510. Unlock Your Wealthy Energy - Part 2 - Wake Up & Be Wealthy Podcast

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Unknown (00:02):
Welcome to your wealthy warm up workshop. This is a part
of the your wealthy yearprocess, which I'm super excited
for you to experience today. Sotoday is a workshop. We're going
to do the work. Okay, in orderfor my system to work for you,
you've got to do the work. Andthis is like your mama bear

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coming out of like, I'm going toalways do my part, but I also
need you to do your part forthis all to work and work as
quickly as possible and feelamazing. So I'm going to do my
part. I'm going to trust thatyou're going to do your part and
keep doing your part, becausetogether, we're partners, right?
Like, if you buy a ticket to theTaylor Swift concert, she's not

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banging down your door to belike, are you coming? Are you
coming to my concert? What areyou wearing? Like, although that
would be pretty cool, she'sexpecting you to be there,
right? You bought a ticket tothe concert, and that's your
responsibility, and herresponsibility is to make it the
best show ever, that you createthe best experience, the you

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have, the the best time, right?
But like no one's knocking downyour door to make sure you're at
the concert, you gotta do yourpart. And I feel like some of
that has been lost in thepersonal development space, not
always, but I feel like it'sbeen lost a little bit of where
people will point and blame acoach, a mentor, a book, a
conference, of not doing what itneeded to do, and more likely

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than not, that's not true,right? Like you've gotta open up
yourself, you've gotta do thework for anything to work. It's
like health and fitness, right?
Like most health and fitnessprograms, diets, you know, what
have you, supplements, they theywork when we use them, right?

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Like I drink a daily green shotand I don't miss a day, and it's
changed my whole life. But if Ibought it and didn't drink it,
it wouldn't change my life,right? Like, you gotta drink the
Kool Aid for the Kool Aid towork. And so that goes for
personal development. That goesfor, you know, doing the the
marketing, doing the thepersonal growth, like, whatever

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it we're working on, like we'vegot to do the work. And most
importantly, we get to make thework fun when you can make it
fun, not later, not when youmake gobs and gobs of money, not
when you become your hottest,sexiest self, but like now, it
has to be fun and enjoyable nowand keep becoming more fun and

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more enjoyable no matter whereyou're at. This is key, because
it'll keep anchoring it intoyour your body and your brain.
Of this actually feels good. Itcan be as like silly as doing
laundry. When laundry actuallyfeels good, you'll want to.
You'll be more inclined to do itin the future. Tell me your most

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number one dreadful task,because today is all about task
management in this wealthyworkshop. So like tell me your
dreaded, most dreaded task. Itcould be for your home, your
business, yourself. Okay,beautiful, alright, so right out
of the gates, we're going tolook at this as low hanging

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fruit. If you if this is yourmost dreadful task, it's getting
a lot of your energy before youeven do it right. If there's
already a lot of blah energyaround it, all of these things
are things that have to getdone. Right? Doing our taxes has
to get done or you go to jail,like, right? Like, yes, sure,

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your dishes aren't as dramaticas that, but eventually the The
dishes are going to stop, like,pile up and they're going to
start stinking, right? Like, soit's not as extreme as going to
jail, but like, we're going toneed some clean dishes, right?
Um, accounting or closetorganization, right? So, like
all of these things, in orderfor you to fully be your

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wealthiest, most powerful self,they they have to get done. It's
a non negotiable, so we might aswell make these things more
enjoyable. So the first thing Iwant to teach you with that low
hanging fruit of the low energyis we want to get it up this
you're only as strong as yourweakest player on your team. So

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for all the the things on yourlist and in your mind that drain
you, that drag you down, when wecan actually make those more
fun, literally, today, yourenergy is going to sky rocket
skyrocket. Okay, so we want tobrainstorm how we can put good

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energy around this. Whatprotocol can we create? Okay, so
I'm going to take somebody'sexample, so, or one of them for
an example. So the dishes. Okay,so there's a couple different
things we can do. So whatever itmay be, you guys can fill in the
blank with what you picked asthat low energy, the thing that
you're dreading that drains you.
So for doing the dishes, wecould literally blast music. You

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could put on your favoritemovie, your favorite show. You
could put in a podcast on yourair pods, you could call
somebody. Maybe there's a queueof every time you do your
dishes, you call your bestfriend, or you call your
significant other. And we'remaking it more enjoyable as
you're doing the dishes. Wecould even make it a fun game of

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you, like, put up a like a timerto see how fast you can get it
done. You have more power thanyou're giving yourself credit
for in these draining tasks.
Masculine energy will tell youjust shut up and do it. Feminine
energy will say, How can I makethis feel so good, so

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pleasurable that it could beannoying to somebody that this
is actually so enjoyable, right?
So that's what we could do forthe the dishes Okay, to make
doing Facebook Lives moreenjoyable. So it depends on how
you're currently feeling aboutFacebook Lives. But for me, if I
put on a cute outfit. It makesit more enjoyable. If I can be

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in my car where I have all ofthis natural lighting, it
actually makes it more enjoyablefor me. If I can have a coffee
that I'm holding right and I'mjust like talking on Facebook,
live with a coffee, that makesit more enjoyable for me. If I
can wear something fun, likemaybe I used to wear a lot of
wigs, or I could dress up in acostume, right? Like you don't

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have to do anything that's notauthentic to you. But when we
can brainstorm and create someprotocols of how to make things
more exciting, more fun, moreinviting, more enjoyable, you'll
do them more now, the first timethat we do it, it's you're going
to still have some resistance,okay, because your brain, for

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the longest time, has been told,We don't like doing the dishes,
we don't like going on FacebookLive, we don't like, you know,
cleaning the house. So you'llstill have some resistance, but
that will fade. The more youlean into the fun, the more you
lean into the pleasure, andeventually you'll just naturally

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do these things where you'relike, Oh, I'm washing the
dishes. I'm going to go call mybest friend. It's like your
brain will get the cue Right.
Like, typically, when you havebad breath, we brush our teeth.
It's a cue Right? Or maybeyou're like, you smell your
armpit, and you're like, Ireally need a shower, right? So

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that's a cue. We can manufacturecues that aren't, aren't as like
a parent, but we can manufacturethem by doing them more. So we
do the dishes we always call thebest friend, maybe when you're
responding back to messages youget on your walking pad and you
walk right? So there's somethingI call double dipping. How can

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we double dip and engineer youto actually have more hours in
your day and to make it all feelso enjoyable. Okay? So as I'm on
a team, meeting with my team, Ican be on the walking pad. So
not only am I pouring into myteam, I'm getting steps right?

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As I'm doing the dishes, I canlisten to personal development.
This is how you manipulate time,right? Like this is how you
actually add more time into yourday. Is seeing how you can
really leverage from the timethat you wake up to the time you
go to bed. I also do at night. Ido money sleep hypnosis. If

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you've never heard of thisbefore, type into YouTube.
Money, sleep hypnosis. If youhave a partner, you'll probably
want to put like one air pod in,or like one ear bud in, but it
will rewire your brain while yousleep. Most busy moms and busy

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women don't have time to sitdown and do a meditation. It is
quite hysterical when I try todo a meditation during the day,
like, but can I do a moneyhypnosis while I'm sleeping?
Yes, and your brain is actuallyway more powerful when you're
sleeping, right? Cuz it's likeall seeping into the
subconscious, which is actuallywhat we need anyways, when

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people are listening toaudiobooks, and they're like, I
don't want to listen toaudiobooks because I'm worried
I'm not going to heareverything. Your brain is
hearing it, even if you're nothearing it, okay, so you
listening to even an audio bookwhen you're sleeping, I swear to
you will help you do.

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Uh, it's huge. So if there's, ifyou want a money podcast or a
money book, or anything like,your subconscious is running 90%
of your day, which is thencreating your life, right where
the sum of all of the decisionsthat we're making, but so many
of those decisions are subconscious. So really, during

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wealthy year, our biggest focusis working on your subconscious.
Okay, this is when we're notdoing this type of work. This is
where people get frustratedbecause they are like, I stop
and start, right? Like, I makeprogress, but then I self
sabotage. Drop a me in the chat.
If you're like, Oh, I've hadthis, that behavior of like, oh

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my gosh, I'm getting the thingdone. I'm like, I'm on fire.
This is amazing. And then onelittle hiccup happens, or one
challenge happens, or maybe youeven create a challenge, right?
And you don't even know youdon't even fully know it. We're
all human. There's no judgment.
I have seen this pattern inmyself, and this is what's so

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powerful about this type ofwork, is your heart is already
on board. It's your brain thatwe have to do some of the heavy
lifting for your heart. Yourheart has already been on board.
That's why you say yes to thingslike this. This is that's why
you dream big dreams. That's whyyou buy the office supplies,

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right? Like you, you do thethings to get started, but it's
the it's the finishing that isso hard for people because of
our sub conscious drop your agein the chat, like how old you
are if you if you care to Share,drop your age in the chat, 5040,

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4644 3332 3032 okay, so howeverold you are, we have, we have
basically this giant file folderof all your beliefs, okay, of

