June 19, 2023 • 17 mins
When my amazing aunt was bravely fighting cancer, I realized how important it is to cut ourselves some slack and stop beating ourselves up.
And I'm going to confess something to you: I totally went on a sugar spree during my time as a caregiver, temporarily ditching my healthy habits.
We’ll dive into the importance of recognizing the choices we make during different seasons of our lives and giving ourselves a break. No more self-judgment, my friends. It's all about acceptance and understanding that we're only human.
I also share my aunt's heart-wrenching battle with colon cancer, our shared special moments, and why I decided to step away from my life.
This episode has NO background music. If you want to walk to the beat, listen to episode 24A. There’s a bell at the halfway mark so you can turn around if you’re walking outside.
So, grab your walking shoes, take a deep breath, and join me for a coached walk. Together, we'll clear our minds and appreciate the beauty of life.
Thanks for listening. Stop by https://walkingandtalking.show to grab your free guide to fitting walking into your busy day.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
We're walking and talking.
We're walking and talking.
We're walking and talking.
We're walking and talking withHelen Ryan.
If you're walking outside withme today, just start at a warm
up pace, not too fast, not tooslow.
If you're doing this indoors,whether you're dancing in place,
(00:28):
marching in place on yourtreadmill or even cleaning, just
start at a moderate speed.
We're not going to go all out.
When we first start, you knowthe drill by now.
Take a deep breath in throughyour nose and exhale through
your mouth.
Shoulders are relaxed, handsare relaxed, your glutes are
(00:49):
relaxed, feet are relaxed.
If you are doing this indoors,when I say go faster, you can
just move side to side a littlebit faster or march in place,
knees maybe a little bit higher,bring your arms above your head
.
They're going to be some faster, a little bit harder parts, and
then they're just going to besome mosey along parts warming
up, cooling down and everythingin between, every flavor.
(01:10):
Now just go a little bit fasterand I'm going to tell you where
the heck I've been.
It's been a really long time.
It's been so long.
I have a mixer that helps bumpup the volume when I record and
I couldn't even remember, likewhat the buttons were on my
mixer like, hey, what does thisdo?
It's like I've never seen amixer before.
So it's been that long since Ihave recorded an episode and
(01:34):
I've missed it.
I've missed just talking to youguys and hopefully you're
actually.
You are still walking with mebecause I'm getting quite a lot
of downloads still.
Hold on to that pace.
I was so determined to record anepisode for you today that I
just shoved myself into thecloset because I realized, when
I had everything set up on mydesk, that my neighbor was
having a pool party.
(01:54):
So that's where I am today.
I am looking at my stripedshirt.
Go just a little faster and, ifyou're working at home, just a
little bit harder.
The most important thing is youjust breathe.
Let that oxygen flow in and outof your lungs.
This is time for you.
So take this time and kind ofclear your mind and relax.
Put your phone on.
Do not disturb If somebodycalls you, just ignore it If
(02:17):
somebody texts you.
That's happened to me when I'mworking.
I'm working out and thensomebody texts me and then I get
really angry because I was justin the zone or in the mood and
now I'm out of the zone or outof the mood.
Hold on to your speed.
So last spring I guess latespring my aunt, who I'm very
close with, was diagnosed withbreast cancer and like a champ
(02:38):
she went through quite a fewcycles of chemo and she just
finished all her chemo and shestarted to have back pain And
chemo was actually really brutalfor her and she had a lot of
bone pain.
But when she started with theback pain it just kind of gave
me flashbacks, because that wasexactly what happened to my dad.
(02:58):
He had colon cancer and then,once he was cleared of with that
, he was diagnosed withaggressive lung cancer and he
was gone five months later.
So when she started to haveback pain I got worried, i got
alarmed.
It brought me right back tothat place where I was before
with my dad.
In December she had a PET scanand it turns out that she had a
whole new primary cancer coloncancer that had spread
(03:19):
everywhere.
It had spread to her bones andspread to her liver and it had
spread to her lungs, and so thatwas really difficult for the
entire family because she was anamazing woman, amazing, just so
full of love and light.
Hold on to your pace, i'm notgoing to be super chipper, but I
want you to just kind of relaxand breathe, relax your hands,
(03:42):
relax your feet.
Go a little bit faster now, ifyou can.
In January she asked if I couldcome up and be her caretaker.
I was glad to be able to dothat for her.
