Unscripted & Unbothered: Why Your Sex Drive Isn’t Broken—Just Overbooked

What if your low libido isn’t about dysfunction—it’s about burnout from playing someone else’s fantasy?

In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty burns the binary gender rulebook to the ground and shares a personal story of erotic self-abandonment, performance pressure, and what happens when we confuse dominance with power. We’ll unpack how gender roles are quietly killing desire—for everyone—and explore what it means to step outside the script and tune into your actual wants.

✨ Plus:
– Juicy reflection prompts
– A listener letter that hits hard
– A companion worksheet inside The Ember Vault: Unscripted and Unbothered: Dismantling the Gender Role Turn-Off

This isn’t about being more confident. It’s about being more you.

In this episode:

• Why “doing everything right” still left Dr. Misty feeling numb in bed

• The subtle ways gender scripts hijack our desire

• A breakdown of Victorian purity culture + modern expectations

• What to do when your body checks out before you do

• A listener story (hi Sam!) that captures exactly what erotic exhaustion looks like

• Journal questions to unlearn performative sex roles

• This week’s exclusive worksheet inside The Ember Vault

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Chapters

• (00:00:00) - Intro: Your sex drive isn’t broken—it’s exhausted
• (00:01:42) - Storytime: When dominance became dissociation
• (00:05:09) - The trap of gender roles in bed
• (00:07:45) - Cultural roots of sexual performance scripts
• (00:09:10) - What happens in your body when desire becomes obligation
• (00:10:20) - Listener letter: “What if I don’t know what I want anymore?”
• (00:12:30) - This week’s reflection questions
• (00:13:40) - Your reminder: You’re not too much—you’re done performing