February 12, 2025 • 14 mins
On this episode, Nellie emphasizes the importance of focusing on meaningful activities to achieve personal and professional goals. She highlights the need for intentionality, efficiency, and enjoyment in daily tasks. She stresses the significance of having a strong foundation, including personal energy, systems, and clear goals. Nellie advocates for aligning daily actions with long-term objectives, such as losing weight or leaving a job, and suggest that clarity and stability are crucial for achieving big, courageous goals. She concludes with an invitation to apply for a program called "Wealthy Year" to support personal and professional growth.
We will touch on:
- Focusing on Priorities
- Embracing Busyness
- Clarifying Goals and Priorities
- Building a Strong Foundation
- Creating Clarity and Confidence
- Surrounding Yourself with Success
- Final Encouragement and Call to Action
Let's Take Some Action:
- Apply for the "Wealthy Year" program.
- Declare your big, courageous goal.
- If you don't have clarity on your big, courageous goal yet, focus on stabilizing your foundation first.
Shout out to Laura Franzen for sponsoring this episode!
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Unknown (00:00):
Let's have a heart to heart about what to focus on.
This can go for what to focus onin your business, what to focus
on in your life, what to focuson in your day to day, your week
to week, where attention goes,energy flows. And so it is so
important we are being veryintentional before we put a
(00:22):
bunch of time into something ofwhat are we doing? Why are we
doing it? How are we doing it?
So we can be as efficient aspossible and do it with ease,
flow and fun and get to whereyou're wanting to go. Shout out
to one of my amazing wealthyfriends, Laura, for sponsoring
this heart to heart. She canhelp you with all of your
bookkeeping needs, which I thinkis very important. So that way
(00:43):
you can stay up to date on allof your bookkeeping. So please
make sure that you check outLaura, and you'll be able to
talk to her about yourbookkeeping needs and see if
that you're a good fit to haveher expertise and her support,
so that way it's one less thingon your plate. And this is so
perfect that she is sponsoringthis episode, because as a busy
(01:06):
woman, as a busy mom, there is ademand on your time every single
day that that's never going tochange. I think we do something
really cute, of like, well, oncethe holidays stop, you know,
once we get through theholidays, then I'll be able to
take a breather. Or once, youknow, basketball is over, then
I'll be able to, you know, cleanthe house, or start the
(01:30):
business, or whatever it may bewe do that really cute thing of
like, well, when this thing isout of my way, then there'll be
nothing, nothing that I need todo, right, or I'll have less to
do. And the fact of the matteris, as humans, we tend to stuff
our calendar, and so it isactually much easier if we just
(01:51):
lean into that energy of we'regoing to fill the calendar
right, like the calendar isgoing to be filled with
something, whether it'sproductive, not productive.
Money Making, not money making.
Health related, not healthrelated. Like, it is very rare
that a human being is just goingto be sitting around, especially
(02:13):
an adult that has children,right? And be like, I have
nothing to do. I am bored. Idon't think I have ever said I
am bored as an adult, evenbefore children, and I
definitely don't think I've saidit now, and so that is just not
our reality. And that's okay,because my my theory, is when
(02:36):
you are a busy body, it meansyou're alive. It means you've
got things to do, people to see,like, how exciting is that?
Like, the whole point of life isto live now. With that being
said, we don't want it to beblah, and your Your day is
filled with a lot of things thatyou don't enjoy doing that suck
the life out of you. So if wejust swapped what you're doing
(03:00):
with things that you actuallywant to do, then you're still
going to be busy, but it's withthings that you enjoy, with
people that you enjoy. And sohow do we focus on doing that?
Right? Like, what? What do wedo? Because that is a big
question that I get in my worldall the time, is there are so
many things that need myattention. Where do I focus? So
(03:23):
we want to start with the end inmind, what is your goal in the
next 30 days? What is your goalin the next 90 days? What is
your goal in the next sixmonths? What is your goal in the
next nine months and year? Andwhen we can really see the
common thread, we can make surethat we're moving the needle
forward in the direction thatyou want to go with that being
(03:48):
said, we need a strongfoundation. If your foundation
is a house of cards, you'regoing to be stopping and
starting, stopping and starting.