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all of the decisions that you'vemade, all of your experiences up
To this point, there's tons ofgood ones, and there's a lot of
not so nice ones, right? And sothat operating system is walking
around with you every singleday. Imagine if we all still had
box cell phones, right? Like,imagine us all walking around

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with Box cell phones, but thenthey're being like, 2% of the
world has like, the current, youknow, iPhone, right? And you'd
be like, what is that? Right?
Like, imagine a world filledwith Box cell phones, but then a
handful of people have whateverthis is, right? And so what's so
powerful about this is ourcurrent self is trying to be the

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latest iPhone, okay, but you'rewalking around with a box phone.
Your box phone can't textpeople, your box phone can't get
on the internet, and so we'vegotta upgrade you, AKA your
subconscious, for that hockeystick effect to happen. That's

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the missing piece. You'realready so capable of big ass
dreams, big ass goals, you arewhatever you've stopped and
started. You're capable of thosethings, but we have an operating
system for how many, howevermany old ears. You're, you're,
you are right now, that's howmany file folders, if you will,

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that we have of certain beliefs,certain experiences, certain
energies, and some is workingfor you, and there's some that
are working against you. So inthe hockey stick effect, while I
why I get so sad when peoplequit so quickly is because this
does take a little bit of timeif, if we're working on rewiring

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everything and adjusting andgetting you comfortable and
regulated around this new you,right? You just met you, right?
You just met your wealthiestself. It's kind of like when you
go on a date with somebody. Mostpeople don't get married on the
first, second or third date.

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Most sometimes there's that likeunicorn story, which we love,
but most people like they'vegotta keep dating, and
eventually they move intogether, and eventually maybe
they have kids and they like,live their best life, but just
like a hockey stick effect, ittakes time. Some people date for
years and then they get married.
Some are like, dating formonths, and they're like, I know

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that. It's you, right? Soeveryone's timeline is
different. However, all of itdoes take. Time to build that
strong foundation. With thatbeing said, you can create huge
things in the process of youdoing that, but it's important
to get your mind on board that,like you're not going anywhere.

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Like I've made it very, veryclear to everyone in your
wealthy year, you're you'remarrying the program for a year,
like money or not. It's notabout the money, it's it's you
committing to you, like, becausewhen you're at the altar and
you're saying your vows tosomebody, you are making it a
commitment. Now sometimes thatdoesn't always work out. So what

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I'm asking is you give it ayear, like you're marrying the
program for a year. And reallyit's not even the program, it's
you're committing to yourwealthiest self for the whole
year. Because there are going tobe moments where you want to
quit. And I don't even want usto have to even entertain the
idea it's like, I want to quit,but I know I can't like, I'm in
it, right? I've gotta see thisthrough, because your brain

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needs to see that. Yesterday,there were moments where I
didn't want to quit, but I waslike, I'm tired, right? And
tiredness is typically a cue toour brain to stop what we're
doing. So it's that mentalstrength that is so key that
then I just would laugh, becauseI'm like, There's no way I can

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quit. Now I've already gone toofar. My My car is across town,
so I'd have to walk there,right? So I might as well just
keep taking the path that I'm onto get to my car. So what if
quitting just wasn't an option?
If you have chill children,there's days where we don't love

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being a parent, but do we go,You know what? I'm going to quit
on you? No, we're like, I don'tlike you right now. You might
not say it, say that to yourchild, but like, we have our
moments where, like this ishard, but we never entertain the
idea of walking away from thembecause we made literally an

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emotional commitment to supportthem, we get to give that same
love to ourselves. So like, whatif we just, like, can we save
time and energy and just allagree? Like, quitting is not an
option. We can take breaks, wecan adjust, we can shift, we can

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ask for help. But what if justquitting was not even on the
table? You would actuallyprobably save so much time and
energy. Like, I've noticed whereI gave up too quickly in my
past, and I'm like, why? Right?
Like, expect hurdles, expecthiccups, expect obstacles,
expect everyone not being onboard with you. Right?

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Everyone's on their own journey,even your partner, even your
loved ones, even your clients,your customers, everyone's on
their own journey, but you getto focus on your journey like
this. Is time for you to beselfish and create the life that
you desire, that you're so inlove with yourself, you're so in
love with your life that it'sannoying. Like, what if you had

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the life and you were the womanthat everyone's just like, how
do you do it? Right? Like, andyou're like, I just love myself,
and I want you to love yourself,right? There's there's plenty of
that to go around. Love isinfinite. Love is infinite. So
let's give more of it toourselves, because it's so

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inspiring for other people,especially if you have kids like
I kept FaceTiming Emma yesterdaybecause I want her to see what
it's like to go towards a bigdream. I want that to be her
normal like, Yeah, my mom goesfor big goals and dreams. So I
can right like anyone around usthat we love, they get so much

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more inspiration by our actionsversus our words. It's easy to
say things. It's easy to say,I'm going to do this and put
that on your to do list. It's awhole another ball game to,
like, actually follow throughwith it. And so that goes for
our our container, if it wasjust normal, where everyone was,

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like, becoming the best versionof themselves, like we feed into
all of that with each other,which is why your wealthy year
is really important to me,because it's creating this
immersive experience that youactually get to meet your
wealthiest self, and you get toregulate around that, and you
just get to fall madly in lovewith that human that it just

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feels so normal, As if you'rebrushing your teeth, as if
you're spending $5 as if you're,you know, cleaning up your
house, or whatever it may be,things that feel normal in our
day to day currently are becauseof you eventually had to make
them normal. You didn't know howto brush your teeth at one

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point, you didn't know how toclean a house, you didn't know
how to drive right like. Okay,things that feel so normal to
our current identity at onepoint they didn't. So that's the
cool part about this process, iswe can do the same thing for
you, becoming your happiest,healthiest, wealthiest self.
Okay, so drop in the chat howyou are currently managing your

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tasks? Is it a paper to do list?
Is it a task software? Is it abunch of post it notes? Is it a
bunch of notebooks? Is it all inyour head? Like, how are you
managing all the things that youhave to do reoccurring, one

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time, for your business, foryour for your home, for
yourself. There's no wronganswer here. I will never tell
you have to do a certain system.
Okay, we are going to put somestructure in place, but that can
be applicable to any modality,right? If you love paper, I'm
not going to tell you to godigital. If you love digital,
I'm not going to tell you to gopaper. I love a hybrid. I love

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digital with paper. It's been mymost successful solution. Okay,
so no matter the modality thatyou love, for task management,
our goal is to lean into whatfeels good for you and make it
better. Okay, so today'sworkshop, that's what we're
going to cover. Okay, pen andpaper, calendar alerts,
whiteboard, combo of digital andpaper. Okay, so my first

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question to you in the workshopis, is this system working for
you, and can it work for yourwealthiest self? Like, is it
working for you, and do you feellike it'll continue to work for
your wealthiest self. So justdrop yes or no in the chat.

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My best piece of advice is,don't do what everyone else is
doing. Do you know you best?
Okay, do what works for you. Soif you know you've gotta have a
bunch of alarms. And even ifpeople are like, Oh my gosh,
your alarms are so annoying. Ifit works for you, why would you
stop doing it? Right? If a giantwhiteboard works for you, but
like, no one gets it, that'sokay. It's not affecting them.

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It has to work for you. You'vegotta take power of your day to
day for all of this to work, andthat goes for task management.
Okay, so I've see a lot ofyeses. I see some nos. I see
some yes and nos. Okay, so forthose that are either like a in
between or a no, I want you tothink about what have you i

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That's it. But if it's not fullyworking with you, for you, we
need to play around with it. Solike, if you're fully paper and
it's not working, maybe we try atask management software.
There's so many free ones outthere, okay? If you're
completely digital and it's notworking for you, maybe we try
pen and paper, right? So thereis some testing to do when it's

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not when something's notworking, but just, you know,
it's the definition of insanity.
If we're doing the same thingover and over and over again and
we're expecting a differentresult, then that's not setting
you up for success. Okay, soplay around with that. We're not
going to cover that today, butthrough the process, we can, we
can find what works for you.

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What I need from you is Hold on,1-234-567-8910, okay. What I
need from you is I need you todo 12 pieces of paper. I said 10
earlier when we were prepping,but I actually need 12. So can
you get 12 pieces of paper forme? And just tell me when you're
ready in the chat, they can beblank pieces of paper. They can

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be aligned, but we will wantseparate sheets of paper. Okay,
so tomorrow is ourimplementation session for
everything I'm talking abouttoday. So I'm going to be doing
a lot of talking today, but thenthat will give you time to
process and then tomorrow I'mholding space for you to then

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apply what we're doing today.
Okay, so we're not going to havea ton of work time today. What I
have found to do I, what I foundto work best is I teach, then we
end. It gives your brain time toprocess. Then I shift you in
energy of doing. So there's, youdon't have to do a bunch today.
So this is kind of like, it'syour own, like, warm up, and

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then I get you in the gametomorrow. But obviously, like,
if you get off the call andyou're like, I want to run,
like, again, I'll never stopyou. Like, run. But then just
know, tomorrow I'm holding spacefor you to apply. Okay, so
everyone, RHS is ready, Dana'sready. Tammy is ready. Yay.
Okay, alright. So what I needfrom you is, we're going to. To

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really think about your tasklists in a different way. Okay,
so we're going to take aholistic approach, and we're
going to go through this one byone by one. So the first one is
your energy and your mindset, ifyou can just write my energy and
my mindset at the top of yourpiece of paper. Okay, so Okay,

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write that everyone got that. Sowhat we're wanting to do is, on
the left side, I want you towrite down what you're already
doing, okay, what you're alreadydoing that's working for your
energy and your mindset. Okay,so what are you already doing?

