39: Why You Can’t Think Your Way to Calm: Heal Triggers Through Nervous System Regulation

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Have you ever felt calm one moment and anxious the next—without knowing why? Or found yourself snapping at someone you care about… even though your brain was saying “it’s not a big deal”?  Have you ever known you’re safe, but your body feels like you’re being chased by a tiger?

That used to be me—all the time.

In this episode, I’m sharing the #1 thing that took my healing, growth, and confidence to the next level: understanding the nervous system.

You’ll hear the two emotional moments in a past relationship that helped me realize: mindset work alone wasn’t enough. I had to go deeper—to the wiring behind the walls. What I learned changed everything.

In this foundational episode, I’ll teach you:

• What your nervous system actually is—and why it runs your thoughts, emotions, and behavior
• The three main states of your nervous system—and how to tell which one you’re in
• Why you keep going into overdrive (or shutdown) even when you know better
• How old emotional wounds and childhood experiences silently shape your triggers
• What “ventral vagal” is and why it’s the home of clarity, confidence, and calm
• The difference between coping and regulating—and why most of us were never taught the latter
• How to start observing your own nervous system so you can shift from autopilot to intention

I use real stories from my own life—moments of panic, shutdown, and anger that I didn’t understand at the time—to show how our past lives in our bodies… and how we can begin to heal.

If you’re a high-achieving woman constantly in motion, stuck in survival mode, or just exhausted trying to keep it all together—this episode is for you.

Because when you learn how to regulate your nervous system, you reclaim your clarity. You access your power. And you start leading and living from a place of calm, not chaos.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to lead powerfully and live authentically by building unshakable confidence.

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