If you’ve ever dissociated mid-orgasm, gone numb during touch, or hyper-focused on your partner’s reaction instead of your own desire—this one’s for you. In this unapologetically nerdy and delightfully rebellious episode, Dr. Misty unpacks how shame hijacks your senses and rewires your brain to flinch away from pleasure.
We’re diving deep into the sexy side of neuroscience: trauma brains, vagus nerves, polyvagal theory, and why your erotic disconnection is not dysfunction—it’s adaptation. And most importantly, how to gently, playfully, rebelliously rewire your erotic brain using the magic of neuroplasticity and some juicy sensory rituals.
Expect brain science, somatic tips, shade at purity culture, and a permission slip to moan at your snacks.
✨ Companion worksheet inside The Ember Vault:
“F*ck Around and Find Out (What Feels Good)”
Chapters
- (00:00:00) - Opening: Glitter, Science & Shamelessness
- (00:01:08) - Shame Isn’t a Feeling—It’s a Nervous System Hijack
- (00:04:38) - Polyvagal Theory & Why You Might Freeze During Sex
- (00:07:56) - Sensory Disconnection Isn’t Dysfunction—It’s a Coping Strategy
- (00:11:02) - Rewiring the Erotic Brain: Neuroplasticity Is Hot
- (00:14:45) - Your Pleasure Was Never the Problem
- (00:15:50) - Ember Vault Plug + Sensory Worksheet
- (00:16:30) - Reflection Prompt + Sign-Off
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