Embark on an enlightening exploration of the threads that weave the tapestry of our relationships, with the guidance of Apostle Sharon, whose sage reflections from her 'Relationship Chronicles' offer a roadmap to nurturing connections that can weather life's storms. Her seasoned insights illuminate the journey toward building wholeness within ourselves and our relationships, emphasizing the transformative power of divine guidance. Discover how embracing patience and understanding can help us navigate the complex challenges of domestic violence, and learn why honest communication is the cornerstone of any bond, be it with partners, peers, or family members.
Feel the embrace of healing as we unpack the Shiloh Experience, a life-altering event that promises more than just words—it's an immersion into the profound depth of "I am" declarations that shape our destiny. Experience the catharsis of releasing offense through forgiveness, guided by the nurturing force of love, and grasp the importance of acknowledging our spiritual essence over transient emotions. Apostle Sharon's wisdom, paired with personal anecdotes, sheds light on the path to spiritual and personal breakthroughs, inviting you to experience the power of presence, awareness, and connectivity.
As we close this chapter, let's contemplate the sanctuary our relationships can become when built upon a foundation of strong communication. The soulful blend of mind, will, and emotions, bridled by spiritual insight, erects a fortress where connectivity is the bedrock, God the steadfast door, and love the sheltering roof. For those yearning for a divine connection or a renewed bond with the Creator, we open the door to confession as the gateway to a fulfilling relationship with God, underscoring the enduring nature of spiritual metamorphosis. Join us on this voyage of self-discovery and divine intimacy, where every step taken in truth and wisdom leads to a richer, more resilient communion with ourselves and the world around us.
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Speaker 1 (00:30):
Relationships are a part of the beauty blocks for
healthy life and spiritualgrowth.
God uses relationships to helpmove us farther into our destiny
and to help us grow in.
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Christ.
Healthy relationships are notfound but built.
A healthy relationship needscommitment and willingness to be
accommodating to each other'sneeds.
Marriage is more than aphysical union.
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It is also a spiritual andemotional union.
According to Ecclesiastes 4,verse 9, two are better than one
, two are better than one.
So therefore, what God hasjoined together, let no one
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separate Kingdom marriage in itspurpose.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Kingdom marriage in its purpose.
Well, hey, everybody Goodafternoon everybody.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Thank you guys for joining in.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Listen, we had a phenomenal time last week when
we discussed the topic can twobroken people come together and
build a whole relationship?
Now I know we were a little bittransparent and open, not even
a little bit.
We kind of shared ourfoundation and our relationship
and said, yes, it is possible.
But then we got to thinking andwe got to talking and we
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realized, yeah, we wastransparent and we told
everybody how it happenedbetween us and we're prime
examples.
But they say his word says thatwe perish due to lack of
knowledge.
So we need to share with youguys some of the components.
What is the key factors ofbuilding a whole relationship?
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What does that look like?
Even coming from a brokenperson, what does that look like
?
How do you aim towards thatgoal of building a whole
relationship?
Not just a relationship whereyou got your boo thing, you got
your spouse, but justrelationships in general
co-worker, church members,family members.
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We got to know thesefoundations.
Ain't that right?
Speaker 2 (03:18):
That's correct.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
So the main thing that we said we want to talk
about and I'm so super excitedbecause we got a special guest
that's joining us to talk aboutthis Let me just tell a little
bit about her, but before I dothat, you know I don't do
nothing without the Holy Spirit,right?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
I led the first time- we have to open in prayer.
We thank you, Lord, for thistime together we thank you that
it would be you that it would beconducting this show today.
Let it accomplish what you setforth for it to accomplish.
Lord.
Let all minds and hearts beclear, and we do this humbly in
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Jesus name.
Amen.
And we can now open.
Amen, amen Thank you, I'll bebetter next week.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Y'all.
He don't like to be put on thespot, but you know that's what a
wife does.
Kingdom wife, they push theirhusbands.
That's what we got to do, amen.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
The Holy Spirit knows .
Speaker 3 (04:19):
So we are going to talk about communication.
Yes, I feel like that's thefoundation of every relationship
.
That's why we starting offthere.
There's other key componentsand you might hear them along
the way, but you know what Ialso want to go into.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
What?
Because there's a bunch of Cs.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
I know, but within communication the key pillow
talk.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Right.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
I definitely want to go into talking about pillow
talk, because I feel likesociety has perverted that term
pillow talk.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Right, but that's in the context of couples right.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I mean yes, no, not really.
I mean they perverted it whenit comes to couples.
But what we're going to shine alight on is pillow talk is not
just for couples, that's true,and it's not just about the
setting.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
What it sounds like, pillow talk Right.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
Yeah, so we're going to go into that.
So, first and foremost, Idefinitely want to welcome, I
guess, apostle Sharon Listeny'all yes let's please.
Y'all have not been followingthe sweet roles of Sharon on
Facebook or not even followingher.
Let me tell y'all something.
Listen, this woman of God isphenomenal and she has.
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It's called RelationshipChronicles.
Listen y'all, she be droppingthem, gems.
I'm trying to tell you.
She be having me run all aroundmy house every time I read,
because it'd be some good, goodstuff, invalid information that
will help you along the wayabout relationships.
She speaks hashtag facts.
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She speaks the truth and thewhole truth and nothing but the
truth.
I love apostle sharon.
Let's talk about this.
This relationship chronicles.
I just like the title, okay.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
That's your introduction.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Yes, okay, it is.
Listen, it's so much, to behonest, to unfold.
All right, it's a whole book.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I'm excited to get into the wisdom.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Let's get it.
Let's get it.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Let's dive in.
Let's talk about theRelationship Chronicles.
Tell me more about RelationshipChronicles.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Well, hello everyone and hello to this wonderful
couple that's doing this awesomepodcast, and thank you for
allowing me to come and shareand to just get my perspective
as it relates to relationship.
Relationship Chronicles is justsomething that the Lord just
drops in my spirit to share.
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I've always loved the concept,the idea, the premise, the
covenant of relationship,especially man-woman
relationship, but not justman-woman relationship, but all
relationships in general,because I do believe that God
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created us as beings in theearth to relate.
He gave us dominion overanimals and creeping things and
all of that, but our dominion isover things in the earth, not
humans in the earth.
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So that means that we have torelate to one another.
So my relationship chronicles isjust, you know, whatever I'm
waking up to, that God isdealing with me as it relates to
relationship.
A lot of times it's man, woman,sometimes it's, you know, a
mother to her child, sometimesit's a leader to the sheep, or
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those that they are covering orthose that they are spiritually
leading.
Whatever it is, there is arelationship.
I mean, the Bible just tells usto love our neighbor as we love
ourselves.
So even if there's arelationship with our neighbor,
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the mailman, anybody there'svarying kinds of relationships
and I just like to talk aboutthem.
So those are my relationshipchronicles.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Right and basically, whoever we communicate with,
there is a relationship to beestablished there.
With whoever we communicatewith, there's always a chance
for a relationship with whoeverwe communicate with.
Speaker 4 (08:51):
Whoever we communicate with and whoever we
commune with, with amen, right,right God.
You know he wanted to be inrelationship with you, know
mankind, and so he would come inthe cool of the day and that
was a communing time, you know.
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And so, even as husband andwives or families or things like
that, with our kids, people ofour household, we're communing.
We should be at least oneanother, and communing does
involve communication,absolutely.
Communication is a must andcommuning, you know, we commune
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together.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Yeah you know, that's amazing, that that's amazing
the things that you share,because it draws me to two
questions.
It draws me to two questions.
The first question is when Ihear relation, you hear relate,
and then communication, you hearcommunion commune root words.
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Right.
So Is it fair to say, or is itfair to ask do you have to
relate to an individual in orderto even open up or begin a
relationship?
Like, what is the foundation ofstarting a relationship?
Speaker 4 (10:17):
I definitely believe that there has to be.
See, when I think about relate,I think about a connectivity.
It's got to be someconnectivity.
I mean we can relate with pets,we have relationships with pets
, and so even with our children,how we relate or that place of
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connectivity with the childdiffers in how we relate or
connect to our spouse.
And I believe that everyrelationship needs a point of
connectivity.
I'm a counselor, so I do a lotof premarital counseling.
I do marital counseling andI'll ask people you know they
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meet somebody well what are yourpoints of connectivity?
Because if you lose points ofconnectivity, guess what happens
?
You lose relationship.
So that means that if we haveno points of connectivity, we
will sit in a room and saynothing.
How many couples do you knowthat we're in the same house?
We pass each other like shipsin the night.
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Yes, points of connectivity.
The guys that's in the man cavewith the husband of the house,
these guys have points ofconnectivity.
Perhaps they all like sports,right, they got the same
conversations.
They like talking about thesame thing.
So it's got to be points ofconnectivity.
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So I ask couples a lot, man andwoman what's your point of
connectivity?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
That's a good question.
What's your point ofconnectivity man and woman?
What's your point ofconnectivity?
That's?
Speaker 4 (11:51):
a good question.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
What's your point of connectivity?
That is a good question because, yeah, in order to maintain
that relationship, there has tobe something there, multiple
points.
Sometimes it's the kids, butlet's say they don't have
children.
So, there has to be some pointof, like she said, some point of
connection, of relation thereto keep that line of
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communication open.
Speaker 4 (12:19):
Keep that line of communication, keep that line of
relatability.
Maybe we both like talkingabout current events, maybe we
both are political buffs and sowe meet at that point.
So what is the connectivity?
Maybe we both like to golf,maybe we both, you know, we
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worship together, pray togetherand all that.
Believe it or not, that's justnot automatic with couples.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
That's good.
Listen, we're talking aboutconnectivity.
This is kingdom marriage in itspurpose we have.
We are the purpose couple and wehave our special guest we.
We want to ask you, apostleshan, because you you dropping
some good gems, listen, thosethat just joined in.
This is kingdom marriage in itspurpose.
We are the purpose couple.
Right now we're dealing withcan two broken people come
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together and build a wholerelationship?
Right now we're dealing withcan two broken people come
together and build a wholerelationship?
Right now we're dealing withthe foundation of the components
of building a healthyrelationship and what it takes
to build a whole healthyrelationship.
So let's go back into theconnectivity.
Sir, you said you had aquestion.
I'm curious to hear thisquestion.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
I wanted to share her wisdom on the subject of people
that are broken.
How that communication?
How do you, if?
How do you establish thatconnection, people that are
broken, that want to try to cometogether.
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Is there a way?
Is there even a way?
Speaker 4 (13:54):
Well, okay.
So I think you're talking about, in this instance more so, a
man-woman relationship.
Correct, yes, and so, yeah,there is a way that perhaps
seems right to a man, but itoften leads to some form of
destruction in the relationship.
So let's think about it likethis To make a whole, it takes
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two.
To make a whole, these twoshall become one, stay flesh.
Now, that's interesting, twobecoming one.
And so one would think, oh,well then why is it not a half
and a half?
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Wouldn't that make one?
But it's something verysupernatural about God that he
takes one, he takes a two andturns and he fuses it into one
synchronized flesh, doing thingsin unity and harmony, and all
of that.
How can two walk together unlessthey be agreed?
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We need to think about is thisCan broken people come together,
or fragmented people cometogether, or half a person come
together?
Sure, they can come together,but what will the health of that
relationship look like?
Will that be a wholerelationship?
Probably not.
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There's going to be some partsthat are missing.
That should be a part of theconnectivity to make the whole.
But you got something missingon your end and I got something
missing on my end, so we can'tquite make a whole connection
there, that thereforecommunication is off and all of
that kind of stuff.
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So let's look at how God did it.
So God decided to make mankind,and we know that wrapped up in
mankind was two kinds male andfemale, right, right.
So what did God say?
He made a clarion call for us.
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Let us make man, let varyingdimensions of myself be involved
in the making of mankind.
So well before there was a letus versus a let them, you know a
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them there was a us, there wasthe dimensions, all the
dimensions of God in being him,jesus, the Holy Spirit, us
coming together to make thespecimen of mankind.
That had male and female.
So I believe that what makesfor a whole relationship is each
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entity of the relationship, themale and the female spending
that time where God is making us.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
That's interesting because the triune being part of
it should be also incorporatedinto uh, into our, our human
relationship.
Yes, believe, that's true.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Yes, we I need.
Before God brought forth Eve tothe man he had, did some work
with the man.
He had the man.
He had placed the man.
He had placed the man.
He had given the man some, somedo's and don'ts and all of that
.
He had set him where he neededto be in the garden.
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He positioned him, and all ofthat.
I'll say, if God has not, ifGod, if the man has not had that
time with God, then yeah, heshould be left alone.
Because you know, I might sayit's not good for man to be
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alone, but that is a man thathas been worked on by God, has
been positioned.
He's ready to now embrace thatpart of him he's ready to
embrace.
But if he hasn't, and then youhaven't been built as a woman to
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last and not just perform.
I'm a woman that was built tolast, not a woman to just
perform.
So when we come together and wegot missing pieces in all of
that, it makes the work a littlebit harder in trying to make
the relationship whole.
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If I'm not whole, you're notwhole.
You know we're on the strugglebus a little bit.
And I'm not saying that you know, everybody knows this, you know
this revelation.
