Do you understand the profound impact relationships have on your personal growth? As we navigate the labyrinth of familial bonds, friendships, and professional associations, we'll reveal how they color our worldview and shape our future actions. From birth to adulthood, our environment and the people we interact with play a pivotal role in defining who we are. Whether it's the influence of a negative household or an uplifting circle of friends, these relationships have the power to shape our life's trajectory. But, fear not! It's not all set in stone - we also wield the power to distance ourselves from toxicity and embrace the power of positivity.
Now, let's tap into the power of choice - a tool we often underestimate. Remember, we may not have control over the family that we are born into, but we certainly have the power to choose the family we build. The company we keep can either uplift us or pull us down, the choice is ours. So, how do we make sure we're surrounded by positive influences? It's about making conscious choices that drive us towards a fulfilling and contented life. Tune in as we unravel the secrets of harnessing the power of relationships and turning them into a positive force in our lives. We'll discuss how to feed the 'positive wolf' and how to radiate this positive energy into the world. So, are you ready to walk this path together? Your support fuels our journey, so let's embark on this adventure of personal growth and positive relationships.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Passion, drive, persistence, resilience, love
all qualities that shape anddefine us.
Join the Cyber Warrior as hehelps shape your path.
This is Walk With Me.
Welcome back to Walk With Me, aCyber Warrior Studios
(00:28):
production.
As always, I'm your host onthis journey, the Cyber Warrior.
Now, today, I want to discusssomething a little bit more in
depth than I have in the past,and that's relationships,
relationships of all types.
You see this podcast beingabout self-improvement and how
we can better ourselves.
(00:48):
A lot of the way we turn out inlife, a lot of who we are,
stems from the relationships wedeveloped from the time we were
born until the time we get outon our own, and then, even
henceforth, you're going toestablish more relationships
throughout your life.
These can be the familiesyou're born into, the families
(01:09):
that you marry into, thefamilies that you create within
your community, your friendships, your careers, whatever the
case may be.
It could be your friends, itcould be your spouse, it could
be coworkers and managers andleaders and bosses and
everything else.
All these relationships trulyinfluence who we are as people
(01:33):
and they really influence how weturn out in life.
Now, you've heard me say,hopefully on many of occasions,
that you need to separateyourself from toxicity and from
negativity and be able to dealwith more positive influences in
your life.
Now, when you're born, that'svery difficult because as
(01:54):
children, we only know what wesee.
We don't have really this mindof our own yet we're not adults.
We don't make our own decisionsall of the time.
Now sometimes, depending on whatgeneration you grow up in, you
will You'll have these occasionsof the parents kind of let you
get hurt so you learn, and Iknow that some people don't like
(02:16):
that.
They want to protect their kidsfrom everything.
So there will be other peoplein this world who grew up almost
under a rock.
They weren't exposed toswearing and pain and a lot of
other things throughout theirlife because as children they
weren't exposed to it.
So then, when they finally are,it's a whole different
experience and it's a wholedifferent world.
(02:38):
But regardless of how you wereraised, these relationships,
this way of being raised toinfluence us, because maybe you
were taught manners.
So you may have been grew uparound people that drank and
smoke and swore and everythingelse, but at the end of the day,
they taught you manners, theytaught you respect and they
(03:00):
taught you that.
Yes, these are adult words, orthis is an adult drink, or these
are things that adults do andit's not always good for you,
but everybody has their ownlives to live.
Now, if these things aren'tabused in such a way, then
you're exposing your kids, andeven you, as a child, were
exposed to a way of life thatyou will see a lot in society.
(03:22):
For those that weren't raisedthat way, they grew up not
knowing really what swear wordswere.
They grew up not really knowinganything about alcohol or the
effects of people that are drunk, or even what smoking can do to
you, other than the things theylearn in school, where it
sometimes takes years to learnbecause you don't get exposed to
(03:45):
it until maybe middle school orhigh school or even college
some of these things dependingon the environment you're raised
in and the schools you go to.
So when you look at theserelationships and how we're
raised, I kind of look at itthis way.
So you have two ways you canlook at life.
You can either take all of thethings that you were taught as a
(04:07):
child and as you worked orlived your life into adulthood,
looked at the good and the badand chose to go to the route of
whatever was bad in your life.
