Divorced Men: You’re Not the Captain of Your Own Ship

Seven years after my divorce, I thought I was doing everything right. I rebuilt my career. I got healthy. I dated. I “put in the work.” I thought I was healed. But God showed me I had been building my new life on sand.

In this episode, I’m speaking directly to divorced Christian men—men who are still carrying invisible wounds, hiding behind success, and chasing money, relationships, and validation instead of Christ. We’ll talk about:

• The “arrow in the back of the head” every wounded man carries (and hides)
• Why dating too soon after divorce often leads to more pain
• How loneliness, numbing, and pride keep us stuck for years
• The dangerous lie behind “I am the captain of my soul”
• What repentance, discipleship, and abiding in Christ really look like
• Why the church, broken as it is, is still God’s plan A for your healing

This is not a pep talk. This is a warning and an invitation. God will let you keep chasing your idols until they break you—or He will graciously burn them to the ground Himself so you can start over with Him at the center.

If you’ve been trying to lead your life on your own terms, it’s time to stop. Lay down your pride, pick up your Bible, plant yourself in a church, and let God rebuild you from the inside out.

Scriptures Referenced: Matthew 7:16–20, Luke 15:20, John 15:5, Proverbs 3:5–12, Galatians 5:22–23, James 2:19

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UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast: Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace.

Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.

God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met.

Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place.

The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian.

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