"I Promise I'll Never Hurt You Again" Understanding the Cycle of Violence in Abuse with Diane Williams, LCSW

Love. Hope. Fear. These are the emotions that victims of abuse typically experience throughout the cycle of violence. There are three main phases: Tension Building, Explosion, and Loving & Contrite.

In the tension building phase, victims may notice their partner's mood changes, their posture alters, or their tone shifts. This could make them feel like they're walking on eggshells until an explosion occurs. In the explosion phase, abuse escalates. Shouting gets louder, threats become more severe, and physical assault may occur.

After the explosion phase, the person causing harm may promise to never hurt their partner again. They may apologize, start to act like they did in the beginning of the relationship, and be loving - until the cycle continues.

CONTENT:

(0:00) Introduction

(2:20) Tension Building

(7:34) Explosion

(12:55) Loving and Contrite

(18:35) Is it Abuse Without the Cycle of Violence?

(20:18) Does Abuse Stop in the Loving and Contrite Phase?

(26:23) About JBWS & Resources

About JBWS & Resources

The Cycle of Violence

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Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris