December 15, 2023 • 17 mins
As a single mom, I've often felt like a juggler, balancing a dozen balls in the air, hoping none of them would drop. Time was always my enemy, until I learned the art of mastering it. I'm sharing my secrets to meal prepping, building a schedule, and operating with the strength of a good support system . With these tools, you'll soon find more time for your family, your purpose, and for living life to the fullest. It's more than just time management, it's about shaping your life. We'll explore how to take control of your time, how to shift your mindset, and how to design the life you've been yearning for. Get ready to redefine your relationship with time, to pursue your dreams, and to live an abundant life!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey y'all.
Hey, it's your girl, dr Mary LBoy, the reposition specialist.
You are listening to the WalkDeva Walk podcast.
This podcast is for you, thewoman, specifically the black
woman, who's had enough.
Enough of saying no to yourkids because you can't afford it
.
How about robbing Peter to payPaul, working two or three jobs
(00:25):
just to make ends meet?
Enough of running from yourGod-given purpose and enough of
just being sick and tired ofbeing sick and tired.
On this journey.
With the Walk Deva Walk podcast, I will help you overcome your
past, face your present and walkinto your God-given, purposed
(00:46):
future, so you can support yourfamily the way that you desire,
live in abundance and overflow.
Live birth to that God-givenpurpose, giving birth to your
dreams and desires.
How about travel and experiencethe world in ways that you and
your family will never forget?
(01:07):
Have joy and peace so you canlive.
Are you ready?
Let's walk.
Hey Deva, hey girl, get yourlife.
It is time for you to get yourlife in order.
Okay, it is time for you tomanage your time and do the
(01:28):
things that you need to do.
So listen, you know that youwant better.
You know you want more.
You got something that you wantto build, you want to make
money.
You got the size of a gig thatyou want to do, but you sitting
up here saying, mary, how are Isupposed to do all of that?
I work.
(01:49):
I got two, three, four kids.
They got all the things thatthey have to do, the
extracurricular stuff.
I'm stuck in traffic for anhour going, an hour coming.
It's only 24 hours a day.
How am I supposed to do this?
So, listen, I'm going to helpyou get your life today.
Okay, that is what this isabout.
(02:10):
You're going to get your life,get it in order, so you can
leave that excuse off the tableand move into what you're
supposed to do.
Now.
Time management is a big thing.
You hear people talk about.
Oh, my time management, my timemanagement, I don't have enough
time.
I'm going to give you some tipsthat's going to help you with
(02:31):
that.
So, for those of you that havechildren, okay, it's all about
planning and it's real simplestuff.
It really is.
If you think about it, you belike, oh, when I tell you, it's
going to say that makes sense.
So I remember being a single momand I had moved away.
(02:52):
I moved to Atlanta and I wasgoing through the same thing,
y'all.
I was late to everything.
Okay, my girlfriend calls methe mad dasher because I was
late and I remember I startedworking and the job was good.
We had to be to work at eighto'clock.
I swear I would get there likeat 8.15.
(03:14):
All the time I just I felt likeI couldn't get it together, and
so this job kind of had astrict time in attendance policy
, and so the supervisor, hereally liked me and he said okay
, mary, it says, you can't seemto get here at eight o'clock,
I'm going to push your starttime back to 8.30.
(03:37):
Now I was grateful for that,but that meant I got off a half
an hour later.
Well, I had to pick my son upby six o'clock and the distance
with the traffic in Atlanta frommy job to where I lived at that
time, it could take me an hourto an hour and a half to get
(03:58):
home.
So I said, oh my God, how isthat going to work?
What am I going to do?
So fortunately, I'm telling you, god is so good.
No-transcript.
The daycare was right on theseapartments that I lived in and
the gate the daycare was on thebackside of the apartment, so
(04:20):
they had two entrances.
It was a front entrance and aback entrance and if you went
out the back entrance, thedaycare literally it felt like
it was connected to theapartment complex.