Your energy is going to go upand down, up and down, and it
makes it almost impossible to gofor big goals and dreams, and so
we've gotta have that strongfoundation before we go in any
direction. So that strongfoundation is you. It is your
(04:10):
energy, it is the support, it issystems, it is determination. It
is really understanding yourgoals and your priorities. So
that way we can then take everystep in the direction that
you're wanting to go. If you'rerunning around with your head
cut off, you actually burn moreenergy and you're more
(04:30):
frustrated because you're like,What am I even doing? Like, what
am I even doing? I don't evenknow what I'm doing. This is
exhausting. This is frustrating.
And so it's not the it's not youtaking action that's frustrating
and draining. It's becauseyou're not making the progress
that you want. And so just theshift alone of sitting down, if
(04:54):
you don't have time to sit down,then like walk and think or
drive and think, I. What do youwant? If you want more time,
freedom, why do you want moretime? Freedom? If you want more
money, why do you want moremoney? And if you want both,
then, why? Why? Why? Why? Why wehave to know the emotional
(05:15):
meaning behind all of this,because you are going to spend
the time and you're going tospend the money, is it in the
direction that you want to go?
And the only person that candecide this is you not a coach,
not a mentor, not yoursignificant other. You're your
own human being. You have yourown goals, dreams and desires,
and so you've gotta tap intowhat do you want? You can always
(05:38):
change your mind later, butyou've gotta have some clarity
in this current moment. What doyou want? And we've gotta hone
in on that, because then everysingle day, all of our actions
get to support that. So if yourdesire is to lose weight, then
our actions day in and day outshould be to focus on that,
(06:02):
right, keep the main thing, themain thing, if your goal is to
leave your day job, all of youractions day in and day out
should be supporting that, notgoing against that, right? And
if your goal is to pay off allyour debt, or some of your debt
or whatever that may be, or buyyour dream home, all of your
actions should be supporting themain goal. Think about your main
(06:26):
goal. I call it your number onebig courageous goal. It's that
like emotional driving force foryou that makes you so
determined, so unstoppable.
Imagine a big bucket with thethe name of the big, courageous
goal on it, and you're justpouring into it and pouring into
(06:49):
it day in and day out. You'retaking small little steps day in
and eight day out. Eventually,that bucket is going to fill up,
right? And you're going to hityour goal. This is the most
exciting part about focus. Whenyou focus on that number one
big, courageous goal, then notonly do you reach the goal, but
then you start to createoverflow. And what's so cool
(07:12):
about your overflow is then youalso accomplish other goals,
right? So if your goal was tolose weight, guess what that's
going that's going to help othergoals that you have. If your
main, big, courageous goal wasto leave your job, and we leave
your job, guess what? You'regoing to accomplish other things
by you leaving your job. Sofocus is key, clarity is key.
(07:37):
And a lot of times people arelike, but I just don't know that
most likely, if you are feelinglike, I just don't know, I don't
have clarity on that number onething it is because you're on a
house of cards right now. Yourenergy is up and down. You are
disorganized, you're exhausted.
And I get it. I've been there.
Okay, so if you hit a wall whereyou're like, I just don't know.
(08:02):
Don't even worry. Don't evenworry about the big, courageous
goal. Yet, what I need you toworry about is getting you
stabilized right, your energystabilized, your organization
dialed in, and really settingthe tone for you. Because when
you're all over the place, it ishard to think about that big,
(08:25):
courageous goal. So if that'syou, and you're like, I just
don't know, then don't worryabout it. Let's get you
stabilized. Let's get you sosolid. Let's get your energy up,
which will also increase yourclarity, which will also
increase your confidence, thatthen you'll know, right? Your
number one big courageous goalshould happen like it should.
You should be able to declare itreally fast. It shouldn't be
(08:47):
like, well, Nelly, let me thinkabout it for five months, and
then I'll get back to you. No,no, you should be able to
543121, tell me what your bigcourageous goal is. And if not,
then we go to the Getting yourfoundation, getting your energy
dialed in, okay? And then I'llask you again, okay, tell me
what it is. This is the drivingforce to you reaching every
(09:12):
other goal and dream, becauseit's a, it's a duplicatable
process, right? You accomplishthe thing, and then we'll just
rinse and repeat it again.
