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SPEAKER_00 (00:02):
Letting go, letting
go of who you've strive strive
to become, what you've decidedto create, whether it be life,
work schedule, a business, alife you've created, letting it
go for something new, somethingbetter.
That's the topic of today'sconversation.
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Welcome to Unshakable Brain,your guide to an unshakable
brain.
I'm your host, Dr.
Kylie, and my mission is simpleto help you grow a brain that's
stronger, sharper, andunshakable in every part of your
life.
Each week we explore thescience, stories, and strategies
to make that happen.
This episode is brought to youby Dr.
Rewire's brain DNA test.
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Find out more atunshakablebrain.ai.
All right, let's dive in.
So I want to welcome today SandyWesson.
We got started up talking aboutletting things go, letting our
businesses go.
And it's like, wait, we're inthe exact same boat.
This life that we created, wherewe've let it go this year for
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something new, somethingdifferent, and something better.
So today's topic is lettingthings go.
Welcome aboard, Sandy.
Thank you so much, Kylie.
And congratulations on your newbook.
That's exciting.
The unshakable brain book is nowout on Amazon.
If you haven't had a chance togo grab it, we have the
unshakable brain book and theunshakable brain podcast.
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Whoo, that's a mouthful.
All right, Sandy, walk us backthrough your days as a nurse.
So walk us through your timelineof letting things go in life.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (01:44):
And and I'd say a
bigger piece of this is trusting
what we are excited to dobecause that's not always easy
when where we've been, you know,we know that part.
So I am a registered nurse.
I have when in my early career,I worked in the intensive care
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unit for many years.
Then I, you know, for a whileleft the hospital work and
worked in software, working withhospitals around the country,
then came back, eventuallyhospice and palliative care.
So I've done a lot in clinicalnursing.
That's what I knew and I loved.
And then letting go, lifechanges.
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I moved.
My husband had a severe stroke,passed away.
And it was like, okay, what'snext?
And I was guided to go back toschool, learn about nutrition
and those next steps.
And I was gonna say back toschool.
SPEAKER_00 (02:47):
It wasn't
traditional school, though.
No, no, it was morecertifications.
SPEAKER_01 (02:53):
Yeah, no, it was
through the nutritional therapy
association, through the NTA andlearning a functional
nutritional therapy practitioneris the title.
But learning all the steps ofdigestion, how it affects the
entire body if one piece ofdigestion is off.
So, what happens to the brain?
What happens to you know theadrenals?
What happens to different partsof the body when our digestion
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isn't working?
That's the importance of thegut-brain connection.
And and then I was guided tolearn more about detoxification
and how important it was to getthe toxins out of the brain and
the body.
And then I was guided to learnneurofeedback.
So it like each piece, I alongthe way, it's like, what?
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What is this about?
You know, it's like, okay, andthen it's like when I get
through that piece and I learnthat, and then I'm guided to
study the next piece and I learnthat, and then study the next
piece, and then suddenly I couldlook back and say, Oh, this all
makes sense.
This is all part of the whole,part of the big picture, looking
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at the brain, and we'll talkquickly about that since you
know that was their originalpurpose, and then talk about the
letting go.
But really, the importance ofrecognizing that when we're
talking about the brain, whenwe're talking about the body,
our overall health, you know, Ilook at uh thoughts, traumas,
and toxins.
What's our stress level?
What are we constantly thinkingabout?
What are we thoughts, traumas,and what toxins, toxins, so
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traumas can be emotionaltraumas, can be physical
traumas, such as concussions.
When we're looking at the brain,toxins, herbicides, pesticides,
glyphosate, heavy metals, mold,you know, many of those pieces
that affect the brain.
But, you know, particularly in aconcussion, even if our gut is
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perfect, which rarely is thatthe case for most people, we've
got infections or parasites orwhatever going on.
But even if our gut's doingreally well, and then we have a
concussion, so now we've got ablow to the brain, a shock to
the brain, that sends that shockdown to the gut via the vagus
nerve.