I feel like she's my real mombecause she's like midnight
person.
We joke.
We really enjoyed each other'scompany.
I lived with her during thepandemic and it was a really
(04:03):
good time.
So I was happy to come up andhelp and it was really difficult
just to watch her get sickerand sicker every day.
She did one round of chemo forthe colon cancer but then she
actually had a heart attack inthe middle of the chemo
treatment so they had to stopAnd then she was in the hospital
.
I stayed with her for sixnights.
We compared notes because shewent to school in Norway for a
(04:24):
few years.
She was born there butemigrated to the US and I was
raised in Norway.
So we compared songs when wesang Norwegian school songs to
see if there were anycommonalities, and we found some
and we would joke and we reallyjust tried to brighten each
other's moods and the moods ofpeople around us.
Go a little bit faster, Makesure your feet are relaxed Off
(04:46):
in your knees a little bit, rollthose shoulders, shake out
those hands.
And when she was let out of thehospital I stayed with her.
It took me about a month tolearn how to change a bed with
someone in it, so obviously Iwould be a terrible nurse.
I had abandoned my kids and mycats back at the condo and they
were holding down the fort overthere And I was with her 24-7.
(05:08):
Her daughters came virtuallyevery day and her son came up as
often as he could because helives a little bit further away
and it was just really nice tosee the whole family pull
together.
Her brother lives two minutesfrom her and he was over there
every day as well, and her otherbrother came when he could.
He lives further away, so weall just tried to be there for
her.
Go a little bit faster if youcan This time.
(05:32):
I want you to squeeze yourglutes just a little bit when
you walk, so we're going to geta little warmth in the butt.
Take a deep breath in throughyour nose and then exhale.
Exhale all that air out, allthat stale air out.
Take another nice deep breathin through your nose.
Relax your stomach, let thoselungs fill up and exhale again
(05:56):
Deep.
Get all that stale air out.
You can roll your neck a littlebit, roll your shoulders.
So what happened during thistime not a surprise is that I
just completely fell off anyhealth wagon, that I was on any
health journey, healthylifestyle and I was perfectly
aware that I was doing it and itwas the choice I made at the
(06:18):
time, because there are otherthings that were more important
to me.
I just ate a lot of sugar.
I was eating things because Iwas the primary caretaker.
I was eating things that Ishould not have been eating, but
it was important for me to dothat at the moment because it
helped me feel like I was beingcared for and I talked about
that in another episode like Ifelt loved and taken care of
(06:40):
when I ate sugar, cookies,brownies, ice cream, things like
that.
So I didn't beat myself up overit.
I was just aware that this iswhat I was doing and that's the
season of life I was in and myfocus was on my aunt and I just
was okay with it.
I want you to go a little bitfaster, you're going to feel a
(07:01):
push for a couple of minutes, alittle bit uncomfortable, now
that you're warmed up.
I was there when she passed away.
Three of her kids were thereand my uncle was there, her
husband and we were there forher.
At the end of it It wasdevastating.
It wasn't unexpected at thatpoint, but it was devastating
for all of us, i think, to losesomeone who was such a bright
(07:23):
light, who was so positive andjust so loving.
I hadn't been used to that inmy life and so it was really
hard.
But I was glad that I got to bethere.
Hold on to your pace and justpush it now.
And right in the middle of thiskind of just before she passed
away, decided to move my kids upto where my aunt lived, which
(07:46):
is five hours from San Diego.
So that was challenging.
I was up here, so actually myex-husband and his husband came
and helped and I hired someoneto help the kids back, and the
day I was supposed to move wehad the blizzard in Southern
California.
I was not able to get downthere early.
I was supposed to go the daybefore and I drove all the way
around the coast and all the waybecause the pass was closed
(08:08):
because of snow.
Yes, in Southern California Idon't understand that, but it
was.
So I finally got there.
Like eight hours later, we gotup here and we settled in and
we're just resuming life as bestthat we can Now.
Slow it down just a little bit.
Take a deep breath in throughyour nose And exhale.
Feel how good it feels to moveyour body.
(08:32):
Everything is so good for yourbody.
It's so good for your mentalhealth.
Really, just it's like theperfect package.
Shake out your hands, get allthat tension out.
We store a lot of tension inour hands.
We store a lot of tension inour feet And when you walk, kind
of soften your knees a littlebit.
Take another deep breath in Andexhale.