But we get together and that'swhy we need the wisdom of God,
the counsel from God, themultitude of counselors to
preserve the purpose of thepeople getting together.
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But it could be a work inprogress.
You know it's a work in process, I should say a work in
progress.
You know it's a work in process.
I should say a work in processand a work.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
It's a work, at least he used to always say, about
the three Stranded cord To arelationship.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
So what?
I will always share with himand I still share to this day
that three stranded cord Startswith you first, individually,
before it goes into an actualrelationship.
Because, just piggybacking onwhat you're saying, god deals
with the individual first.
And that was the thing, guys,between my husband and I.
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Yes, god had him to to comeconnect with me.
We crossed paths and theconnectivity was business.
That was the beginning of ourconnectivity.
It was business.
That's what connected ustogether.
We were both business mindedpeople trying to go in the same
direction, both trying to buildup nonprofit organizations to
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assist others out there.
That was our key.
That's what opened the door,because the lead already knew on
my end, if there was noconnectivity, I did not want to
be bothered with you, especiallyif you were a man.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
And that opened up the communication.
Yes, because you could talkbusiness.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Correct.
Speaker 4 (20:30):
Yes, business, and you expand it from there.
But it has to be some point ofconnectivity in order for us to
even initiate a relationship.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Yeah, and you said that led into the relativity.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Relativity.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Because, honestly, as it opened that door, it opened
that door of communication where, as we communicated and got to
know one another more and more,we realized, hold on, we got a
lot more connections than justbusiness.
Hold on, wait, you lostsomebody, I lost somebody too,
you have this, I have this too.
So it kind of started to buildthings Now, him and I.
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It took us three years and itwas fine because God was
building him as God was alsobuilding me.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
God's timing.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Yeah, it was all in God's timing, and I just find it
and, honestly, this revelationjust dropped on me just now.
It took three years.
When I think about that, three,that's the triune number.
That's the number you know,that's one of the perfecting
numbers.
So it was in God's timing of ussaying I do, of us deciding
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okay, yeah, you're my husband.
Oh, yeah, you're my husband.
Oh, yeah, you're my wife.
So, with that, though, we werebroken.
We did not try to rush intoanything or force anything on
one another.
We understood where each otherwas at.
Going back to what we discussedin the first episode, we put
our guns on the table and we leteach other know this these are
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my triggers right here.
Yeah, you push that trigger, abullet's coming out, this gun,
and I can't, I can't tell youwhere it's going to hit.
It might hit your heart and, Iapologize, you might bleed a
little bit more, but I, you, Iforewarned you, I told you, I
notified you.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
So yeah, they're putting the guns on the table
thing.
It was very, very important Inour case that putting the guns
on the table thing is very, veryimportant.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
In our case that was really important.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
So I hope that other people see that as well because,
yeah, that transparency, thatputting it on the table where
you're at you, if you have thetrust to do that, then, yeah,
you have a foundation, you canbuild a foundation.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
Yeah, I think that was great, that analogy that you
use by putting the and let meadd this loaded gun, yeah, on
the table.
The loaded gun because thevariables of life and
experiences, especially negativeexperience in life, is what
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loaded the gun.
You didn't try to hide theweapon.
You didn't put it at your footand covered it up with a jacket
at your waist, you put the gunson the table.
These are loaded weapons andthe trigger is.
The triggering is what willfire the weapon and possibly hit
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you in an insulting or hurtfulway.
And what I'd like to say, one ofthe prophetess that was on my
live, our Sunday live, said this.
She said wholeness is not adestination, it's an awareness.
That's good.
And so you guys were aware ofwhere you were less than whole.
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It's all in this gun.
It's loaded.
I could fire off my mouth atany minute, at any minute,
because these are areas whereI'm not whole.
And so you just look at all ofthe areas where you're
fragmented as bullets in the gun.
How many rounds can you fire?
My God, I got 10 rounds in thisgun.
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So when you put the guns on thetable and you step away from
them, being vulnerable, beingtransparent- it lets him know
what he's dealing with it, letsyou know what's, you know what
kind of ammunition he got in hisgun.
Right, that's great, rightthere, because that means that,
uh, wholeness, you are aware,I'm aware, and and you can't be
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whole unless you're aware ofwhere you're fragment.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
That's right.
No surprises.
These people come up with this,saying about red flags and
everything no, no surprises, nosurprises.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
We're back.
Oh my goodness, this is listen.
The fire has picked up.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
Thank you again for being with us, apostle Sharon.
Yes, my goodness, this islisten.
The fire has picked up.
Thank you again for being withus, apostle Sharon.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
Yes, my God, my God from Zion, my God, this is
getting good.
We last left off.
We talked about awareness.
Listen, I hope y'all takingnotes of the one word God said
all you need is just one word,because the one word holds so
much power.
Listen, so far we dealt withcommunication, we dealt with
connectivity.
Now we went into awareness.
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My God, listen, I don't want togo into this awareness, because
what came to me was in order tobe aware of what's in the gun,
one must first be self-aware.
That's self-awareness.
You have to be real withyourself.
If you're in denial of the typeof bullets that's in your gun,
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how can one?
It's impossible.
It's impossible to sit thereand say this is what's going on,
this is what I have in my gun,if you're not in a place of
being honest and real withyourself.
So let's talk a little bitabout the bullets that's in the
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gun.
What types of bullets that canbe loaded in the gun?
Domestic violence being onethat's like the number one, I
believe majority of the women.
Their gun is fully loaded withdomestic violence.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
From relationship to relationship, whether it's
parental relationship toboyfriend, relationship to any
type, and because there'smultiple layers of domestic
violence.
You have verbal abuse.
There's multiple layers ofdomestic violence.
You have verbal abuse, you haveemotional abuse, you have
physical abuse, you have mentalabuse.
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That adds up, yeah.
Speaker 4 (27:01):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
So I want to talk about that.
How does one get to a point OK,you get a connection with
someone, there's a connectivity,right.
However, you're still not fullytransparent with your own self,
you're still not real withyourself, you still haven't gone
through the full process ofself-awareness.
So how does one get to thatpoint, once they've connected
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with somebody, if that'spossible?
Speaker 4 (27:29):
Oh, it's very possible, it's very doable, and
all of that being self-aware.
Self-aware is not blank, that'sfirst of all.
Self-aware is not blank.
Self-awareness is not pinningthe tail on the donkey of
somebody else doings.
God wrote all that stuff down ofwhat was done to you, who left
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you, who didn't take care of you, who lied to you, who cheated
on you.
You're not self-aware if youcome in talking in another
relationship and you're bringingall of these things about what
the other person did to you,what your mama did to you, what
your daddy did or what your youknow how your kids don't respect
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you or how the last man or yourhusband or your wife did these
things.
Self-aware says this thishappened to me and this is how I
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was left feeling it.
Internal things.
Once you become self-aware, youstop playing the blame game.
You know what this stuffhappens to me.
Listen, it will be.
If I got shot in my arm and I goto the hospital, there's a the
police are going to deal withwho shot me, but the great
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physician is going to deal withthe injury in my arm.
So when I am aware, I'm notjust aware that you shot me, I'm
aware that you shot me, I'maware that it left me injured in
some way.
My goal is to get in a place ofwhere I can be healed and then
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go into recovery.
And self-aware says you knowwhat I like you and I know you
like me, but I want to be honest.
I'm going to let you know thisgun that's on the table.
You know, I'm still carryingthe wounds of my past and it's
not a scab yet.
It's not.
It might be a scab, but it'snot a scar yet, which means that
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re-injury could take placebecause scabs can come off and
you'll bleed again, but once itbecomes a scar, it no longer
hurts.
And so this is what self-awareis it's, it's, it's.
I refuse to continue to blame,but I take responsibility of
where I am now, what it did tome and how I'm.
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I want to let you know I am onthe road to recovery and again I
like you and I know you like me.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
Now, why can't we all just get along?
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Speaker 4 (30:35):
Why do people don't like people?
You know what I'm saying, but Igot my eye on you and I know
you like people.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
My goodness, that sounds like wisdom was more
prevalent.
I mean, my goodness, thatsounds like some adult talk
right there Listen.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
I'm so proud of us, babe, because that's everything
we do.
I like it.
Speaker 4 (31:01):
You like it because you got a little womb.
You know you're liking somebody, you still feel good.
Let's put it all together inits right, in its right
perspective, right pockets.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Too many people use that to push the other and it
ended up pushing people away.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
It does.
It does Because, honestlyspeaking, just being transparent
within our marriage, even whilewe were friends, the reason the
Lord allotted the reason thetiming was three years because
he knew I was bitter.
He knew I was broken beyondbroken, like my pieces, was a
thousand piece puzzle.
It was no four piece puzzle.
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So he knew the abuse that I hadgone through.
He knew the trauma that I dealtwith from childhood on up.
He knew these things.
He knew I had rejection issues.
He knew I had love issues andtrust issues.
So, with that him knowing, Ithank God for his patience
because he was still gentle withme.
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For his patience because he wasstill gentle with me.
He was willing, he still sawfit, because he saw beyond my
almost like how Ruth did Naomishe saw beyond her bitterness.
Speaker 4 (32:15):
Yes, and you still liked him yes.
Speaker 3 (32:19):
I did.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
Although I tried to act like I did it.
She said I thank God for hispatience.
I thank God for his patience.
Let's thank God for hispatience.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
You know.
So, with that, thatself-awareness is so important
because, honestly speaking, evenafter we jumped the broom and
said I do, I still had some ofthose rules.
Just being transparent, therewas a time I realized I had to
learn how to be affectionateagain.
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He just came behind me to giveme a hug and I blacked out and
went off.
Get off me, Don't touch me likethat.
Speaker 4 (33:01):
Yeah, that was a trigger for you that was a
trigger for you.
Speaker 3 (33:10):
And when I realized he backed off and he understood
because of what he knew, what Ihad gone through and everything,
and I was like, oh my god, Istill need help with this well,
because the guns were on thetable, we did.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
that was the reason why I could be like okay, you
know, I understand, but see,that's why it's important,
because if not, I could havebeen offended.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Right, yeah, and that definitely takes into place.
That's good.
See, now we got another keyword Praise the Lord.
Thank you, Guys, you justputting it all together, so
y'all listen.
I hope you guys are enjoying it.
I know it done got fiery.
Get you a bottle of water, getyour pen, your pad.
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Make sure you're taking notesIn the meantime.
Listen.
In order to keep this podcastrolling, we got to pay some
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Lord, who am I that you aremindful of me?
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your own I am statement.
I am tired, I am, I'm sick andtired, I'm this, I'm so
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Whatever follows I am is Iwouldn't be able to minister
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talking so y'all testify aboutthe experience of being jacked
up and the experience of thebreakup and the experience of
the loss and the experience ofwalking out on you and the
experience, but I'm talkingabout the experience with I am.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
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See you there.
All right, we are back.
Listen, it is really heating upand turning up.
Listen, we done ran down thelist of words.
Hold on, you want to run downthem again?
What we talk about?
Communication.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
Relativity.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
What Connectivity.
You again what we talked aboutCommunication Relativity.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
What Connectivity you mean?
Connectivity CC.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
CC, cca, I lost you there.
No, I didn't.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Awareness, awareness, awareness, cca Carry Awareness.
Speaker 3 (36:05):
It's for awareness.
All right, cca, I'm like Icould carry, I could feel I
don't know we started talkingabout weapons.
I know, right, we went intoweapons and all of those things
my bad.
The key words that we dealtwith within this episode is
communication, connectivity,awareness, and then we kind of
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did a little snippet aboutoffense before we went on a
commercial break.
But before I go into talkingabout the word offense listen to
that commercial just now aboutthe shallow experience, let me
tell you y'all, listen, I'm justgoing to tell y'all from
experience, I just I'm justgoing to throw that's our bonus
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word within this segmentexperience.
Okay, listen, it was definitelyfor me, it was a life changing
experience.
It really really was.
Things were activated within methat I didn't even know existed
, that was there within me, thatI didn't even know existed.
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That was there.
Listen, the wisdom that is likeflowing and just a flowing and a
pouring and a flowing.
It just don't make nothing,that kind of sense.
It built my confidence and alsoit made the vision that the
Lord has given me.
It made it so much more clearbecause we did vision boards
too'all.
I love a vision board.
We did vision boards and can Itell y'all there are things
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within the vision board thathave already begun manifesting,
this podcast being one of them.
Praise the lord.
Yeah, so I listen.
I want to Apostle Sharon tellthe people about the Shiloh
experience, because I need themto experience what I experienced
.
Speaker 4 (37:53):
Wow, I'm telling you Shiloh.
Shiloh really stands for theepitaph of Jesus Christ.
It's the epitaph of JesusChrist.
Shiloh was where Hannah went,you know, when she was just
having all these badrelationship issues with her
husband and couldn't bring fortha baby and all that.
And Hannah went to Shiloh andjust poured out of herself and
she left there pregnant.
So most people, women, whenthey come, they leave either
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activated or impregnated withsomething.
Shiloh is also a safe place.
It's a safe place.
Shiloh is not a conference,it's an experience and it's one
for you to have, and we do itonce a year.
It's going to be in Chicagoarea, a suburb called Itasca,
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Don't come looking for a churchservice.
