Is Consent Only About Sex? Redefining Consent, with Maria Lagattuta, LCSW

Do you consider consent when brushing your hand against someone's back at the bar? Do you think about it before hugging someone who is in tears? Too often, we only think about consent in regards to sexual activity, but it's something we should consider daily.

In this episode of Unsilenced, Maria Lagattuta explores:

• What consent looks like in all relationships
• How victims of abuse frequently don't have much consent in their relationships
• How nonconsensual activities can negatively impact victims of abuse
• How people cannot consent to activities that could kill them, such as choking during sex
• And how people can practice noticing when something feels consensual to them

CONTENT:

(0:00) Introduction

(1:30) Is Consent Always Sexual?

(2:45) Nonsexual Forms of Consent

(6:06) Emotional Consent

(8:01) What Consent Does and Doesn't Look Like

(10:00) The Lack of No Doesn't Mean Yes

(11:23) Arousal Doesn't Mean Always Imply Consent

(12:45) How Is Consent Used in Power and Control?

(19:57) Learning to Recognize Consent in Yourself

(21:53) Victims Don't Consent to Abuse

(26:15) Can Choking During Sex Be Consensual?

(34:46) Consent in Daily Life

(40:29) About JBWS & Resources

Resources:

Are you in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey? JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/services⁠⁠⁠⁠. ⁠⁠

Do you recognize controlling or abusive behaviors in yourself? JBWS can also help. Please call 973.539.7801 or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233)

Unsilenced: Real Conversations About Abuse is produced by JBWS, a domestic violence agency serving Morris County, New Jersey. If you're interested in learning more about JBWS, please visit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ jbws.org ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris