You know those relationship fights that keep coming up again and again? The ones that go in circles—never really getting resolved, just getting recycled?
My guest this week is Julie Mennano—licensed therapist, author of Secure Love, and host of The Secure Relationship Podcast. Julie has a rare gift for helping couples identify the deeper emotional patterns driving their relationship conflict. She doesn’t just teach attachment theory—she translates it into practical tools you can actually use to change how you show up in love.
Together, we explore why some arguments seem to have no end, why traditional communication strategies fall short, and how so much of your relationship conflict is tied to your nervous system and attachment style—not the surface-level issues like chores, tone, or timing.
Whether you're in a romantic relationship, married, or navigating long-term partnership dynamics, this episode will help you understand the real reason your communication breaks down—and what to do about it.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why some relationship conflicts never feel resolved—and why it’s not about the dishwasher.
- How your attachment style and nervous system responses are shaping your conflict cycle.
- Practical tools for moving from conflict and disconnection to repair and reconnection.
If you’ve ever walked away from an argument thinking, “We’ve had this fight a hundred times,” this conversation will show you what’s really going on—and how to finally create meaningful change in your relationship.
Xxoo,
Darcy
REFERENCES/RESOURCES
www.alternativescounseling.com
Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.
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