Vanilla Swingers - A Swinger Podcast for Newbies, by Newbies in the Lifestyle

🍆 Is there a limp d!ck epidemic sweeping the lifestyle? This week, Kat & Leo are talking about the one thing no swinger wants to admit happens… but absolutely does! And guess what? It’s not just older guys. From baby-faced 22-year-old studs to rugged 33-year-old firemen who literally wrestle flames - no one’s immune. From the pressure of group play to the mental gymnastics of threesomes, psychological ED is real - and it doesn...

🦄 Ah, the unicorn - magical, mythical, and the star of every red-blooded man’s fantasy since time before time - the elusive, electric MFF threesome. Especially when both women are also into each other. 🔥 It also happens to be Leo’s personal favorite fantasy. If he had it his way, we’d record this episode live from a pile of tangled limbs, giggles, and glitter.... an MFFFF if he could have his way.

We’ll spill the tea on unicorn e...

⭐What’s hotter than one man’s attention? Try two - with all eyes, hands, mouths (and more) on you. You're not alone. In this sultry episode, we’re diving deep into the world of MFM threesomes and showing you how to make the magic happen,  even if you're soft swap only. Let’s just say if Kat had to pick one way to play forever… this would be it. 🔥

We’ll break down why single guys in the lifestyle are way more respectful than you'd ...

🐈 Ever rolled your eyes at yet another Glow party? Or wondered why lifestyle events seem to start at vampire hours? (we love 'em!) From overpriced club nights to the dreaded "bi-for-my-guy" dilemma, we’re diving deep into the biggest swinger complaints - and trust us, there are dozens.

In this episode, we spill the tea on the pet peeves that make seasoned swingers sigh, laugh, or straight-up ghost. We’re talking about theme-night ...

❌❌❌ Grab your stilettos and step into Amsterdam’s Red Light District with us! This is our pre-pre-pre lifestyle ORIGIN story—before we even knew what “the lifestyle” meant, we were already amping up our sexy fun in the neon-lit streets of Amsterdam. We’re spilling all the scandalous details. Steamy live sex shows at Casa Rosso, how we played behind the red light windows (yes, really!), and the secrets to sealing the deal with an RL...

💋 While we never do a Kiss ‘n Tell… let’s be real, it’s high time to spill the tea on what Kat & Leo have been up to. From riding the double helix of alternating threesomes MFM-MFF-MFM-MFF (because balance is key, right?) to speedrunning the Swingermoon, that wild, intoxicating first 2 years of swinging where every encounter plays out like a passion-fueled dream you never want to wake up from.

Plus, Leo’s ultimate bucket list ...

🏏 We’re diving into all the things we wish we knew before swinging - aka the mistakes, surprises, and total WTF moments that come with the lifestyle. From swinger FOMO to NRE hitting at different times, we break down how to keep your head on straight when emotions run wild. Plus, Kat has thoughts on why a threesome should never turn into a foursome… foreshadow much?

We’re also talking peer pressure, rejection, and why too much tal...

🚋 We’re diving deep into our local swinger scene with a full review of Twist SF, San Francisco's only swinger club. From newbie yoga to couples only nights, it's the spot for newbies! Plus we take a super quick sneak peek into Power Exchange, San Francisco’s sleaziest, anything-goes sex club (definitely not for the faint of heart!), where oddly enough, we had one of our best experiences—go figure! Why do we always find the hottest...

🤠 New year, new us? Nah - new year, same freaky us... but turned ALL the way up! What better way to ring in the new year than with a sizzling double helix of threesomes? That’s right—MFF, MFM, MFF, MFM—back and forth, back and forth—like a perfectly balanced sexual seesaw. In this episode, we spill all the steamy details on how we kicked off our year with an alternating lineup of mind-blowing trios. We’re talking the thrill of inv...

🗼 Oh la la, baby! This is THE ONE—the club that started it all, the aha moment, the night we dipped our toes (and maybe more) into the world of swinging! In this episode, we take you straight to Le Mask in Paris, where the energy was electric, the mystery was intoxicating, and French consent had us absolutely weak in the knees (touch first, ask later? Oui, oui! 🔥).