(08:54):
Now go a little bit fasteragain And if you can find any
hills, go ahead and charge upthose hills and take those hills
.
When we encounter those times inour lives where things are
challenging, difficult when youhave a baby, when someone's sick
, when someone dies, when you'regoing through a divorce it's
(09:15):
important for us to be gentleron ourselves, to not be angry
that we're not doing the thingsthat we want to be doing or we
think we should be doing.
You're a healthy person who isjust sliding right now.
It's okay to let things slidesometimes Eventually you'll get
back on it if you put yourselfback into that frame of mind but
(09:38):
it's okay to let things slidebecause the worst thing that you
can do is to beat up onyourself during an already
difficult time.
There's so much going on inlife, there's so many challenges
, and it's important to begentler with ourselves, and I
think that's a lesson that Ilearned is that if my shorts
don't fit right now, oh well.
I had that time with my auntand I had the time to eat the
(10:01):
cookies that I wanted, and thatwas then, and now I'm trying to
slowly get healthier and alsostill being gentler on myself,
go a little bit faster.
Part of being gentler onourselves is to allowing
ourselves to be sad, to bedepressed, to be happy and just
remember the good things in lifeand the good things that we do
(10:21):
have.
I got closer to all my cousinsup here, which was great.
I got closer to my one unclethat I actually think I met once
, and now we see each other allthe time and we talk on the
phone, so there's something goodthat happens.
I look back at her and I getsad.
I go a little bit faster, feela little push.
But then I think about the funthat we had and the good things
(10:42):
that happened and how lucky wewere to be in each other's lives
.
We were like ying and ying andyang ying I don't know whatever
that's called ying and yang Andwe were just so similar in so
many ways.
We had a lot of fun when I wasliving with her during the
pandemic and that's actuallywhen I started this podcast And
she helped me write the rhymeabout the podcast.
(11:02):
I made a silly little rhymeHold on to your pace.
Now I'll see if I can link ithere in the show notes.
You wouldn't treat your friendor your kids the way that you
treat yourself and you wouldn'tput them down.
You wouldn't go through a roughpatch.
You wouldn't say, oh, you'renot motivated, you need to snap
with it and you're not takingcare of yourself.
You wouldn't be angry at theperson.
You would understand and youwould help them in a gentler way
(11:24):
.
And you want to help yourselfin a gentler way and talk to
yourself in a gentler waybecause you're more apt to get
back to the healthier lifestyle.
If you're gentler with itduring your slide, you're not a
bad person.
You're not a lazy person,you're not an unhealthy person.
You're a person who encountereddifficulty and you are coping
(11:44):
with it, especially with thebenefits that you can.
And it's just a season.
It's just for a period of timein your life.
Go a little bit faster and Iwant you to push it.
I was reading that JenniferAniston is going more towards
gentler workouts.
It's nice to see whencelebrities also are gentler on
themselves And they said anexample of you don't have to do
(12:05):
high intensity interval trainingevery day.
You don't have to do jumpingjacks.
You can do different thingsthat are a little bit easier on
your body.
Even this interval that you'redoing right now, you can push it
as hard or as not hard as youwant.
Squeeze your glutes, lift thatchest, lift those boobies,
shoulders down, hands arerelaxed.
Feel that pace.
(12:26):
Now You can focus on how yourbody is moving, how it's working
.
Everything's working together.
Right now You're pushing.
You're going harder.
If you're doing this at home,you're bringing your hands above
your head.
Maybe You can put a little airon your step.
If you want to Take a littlejog you can.
I stopped jogging running along time ago but if you feel
like that's what you want to dofor that push, you just go ahead
(12:47):
and do it.
Push a little bit more now.
Your legs are strong, your gazeis strong, hold onto it,
breathe, your upper body'srelaxed.
Push it, push it And slow itback down a little bit.
I think today was more likestory time, telling you some of
the things that have been goingon and just reminding you to cut
(13:12):
yourself some slack.
Take care of yourself,understand that things happen
And you are in a phase.
As long as the phase doesn'tlast like 20 years, just get
back to healthier habits as soonas you can, little by little,
step by step, day by day, walkby walk.
Okay, one more time.
We're going to push a littlebit faster, be strong, and this
(13:35):
time I want you to just focus onhow good it feels to move your
body, feel how strong your legsare, feel your breath coming in
and out of your lungs, freshoxygen going everywhere in your
body, your head's clearing, yourthoughts are clearing.