It was right there and one ofactually his teacher that kept
him because at this time he wasa little over one that kept him
(04:46):
lived in my subdivision.
So I asked her and the funnypart is her name was Mary too
and I asked her.
I said, listen, is there a wayfor you to keep him until I get
here?
Because the daycare charged $5for every five minutes that you
(05:09):
were late.
I'm like, okay, I know I'm notgoing to get here until 6.30,
6.45.
It was no way.
It was no way and I'm like I'mnot paying $35, $40 every single
day.
That was ridiculous.
And she agreed so when it wastime for release she would just
(05:31):
keep him.
And even when he moved to thetoddler room when he became a
toddler, she still did that.
So it took a village.
So, anyway, I was called the maddasher, okay, and I'll say
something has to give.
And I called my mom.
Yeah, I would say I came upwith all of this on my own, but
(05:53):
I'm telling you my mama had alot to do with it.
And I said listen?
I said I don't know.
I don't know how I'm going tokeep this job because I'm always
late.
Traffic I just feel like I'mrunning behind trying to get my
son ready, and so one of thethings.
And then getting home, let mesay this other thing too getting
(06:17):
home, having to get him and getdinner and do all the things
that I had to do, it was just alot.
And especially when he becameschool age like school,
elementary school, and I had todo homework and all of that I
(06:38):
said, oh, this was crazy.
So my mom said first of all, youneed to cook for the week.
So that's tip number one cookfor the week.
So on Sunday I made two meals Imade an oven meal and I made a
(06:58):
stove top meal.
So for example, let's say, Imade a pot of spaghetti, which
is what you cook on the stove,but then I threw some chicken in
the oven so that it cookeditself.
Or I did a stove top meal and acrock pot meal, something that
cooked itself.
(07:19):
I did that on Sunday and thatis what we ate through the week.
Now some of y'all are going tohave to get over.
I don't eat leftovers because Ithink that's just utterly
ridiculous.
Who's cooking every day?
Who has time?
You, a single mama, you gottime to cook every single day.
Nah, that don't work.
And so and I found that it'sworked because when I got home I
(07:43):
can just warm up and it wasbetter and healthier instead of
running through drive-thrusnumber one unhealthy and not
cost effective if you're doingit all the time.
So cook at least two meals.
So then, what we ate Monday, weate Tuesday.
So we ate a meal or anythingyou wanted.
(08:06):
I would mix and match.
But Monday, tuesday, wednesday,thursday and typically the
weekend, you know we ate out orpicked up something to go, or I
had little little stuff in thehouse.
You know that we would eat on.
But dinner, dinner.
I cooked two meals on Sunday.
That saved me so much time andstress.
(08:30):
The other thing I had to startdoing, and this was a muscle
that I had to work on.
Okay, I had to strengthen thismuscle because it's not
naturally me Getting yourclothes and everything ready the
night before.
And for your children, you cantake it a step further and get
(08:52):
their clothes ready for the week.
So you have washed if youneeded to, you earn five outfits
for the week.
If they're in like kindergartenor preschool and they still
need change of clothes, you'vegotten all of that, everything
ready for them for the week.
(09:13):
You know what they're wearingMonday, tuesday, wednesday,
thursday, friday Okay, easypeasy.
So then, when you're gettingthem up because you know how
they do, sometimes you got tofight with the kids to get them
out of bed, because sometimesyou got to fight yourself to get
out of bed, right, and so ifyou overslept you jumped up.
(09:35):
It was still like, oh my God,I'm overslept, but a little less
stressful because you alreadyknow what the kids are wearing.
But then you have to add thatto your process.
And, ladies, I know that can behard because some of y'all get
up, say you're going to wear onething, put it on, change your
mind, take it off, and then youchange clothes five times to
(09:57):
figure out what you're wearing.
You got to get over that too.
Okay, if you put yourselftogether, you get everything
together the night before.
If you have an idea of what youwant to wear for the week, then
get five outfits ready and thenpick and choose between the
five outfits.
But at least you have fiveoutfits ready.
(10:18):
You have everything done thatnight.
I don't care bra, panties,stockings, slip, girdle,
reshaper, whatever it is,everything, shoes laid out.
You aren't trying to guess, youaren't trying to figure it out,
(10:41):
okay, because you know if youdo your makeup.
Lay your makeup out, becauseyou already know what outfit
you're going to wear.
So you already know your makeupchoices that you have.
It's just little things likethat.
So when you get up in themorning, it's, it's you, you're
(11:01):
good, and then when you get homein the evening, you don't have
to worry about it, right, youdon't have to worry about it at
all, and that has saved youhours.
It has saved you hours of yourtime.
The other thing is try to have aschedule, right.
(11:26):
You have to know how much timethat you are going to dedicate
to you, whether it's an hour anight, whether it's two hours a
night of going and and figuringthings out of the things that
you want to do.
You have to have a schedule andyou have to stick to the
(11:50):
schedule, and you also have toshare your schedule with those
that affect your schedule, okay.
So tip number four, outside ofjust having a schedule, is share
it, because there are peoplethat affect your time, whether
(12:11):
it's a spouse, a sister, abestie, somebody that called you
every night between seven andeight Some you know.
I talk to my mom every night atnine o'clock, whatever it is.
You have to share your schedulebecause if you are supposed to
be working on you, then you needto focus on you, so you can't
(12:36):
talk about the latest show on TVand what the housewives are
doing or the rappers are doingor the models are doing or the
next latest and greatest seriesthat's going on during the time
that you supposed to be workingon you.
See the people you talkingabout making their money.
(12:57):
They live in their dream.
Why you still trying to figureit out.
So Tina can't call you at seven, because at seven o'clock, from
seven to nine, is your time.
So you have to let Tina.
Tina, girl, I know we betalking.
I know you normally call meabout seven, 30, but I'm
(13:20):
changing my schedule from sevento nine.
I am not available.
If I won't even answer thephone, my phone going to be on
silent.
I probably won't even know thatyou call.
So, unless the house is on fire, somebody to die.
I'll figure it out after nineo'clock, okay, but you have to
(13:41):
let those that affect you know.
The other thing is get some help.
I had help and there's somebodythat you can rely on.
Find somebody If you have tohave somebody to take Johnny to
football practice for youbecause you have something else
(14:04):
that you have to do, or you haveto take on the football
practice, but while you're there, you're working on some things
for you and not just sitting andwatching.
It's so many different timemanagement tricks and tips that
I will give you and I'llcontinue to give you as we go
down this journey.
(14:24):
But you got to get your lifeand stop making excuses.
Get your time in order.
Your time management has to getbetter in order for you to do
all the things that you want todo.
It doesn't have to be stressfulSometimes.
Yes, it's going to beoverwhelming, but you're going
(14:46):
to get through it.
Yes, sometimes you may havesome sleepless nights, but
you're going to get through thattoo.
But if you put little things inplace, it won't be as much and
you will be able to see thelight at the end of the tunnel.
So I just came here to tell you,girl, get your life, get it
(15:11):
together, get it in order.
We got things to do, people tosee, places to go and money to
make.
So get your time managementtogether.
I'm going to put a resource.
Click the link in thedescription.
There will be a resource linkto a time management book called
(15:34):
Time Management Becoming theBest you and yes, it's by yours
truly.
It's going to give you moretips and tricks to be able to
manage it all.
So start by doing the littlethings, thinking about them,
making your tasks list, all ofthat.
You will start to see adifference.
(15:55):
So I love you, girl.
Ain't nothing you can do aboutit?
Be blessed, live all purposeand let's walk All right.
Divas, what an episode.
Did I hit you in the head withone of those bricks?
Did you go out?
Did you have the ducking cover?
I know you went running aroundthe house checking for cameras,
(16:18):
looking under the bed, lookingout the window to see if I was
watching, because I was all inyour business.
I was on your street and inyour lane.
It's okay, though.
It lets you know that you'renot alone.