So if you were raised by analcoholic or by a drug addict or
by somebody who was alwaysmaking bad decisions, then you
can turn out the exact same way,or you can take a look at it
(04:32):
and make the choice actively,make the choice to be an adult
and realize that's not somebodyyou want to be.
So let's say you were raised byan alcoholic.
You can either become analcoholic yourself or you can
choose never to drink or knowyour limits and drink on
occasion, like there's ways tomoderate it and make it to where
(04:55):
it is not bad for you.
Okay, you know there wassomeone that becomes an
alcoholic and they're gonna usethe excuse Well, this is all I
know, this is what you know.
So and so was, and my dad orstepdad or mom or stepmom or
whomever.
This is all I knew my entirelife.
So you know it's because ofthat.
Well, you're not wrong, butyou're not right either, because
(05:17):
us, as humans, still have theOpportunity to make the choice
in our life of how we want tolive it.
You can either go down the sameroute in the same path that you
saw that was bad and didn'treally go well for you and Put
that on other people and livethat same life, or you can
realize that this is toxic.
(05:38):
This is not good for me.
I didn't like this way ofliving, so why would I do that
to somebody else within my life?
Again, choices, and you can evenlook at you know kids that grow
up without a parent.
You know they don't that it's asingle parent household.
Well, you can either make thechoice to be the same way and
(06:01):
you know, eventually, being asingle parent household, or be a
single parent yourself.
Or Unless there is extenuatingcircumstances at which point you
and your, your whoever had achild with you Don't get along.
It's abusive, or whatever thecase may be.
As long as there's no realreason other than you know we
(06:23):
just didn't get along, orso-and-so cheated on me, or
whatever the case may be.
If it's not abusive, if it'snot, they walked out.
If it's not, they want nothingto do with this kid, but they
want something to do with it,then you can co-parent.
Again, choices If you wereraised in a single parent
household and you know how hardthat was, why would you bring
(06:45):
that upon you and your children?
Choices, and I'm not sayingstay with abusive people.
No, get out of there as soon aspossible.
Run further hills, do thingslegally, press charges, do
whatever the case may be.
Do not allow your kids to growup in that atmosphere.
And yet we make mistakes,sometimes we end up with the
(07:07):
wrong people.
But if there's no real badblood or maybe somebody made a
mistake, y'all decided not, itwasn't gonna work, okay, but at
least of that, that both parentswant to be involved in the
child's life, put them in thechild's life.
That turns out better for bothof you, because now you can both
(07:27):
make decisions and worktogether for what is best for
your children.
And again, this helps us as wegrow.
This is why relationships areso important, because throughout
our lives we're going to haveso many.
So let's get away from thetopic of kids now, whether it's
us or us as kids, or how weraise kids.
(07:48):
Let's talk about the otherrelationships we have in our
lives.
You know, the saying goes thatthe blood of the coven is
stronger than the water of thewomb, ideally.
And what that truly means isthat the family you choose is
stronger than the family youyou're born into.
The reason that that is statedis Is because a lot of times
(08:15):
there are kids that are borninto toxic families.
You were raised in a toxicfamily, so instead of constantly
surrounding yourself withnegativity and alcoholism and
drug addicts and you know thesetoxic traits and people that
don't support you, you canchoose your family still,
(08:36):
because it is that, that familythat you find that a lot of
times can be stronger than thefamily you were born into.
I Was lucky.
I have the parents I have thesiblings I have, and, and the
nieces and nephews and in-lawsthat I have.
I have gotten extremely luckyin my life, but it doesn't mean
I haven't also adopted and andKind of found another family
(09:01):
outside of my family that whenthings get rough and and I need
help or someone to lean on, Ican lean on them as well,
because it gives me an outletand it gives me people that I
can, I can talk to and I I knowthe Understand some of the
things that I'm going through inmy life Relationships, the
families we choose and a lot oftimes those can be more
(09:24):
important than the families wereborn into, because at the same
time, those families we choosecan be toxic if we do not catch
it soon enough and we allow thatnegativity to get to us.
Then there's friends.
Then there's friends.
Now friends are a little easierto break away from, but as
(09:47):
you're growing up with thesefriends, sometimes they're with
you for life and sometimesthey're only with you for a
short time.
Other times you meet them as anadult.
These friends can have positiveand negative effects.