But we don’t stop there—because Paris isn’t just about the playro...

🏌 Ever caught yourself giggling at a foursome joke on the golf course? Does your closet have more theme outfits than regular clothes? If so… you just might be a swinger! Join Kat & Leo for a hilarious, no-holds-barred deep dive into the funniest, most outrageous signs you’re in the lifestyle—Jeff Foxworthy style! From wristband collections to tequila shots taken off very questionable places, this episode will have you laughing...

✨ New Relationship Energy? It’s one helluva drug and probably why we are all swinging! One hit and you’re obsessed - texting like a lunatic, floating on dopamine, and barely keeping your pants on. But here’s the kicker  what goes up must come down like a rollercoaster! Join Kat & Leo as they spill all the sizzling, scandalous, and downright chaotic details of NRE—how it makes you giddy, feral, and completely unhinged… and why y...

🤦🏻‍♀️ Join Kat & Leo as we dive into some of the most frustrating (and hilariously relatable) challenges in the lifestyle. First up: the fit, the fabulous, and the insufferably picky—those who seem to treat swinging like an exclusive VIP club, leaving everyone else rolling their eyes. Then, we tackle the notorious 9-to-5 dilemma, where finding a well-matched couple feels like a treasure hunt, only to discover the wife’s a tot...

🏞️ Ready to hear why Colorado's Scarlet Ranch is hands-down one of the BEST swingers clubs in the U.S.? We’re dishing all the steamy details—from its upscale lodge vibes, sexy crowd, and luxurious playrooms to that giant teepee, flirty Sexy Jenga, and even those voyeur-friendly glass-walled showers - and why we plan to visit often in the next year! Gotta dollar cost average our membership fee!!

PLUS, we’re spilling on our debauche...

💖 One FULL year of consistent play in the lifestyle, and we’re thriving like never before. Sure, the sexy fun is amazing (hello, fantasies coming true!), but swinging is so much more than just steamy nights. From communication that’s next level (no secrets, no BS) to confidence that has us glowing, and even a fitness glow-up that’ll make your vanilla friends jealous—swinging is the ultimate life upgrade. Throw in laugh-until-you-c...

🚩 HAPPY NEW YEAR!! It’s the end of our first full year in the lifestyle—2024 is closing out, and we’re already wondering: what will 2025 have in store for us? This week, we’re spilling the tea on red flags that scream, run, don’t walk! From pushy players to couples who act like they’re auditioning for drama club, we’re calling it like we see it. PLUS, how to dodge an awkward vibe check at a meet and greet when you’re just not into...

👨‍👧‍👧 Ready for the inside scoop on Denver’s steamiest swinger hotel? In this episode, we dive into the infamous Mon Chalet—a quirky motel-meets- adult playground that’s anything but ordinary. Mon Chalet’s rooms are like stepping onto a 70's porn set with mirrors on the ceilings and walls, seductive red and blue lighting, a sex swing, a love chair meant for oral pleasure, and whirlpools perfectly sized for three or more, perfect...

🌴 Join us as we give you an honest look into Trapeze Ft. Lauderdale, hyped as one of the top swinger clubs in the U.S. - is it really worth the buzz (and the price)? Four visits later, we’ve seen it all: a sixsome, a wife poach, and even a hotwife twist. From the packed dance floor to the grabby single-dude vibe (and let’s not forget the buffet), we’re breaking down the good, the bad, and the 'seriously?!' moments—including that t...

⚓ Alright, listen up! We're finally wrapping up our Bliss Cruise Review in Part 3 and spilling ALL the tea on the April vs. November sailings. We’re calling out all the drama—because let’s be real, keyboard warriors have A LOT to say. From those gasp playroom hours (you know the ones) to pool chair hogs who think they own the ocean, and those oh-so-unstructured meet-and-greets...we’re tackling it all. No complaints on board, but we...