I hope that something that youheard resonated with you and, as
(16:39):
a result, you are starting toreposition your mind so you can
have the life that you want tolive.
Now, that's not all I have foryou guys.
Not just what was in thepodcast, but now I want to give
you a gift.
Go to wwwStopDrowningAndWincomTo receive the seven steps every
(17:02):
Black woman must take this yearto break free and live her
dreams once and for all.
You will also have anopportunity to connect with our
community Again.
You are not alone.
The work is just beginning.
Are you ready?
Let's walk.
Hey y'all.
Hey, it's your girl, dr Mary LBoy, the reposition specialist.
You are listening to the WalkDeva Walk podcast.
This podcast is for you, thewoman, specifically the black
woman, who's had enough.
Enough of saying no to yourkids because you can't afford it
.
How about robbing Peter to payPaul, working two or three jobs
(00:25):
just to make ends meet?
Enough of running from yourGod-given purpose and enough of
just being sick and tired ofbeing sick and tired.
On this journey.
With the Walk Deva Walk podcast, I will help you overcome your
past, face your present and walkinto your God-given, purposed
(00:46):
future, so you can support yourfamily the way that you desire,
live in abundance and overflow.
Live birth to that God-givenpurpose, giving birth to your
dreams and desires.
How about travel and experiencethe world in ways that you and
your family will never forget?
(01:07):
Have joy and peace so you canlive.
Are you ready?
Let's walk.
Hey Deva, hey girl, get yourlife.
It is time for you to get yourlife in order.
Okay, it is time for you tomanage your time and do the
(01:28):
things that you need to do.
So listen, you know that youwant better.
You know you want more.
You got something that you wantto build, you want to make
money.
You got the size of a gig thatyou want to do, but you sitting
up here saying, mary, how are Isupposed to do all of that?
I work.
(01:49):
I got two, three, four kids.
They got all the things thatthey have to do, the
extracurricular stuff.
I'm stuck in traffic for anhour going, an hour coming.
It's only 24 hours a day.
How am I supposed to do this?
So, listen, I'm going to helpyou get your life today.
Okay, that is what this isabout.
(02:10):
You're going to get your life,get it in order, so you can
leave that excuse off the tableand move into what you're
supposed to do.
Now.
Time management is a big thing.
You hear people talk about.
Oh, my time management, my timemanagement, I don't have enough
time.
I'm going to give you some tipsthat's going to help you with
(02:31):
that.
So, for those of you that havechildren, okay, it's all about
planning and it's real simplestuff.
It really is.
If you think about it, you belike, oh, when I tell you, it's
going to say that makes sense.
So I remember being a single momand I had moved away.
(02:52):
I moved to Atlanta and I wasgoing through the same thing,
y'all.
I was late to everything.
Okay, my girlfriend calls methe mad dasher because I was
late and I remember I startedworking and the job was good.
We had to be to work at eighto'clock.
I swear I would get there likeat 8.15.
(03:14):
All the time I just I felt likeI couldn't get it together, and
so this job kind of had astrict time in attendance policy
, and so the supervisor, hereally liked me and he said okay
, mary, it says, you can't seemto get here at eight o'clock,
I'm going to push your starttime back to 8.30.
(03:37):
Now I was grateful for that,but that meant I got off a half
an hour later.
Well, I had to pick my son upby six o'clock and the distance
with the traffic in Atlanta frommy job to where I lived at that
time, it could take me an hourto an hour and a half to get
(03:58):
home.
So I said, oh my God, how isthat going to work?
What am I going to do?
So fortunately, I'm telling you, god is so good.
No-transcript.
The daycare was right on theseapartments that I lived in and
the gate the daycare was on thebackside of the apartment, so
(04:20):
they had two entrances.
It was a front entrance and aback entrance and if you went
out the back entrance, thedaycare literally it felt like
it was connected to theapartment complex.
It was right there and one ofactually his teacher that kept
him because at this time he wasa little over one that kept him
(04:46):
lived in my subdivision.