It's not that there will betimes where you'll feel like
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all kinds of stuff.
It's the sisterhood, thefellowship.
It's just a wonderfulexperience where you can see and
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experience various dimensionsof I am, that I am, and one
thing we found out last year isthat when I am shows up on the
scene, he's coming to bring intoexistence what already is.
So come to Shiloh.
Come to Shiloh in October, youall.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
Is this only women or ?
Speaker 3 (39:20):
No, actually, men can come to and experience.
Yes, men can come to andexperience.
Yes, yes, men can come to andexperience.
And, honestly, I loved itbecause indeed, like she said,
it's not a conference at allwhen I tell you, from the first
day to the last day, it isnothing but experiencing.
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And I thank God because he keptrepeating you need to get to
shallow, you need to get toshallow.
And I kept saying what is ashallow?
He took me to read shallow.
About every scripture I read,shallow was in there.
Okay, I know shallow is a place, but where is shallow in
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reality?
You need to get the shallow.
And we're talking aboutconnectivity.
My sister, sadie, she sent methe invite.
She said, listen, we're goingto do this registration and
everything, because I need youto come with me this year,
because I need you to experiencewhat I've been experiencing.
And when I saw the flyer and Isaw the shallow experience, I
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said, lord, this is what you wastalking about.
I need to get.
And can I tell you everything?
You know all the adversity thatI went through trying to get
there and then trying to getback up.
Try to keep me in Chi-Town,y'all.
Try to keep me at the airport.
Y'all Praise, tried to keep meat the airport, y'all They've
got a home though.
Yeah, praise the Lord,hallelujah, it was that
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experience that got me home.
But listen, y'all do not wantto miss it.
Listen, the registrationinformation will be in the
comments section.
Y'all need to go ahead, getyour seats now, go register.
You definitely do not want tomiss it now.
Let me tell y'all something thatties into we dealt with
connectivity, we dealt withcommunication.
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We're dealing with relationshipplenty.
She talked about hannah.
Hannah went to shallow becauseshe kept having all these
screwed up relationships.
I wonder why.
But we're not going to talkabout that.
That's a whole nother subjectfor another time.
But anywho, I want to talk aboutthe spirit of offense, because
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there's no way possible.
I don't care how broken you areand honestly that could be one
of the bullets the spirit ofoffense, when everything offends
you, the smallest thing offendsyou.
It ain't even about you, it hasnothing to do with you, but all
of a sudden you offended, youfeel some type of way because it
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just reminds you of somebody inthe past or reminds you of a
situation that you've beenthrough.
Let's talk about how does oneovercome that offense, being at
that level of offense?
Because in order to haveconnectivity, in order to have
healthy communication and beable to communicate.
That offense got to come down,because that's a whole Jericho
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wall by itself.
I yield it to you, apostleJaron.
Speaker 4 (42:19):
Yeah, it's offense.
The Bible tells us in Proverbsthat it is really hard to win a
brother or a sister, anybodythat's offended, because it's
like a strong, fortified city.
And I look at the Bible.
Let's just know offense is awoe and I think that offense is
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really almost like Leviathan,like pride.
These are things that God hasto deal with.
If a person is offended, youcould bring her flowers, you
could cook him a good meal, youcould do foot massages, you
could do anything you want to do.
It's not going to penetrate theheart because it's like having
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a just prison of bars.
You know, it's not even aforest, it is a steel bar that
got your heart enclosed and thatneeds a God.
You need God to do somethingwith a brother offended.
God.
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You need God to do somethingwith a brother offended.
It's a lose-lose situation.
If you're trying to involveyourself or engage with someone
that's offended, nothing you dowill help.
That takes God, taking downthose bars of offense and giving
an opening to the heart beingable to receive.
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So offense is terrible.
Offense is probably like one ofthose exploding bullets or
something.
Offense is really, reallyterrible and it's really hard to
relate to someone that'sold-fitted.
It's difficult, it's a losingthing.
You have to be able to stepaway from that person and allow
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God to deal with them.
That might take some time.
You may have to come back inanother season when God has
dealt with that offense, thosebars that surrounds their heart.
It was the word that helped me.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
It was the word that helped me with that spirit of
offense and to not be offended.
I pray that for anybodylistening that they receive the
spirit of casting, that be ableto cast down that spirit of
offense.
You have to deal with thatbecause that can really be a
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detriment to trying to get toknow somebody or trying to be in
a relationship with somebody.
It damages communication.
That leads to more otheroffenses and bullets and it
leads to other stuff.
Speaker 4 (45:08):
One of my favorite scriptures about offense is from
Psalms 119.
That talks about great peace.
Have they that love thy law orthe word, like you just said,
and nothing shall offend thee.
So to stay out of offense youreally got to be a lover of
God's word.
Speaker 3 (45:31):
I remember the scripture but I think that was
it.
So I'm over here cracking andchuckling on the inside.
The little girl in me is havinga little bit of fun.
I like to play with words, Ilike to scrabble, I love when
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the Lord has me to rearrangewords, to go even deeper and
dive in to the true meaning ofoffense.
And, honestly, what I'm hearingis every time I hear it on
repeat basically people that areoffended, they just fell off
the fence.
You know, because his word saidthey started out on the fence
but they had one leg on one sideof the fence, another leg on
the other side of the fence, andhis word said a double-minded
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man is unstable in all of hisways.
So what?
You got one part of yourself onthe left side, one part on the
right side, so you're a littlewobbly already and so your
mental is unstable.
So somebody blow on you.
You just gonna fall off thefence, plain and simple.
Speaker 2 (46:36):
Like Luke Warhol.
Speaker 3 (46:38):
Luke Warhol.
He said I spit you out.
He said I spit you out.
You have to choose.
You cannot be it's one or theother.
That means you just totally off, you're unstable.
Speaker 4 (46:53):
So either you love God's word or you don't.
Right, you just love his word.
If his word says I got toforgive you for the all you know
or what I got against you,either I'm going to forgive you
or I'm not.
So but when I'm halt betweentwo opinions, yeah, you're going
to mess around and get offendedsooner or later.
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Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3 (47:17):
So that was funny to me.
Thank you, holy Spirit.
They say you know a goodmedicine for the soul.
Cause when he said that, hesaid they just fell off the
fence.
Oh, like that, that's funny,that's good, that's good.
So how?
We?
We know that it takes the wordand, honestly, offense is
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something that can muster up.
You can have so much word inyou and things will come to try
to offend you.
How does one prevent themselvesfrom falling into the
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entrapment of offense once againafter they've overcome offense?
Speaker 4 (48:16):
One time I was planning to teach on offense at
my church this was years ago andthe Lord showed me a picture of
a big rock, and offense lookedlike a big rock, like a
stumbling block.
Rock like a stumbling blockit's what it's designed to make
you stumble and you are the onethat's going to fall.
Like you said, you're the onethat's going to fall and may
have a long period of time ingetting up.
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So offenses must be avoidednumber one, because they're
going to come, According toscripture.
They're going to come, but it'sa woe.
But I think that really wouldhelp us not be offended.
We already talk about lovingGod's word, but when those
little dings come in life, wheresomebody says something that
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hurts your feeling, go ahead andforgive right away.
Don't delay things that theBible tells you that you're
supposed to do.
Go on, so it won't sit thereand build up until 20 years
later.
Now I come and I do something.
I really wasn't trying tooffend you, but because you got
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this buildup of stuff, nowyou're offended.
So don't let things build up inyour life.
Deal with this stuff at theonset of it.
Deal with it.
God, I'm hurt.
That hurt my feeling.
God, I do feel some type of way.
Lord, I feel rejected All ofthose things that come that
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could cause you to be offendedlater.
Speaker 3 (49:44):
Go ahead and deal with it now that could cause you
to be offended later.
Go ahead and deal with it now,Right.
And the other thing that Ifound to be helpful, because
there's times along my journeyand my walk that I do see where
that offense tries to come andbe like, hey, how you doing, you
remember me and I'll be likewe're not doing this today,
Because the reminder, thefoundation of preventing and
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putting yourself in theentrapment of offense and having
that to keep you bound is, yeah, the foundation of it is his
word.
When you have word in you aswell, just as Jesus did when he
had to do, he did the 40 dayfast.
Stuff was coming at him and allhe did was combated with God's
word.
There's times, if you see,there's a moment of rejection
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that tries to come back at youto make you feel offended that
they rejected you or they didn'treceive from you.
God said it in his word.
He said I'm paraphrasing it butin a nutshell he said listen,
they're not rejecting you,they're rejecting me.
Speaker 2 (50:48):
Right.
Speaker 3 (50:48):
When they receive from you, they really ain't
receiving from you, theyreceiving from me.
So at times I'll be transparentand honest.
At times when I see rejectiontrying to say, hey, they ain't
pay you no mind, they ignoringyou, that reminder that light
bulb comes off and be like, okay, you know, I, I can't worry
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about, as long as I know I'vepositioned myself.
I was obedient to the voice ofgod.
I did what he told me to do.
What happens thereafter, that'sbetween them and god.
I move on.
If it was rejected, guess what?
You didn't reject me take nofeeling and also stop taking
things so personal.
When you have that mindsetwhere you feel like the world is
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revolved around you, offense isgoing to be there all the time
and you're going to feeloffended.
You have to realize sometimessome things that might come at
you.
It's not you the person thathad a bad day.
Somebody ticked them off andthey ventilating right now they
going through a vent and youjust so happen to be the target
so, ladies, where does love playa part in all of this?
Speaker 4 (51:56):
ooh oh, okay, I want to say that again, say that
again we just love playing apart in all of this well, we
know that number one, love neverfails.
All right, and, and love is god.
God is love, all right, and godis a spirit.
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And what I was thinking about,uh, when the woman of God was
speaking, was this we arespiritual beings having a human
experience.
Right, that's what we are.
So we are a spirit with a souland a body, and so we're not,
per se, soulish led, but we arespirit led.
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So, whatever I feel, my latehusband used to say all the time
baby, your feelings are real,but not necessarily true.
And so David, when he had hisproblem David said in Psalms 51,
he was like God.
I know you desire truth in theinner parts and in the hidden
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parts.
Make me to know wisdom.
So truth is my wisdom.
You know, I pull from wisdom,from truth, not necessarily from
my feelings, because myfeelings can change, okay, and
feelings can linger, all right.
And so what I?
What I do personally?
I flush my feelings through therealms of the spirit, because I
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need to land in a place calledtruth.
That's where I need to land,and when you flush your feelings
, or your emotions, or thesoulless you, through a higher
dimension which is spirit, thenyou come to better wisdoms and
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you come to better conclusionsof the matter.
I said your soul, which is amakeup of your mind, your will,
your emotions, your intelligenceand your intellect, can reside
in spirit realm, but it alsodips into your human experiences
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.
Your spirit don't do that, butyour soul dips.
It's dipping into theconversation you just had and
somebody says something that youdidn't like.
Well, you got to take thethings of the spirit, god's love
, his word, the fruit of thespirit, all of that to raise
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that soul back up to a placecalled truth and where truth
allows you to see or give you adifferent perspective.
And then that's where you sayyou know what I feel it?
But that's not true.
It's very real.
Our feelings are very real, butour realness don't always take
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us into the revelations of God.
But truth will Right.
Speaker 2 (55:04):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (55:05):
That children will Wow.
That Wow, honestly speaking,with that.
Speaker 2 (55:12):
Your late husband was really wise.
Yes, he was.
Speaker 4 (55:16):
He really was.
Speaker 2 (55:18):
Yeah, yeah, wow.
Speaker 3 (55:21):
So then I yield.
Speaker 2 (55:25):
You yield, you yield.
Speaker 3 (55:27):
I got that answer, yeah so tying everything
together, you have communication.
But the foundation ofcommunication is connectivity.
So let's build this house.
We are going.
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I like building, y'all, I'm acreative person, I like building
, so let us build.
We're going to build a solidfoundation Of this First portion
, communication.
So the foundation isconnectivity.
Okay, it has to be a connection.
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Okay, the connection thenbuilds the frames, opens up the
door of communication.
Ah, I love when the Holy Spirithelp you do something, he
helping me build this house.
I like this.
Okay, y'all, I get excited.
Y'all.
Y'all don't understand Me andthe Holy Spirit, we the best of
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friends and I get excited whenhe get involved.
So the foundation isconnectivity.
The frame of the house andeverything is communication.
The windows of the house isawareness.
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Okay, that, that was good.
I really like that.
I really like that.
The windows of the house isawareness.
Now, you know how they say thatwe, we must make a house, a
wife is to make a house, a home,and you know those little
cliche sayings.
I'm not good with them.
But so we got foundationconnectivity.
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But I'm going to add to theconnectivity, right?
So before I can connect fullyand have a solid connection with
someone else, how is myconnection with God?
Speaker 4 (57:28):
He's the door.
Speaker 3 (57:29):
There you go.
Okay, well, there you go.
Speaker 4 (57:31):
Come on, let us, let us, yes, let us make it Open the
door Right, open therelationship to us.
Speaker 3 (57:41):
Yes, exactly.
Speaker 4 (57:44):
Let us make.
Speaker 3 (57:46):
So I hope y'all taking notes out there, because
we building a house y'all weprobably bless y'all and help
y'all within this relationship.
