you know, by the time that you get to that place, you're going to be such a different person.
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Like you're going to have a different mindset, you know, like you might even have like, you know, things are different like finances family, you know, like spiritually, you might even be very different than what you are right now.
You said what?
Oh, yeah. Yeah. And so I was going to say I just had a question because you have brought up laziness.
That's a really good lay we can go down because like,
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how does one really identify if they're not? How does one really spot if they're not doing?
So, like, there's laziness in the obvious sense, right? You're not doing anything.
Obviously, you're going to get nowhere. But then there's someone who's actually doing some stuff, but may not be doing enough.
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How does one just a question to the floor? How can one spot that?
How does one know if you're not doing enough?
I feel like that takes a lot of self reflection because let's just start off with the one at the bottom.
Laziness, just pure like you're purely lazy and you're not doing anything.
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I would just find that you're like constantly talking about like, well, I want to do this. I want to do that.
Oh, I have all these dreams. But you literally don't do anything like you don't put in any work.
You don't invest any money like you're not even you're over here like having the like this conversation like, oh, I want to do this.
I want to do that. But you're unhappy like you're unhappy with where you are. And that's your fault.
Like your life is your fault. Like you're unhappy because of you.
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Because the time that you have that's free where you can actually be doing something with yourself.
You're choosing to sit on the couch. You're choosing to, oh, like spend time with the homies when you could be like investing in yourself.
You're choosing to just, you know, not do anything like you're just choosing to stay on like Facebook all day.
Stay on social media all day. You're choosing to be on the game. Yeah, I'm calling out.
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You're choosing to be on the game all day and like not do anything with your life.
And then you're like, oh, like, you know, yours are going to go past and you're going to be upset.
You're going to be sad. But that's again, it's your fault. Like your life is your fault.
Like anything that happens like not everything that happens, obviously, because like everything, not everything, you know,
but like if you're unhappy with your life, like you have the power to change it. You have the power to do something about that.
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So but if you're being lazy, like nobody can help you if you can't help yourself, you know, and just this is just a side note.
Because one thing that I found was that in you being lazy, like people most likely aren't going to want to help you because they're like you can do it.
But you're just playing around. But when you actually start working towards things and like people start seeing that and you're like,
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this is the vision. This is the dream and you're working towards things like people are more willing to actually help you.
They're more willing to like give a lending hand because they see like, oh, this isn't just me like wasting my time like I'm investing in you.
And so like when you make it or like, you know, when you get to the goal that you have like I'm going to be proud.
First, I'm going to be proud of you. But then secondly, I'm going to be like, I am so happy.
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Like I have such a piece with helping you because like my help was not in vain.
But oftentimes like we can take advantage of people and they can literally feel like, dang, I helped you.
And like you didn't even help yourself. Like what was the point of that? You know what I mean?
No, you're good. That's that's that's truth right there. And there's even a saying, God helps those who help themselves.
So even God is like, if you're just not doing these, I mean, you know, God's going to make you equal opportunities anyway.
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But if you're not doing anything, we all have the, you know, the ability to do something.
You know, I mean, we have to there's a verse in the Bible thing I want to say.
Yes. And Deuteronomy, I'm a paraphrasing, but it's pretty much it was telling because, you know, Moses was on his way out.
I was going to die. And then but the Israelites were going over to the promised land and the whole theme of like the first maybe first 10 chapters or whatever.
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Like Deuteronomy was like, remember, pretty much remember God when you get everything that you can promise someone.
And there was a particular part where it was like, even when you get wealth, yeah, you could say, well, I got up and got that wealth.
I have to put in that work. And that's absolutely true. That's facts. Yeah.
But it also says true, but God gave you the power and the abilities to. Yeah.
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So that's that's that's like really good. I just want to touch on that for two seconds.
Like I can testify for myself, like I would say that I was very lazy, like and I can honestly say that, like I was a very lazy person.
Like I would be like, oh, I want to do this and I want to do that. But like I would never actually put in the time.
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And some like most times it was because I felt like, oh, like I didn't have time or or the other thing was that I was just like, oh, like, you know, God, I want to do this.
But I would never actually put in the work. And for some reason in my brain, because honestly, I think a lot of us just needs to change the way that our brains are wired.
We just need to change our minds and our thoughts, because at that time, like I was very much in the like, OK, God, I want to do this.
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But like never actually thinking like, oh, I need to be working like, oh, I need to be the one taking the steps.