You feel strong, you feel happyAnd that's what it's all about.
(13:57):
It's about feeling strong,feeling healthy Little bit
faster.
You got this, push it, push it.
If you come to a light, justmarch in place really fast.
If you're doing this at home,just step side to side, lift
those knees up, pull those armsover your head.
Free your mind when you'rewalking, breathe, get that
(14:21):
oxygen flowing everywhere Almostthere And then slow it back
down.
Deep breath in through yournose And exhale through your
mouth.
Shake out those hands, rollthose shoulders, roll them back.
Listen to the words that youtell yourself And if you start
(14:42):
beating yourself up forsomething you're not doing you
think you should be doing, knockthat shit off.
You want to be kinder andgentler and treat yourself like
you would your child, a friend,and not like Ursula from The
Little Mermaid.
Slow it down a little bit more.
I just wanted to get back in thegame and I was determined to
(15:05):
get you something.
I was determined to get backand walk with you.
I want to slowly get healthieragain.
I don't have the desire to besuper buff like I was when I
first embarked on a weight lossfitness journey Little bit
slower now.
Oh, the other day I moved myknees out of her dorm and she
was on the fourth floor, noelevator, and I was going up and
(15:28):
down, up and down, up and down,up and down.
I actually was able to do it.
I didn't feel any discomfort,except two days later.
Now my calves are really sore.
I guess once you have strongspin thighs they always stay
strong, but my calves are likewe're not going to let you walk
like it looks all natural.
It looks more like hobble,hobble, hobble.
But I was pleased that I wasable to do it and that is why we
(15:49):
exercise.
Slow it down a little bit more.
We exercise so we can do thingsin our daily lives Like that go
up all these flights of stairs,up and down with heavy things,
we can climb up ladders, changeour light bulbs, we can carry
our groceries, we can play withour kids, our grandkids.
And this is why we exercise.
Aside from, you know, gettinghealthier overall is just to be
(16:09):
able to do the things that wewant to do and do the daily
things.
That will make life easier forus.
So we're down a little bit morenow and when you get back
inside, do some gentle stretches.
If you're doing this at home,do some gentle stretches too,
(16:30):
and if you feel like you've kindof fallen off and you're in a
different season.
Feel free to reach out to me.
You can find my information.
Send me a message onwalkingandtalkingshow.
Is that even the websiteaddress?
I don't know.
I'll put in the show notesagain.
It's been so long I don'tremember.
Oh, i did create a Facebookpage.
(16:53):
You can message me there.
I think it's your walkingpodcast, and I have an Instagram
your walking podcast which Ihaven't updated either because I
haven't done anything.
But that's okay, not mad atmyself, just trying to get back
into it.
And this was the first step.
See you guys next time you.
We're walking and talking.
We're walking and talking.
We're walking and talking.
We're walking and talking withHelen Ryan.
If you're walking outside withme today, just start at a warm
up pace, not too fast, not tooslow.
If you're doing this indoors,whether you're dancing in place,
(00:28):
marching in place on yourtreadmill or even cleaning, just
start at a moderate speed.
We're not going to go all out.
When we first start, you knowthe drill by now.
Take a deep breath in throughyour nose and exhale through
your mouth.
Shoulders are relaxed, handsare relaxed, your glutes are
(00:49):
relaxed, feet are relaxed.
If you are doing this indoors,when I say go faster, you can
just move side to side a littlebit faster or march in place,
knees maybe a little bit higher,bring your arms above your head
.
They're going to be some faster, a little bit harder parts, and
then they're just going to besome mosey along parts warming
up, cooling down and everythingin between, every flavor.
(01:10):
Now just go a little bit fasterand I'm going to tell you where
the heck I've been.
It's been a really long time.
It's been so long.
I have a mixer that helps bumpup the volume when I record and
I couldn't even remember, likewhat the buttons were on my
mixer like, hey, what does thisdo?
It's like I've never seen amixer before.
So it's been that long since Ihave recorded an episode and
(01:34):
I've missed it.
I've missed just talking to youguys and hopefully you're
actually.
You are still walking with mebecause I'm getting quite a lot
of downloads still.
Hold on to that pace.
I was so determined to record anepisode for you today that I
just shoved myself into thecloset because I realized, when
I had everything set up on mydesk, that my neighbor was
having a pool party.