We building this house rightquick, so y'all bear with us.
We HGTV right now, all right.
So we got connectivity, we gotthe foundation.
Speaker 2 (58:08):
House of God.
Speaker 3 (58:08):
TV, house of God, tv, oh I.
So we got connectivity, we gotthe foundation.
Yeah, house of god, oh I likethat come on through here with
the acronyms house of god, tv.
I like that.
So we got connectivity.
That's the foundation we'veestablished, as, as apostle uh
sharon had mentioned.
The door door is God, that'sthe door, okay.
Communication that's theremaining of the frames, okay.
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So now awareness that's thewindows, okay.
That's the windows, okay.
The spirit of offense.
Speaker 4 (58:40):
We frame nothing with it.
Speaker 2 (58:42):
Yeah, right, we frame nothing with it, yeah.
Speaker 4 (58:43):
Right, we frame nothing.
We frame nothing with it.
It certainly cannot be the roof.
Speaker 3 (58:49):
What's the roof, love , love would be the roof,
because his word says love.
Speaker 2 (58:54):
I agree, yeah, okay, she said it covers.
Yeah, it covers.
Speaker 3 (58:59):
Yeah, love covers the multitude of sin.
Love casts out fear, so itprevents things from coming in
All right.
Speaker 2 (59:07):
The rough.
Also, you guys are answering myquestion now Because, yeah,
love is a big part of all ofthis.
Speaker 3 (59:13):
Yeah, so foundation connection door is God.
The windows is awareness, theroof is love.
Okay, the windows is awareness,the roof is love.
When you have all of thatsolidified and in its rightful
place, you will have a solidhouse.
Speaker 2 (59:34):
Don't use cheap materials.
Speaker 3 (59:38):
Don't be a cheapskate on it.
You have to give your all inevery area, Not just okay, I'm
going to give you a little, adrop, a drop, a little snippet,
or I'm going to give you some ofmy triggers, but I ain't going
to tell you all of them becausethey might chase you away.
No, what's going to chase meaway is when I find out about
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the other triggers that I didn'tknow of and I'll be like what
did I get myself into?
Let's have a lot of windows inour house, Exactly A whole lot
of different areas.
Speaker 4 (01:00:11):
Let's have windows in the kitchen, in the bedroom.
I love a house with a lot ofwindows letting in the sunshine.
Let's let in light.
Speaker 3 (01:00:21):
Yes, that's good.
I'm glad that she said that,because the windows being
awareness when you allow,because god is the door, but god
also is that light that shinesin, when god shines light,
because god will show you you,but it's the matter of you
accepting what god is showingyou.
Amen, because he created us, hegoing to show you your areas
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like, uh, because when we gothrough them, tests and trials,
that's his way of shining thelight on.
Yeah, you still got to work onthis area right here.
Yeah, you still not whole inthis area right here.
Yeah, you still weak in thisarea right here.
Oh, this area is still a wound.
Because I give an example ofthat when I had to go to court
(01:01:06):
for my car accident, I had toreopen that wound and I didn't
realize that wound wasn't fullyhealed because I broke down
again and my husband tell you, Iwas on shutdown for a whole
week.
I didn't want to talk to nobody.
I didn't want to say nothing tonobody because it was so much
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within that I was like, god,this was an injustice.
God, this was not fair, thiswas unfair.
The way they just chewed me upand spit me out it was yeah, it
was a snippet.
I felt offended.
I'll be honest with you.
I felt offended because I wasjust like, and in the same token
, I was just like, and in thesame token, I was just like God.
This was not what the vision Isaw.
(01:01:49):
This was not Expected, it wasunexpected.
I didn't expect this process Togo this way.
That's when he had to show meand he had to reveal to me, and
he shined a light.
He said let's go back To what Ishowed you.
Now, how much of that did youadd to what I showed you?
Right, you set higherexpectations than what I said,
(01:02:14):
right?
Is it that your disappointmentand and and that offense came up
because it didn't pan out theway you wanted it to, the way
you expected it to.
So the lesson that I took fromthat, my takeaway from that, was
my expectations must meet theexpectations of god yeah, now
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where.
Speaker 2 (01:02:39):
Where you ended up was where he, where he set out
for you to be in the first place.
It was that journey.
Speaker 3 (01:02:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:02:46):
That where you were offended in the journey.
Speaker 3 (01:02:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:02:50):
But where you ended up with was exactly where he
wanted you to be and it workedout well for her, everybody.
It worked out well, but theprocess wasn't pleasant.
But you know, that's in hisword too.
Speaker 3 (01:03:09):
And that's the one thing that we have to do.
Go ahead, Apostle.
Speaker 4 (01:03:12):
To accomplish the warfare.
It just sounds like a Jeremiah29 and 11 experience.
Speaker 2 (01:03:17):
That's awesome.
Speaker 4 (01:03:19):
He already had a hope , and hope was that cord that
connected you to your expectedend, and he already knew the end
at the beginning, but you hadto accomplish the warfare in the
middle.
So that was just a Jeremiah 29,11 experience.
Speaker 3 (01:03:37):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, most definitely, and I'm glad
because it's everything that,again, it's everything that he
said it was going to be.
Speaker 4 (01:03:48):
Yeah, to God be the glory.
Speaker 3 (01:03:51):
Just to wrap this up, you guys, we just finished
building the house of God on TV,hgtv, yeah, hgtv.
We just got through the HGTVsegment where we took the words
and began to build the house.
Just giving you guys avisualization of what this looks
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like in dealing withcommunication, because every
component, in every word that wespoke of, we basically wrote
communication down into smallersyllables, into smaller words,
to have a full understanding ofhow to succeed in communication.
How can I continue tocommunicate, how can I continue
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to have healthy communicationwithout it being I'm shot to,
being fired, and people aregetting hurt, injured or broken
even more than what they alreadyare.
So, within that, I want to wrapthis up with that
three-stranded cord, because,his word said, a three-stranded
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cord is uneasily broken.
It is very important to have agreat communication with God
Because, honestly, thatthree-stranded cord, it starts
with you individually.
How does it start with you?
It's you yourself and God.
Because, honestly, thatthree-stranded cord, it starts
with you individually.
How does it start with you?
It's you yourself and God,because God must be in the
center.
He's dealing with you, he'sdealing with the inner part of
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you and he's dealing with thedeeper part of you.
He's going deep, digging in thewell of you and within that he
is the connection to make you tobecome one with him.
That is the connection Nowwithin a relationship, within a
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marriage.
Again, god is okay, rewind.
Going back to the individual Godalso.
God said I'm going to be infront of you to lead you where
you need to go.
I'm also going to be behind youbecause I'm going to shield and
protect you.
When he said, no weapon formedagainst you shall prosper, the
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reason that it's not going toprosper, because he already got
the hedge of protection.
He's that shield behind you,that whatever fiery darts or
whatever things that try to comeat you that you did not see
coming, because it's behind you.
Because he said, forgettingthose things that are behind you
, meaning that pressing towardsthe mark of the high calling.
So with that, that means I haveno business looking behind me
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anymore, so I don't see what'scoming behind me All I see
what's coming at me ahead.
So he said I got to be behindyou and I got to be in front of
you, so you need to besandwiched with me.
Speaker 2 (01:06:32):
Holy Spirit is right here.
Speaker 3 (01:06:34):
Yep, you got the Holy Spirit on both sides.
That's a whole full circle.
And within a marriage, he isnot just, he doesn't just lead
you within the marriage, but heis also the center of the
marriage.
He is what keeps thatthree-stranded cord together.
He said what I put together,let no man put us under, let no
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man part.
That's not just within amarriage, that's within
connections, within friendships,that's connections within
coworkers, that's connectionswith church members, that's
connections even with your ownchildren and your family members
, when God is the center of that, when he joins it together,
when he connects.
See, he knew that he had tospeak the language of business
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to me, to even have anopportunity to even talk to me,
because he knew my mindset waslord, I'm about my father's
business.
Whatever you will have me to do, I will do oh, business.
You say okay, let me introduceyou to a gentleman.
That's the same exact way andthat's how.
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Because he knew if he wouldhave talked Any other, hey you
beautiful, hey you pretty Shotswould have been fired.
Just being real.
Y'all Listen.
We transparent on this, on thisshow, on this podcast.
So these are very important.
Make sure you build yourrelationship with God.
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It is very, and those that havenot Built a relationship with
God Yet it's very, and thosethat have not built a
relationship with God yet, it'snot too late, you still can.
All it takes is that confession.
That's where it starts.
This is my confession, that is.
All it takes is the confessionand you acknowledging that Jesus
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Christ died for your sins andhe died just for you.
He didn't die just for you.
I'll say it as my apostle dadsays he died as you.
Speaker 4 (01:08:35):
That's good.
Speaker 3 (01:08:37):
Understanding and knowing that he died as you.
It starts there and saying Lord, I know that I'm a sinner, but
I'm coming to you asking forforgiveness.
Help me to no longer be asinner but to build a
relationship with you, as youdied as me.
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So you know what I've gonethrough, what I've been through
and what I'm still having todeal with.
Help me through this process.
That's all it takes.
And then you take it from me.
This is not no overnightshipping process, because one
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thing I learned about themetamorphosis process is it is a
continuous thing.
It never ends.
As you develop, as you grow, asyou mature, you're going
through another metamorphosisprocess and then another
metamorphosis process, becausethe metamorphosis all it is is
the opportunity to develop, growand mature in God and get to
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the next place in God and notremain complacent or comfortable
, because I tell y'all now thatjourney with God, there is no
comfortability, none whatsoever.
But as he said, when you takeupon my yoke, as my yoke is easy
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and my burden is light, as youlearn from me, so I just want to
encourage you today build yourhouse on a solid foundation and
that solid foundation beingbuild your house of
communication, so that that isthe open door of building
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healthy relationships, theopening door of beginning the
process of being made whole.
If you can't talk about it,then you can't be about it.
If you can't talk about it,then you can't be set free.
And can I let y'all in on alittle secret?
Communication can also be donein writing.
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If you're one that has troubleopening your mouth and
communicating how you feel, whatyour troubles are, what you're
going through in your trauma,pick up that pen and write.
I'm going to tell you from alittle girl, my therapist.
That was the best solution shecould have ever offered, because
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that writing saved my life.
It was the beginning of mycommunication process.
And then from there, the Lordprogressed me a little bit more
and said okay, now I want you toread out loud what you wrote.
So I want to encourage you,apostle Sharon, any final
remarks or any words ofencouragement for our audience?
Speaker 4 (01:11:37):
Well, I say amen, so be it, to everything you said,
especially the therapeutic partof, you know, enhancing your
communication by learn how towrite it out.
I can't tell you I wrote awhole poem about if my journal
could talk all the things thatit would tell you.
So I think journaling does helpone in that one dimension of
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learning how to communicate.
I think what we really didtoday was to build this house
called Relationship, building ahouse of relationship, because
relationships fail a lot,because we don't even know how
to relate anymore.
Some people outgrow each otheror we stopped walking together
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and all those types of things.
But I think what we did todaywas to really build a house
called relationship and what itlooks like, what that house
looks like in relationship.
And certainly we need God.
So I would just encourage thosethat are listening today work
on the components ofrelationship.
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A lot of times you just try tojust rush all in.
You know where angels don'teven tread.
Start working on the components.
You know how well do Icommunicate, how well do I
connect, even with people thatwere in the same place of
connectivity, but I'm still, youknow, I don't even know how to
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make the right connections.
You know how self-aware am I,you know?
Do I have a?
Am I in a prison?
Called offense?
Have I fallen off the wall insome kind of way?
Isn't called offense.
Have I fallen off the wall insome kind of way?
So let's just look at ourselves, and I think we could do this
thing, especially in a man-womanrelationship, because it's what
God it's.
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By God's design, he wants us torelate, but we have to become
more relatable.
So that's just what I wouldjust encourage everybody Look at
how relatable you are.
Just take those words that weuse one by one and see how well
you do those in those particularareas.
Speaker 2 (01:13:54):
That's good stuff, I agree.
Speaker 3 (01:13:57):
Mr Purpose you got any closing remarks.
Words of encouragement Ialready said about that paper
trail guys.
Speaker 2 (01:14:02):
That's right, Write it down.
Write it down if you can'tspeak it.
That's right.
Speaker 3 (01:14:09):
Because I mean he says it in his story Write the
vision.
Make it plain, Make it plain.
Write out your communication,Because there's times we can go,
like you said, that paper trail.
We can go back to it and belike, wow.
I remember when I was in thisplace.
Look where I came from you know.
So, alright, guys, listen, thishas been awesome, this has been
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phenomenal.
Listen, y'all be sure listen.
Speaker 2 (01:14:33):
We must do this again , Apostle Shea.
Speaker 3 (01:14:35):
Yes, definitely.
Speaker 2 (01:14:36):
We will.
Speaker 3 (01:14:37):
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That's a part of theself-awareness that shallow
experience will have you to beself-aware.
It will help you along thatprocess, one of the components.
So, yes, y'all, make sure y'allcheck out the shallow
experience.
In addition to that, y'all besure Go ahead, join the Sweet
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Also, follow Apostle Sharon onFacebook.
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She drops gems every morning.
The morning thought I love itevery time.
Love it every time.