So if you form a friendshipwith somebody, a bond that you
(10:07):
think these people are gonna bethere for you forever as they
say, ride or die Well then nowyou have to look at a situation
and when somebody is beingnegative all the time, maybe you
met them and they're a verypositive person, they're very
upbeat, and then something goeswrong and you, instead of
helping you, pull yourself awayand you're like I don't want to
(10:30):
surround myself with that.
Maybe you need to figure outwhat's going on before you make
that choice to pull away,because these friendships that
we build, a lot of these peoplehave supported us over the years
.
And so if you pull away becauseall of a sudden they're having
(10:52):
something in their life that youare not aware of, because they
haven't talked to you yet andyou have not opened yourself up
for that communication flow, nowwhen you leave, they're going
to see it as you turned yourback on them.
Invite versa If you're havingsomething going on with you and
(11:13):
your friends aren't reaching outto you, figure out hey, what's
going on?
Why are you?
Why is your personality shifted?
What are you upset about?
Why is all this negativity allof a sudden there?
Then maybe you need to separateyourself from them.
Now, it's not always the case.
We lose contact with peopleover the years and then we just
(11:35):
reach out every so often.
I've got a lot of brothers andsisters from the military that I
only talk to occasionallyonline, or I'll call once every
so often.
It happens, but we pick upwhere we left off and we dump
everything out there the good,the bad, the ugly because that's
how we get along, that's how wecommunicate and we're able to
(11:56):
work through these things.
And a lot of times, when youmake those phone calls to
somebody after two, three, sixmonths a year, it's because you
have decided to check up on them.
The one initiating the callusually is calling to check up
because you missed that personor maybe you've relied on them
(12:16):
in the past.
You feel like you have no onenow and now.
You just need someone to talkto, and those friends that you
can do that with are vital andvery important, and they're also
the ones that'll help push youalong in your career, because
they're the ones that are goingto support you no matter what.
Now let's talk about some ofthese professional relationships
(12:37):
we have to deal with Ourco-workers, our managers, our
bosses, our leaders, everybodyelse.
These relationships can be goodand bad.
You see, depending on where youwork, depending on what you do.
You can have really, reallypoor leadership and you can have
a micromanager as a boss andyou can you know all these other
(12:57):
things where people aren'tleading from the front and
trying to help you along in yourcareer Bad areas to be.
And a lot of times, if you'rein those situations with those
type of managers and bosses,I'll tell you to find another
job, because people don't leavecompanies, they leave bosses,
they leave people, because maybethe people in that area, in
(13:19):
that environment, are toxic andthey're not good for them
mentally.
All of these relationships playon our mental health, the good
and the bad, and they can helpus or they can hurt us, just
like your co-workers.
If you are working with certainco-workers and they're always
coming in saying I hate work, Ihate what I do, I hate this
(13:41):
place, I hate this job,da-da-da-da-da Then eventually
that's going to wear on you.
One of two things are going tohappen.
Even if you went to that joband you enjoyed it for a long
time all that negativityeventually you're going to
despise that place, but it's notnecessarily because of the work
, it's because of the negativityand that energy that is now
coming off of somebody andmaking you negative, because
(14:03):
some people don't want to comewith solutions, they just want
to complain.
And if you're not going to comeup with a solution to fix the
problem and you're dealing withsomeone that's complaining all
the time, that negativity isgoing to rub off on you.
It's going to happen.
Now you have other co-workersthat are positive all the time.
They may not always like whatthey're doing for work or
(14:26):
particular clients or particularissues or situations, but they
come to work upbeat and they'reready to go.
And yeah, sure, they may onoccasion say something like man,
this client is horrible, orit's a bad day for me and this
job sucks, or whatever, but it'sa one-off and you know they're
going to come back the next day,be upbeat, ready to go and
(14:46):
fight through it, because theyreally want to be there and
enjoy what they do.
Those are the co-workers that alot of times we enjoy working
with.
They may be quiet, they may beoutgoing you never know but
anytime you talk to them theygive you that positive energy
and that vibe that helps youcontinue on in your life and
your career and everything else.
(15:06):
And, at the same time, theseare the relationships we build
that as we go about our careers.
These are the people that aregoing to help us If we end up
getting laid off or gettingfired or whatever the case may
be.
These are the contacts we keepthat are going to have a job for
you or help you find a job,either with their current
(15:27):
employer or with someone elsethey know, because networking is
key.