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Cuz, again, this is buildingevidence for you of what you're
already doing that's working,that's working. Don't put it.
Don't put anything down that'snot working. Okay? And then on
the right side, what do youneed? Slash? Want to do that you

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you have a hunch. Would supportyou when it comes to your energy
and your mindset, okay? So letme give you example, if we're
not getting consistent sleep.
And I say that with love, I'm amom too. I know that there's
like, consistent sleep as like,as much as you can Okay, and
we're like, I know an extra oneto two hours a night would
change the game for me. Then weput that on the need to want or

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need and want list. If you know,getting more water in would
support you. We're going to putthat, okay, maybe already,
you're already getting your10,000 steps in a day. So write
that on the left side. Okay, soI'm going to give you just a
little bit of time again. We'renot doing a ton of
implementation, but I want togive you just like, a minute to

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start that list, okay, and thenwe'll move on to the next one.
But these are great, like,homework prompts for you to
think. And I have found, atleast for my brain, when I
unlock Pandora's box, I'll thinkof way more things, right? Like,
so, you know, don't feel likeyou have to have it all figured
out right now, but we at leastwant to, like, start the

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process. Yes, Tammy,as you're making the list, and
you're right. So like, forexample, 15 minutes sprints are
working incredibly for me. Do onthe need to and want to across
from that on the same line. Am Ipicking something that would
work better with specific to the15 minute sprints. Or can it be
something completely different?

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Yeah,I just, I would say, go where
your mind goes. So like writeall of it down. So if there's,
like, maybe you have somethingduring the 15 minute sprint that
you want to do better, then,yeah, like put that on there,
because they all go together forsure. Does that help? Thank you.
I think so. Yeah, okay. Anyother questions so far,

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sometimes we're worried about,like, what we don't know, right?
You don't know what you don'tknow. However, I say this for
all of us, if there's stuff IOh, No, can you guys Hear me?

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Okay? Ican you hear me? Yes, okay,

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welcome back back from ourcommercial break. I'm telling
you, technology, anytime I am upleveling it tries so hard to
slow me down. Literally, I wasstarting the race yesterday, and
my Nike app completely lockedme. Out, and I like to track my

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run because I don't know whatmile marker I'm in. Like, they
don't have a bunch of things onthe route, so I like seeing
where I'm at. And right beforethe race, it, like, completely
locked me out. The fireworks aregoing off, and I'm, like, trying
to, like, get back into my Nikeapp. But I wasn't, like,
stressed about it. I was like,I'm I'm figuring this out. So

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it's like, I just, it's not thatI expect technology to break
down, but it doesn't. I used tolet it really bother me, but I'm
like, Bring it on. Like, you'renot going to stop me. I will. I
will call all of you if I haveto, like, I will do whatever it
takes. Um, so back from ourcommercial break. Um, so my
biggest thing, I want to makesure that you heard this. There

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are things that we don't know,there's things that I don't
know, okay, but we're notworried about those things yet.
If there's things on our listthat we're not currently doing,
that we're not mastering, thatwe're not making better, then
we're trying to skip ahead tosomething that we're not even
probably ready for. Right? Sothat's a lack mindset. Abundant

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mindset is, oh my gosh, I haveso many things right in front of
me that I can work on. Let me,let me focus on what I do know
right now in this moment, andlet me get so good at these
things. I've been wanting totake a daily green shot for so
long, and I just kept talkingmyself out of it, because I'm

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like, Oh my gosh, it's going totaste bad. It's going to be so
hard, right? And again, we don'tdo that anymore. That's not how
we show up. We show up and we wecommit. Okay? We figure out the
how later, if I know somethingis going to benefit my
wealthiest self, it's a yes.
This is your year of Yes. If wecontinue to make decisions from

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our current identity, we'llcontinue to create our current
reality. And if you don't wantyour current reality to be your
forever reality, even if it'sgood, trust me, I have a good
life, but I want more, and so ifI want more, I've gotta move
differently. I've gotta makedifferent decisions and build
off what is working and let goof what is not working. And it

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sounds so matter of fact,doesn't it? It's just like that
sounds so simple, right? Like domore of what's working. Do the
things that you know willbenefit you. Let go of the BS,
that's where the subconscious isstopping you. Okay, these things
are so matter of fact, which canmake us so mad at ourselves if

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we're not careful, because we'relike, you know, to get steps in.
You know, to get water, and youknow sleep is good for you, but
a lot of these things that weknow work for us or will benefit
us, and if we're not doing them,or we're not doing them more
than we want to, or we're notdoing them more than we know we
should be doing, it is a form ofdelaying. It is a form of self

(33:00):
sabotage. It is a form of, Idon't think I'm worthy of what's
next, right? And we may not besaying it in that way, but
subconsciously, if, if on everysection that I'm doing today
with you, if there's a lot ofthings that we're not doing that

(33:21):
we know will benefit us. We'rewe are most likely protecting
ourselves from the futurebecause we're afraid of becoming
our wealthiest self. There'sfear around it, okay? Maybe it's
a you're afraid of keeping itthat used to be a big fear of

(33:43):
mine, like, oh my gosh, I'mgoing to get there and then it's
all going to, like, crumble andfail, like I'm going to fail and
like, I'm going to loseeverything type of thing, right?
So so much more of this ismindset and energy than anything
else. And so when in doubt, wego back to energy. I like to
focus on energy versus mindset,because your mind is more

(34:07):
powerful than we we even knowand so for us to consciously
work with your mind, it's notthe easiest thing. So I When in
doubt, go back to energy,because when you can get your
energy on board, your mind willactually, in a way, it's kind of
like double dipping, in a way,your mind will get more on board

(34:30):
without you having to force itright. When you go to the
grocery store and you'restarving, don't you want to,
like, buy everything in sight,versus when you go to the
grocery store and you're nothungry, right? You stick to the
list, or maybe you even orderonline, because you're like, I
don't even want to go into agrocery store, right? And so you
get a different result becauseof the protocol, because of the

(34:55):
system. So you eating before yougo into the grocery store, is a.
Them is a protocol, because youknow yourself so well. And
you're like, if I don't eat whenI go into the grocery store, I'm
going to want everything bad forme. Or, like, if you're like, I
don't put the cookies in thekitchen, because I'm going to
want the cookies, right? And Idon't want to have to see them

(35:16):
and, like, turn them down.
That's okay, right? I loveputting our walking pad in our
kitchen. That is like togetherwith our living room, because
I'll walk on it more if it'sdown in the basement where no
one is I'm not going to use it.
We have a treadmill down there.
It does not get used so I lovethe walking pad because it's

(35:38):
right in front of me. I see itright. So a lot of the things on
each list that we're not doing,there's tons of creative ways to
make it so easy and so fun,okay, to make it just more
enjoyable. So that way weactually do it more okay. So
that is sheet number one. Again.

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You're just going to want to putthese off to put these off to
the side, because we're notusing a lot of time today. I
will the walking pad. I'll getyou guys that link here in just
a little bit, especially if youwant a pink walking pad. Someone
sent me a message that they weresold out the other day, and
she's like, please stop buyingthem. Sold out. I keep buying
them. For people, my dream is todo a walking challenge and give

(36:22):
away a ridiculous amount ofwalking pads, and we all just
have pink walking pads, andwe're just living our best life.
So stay tuned for that. Okay,the next section is your
appearance, appearance. So thisis you, your your actual
physical self. Okay, so this isthe outside, so energy and

(36:42):
mindset is the inside, and yourappearance is everything that
the eye can see. Okay, so justlike the last one, what are you
already doing that is reallyworking for you from an
appearance standpoint, that isnot on your energy and mindset
list. And then what do you knowthat you need to do, slash want

(37:05):
to do when it comes to yourappearance? Okay, so for
example, if you're like, I havenot gotten my hair cut in
forever. I need a haircut thatwould go on the need slash want
list. If you're like, I loveputting on makeup, but I'm not
doing it that often. Then putthat on the need and want list
if you want a new wardrobe, orat least a few new clothes that

(37:26):
would go on it. So this is likethe some people would argue.
This is the vain stuff, but itdoes make a difference. When you
look good, you feel good. Whenyou feel good, you look good.
And they are connected. So Idon't see them as vain. Yeah.
Dana, don't, don't let theinternet Gods stop you from
getting in here.