So I asked her and the funnypart is her name was Mary too
and I asked her.
I said, listen, is there a wayfor you to keep him until I get
here?
Because the daycare charged $5for every five minutes that you
(05:09):
were late.
I'm like, okay, I know I'm notgoing to get here until 6.30,
6.45.
It was no way.
It was no way and I'm like I'mnot paying $35, $40 every single
day.
That was ridiculous.
And she agreed so when it wastime for release she would just
(05:31):
keep him.
And even when he moved to thetoddler room when he became a
toddler, she still did that.
So it took a village.
So, anyway, I was called the maddasher, okay, and I'll say
something has to give.
And I called my mom.
Yeah, I would say I came upwith all of this on my own, but
(05:53):
I'm telling you my mama had alot to do with it.
And I said listen?
I said I don't know.
I don't know how I'm going tokeep this job because I'm always
late.
Traffic I just feel like I'mrunning behind trying to get my
son ready, and so one of thethings.
And then getting home, let mesay this other thing too getting
(06:17):
home, having to get him and getdinner and do all the things
that I had to do, it was just alot.
And especially when he becameschool age like school,
elementary school, and I had todo homework and all of that I
(06:38):
said, oh, this was crazy.
So my mom said first of all, youneed to cook for the week.
So that's tip number one cookfor the week.
So on Sunday I made two meals Imade an oven meal and I made a
(06:58):
stove top meal.
So for example, let's say, Imade a pot of spaghetti, which
is what you cook on the stove,but then I threw some chicken in
the oven so that it cookeditself.
Or I did a stove top meal and acrock pot meal, something that
cooked itself.
(07:19):
I did that on Sunday and thatis what we ate through the week.
Now some of y'all are going tohave to get over.
I don't eat leftovers because Ithink that's just utterly
ridiculous.
Who's cooking every day?
Who has time?
You, a single mama, you gottime to cook every single day.
Nah, that don't work.
And so and I found that it'sworked because when I got home I
(07:43):
can just warm up and it wasbetter and healthier instead of
running through drive-thrusnumber one unhealthy and not
cost effective if you're doingit all the time.
So cook at least two meals.
So then, what we ate Monday, weate Tuesday.
So we ate a meal or anythingyou wanted.
(08:06):
I would mix and match.
But Monday, tuesday, wednesday,thursday and typically the
weekend, you know we ate out orpicked up something to go, or I
had little little stuff in thehouse.
You know that we would eat on.
But dinner, dinner.
I cooked two meals on Sunday.
That saved me so much time andstress.
(08:30):
The other thing I had to startdoing, and this was a muscle
that I had to work on.
Okay, I had to strengthen thismuscle because it's not
naturally me Getting yourclothes and everything ready the
night before.
And for your children, you cantake it a step further and get
(08:52):
their clothes ready for the week.
So you have washed if youneeded to, you earn five outfits
for the week.
If they're in like kindergartenor preschool and they still
need change of clothes, you'vegotten all of that, everything
ready for them for the week.
(09:13):
You know what they're wearingMonday, tuesday, wednesday,
thursday, friday Okay, easypeasy.
So then, when you're gettingthem up because you know how
they do, sometimes you got tofight with the kids to get them
out of bed, because sometimesyou got to fight yourself to get
out of bed, right, and so ifyou overslept you jumped up.
(09:35):
It was still like, oh my God,I'm overslept, but a little less
stressful because you alreadyknow what the kids are wearing.
But then you have to add thatto your process.
And, ladies, I know that can behard because some of y'all get
up, say you're going to wear onething, put it on, change your
mind, take it off, and then youchange clothes five times to
(09:57):
figure out what you're wearing.
You got to get over that too.
Okay, if you put yourselftogether, you get everything
together the night before.
If you have an idea of what youwant to wear for the week, then
get five outfits ready and thenpick and choose between the
five outfits.
But at least you have fiveoutfits ready.
(10:18):
You have everything done thatnight.
