When couples tell me they’ve “lost the spark,” it’s rarely because of one major event. It’s the slow fade—the missed opportunities for connection, the routine that replaces curiosity, the conversations that revolve more around logistics than intimacy.
But here’s the good news: Rekindling connection doesn’t require a massive overhaul. Sometimes, the smallest shift can open the biggest door.
In this episode, I’m joined by Aly Bullock, Head of Relationships at Paired—an app designed to help couples reconnect through one intentional question a day. We dive into the science behind micro-moments, how novelty keeps long-term love alive, and why just a few minutes of daily intentionality might be all it takes to start feeling closer again.
This is about more than an app. It’s about remembering that your partner isn’t just the person who forgot to take out the trash—they’re also the person you once couldn’t stop asking questions about.
Takeaways:
- Small, intentional daily check-ins can create more emotional intimacy than the occasional big gesture.
- Curiosity is one of the most underrated tools in long-term relationships—and it’s a skill you can practice.
- Reigniting connection doesn’t require more time, just more intention—with the right prompts, even two minutes a day can change your dynamic.
Xxoo Darcy
REFERENCES/RESOURCES
www.alternativescounseling.com
https://www.paired.com/press/paired-shown-to-increase-relationship-quality-by-36percent
Download Paired and try premium at a discount: http://www.paired.com/alypodcast
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.
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