You'll fill up the next bucket,and it will, it'll happen again,
right? It'll happen again andagain and again. There are
demands on your time all day,every day. If we are continuing
to be in blah energy, we'regoing to continue to create a
(09:32):
blah reality if we arecontinuing to just maintain your
life, which is, there's nothingwrong with just maintaining your
life. But if your goal is to gobigger and we're just
maintaining then we're going tocontinue to get maintaining
results. Okay? So your yourgoals and dreams are hidden in
(09:53):
your day to day. Where's allyour time going? Where's all
your energy going? Time Where'sall your money going?
Your goals and dreams, like yourbig, big goals and dreams, your
big desires, they're hidden inyour day to day. It's like an
Easter egg hunt. And when youcan get so crystal clear on
creating your wealthy day, everysingle day, that's how you reach
(10:18):
on imaginable goals and dreamsthat most people are like, how
did she do it? How did he do it?
That is so cool. I want to, Iwant to be around those types of
people where they're like, Yeah,I did this, I did this. And it's
like, normal. It's like, socool, but so normal. That's who
I want to choose to surroundmyself with, because it is. It's
(10:38):
infectious, right? When you havepeople that are big dreamers and
big doers around you, it islike, so normal to live that
way, to be that way, and it's sogood. So if that is you, and
you're like, I want to be aroundpeople that are big dreamers and
doers, then make sure that youapply for your wealthy year. You
go through an applicationprocess, which is what we call
(11:02):
your enrollment transformationprocess, and you are a part of
this energy. You're a part of anenvironment where you get to win
more easily, and you havesupport, not only from a
professional standpoint, from apersonal standpoint, we need
both of them together. Mostmentors are just focusing on
your business. And what I'verealized in all of my years and
(11:23):
1000s of hours of conversationwith so many people is when we
just focus on the money, or wejust focus on the business,
we're not paying attention tothe driver, which is you. We
can't just focus on the vehicle.
We've got to focus on the drivertoo. Both of them together are
so important, and that is theapproach that I'm taking with
(11:45):
your wealthy year. It's it's thewhole kit and caboodle. So make
sure you apply for your wealthyyear. Laura, thank you so much
for sponsoring this episode, andlet's declare what your big,
courageous goal is. And ifyou're not there yet, that's
okay, but get your foundation sostabilized as quickly as you
can, so that way you can win. Sobig. Okay, bye. You.
Let's have a heart to heart about what to focus on.
This can go for what to focus onin your business, what to focus
on in your life, what to focuson in your day to day, your week
to week, where attention goes,energy flows. And so it is so
important we are being veryintentional before we put a
(00:22):
bunch of time into something ofwhat are we doing? Why are we
doing it? How are we doing it?
So we can be as efficient aspossible and do it with ease,
flow and fun and get to whereyou're wanting to go. Shout out
to one of my amazing wealthyfriends, Laura, for sponsoring
this heart to heart. She canhelp you with all of your
bookkeeping needs, which I thinkis very important. So that way
(00:43):
you can stay up to date on allof your bookkeeping. So please
make sure that you check outLaura, and you'll be able to
talk to her about yourbookkeeping needs and see if
that you're a good fit to haveher expertise and her support,
so that way it's one less thingon your plate. And this is so
perfect that she is sponsoringthis episode, because as a busy
(01:06):
woman, as a busy mom, there is ademand on your time every single
day that that's never going tochange. I think we do something
really cute, of like, well, oncethe holidays stop, you know,
once we get through theholidays, then I'll be able to
take a breather. Or once, youknow, basketball is over, then
I'll be able to, you know, cleanthe house, or start the
(01:30):
business, or whatever it may bewe do that really cute thing of
like, well, when this thing isout of my way, then there'll be
nothing, nothing that I need todo, right, or I'll have less to
do. And the fact of the matteris, as humans, we tend to stuff
our calendar, and so it isactually much easier if we just
(01:51):
lean into that energy of we'regoing to fill the calendar
right, like the calendar isgoing to be filled with
something, whether it'sproductive, not productive.