And so now our gut is inflamed,and now that stays inflamed,
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which keeps the brain inflamed.
So it keeps the brain has aharder time healing when we are
dealing with those issues.
So that's a big piece of when Iwas doing the clinical work,
which we'll talk about theletting go piece of that in a
moment.
But but that was a big piecewhenever someone would
communicate with me or contactme regarding a concussion is
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first to start with the gutbecause we have to get the gut
to calm down so the brain canlet go, because the brain can
heal.
Because once they're connected,trauma to one is trauma to the
other, and it keeps this cyclegoing.
So looking at that piece isreally huge.
And I mean, our intestinal tracthas as many neurons as spinal
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cords.
So the the the I mean, that'sone of the reasons they've often
referred to the gut as thesecond brain.
So there's a huge, huge, hugeconnection.
SPEAKER_00 (06:10):
We could do an
entire episode on that one.
SPEAKER_01 (06:12):
I know between the
gut and the brain.
And I used to work in that, youknow, pretty significantly.
And then that's where theneurofeedback came in because
eventually we may have to redosome training in the brain after
everything else is addressed.
Then the neurofeedback for somepeople, for many people, can be
helpful.
SPEAKER_00 (06:30):
But so that's so you
focus on trauma, whether it be
physical, emotional, likeconcussions, physical trauma,
emotional trauma, relationships,like I don't want to say the
N-word, but there's a lot morenarcissists out there now than
there ever have been, I feellike.
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And that is trauma, relationshiptrauma.
Yeah, that's a huge trauma.
So that's just an example,right?
SPEAKER_01 (06:57):
There can be many
just an example, but those are
just pieces when we're thinkingabout the you know, that
portion, the gut, the brain,those all have to be looked at.
And the emotional component,because the emotional component
is bigger than we understand.
That the emotional, you know,thoughts, traumas, toxins, so
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the thoughts, the stress fromthose emotional components, you
know, is our brain constantlyjust running with fear and
negative emotions that too canhave an impact.
And then what is that, how doesthat affect the gut?
Or if our gut is not workingwell, if we're not absorbing
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nutrients or we've got anovergrowth of parasites, then
those parasites create their ownneurotransmitters.
So they affect the way we think.
Unbeknownst to most of us.
So there's again, we're allwe're all connected.
It's we're connected in so manyways that all those pieces
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doesn't mean we all willexperience all of those pieces,
but it is something definitelyto be looked at in and realizing
that that is a big part of ourhealth.
SPEAKER_00 (08:18):
Right.
And as we shift back to thewhole letting go concept,
letting go, the trauma, thetoxins, the thoughts like that
is all part of our ability tolet go and create something new.
Yes.
So as we move into thisconversation, even more so, can
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you give us like one action stepto start releasing some trauma
that will allow us to let go andmove forward?
SPEAKER_01 (08:49):
So one of the things
that has been very helpful for
me is when there's a piece thatkeeps coming up for me again and
again and again, that you know,maybe it was in a relationship
and this kept happening, andthis kept happening, and this
kept happening.
You know, it's like, okay,what's that really about?
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That only has the meaning that Igive it.
The experience in itself has nomeaning.
It's my story that gives itmeaning.
So it's been useful for me whenI could start to understand how
much my story is creating, andI'm creating the story.
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So when I can start to look atthe experience, the person,
whatever that experience is,what is it here for in my life?
What am I learning from thatexperience?
So that I can begin to let go ofits grip on me and instead step
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back, even if it's just, youknow, maybe I'm not ready to go
into love and compassion and allthat, but if I can step back and
say, okay, where's this takingme?
What's this for in my life?
What's the purpose?
And if I can take that to aplace of neutrality, if I can at
least become neutral about it,then that allows me to not let
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it have such a stronghold.
unknown (10:33):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (10:35):
You're reshaping the
perception of the trauma.
Correct.
It doesn't mean that you havesomething story about it.
Right.
unknown (10:45):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (10:46):
I've seen this done
with Dr.
Rewire's processes.
He you might have something likeDr.