So listen y'all.
We love you guys, as always.
Listen until next time.
Y'all take care.
Relationships are a part of the beauty blocks for
healthy life and spiritualgrowth.
God uses relationships to helpmove us farther into our destiny
and to help us grow in.
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Christ.
Healthy relationships are notfound but built.
A healthy relationship needscommitment and willingness to be
accommodating to each other'sneeds.
Marriage is more than aphysical union.
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It is also a spiritual andemotional union.
According to Ecclesiastes 4,verse 9, two are better than one
, two are better than one.
So therefore, what God hasjoined together, let no one
(01:41):
separate Kingdom marriage in itspurpose.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Kingdom marriage in its purpose.
Well, hey, everybody Goodafternoon everybody.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Thank you guys for joining in.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Listen, we had a phenomenal time last week when
we discussed the topic can twobroken people come together and
build a whole relationship?
Now I know we were a little bittransparent and open, not even
a little bit.
We kind of shared ourfoundation and our relationship
and said, yes, it is possible.
But then we got to thinking andwe got to talking and we
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realized, yeah, we wastransparent and we told
everybody how it happenedbetween us and we're prime
examples.
But they say his word says thatwe perish due to lack of
knowledge.
So we need to share with youguys some of the components.
What is the key factors ofbuilding a whole relationship?
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What does that look like?
Even coming from a brokenperson, what does that look like
?
How do you aim towards thatgoal of building a whole
relationship?
Not just a relationship whereyou got your boo thing, you got
your spouse, but justrelationships in general
co-worker, church members,family members.
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We got to know thesefoundations.
Ain't that right?
Speaker 2 (03:18):
That's correct.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
So the main thing that we said we want to talk
about and I'm so super excitedbecause we got a special guest
that's joining us to talk aboutthis Let me just tell a little
bit about her, but before I dothat, you know I don't do
nothing without the Holy Spirit,right?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
I led the first time- we have to open in prayer.
We thank you, Lord, for thistime together we thank you that
it would be you that it would beconducting this show today.
Let it accomplish what you setforth for it to accomplish.
Lord.
Let all minds and hearts beclear, and we do this humbly in
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Jesus name.
Amen.
And we can now open.
Amen, amen Thank you, I'll bebetter next week.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Y'all.
He don't like to be put on thespot, but you know that's what a
wife does.
Kingdom wife, they push theirhusbands.
That's what we got to do, amen.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
The Holy Spirit knows .
Speaker 3 (04:19):
So we are going to talk about communication.
Yes, I feel like that's thefoundation of every relationship
.
That's why we starting offthere.
There's other key componentsand you might hear them along
the way, but you know what Ialso want to go into.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
What?
Because there's a bunch of Cs.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
I know, but within communication the key pillow
talk.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Right.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
I definitely want to go into talking about pillow
talk, because I feel likesociety has perverted that term
pillow talk.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Right, but that's in the context of couples right.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I mean yes, no, not really.
I mean they perverted it whenit comes to couples.
But what we're going to shine alight on is pillow talk is not
just for couples, that's true,and it's not just about the
setting.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
What it sounds like, pillow talk Right.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
Yeah, so we're going to go into that.
So, first and foremost, Idefinitely want to welcome, I
guess, apostle Sharon Listeny'all yes let's please.
Y'all have not been followingthe sweet roles of Sharon on
Facebook or not even followingher.
Let me tell y'all something.
Listen, this woman of God isphenomenal and she has.
(05:38):
It's called RelationshipChronicles.
Listen y'all, she be droppingthem, gems.
I'm trying to tell you.
She be having me run all aroundmy house every time I read,
because it'd be some good, goodstuff, invalid information that
will help you along the wayabout relationships.
She speaks hashtag facts.
(05:59):
She speaks the truth and thewhole truth and nothing but the
truth.
I love apostle sharon.
Let's talk about this.
This relationship chronicles.
I just like the title, okay.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
That's your introduction.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Yes, okay, it is.
Listen, it's so much, to behonest, to unfold.
All right, it's a whole book.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I'm excited to get into the wisdom.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Let's get it.
Let's get it.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Let's dive in.
Let's talk about theRelationship Chronicles.
Tell me more about RelationshipChronicles.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Well, hello everyone and hello to this wonderful
couple that's doing this awesomepodcast, and thank you for
allowing me to come and shareand to just get my perspective
as it relates to relationship.
Relationship Chronicles is justsomething that the Lord just
drops in my spirit to share.
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I've always loved the concept,the idea, the premise, the
covenant of relationship,especially man-woman
relationship, but not justman-woman relationship, but all
relationships in general,because I do believe that God
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created us as beings in theearth to relate.
He gave us dominion overanimals and creeping things and
all of that, but our dominion isover things in the earth, not
humans in the earth.
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So that means that we have torelate to one another.
So my relationship chronicles isjust, you know, whatever I'm
waking up to, that God isdealing with me as it relates to
relationship.
A lot of times it's man, woman,sometimes it's, you know, a
mother to her child, sometimesit's a leader to the sheep, or
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those that they are covering orthose that they are spiritually
leading.
Whatever it is, there is arelationship.
I mean, the Bible just tells usto love our neighbor as we love
ourselves.
So even if there's arelationship with our neighbor,
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the mailman, anybody there'svarying kinds of relationships
and I just like to talk aboutthem.
So those are my relationshipchronicles.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Right and basically, whoever we communicate with,
there is a relationship to beestablished there.
With whoever we communicatewith, there's always a chance
for a relationship with whoeverwe communicate with.
Speaker 4 (08:51):
Whoever we communicate with and whoever we
commune with, with amen, right,right God.
You know he wanted to be inrelationship with you, know
mankind, and so he would come inthe cool of the day and that
was a communing time, you know.
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And so, even as husband andwives or families or things like
that, with our kids, people ofour household, we're communing.
We should be at least oneanother, and communing does
involve communication,absolutely.
Communication is a must andcommuning, you know, we commune
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together.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Yeah you know, that's amazing, that that's amazing
the things that you share,because it draws me to two
questions.
It draws me to two questions.
The first question is when Ihear relation, you hear relate,
and then communication, you hearcommunion commune root words.
(09:57):
Right.
So Is it fair to say, or is itfair to ask do you have to
relate to an individual in orderto even open up or begin a
relationship?
Like, what is the foundation ofstarting a relationship?
Speaker 4 (10:17):
I definitely believe that there has to be.
See, when I think about relate,I think about a connectivity.
It's got to be someconnectivity.
I mean we can relate with pets,we have relationships with pets
, and so even with our children,how we relate or that place of
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connectivity with the childdiffers in how we relate or
connect to our spouse.
And I believe that everyrelationship needs a point of
connectivity.
I'm a counselor, so I do a lotof premarital counseling.
I do marital counseling andI'll ask people you know they
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meet somebody well what are yourpoints of connectivity?
Because if you lose points ofconnectivity, guess what happens
?
You lose relationship.
So that means that if we haveno points of connectivity, we
will sit in a room and saynothing.
How many couples do you knowthat we're in the same house?
We pass each other like shipsin the night.
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Yes, points of connectivity.
The guys that's in the man cavewith the husband of the house,
these guys have points ofconnectivity.
Perhaps they all like sports,right, they got the same
conversations.
They like talking about thesame thing.
So it's got to be points ofconnectivity.
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So I ask couples a lot, man andwoman what's your point of
connectivity?
Speaker 2 (11:50):
That's a good question.
What's your point ofconnectivity man and woman?
What's your point ofconnectivity?
That's?
Speaker 4 (11:51):
a good question.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
What's your point of connectivity?
That is a good question because, yeah, in order to maintain
that relationship, there has tobe something there, multiple
points.
Sometimes it's the kids, butlet's say they don't have
children.
So, there has to be some pointof, like she said, some point of
connection, of relation thereto keep that line of
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communication open.
Speaker 4 (12:19):
Keep that line of communication, keep that line of
relatability.
Maybe we both like talkingabout current events, maybe we
both are political buffs and sowe meet at that point.
So what is the connectivity?
Maybe we both like to golf,maybe we both, you know, we
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worship together, pray togetherand all that.
Believe it or not, that's justnot automatic with couples.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
That's good.
Listen, we're talking aboutconnectivity.
This is kingdom marriage in itspurpose we have.
We are the purpose couple and wehave our special guest we.
We want to ask you, apostleshan, because you you dropping
some good gems, listen, thosethat just joined in.
This is kingdom marriage in itspurpose.
We are the purpose couple.
Right now we're dealing withcan two broken people come
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together and build a wholerelationship?
Right now we're dealing withcan two broken people come
together and build a wholerelationship?
Right now we're dealing withthe foundation of the components
of building a healthyrelationship and what it takes
to build a whole healthyrelationship.
So let's go back into theconnectivity.
Sir, you said you had aquestion.
I'm curious to hear thisquestion.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
I wanted to share her wisdom on the subject of people
that are broken.
How that communication?
How do you, if?
How do you establish thatconnection, people that are
broken, that want to try to cometogether.
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Is there a way?
Is there even a way?
Speaker 4 (13:54):
Well, okay.
So I think you're talking about, in this instance more so, a
man-woman relationship.
Correct, yes, and so, yeah,there is a way that perhaps
seems right to a man, but itoften leads to some form of
destruction in the relationship.
So let's think about it likethis To make a whole, it takes
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two.
To make a whole, these twoshall become one, stay flesh.
Now, that's interesting, twobecoming one.
And so one would think, oh,well then why is it not a half
and a half?
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Wouldn't that make one?
But it's something verysupernatural about God that he
takes one, he takes a two andturns and he fuses it into one
synchronized flesh, doing thingsin unity and harmony, and all
of that.
How can two walk together unlessthey be agreed?
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We need to think about is thisCan broken people come together,
or fragmented people cometogether, or half a person come
together?
Sure, they can come together,but what will the health of that
relationship look like?
Will that be a wholerelationship?
Probably not.
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There's going to be some partsthat are missing.
That should be a part of theconnectivity to make the whole.
But you got something missingon your end and I got something
missing on my end, so we can'tquite make a whole connection
there, that thereforecommunication is off and all of
that kind of stuff.
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So let's look at how God did it.
So God decided to make mankind,and we know that wrapped up in
mankind was two kinds male andfemale, right, right.
So what did God say?
He made a clarion call for us.
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Let us make man, let varyingdimensions of myself be involved
in the making of mankind.
So well before there was a letus versus a let them, you know a
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them there was a us, there wasthe dimensions, all the
dimensions of God in being him,jesus, the Holy Spirit, us
coming together to make thespecimen of mankind.
That had male and female.
So I believe that what makesfor a whole relationship is each
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entity of the relationship, themale and the female spending
that time where God is making us.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
That's interesting because the triune being part of
it should be also incorporatedinto uh, into our, our human
relationship.
Yes, believe, that's true.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Yes, we I need.
Before God brought forth Eve tothe man he had, did some work
with the man.
He had the man.
He had placed the man.
He had placed the man.
He had given the man some, somedo's and don'ts and all of that
.
He had set him where he neededto be in the garden.
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He positioned him, and all ofthat.
I'll say, if God has not, ifGod, if the man has not had that
time with God, then yeah, heshould be left alone.
Because you know, I might sayit's not good for man to be
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alone, but that is a man thathas been worked on by God, has
been positioned.
He's ready to now embrace thatpart of him he's ready to
embrace.
But if he hasn't, and then youhaven't been built as a woman to
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last and not just perform.
I'm a woman that was built tolast, not a woman to just
perform.
So when we come together and wegot missing pieces in all of
that, it makes the work a littlebit harder in trying to make
the relationship whole.
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If I'm not whole, you're notwhole.
You know we're on the strugglebus a little bit.
And I'm not saying that you know, everybody knows this, you know
this revelation.
But we get together and that'swhy we need the wisdom of God,
the counsel from God, themultitude of counselors to
preserve the purpose of thepeople getting together.
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But it could be a work inprogress.
You know it's a work in process, I should say a work in
progress.
You know it's a work in process.
I should say a work in processand a work.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
It's a work, at least he used to always say, about
the three Stranded cord To arelationship.
Speaker 3 (19:24):
So what?
I will always share with himand I still share to this day
that three stranded cord Startswith you first, individually,
before it goes into an actualrelationship.
Because, just piggybacking onwhat you're saying, god deals
with the individual first.
And that was the thing, guys,between my husband and I.
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Yes, god had him to to comeconnect with me.
We crossed paths and theconnectivity was business.
That was the beginning of ourconnectivity.
It was business.
That's what connected ustogether.
We were both business mindedpeople trying to go in the same
direction, both trying to buildup nonprofit organizations to
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assist others out there.
That was our key.
That's what opened the door,because the lead already knew on
my end, if there was noconnectivity, I did not want to
be bothered with you, especiallyif you were a man.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
And that opened up the communication.
Yes, because you could talkbusiness.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Correct.
Speaker 4 (20:30):
Yes, business, and you expand it from there.
But it has to be some point ofconnectivity in order for us to
even initiate a relationship.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Yeah, and you said that led into the relativity.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Relativity.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Because, honestly, as it opened that door, it opened
that door of communication where, as we communicated and got to
know one another more and more,we realized, hold on, we got a
lot more connections than justbusiness.