All of these relationships inour lives have an effect on how
we live and, again, you caneither choose to go the negative
route and everything bad thatever happens to you, all the
negativity that surrounds youyou choose to adopt that
(15:49):
lifestyle, or you can go aboutit in such a way that all the
negativity, all the baddecisions you see other people
make instead of doing the exactsame thing and ending up living
the exact same life they liveand being just as miserable as
them.
You can do the opposite.
You can bring more positivityin your life.
You can choose to have a betteroutlook.
And I know it's hard.
(16:10):
Sometimes I've been down andout.
I've made little to no money tosupport my family.
I've lived paycheck to paycheck.
Get it Been there.
Even now I'm there in half thetime, living paycheck to
paycheck.
But at the end of the day, Ihave surrounded myself with
positive people my family, mychosen family, my friends, my
(16:36):
coworkers, people that willcorrect me when I'm wrong but
are still there for me and driveme to be a better person every
day.
So what decisions are you makingin your life?
Because if you were choosing tostay within these relationships
that are negative, if you werechoosing to take all of this
(16:58):
negativity that comes at you andadopt it as your own and be
that person, then you were goingto be a negative person on the
world.
And I know misery loves company.
Some of us, well, we isolateourselves when we're miserable.
That's how you'll know whenwe're in a bad mood or when
something's wrong.
(17:18):
But look, ideally, you take thepositives from everything.
You take the bad decisions, thebad outlook, the negativity
that you see from everybody else, and you realize you don't want
to be that way, because in ourlives we have the choices of how
we're going to live them.
We have the choice of whatwe're going to do, what jobs
(17:41):
we're gonna have.
Do we or don't we go to school?
Do we or don't we work a secondjob or a third job or do we?
Do we do something else?
Do we change careers?
Do we do something to make adifference in our lives, to make
our lives better?
Instead of constantly blamingeverything else, utilize these
(18:04):
relationships that you havecultivated over the years family
, friends, co-workers, managers,leaders, bosses, whatever the
case may be.
Utilize that to your benefit tolook at how you want to live
your life.
You want to live like them andBe negative or be positive,
depending, or do you want to bethe opposite?
(18:26):
There's no story.
Inside of everybody is twowolves.
One is good, one is bad.
The one that grows in, the onethat takes control, is the one
that you feed the most.
So which wolf are you feeding?
The positive, the good, or thenegative, the bad?
(18:50):
The choice is yours.
Personally, I have my bad days,but I do my very best to stay
energetic, motivated andpositive, because I feel that's
the type of energy I want togive out in the world.
That's the type of influence Iwant to have on all of my
warriors, on everybody whosupports me, on everybody who
(19:11):
follows me and Everybody who Isurround myself with.
There's too much negativity inthe world, and I choose not to
be that way.
So utilize these relationshipsyou have and make the right
choice.
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This has been another amazingepisode of walk with me.
Passion, drive, persistence, resilience, love
all qualities that shape anddefine us.
Join the Cyber Warrior as hehelps shape your path.
This is Walk With Me.
Welcome back to Walk With Me, aCyber Warrior Studios
(00:28):
production.
As always, I'm your host onthis journey, the Cyber Warrior.
Now, today, I want to discusssomething a little bit more in
depth than I have in the past,and that's relationships,
relationships of all types.
You see this podcast beingabout self-improvement and how
we can better ourselves.
(00:48):
A lot of the way we turn out inlife, a lot of who we are,
stems from the relationships wedeveloped from the time we were
born until the time we get outon our own, and then, even
henceforth, you're going toestablish more relationships
throughout your life.
These can be the familiesyou're born into, the families
(01:09):
that you marry into, thefamilies that you create within
your community, your friendships, your careers, whatever the
case may be.
It could be your friends, itcould be your spouse, it could
be coworkers and managers andleaders and bosses and
everything else.
All these relationships trulyinfluence who we are as people
(01:33):
and they really influence how weturn out in life.
Now, you've heard me say,hopefully on many of occasions,
that you need to separateyourself from toxicity and from
negativity and be able to dealwith more positive influences in
your life.
Now, when you're born, that'svery difficult because as
(01:54):
children, we only know what wesee.
We don't have really this mindof our own yet we're not adults.
We don't make our own decisionsall of the time.