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You're meant to be here.
We do need wealthy mama vinylstickers, and I'm working on it.
I see them on those walkingpads. I see them on all of our
cars. Yes, it's already in theworks. I love that we're on the
same page. Okay, so yourappearance. So let me grab that

(38:10):
walking path. Are you guys doingthat list? Okay, now I also want
to normalize that you don't haveto wear a full suit and a full
face of makeup to feel good.
Okay, I have noticed that Idon't love wearing jeans. I
think it was Dana that asked me.
She's like, do you always wearleggings? I'm like, Yes, I

(38:31):
pretty much do. I have, like,two pairs of jeans that I own. I
stopped buying them because I'mlike, I'm not wearing them. I
don't buy a bunch of dresses.
I've actually been able to savemoney because I'm buying things
that I'm actually going to wearon a day to day basis. And then
for, like, the Taylor Swiftconcert, I'm like, ooh, let me,
like, put together a reallydreamy outfit, but it's for
something specific. So I'vesaved so much time and energy by

(38:52):
just, like, leaning into, like,what do I want to wear? And when
I'm in athletic gear, I weartennis shoes, and when I have
tennis shoes on, I want to workout like I want to walk I like,
it keeps me more active than if,and then if I'm in scratchy
jeans and an uncomfortable, likesweater, and I'm like, sweating

(39:13):
my ass off, and I'm like, souncomfortable, right? Like that
what I'm my own boss. I can wearwhat I want. Why would I not
wear what I love to wear? Right?
So we get to, like, reallydefine what CEO you would wear,
and it will change based on yourenvironment. But like, Let's

(39:35):
wear what you actually want towear.
Okay, let me get the pinkwalking Pad LINK.
It's on sale right now too,which is nice. Okay,

(39:56):
okay, hopefully that works. I'mwearing working out clothes.
Just have no excuses. Yes,exactly so good. They're
restrictive and hard to wearwhen playing exactly right like
no one's forcing me to wearjeans. So why would I wear them?
Right again? All of this soundsso matter of fact, but it's

(40:18):
surprising to me how often we'redoing things that we actually
don't want to do. We're being acertain way that we don't want
to be, and we do have power tochange. And so, like, that's
what really like all of this isabout, okay, so your appearance
is next, so go ahead and putthat to the side. So we're all
we're just getting these allstarted, but I want to make sure

(40:39):
we have plenty of time to, like,get through all of them and talk
about a few other things too.
Okay, so this will be yourhomework. Okay, so the next
piece of paper is yourenvironment. What are you doing
for your environment? So this isyour office, your car, your
home. It's where you spend mostdays. Okay? Your office, your
car, your home. So what are wedoing for your environment

(41:05):
that's already working, okay?
And what do you need and want todo for your environment? Okay?
So maybe for you, you need acleaning schedule. Maybe for you
you want to pay somebody to comein once a month to do a deep
clean on your house. Maybe foryou, you want to enroll a
laundry service. All of thesethings are actually more

(41:28):
affordable than your you may betelling yourself, right? We get
to break up with makingdecisions on fake costs that we
don't even know yet. One of thebest advice that one of my first
mentors told me is it's free togo look right. It's free to go
window shop. And you maysurprise yourself, there may be

(41:51):
a mom local to you that wantssome extra cash, and she's like,
I would totally clean your wholehouse for you for 50 bucks. Who
would say yes to that? Right? Wedon't know until we try right.

(42:13):
And this is this, by far, whenyou just lean in right and you
try, you go ask, you go pricethings out. We had the plumber
here last week because our waterwasn't staying hot for long, and
it just got to a point where itwas like, plumber help, right?

(42:33):
Like, and it wasn't that, itwasn't that much money, right?
Like, it's just like, a matterof stopping and saying, okay,
like, let's get the plumber inhere. Let's do the thing right,
and it makes a world of adifference. Um, we order factor
meals, and it's so helpfulbecause it's just one thing
that's not on my plate, right?
It's nice. You are not meant tobe a broke, burnt out, busy

(42:55):
woman. Let me repeat myself. Youare not meant to be a broke,
burnt out, busy woman trying tojust survive life. Expect more
from yourself. No one in heredeserves even a percentage of
that feeling. Your best willlook different on different days

(43:22):
based on so many lifecircumstances. I heard this the
other day, and it was soprofound, and I'll share it with
you. She said, How I measure mybest each day? Like Did I do my
best today? Is making sure Idon't compromise my mental
health, which I loved. How oftenare we pushing ourselves and

(43:47):
stuffing down our feelings, ouremotions, our energy, right?
Like, okay, I can do one morething, and you're like eyes are
closing. That's not, that's nota quality of life, right? If you
can pour from your overflow in aday, and you don't deplete
yourself, and you're like, oh mygosh, I crushed it today. It's

(44:10):
because you only took youroverflow, you didn't deplete
yourself to the the last drop,that you're literally, like,
falling into bed, right? Oryou're like, closing your eyes
on your laptop, or fallingasleep on the couch, or whatever
it may be. To me, that means weare over extending our energy

(44:31):
and we've got some energymanagement to do and or some
task management, right? Likesomething's got to shift so you
don't deplete yourself, becauseevery time you deplete yourself,
now we have to fill that wholebucket back up. Imagine if you
could just give everyone elseyour overflow, but it never
takes away from you. What if youonly gave people your overflow

(44:56):
and never. Deplete you. This iswhy it's so important to
continue to build your overflow,because then you're never going
below the overflow. You justhave more than enough, more than
enough. It's like the fountainthat just keeps going. You're

(45:16):
not depleting yourself, but theminute that fountain stops,
we're now going to go towards adeficit. Right? The minute that
fountain stops, there's only somuch water left, there's only so
much energy left, there's onlyso much money left. So overflow
is key. Everything that I'mhelping you do is getting you in

(45:42):
an overflow. Some people willtake longer because they're at
such a deficit. Okay? It's thathockey stick effect. So I would
love to know from an energystandpoint, if you look at like
100% so this is not the beliefpercentage. This is your energy
if you're at over 100% I alreadyhave you an overflow. If you're

(46:05):
under that, then we we've got toget you an overflow. So what
percentage do you currently feellike you're at right now? Energy
wise, Give me a percentage, 90%75% 60% I 60, 5050, okay, tell
me why you gave yourself thatscore, that percentage. Do we

(46:31):
feel tired? Do we feeloverwhelmed? Give me some
context. Working out, okay, Iover commit to things and don't
know. Don't allow myself enoughwhite space. Okay, tired and
tired and tired, feels like Ican't catch up with myself.

(46:55):
Okay? Over overwhelmedhomeschool. Okay. A little
tired, busy weekend, earningmoney and overwhelmed. Okay, so
our job, our mission, even, isto get you in overflow. So if
you're no matter what percentageyou're at right now. Okay, so

(47:23):
let me draw a little buckethere.
Okay, so we'll take halfway,okay, so if you're at 50%
then we've gotta get over 100%okay, so this is where the
hockey stick comes into play,because there's no way you'll
have the whoosh until we're inoverflow. I'll say that again.

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There's no way you will have thewhoosh and and and it feel good
until we're in overflow. Okay?
And you have power over yourenergy bucket. No one is taking
or adding without your consentno one, even when there's
somebody on the road being ajerk, you don't have to respond

(48:07):
back to them, or you can ifthat, if that supports you,
right, but you have consent overeverything, and can walk away,
can speak up, can can dowhatever You need to do to
protect your energy and alsoincrease your energy. Okay, so
what we want to think about is,what are all the things that

(48:29):
you're not doing that will getyou in overflow? Okay, this goes
back to the energy to do list,but I think it's important to
bring back up because all ofthese other categories that
we're going through today arecontingent on your energy. When
in doubt. Go back to your energyif you ever feel stuck, if you

(48:54):
ever feel blah, if you ever feeloverwhelmed, it's your energy
trying to send you a messagethat it needs love. It needs
attention. You You've got tostop and pour into yourself and
not just keep going to go okay.
So, for example, as soon as Igot home yesterday, I went
immediately into recovery mode.

(49:17):
I took an ice bath, I put thisspecial lotion on my legs. I put
ice sleeves on I got a full,like, more sleep than I normally
do. I took a melatonin gummyRight? Like I did certain things
that I know will support me. Ifeel great today, like my legs

(49:37):
are a little sore, but that's tobe normal. And like, the fact
that I can come on here andlike, even, like, articulate
words to you, I think it's huge.
So we really want to see whereyou're at and get you back into
overflow. And then once I haveyou in overflow, it's our job to
keep you in overflow, meaningyou and me. Okay, so. This is
where you master the hockeystick effect versus the up and

(50:02):
down, up and down, up and down.
It's because we're not we arenot mastering your energy
management. If you only learnone thing from me, energy
management, when you master yourenergy management, you can do
anything your mind will get onboard. Most people in the

(50:24):
personal, personal developmentspace are talking mindset,
mindset, mindset, it's too It'stoo big. You've gone through
trauma, you've gone throughchallenges, tribulations, like
it's too big of a thing to startwith. That's why most people are
struggling. Energy is so mucheasier to start with when we can

(50:46):
get your energy on board. We cando anything. We can do anything,
anything. It's so cool. Okay, sowe want to see what do we need
to do to fill this in and do itin the 15 minute sprint. If all
you did for the rest of thisweek was get you an overflow,

(51:07):
you could literally accomplishso much in week two, okay? And
then week three, week four, etc.
This is your mission. We've gotto close the gap and get you
over 100% okay? And what's coolabout this is then you can be
proactive to keep you inoverflow. Okay, so although I