Hold on, wait, you lostsomebody, I lost somebody too,
you have this, I have this too.
So it kind of started to buildthings Now, him and I.
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It took us three years and itwas fine because God was
building him as God was alsobuilding me.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
God's timing.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Yeah, it was all in God's timing, and I just find it
and, honestly, this revelationjust dropped on me just now.
It took three years.
When I think about that, three,that's the triune number.
That's the number you know,that's one of the perfecting
numbers.
So it was in God's timing of ussaying I do, of us deciding
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okay, yeah, you're my husband.
Oh, yeah, you're my husband.
Oh, yeah, you're my wife.
So, with that, though, we werebroken.
We did not try to rush intoanything or force anything on
one another.
We understood where each otherwas at.
Going back to what we discussedin the first episode, we put
our guns on the table and we leteach other know this these are
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my triggers right here.
Yeah, you push that trigger, abullet's coming out, this gun,
and I can't, I can't tell youwhere it's going to hit.
It might hit your heart and, Iapologize, you might bleed a
little bit more, but I, you, Iforewarned you, I told you, I
notified you.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
So yeah, they're putting the guns on the table
thing.
It was very, very important Inour case that putting the guns
on the table thing is very, veryimportant.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
In our case that was really important.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
So I hope that other people see that as well because,
yeah, that transparency, thatputting it on the table where
you're at you, if you have thetrust to do that, then, yeah,
you have a foundation, you canbuild a foundation.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
Yeah, I think that was great, that analogy that you
use by putting the and let meadd this loaded gun, yeah, on
the table.
The loaded gun because thevariables of life and
experiences, especially negativeexperience in life, is what
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loaded the gun.
You didn't try to hide theweapon.
You didn't put it at your footand covered it up with a jacket
at your waist, you put the gunson the table.
These are loaded weapons andthe trigger is.
The triggering is what willfire the weapon and possibly hit
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you in an insulting or hurtfulway.
And what I'd like to say, one ofthe prophetess that was on my
live, our Sunday live, said this.
She said wholeness is not adestination, it's an awareness.
That's good.
And so you guys were aware ofwhere you were less than whole.
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It's all in this gun.
It's loaded.
I could fire off my mouth atany minute, at any minute,
because these are areas whereI'm not whole.
And so you just look at all ofthe areas where you're
fragmented as bullets in the gun.
How many rounds can you fire?
My God, I got 10 rounds in thisgun.
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So when you put the guns on thetable and you step away from
them, being vulnerable, beingtransparent- it lets him know
what he's dealing with it, letsyou know what's, you know what
kind of ammunition he got in hisgun.
Right, that's great, rightthere, because that means that,
uh, wholeness, you are aware,I'm aware, and and you can't be
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whole unless you're aware ofwhere you're fragment.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
That's right.
No surprises.
These people come up with this,saying about red flags and
everything no, no surprises, nosurprises.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
We're back.
Oh my goodness, this is listen.
The fire has picked up.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
Thank you again for being with us, apostle Sharon.
Yes, my goodness, this islisten.
The fire has picked up.
Thank you again for being withus, apostle Sharon.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
Yes, my God, my God from Zion, my God, this is
getting good.
We last left off.
We talked about awareness.
Listen, I hope y'all takingnotes of the one word God said
all you need is just one word,because the one word holds so
much power.
Listen, so far we dealt withcommunication, we dealt with
connectivity.
Now we went into awareness.
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My God, listen, I don't want togo into this awareness, because
what came to me was in order tobe aware of what's in the gun,
one must first be self-aware.
That's self-awareness.
You have to be real withyourself.
If you're in denial of the typeof bullets that's in your gun,
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how can one?
It's impossible.
It's impossible to sit thereand say this is what's going on,
this is what I have in my gun,if you're not in a place of
being honest and real withyourself.
So let's talk a little bitabout the bullets that's in the
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gun.
What types of bullets that canbe loaded in the gun?
Domestic violence being onethat's like the number one, I
believe majority of the women.
Their gun is fully loaded withdomestic violence.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
From relationship to relationship, whether it's
parental relationship toboyfriend, relationship to any
type, and because there'smultiple layers of domestic
violence.
You have verbal abuse.
There's multiple layers ofdomestic violence.
You have verbal abuse, you haveemotional abuse, you have
physical abuse, you have mentalabuse.
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That adds up, yeah.
Speaker 4 (27:01):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
So I want to talk about that.
How does one get to a point OK,you get a connection with
someone, there's a connectivity,right.
However, you're still not fullytransparent with your own self,
you're still not real withyourself, you still haven't gone
through the full process ofself-awareness.
So how does one get to thatpoint, once they've connected
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with somebody, if that'spossible?
Speaker 4 (27:29):
Oh, it's very possible, it's very doable, and
all of that being self-aware.
Self-aware is not blank, that'sfirst of all.
Self-aware is not blank.
Self-awareness is not pinningthe tail on the donkey of
somebody else doings.
God wrote all that stuff down ofwhat was done to you, who left
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you, who didn't take care of you, who lied to you, who cheated
on you.
You're not self-aware if youcome in talking in another
relationship and you're bringingall of these things about what
the other person did to you,what your mama did to you, what
your daddy did or what your youknow how your kids don't respect
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you or how the last man or yourhusband or your wife did these
things.
Self-aware says this thishappened to me and this is how I
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was left feeling it.
Internal things.
Once you become self-aware, youstop playing the blame game.
You know what this stuffhappens to me.
Listen, it will be.
If I got shot in my arm and I goto the hospital, there's a the
police are going to deal withwho shot me, but the great
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physician is going to deal withthe injury in my arm.
So when I am aware, I'm notjust aware that you shot me, I'm
aware that you shot me, I'maware that it left me injured in
some way.
My goal is to get in a place ofwhere I can be healed and then
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go into recovery.
And self-aware says you knowwhat I like you and I know you
like me, but I want to be honest.
I'm going to let you know thisgun that's on the table.
You know, I'm still carryingthe wounds of my past and it's
not a scab yet.
It's not.
It might be a scab, but it'snot a scar yet, which means that
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re-injury could take placebecause scabs can come off and
you'll bleed again, but once itbecomes a scar, it no longer
hurts.
And so this is what self-awareis it's, it's, it's.
I refuse to continue to blame,but I take responsibility of
where I am now, what it did tome and how I'm.
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I want to let you know I am onthe road to recovery and again I
like you and I know you like me.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
Now, why can't we all just get along?
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Why can't we be friends?
Why can't we be friends?
Speaker 4 (30:35):
Why do people don't like people?
You know what I'm saying, but Igot my eye on you and I know
you like people.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
My goodness, that sounds like wisdom was more
prevalent.
I mean, my goodness, thatsounds like some adult talk
right there Listen.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
I'm so proud of us, babe, because that's everything
we do.
I like it.
Speaker 4 (31:01):
You like it because you got a little womb.
You know you're liking somebody, you still feel good.
Let's put it all together inits right, in its right
perspective, right pockets.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Too many people use that to push the other and it
ended up pushing people away.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
It does.
It does Because, honestlyspeaking, just being transparent
within our marriage, even whilewe were friends, the reason the
Lord allotted the reason thetiming was three years because
he knew I was bitter.
He knew I was broken beyondbroken, like my pieces, was a
thousand piece puzzle.
It was no four piece puzzle.
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So he knew the abuse that I hadgone through.
He knew the trauma that I dealtwith from childhood on up.
He knew these things.
He knew I had rejection issues.
He knew I had love issues andtrust issues.
So, with that him knowing, Ithank God for his patience
because he was still gentle withme.
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For his patience because he wasstill gentle with me.
He was willing, he still sawfit, because he saw beyond my
almost like how Ruth did Naomishe saw beyond her bitterness.
Speaker 4 (32:15):
Yes, and you still liked him yes.
Speaker 3 (32:19):
I did.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
Although I tried to act like I did it.
She said I thank God for hispatience.
I thank God for his patience.
Let's thank God for hispatience.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
You know.
So, with that, thatself-awareness is so important
because, honestly speaking, evenafter we jumped the broom and
said I do, I still had some ofthose rules.
Just being transparent, therewas a time I realized I had to
learn how to be affectionateagain.
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He just came behind me to giveme a hug and I blacked out and
went off.
Get off me, Don't touch me likethat.
Speaker 4 (33:01):
Yeah, that was a trigger for you that was a
trigger for you.
Speaker 3 (33:10):
And when I realized he backed off and he understood
because of what he knew, what Ihad gone through and everything,
and I was like, oh my god, Istill need help with this well,
because the guns were on thetable, we did.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
that was the reason why I could be like okay, you
know, I understand, but see,that's why it's important,
because if not, I could havebeen offended.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Right, yeah, and that definitely takes into place.
That's good.
See, now we got another keyword Praise the Lord.
Thank you, Guys, you justputting it all together, so
y'all listen.
I hope you guys are enjoying it.
I know it done got fiery.
Get you a bottle of water, getyour pen, your pad.
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Make sure you're taking notesIn the meantime.
Listen.
In order to keep this podcastrolling, we got to pay some
bills, so we will be back withyou shortly.
Lord, who am I that you aremindful of me?
Speaker 4 (34:01):
Whatever follows I am is that's why you got to watch
your own I am statement.
I am tired, I am, I'm sick andtired, I'm this, I'm so
disgusted.
Whatever follows I am is Iwouldn't be able to minister
like I could minister without anexperience, and I'm not just
(34:24):
talking so y'all testify aboutthe experience of being jacked
up and the experience of thebreakup and the experience of
the loss and the experience ofwalking out on you and the
experience, but I'm talkingabout the experience with I am.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
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revealed himself.
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Experience.
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See you there.
All right, we are back.
Listen, it is really heating upand turning up.
Listen, we done ran down thelist of words.
Hold on, you want to run downthem again?
What we talk about?
Communication.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
Relativity.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
What Connectivity.
You again what we talked aboutCommunication Relativity.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
What Connectivity you mean?
Connectivity CC.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
CC, cca, I lost you there.
No, I didn't.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Awareness, awareness, awareness, cca Carry Awareness.
Speaker 3 (36:05):
It's for awareness.
All right, cca, I'm like Icould carry, I could feel I
don't know we started talkingabout weapons.
I know, right, we went intoweapons and all of those things
my bad.
The key words that we dealtwith within this episode is
communication, connectivity,awareness, and then we kind of
(36:25):
did a little snippet aboutoffense before we went on a
commercial break.
But before I go into talkingabout the word offense listen to
that commercial just now aboutthe shallow experience, let me
tell you y'all, listen, I'm justgoing to tell y'all from
experience, I just I'm justgoing to throw that's our bonus
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word within this segmentexperience.
Okay, listen, it was definitelyfor me, it was a life changing
experience.
It really really was.
Things were activated within methat I didn't even know existed
, that was there within me, thatI didn't even know existed.
(37:09):
That was there.
Listen, the wisdom that is likeflowing and just a flowing and a
pouring and a flowing.
It just don't make nothing,that kind of sense.
It built my confidence and alsoit made the vision that the
Lord has given me.
It made it so much more clearbecause we did vision boards
too'all.
I love a vision board.
We did vision boards and can Itell y'all there are things
(37:30):
within the vision board thathave already begun manifesting,
this podcast being one of them.
Praise the lord.
Yeah, so I listen.
I want to Apostle Sharon tellthe people about the Shiloh
experience, because I need themto experience what I experienced
.
Speaker 4 (37:53):
Wow, I'm telling you Shiloh.
Shiloh really stands for theepitaph of Jesus Christ.
It's the epitaph of JesusChrist.
Shiloh was where Hannah went,you know, when she was just
having all these badrelationship issues with her
husband and couldn't bring fortha baby and all that.
And Hannah went to Shiloh andjust poured out of herself and
she left there pregnant.
So most people, women, whenthey come, they leave either
(38:14):
activated or impregnated withsomething.
Shiloh is also a safe place.
It's a safe place.
Shiloh is not a conference,it's an experience and it's one
for you to have, and we do itonce a year.
It's going to be in Chicagoarea, a suburb called Itasca,
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Illinois, October 25th, 26th and27th.
Don't come looking for a churchservice.
It's not that there will betimes where you'll feel like
you're in a high levelinstitution, university classes,
all kinds of stuff.
It's the sisterhood, thefellowship.
It's just a wonderfulexperience where you can see and
(38:58):
experience various dimensionsof I am, that I am, and one
thing we found out last year isthat when I am shows up on the
scene, he's coming to bring intoexistence what already is.
So come to Shiloh.
Come to Shiloh in October, youall.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
Is this only women or ?
Speaker 3 (39:20):
No, actually, men can come to and experience.
Yes, men can come to andexperience.
Yes, yes, men can come to andexperience.
And, honestly, I loved itbecause indeed, like she said,
it's not a conference at allwhen I tell you, from the first
day to the last day, it isnothing but experiencing.
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And I thank God because he keptrepeating you need to get to
shallow, you need to get toshallow.
And I kept saying what is ashallow?
He took me to read shallow.
About every scripture I read,shallow was in there.
Okay, I know shallow is a place, but where is shallow in
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reality?
You need to get the shallow.
And we're talking aboutconnectivity.
My sister, sadie, she sent methe invite.