Now sometimes, depending on whatgeneration you grow up in, you
will You'll have these occasionsof the parents kind of let you
get hurt so you learn, and Iknow that some people don't like
(02:16):
that.
They want to protect their kidsfrom everything.
So there will be other peoplein this world who grew up almost
under a rock.
They weren't exposed toswearing and pain and a lot of
other things throughout theirlife because as children they
weren't exposed to it.
So then, when they finally are,it's a whole different
experience and it's a wholedifferent world.
(02:38):
But regardless of how you wereraised, these relationships,
this way of being raised toinfluence us, because maybe you
were taught manners.
So you may have been grew uparound people that drank and
smoke and swore and everythingelse, but at the end of the day,
they taught you manners, theytaught you respect and they
(03:00):
taught you that.
Yes, these are adult words, orthis is an adult drink, or these
are things that adults do andit's not always good for you,
but everybody has their ownlives to live.
Now, if these things aren'tabused in such a way, then
you're exposing your kids, andeven you, as a child, were
exposed to a way of life thatyou will see a lot in society.
(03:22):
For those that weren't raisedthat way, they grew up not
knowing really what swear wordswere.
They grew up not really knowinganything about alcohol or the
effects of people that are drunk, or even what smoking can do to
you, other than the things theylearn in school, where it
sometimes takes years to learnbecause you don't get exposed to
(03:45):
it until maybe middle school orhigh school or even college
some of these things dependingon the environment you're raised
in and the schools you go to.
So when you look at theserelationships and how we're
raised, I kind of look at itthis way.
So you have two ways you canlook at life.
You can either take all of thethings that you were taught as a
(04:07):
child and as you worked orlived your life into adulthood,
looked at the good and the badand chose to go to the route of
whatever was bad in your life.
So if you were raised by analcoholic or by a drug addict or
by somebody who was alwaysmaking bad decisions, then you
can turn out the exact same way,or you can take a look at it
(04:32):
and make the choice actively,make the choice to be an adult
and realize that's not somebodyyou want to be.
So let's say you were raised byan alcoholic.
You can either become analcoholic yourself or you can
choose never to drink or knowyour limits and drink on
occasion, like there's ways tomoderate it and make it to where
(04:55):
it is not bad for you.
Okay, you know there wassomeone that becomes an
alcoholic and they're gonna usethe excuse Well, this is all I
know, this is what you know.
So and so was, and my dad orstepdad or mom or stepmom or
whomever.
This is all I knew my entirelife.
So you know it's because ofthat.
Well, you're not wrong, butyou're not right either, because
(05:17):
us, as humans, still have theOpportunity to make the choice
in our life of how we want tolive it.
You can either go down the sameroute in the same path that you
saw that was bad and didn'treally go well for you and Put
that on other people and livethat same life, or you can
realize that this is toxic.
(05:38):
This is not good for me.
I didn't like this way ofliving, so why would I do that
to somebody else within my life?
Again, choices, and you can evenlook at you know kids that grow
up without a parent.
You know they don't that it's asingle parent household.
Well, you can either make thechoice to be the same way and
(06:01):
you know, eventually, being asingle parent household, or be a
single parent yourself.
Or Unless there is extenuatingcircumstances at which point you
and your, your whoever had achild with you Don't get along.
It's abusive, or whatever thecase may be.
As long as there's no realreason other than you know we
(06:23):
just didn't get along, orso-and-so cheated on me, or
whatever the case may be.
If it's not abusive, if it'snot, they walked out.
If it's not, they want nothingto do with this kid, but they
want something to do with it,then you can co-parent.
Again, choices If you wereraised in a single parent
household and you know how hardthat was, why would you bring
(06:45):
that upon you and your children?
Choices, and I'm not sayingstay with abusive people.
No, get out of there as soon aspossible.
Run further hills, do thingslegally, press charges, do
whatever the case may be.
Do not allow your kids to growup in that atmosphere.
And yet we make mistakes,sometimes we end up with the
(07:07):
wrong people.
But if there's no real badblood or maybe somebody made a
mistake, y'all decided not, itwasn't gonna work, okay, but at
least of that, that both parentswant to be involved in the
child's life, put them in thechild's life.
That turns out better for bothof you, because now you can both
(07:27):
make decisions and worktogether for what is best for
your children.
And again, this helps us as wegrow.