(51:29):
depleted a lot of energyyesterday, I already had a
recovery protocol that I bouncedback so fast. So it's that pro
active energy. It's havingprotocols in place that really
help you master the art ofenergy management. If you know

(51:52):
going to family functions drainsyou. Why are we continuing to do
it? The minute that I stoppedgoing to certain family
functions, I felt so happy. I'mlike, I don't want to go. Why

(52:13):
should I go? I don't want to go.
None of these people feel good.
They're not who I would hang outin real life. Okay? I think
family is who you choose to bearound. It's not just just
because your family, by blood,doesn't mean that you get my
time and energy. And my kidsreally helped me get to that

(52:35):
place before it was being adoormat and be like, oh sure,
I'll be treated like that? Oh,sure, I'll smile and nod, but I
was dying inside. And more thandying, it was draining my
energy, and I was choosing tolet it drain my energy. I was
choosing to put myself in thosesituations so it's on me. It's
not on those other people. Ican't control other people. I

(52:59):
can only control me so theminute that we stop pointing the
finger at everyone else and lookat ourselves of like, what can I
do to protect my energy, mytime? Your whole world changes.
And one of my favoriteaffirmations is it's okay to
disappoint people. Just don'tdisappoint yourself. It's okay

(53:24):
to disappoint other people. Icare deeply about other people's
emotions and energy, but itcan't be at the detriment of who
I am, who I am becoming, andthat's where I think we have a
slippery slope, because if noteveryone likes us, it can sting

(53:45):
a little bit, right? If noteveryone's down with who we are
or who we're becoming, it canfeel a little stretchy. It can
feel a little uncomfy. Butdoesn't it also give you so much
joy to be that person, to bethat version of yourself, and so

(54:07):
we've got to play with that andget regulated around it so you
can actually be who you're meantto be. There's two relationships
that you can never get awayfrom, the relationship with
yourself and the relationshipwith money. You will for the
rest of your life and evenbeyond your physical life. Here

(54:32):
you're stuck with you and you'restuck with money.
Everyone else is just icing onthe cake. Okay, so it's not
selfish for you to get the bestrelationship with yourself and
the best relationship with yourmoney, because everyone benefits
that you love from you doing so,including yourself. This is the

(54:55):
ultimate win win, when you canreally master. For you loving
yourself and continuing to loveyourself. And same thing with
money, no matter who you areright now, no matter how much
energy you have, no matterwhat's in your bank account
right now, no matter what you'vebeen through, no matter what you
can actually love yourself moreright now, and you can love your

(55:19):
money more right now. It's achoice, and it when you love
yourself and you love moneyright now. We we we attract the
energy that we're putting out.
So if we keep looking in themirror saying, I don't like
myself, or I wish I was like,thinner, or I wish I had more

(55:41):
muscle, right? It's okay todesire more from yourself, but
we can't have the blah energyaround it. We also get to
recognize what we currently haveand feel blessed and and
grateful for that, right? Andthen desire more. So there's
nothing wrong with desiring orwanting more or to be better,

(56:01):
but we get to find ways to loveyou now, love your money now,
and that will attract more ofthat. There was somebody on the
race that I passed, and he wasrunning the full and like you
could tell that, like he was, hewas he was struggling, like he

(56:21):
was limping a little bit. And I,I took my AirPod out, and I go,
you're almost there, like you'vegot this. And he's like, I know
I've got it, like I'm strugglinga little bit, but I'm going to
keep going. And it was justlike, so inspiring to me,
because he could have been blahabout it, but he chose to to be
positive about it, and that it'sjust, it's always a choice, and

(56:43):
there's no wrong decision. It'sjust what's feel, what feels
best to you, and you can changeyour mind too. So like, if you
have a moment of blahness Andyou're like, okay, that doesn't
feel really good, don't shameyourself for having it just
choose again right within a fiveminute time span, you can go

(57:04):
from feeling so blah to so good.
You really can. And it's soexciting when we like see it
happening, because then it'slike, holy smokes, and we get to
be careful of it being onoutside validation. So this is
got to come internal. So wedon't we, we want to be careful

(57:27):
of Well, I wouldn't feel blahabout my money if I had more of
it, like if you had an extra$5,000 of course, who doesn't
want an extra $5,000 right? Soagain, it's not bad to want to
desire more, but let's feel goodabout where you're at right now,
and desire more. This also helpswith being an energetic match.

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When you're feeling blah aboutyour money, you're then an
energetic match for moreblahness. So the same is true
about you feeling so gratefuland excited about your money.
Now you're going to attract moregratitude, right? More love,
more excitement, and you're anenergetic match for it. This is

(58:13):
like the woo, woo side ofthings, which is so huge. Okay,
so as we're going through allthe task management stuff, the
biggest, most important thing isto focus on how we can get you
overflowing, because, if not,your emails are going to pile up
again, right? Like, I don't wantto go surface level with all of

(58:33):
your tasks, where we're justlike, you know, crossing things
off, if we don't have yourenergy and overflow, if we don't
create systems and protocols,then your tasks are going to
keep piling up, and it's goingto keep overwhelming you. And so
you understanding your capacityand what you you truly have and

(58:54):
want to have available to otherpeople is key. You would shock
yourself like so if you're at a50% if you're at 100% you
probably can be more and do moreif you wanted to. So that's why
getting you an overflow andupgrading you and your energy
will actually help with all ofthese other categories that
we're working on today. So likefirst and foremost is always

(59:17):
energy. So when in doubt, goback to the energy. Okay, so we
talked about your appearance andwe talked about your
environment. Now let's go to thenext category. So get a new
piece of paper. Okay, so this isthe fun category. So what are
you doing that already is justso fun, it's lighting you up.

(59:38):
And what do you need or want todo around fun. Okay, so I'll
give you just like a minute toget that list just up and
running and going again. We'renot spending a ton of time
today. That'll be yourimplementation. You.

(01:00:00):
You do? You do? Got this? Jess,I love that I got this. So good.
Which race are you doing? Youdecide
I love that you signed up. Thatjust makes my heart so happy.
Um, the queen bee. Oh, fun. BYeah, that's perfect. So good.

(01:00:25):
Love it.
All right, we've got that listup and running.
Yes, yep, you're so everyone hasall their dates and times, but
I'll send it again, just so youhave it. But tomorrow is 11am
Eastern, Standard Time, 11 toone. Yep. All right, go ahead

(01:00:56):
and get a new piece of paper. Ijust want to make sure we get
through all of our list here.
Okay, the next category, theremay be some overlap with your
energy, okay, your healthcategory. So this is you, your
health, your well being. So whatare we doing consistently that
is working for you, and what dowe need and want to do? So

(01:01:18):
again, there might be someoverlap on the energy, but we'll
go deeper with that. Like, maybewe haven't been to the to the
doctors in a while. Maybe you'relike, I really do want to find a
diet to to get on. And really adiet, to me, is like a meal
plan, like a structure aroundyour food. Okay, so your health
and your well being. I'llgive you like a minute to get

(01:01:43):
that list started.
Mm, hmm, okay, thank you forletting me know.

(01:02:08):
But yeah, you guys get animplementation sprint tomorrow.
I'll double check on my end.
I might have not included it,but you do get one.
You okay, Sis, come in here. Youwant cuddles.

(01:02:32):
All right, next category.
Everyone ready to start yournext piece of paper? Again?
We're just getting thesestarted. I don't expect you to
have a massive list. I just wantto get them prepped for you. All
right. The next category isromance. This doesn't have to be
just with one person likeanother person. It can be, but
this is also like you DatingYourself. Okay, so romance,

(01:02:59):
what are you doing that'sworking, and what do you need
and Want to do?
So you're married, right? Dana,yeah, okay, so you can focus on

(01:03:24):
you and obviously yoursignificant other. So are you
guys going on date nights?
Right? Do we have, like, solidcommunication? Like, do we have
a sit down check in that's more,like, husband and wife stuff
versus, like, the romantic like,that stuff still does matter,
right? Like, are we having sex,right? Like, are we not? So
think about all the facets of anintimate, healthy relationship,

(01:03:47):
and what are we doing that'sworking, and what are we what do
we need and want to do?
I hope that helps.
Okay, I see this category beinga struggle for a lot of women

(01:04:07):
that I work with, because you'regrowing and thriving, and
sometimes the significant othercan be like, what is happening?
Like this human is like, sodifferent, right? Like the
personal development space isstill like this underground
world that a lot of people areexperiencing. So when you're

(01:04:27):
like, talking positive and like,it's going to be the most
wealthy day, and yoursignificant other could be like,
What is going on? Right? Notalways, right, but most people
don't love their job, mostpeople don't love their life,
most people don't love theirrelationship with money, and

(01:04:48):
they're not doing about they'renot doing anything about any of
these things. So when we're thethe the odd people, right? And
we're drinking the Kool Aid. Butthe other. Person isn't drinking
the Kool Aid. It can feel veryodd to that person. It's like,

