When Your Body Says No But Your Mind Says Yes: Somatic Approaches to Real Sexual Healing

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Ever felt like your body was sabotaging you during sex, even when your mind and heart were all-in? In this episode, Dr. Misty unpacks the wild world of somatic therapy and why your body’s “weird” responses are actually wisdom in action—not dysfunction. We’ll break down how shame, trauma, and neurodivergence shape our sexual scripts, and why honoring your authentic needs is the most revolutionary act of all.

This episode covers:

• The science of why bodies freeze, tense, or check out during intimacy (even with safe partners)

• SE, Hakomi, and TRE—somatic tools that let you finally listen to your nervous system (instead of fighting it)

• How to create a personalized “sexual map” so you know exactly what your body needs to feel safe and turned on

• Radical embodiment, embodied consent, and how to build authentic sexual healing without performance, perfection, or shame

Includes real stories, hands-on practices, and that signature Untamed Ember mix of humor, rebellion, and real talk.

Don’t forget: This week’s worksheet, “Your Sexual Somatic Intelligence Map,” is waiting in the Ember Vault at untamedember.com.

You are not broken. Your body is brilliant. And sexual healing starts when you finally learn to speak your body’s language.

#SexTherapy #Somatic #BodyWisdom #NeurodivergentSex #QueerSexEd #TraumaInformed #UntamedEmber

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Chapters

• (00:00:02) - What If Your Body Is the Problem With Sex
• (00:03:09) - Your Body Is Trying to Protect You From Sex
• (00:06:10) - Somatic Experiencing, or SE for short
• (00:09:24) - What Is Haikomi?
• (00:12:12) - TRE: Consent to Move Your Body
• (00:17:29) - The Sexual Practices You Need to Start Using
• (00:24:30) - This Week's Sexual Somatic Intelligence Map
• (00:26:51) - Untamed Women: Misty with