Vanilla Swingers - A Swinger Podcast for Newbies, by Newbies in the Lifestyle

🍒 So… it finally happened. We went full couple swap - Barbie Dreamhouse Vegas edition. After 2 years of soft swapping, gerrymandering, emotional spirals, flirty voice notes, horny hesitation, and one fatefully fabulous friendship with listener friends hotter than a Barbie Malibu summer - we finally did it. And surprise - it wasn’t scary 😱😲😬. It was intimate, electric, and slightly chaotic in the best Barbie-and-Ken-got-naked ki...

💚 Jealousy - it’s the uninvited plus-one in every open relationship. This week, we’re taming the green-eyed monster that sneaks in when you mix sex, love, and a dash of emotional chaos. From managing envy with your partner to the plot twist of getting jealous over your other ENM connections (say what?!), we’re breaking down how to feel it, own it, and not let it wreck the vibe.

🦇🎃 Plus we recap our 2nd Sextober weekend which get...

🎃 The MFM drought is officially DEAD and spooky season brought us the sexiest resurrection.

We hightailed it on a Halloween road trip through LA and Palm Springs that ended — on a total whim — at the Plush Flesh & Fantasy Ball. Dressed to impress as a football player and a schoolgirl, our Sextober kickoff was high-octane from the jump: ✅ An undergrad unicorn with big varsity energy ✅ A very enthusiastic co-star who arrived re...

🔥🗑️ Welcome to modern dating where everyone’s poly, pan, or “just exploring” and hooking up’s the new handshake. This week we’re diving headfirst into Feeld vs 3Fun, the two most chaotic playgrounds for the open-minded. We’re talking about the looks-based swiping culture that’s turned dating into a full-time job - a time-sucking, soul-crushing exercise in dopamine hits and disappearing acts. Which app actually connects people? Wh...

🍑 So you’ve made it past the door, stripped down to your sexiest (or skimpiest) outfit… now what? In this episode, we walk you through the wild, unspoken world of swinger club playrooms - how to go from flirting to f*cking and everything in between.

We’re talking: 💋 How to go from polite conversation to parallel play 💃 Why your girl is your best wingwoman (and should lead the charge) 👙 What to wear when “dress code” means linge...

⚾️ Live from Vegas - yep, still 0-for-everything. Another swing and a miss in Sin City, and a strikeout the weekend before at Plush LA. Our MFM drought is real, but so is our resilience (and our road trip playlist).

This week, we’re talking about both weekends - starting with our 6-hour careening down the highway to check out Plush’s decadent 14,000-square-foot LA mansion party. Infinity pool, group showers, Cali King beds... it wa...

🎲 Dirty Vegas Review alert! We hit up Plush Parties’ legendary swinger hotel takeover in Las Vegas - and yep, it was 1200+ people deep, pulsing EDM, zero nudity pool parties, and not a single real playroom in sight. But make no mistake - Plush throws a damn good party, and for the price? You seriously can’t beat it. Wild themes, great outfits, and it’s freaking Vegas, baby! What’s not to love?

Plus… we somehow managed 4 threesomes...

🍒 Talking a mile a minute on too little sleep and a whole lotta NRE, we’re finally ready to share what happened. After 2 years of toe-dipping, rule-bending, and soft swap gerrymandering… something shifted. Things escalated. Lines blurred. Emotions ran high. Was it messy? Oh yeah. Was it hot? Also yes. But did it go further than we meant it to? Well… you’ll just have to listen and find out. No filters. No gatekeeping. No pretending...

🗺️ A year ago, we gave you Swinging 101 when we knew absolutely nothing. Now? We know… maybe one and a half things. But hey, that’s progress. So buckle up, because out of the mouths of idiots comes the ultimate newbie guide - why your first club visit will feel like freshman orientation in lingerie, how to avoid crying in the Uber home, and why Viagra belongs in your weekend bag right next to the lube and breath mints and subscrip...