Rewire's processes, you mighthave something similar, but my
wasn't went to an event with himin in May of 25.
And he has a step-by-stepprocess where you identify the
event, and then you have to gothrough different angles of
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looking at that event, and youcome out with how that event was
so good for you.
Right.
So it's very similar, is takingthis concept of trauma, and I
want to say big T, little Tdoesn't matter, you all have it,
we all have it.
Yep.
And rewiring the perception ofthe event for it to be
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beneficial to you.
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (11:34):
Yes.
Like why is why did this personshow up in my life right now?
You know, what what what did Ilearn out of it?
Not just what were the traumas,but what did I learn?
And so, yeah, so that we canchange our perception of it,
change the story.
So the story doesn't have us.
SPEAKER_00 (11:55):
We have the
opportunities that grew from
that.
And once you're allowed, onceyou've changed that story,
you're able to let go.
Right.
And move into this next thing.
SPEAKER_01 (12:06):
And it may come back
later.
It may come back again.
That okay, now can I look atthis again?
And do I need to look at it in adifferent way?
You know, or is there yetanother piece that I didn't
recognize was a teaching for me?
So it's, you know, I find thatfor myself, sometimes it's not
just one and done, you know,like like we hope it will be.
SPEAKER_00 (12:30):
Wish, yeah.
But how easy it would be if itcould just be one and done.
Yeah, but sometimes it's justlayers.
SPEAKER_01 (12:36):
And we just, you
know, have to be okay with that,
recognize it, and say, allright, there it is again.
Now what?
What what's what do I how how amI or why am I looking at this
again?
Is there more for me to learn,or was I not ready to completely
let go of what was there andrewire that experience?
SPEAKER_00 (12:56):
So yeah, it's just
it's those pieces of letting go.
There's trauma.
What about toxins?
SPEAKER_01 (13:03):
So toxins when I
think about letting go, then I
might have to let go of myaddiction to that toxic
relationship.
SPEAKER_00 (13:17):
I always think
toxins as like I know health.
You're you're taking a differentangle, like it.
Okay.
SPEAKER_01 (13:24):
No, I was thinking
first I was gonna go to like the
the herbicides or the pesticidesand changing our eating and the
toxins and the environment andpaying more attention to that.
It's like, but that's kind ofthe stuff we know about.
Well, many of us, not everybody,some of your listeners may
learn, but yeah, so we do haveto look at what we are eating
and drinking and you know what'sthe environment that we live in.
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Do we choose to not put some ofthe herbicides and pesticides
and things in our environment,in our yard, in our garden,
whatever?
But then it is important to alsolook at the toxins in other
aspects of our life.
And that might be a toxicrelationship and recognizing
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that we can become addicted tobecause we've experienced over
and over and over thatexperience.
Maybe it's somebody who they'renot out and out cruel, they're
not beating us, but maybe it'sthey're they're here to show us
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that we feel unworthy or we arenot, we don't feel like we're
good enough, or you know, butokay, so yeah, all right, you're
pushing my button on that again.
You know, I grew up that way.
Okay, you're pushing my button.
But at some point we are sonormalized to that feeling.
But then we have to start wakingup and release that toxic
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relationship, whether that's youknow, just in friends or whether
that's in, you know, yourpartner, someone we're living
with.
SPEAKER_00 (15:11):
I have a thing like
business relationships.
Oh, yeah, business relationshipsare.
I read a book early on in rightout of chiropractic school
called The Gabriel Method.
And it was about a man who waslike 400 pounds, and he tried
every method under the sun tolose weight, including talking
to Dr.
Atkins himself with the Atkinsdiet, and he learned that there
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was a toxic relationship in hisbusiness environment, and his
body was putting on literalprotection.
Yes.
And when that man was no longerworking in the environment, he
was able to lose the protection.
And that shifted my concept, myidea of overweight, obesity,
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weight loss in general.
Like I said this to one patientearly on in practice, where I
said, you know, I read thisbook, it was all about how our
body can hang on to fat, hang onto whatever you want to call it,
and it's a physical protection.