Oh, man, I got to do it right. No, seriously, because it's like, oh, you know, I can do all things through Christ or like everything is possible with God.
And a lot of times like we think that we're going to get like to someplace on a miracle.
You know, we think that we're going to get to someplace like on a wonder on a sign.
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But it's just like, here is your sign. Like, go put in the work. Here's your sign.
Like, get off the couch, like throw away your game, counsel, counsel, counsel, counsel, throw it away, throw it away.
I don't know why I just feel like men like I just feel like, you know what, man, I'm going to just let you all know, like, I'm really rooting for you all.
Like, I know a lot of people are like men are trash and stuff, but like, I know that it's rough out here for you all.
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Like, life is not easy and you all just have a lot of responsibility and I can respect that.
And women don't come for me. Like, don't come for me because like, I understand that like women, we do a lot too.
And I get that. Like, I just really want to uplift men on this episode because I feel like there's so much more that needs to be.
I feel like there's so much more, so much potential that you all just be sleeping on and there's so much more that you all could be doing.
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So I just really want this to be like an episode where you all are encouraged because like, you know, we need we need you all.
Like, we need you all to go out and like put into the world whatever God put in you all.
Like, you know what I mean? And so, yeah, so I just I'm rooting for you all. I just want you all to know.
Like, yeah, I digress.
Can I ask you something? No.
Next time. Next time.
Do you have something against gamers? Gamers? Yeah.
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No, there's just like this. I mean, no, I don't. I don't have anything against gamers. Me? No, I don't.
I don't have anything. I think she was just saying.
I know. I know. She keeps saying, God, I'm like, yeah.
It's because one of the vices, you're getting convicted.
It's because it's one of the vices.
Like when it comes to men specifically, like, you know, y'all are distracted by different things that women are distracted by.
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Most women aren't sitting up there playing the game. Most women are on Instagram.
Let's be real. Most women are on social media. But for a guy that's like your social media is gaming.
Yeah. So, yeah. So that's why I was like gaming.
Black Ops 1, Black Ops 2, Black Ops 2.
Model Warfare 2. Model Warfare 2.
See the little things. So I'm not coming. If you play games, like, stop.
Yeah, she's talking about in the sense of like, you know, if that's because we all. Yeah.
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We all have. There's something. For example, I'll just use myself as an example.
When starting my journey, you know, you want to do something better. You want to do something more.
You know, try to elevate yourself. You got to look at what you currently deal with, what your current habits are.
And you kind of have to do some re-wiring. You got to reshape your mind.
You got to move some pieces and stuff like that.
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And so one of the things that I had to do was I had to kind of like not go out as much.
I was going out a lot. It was a time where especially like right after I graduated high school,
that summer after graduation, I was out.
Like I would work and then I would be out.
And I mean, I'm out till I have no choice but to come home. I was out.
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But when it came time to like, you know, really focus up and be on my thing, be on my business, you know, it's like, OK,
I'm not going to like just completely ghost my friends and not be friends with them no more.
But I got to prioritize pretty much what she's ultimately getting at.
And so quiet, you know what I'm saying, you know what I'm saying. It's just not getting the message.
But I had to prioritize. Like I'm obviously going to stay in touch with y'all.
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I'm going to keep getting with y'all, y'all are family at this point.
And I still am in touch with them to this day. It's been several years since we graduated.
But I got to build something up for myself.
And so, you know, sometimes what you really love and what really kind of, you know, makes you feel good,
though it may be good, can also you can love it a little bit too much and it becomes a distraction.
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And so that's what she's getting at the video games.
I feel you Ricky. I just downloaded Spider-Man 2 last night.
No, it comes with my dog.
I pre-ordered it and it was on. She's like, video games? I don't even play any of them.
Thank you for putting that in.
No, but it's crazy. Like we buy these new games, right? And we intend to play them.
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But because like the way how we are now is like we're more into building ourselves now.
It's like we don't we don't even touch them for like months after it comes out.
I bought a PS5 for my past birthday and I played it.
I had a week off of work, so I had a bunch of time outside of like exercise and stuff like that.
And I was like, OK, I'm just going to just straight stress free. I didn't work on music.
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I didn't work on podcasts and films, no nothing business related.
When bought me a PS5, the price finally went back down to where it needed to be.
And I was like, bad, PS5 for $4.49. I'm getting it.
No way.