(01:05:08):
going to the most epic concertand coming back and like,
telling your significant otherabout it, and they're like,
cool, and you're like, but Ineed you to get as excited as I
am. They're like, but I wasn'tthere, right? And so we're
expecting something unrealisticfrom our other person, and then
that typically trips us up. Andwe're like, oh, okay, I'm going

(01:05:32):
to, I call it turtling. Youlike, start to you start to
turtle. And you're like, Okay,I'm not going to, I'm not going
to show my excitement anymore,right? Seriously, you're
laughing because you know you'vedone it, I've done it, right?
And it's a trigger that we feeluncomfortable, and then we start

(01:05:55):
to turtle and reduce ourexcitement, versus allowing the
other person to have theirexperience, but we still can
have our own experience, right?
This was a game changer for mein my relationship, where I just
allowed my partner to have theirown experience, but then not

(01:06:16):
alter my experience. I'm my ownhuman like, I deserve to have
the experiences that I want. Isit hard to leave for trips? Yes,
like it even felt challenging toleave yesterday for a whole day
of running. But it's importantto me even to like get child

(01:06:38):
care. Can feel uncomfortable,but it's important to me, right?
So it's just so important thatwe don't stop ourselves from
living our best life out ofworry about someone else's

(01:06:58):
thoughts about it, right? And Ido believe that there's ways to
co create. I do believe thatthere's ways to have Win Win and
and merge each other's visionstogether. But sometimes there's
going to be moments wherethey're at a standstill, and
you're you're having your ownexperience, and that's okay.

(01:07:22):
Don't force the other person totry to get on your level.
They're going to do their ownthing in their own timing. And
what I have found to be sopowerful is osmosis. Is actually
the most powerful by you justshifting your way of being will
shift your home. Will shift yourrelationship with your partner,

(01:07:45):
not what we say, but us, ourbeing will inspire them. Like,
have you ever hung aroundsomebody that's getting healthy
and you're like, I kind of wantto get healthy, right? Even if
it's not your partner, who wesurround ourselves with is the
sum of who we are. So it canwork oppositely. Okay? If you're

(01:08:07):
the trailblazer in yourrelationship, the other person
will eventually get get onboard. And if not, maybe, then
that's an opportunity for youto, like, work on that of like,
okay, if we're not on board,then we'll figure that out, of
what's best for everyone, butwe, we want to be our best

(01:08:30):
version of ourselves, no matterwhat. You deserve to meet your
best version of yourself. Do youbelieve that you and not even
meet but be, be your bestversion of yourself? Drop a yes
in the chat. You're like, Yes, Ibelieve I deserve that. This is

(01:08:51):
when you actually can createauthentic relationships. If
you're not being your mostauthentic best self, you're
actually out of alignment, notonly with yourself, but everyone
around you. If they don't knowthe real you, how can they

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really love you? I lost two bigrelationships last year, but it
was because I was being my bestauthentic self, and there was a
grieving period, and it doesstill bring me sadness at times,
but I could not keep going onthe trajectory of trying to

(01:09:37):
pretend to be somebody that I'mnot or make decisions that I
don't want to make out of thesake of somebody liking me or
not liking me. And this is thepower of all of this work of you
can actually create the mostdelicious, authentic. Real life

(01:09:58):
when you're really beingyourself and you're being
yourself more and more and moreand more, and being at peace, if
everyone's not down with that,because most people, it feels
uncomfortable because it'striggering to them, that you're
so comfortable beingauthentically you that like hurt
people, hurt people, andsometimes, for some people, it

(01:10:21):
can be really triggering, or ifthey were used to a certain
version of yourself, and thenyou completely change, it almost
creates whiplash of, oh my gosh,you're a whole different person,
but it's actually really you,right? And so this is what's so
powerful that you can be atpeace no matter what happens in

(01:10:42):
your outside world, because youknow you're truly being yourself
that alone will create so muchpeace because you're making
decisions out of your mostauthentic, real, wealthy self,
and knowing that everythingaround you and everyone around
you is there because theyauthentically like you, and

(01:11:02):
focusing on that versus thepeople that don't, is truly
priceless, like it's it's agift. It's the best gift ever.
Um, I'm learning to release alot of family relationships that
are actually super toxic anddraining exactly that's weighing
down your energy bucket. It'shuge. Being around them is so

(01:11:24):
hard and to be authentic,because they know what to say to
trigger the brainwashing. Oh, Isee you.
I see you.
This happened so much when I gotsober. Oh my gosh, I see you
feeling that I lost a friend of30 years a few years back

(01:11:47):
because I was becomingauthentically me. People come
into your life for a reason, aseason and a lifetime. Not
everyone's going to get thelifetime category, and that's
actually a good thing. Thosepeople get to be so special to
you and love the crap out ofyou, and then learn from the
people that are a season, learnfrom the people that are for a

(01:12:09):
reason, right? And just be atpeace with every category and
not hold on so tightly. That'sbeen the big thing that I've had
to work on, is not hold on sotightly to every single one
trying to be in the lifetimecategory, because that's going
to be the smallest amount ofpeople that are in the lifetime

(01:12:30):
category. And we want to makesure that those relationships
are so pure, and we like protectthose at all cost and just allow
the other ones to flow and gohow they're supposed to, and
some people come in and out andyou know, as long as that's okay
and that feels good to you,that's that's cool too. Like I
recently saw a girlfriend forcoffee, and we haven't seen each

(01:12:54):
other in years. And it Have youever had that person where you
just feel like you can, like,pick back up? And there was,
there was never a reason why wedidn't hang out. It's just life
and kids and pandemic and all ofthe things, and we had the best
time. And I was like, Hey, let'ssee each other before Christmas.
She's like, I would love toright? And so, you know, it's
just allowing everything to flowand go in a way that feels good

(01:13:18):
to you, and trust that thosethings are going to continue to
flow and go as long as we'realways coming from a place of
feeling good, right? Feelinggood gets to be a normal thing,
and us being proactive about itis how it can and will be a

(01:13:38):
normal thing. Okay, all right.
The next category on that noteis friends and family. I put
these together because Ibelieve, like I said, your
friends can be your family, andvice versa, your family can be
your friends. You can chooseyour family. So what are you
doing that is feeling reallygood, that's working. And then
what do you need or want to doin the friend category, this
could be like, Oh my gosh, letme set a date with this person

(01:14:00):
for coffee or a play date,right? Like, Emma has a play
date tomorrow, and she's soexcited about it, so that, like,
makes my soul so happy. Okay, sofriends and family, maybe you
want to have a family outingevery quarter you're like, that
would feel so fun for us all tohave something to like look
forward to, or family movienight, and we have popcorn,

(01:14:23):
right? So those are things thatwe want to like, be proactive
about the friends and family todo list. Okay? So really, what
we're doing in this taskmanagement process is we're
zooming out and looking at allpieces and parts of you that
could create ideas for us right,like there might be things that

(01:14:45):
are not on your to do list thatas we're going through these
categories, need your time andattention. My goal for you is to
get you out of reactive mode andget you into proactive energy
and really think. All of thesecategories. If we don't put
dates on the calendar for datenight, it's most likely not
going to happen, or we're goingto spend so much time and energy

(01:15:07):
being like, oh, we should go ona date night. We should go on a
date night, and we should. Andthen a year later, we finally
do. We burned so much energyjust saying should, should and
not. 54321, we have a date nightevery third Saturday, right?
Boom, systematized protocol. Wemake it happen. That's really
what I'm working on with you.

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Okay, alright, the next sectionis your creativity. Okay, so
this can be creating offers,this can be creating content.
This can be painting, playingthe piano, putting outfits
together. This can be makingthings, making food, making
clothes, making headbands. Thislike whatever just lights your

(01:15:53):
soul on fire that you use withyour hands. Okay? So anything
creative is like your mind andyour hands, right? It's like,
Maybe you love a garden, andyou're like, oh my gosh, I love
my garden, or I love playing thepiano, or I love maybe for you,
you love cleaning andorganizing, right? It just it
makes you feel happy. It makesyou feel creative. Maybe for

(01:16:15):
you, you love playing in theguitar. So this is like you, you
using your mind and your handsand and your heart truly. So
think about your creative listof what are you doing from a
creative standpoint that lightsyour soul on fire. And then what
do you need and want to do? Ieveryone is going to get the

(01:16:46):
replay too, just in case you'vemissed something, you can always
go back youalrighty, we have a few more. So

(01:17:06):
let's get to the next list.
Okay, so the next category isyour faith and your
spirituality. So this will meandifferent things for different
people, but really it's timealone to connect to a higher
power, or yourself, okay, to theuniverse, God, source, whatever

(01:17:31):
feels good to you, whatever youbelieve in. So think about
things that you're doing thatare working for you. So this
could be like praying. Thiscould be reading the Bible. This
could be going to church. Thiscould be meditating. This could
be just ground, grounding likeso you're like, literally just
like, standing and connectingwith nature type of thing. And

(01:17:51):
then what do you need and wantto do for this category? This is
your faith and spiritualitycategory. You uh,
maybe you're like, you just wantto, like,
discover what your faith is,right? Like, maybe you want to
try out different faiths.

