Dating shouldn’t feel like an energy drain—and yet, for many introverts, it does.
Introverts often thrive in deep, one-on-one conversations, yet dating apps, noisy bars, and rapid-fire banter can leave them completely drained. And if you’re not aware of what’s happening, that exhaustion can be mistaken for disinterest—or worse, rejection.
In this episode of We Need to Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling, I sit down with Dr. Laurie Helgoe, psychologist and author of Introvert Power, to talk about dating as an introvert, how to protect your energy, and how to navigate relationships when the world feels built for extroverts. We’ll cover introvert dating tips, how to communicate boundaries, and how to find meaningful connection without pretending to be someone you’re not.
Here’s What You’ll Learn:
- How to tell the difference between needing space and losing interest—and why it matters for relationship health.
- Practical strategies introverts can use to make dating less exhausting (and more enjoyable).
- How to communicate your energy needs without sounding distant or disengaged.
Whether you’re an introvert yourself, dating one, or raising one, you’ll walk away with tools to navigate connection in a way that feels natural—and sustainable.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES/RESOURCES
www.alternativescounseling.com
The Strange Situation Procedure by Mary Ainsworth
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.
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