513. Big Money Tip 3

On this episode, Nellie emphasizes the importance of giving generously to attract wealth, suggesting that individuals who are uncomfortable receiving small gestures may also struggle with receiving larger amounts of money. She advocates for giving in various forms, including donating time, services, and money, and highlight the psychological benefits of becoming accustomed to giving. Nellie shares personal anecdotes of receiving generous support and how it has contributed to their success. She encourages a balanced approach to giving and receiving, aiming to create a positive energy cycle that fosters abundance. 

We will touch on:

• Giving to Receive: The Psychology of Wealth
• Examples of Giving in Various Contexts
• The Boomerang Effect and Law of Reciprocity
• Balancing Giving and Receiving
• Praying and Aligning with Giving
• The Role of Money in Creating Wealth
• Sponsorship and Final Encouragement

Let's Take Some Action:

• Brainstorm ideas for ways to give more than you ever have given before.
• Implement a giving strategy, starting small if necessary, and allow it to become your new normal.

This episode is sponsored by Kristen Rourke with Busy Mom Bod. Check her out on social media and her amazing programs!!
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Episode Transcript

Unknown (00:01):
I'm beyond excited to reveal to you. Doesn't that
sound so mysterious? Reveal toyou in our big money series,
what is the third big money tip?
Because they are so important.
So we've talked about bigenergy, we've talked about big
high income skills that youalready have in leveraging them

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and in third place is reallygiving bigger than you ever have
given before. Now, why is thisbefore receiving? Because most
women don't feel comfortablereceiving even a compliment. So
if you don't feel comfortablereceiving a compliment, or

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sometimes we don't even feelcomfortable receiving like a
little gift, right? Like, oh mygosh, no, you shouldn't have can
you imagine $10,000 droppinginto your lap? It may sound
like, logically, you may belike, Oh no, no, no, Nelly,
like, I'm not comfortable with acompliment. I'm not comfortable
with a little gift. But don'tworry, I would, I would be able

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to handle $10,000 dropping in mylap. So interesting enough.
Psychology doesn't agree. Like,the science does not agree. If
you are not regulated around acompliment, if you are not
regulated around somebody buyingyour coffee, giving you a small
gift, or paying you in full foryour services, or whatever it

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may be, if you are not regulatedaround a certain dollar figure,
you will keep blocking yourselfsubconsciously from it. So my
best tip, please, I don't wantto say I'm begging you, because
I don't love that energy, butfor the for, for the sake of
your wealthiest self, I'mspeaking to your wealthiest self

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right now, go give more thanyou've ever given before. There
are lots of ways to give, themore the merrier, because it's
all going to add into the givingmelting pot, and it's going to
work so beautifully and so fast.
Okay, so I'll just give you somequick examples. They don't have

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to relate to your business, butI do want some to relate to your
business. Okay? So you can gogive and pay for the person
behind you at Starbucks, right?
You can go donate your time atthe animal hospital, hospital or
the homeless shelter. You cangive a compliment to somebody,
whether that be in person or online, okay, you can give your

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time with your your services. Soif you build websites, you could
go donate your websitecapabilities to a non profit
organization or maybe a newentrepreneur. Or if you're a
photographer, you could go dosome mini sessions or one big
photo shoot right. If you're acoach, you could offer coaching
calls. If you're a painter, youcould go paint right? Like no

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matter what it is, I do want youto give some of your actual
gifts, like your high incomeskills, away. And the key with
this is you're not you're notworried about what happens with
that person. That person may tipyou, that person may want more
of your services, and also theymay not, or they may not be able

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to, and that's okay. We're doingit for the energy. We're doing
it to add so much energy intothe giving bucket that it's in
overflow, and then that overflowgoes into your receiving bucket,
and when you are just in massivegiving mode, you regulate
yourself around larger amountsof money because you feel so

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good, you feel so comfortable,so really, my highest best
recommendation, my best tip inthis category is, if your goal
is $10,000 months, I want you togo give $10,000 away. Now, you
don't have to write a check, butcould we go give some of your
courses away? Could we give somecoaching calls away? Like, just

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as an example, like, we wouldwant it to essentially equate to
$10,000 and you can do that verylike, strategically, where
you're literally, like, lineiteming out, or you can just do
it as, like a field check, whereyou're like, I feel like this
was an energetic exchange of$10,000 and so the coolest part

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about this is it works so fast,it feels so good. And people
have given to you right, like,there have been so many people
on in my journey that have beenridiculously generous and did
not accept or didn't even expectanything in return, they're
like, I just see you, and I wantto pay it forward, and I want

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you to receive and there's justI could literally spend. In this
whole episode, telling you theblessings that people like it's
It's remarkable, like it's themost unusual things, like cars,
venues, clothes, gift cards,like love, support,

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introductions, like, I have beenblessed with so many gifts over
the years that have justcontinued to create abundance
and wealth in my life in so manydifferent ways. And I think that
I'm a huge part of that too,right? Like, because those
things just don't randomlyhappen, it's the energy that you