This is why relationships areso important, because throughout
our lives we're going to haveso many.
So let's get away from thetopic of kids now, whether it's
us or us as kids, or how weraise kids.
(07:48):
Let's talk about the otherrelationships we have in our
lives.
You know, the saying goes thatthe blood of the coven is
stronger than the water of thewomb, ideally.
And what that truly means isthat the family you choose is
stronger than the family youyou're born into.
The reason that that is statedis Is because a lot of times
(08:15):
there are kids that are borninto toxic families.
You were raised in a toxicfamily, so instead of constantly
surrounding yourself withnegativity and alcoholism and
drug addicts and you know thesetoxic traits and people that
don't support you, you canchoose your family still,
(08:36):
because it is that, that familythat you find that a lot of
times can be stronger than thefamily you were born into.
I Was lucky.
I have the parents I have thesiblings I have, and, and the
nieces and nephews and in-lawsthat I have.
I have gotten extremely luckyin my life, but it doesn't mean
I haven't also adopted and andKind of found another family
(09:01):
outside of my family that whenthings get rough and and I need
help or someone to lean on, Ican lean on them as well,
because it gives me an outletand it gives me people that I
can, I can talk to and I I knowthe Understand some of the
things that I'm going through inmy life Relationships, the
families we choose and a lot oftimes those can be more
(09:24):
important than the families wereborn into, because at the same
time, those families we choosecan be toxic if we do not catch
it soon enough and we allow thatnegativity to get to us.
Then there's friends.
Then there's friends.
Now friends are a little easierto break away from, but as
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you're growing up with thesefriends, sometimes they're with
you for life and sometimesthey're only with you for a
short time.
Other times you meet them as anadult.
These friends can have positiveand negative effects.
So if you form a friendshipwith somebody, a bond that you
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think these people are gonna bethere for you forever as they
say, ride or die Well then nowyou have to look at a situation
and when somebody is beingnegative all the time, maybe you
met them and they're a verypositive person, they're very
upbeat, and then something goeswrong and you, instead of
helping you, pull yourself awayand you're like I don't want to
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surround myself with that.
Maybe you need to figure outwhat's going on before you make
that choice to pull away,because these friendships that
we build, a lot of these peoplehave supported us over the years
.
And so if you pull away becauseall of a sudden they're having
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something in their life that youare not aware of, because they
haven't talked to you yet andyou have not opened yourself up
for that communication flow, nowwhen you leave, they're going
to see it as you turned yourback on them.
Invite versa If you're havingsomething going on with you and
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your friends aren't reaching outto you, figure out hey, what's
going on?
Why are you?
Why is your personality shifted?
What are you upset about?
Why is all this negativity allof a sudden there?
Then maybe you need to separateyourself from them.
Now, it's not always the case.
We lose contact with peopleover the years and then we just
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reach out every so often.
I've got a lot of brothers andsisters from the military that I
only talk to occasionallyonline, or I'll call once every
so often.
It happens, but we pick upwhere we left off and we dump
everything out there the good,the bad, the ugly because that's
how we get along, that's how wecommunicate and we're able to
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work through these things.
And a lot of times, when youmake those phone calls to
somebody after two, three, sixmonths a year, it's because you
have decided to check up on them.
The one initiating the callusually is calling to check up
because you missed that personor maybe you've relied on them
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in the past.
You feel like you have no onenow and now.
You just need someone to talkto, and those friends that you
can do that with are vital andvery important, and they're also
the ones that'll help push youalong in your career, because
they're the ones that are goingto support you no matter what.
Now let's talk about some ofthese professional relationships
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we have to deal with Ourco-workers, our managers, our
bosses, our leaders, everybodyelse.
These relationships can be goodand bad.
You see, depending on where youwork, depending on what you do.
You can have really, reallypoor leadership and you can have
a micromanager as a boss andyou can you know all these other
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things where people aren'tleading from the front and
trying to help you along in yourcareer Bad areas to be.
And a lot of times, if you'rein those situations with those
type of managers and bosses,I'll tell you to find another
job, because people don't leavecompanies, they leave bosses,
they leave people, because maybethe people in that area, in
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that environment, are toxic andthey're not good for them
mentally.
All of these relationships playon our mental health, the good
and the bad, and they can helpus or they can hurt us, just
like your co-workers.