(01:54):
So that's where I am today.
I am looking at my stripedshirt.
Go just a little faster and, ifyou're working at home, just a
little bit harder.
The most important thing is youjust breathe.
Let that oxygen flow in and outof your lungs.
This is time for you.
So take this time and kind ofclear your mind and relax.
Put your phone on.
Do not disturb If somebodycalls you, just ignore it If
(02:17):
somebody texts you.
That's happened to me when I'mworking.
I'm working out and thensomebody texts me and then I get
really angry because I was justin the zone or in the mood and
now I'm out of the zone or outof the mood.
Hold on to your speed.
So last spring I guess latespring my aunt, who I'm very
close with, was diagnosed withbreast cancer and like a champ
(02:38):
she went through quite a fewcycles of chemo and she just
finished all her chemo and shestarted to have back pain And
chemo was actually really brutalfor her and she had a lot of
bone pain.
But when she started with theback pain it just kind of gave
me flashbacks, because that wasexactly what happened to my dad.
(02:58):
He had colon cancer and then,once he was cleared of with that
, he was diagnosed withaggressive lung cancer and he
was gone five months later.
So when she started to haveback pain I got worried, i got
alarmed.
It brought me right back tothat place where I was before
with my dad.
In December she had a PET scanand it turns out that she had a
whole new primary cancer coloncancer that had spread
(03:19):
everywhere.
It had spread to her bones andspread to her liver and it had
spread to her lungs, and so thatwas really difficult for the
entire family because she was anamazing woman, amazing, just so
full of love and light.
Hold on to your pace, i'm notgoing to be super chipper, but I
want you to just kind of relaxand breathe, relax your hands,
(03:42):
relax your feet.
Go a little bit faster now, ifyou can.
In January she asked if I couldcome up and be her caretaker.
I was glad to be able to dothat for her.
I feel like she's my real mombecause she's like midnight
person.
We joke.
We really enjoyed each other'scompany.
I lived with her during thepandemic and it was a really
(04:03):
good time.
So I was happy to come up andhelp and it was really difficult
just to watch her get sickerand sicker every day.
She did one round of chemo forthe colon cancer but then she
actually had a heart attack inthe middle of the chemo
treatment so they had to stopAnd then she was in the hospital
.
I stayed with her for sixnights.
We compared notes because shewent to school in Norway for a
(04:24):
few years.
She was born there butemigrated to the US and I was
raised in Norway.
So we compared songs when wesang Norwegian school songs to
see if there were anycommonalities, and we found some
and we would joke and we reallyjust tried to brighten each
other's moods and the moods ofpeople around us.
Go a little bit faster, Makesure your feet are relaxed Off
(04:46):
in your knees a little bit, rollthose shoulders, shake out
those hands.
And when she was let out of thehospital I stayed with her.
It took me about a month tolearn how to change a bed with
someone in it, so obviously Iwould be a terrible nurse.
I had abandoned my kids and mycats back at the condo and they
were holding down the fort overthere And I was with her 24-7.
(05:08):
Her daughters came virtuallyevery day and her son came up as
often as he could because helives a little bit further away
and it was just really nice tosee the whole family pull
together.
Her brother lives two minutesfrom her and he was over there
every day as well, and her otherbrother came when he could.
He lives further away, so weall just tried to be there for
her.
Go a little bit faster if youcan This time.
(05:32):
I want you to squeeze yourglutes just a little bit when
you walk, so we're going to geta little warmth in the butt.
Take a deep breath in throughyour nose and then exhale.
Exhale all that air out, allthat stale air out.
Take another nice deep breathin through your nose.
Relax your stomach, let thoselungs fill up and exhale again
(05:56):
Deep.
Get all that stale air out.
You can roll your neck a littlebit, roll your shoulders.
So what happened during thistime not a surprise is that I
just completely fell off anyhealth wagon, that I was on any
health journey, healthylifestyle and I was perfectly
aware that I was doing it and itwas the choice I made at the
(06:18):
time, because there are otherthings that were more important
to me.
I just ate a lot of sugar.
I was eating things because Iwas the primary caretaker.
I was eating things that Ishould not have been eating, but
it was important for me to dothat at the moment because it
helped me feel like I was beingcared for and I talked about
that in another episode like Ifelt loved and taken care of
(06:40):
when I ate sugar, cookies,brownies, ice cream, things like
that.