And her immediate response was,Are you telling me I'm not gonna
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lose weight until my husbanddies?
And I'm like, I'm not tellingyou anything, and I don't want
to get into that.
I'm just saying that this is apossibility.
So I I often think that not justtoxins relationships, but toxic
in with any relationship andrelationship.
And is that why your body iscarrying excess or is it not
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it's not excess to your body,it's a protection, physical
protection to your body?
SPEAKER_01 (16:49):
Yeah.
It's you know, just speaking ofweight loss, it's not just
necessarily the letting gopiece, but it is common for
women, more more often it's beenwomen, but people who have been
sexually abused to carry a lotof extra weight.
It's it's protection.
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If I look this way, no one willwant to touch me, no one will
want that part of me.
So that's a piece of weight.
And then from just physicaltoxin perspective, toxins, our
body is our body tries very hardto take care of us.
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And so many times if we areconsuming or breathing in, we're
in a lot of toxins, then toxinsare stored in the adipose
tissue.
So many times people put onweight that have extra fat, so
the toxins can be stored thererather than going to our organs.
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It's one of the reasons whenpeople have very rapid weight
loss, there can be symptomsbecause now suddenly all these
toxins are being released.
People who have bariatricsurgeries sometimes will lose
weight so fast that then theyend up losing their gallbladder.
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And so there is a connection tothat very rapid weight loss with
losing toxins very quickly.
So in I know I'm kind of goingaround and around and around
spiraling here, but you know,whether it's relationships,
whether it's abuse, whetherit's, you know, toxins in our
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environment and what we'reconsuming, our bodies are trying
to tell us something.
SPEAKER_00 (18:47):
Yeah, let's move
over to thoughts, trauma,
toxins, and thoughts, and howsome we can, you know, help to
not just identify, but to rewirethese things to become an
unshakable brain.
And also part of that journey isto let what no longer serves us
go.
Absolutely.
SPEAKER_01 (19:06):
Thoughts.
Thoughts.
So again, when we are havingrepetitive thoughts, then why is
that?
What is that about?
I'm gonna get off track just alittle bit here from this point,
but it's it's still somewhat ontrack.
Let me let me make the story.
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Part of my letting go is I wasguided to let go of my clinical
practice and help people from aspiritual perspective.
Because I have been gifted with,you know, for many years, you
know, with clear audience,clairvoyance, clear sentience.
So I can hear the other side, Ican feel people around me, and I
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have a gift of knowingness aswell.
So as we are moving into thistime, which is so chaotic for so
many people, so much, sodifficult.
2025 has been a year.
Yes, I've been guided, and thisis part of my letting go,
letting go of what I've knownand helped people with
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clinically, but moving into atime where helping people
communicate with the other side,and how that has been healing,
because many times, and thiscomes back to toxic
relationships.
I, in addition to doing, youknow, the clinical work I was
doing, I have a massage tableover here and a healing table.
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So I'm gonna do energy healingon people.
Many times when I had someone onthe table and I was working on
them, I would feel a presence.
And, you know, in one case withthis one woman, I just said,
okay, there's somebody elsethat's here that I think wants
to talk to you, but it's a veryangry energy.
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Is there anyone from your pastthat you know is no longer with
us, it's crossed over?
Is there anyone that maybethere's some unfinished business
with?
And she goes, Well, it's eithermy dad or my brother.
Okay, so I checked it out andit's dad, and I was able to
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facilitate a communicationbetween the two because I could
hear him and and allow those I'msorry, because now on the other
side, as a soul, they go on andthey, you know, they have to
look at what they've done andtry to understand it.
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And it was a very healingconversation for both parties.
So part of letting go of thetraumas that this woman
experienced in her life, and nowhaving that understanding of
what was going on for her deathand his apologies, her
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acceptance of that.
So there's there's many waysthen, because that helped heal
the trauma on both sides forboth the dad who you know who
said or did things that weren'tin his highest or her highest
good, but for her to be able tounderstand him from a different
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perspective also.
