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January 7, 2025 36 mins

Why do people abuse their partners or family members? What could cause a person to inflict harm on people they love? These are questions that anyone familiar with domestic violence has likely contemplated at some point.


However, there is no universal answer to these questions. Not all people who use abuse have the same life experiences. Some may be mimicking the dynamic of their parents while others may believe they must be in control to avoid being controlled. Sometimes people use abuse in their relationships because their belief systems allow it or because it benefits them in some way.


Mary Jane McCarthy joins this episode of Unsilenced: Real Conversations About Abuse to discuss this question.


Content:

(0:00) Introduction

(1:16) What Is The Jersey Center For Non-Violence

(3:45) Why We Don't Use The Term "Abuser"

(6:19) What Causes Someone To Abuse Their Partner?

(12:53) Perceptions of People Who Use Abuse

(16:48) Abuse and Remorse

(21:54) Does Abuse Intervention Work?

(33:08) Feeling Strong Emotions

(34:50) About JBWS & Resources


Resources:

Are you in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey? JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/services⁠⁠. ⁠⁠


Do you recognize controlling or abusive behaviors in yourself? JBWS can also help. Please call 973.539.7801 or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠⁠⁠


If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233)


Unsilenced: Real Conversations About Abuse is produced by JBWS, a domestic violence agency serving Morris County, New Jersey. If you're interested in learning more about JBWS, please visit⁠⁠⁠⁠ jbws.org ⁠⁠


Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

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