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Yeah, you're welcome. I'llgive you like a minute to get
that list fired up. So my goalfor you, as you're getting that
list fired up, is then to takeall of these categories and lay
them out on a table. This islike, one of my favorite things
to do, because you really get tozoom out and look at you, but on
pieces of paper and categories,right? So when you have all 12

(01:18:42):
laid out, you'll see which onesyou're naturally crushing and no
wonder they feel really good.
And you'll see the areas of yourlife that you're like, yeah,
that category needs a lot morelove, but all of these
categorieswill help you get an overflow.

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Don't you feel better after you,like, leave a dinner with a
girlfriend and you're like, thatwas so good, right? Like, or you
clean up your home because itwas just like, a little messy,
or you get rid of things. All ofthese categories are affecting
you and your energy bucket. Somy goal for you is to make this
so clear as day that when youlay, when you lay out all the

(01:19:28):
pieces of paper, the ones thatyou're doing and you're doing
like they feel so simple andthey're filled up, they're
helping with the percentage thatyou're already at. Now, for
sure, when we do more in thatcategory, it will help. But
where you'll get the most bangfor your buck is looking at the
categories that are not getting,like any attention or very

(01:19:49):
little attention. When we pour alittle bit more into those, your
energy will sky rocket. I can gofor a walk and be in the most.
Blah mood, and by the time thewalk is done, I feel like I can
do anything. It's happened to meso many times now, to the point
now where it's laughable. I'mlike, I have some blah energy.

(01:20:13):
I'm a little tired, but I knowI'll go outside, I'll put my ear
air pods in, I'll I'll go for a20 minute walk, and I feel like
I can do anything after thatwalk. So this is really what
we're looking for. Before I didmy 10,000 steps a day, I didn't
know that, right? Like I'vealways been an active person.

(01:20:35):
But when you go to the nextlevel and you do something more,
you just it anchors everythingin just so much more for you,
okay, so as you're looking atall of these pieces of paper and
filling them out before ourimplementation, it will be very,
very clear which one needs themost amount of your time. My

(01:20:56):
goal for you is you come to theimplementation session tomorrow
and you work on that one, cuz,again, it will just skyrocket
all of the other ones andskyrocket your energy. Okay,
alright, so faith andspirituality. Now let's move on
to contribution. So contributioncan be traditional, donating to

(01:21:19):
a charity, volunteering for acharity. It can be giving on
social media. It can be givingphysical goods to a nonprofit.
It can be spreading kindness tostrangers. It can be whatever
you want your contribution tobe. Maybe there's things that

(01:21:39):
you want to do with your kids,right? Or your significant
other. So contribution isendless. It can be anything that
fills up your heart and yoursoul. It's built legacy, right?
It's really contributing and away that you desire for this

(01:21:59):
world to be a better place, andthat can be time, it can be
energy, it can be money, it canbe resources, all of the above.
But too often, people are like,Well, I'll start giving when I
have more money, we give morenow. We truly can, like, you can
give more energy, more time,more compliments, right? So I

(01:22:21):
really want us to step into thatgiving and contribution energy
so much more, no matter whereyou're at right now, and come
from an abundance standpointnow, it may not be the best
decision for you to write$100,000 check right now, but
that's not the only way you cancontribute. So us really meeting
yourself where you're at ishuge. So we can do more of what

(01:22:45):
you're desiring. So eventuallymaybe you want, you want to
write a check to a charity for$100,000 can we do $100 right?
Can we do 10? Your brain doesn'tknow different amounts. It only
knows energy. So if you write acheck for $10 but you act as if
it's $100,000 your brain's gonnabe like, Wow, we just made a

(01:23:07):
contribution, right? We just didsomething really impactful,
really big. Maybe you've like, afew years ago, we collected
coats for kids, and all of thesepeople were like, sending me
money. I went to like, TJ Maxx.
I was buying all of these coats.
I gave them to a charity. Likeit felt so good. Did I have
enough resources to, like, giveevery kid, and then, in the

(01:23:31):
United States, a coat? No, buthopefully the kids that we were
able to and it made theirjourney a little bit better,
right? So we we get to becareful that like, all or
nothing mindset of likesomething is better than
nothing, right? And then thatsomething will turn into bigger
things, and bigger things willturn into bigger things. So it's

(01:23:53):
like getting the party started,and every category is key, and
then we just keep building fromthere. So what you think about
from a contribution standpoint,what's already working? What?
What do you already love thatyou're doing more than you're
not doing it? And then thinkabout what you need and want to
do in this category. Does thatmake sense?

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Okay, we've got two more left.
We're doing great.
Okay? Two more left,and I'll repeat all the
categories at the very end soyou can, like, just make sure
you've got everything on yourend. Okay, all right, so second
to last category is your time,your time. And truly, what I

(01:24:35):
mean by this is your energy andrelationship around time. We
will always want more time. Wewill but I want you to get clear
on what's working for you. Sofor example, I wear my Apple
Watch no matter what, everysingle day. This helps me manage
my time so much alarms. Helpedme manage my time so much.

(01:25:00):
Google Calendar helps me managemy time so much. Having a main
priority for the week helps memanage my time so much. So we
want to think about yourrelationship with time and what
is working, and then we want tothink about what you need and
want to add. So maybe you wantto buy an Apple Watch, maybe you

(01:25:20):
want to get your Google Calendarall organized, or maybe you want
to have clipboards withchecklists, right? Like, what do
you feel like will help youmanage your time better? That's
very, very specific. Okay, I'llgive you a minute to fire up
that list. Okay?

(01:26:03):
Okay, pull out the next piece ofpaper, last, but certainly not
least, similar to time, yourrelationship with money. So not
how much money you have or don'thave, but your current
relationship with money. What'sworking? Okay? And what do you
need and want to do that youknow would really support you?

(01:26:26):
So for example, my savingsbinder helps me so much. My
carrying cash around helps me somuch. Doing a wealthy Wednesday
check in every cent every everyWednesday of like, how's
everything going? Where am I atbased on my goals? Helps me so
much. Jared and I talk aboutfinances every single week, no

(01:26:50):
matter what, that helps us somuch. We're already buying
Christmas presents so we canspread out everything, not only
from a money standpoint, butfrom a stress standpoint. So he,
like, already started theprocess. He showed me last
night. I'm like, yes, yes, yes.
I love that. So it's, again,it's that proactive energy. Us a
few years ago, didn't do that,right? Like, that's the cool

(01:27:13):
part about this process is like,you just get better and better
and better because you get moreproactive. And when you feel how
good it feels to be ahead, younever want to go back, right? I
do automatic transfers forsavings and even bills, so that
way I'm never behind. I'm alwaysahead. The more we can get you
ahead in every category of yourlife will literally bring so

(01:27:36):
much money your way thatproactive energy is so juicy, so
amazing, and it's a gamechanger. Okay, maybe you want to
read more money books or listento more money podcasts, or maybe
you want to hire a financialadvisor. Maybe you want to learn
more about the stock market,because it really intimidates

(01:27:59):
you. That was me at one point.
I'm like, I don't understandthis. It's very complicated. And
now I don't feel that way. I'mso educated around the stock
market, and it feels so good tolike have that understanding,
right? So we're never at a lackof knowledge. We're typically
we're at a lack of effortreally, like, there is so much

(01:28:21):
knowledge out there. When you golook for it, it's amazing, but
it's like, making the effort isthe big deal and sticking with
it is the big deal, right? Whichis great, because guess what?
We're all we're all here to putin the energy and effort, so
there's nothing that's stoppingyou. It's just a matter of time
before you create what youdesire, and that within itself

(01:28:41):
is like such a vibe that is sogood, right? Like, if you know
it's just a matter of time,because you know that you're not
going to give up, we've alreadydecided that you know that
you're willing to put in theenergy and effort. You can do
anything. You can do anything.
It doesn't have to make sense inthis current reality. Passion
moves mountains. Energy movesmountains. It's not always going

(01:29:03):
to make sense with how it'sgoing to happen, but you putting
in the proper energy and effortwill make anything happen. It's
just a matter of time. Whobelieves that? Like, what
percentage of you believes that?
Give me a percentage in thechat, 90% okay, good.

(01:29:27):
100% 100 yay. Justine, you wereon the call, yeah, but I was
bragging that you were cheeringfor me in the grocery store. All
right, so we're all about like90% or above. I'll take that.
I'll take that.

(01:29:50):
It made my day so good. Haveyou ever had a like, a physical
relationship with somebody thatwas it was like a little. Bumpy,
but both of you wanted it towork so much, and it's like, so
good. Now drop a yes and thenchat if you have a relationship
with like that, like it wasbumpy and like it was touch and

(01:30:10):
go there, but like you both werecommitted, and like you've
worked on it, and maybe that'syour relationship with yourself,
right, or somebody else, butlike, a physical relationship
where it was bumpy, but you keptpersevering and like working on
it to happen. Drop a yes in thechat. If you're like, Oh yeah,
I've got one of those. Like therelationship mattered to you so
much that you wanted to work onit and not walk away, right?