Copped the Call of Duty game, played it for about a week.
It's been a couple of months since. And now that the Spider-Man game is coming out.
You know, I'm going to play it.
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But that thing just sits there and collects dust because I'm more focused on, you know, everything else.
And yeah, but back to what Mo was saying, what you were saying about video games.
I'm just kidding. We got to defend the brethren.
I know.
But like, I understand. Like there is a reason why I asked about like, OK, how do you how can you spot whether or not you're actually doing enough?
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You can, if you're not careful, be in the way of your own self.
So it's like for me to because, you know, if you know me, if you check out my music or just interviews or just check out the podcast, you might hear me say at times,
I don't want 10, 20, 30 years to go by.
And I look back at these moments and be like, dang, I didn't do enough because I'm not going to be able to really forgive myself.
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I'll figure out a way to live with it.
But I'm not really going to look at myself the same if I have those kind of thoughts 10, 20, 30 years from now.
So one of the ways I look at, you know, I ask myself, OK, am I doing enough?
It's like I just I write out or mentally I write out, OK, all of these things.
These boxes need to be checked. How am I checking those boxes lately?
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You know what I'm saying? If, you know, for example, I want to make it in music.
OK, what am I doing creatively first? If you music got to be good, what am I doing creatively first to give myself a fighting chance?
OK, am I standing out? Is my production standing out? Is the bar standing out?
Is the quality standing out? What are we talking about here? How's the music videos looking?
Are we just doing this on the camera in the music videos or are we are we going a little bit more above and beyond?
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In and out, in and out.
OK, now transition. You know, whip cuts and stuff like that.
What are we doing? So that constant self reflection, not just the music, but in every aspect of the work part of it.
And then my character, my relationship with God, my physical health.
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What am I doing to keep my to get myself to where I really want?
And then I won't stop there. I'll ask others. I asked you one time.
I said, OK, Mo, as a as an artist, because she's heard the album that's currently at the time of a shooting.
This is probably out when this comes out. But at the time of a shooting, this is not released.
But she heard it. We had like a little listening session amongst the team and stuff like that.
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And I asked her, I said, OK, be one thousand percent right and just fair. Just be one thousand percent honest.
You can tell me I'm hot garbage. I want to be told I'm hot garbage.
I can take it. I'm looking for someone to tell me I'm hot garbage and tell me why.
And then I'm like, Kate, how am I as an artist?
And then she gave me her honest, fair breakdown. I was like dog water.
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She's like trash. But she gave me an honest, like realistic, critical breakdown.
And I was like, that's right. That's fair.
Like I gave one of myself before I asked her.
And some of the things that she was saying was some of the things I noticed about myself.
And then I asked Ryan, who A&R's.
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And he was no one knew I gave an assessment to myself.
I'm just seeing what everyone else got to say.
And they was hitting on some of the same things. I was like, OK, there's some work that needs to be done in these areas.
If I obviously I caught it. But if others are catching it as well, if others would like to see improvements here as well.
OK, cool. I know what we got to focus on and stuff like that.
So I think it's constantly taking yourself. You know, there are great things take time.
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But, you know, if you're doing what you got to do and you know, you following God and you're doing what you got to do is going to come in its time.
It's not going to come. We I heard someone say we're in a rush, not God.
Oh, that hurt my soul. And in a sense, I was like, I was like, you right. And I'm mad that you write.
I'm upset and frustrated that you told me the truth. How dare you?
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Because it's like, oh, no, for real. I find myself wanting it because it matters.
I find myself wanting it so bad. But God is there.
So like I'm saying, like, you know, you're going to get it if God told you it's yours.
Yeah, what's yours is yours. That's a whole episode. We're not going to get into it.
We'll get to it in another episode. Yeah. Maybe the next few days. Maybe I got to write that down somewhere.
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But, um, yeah, like it was yours. You won't get to it. And but there's a process.
And I find because we talk about experiences as they're happening, I find that process.
There's only at least with me, there's only there has only been a certain part of the process that I've been able to understand.
And there's always been enough to keep me going. But then there's other aspects of the world.
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It's like, I got questions here. I don't really get this. Is this going to work? Is this going to happen?
Yeah, they know that type of thing. But then, like, you know, God's not going to reveal everything to you.
Like, you know, because then, you know, maybe it's just not for you to know.
You got to put in your work and you'll understand more as you go along.