She said, listen, we're goingto do this registration and
everything, because I need youto come with me this year,
because I need you to experiencewhat I've been experiencing.
And when I saw the flyer and Isaw the shallow experience, I
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said, lord, this is what you wastalking about.
I need to get.
And can I tell you everything?
You know all the adversity thatI went through trying to get
there and then trying to getback up.
Try to keep me in Chi-Town,y'all.
Try to keep me at the airport.
Y'all Praise, tried to keep meat the airport, y'all They've
got a home though.
Yeah, praise the Lord,hallelujah, it was that
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experience that got me home.
But listen, y'all do not wantto miss it.
Listen, the registrationinformation will be in the
comments section.
Y'all need to go ahead, getyour seats now, go register.
You definitely do not want tomiss it now.
Let me tell y'all something thatties into we dealt with
connectivity, we dealt withcommunication.
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We're dealing with relationshipplenty.
She talked about hannah.
Hannah went to shallow becauseshe kept having all these
screwed up relationships.
I wonder why.
But we're not going to talkabout that.
That's a whole nother subjectfor another time.
But anywho, I want to talk aboutthe spirit of offense, because
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there's no way possible.
I don't care how broken you areand honestly that could be one
of the bullets the spirit ofoffense, when everything offends
you, the smallest thing offendsyou.
It ain't even about you, it hasnothing to do with you, but all
of a sudden you offended, youfeel some type of way because it
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just reminds you of somebody inthe past or reminds you of a
situation that you've beenthrough.
Let's talk about how does oneovercome that offense, being at
that level of offense?
Because in order to haveconnectivity, in order to have
healthy communication and beable to communicate.
That offense got to come down,because that's a whole Jericho
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wall by itself.
I yield it to you, apostleJaron.
Speaker 4 (42:19):
Yeah, it's offense.
The Bible tells us in Proverbsthat it is really hard to win a
brother or a sister, anybodythat's offended, because it's
like a strong, fortified city.
And I look at the Bible.
Let's just know offense is awoe and I think that offense is
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really almost like Leviathan,like pride.
These are things that God hasto deal with.
If a person is offended, youcould bring her flowers, you
could cook him a good meal, youcould do foot massages, you
could do anything you want to do.
It's not going to penetrate theheart because it's like having
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a just prison of bars.
You know, it's not even aforest, it is a steel bar that
got your heart enclosed and thatneeds a God.
You need God to do somethingwith a brother offended.
God.
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You need God to do somethingwith a brother offended.
It's a lose-lose situation.
If you're trying to involveyourself or engage with someone
that's offended, nothing you dowill help.
That takes God, taking downthose bars of offense and giving
an opening to the heart beingable to receive.
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So offense is terrible.
Offense is probably like one ofthose exploding bullets or
something.
Offense is really, reallyterrible and it's really hard to
relate to someone that'sold-fitted.
It's difficult, it's a losingthing.
You have to be able to stepaway from that person and allow
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God to deal with them.
That might take some time.
You may have to come back inanother season when God has
dealt with that offense, thosebars that surrounds their heart.
It was the word that helped me.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
It was the word that helped me with that spirit of
offense and to not be offended.
I pray that for anybodylistening that they receive the
spirit of casting, that be ableto cast down that spirit of
offense.
You have to deal with thatbecause that can really be a
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detriment to trying to get toknow somebody or trying to be in
a relationship with somebody.
It damages communication.
That leads to more otheroffenses and bullets and it
leads to other stuff.
Speaker 4 (45:08):
One of my favorite scriptures about offense is from
Psalms 119.
That talks about great peace.
Have they that love thy law orthe word, like you just said,
and nothing shall offend thee.
So to stay out of offense youreally got to be a lover of
God's word.
Speaker 3 (45:31):
I remember the scripture but I think that was
it.
So I'm over here cracking andchuckling on the inside.
The little girl in me is havinga little bit of fun.
I like to play with words, Ilike to scrabble, I love when
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the Lord has me to rearrangewords, to go even deeper and
dive in to the true meaning ofoffense.
And, honestly, what I'm hearingis every time I hear it on
repeat basically people that areoffended, they just fell off
the fence.
You know, because his word saidthey started out on the fence
but they had one leg on one sideof the fence, another leg on
the other side of the fence, andhis word said a double-minded
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man is unstable in all of hisways.
So what?
You got one part of yourself onthe left side, one part on the
right side, so you're a littlewobbly already and so your
mental is unstable.
So somebody blow on you.
You just gonna fall off thefence, plain and simple.
Speaker 2 (46:36):
Like Luke Warhol.
Speaker 3 (46:38):
Luke Warhol.
He said I spit you out.
He said I spit you out.
You have to choose.
You cannot be it's one or theother.
That means you just totally off, you're unstable.
Speaker 4 (46:53):
So either you love God's word or you don't.
Right, you just love his word.
If his word says I got toforgive you for the all you know
or what I got against you,either I'm going to forgive you
or I'm not.
So but when I'm halt betweentwo opinions, yeah, you're going
to mess around and get offendedsooner or later.
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Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3 (47:17):
So that was funny to me.
Thank you, holy Spirit.
They say you know a goodmedicine for the soul.
Cause when he said that, hesaid they just fell off the
fence.
Oh, like that, that's funny,that's good, that's good.
So how?
We?
We know that it takes the wordand, honestly, offense is
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something that can muster up.
You can have so much word inyou and things will come to try
to offend you.
How does one prevent themselvesfrom falling into the
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entrapment of offense once againafter they've overcome offense?
Speaker 4 (48:16):
One time I was planning to teach on offense at
my church this was years ago andthe Lord showed me a picture of
a big rock, and offense lookedlike a big rock, like a
stumbling block.
Rock like a stumbling blockit's what it's designed to make
you stumble and you are the onethat's going to fall.
Like you said, you're the onethat's going to fall and may
have a long period of time ingetting up.
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So offenses must be avoidednumber one, because they're
going to come, According toscripture.
They're going to come, but it'sa woe.
But I think that really wouldhelp us not be offended.
We already talk about lovingGod's word, but when those
little dings come in life, wheresomebody says something that
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hurts your feeling, go ahead andforgive right away.
Don't delay things that theBible tells you that you're
supposed to do.
Go on, so it won't sit thereand build up until 20 years
later.
Now I come and I do something.
I really wasn't trying tooffend you, but because you got
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this buildup of stuff, nowyou're offended.
So don't let things build up inyour life.
Deal with this stuff at theonset of it.
Deal with it.
God, I'm hurt.
That hurt my feeling.
God, I do feel some type of way.
Lord, I feel rejected All ofthose things that come that
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could cause you to be offendedlater.
Speaker 3 (49:44):
Go ahead and deal with it now that could cause you
to be offended later.
Go ahead and deal with it now,Right.
And the other thing that Ifound to be helpful, because
there's times along my journeyand my walk that I do see where
that offense tries to come andbe like, hey, how you doing, you
remember me and I'll be likewe're not doing this today,
Because the reminder, thefoundation of preventing and
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putting yourself in theentrapment of offense and having
that to keep you bound is, yeah, the foundation of it is his
word.
When you have word in you aswell, just as Jesus did when he
had to do, he did the 40 dayfast.
Stuff was coming at him and allhe did was combated with God's
word.
There's times, if you see,there's a moment of rejection
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that tries to come back at youto make you feel offended that
they rejected you or they didn'treceive from you.
God said it in his word.
He said I'm paraphrasing it butin a nutshell he said listen,
they're not rejecting you,they're rejecting me.
Speaker 2 (50:48):
Right.
Speaker 3 (50:48):
When they receive from you, they really ain't
receiving from you, theyreceiving from me.
So at times I'll be transparentand honest.
At times when I see rejectiontrying to say, hey, they ain't
pay you no mind, they ignoringyou, that reminder that light
bulb comes off and be like, okay, you know, I, I can't worry
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about, as long as I know I'vepositioned myself.
I was obedient to the voice ofgod.
I did what he told me to do.
What happens thereafter, that'sbetween them and god.
I move on.
If it was rejected, guess what?
You didn't reject me take nofeeling and also stop taking
things so personal.
When you have that mindsetwhere you feel like the world is
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revolved around you, offense isgoing to be there all the time
and you're going to feeloffended.
You have to realize sometimessome things that might come at
you.
It's not you the person thathad a bad day.
Somebody ticked them off andthey ventilating right now they
going through a vent and youjust so happen to be the target
so, ladies, where does love playa part in all of this?
Speaker 4 (51:56):
ooh oh, okay, I want to say that again, say that
again we just love playing apart in all of this well, we
know that number one, love neverfails.
All right, and, and love is god.
God is love, all right, and godis a spirit.
(52:19):
And what I was thinking about,uh, when the woman of God was
speaking, was this we arespiritual beings having a human
experience.
Right, that's what we are.
So we are a spirit with a souland a body, and so we're not,
per se, soulish led, but we arespirit led.
(52:42):
So, whatever I feel, my latehusband used to say all the time
baby, your feelings are real,but not necessarily true.
And so David, when he had hisproblem David said in Psalms 51,
he was like God.
I know you desire truth in theinner parts and in the hidden
(53:04):
parts.
Make me to know wisdom.
So truth is my wisdom.
You know, I pull from wisdom,from truth, not necessarily from
my feelings, because myfeelings can change, okay, and
feelings can linger, all right.
And so what I?
What I do personally?
I flush my feelings through therealms of the spirit, because I
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need to land in a place calledtruth.
That's where I need to land,and when you flush your feelings
, or your emotions, or thesoulless you, through a higher
dimension which is spirit, thenyou come to better wisdoms and
(53:53):
you come to better conclusionsof the matter.
I said your soul, which is amakeup of your mind, your will,
your emotions, your intelligenceand your intellect, can reside
in spirit realm, but it alsodips into your human experiences
(54:14):
.
Your spirit don't do that, butyour soul dips.
It's dipping into theconversation you just had and
somebody says something that youdidn't like.
Well, you got to take thethings of the spirit, god's love
, his word, the fruit of thespirit, all of that to raise
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that soul back up to a placecalled truth and where truth
allows you to see or give you adifferent perspective.
And then that's where you sayyou know what I feel it?
But that's not true.
It's very real.
Our feelings are very real, butour realness don't always take
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us into the revelations of God.
But truth will Right.
Speaker 2 (55:04):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (55:05):
That children will Wow.
That Wow, honestly speaking,with that.
Speaker 2 (55:12):
Your late husband was really wise.
Yes, he was.
Speaker 4 (55:16):
He really was.
Speaker 2 (55:18):
Yeah, yeah, wow.
Speaker 3 (55:21):
So then I yield.
Speaker 2 (55:25):
You yield, you yield.
Speaker 3 (55:27):
I got that answer, yeah so tying everything
together, you have communication.
But the foundation ofcommunication is connectivity.
So let's build this house.
We are going.
(55:48):
I like building, y'all, I'm acreative person, I like building
, so let us build.
We're going to build a solidfoundation Of this First portion
, communication.
So the foundation isconnectivity.
Okay, it has to be a connection.
(56:09):
Okay, the connection thenbuilds the frames, opens up the
door of communication.
Ah, I love when the Holy Spirithelp you do something, he
helping me build this house.
I like this.
Okay, y'all, I get excited.
Y'all.
Y'all don't understand Me andthe Holy Spirit, we the best of
(56:30):
friends and I get excited whenhe get involved.
So the foundation isconnectivity.
The frame of the house andeverything is communication.
The windows of the house isawareness.
(56:51):
Okay, that, that was good.
I really like that.
I really like that.
The windows of the house isawareness.
Now, you know how they say thatwe, we must make a house, a
wife is to make a house, a home,and you know those little
cliche sayings.
I'm not good with them.
But so we got foundationconnectivity.
(57:13):
But I'm going to add to theconnectivity, right?
So before I can connect fullyand have a solid connection with
someone else, how is myconnection with God?
Speaker 4 (57:28):
He's the door.
Speaker 3 (57:29):
There you go.
Okay, well, there you go.
Speaker 4 (57:31):
Come on, let us, let us, yes, let us make it Open the
door Right, open therelationship to us.
Speaker 3 (57:41):
Yes, exactly.
Speaker 4 (57:44):
Let us make.
Speaker 3 (57:46):
So I hope y'all taking notes out there, because
we building a house y'all weprobably bless y'all and help
y'all within this relationship.
We building this house rightquick, so y'all bear with us.
We HGTV right now, all right.
So we got connectivity, we gotthe foundation.
Speaker 2 (58:08):
House of God.
Speaker 3 (58:08):
TV, house of God, tv, oh I.
So we got connectivity, we gotthe foundation.
Yeah, house of god, oh I likethat come on through here with
the acronyms house of god, tv.
I like that.
So we got connectivity.
That's the foundation we'veestablished, as, as apostle uh
sharon had mentioned.
The door door is God, that'sthe door, okay.
Communication that's theremaining of the frames, okay.
(58:29):
So now awareness that's thewindows, okay.
That's the windows, okay.
The spirit of offense.
Speaker 4 (58:40):
We frame nothing with it.
Speaker 2 (58:42):
Yeah, right, we frame nothing with it, yeah.
Speaker 4 (58:43):
Right, we frame nothing.
We frame nothing with it.
It certainly cannot be the roof.
