The Body Keeps the Bedtime Story: How Fascia Stores Your History (and Steals Your Rest)

Ever burst into tears during a massage or felt grief bubble up when you’re just trying to sleep? You’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone. In this episode, Dr. Misty pulls back the curtain on fascia: your body’s secret emotional archivist.

We’ll break down what fascia actually is (think: way sexier than raw chicken), why it hoards every microtrauma and shutdown, and how those mysterious aches, pains, and restless nights are actually your body keeping score. From chronic jaw tension to pelvic floor pain to the sleep-shame spiral, you’ll learn why your “tight hips” are holding old grief, why your jaw’s clenching on unsaid truths, and why stretching just isn’t enough.

Most importantly, we’ll explore erotic rest—not just as self-care, but as an act of radical rebellion and embodied pleasure for trauma-impacted, neurodivergent, and queer bodies. Get practical tools for fascial release (no, not torture with foam rollers), and learn why tenderness—not performance—is your body’s true path to safety, pleasure, and finally, real rest.

Listen in for:

• The real deal on fascia as emotional memory

• How trauma and shame live in connective tissue

• The “fascia-sleep-shame loop” (and how to break it)

• Science-backed, anti-perfectionist tools for reclaiming rest and pleasure

• Why erotic rest is a liberation movement, not a wellness trend

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Chapters

• (00:00:03) - Why Your Fascia Holds You Back
• (00:04:27) - How Fascia Is the Keeper of Your Emotional History
• (00:09:53) - Fascial Holding Patterns and the Sleep Struggle
• (00:16:12) - How to Rest Your Fascial Tension
• (00:18:58) - Fascial Release for Emotional Unwind
• (00:22:16) - Body's Fascia Memory and Rest