Online dating after divorce can feel like emotional whiplash. One minute you're connecting, the next—ghosted. In this impromptu episode, Todd Turner shares a paradigm-shifting perspective: what if ghosting isn't about rejection, but about emotional readiness?
Drawing from a recent conversation and his own dating journey post-divorce, Todd introduces the powerful metaphor of the telescope and the microscope. When we’re hopeful, we look through a telescope—dreaming big. But when trauma resurfaces, we retreat to the microscope, focusing on survival and safety.
This episode is packed with real talk, grace-filled insight, and encouragement for anyone navigating the messy reality of healing, dating, and starting over.
Divorce is trauma, not just a legal status—and it reshapes how we see the world.
Ghosting often reflects emotional un-readiness, not cruelty.
We toggle between telescope (hope) and microscope (protection) as we heal.
You’re not broken for backing out of dating—you’re human.
Grace is essential—for yourself and for others still stuck in survival mode.
UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.
Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.
God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.
Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.
The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.
Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.
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