Ever find yourself replaying a conversation in your head—over and over—only to avoid it altogether? Maybe you want to tell a friend they hurt your feelings. Or ask for a raise. Or bring up that thing your partner said that’s still bothering you.
We all do it. But why? Why do we avoid conversations that could actually improve our relationships—and our lives?
Most of us dodge these talks because we fear conflict or don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. But avoiding the conversation doesn’t make the discomfort go away. It causes it to fester.
Today, I’m joined by someone who knows this terrain professionally and personally—my wife, Steph Sterling, LCSW. She also happens to be the most talented couples therapist I know.
In this episode, we unpack:
- How to tell if you’re avoiding a conversation out of fear or just waiting for the right time.
- The biggest mistakes people make when they finally speak up.
- How to navigate tough talks in a way that brings you closer together instead of pulling you apart (step-by-step).
Plus… Steph shares some stories about our own struggles that just might surprise you.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES
Mindful Care
Getting The Love You Want
Forbes Article: Are Your Employees Avoiding Difficult Conversations?
https://www.instagram.com/steph_sterling_lcsw/
https://alternativescounseling.com/meet-the-owners/steph/
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.
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