If you are working with certainco-workers and they're always
coming in saying I hate work, Ihate what I do, I hate this
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place, I hate this job,da-da-da-da-da Then eventually
that's going to wear on you.
One of two things are going tohappen.
Even if you went to that joband you enjoyed it for a long
time all that negativityeventually you're going to
despise that place, but it's notnecessarily because of the work
, it's because of the negativityand that energy that is now
coming off of somebody andmaking you negative, because
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some people don't want to comewith solutions, they just want
to complain.
And if you're not going to comeup with a solution to fix the
problem and you're dealing withsomeone that's complaining all
the time, that negativity isgoing to rub off on you.
It's going to happen.
Now you have other co-workersthat are positive all the time.
They may not always like whatthey're doing for work or
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particular clients or particularissues or situations, but they
come to work upbeat and they'reready to go.
And yeah, sure, they may onoccasion say something like man,
this client is horrible, orit's a bad day for me and this
job sucks, or whatever, but it'sa one-off and you know they're
going to come back the next day,be upbeat, ready to go and
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fight through it, because theyreally want to be there and
enjoy what they do.
Those are the co-workers that alot of times we enjoy working
with.
They may be quiet, they may beoutgoing you never know but
anytime you talk to them theygive you that positive energy
and that vibe that helps youcontinue on in your life and
your career and everything else.
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And, at the same time, theseare the relationships we build
that as we go about our careers.
These are the people that aregoing to help us If we end up
getting laid off or gettingfired or whatever the case may
be.
These are the contacts we keepthat are going to have a job for
you or help you find a job,either with their current
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employer or with someone elsethey know, because networking is
key.
All of these relationships inour lives have an effect on how
we live and, again, you caneither choose to go the negative
route and everything bad thatever happens to you, all the
negativity that surrounds youyou choose to adopt that
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lifestyle, or you can go aboutit in such a way that all the
negativity, all the baddecisions you see other people
make instead of doing the exactsame thing and ending up living
the exact same life they liveand being just as miserable as
them.
You can do the opposite.
You can bring more positivityin your life.
You can choose to have a betteroutlook.
And I know it's hard.
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Sometimes I've been down andout.
I've made little to no money tosupport my family.
I've lived paycheck to paycheck.
Get it Been there.
Even now I'm there in half thetime, living paycheck to
paycheck.
But at the end of the day, Ihave surrounded myself with
positive people my family, mychosen family, my friends, my
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coworkers, people that willcorrect me when I'm wrong but
are still there for me and driveme to be a better person every
day.
So what decisions are you makingin your life?
Because if you were choosing tostay within these relationships
that are negative, if you werechoosing to take all of this
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negativity that comes at you andadopt it as your own and be
that person, then you were goingto be a negative person on the
world.
And I know misery loves company.
Some of us, well, we isolateourselves when we're miserable.
That's how you'll know whenwe're in a bad mood or when
something's wrong.
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But look, ideally, you take thepositives from everything.
You take the bad decisions, thebad outlook, the negativity
that you see from everybody else, and you realize you don't want
to be that way, because in ourlives we have the choices of how
we're going to live them.
We have the choice of whatwe're going to do, what jobs
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we're gonna have.
Do we or don't we go to school?
Do we or don't we work a secondjob or a third job or do we?
Do we do something else?
Do we change careers?
Do we do something to make adifference in our lives, to make
our lives better?
Instead of constantly blamingeverything else, utilize these
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relationships that you havecultivated over the years family
, friends, co-workers, managers,leaders, bosses, whatever the
case may be.
Utilize that to your benefit tolook at how you want to live
your life.
You want to live like them andBe negative or be positive,
depending, or do you want to bethe opposite?
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There's no story.
Inside of everybody is twowolves.
One is good, one is bad.
The one that grows in, the onethat takes control, is the one
that you feed the most.
So which wolf are you feeding?
The positive, the good, or thenegative, the bad?
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The choice is yours.
Personally, I have my bad days,but I do my very best to stay
energetic, motivated andpositive, because I feel that's
the type of energy I want togive out in the world.
That's the type of influence Iwant to have on all of my
warriors, on everybody whosupports me, on everybody who
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follows me and Everybody who Isurround myself with.
There's too much negativity inthe world, and I choose not to
be that way.
So utilize these relationshipsyou have and make the right
choice.
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show.
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