👀 "You had your threesome, now it’s my turn!"  Let’s talk about the myth of keeping it “even” in the lifestyle. In this spicy episode, Kat and Leo break down how scorekeeping kills the vibe, why selflessness is the ultimate turn-on, and how to show up FOR your partner - even if your night was hotter than theirs. It’s compersion vs. lizard brain. And fair? Well, that’s not always 50/50.

🍦 Dive in and enjoy every spoonful of our...

🌶️ Join Kat & Leo as they dish some of the hottest takes of the lifestyle. These are the hot, messy, slightly savage truths about the swinger lifestyle - the kind you only admit after 3 tequila shots or mid-cuddle puddle when your guard’s down.

Some takes will have you spitting out your champagne. Some will have you nodding so hard your necklace tangles. And some might make you wonder if we’ll still get invited to the next par...

🙈 We’re not talking “have sex in a hot tub” basic. The Ultimate Dirty Bucket List is your filthiest, freakiest, most no-holds-barred wishlist of sexual experiences. Some are fantasies. Some are goals. Some are nope, never. Some... we’ve already checked off. Oops.

But don’t worry- this list isn’t just ours. We’re throwing out ideas we've heard, seen, or maybe dreamed up after one too many tequila shots. Things you might’ve never co...

🎺 New to Naughty N’awlins? Or just want to level up your sexy strategy? We’ve got you. In Part 2, Kat & Leo break down the ultimate Naughty checklist - what to pack, where to party, and how to actually get laid (instead of just collecting slut cards and compliments). From Bourbon St bar takeovers, seminars, and theme nights to plus-one rooms, door decorations, and playroom etiquette, we’re spilling our TOP TIPS and hotter take...

⚜️ We didn’t expect to fall so hard… but Naughty N’awlins swept us off our feet. Now we’re only left wondering, "Why isn’t this twice a year?!" In this ultimate review of the wildest swinger takeover in the U.S., we’re spilling everything - the foam parties, rooftop pool chaos, sexy seminars, jaw-dropping playrooms… and the best back-to-back-to-back play experiences we’ve ever had. 😳

🍒 Oh, and we popped a major cherry - played wi...

🦄 Unicorns are real. We used to think unicorns were mythical creatures - rare, wild, and only spotted once in a swinger’s lifetime. You know, single females in the lifestyle looking to play with couples.

But surprise - one fell into our lap 10 months ago. Fast-forward through a whirlwind throuple, two dozen unicorn adventures, and a helluva lot of glittery chaos, and we’ve learned a thing or twenty. We're spilling all the sparkly,...

😩 It’s not all champagne and orgasms. In this raw and candid episode, Kat & Leo pull back the satin sheets and get real about the moments that made them question everything. From the dizzying highs of new-relationship energy to the crushing lows of ghosting, jealousy, and emotional spirals, they share the darker side of the lifestyle rollercoaster - because for every hot night of NRE, there’s usually a WTF waiting around the c...

📸 We spent 6 months swiping through Feeld so you don’t have to - matching with unicorns, manicorns, dodging flakes, and figuring out WTF a skoliosexual is.

We’re breaking down: ✨ How to set up your couple profile 👻 The flake factor (it’s real) 🔥 Our favorite Feeld hookups 🧠 What “skoliosexual” even means

Feeld is spicy, swipey, and full of surprises - and we’re telling all in the latest Vanilla Swingers podcast episode.

🍦 D...

👻 Ghosting happens - even to Kat & Leo! In this episode, we’re spilling the tea on all the ghosting, the oof moments, and the head-scratchers we've had to deal with. Ghosting isn’t just for the newbies - whether you’re one week in or one year deep, it still stings. We’re here to share how it’s happened to us, how we’ve learned to bounce back, why it’s inevitable, and how to handle it without too much emotional fallout. Tune in...

😈 Kat’s riding a wave of MFM-induced euphoria - NRE blazing through her veins like a damn wildfire - and she’s talking a mile a minute. Fresh off her most perfect threesome (yes, even rivaling Italian Edward 😏), she and Leo unveil The Single Male Bible. Whether you're trying to find a manicorn or become one, this episode is your no-BS, slightly sweaty guide to single male success.

Spoiler: Most of these tips work for finding coup...