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But the late satisfaction by the time by the time it comes for me, I just imagine I'm going to be a big old baby.
Yeah. And I'm going to hate that. I'm going to find me a bathroom to run into.
If I feel it, if I feel it's coming, you're going to see me sprint like just an unwarranted sprint.
But I just imagine that's going to be me because I'm thinking about all of the years that is going into this stuff that has happened,
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that's impacted that has nothing that you would think has nothing to do with this.
So a bit of a story that I can tell about not this episode. You know, I realize that I don't like that it's called the late satisfaction.
Why? Like, because I mean, I just don't like it. What do you feel like it's a better because I'm like, that's a good question.
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I'm not sure. But it's like because we call it delayed.
Like, I feel like just even saying delayed satisfaction, like it almost seems like, like, you know what I mean?
I think I have this negative connotation. But that's really that's really us.
Because it's not delayed, though, because what you literally just feel like what you is delayed to us.
OK, in our minds, it's not delayed to God because you're finding the Bible.
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I was like, what do we call it? Delight, delight, delight, delight satisfaction, delayed, delayed in our minds.
Because, like, you know, I mean, just growing up in church, I've heard a lot of people say over and over again, like our timing is in God's timing.
And I was just, you know, yeah, it's like you don't talk to me. You're frustrated because you know it's right.
Yeah. You know what I mean? You know, it's going against something on the inside of you.
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Yeah. And it's delayed to us because I mean, if you ask anyone, hey, picture your highest achievement or whatever it is, whatever it is that you're going for and that you truly want.
You want it in a year or you want it in 12 years?
Everyone's going to be saying, let me get that joint in the year. We're trying to get to the top now.
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But realistically speaking, there's things that has to happen that goes into it that God orchestrates.
And so it feels delayed to us. But you're reading the Bible and not at a point in time.
You're meant to get it at this particular time. Yeah.
You tried to rush it. You still came at the time that it was supposed to come.
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Right. And I want to add to that. I just like two things, two things, two things.
So first thing is whoever threw that prize is kidding. It has nothing to do with anything.
The first thing was just like all that I keep thinking of is just like a seed, you know, and when you plant a seed in the ground, like it doesn't just become a tree overnight.
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It's got to be dope, not going to lie, but it doesn't. It doesn't just become a tree overnight. And so this is just like encouragement because obviously when we have a goal, you know, when we're growing and things like that,
there's like a whole process. I literally want to challenge you all to Google how does the seed grow?
Because you'll learn that it starts off as a seed and then there's this breaking that needs to happen so that the seed comes out of its shell and then it takes roots.
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And then like and it's just all this is happening like, you know, with no one seeing. Underground. It's all happening underground.
And then eventually like, you know, it comes up, but it's not even a full tree yet. It's just like this little just this little stem, this little sprout that you see, you know, and eventually like then it becomes this like big thing.
And so like when it comes to delayed satisfaction, like I just want to give encouragement to think of it as that. Just be like we're, you know, we're in process, we're growing.
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And then also just like what we were saying, like just think about the things that you need because what does what does the seed need? It needs water. It needs sunlight. You know what I mean?
Like it needs someone to talk to it and it's like, hey, like you're beautiful and you're great. And it needs time. It really needs time.
Like a seed cannot buy its time to like, okay, let's hurry up. Let's grow faster. Like that's not how it works.
You just got it. The seed literally has to go through whatever the earth is going through. You know what I mean?
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And so it's like we have to go through whatever life is like bringing us, you know, but all those things, all those different things, like just take them and just all the different trials.
Like they are literally tools and instruments that are helping us to grow in our character, you know, because you don't want to end up getting somewhere in your character's trash.
I'm like because what got you there, you know, ain't going to keep you there because talent only goes so far. You know what I mean?
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But it's like character that keeps you there. It's character that helps you stay and that gets you in rooms that you never thought you could even be in.
And then the other thing that I was thinking of, excuse me, as well, I forgot.
So yeah, yeah. And it's actually, he says something dope about like a seed can't be planted and then just sprouting become a tree overnight.
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Yeah. And the thought that came to mind was like, man, if life was like that, everybody would be doing it. Yeah.
Like everybody would be going for success or whatever it is I'm going for, my version of success come that quick.
Everyone's going for it. There's no challenges. There's no character building. There's no lessons learned.
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But the fact that it takes that kind of time and that kind of time, that kind of nurturing and all that kind of stuff.