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are putting out into the world,right? It truly is the boomerang
effect, like what you put outinto this world is what comes
back to you, also, law ofreciprocity, okay? And so it's
not necessarily, like I alwaysfeel called to explain this, so
people don't get confused. Ifyou do a coaching call for
somebody, the law ofreciprocity. Isn't that that,

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then that person immediatelydoes something for you, with
you. You can, of course, alwaysinvite them. I love to always
use the phrase like, hey, Ireally think I could help you.
You know, no strings attached.
Like, if you want to ever talkabout that, let me know. So I
love keeping the door open, ifit makes sense, I'm never going
to not offer my continuedsupport if I really do,

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genuinely feel like I could. Butthe whole goal is to always be
in giving mode. And when you'rein giving mode. Some of my
biggest launches, I did not knowwhat my numbers were at. I was
just giving and giving andgiving, and then, like, once we
would, like, close out thelaunch, I was just like, Oh my

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gosh. I was just having so muchfun, and I was giving and I was
loving and supporting. And itworks every fucking time. You
are less in your head. You donot overthink. We all want to be
that supporter, thatcheerleader, that, you know,
bright light in the world, andthe world needs it. Needs it

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more than ever. The world needsit so much right now. And so I
do, again, want you to have ablend of things that relate to
your business, and then thingslike, there's so much that I do
outside of my business, like, gogive clothes away, pay for
people at like, coffee shops,give compliments, just introduce
people like I'm constantly doingas much as I can. 24/7, no

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strings attached, trustingmyself, trusting the universe.
You don't have to do anythingthat you're not comfortable to
do, like, if you would literallybe having a pan attack writing,
like $1,000 check to a charity,then that would not be what I
would recommend, because if youare having a panic attack doing

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it, you're going to dis regulateyour nervous system, and that's
the opposite of what I'm wantingyou to do, but could you write
$100 check? Could you write a$10 check? It's still going to
have a similar effect, right?
Like you do want to expand yourcomfort zone, but we don't have
to go to the point where youwreck your nervous system in the

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process. I prefer a slow andsteady expansion, and there's a
lot of studies behind thatactually works so much better
for your nervous system, foryour energy, for your mindset,
for sustainability. And so thisis a giving strategy. Feels so
good, and you can't do it toomuch. And it always, it always

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happens in the right time withthe right people. I love to
think about an idea, just checkinto my body, make sure that it
feels good, like I'm doing itfrom like a very like, aligned,
abundant space, not lack. Andthen I love to pray and think
about, okay, like, God, pleasereveal to me who I meant to,

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like, serve and support, andthen I just allow
Jesus take the wheel. Like, Iliterally this happened just
recently, and she was like, Iwas literally just bawling my
eyes out, praying that I needed,like, a miracle. And I'm like,
well, here I am, and here youare, and you're, you're you're

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choosing to stay say yes, whichmeans that, like, it's, it's
you, it's not just me, it's meand you, like, we're Energy
Partners. And that happens everytime, every time, every single
time. And guess what? It'salways meant to be. It's always,
always meant to be. So I wantyou to brainstorm some ideas,
and I want you just to play, gogive you. Can start small, if

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this is not normal for you, butI want this to be your new
normal, and it'll help youexpand and regular, regulate
around bigger levels of money.
There was a point where I. Wasterrified to give or receive
$100 and so this is why this isso important, because when
you're regulated around fill inthe blank money about giving it,

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you'll be so much more regulatedaround receiving it. And then
the goal is that those just bothof them keep climbing together,
giving and receiving. Giving andreceiving money is meant to be a
flowing current. Yes, we want tosave, and we want to invest, and
you can do that even 10% andhave so much extra to enjoy your

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life, to donate to charities, togive back to the world, to give
to yourself, like all of thethings like, money is a tool,
money is a vehicle. Money isenergy. And when you're
utilizing it and maximizing itin big, beautiful ways, you will
create more big levels of money.

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And this is a strategy that Iwant to get trending for 2025
and beyond, because it just,it's what I've done for almost
20 years, and it works so well.
I've been the two industriesI've had the most success in,
which is non profit and theeducation space are two of the
hardest industries I've hadmassive success, sustainable

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success in both and veryuncertain times, through
pandemic, babies, all the thingslike nothing can knock me down.
And I believe that giving issuch a huge piece of why I am
still here, why I'm still here,and so I want you to add your

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flavor to this, but run withthis. Let it feel good, let it
keep working, and watch themagic happen. Shout out to
Kristen Roark with busy mama forsponsoring this episode. She is
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So check her out. She's allabout healthy eating, healthy
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chase them and have tons andtons of energy. And so please
check her out. She's amazing,and tell her that we sent you.
Alright, go give and give somemore, and then give some more,
and then give some more. Andtell me how it goes. You.