Money Making, not money making.
Health related, not healthrelated. Like, it is very rare
that a human being is just goingto be sitting around, especially
(02:13):
an adult that has children,right? And be like, I have
nothing to do. I am bored. Idon't think I have ever said I
am bored as an adult, evenbefore children, and I
definitely don't think I've saidit now, and so that is just not
our reality. And that's okay,because my my theory, is when
(02:36):
you are a busy body, it meansyou're alive. It means you've
got things to do, people to see,like, how exciting is that?
Like, the whole point of life isto live now. With that being
said, we don't want it to beblah, and your Your day is
filled with a lot of things thatyou don't enjoy doing that suck
the life out of you. So if wejust swapped what you're doing
(03:00):
with things that you actuallywant to do, then you're still
going to be busy, but it's withthings that you enjoy, with
people that you enjoy. And sohow do we focus on doing that?
Right? Like, what? What do wedo? Because that is a big
question that I get in my worldall the time, is there are so
many things that need myattention. Where do I focus? So
(03:23):
we want to start with the end inmind, what is your goal in the
next 30 days? What is your goalin the next 90 days? What is
your goal in the next sixmonths? What is your goal in the
next nine months and year? Andwhen we can really see the
common thread, we can make surethat we're moving the needle
forward in the direction thatyou want to go with that being
(03:48):
said, we need a strongfoundation. If your foundation
is a house of cards, you'regoing to be stopping and
starting, stopping and starting.
Your energy is going to go upand down, up and down, and it
makes it almost impossible to gofor big goals and dreams, and so
we've gotta have that strongfoundation before we go in any
direction. So that strongfoundation is you. It is your
(04:10):
energy, it is the support, it issystems, it is determination. It
is really understanding yourgoals and your priorities. So
that way we can then take everystep in the direction that
you're wanting to go. If you'rerunning around with your head
cut off, you actually burn moreenergy and you're more
(04:30):
frustrated because you're like,What am I even doing? Like, what
am I even doing? I don't evenknow what I'm doing. This is
exhausting. This is frustrating.
And so it's not the it's not youtaking action that's frustrating
and draining. It's becauseyou're not making the progress
that you want. And so just theshift alone of sitting down, if
(04:54):
you don't have time to sit down,then like walk and think or
drive and think, I. What do youwant? If you want more time,
freedom, why do you want moretime? Freedom? If you want more
money, why do you want moremoney? And if you want both,
then, why? Why? Why? Why? Why wehave to know the emotional
(05:15):
meaning behind all of this,because you are going to spend
the time and you're going tospend the money, is it in the
direction that you want to go?
And the only person that candecide this is you not a coach,
not a mentor, not yoursignificant other. You're your
own human being. You have yourown goals, dreams and desires,
and so you've gotta tap intowhat do you want? You can always
(05:38):
change your mind later, butyou've gotta have some clarity
in this current moment. What doyou want? And we've gotta hone
in on that, because then everysingle day, all of our actions
get to support that. So if yourdesire is to lose weight, then
our actions day in and day outshould be to focus on that,
(06:02):
right, keep the main thing, themain thing, if your goal is to
leave your day job, all of youractions day in and day out
should be supporting that, notgoing against that, right? And
if your goal is to pay off allyour debt, or some of your debt
or whatever that may be, or buyyour dream home, all of your
actions should be supporting themain goal. Think about your main
(06:26):
goal. I call it your number onebig courageous goal. It's that
like emotional driving force foryou that makes you so
determined, so unstoppable.
Imagine a big bucket with thethe name of the big, courageous
goal on it, and you're justpouring into it and pouring into
(06:49):
it day in and day out. You'retaking small little steps day in
and eight day out. Eventually,that bucket is going to fill up,
right? And you're going to hityour goal. This is the most
exciting part about focus. Whenyou focus on that number one
big, courageous goal, then notonly do you reach the goal, but
then you start to createoverflow. And what's so cool
(07:12):
about your overflow is then youalso accomplish other goals,
right? So if your goal was tolose weight, guess what that's
going that's going to help othergoals that you have. If your
main, big, courageous goal wasto leave your job, and we leave
your job, guess what? You'regoing to accomplish other things
by you leaving your job. Sofocus is key, clarity is key.