So I didn't beat myself up overit.
I was just aware that this iswhat I was doing and that's the
season of life I was in and myfocus was on my aunt and I just
was okay with it.
I want you to go a little bitfaster, you're going to feel a
(07:01):
push for a couple of minutes, alittle bit uncomfortable, now
that you're warmed up.
I was there when she passed away.
Three of her kids were thereand my uncle was there, her
husband and we were there forher.
At the end of it It wasdevastating.
It wasn't unexpected at thatpoint, but it was devastating
for all of us, i think, to losesomeone who was such a bright
(07:23):
light, who was so positive andjust so loving.
I hadn't been used to that inmy life and so it was really
hard.
But I was glad that I got to bethere.
Hold on to your pace and justpush it now.
And right in the middle of thiskind of just before she passed
away, decided to move my kids upto where my aunt lived, which
(07:46):
is five hours from San Diego.
So that was challenging.
I was up here, so actually myex-husband and his husband came
and helped and I hired someoneto help the kids back, and the
day I was supposed to move wehad the blizzard in Southern
California.
I was not able to get downthere early.
I was supposed to go the daybefore and I drove all the way
around the coast and all the waybecause the pass was closed
(08:08):
because of snow.
Yes, in Southern California Idon't understand that, but it
was.
So I finally got there.
Like eight hours later, we gotup here and we settled in and
we're just resuming life as bestthat we can Now.
Slow it down just a little bit.
Take a deep breath in throughyour nose And exhale.
Feel how good it feels to moveyour body.
(08:32):
Everything is so good for yourbody.
It's so good for your mentalhealth.
Really, just it's like theperfect package.
Shake out your hands, get allthat tension out.
We store a lot of tension inour hands.
We store a lot of tension inour feet And when you walk, kind
of soften your knees a littlebit.
Take another deep breath in Andexhale.
(08:54):
Now go a little bit fasteragain And if you can find any
hills, go ahead and charge upthose hills and take those hills
.
When we encounter those times inour lives where things are
challenging, difficult when youhave a baby, when someone's sick
, when someone dies, when you'regoing through a divorce it's
(09:15):
important for us to be gentleron ourselves, to not be angry
that we're not doing the thingsthat we want to be doing or we
think we should be doing.
You're a healthy person who isjust sliding right now.
It's okay to let things slidesometimes Eventually you'll get
back on it if you put yourselfback into that frame of mind but
(09:38):
it's okay to let things slidebecause the worst thing that you
can do is to beat up onyourself during an already
difficult time.
There's so much going on inlife, there's so many challenges
, and it's important to begentler with ourselves, and I
think that's a lesson that Ilearned is that if my shorts
don't fit right now, oh well.
I had that time with my auntand I had the time to eat the
(10:01):
cookies that I wanted, and thatwas then, and now I'm trying to
slowly get healthier and alsostill being gentler on myself,
go a little bit faster.
Part of being gentler onourselves is to allowing
ourselves to be sad, to bedepressed, to be happy and just
remember the good things in lifeand the good things that we do
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have.
I got closer to all my cousinsup here, which was great.
I got closer to my one unclethat I actually think I met once
, and now we see each other allthe time and we talk on the
phone, so there's something goodthat happens.
I look back at her and I getsad.
I go a little bit faster, feela little push.
But then I think about the funthat we had and the good things
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that happened and how lucky wewere to be in each other's lives
.
We were like ying and ying andyang ying I don't know whatever
that's called ying and yang Andwe were just so similar in so
many ways.
We had a lot of fun when I wasliving with her during the
pandemic and that's actuallywhen I started this podcast And
she helped me write the rhymeabout the podcast.
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I made a silly little rhymeHold on to your pace.
Now I'll see if I can link ithere in the show notes.
You wouldn't treat your friendor your kids the way that you
treat yourself and you wouldn'tput them down.
You wouldn't go through a roughpatch.
You wouldn't say, oh, you'renot motivated, you need to snap
with it and you're not takingcare of yourself.
You wouldn't be angry at theperson.
You would understand and youwould help them in a gentler way
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.
And you want to help yourselfin a gentler way and talk to
yourself in a gentler waybecause you're more apt to get
back to the healthier lifestyle.
If you're gentler with itduring your slide, you're not a
bad person.
You're not a lazy person,you're not an unhealthy person.
You're a person who encountereddifficulty and you are coping
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with it, especially with thebenefits that you can.