I find in my journey towards my version of the top that it provides that character build is 1000 percent been the best part.
One thousand percent. And then you learn more about yourself along the way. Yeah.
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And not only that, I feel like it just makes you more proud of yourself because I feel like if at the end of the day, like you have the time, everyone's like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
It's like, but how do you like how do you feel about you? Because you sleep with you at night. You know what I mean?
Like you look at you every day, you with yourself. So it's like at the end of the day, like, you know, you had someone else's version of like satisfaction.
And they're like, dang, like I'm so unhappy. It's like, we don't want that for you. That's trash. That's dog water.
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So yeah. Oh, and then I remember the other thing that I was going to say. So the other thing that I was going to say was, oh, the other thing I was going to say is like, I just like I just felt led to just talk about restoration really quickly.
Because I do feel like a lot of times like, you know, maybe you did do like the get rich quick scheme and things like that.
And things didn't pan out for you, you know, or maybe like you started and you were like, this is taking too long.
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So you wait. And like, I just really want to encourage you like, just let you know about is a restore like God restores.
And like, I really do believe that when we come to God with this is to your heart and we really repent and we're like, OK, God, like, you know, I tried in my way.
I was over here doing all this like and it just did not work out. So like, I'm ready to do it your way.
God, like one, like he will build your character, you know, like he will definitely like your character has to build, you know, like he's going to bring the right people into your life, the right people for you that you need to be partnering with.
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And then the other thing too is like, he's going to like the way that it works is like God literally, he's going to like put you back to where you would have been.
You know what I mean? God is a redeemer of time. Like, he's not just going to be like, OK, like you're ready for it now.
Like, it's going to take you like 40 more years to get there. Like, I really believe that he's so gracious and he's so merciful that he's like, you literally wasted two years.
But when I get you there, it's like those two years like you didn't even they aren't even going to be wasted because he's going to like accelerate it, you know.
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And so I just want to encourage somebody like if you were like working towards something and you just got tired of like that delayed satisfaction, you settled like.
Don't settle like don't settle anymore. Don't continue to let settling be a part of your life.
Be like, you know, flowing into all these other areas because they are better than nothing.
I'm like, you all are better than that. Like, you all deserve the best.
OK, like literally the best. And so it's like so important that you all see that you all see that in yourselves.
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So, yeah, so I just want to encourage anybody like if you really like if you just quit and you were like, I'm out of the race, like get back in the race.
Literally, it might not look the same, but, you know, like he got for just like wisdom for counsel, you know, and just for like strategy and planning, you know, and then just go after it like whatever it is because he does redeem.
Like he does it all the time. You know, he did it with me as well.
And so, yeah, I just want to testify and just say like, you all got this like delayed satisfaction is so worth it.
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It's so worth it because you're going to get to the top and you're going to be like you're going to look back and be like, wow, like I'm so grateful that all that stuff happened because like I wouldn't be who I am.
By the time I get there. I think that's what it comes back down to like, you know, it's about our character because it's like if we get it right then right there like there's probably so many things that would cause us to mess up the good thing that we get like the good accomplishment like whatever it is the accolades whatever whatever.
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But yeah, but then when it's like we have that time to develop our character, you know, when we get there like you know we we aren't like I said we aren't the same people.
And it's like I just like that's what God wants for us at the end of the day. He's like, you know, what's your character like because your talent is great like he gifted that to you.
But you know, like if your character is trash, it's like none of that is worth it. Like it's not even going to be as good because then you're just going to ruin it like you're literally going to mess yourself up.
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So don't do that. Don't do that. I digress.
I don't know.
Dropping a lot of jibs.
Okay.
I rehearsed.
Okay, literally.
Stop.
This is yours.
Get out of here.
But now I think that's a good note to end on.
That's a good note to end on something like this like, you know, I believe we can always add to it because the journey is ongoing.
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It is.
It is.
But if I had any closing remarks, I mean, I will say great things take time.
Yeah.
And you know, just use that time that you're building and growing. Use that time just wisely to know yourself, get to know yourself, get to know God more.
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And then just figure out ways to just better improve all around.
I mean, you know, don't want to don't put no sort of limitations or cap on yourself.
Anything you you just never know.
I'm saying the things that you may be overlooking could end up being a thing that could enhance whatever it is that you're trying to build on.
But ladies and gentlemen, that's been a whole nother episode of Unrehearsed in season two form.
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