(01:30:33):
That gets to be how we treatmoney, because we can't, we
can't actually walk away frommoney. So it's actually a real
you. We can't walk away fromourselves, and we can't wait
walk away from money. And so usmaking it the best relationship
ever is huge. Now, the more youfall in love with yourself, the

(01:30:56):
more you'll fall in love withmoney. So if you're still having
a lot of resistance aroundmoney, I just don't want you to
worry about it. I want you tofocus on you. Because the more
we build you up, the moreoverflow we get you in. You'll,
you'll, your money relationshipwill become better. It will. It
absolutely will, because you'reupgrading you, and as you

(01:31:20):
upgrade you, you'll makedifferent, better decisions, and
therefore your relationship withmoney, with money will get
better. So if you're in thatcategory right now, just focus
on you, your relationship withmoney will get better. I
promise. I promise. I promise. Ipromise. Okay, so with that

(01:31:40):
being said, there is one morecategory that I want you to work
on for your homework, and it's abacklog of tasks. Okay, it may
come from some of thesecategories, but more likely than
not, there's some things that weneed to clear up, there's some
things that we need to finish,and it's weighing you down. So

(01:32:01):
this can be things that were onother lists, but I do want you
to get a collection of thingsthat are behind. I don't even
love the word behind, but forthe sake of this exercise, it's
it's things that you're like,This is weighing me down. I've
gotta get this done. Maybe thisis client work that is being

(01:32:24):
delayed. This could be youremail and it's so backed up,
right? It needs a plumber. Itneeds a plumber to come in,
right? Maybe your house is just,it's beyond just a quick
cleanup, and you're like, Thisis bad, like, I don't want to be
here. I don't love it. Okay? Sosome of these might come from

(01:32:49):
some of these categories, but Ido want you to get a collection
of them on one piece of paper ofa backlog, because this is huge
when we can clear the clogs, youwill literally skyrocket your
energy. Have you ever released arelationship in your life that

(01:33:09):
was weighing you down and youwere so you were dreading the
conversation, but you like, it'slike ripping the band aid off,
and when you like, got throughit and walked away. Didn't your
energy skyrocket. We carryaround this invisible weight,
right? And it's affecting everyaspect of your life and your

(01:33:33):
future life, and so us clearingthe way, and then, of course,
from there, creating systems andprotocols and structure will
help. So we don't have anotherbacklog, right? But most likely,
we need to clear the backlog forus to even get to the good

(01:33:56):
stuff, right? Get to the sexystuff. Get to the like, really,
really awesome stuff, and youcan make all of this fun. Okay,
so give me something on yourbacklog list that you know you
need to do. Give me something onyour list.

(01:34:20):
Okay, fix credit, declutter mystuff. Okay,
get back to the gym, declutterthe office. How long has this
thing been on your list? And behonest, you can even just
private messages to me if youfeel like I don't even want
anyone else to know. How longhas this thing been weighing on

(01:34:42):
you? Since March? Eight months,six years.
How long? Tell me who else i.

(01:35:02):
Been in progress for a longtime. Oh, okay, if I called you
up today and said, if you getthis done in the next 30 days,
I'll write you a check for amillion dollars. Would you do
it?
Whatever that thing is,most people would be like, I I

(01:35:23):
don't know how I'm going to makeit happen, but I'll make it
happen, right? I am not missingthat million dollar check.
That's your future self callingnot me. Okay? This is what I
call your wealthy Achilles heel.
It's the big boulder stoppingyou from this thing, okay, from

(01:35:48):
your wealthiest life. And sowe've gotta, we've gotta get
your attention of like, do thisthing, and you're gonna get a
million dollars, right? It'sthat guaranteed, because without
us moving the boulder, we can'tsee the blessings that are on
the other side, right? So usclearing the way is how you will

(01:36:11):
literally be able to do so manyof the big goals and dreams that
you want. Like, there's no waythat I could run a full marathon
if I would have not done theother things that I was doing
right, like it cleared the way,so that way I could actually
accomplish a big goal like that.
Okay, so the big boulder is theway us decluttering your home is

(01:36:32):
huge. Us working on your healthand fitness and getting back to
the gym and staying at the gym,it is huge. Going out with your
husband. You haven't gone outwith your husband, okay, let's
do it right, like all of thesethings will skyrocket your

(01:36:54):
energy so much. Okay, so fortomorrow, for the implementation
sprint, my recommendation isfocus on the backlog and the
lowest. So your backlog mighthave a lot of the environment
stuff on it, and that was yourlowest one. But I really, I

(01:37:17):
really want you to focus on thebacklog more than anything else,
and then yes, we get that, thatlower hanging, or that lower
category, we get it up. Okay, wecan't donate our children. I'm
sorry. I think that's frownedupon, but we could work on us
becoming better. Okay, I willsay my whole family dynamic has

(01:37:41):
shifted the more I've pouredinto myself. Like, it shocks me
still, at times where I'm like,Oh my gosh. Like, so much feels
so good, and it's because of me.
Like, it's not just because ofme, but it I'm a big part of it,
right? And I'm like, reallyembracing that and owning that.
And I think that it's, it's justhuge, right? Like it, we are the

(01:38:03):
change agent of our life, right?
We're the trailblazer. We're theone knocking down the boulder
and any other boulders and anyother obstacles and anything
that we we know that we needto do. Okay,
all right, let me look here atmy list. Any questions so far, I

(01:38:24):
know we're getting towards theend of our workshop, so your
homework in between now and theimplementation sprint is to fill
out all of those lists. There'sno way we had enough time for
you to, like, sit and think. Sojust take some time if you can,
if you have to hide in thebathroom, fantastic, if you
like, whatever you gotta do,fill out those list and then get

(01:38:50):
really clear on which are thewhich ones are the lower ones,
what's on the backlog? Becausethat becomes one of our first
focuses in here is reallyclearing the way for everything
that you desire. Okay,what questions do you have for
me?

(01:39:10):
Was this helpful? IOkay, sweet, yay.
All right, I'm trying to think,what else I want to tell you
today. What's our beliefpercentage at so you believing

(01:39:36):
you can create your happiest,healthiest, wealthiest life,
like millions and millions ofdollars accomplishing all the
big goals that you've alwayswanted. What percentage are we
at? 95% 75% 101, 80,still in the 90% but that is up
from 80% yes, we're making four.

(01:40:00):
All grows. 5% 100% yes, oh mygosh, all of these are so high.
That makes me so happy. Ipromise you come to the
implementations to print sprinttomorrow, 11am Eastern, Standard
Time. I'll make sure you haveall the reminders, the link,

(01:40:22):
everything. Your percentage willgo up when we're clearing the
capacity. I promise you comeready to go. Get that list ready
to go. It will increasetomorrow, because when we don't
believe we have the capacity formore. We will self sabotage. We

(01:40:44):
will ourselves. We're so wornout, so tired. Our clothes
already stuffed, our to do listis already stuff. Even when your
heart desires more, your brainand subconscious go, There's no
way. So the minute we startclearing the way, and keep
clearing the way, right thenyour brain goes, I think we've

(01:41:06):
got this. I think we have thecapacity. And then that's when
the flood of blessings come in,come in. You're up to, oh my
gosh, you've been sounstoppable. Everyone has. It's
so good. We were at a 70% we'reat a 90% old. Girlfriend. Come
to the implementation sprinttomorrow. We'll get that up even

(01:41:27):
more. I appreciate you guystrusting this process. I know
that this will radically blessyour life forever, and I just
appreciate you trusting theprocess. And I welcome
resistance if you're resistant,that's okay. I don't want you to
pretend that you're at 100%I just always need you to just

(01:41:49):
even if you're resistant, I needyou to come. I need to do the
work. I need us to work throughthe resistance. We find ways to
make it fun. Okay? So I don't, Idon't want anyone to pretend I
don't want anyone to like, feellike they can't share their
feelings, or anything like that.
That's never my goal. My goal isyou show up. When you show up,
we can make things happen. Andso I just appreciate you showing

(01:42:12):
up and hope that you'll continueto do so. So we'll end a little
bit early, because who doesn'tlove is just like a little
break. So feel free to keepgoing. Write those lists out
again. I'll make sure thatyou've got reminders for
tomorrow, but just block off thetime if for whatever reason you
can't be live, commit to doingyour own sprint. Okay, typically

(01:42:36):
we don't record implementationsprints because there's not like
it's we're doing things, butI'll record tomorrow so you can
see it. But commit to doing thework. If you can't come the
whole time, come for what youcan Okay, but you get to
experience doing the work andnot doing it alone. So a lot of

(01:42:59):
people call this body doubling,you will do so much more. It's
so powerful to me when we can dothis. Okay, so I'll make sure
you have reminders. I don't seeany more questions. Tomorrow is
11am to 1pm Eastern, StandardTime, and it's doing so we do 15
minute sprints. I put a timer onthe clock, and then you do the

(01:43:23):
thing, I check in, and then wereset. Okay, so it's like a
workout for you, but I'm notgoing to make you do jumping
jacks, and then we always endwith motivation that makes it
super powerful. So super, superexcited. Okay, any questions?

(01:43:48):
Nope, you guys are ready to dothe work. Awesome, yay. All
right, cool, cool, cool. Allright, I'll make sure you guys
get all the reminders, and thenwe'll see you tomorrow. Love you
guys. Bye. You.

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