38: How to Quiet Your Inner Critic: Stop Negative Self-Talk and Build Real Confidence

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If you’ve ever walked out of a high-stakes meeting and immediately started criticizing yourself. If you’ve ever told yourself, “I should’ve done better,” or “What’s wrong with me?” If your mind spirals with “shoulds” and “not enoughs” after even the smallest misstep.

You are not alone. I used to live there too.

In this deeply personal and practical episode, I walk you through one of the biggest silent confidence killers: the inner critic. You’ll learn why this harsh voice shows up, where it really comes from (spoiler alert: it’s not actually your fault), and—most importantly—how to change it for good.

I’ll share the two stories that opened my eyes to how I was unconsciously beating myself up every day and I’ll guide you step-by-step through the exact 3P framework that helped me go from being my own worst critic to becoming my most empowering inner coach.

You’ll walk away with:

• A powerful new understanding of how your brain and nervous system respond to self-criticism
• Real-life examples you’ll likely see in your own daily patterns
• The 3 steps to shift from self-judgment to self-compassion—and why that’s not soft, it’s strong
• What to say to yourself instead (with kindness and power)
• How to build this new way of being into a sustainable practice

Because the truth is—beating yourself up doesn’t motivate you. It depletes you.

And when you replace that harsh inner voice with a kind, strong, and encouraging one… you don’t just feel better. You become better. Freer. Calmer. More confident.

If you’re ready to stop spiraling in shame and start showing up with unshakable confidence—this episode is for you.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to lead powerfully and live authentically by building unshakable confidence.

• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your Unshakable Confidence.
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