And it's just a season.
It's just for a period of timein your life.
Go a little bit faster and Iwant you to push it.
I was reading that JenniferAniston is going more towards
gentler workouts.
It's nice to see whencelebrities also are gentler on
themselves And they said anexample of you don't have to do
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high intensity interval trainingevery day.
You don't have to do jumpingjacks.
You can do different thingsthat are a little bit easier on
your body.
Even this interval that you'redoing right now, you can push it
as hard or as not hard as youwant.
Squeeze your glutes, lift thatchest, lift those boobies,
shoulders down, hands arerelaxed.
Feel that pace.
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Now You can focus on how yourbody is moving, how it's working
.
Everything's working together.
Right now You're pushing.
You're going harder.
If you're doing this at home,you're bringing your hands above
your head.
Maybe You can put a little airon your step.
If you want to Take a littlejog you can.
I stopped jogging running along time ago but if you feel
like that's what you want to dofor that push, you just go ahead
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and do it.
Push a little bit more now.
Your legs are strong, your gazeis strong, hold onto it,
breathe, your upper body'srelaxed.
Push it, push it And slow itback down a little bit.
I think today was more likestory time, telling you some of
the things that have been goingon and just reminding you to cut
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yourself some slack.
Take care of yourself,understand that things happen
And you are in a phase.
As long as the phase doesn'tlast like 20 years, just get
back to healthier habits as soonas you can, little by little,
step by step, day by day, walkby walk.
Okay, one more time.
We're going to push a littlebit faster, be strong, and this
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time I want you to just focus onhow good it feels to move your
body, feel how strong your legsare, feel your breath coming in
and out of your lungs, freshoxygen going everywhere in your
body, your head's clearing, yourthoughts are clearing.
You feel strong, you feel happyAnd that's what it's all about.
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It's about feeling strong,feeling healthy Little bit
faster.
You got this, push it, push it.
If you come to a light, justmarch in place really fast.
If you're doing this at home,just step side to side, lift
those knees up, pull those armsover your head.
Free your mind when you'rewalking, breathe, get that
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oxygen flowing everywhere Almostthere And then slow it back
down.
Deep breath in through yournose And exhale through your
mouth.
Shake out those hands, rollthose shoulders, roll them back.
Listen to the words that youtell yourself And if you start
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beating yourself up forsomething you're not doing you
think you should be doing, knockthat shit off.
You want to be kinder andgentler and treat yourself like
you would your child, a friend,and not like Ursula from The
Little Mermaid.
Slow it down a little bit more.
I just wanted to get back in thegame and I was determined to
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get you something.
I was determined to get backand walk with you.
I want to slowly get healthieragain.
I don't have the desire to besuper buff like I was when I
first embarked on a weight lossfitness journey Little bit
slower now.
Oh, the other day I moved myknees out of her dorm and she
was on the fourth floor, noelevator, and I was going up and
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down, up and down, up and down,up and down.
I actually was able to do it.
I didn't feel any discomfort,except two days later.
Now my calves are really sore.
I guess once you have strongspin thighs they always stay
strong, but my calves are likewe're not going to let you walk
like it looks all natural.
It looks more like hobble,hobble, hobble.
But I was pleased that I wasable to do it and that is why we
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exercise.
Slow it down a little bit more.
We exercise so we can do thingsin our daily lives Like that go
up all these flights of stairs,up and down with heavy things,
we can climb up ladders, changeour light bulbs, we can carry
our groceries, we can play withour kids, our grandkids.
And this is why we exercise.
Aside from, you know, gettinghealthier overall is just to be
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able to do the things that wewant to do and do the daily
things.
That will make life easier forus.
So we're down a little bit morenow and when you get back
inside, do some gentle stretches.
If you're doing this at home,do some gentle stretches too,
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and if you feel like you've kindof fallen off and you're in a
different season.
Feel free to reach out to me.
You can find my information.
Send me a message onwalkingandtalkingshow.
Is that even the websiteaddress?
I don't know.
I'll put in the show notesagain.
It's been so long I don'tremember.
Oh, i did create a Facebookpage.
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You can message me there.
I think it's your walkingpodcast, and I have an Instagram
your walking podcast which Ihaven't updated either because I
haven't done anything.
But that's okay, not mad atmyself, just trying to get back
into it.
And this was the first step.
See you guys next time you.
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