SPEAKER_00 (22:28):
Yeah.
So as I've let my own clinicalpractice go and my own business
consultation services go, andI've been transitioning into
this new world of affiliatemarketing, like it excites me,
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it terrifies me, it all of thethings, and that's where our the
like the control of our thoughtscome into play.
I could let fear run over merampant.
I can let all the excuses, allthe reasons why I should just
keep doing what I've been doing,but I've seen the the transition
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in the economy post-AI andthings where what used to work
doesn't work anymore.
So if I were to continue in thatspace, then it's just gonna be
more a heartache.
But it's that journey of lettingof being willing to let it go.
Like I've let my entire team go.
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Great friends that in someinstances had some toxic
moments.
And I've also learned that Idon't want a team moving
forward.
I want to be able to dosomething that I can do more as
a mom and just on like the siderather than the main, a main
business.
So I've been in in very much amindset of control my thoughts,
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control what goes in my head,control what I'm thinking about
this transition and and tryingto get the fear out the door, or
just like realizing that fear isgonna come along with me because
it's gonna be there and I'm justgonna go do it anyways.
And not I've talked a lot on thepodcast about how my dopamine
levels go up and then they crashand they go up and they crash,
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and I'm I'm nervous, my nervoussystem is shot and I'm tired
from it.
And I need something that's morelike this with the steady
dopamine release, but at thesame time, that's new to my
body, that's new to my nervoussystem, and it's new to my
thought processes.
So it's just all new all around.
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And when we reach back in ayear, the end of 2026, when I
look back and I'm like, okay, Idid it.
I let things go.
I let it go, and there'ssomething new, and it's better,
and it's even more better than Icould imagine.
Like those are the kind ofthings that we have to portray
in our heads because otherwisenegativity will will set in and
the fear will set in and make usnumb.
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So as we talk about lettingthings go to become an
unshakable brain and to buildthat life that we're truly that
not just not that my life washorrible beforehand.
It's just I'm in a new era.
You know, I don't have anotherthing I'm letting go is like I'm
not having another baby.
My littlest is two.
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So it's letting that infantstage go and realizing it's not
coming back again.
Like there's there's stages inlife that we go through and we
get to be who we get to be ineach stage, and that can shift.
And I think what I've beenlearning from it most recently
is allowing that shift andstepping into the newness of
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letting the oldness go.
SPEAKER_01 (25:47):
Thanks, Kylie, for
sharing that.
Because when you were talkingabout the fear and that, you
know, either you have to dealwith it or it comes alongside,
or I have to I wrote this downbecause again, I'm clear
audience, so I hear stuff.
And so at one point, I was kindof looking at a situation that
started bringing up some anxietyabout all these shifts for
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myself.
And I wrote this down because itwas so meaningful.
And it said, staying in feardoesn't allow miracles to
happen.
And then I turned on some music.
And I love it when there'sconfirmations that come through.
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Because I turned on some musicand obviously it was mid-song.
And the words that were thatcame forth at that point were
miracles can happen when weallow it.
So I've just heard staying infear doesn't allow miracles to
happen.
And then this music comes onthat says, miracles can happen
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when we allow it.
And it is now taped to mymonitor so that every day when I
start going, okay, really am Idoing the right thing?
It's like, you know, it's like,okay, miracles can happen when
we allow it.
Get out of the fear.
SPEAKER_00 (27:12):
Yeah.
That's super cool.
I know I've experienced yourjourney through you the last
couple of years as as we'vetalked and connected.
And I think a lot of timespeople will say, Well, it's easy
for you to say when you havemoney.
But the reality is, is like wedo it anyways.
SPEAKER_01 (27:33):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (27:33):
Even when we're in
the red, even when we're dealing
with ugly partnerships justbehind the scenes, even if we
have lawyers coming at us, likewe're doing it anyways.
We're just not sharing the costof what's alongside of us.
And I know you've experiencedsome negativity and some harsh
partnerships.
I've experienced some harshnessthis the last year or two as
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well.
And I think that's just part ofit.
