59: Stop Asking “What’s Wrong with Me”: Understanding Healthy vs. Unhealthy Shame

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For years, I carried an invisible weight — one that whispered, “What’s wrong with me?”

When I froze in meetings, when I couldn’t leave a painful marriage, when I burned out and couldn’t make myself care anymore… I thought I was broken.

What I didn’t realize was that what I was experiencing wasn’t weakness — it was shame. And shame is one of the biggest barriers to healing and growth.

In this episode, I share how unhealthy shame quietly drives perfectionism, people-pleasing, and burnout — and how you can begin releasing it through awareness, nervous system regulation, and safe connection.

You’ll learn:

• The key difference between healthy and unhealthy shame
• Why shame lives in the body, not the mind
• A four-step process to release shame and reconnect with your worth
• How to move from self-attack to self-compassion

If you’ve ever asked, “What’s wrong with me?” — this episode will remind you: nothing is wrong with you. You are not broken. You are enough.

💬 If this resonates, share it with a friend who’s been carrying shame silently — and let’s start healing together.

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