I don't care bra, panties,stockings, slip, girdle,
reshaper, whatever it is,everything, shoes laid out.
You aren't trying to guess, youaren't trying to figure it out,
(10:41):
okay, because you know if youdo your makeup.
Lay your makeup out, becauseyou already know what outfit
you're going to wear.
So you already know your makeupchoices that you have.
It's just little things likethat.
So when you get up in themorning, it's, it's you, you're
(11:01):
good, and then when you get homein the evening, you don't have
to worry about it, right, youdon't have to worry about it at
all, and that has saved youhours.
It has saved you hours of yourtime.
The other thing is try to have aschedule, right.
(11:26):
You have to know how much timethat you are going to dedicate
to you, whether it's an hour anight, whether it's two hours a
night of going and and figuringthings out of the things that
you want to do.
You have to have a schedule andyou have to stick to the
(11:50):
schedule, and you also have toshare your schedule with those
that affect your schedule, okay.
So tip number four, outside ofjust having a schedule, is share
it, because there are peoplethat affect your time, whether
(12:11):
it's a spouse, a sister, abestie, somebody that called you
every night between seven andeight Some you know.
I talk to my mom every night atnine o'clock, whatever it is.
You have to share your schedulebecause if you are supposed to
be working on you, then you needto focus on you, so you can't
(12:36):
talk about the latest show on TVand what the housewives are
doing or the rappers are doingor the models are doing or the
next latest and greatest seriesthat's going on during the time
that you supposed to be workingon you.
See the people you talkingabout making their money.
(12:57):
They live in their dream.
Why you still trying to figureit out.
So Tina can't call you at seven, because at seven o'clock, from
seven to nine, is your time.
So you have to let Tina.
Tina, girl, I know we betalking.
I know you normally call meabout seven, 30, but I'm
(13:20):
changing my schedule from sevento nine.
I am not available.
If I won't even answer thephone, my phone going to be on
silent.
I probably won't even know thatyou call.
So, unless the house is on fire, somebody to die.
I'll figure it out after nineo'clock, okay, but you have to
(13:41):
let those that affect you know.
The other thing is get some help.
I had help and there's somebodythat you can rely on.
Find somebody If you have tohave somebody to take Johnny to
football practice for youbecause you have something else
(14:04):
that you have to do, or you haveto take on the football
practice, but while you're there, you're working on some things
for you and not just sitting andwatching.
It's so many different timemanagement tricks and tips that
I will give you and I'llcontinue to give you as we go
down this journey.
(14:24):
But you got to get your lifeand stop making excuses.
Get your time in order.
Your time management has to getbetter in order for you to do
all the things that you want todo.
It doesn't have to be stressfulSometimes.
Yes, it's going to beoverwhelming, but you're going
(14:46):
to get through it.
Yes, sometimes you may havesome sleepless nights, but
you're going to get through thattoo.
But if you put little things inplace, it won't be as much and
you will be able to see thelight at the end of the tunnel.
So I just came here to tell you,girl, get your life, get it
(15:11):
together, get it in order.
We got things to do, people tosee, places to go and money to
make.
So get your time managementtogether.
I'm going to put a resource.
Click the link in thedescription.
There will be a resource linkto a time management book called
(15:34):
Time Management Becoming theBest you and yes, it's by yours
truly.
It's going to give you moretips and tricks to be able to
manage it all.
So start by doing the littlethings, thinking about them,
making your tasks list, all ofthat.
You will start to see adifference.
(15:55):
So I love you, girl.
Ain't nothing you can do aboutit?
Be blessed, live all purposeand let's walk All right.
Divas, what an episode.
Did I hit you in the head withone of those bricks?
Did you go out?
Did you have the ducking cover?
I know you went running aroundthe house checking for cameras,
(16:18):
looking under the bed, lookingout the window to see if I was
watching, because I was all inyour business.
I was on your street and inyour lane.
It's okay, though.
It lets you know that you'renot alone.
I hope that something that youheard resonated with you and, as
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a result, you are starting toreposition your mind so you can
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