Parts Work for Perverts: When Your Inner Critic Shows Up in Bed

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Ever notice that right when things get steamy, your brain turns into a Twitter feed of insecurity? Welcome to the world of parts work, sex edition. In this episode, Dr. Misty dives headfirst into Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and how your inner critic, perfectionist, rebel, caretaker, and shame-burdened exiles all love to crash your sex life.

We’re talking about:

• Why sexual difficulties are rarely about “technique”—and almost always about internal parts fighting for airtime

• How the Performance Manager, Hypervigilant Protector, People-Pleasing Caretaker, and your spicy inner exiles hijack your pleasure

• Specific, actionable strategies to check in with your parts, speak for them, and actually integrate their wisdom instead of letting them run wild

• Neurodivergent masking, sexual spontaneity, and why you might feel disconnected or stuck in performance mode (again)

• Real talk: The parts of you that want connection, the ones that want control, and how to get them working together instead of fighting for the mic

Ready to turn your internal chaos into conscious, embodied pleasure? Listen in, download your worksheet from The Ember Vault, and start negotiating with your inner committee—no shame, no judgment, just radical acceptance.

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Chapters

• (00:00:00) - The Critic in Your Sex Life
• (00:02:05) - How to Love Your Sexual Life
• (00:02:59) - What Are the Parts of Your Sex Life?
• (00:09:27) - How to Work With Exile Parts in Sex
• (00:14:25) - How to Work With Protective Parts in Sexual Life
• (00:20:51) - Working With Your Parts in Sexual Relationships
• (00:22:08) - Partners Awareness