(07:37):
And a lot of times people arelike, but I just don't know that
most likely, if you are feelinglike, I just don't know, I don't
have clarity on that number onething it is because you're on a
house of cards right now. Yourenergy is up and down. You are
disorganized, you're exhausted.
And I get it. I've been there.
Okay, so if you hit a wall whereyou're like, I just don't know.
(08:02):
Don't even worry. Don't evenworry about the big, courageous
goal. Yet, what I need you toworry about is getting you
stabilized right, your energystabilized, your organization
dialed in, and really settingthe tone for you. Because when
you're all over the place, it ishard to think about that big,
(08:25):
courageous goal. So if that'syou, and you're like, I just
don't know, then don't worryabout it. Let's get you
stabilized. Let's get you sosolid. Let's get your energy up,
which will also increase yourclarity, which will also
increase your confidence, thatthen you'll know, right? Your
number one big courageous goalshould happen like it should.
You should be able to declare itreally fast. It shouldn't be
(08:47):
like, well, Nelly, let me thinkabout it for five months, and
then I'll get back to you. No,no, you should be able to
543121, tell me what your bigcourageous goal is. And if not,
then we go to the Getting yourfoundation, getting your energy
dialed in, okay? And then I'llask you again, okay, tell me
what it is. This is the drivingforce to you reaching every
(09:12):
other goal and dream, becauseit's a, it's a duplicatable
process, right? You accomplishthe thing, and then we'll just
rinse and repeat it again.
You'll fill up the next bucket,and it will, it'll happen again,
right? It'll happen again andagain and again. There are
demands on your time all day,every day. If we are continuing
to be in blah energy, we'regoing to continue to create a
(09:32):
blah reality if we arecontinuing to just maintain your
life, which is, there's nothingwrong with just maintaining your
life. But if your goal is to gobigger and we're just
maintaining then we're going tocontinue to get maintaining
results. Okay? So your yourgoals and dreams are hidden in
(09:53):
your day to day. Where's allyour time going? Where's all
your energy going? Time Where'sall your money going?
Your goals and dreams, like yourbig, big goals and dreams, your
big desires, they're hidden inyour day to day. It's like an
Easter egg hunt. And when youcan get so crystal clear on
creating your wealthy day, everysingle day, that's how you reach
(10:18):
on imaginable goals and dreamsthat most people are like, how
did she do it? How did he do it?
That is so cool. I want to, Iwant to be around those types of
people where they're like, Yeah,I did this, I did this. And it's
like, normal. It's like, socool, but so normal. That's who
I want to choose to surroundmyself with, because it is. It's
(10:38):
infectious, right? When you havepeople that are big dreamers and
big doers around you, it islike, so normal to live that
way, to be that way, and it's sogood. So if that is you, and
you're like, I want to be aroundpeople that are big dreamers and
doers, then make sure that youapply for your wealthy year. You
go through an applicationprocess, which is what we call
(11:02):
your enrollment transformationprocess, and you are a part of
this energy. You're a part of anenvironment where you get to win
more easily, and you havesupport, not only from a
professional standpoint, from apersonal standpoint, we need
both of them together. Mostmentors are just focusing on
your business. And what I'verealized in all of my years and
(11:23):
1000s of hours of conversationwith so many people is when we
just focus on the money, or wejust focus on the business,
we're not paying attention tothe driver, which is you. We
can't just focus on the vehicle.
We've got to focus on the drivertoo. Both of them together are
so important, and that is theapproach that I'm taking with
(11:45):
your wealthy year. It's it's thewhole kit and caboodle. So make
sure you apply for your wealthyyear. Laura, thank you so much
for sponsoring this episode, andlet's declare what your big,
courageous goal is. And ifyou're not there yet, that's
okay, but get your foundation sostabilized as quickly as you
can, so that way you can win. Sobig. Okay, bye. You.
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