Speaker 3 (58:49):
What's the roof, love , love would be the roof,
because his word says love.
Speaker 2 (58:54):
I agree, yeah, okay, she said it covers.
Yeah, it covers.
Speaker 3 (58:59):
Yeah, love covers the multitude of sin.
Love casts out fear, so itprevents things from coming in
All right.
Speaker 2 (59:07):
The rough.
Also, you guys are answering myquestion now Because, yeah,
love is a big part of all ofthis.
Speaker 3 (59:13):
Yeah, so foundation connection door is God.
The windows is awareness, theroof is love.
Okay, the windows is awareness,the roof is love.
When you have all of thatsolidified and in its rightful
place, you will have a solidhouse.
Speaker 2 (59:34):
Don't use cheap materials.
Speaker 3 (59:38):
Don't be a cheapskate on it.
You have to give your all inevery area, Not just okay, I'm
going to give you a little, adrop, a drop, a little snippet,
or I'm going to give you some ofmy triggers, but I ain't going
to tell you all of them becausethey might chase you away.
No, what's going to chase meaway is when I find out about
(01:00:00):
the other triggers that I didn'tknow of and I'll be like what
did I get myself into?
Let's have a lot of windows inour house, Exactly A whole lot
of different areas.
Speaker 4 (01:00:11):
Let's have windows in the kitchen, in the bedroom.
I love a house with a lot ofwindows letting in the sunshine.
Let's let in light.
Speaker 3 (01:00:21):
Yes, that's good.
I'm glad that she said that,because the windows being
awareness when you allow,because god is the door, but god
also is that light that shinesin, when god shines light,
because god will show you you,but it's the matter of you
accepting what god is showingyou.
Amen, because he created us, hegoing to show you your areas
(01:00:44):
like, uh, because when we gothrough them, tests and trials,
that's his way of shining thelight on.
Yeah, you still got to work onthis area right here.
Yeah, you still not whole inthis area right here.
Yeah, you still weak in thisarea right here.
Oh, this area is still a wound.
Because I give an example ofthat when I had to go to court
(01:01:06):
for my car accident, I had toreopen that wound and I didn't
realize that wound wasn't fullyhealed because I broke down
again and my husband tell you, Iwas on shutdown for a whole
week.
I didn't want to talk to nobody.
I didn't want to say nothing tonobody because it was so much
(01:01:26):
within that I was like, god,this was an injustice.
God, this was not fair, thiswas unfair.
The way they just chewed me upand spit me out it was yeah, it
was a snippet.
I felt offended.
I'll be honest with you.
I felt offended because I wasjust like, and in the same token
, I was just like, and in thesame token, I was just like God.
This was not what the vision Isaw.
(01:01:49):
This was not Expected, it wasunexpected.
I didn't expect this process Togo this way.
That's when he had to show meand he had to reveal to me, and
he shined a light.
He said let's go back To what Ishowed you.
Now, how much of that did youadd to what I showed you?
Right, you set higherexpectations than what I said,
(01:02:14):
right?
Is it that your disappointmentand and and that offense came up
because it didn't pan out theway you wanted it to, the way
you expected it to.
So the lesson that I took fromthat, my takeaway from that, was
my expectations must meet theexpectations of god yeah, now
(01:02:38):
where.
Speaker 2 (01:02:39):
Where you ended up was where he, where he set out
for you to be in the first place.
It was that journey.
Speaker 3 (01:02:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:02:46):
That where you were offended in the journey.
Speaker 3 (01:02:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:02:50):
But where you ended up with was exactly where he
wanted you to be and it workedout well for her, everybody.
It worked out well, but theprocess wasn't pleasant.
But you know, that's in hisword too.
Speaker 3 (01:03:09):
And that's the one thing that we have to do.
Go ahead, Apostle.
Speaker 4 (01:03:12):
To accomplish the warfare.
It just sounds like a Jeremiah29 and 11 experience.
Speaker 2 (01:03:17):
That's awesome.
Speaker 4 (01:03:19):
He already had a hope , and hope was that cord that
connected you to your expectedend, and he already knew the end
at the beginning, but you hadto accomplish the warfare in the
middle.
So that was just a Jeremiah 29,11 experience.
Speaker 3 (01:03:37):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, most definitely, and I'm glad
because it's everything that,again, it's everything that he
said it was going to be.
Speaker 4 (01:03:48):
Yeah, to God be the glory.
Speaker 3 (01:03:51):
Just to wrap this up, you guys, we just finished
building the house of God on TV,hgtv, yeah, hgtv.
We just got through the HGTVsegment where we took the words
and began to build the house.
Just giving you guys avisualization of what this looks
(01:04:11):
like in dealing withcommunication, because every
component, in every word that wespoke of, we basically wrote
communication down into smallersyllables, into smaller words,
to have a full understanding ofhow to succeed in communication.
How can I continue tocommunicate, how can I continue
(01:04:32):
to have healthy communicationwithout it being I'm shot to,
being fired, and people aregetting hurt, injured or broken
even more than what they alreadyare.
So, within that, I want to wrapthis up with that
three-stranded cord, because,his word said, a three-stranded
(01:04:53):
cord is uneasily broken.
It is very important to have agreat communication with God
Because, honestly, thatthree-stranded cord, it starts
with you individually.
How does it start with you?
It's you yourself and God.
Because, honestly, thatthree-stranded cord, it starts
with you individually.
How does it start with you?
It's you yourself and God,because God must be in the
center.
He's dealing with you, he'sdealing with the inner part of
(01:05:15):
you and he's dealing with thedeeper part of you.
He's going deep, digging in thewell of you and within that he
is the connection to make you tobecome one with him.
That is the connection Nowwithin a relationship, within a
(01:05:35):
marriage.
Again, god is okay, rewind.
Going back to the individual Godalso.
God said I'm going to be infront of you to lead you where
you need to go.
I'm also going to be behind youbecause I'm going to shield and
protect you.
When he said, no weapon formedagainst you shall prosper, the
(01:05:59):
reason that it's not going toprosper, because he already got
the hedge of protection.
He's that shield behind you,that whatever fiery darts or
whatever things that try to comeat you that you did not see
coming, because it's behind you.
Because he said, forgettingthose things that are behind you
, meaning that pressing towardsthe mark of the high calling.
So with that, that means I haveno business looking behind me
(01:06:19):
anymore, so I don't see what'scoming behind me All I see
what's coming at me ahead.
So he said I got to be behindyou and I got to be in front of
you, so you need to besandwiched with me.
Speaker 2 (01:06:32):
Holy Spirit is right here.
Speaker 3 (01:06:34):
Yep, you got the Holy Spirit on both sides.
That's a whole full circle.
And within a marriage, he isnot just, he doesn't just lead
you within the marriage, but heis also the center of the
marriage.
He is what keeps thatthree-stranded cord together.
He said what I put together,let no man put us under, let no
(01:06:55):
man part.
That's not just within amarriage, that's within
connections, within friendships,that's connections within
coworkers, that's connectionswith church members, that's
connections even with your ownchildren and your family members
, when God is the center of that, when he joins it together,
when he connects.
See, he knew that he had tospeak the language of business
(01:07:19):
to me, to even have anopportunity to even talk to me,
because he knew my mindset waslord, I'm about my father's
business.
Whatever you will have me to do, I will do oh, business.
You say okay, let me introduceyou to a gentleman.
That's the same exact way andthat's how.
(01:07:40):
Because he knew if he wouldhave talked Any other, hey you
beautiful, hey you pretty Shotswould have been fired.
Just being real.
Y'all Listen.
We transparent on this, on thisshow, on this podcast.
So these are very important.
Make sure you build yourrelationship with God.
(01:08:01):
It is very, and those that havenot Built a relationship with
God Yet it's very, and thosethat have not built a
relationship with God yet, it'snot too late, you still can.
All it takes is that confession.
That's where it starts.
This is my confession, that is.
All it takes is the confessionand you acknowledging that Jesus
(01:08:24):
Christ died for your sins andhe died just for you.
He didn't die just for you.
I'll say it as my apostle dadsays he died as you.
Speaker 4 (01:08:35):
That's good.
Speaker 3 (01:08:37):
Understanding and knowing that he died as you.
It starts there and saying Lord, I know that I'm a sinner, but
I'm coming to you asking forforgiveness.
Help me to no longer be asinner but to build a
relationship with you, as youdied as me.
(01:08:58):
So you know what I've gonethrough, what I've been through
and what I'm still having todeal with.
Help me through this process.
That's all it takes.
And then you take it from me.
This is not no overnightshipping process, because one
(01:09:20):
thing I learned about themetamorphosis process is it is a
continuous thing.
It never ends.
As you develop, as you grow, asyou mature, you're going
through another metamorphosisprocess and then another
metamorphosis process, becausethe metamorphosis all it is is
the opportunity to develop, growand mature in God and get to
(01:09:43):
the next place in God and notremain complacent or comfortable
, because I tell y'all now thatjourney with God, there is no
comfortability, none whatsoever.
But as he said, when you takeupon my yoke, as my yoke is easy
(01:10:05):
and my burden is light, as youlearn from me, so I just want to
encourage you today build yourhouse on a solid foundation and
that solid foundation beingbuild your house of
communication, so that that isthe open door of building
(01:10:30):
healthy relationships, theopening door of beginning the
process of being made whole.
If you can't talk about it,then you can't be about it.
If you can't talk about it,then you can't be set free.
And can I let y'all in on alittle secret?
Communication can also be donein writing.
(01:10:53):
If you're one that has troubleopening your mouth and
communicating how you feel, whatyour troubles are, what you're
going through in your trauma,pick up that pen and write.
I'm going to tell you from alittle girl, my therapist.
That was the best solution shecould have ever offered, because
(01:11:15):
that writing saved my life.
It was the beginning of mycommunication process.
And then from there, the Lordprogressed me a little bit more
and said okay, now I want you toread out loud what you wrote.
So I want to encourage you,apostle Sharon, any final
remarks or any words ofencouragement for our audience?
Speaker 4 (01:11:37):
Well, I say amen, so be it, to everything you said,
especially the therapeutic partof, you know, enhancing your
communication by learn how towrite it out.
I can't tell you I wrote awhole poem about if my journal
could talk all the things thatit would tell you.
So I think journaling does helpone in that one dimension of
(01:12:03):
learning how to communicate.
I think what we really didtoday was to build this house
called Relationship, building ahouse of relationship, because
relationships fail a lot,because we don't even know how
to relate anymore.
Some people outgrow each otheror we stopped walking together
(01:12:27):
and all those types of things.
But I think what we did todaywas to really build a house
called relationship and what itlooks like, what that house
looks like in relationship.
And certainly we need God.
So I would just encourage thosethat are listening today work
on the components ofrelationship.
(01:12:50):
A lot of times you just try tojust rush all in.
You know where angels don'teven tread.
Start working on the components.
You know how well do Icommunicate, how well do I
connect, even with people thatwere in the same place of
connectivity, but I'm still, youknow, I don't even know how to
(01:13:12):
make the right connections.
You know how self-aware am I,you know?
Do I have a?
Am I in a prison?
Called offense?
Have I fallen off the wall insome kind of way?
Isn't called offense.
Have I fallen off the wall insome kind of way?
So let's just look at ourselves, and I think we could do this
thing, especially in a man-womanrelationship, because it's what
God it's.
(01:13:41):
By God's design, he wants us torelate, but we have to become
more relatable.
So that's just what I wouldjust encourage everybody Look at
how relatable you are.
Just take those words that weuse one by one and see how well
you do those in those particularareas.
Speaker 2 (01:13:54):
That's good stuff, I agree.
Speaker 3 (01:13:57):
Mr Purpose you got any closing remarks.
Words of encouragement Ialready said about that paper
trail guys.
Speaker 2 (01:14:02):
That's right, Write it down.
Write it down if you can'tspeak it.
That's right.
Speaker 3 (01:14:09):
Because I mean he says it in his story Write the
vision.
Make it plain, Make it plain.
Write out your communication,Because there's times we can go,
like you said, that paper trail.
We can go back to it and belike, wow.
I remember when I was in thisplace.
Look where I came from you know.
So, alright, guys, listen, thishas been awesome, this has been
(01:14:30):
phenomenal.
Listen, y'all be sure listen.
Speaker 2 (01:14:33):
We must do this again , Apostle Shea.
Speaker 3 (01:14:35):
Yes, definitely.
Speaker 2 (01:14:36):
We will.
Speaker 3 (01:14:37):
If y'all enjoyed listen, make sure y'all follow
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Podcast.
Be sure to follow us.
In addition, listen, don'tforget about the shallow
experience.
You definitely listen.
You don't even have to be inChi-Town Listen.
Take a vacay, because that'swhat it take that time for you.
(01:15:01):
That's a part of theself-awareness that shallow
experience will have you to beself-aware.
It will help you along thatprocess, one of the components.
So, yes, y'all, make sure y'allcheck out the shallow
experience.
In addition to that, y'all besure Go ahead, join the Sweet
Rose of Sharon group as well onFacebook.
Also, follow Apostle Sharon onFacebook.
(01:15:23):
She drops gems every morning.
The morning thought I love itevery time.
Love it every time.
So listen y'all.
We love you guys, as always.
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