It's part of the journey ofbeing coming more resilient, but
also one of the reasons why I'mlike, I'm letting all this go is
because I don't want what I usedto have.
SPEAKER_01 (28:10):
And even in the
partnership and letting that go,
because it was a very difficultsituation.
Looking back at that, I'm I wasable to realize a bit ago, you
know, that it had to happen thatway.
It had to be in such a way thatbecause I'm always the pleaser.
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Oh, let's make it work, let's dothis, let's do that.
SPEAKER_00 (28:40):
And a lot of people
take advantage of me because of
that.
SPEAKER_01 (28:42):
Exactly.
So it had to be in such a waythat there was no way the
partnership was going tocontinue.
Because if it did, I would notbe in the vibrational position
to do what spirit is asking meto do now.
SPEAKER_00 (28:59):
So you increase your
vibrational frequency, and being
connected to that individualwould not have allowed it.
Correct.
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (29:08):
Being in that where
being in the business, you know,
as it was, wouldn't is Icouldn't be doing what I'm here
to do now.
SPEAKER_00 (29:18):
Yeah.
So we let things go.
So we trust in the new things,and we keep doing it, even with
fear in the passenger seat.
Absolutely.
SPEAKER_01 (29:30):
And then finally we
can look at it and say, okay,
fear.
I don't need you right now.
Or I recognize you're there, butyeah, just take a back seat.
Don't let's take them out of thepassenger seat and put them in
the back seat.
Put them in the backseat.
Okay.
That's my goal.
It's like, okay, back seat.
I know you're there.
I know you'll pop your head upnow and then and try to drive
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for a bit and then just say,okay, I got this again.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (30:00):
Need it super good.
All right.
It's a journey that we're goingto do.
Have the courage to let whateveryou need to let go of.
Let it go.
Yeah.
And then trust in what's new.
Trust in what's coming.
Even when it seems like it's noton your timeline.
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Trust me, it's not on mytimeline.
I can I can tell you that rightthis much.
But I'm still trusting that it'scoming.
I don't know when.
I don't know how, but it'scoming.
And I'm going to be ready toreceive the miracle when it does
come.
SPEAKER_01 (30:35):
Absolutely.
And that's really it.
It's just saying, yes.
I don't know what the next stepis.
I don't know what this lookslike.
Show me, guide me, help me.
And and oftentimes the it showsup.
The right people shows up, orthe right awareness shows up,
even though it's uncomfortable.
But yeah, just got to take thatnext step.
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All right, Sandy, where can Igo?
Learn more about you.
So right now, everything isstill because I'm in the process
of change.
So right now, my website isstill brainworksforlife.com.
And then from there, people can,if they wanted to get in touch
with me because it's I've reallycleared out the clinical.
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And it's more of what I'm doingnow, which is the spiritual
helping people communicate withloved ones.
I get it.
SPEAKER_00 (31:26):
People will message
me like, hey, did you know that
drkylyburton.com is down?
Yes, I do.
SPEAKER_01 (31:32):
Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (31:33):
I'm in the middle of
a transition.
SPEAKER_01 (31:34):
It's still there.
And you can mess, you can, youknow, contact me through that
site.
It will come to me and I willfind it.
But my YouTube now issandywessonrn.com as I'm slowly
shifting things over.
Because there's another SandyWesson out there that does
different work.
So Sandy Wesson RN will get tothe YouTube station for me.
(31:56):
So okay.
SPEAKER_00 (31:57):
There you have it.
BrainworksforLife.com.
SPEAKER_01 (32:00):
Yes.
And Facebook is still Facebookis still Brain Works for Life,
but I'm not doing as much there.
So, you know, it's just again,it's that it's that
transitionary time.
SPEAKER_00 (32:12):
I know.
It's the letting it go period.
That's why our conversationtoday is about letting it go
because we're both in the samestage.
Letting it go.
And the nice thing is, is whenyou clear out that energy, you
have space for the new energy tocome in.
SPEAKER_01 (32:26):
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
SPEAKER_00 (32:29):
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