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Ever wondered why your brain is a full “hell yes” but your body suddenly ghosts the moment things heat up? Or why your nervous system sabotages even the sexiest situations? In this no-holds-barred episode, Dr. Misty goes full trauma nerd on the vagus nerve—that misunderstood highway running between your brain, your body, and your ability to actually stay present for pleasure.
We’re not talking about generic “just relax” advice or another meditation app download. We’re hacking your actual sexual nervous system with trauma-informed, neurodivergent-friendly, science-backed strategies. Discover:
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Why your vagus nerve can’t mind its business during sex (and how it becomes an accidental cockblocker)
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How chronic stress, trauma, and neurodivergence set the stage for “nervous system sabotage”
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The real reason arousal sometimes flips to anxiety, shutdown, or sensory overwhelm—and what to do about it
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Practical, immediately usable hacks for vagus nerve stimulation, breathwork, movement, and sensory support before and during sex
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Why the neurodivergent brain needs rituals and “transition time” for pleasure—and how to build them
This episode is for every beautifully complex, neurodivergent, queer, or trauma-impacted human who’s tired of being shamed for their body’s boundaries. Your sexual nervous system isn’t broken—it’s just never been given the tools (or the respect) it deserves. Let’s fix that.
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Chapters
- (00:00:00) - Introduction: The Mysterious Vagus Nerve
- (00:01:50) - Understanding Vagal Tone and Sexuality
- (00:02:47) - The Role of the Vagus Nerve in Sexual Response
- (00:05:23) - Challenges Faced by Neurodivergent Individuals
- (00:07:02) - Common Patterns of Vagal Dysfunction During Sex
- (00:09:40) - Daily Life and Its Impact on Vagal Tone
- (00:12:20) - Practical Interventions to Improve Vagal Tone
- (00:18:33) - Morgan's Transformation: A Case Study
- (00:21:28) - Specific Techniques for Common Sexual Difficulties
- (00:23:56) - Conclusion: Embracing Your Nervous System
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