How well-prepared are you for your big day? We're inviting you to kick back and listen in as Renee Dalo and I divulge the unspoken truths and strategies for a smooth wedding morning. We'll guide you through setting boundaries, preserving your peace, and keeping everyone on the same schedule with digital itineraries. We also stress the importance of nourishment and hydration, so you're not running on empty when it's time to walk down the aisle.
But our conversation doesn't end at just wedding mornings. We'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences too! Leave us a review or give us a shoutout on your social media. And if you have burning wedding-related questions, don’t hesitate to reach out to us. Who knows? You might just be the star guest on our next episode. Get ready to laugh, learn, and love this journey. Let's conquer your wedding morning together, no stress attached.
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Kelly knows how incredible a well planned wedding can be. Every moment counts and every decision plays a part. Wedding planning should be fun and as easy to do as possible. Besides planning weddings, Kelly travels the globe as an industry speaker. Kelly is a Martha Stewart Top Wedding Planner & this podcast won Brides magazine and WeddingWire's best podcast.
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Episode Transcript
Hello and welcome to this Versus that making wedding
decisions with Kelly McWilliams.
This podcast is for you ifyou're making a wedding decision
and want to know what toconsider before saying I do to
all the things that will makeyour wedding experience a great
one.
I'm your host, kelly McWilliams, and I'm so glad to be a part
(00:30):
of your wedding planning journey.
In each episode you can counton me and my expert wedding
co-hosts to give you everythingit takes to make the best
decisions for the wedding thatyou're dreaming of.
Guess what we're live like withvideo.
I never thought that I would dothis with the podcast, but I
was like you know what?
(00:51):
It might be really cool.
So we're doing a whole newseries.
I just realized I forgot toturn my cell phone off there.
We're going to do the shortseries, maybe five or 10
episodes that are under 10minutes each.
So I'm excited about that and Ifigured the best person to
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bring on for this is ReneeDallow, because she has a
background in acting, so Ithought she might be good to be
on video.
But really, when you thinkabout it, she's just good.
All things weddings.
She was on the podcast beforeYou've heard her.
I think we might have talkedabout late night getaways from
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your wedding on her episode.
Anyway, she's a multi-passionateentrepreneur.
Some of the hats she wears arewedding and event planner,
wedding industry educator, lifeand business coach, a podcast
host, a public speaker.
Her podcast gets thousands oflistens every single week.
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Her podcast is Talk with ReneeDallow.
It is for people in the weddingindustry, not necessarily
people who are getting married.
So if you tune into that,you're going to get a very
different kind of listen.
But I'm excited to have her onwith me for this very first
episode, and I don't even knowif this is called like a video
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blog or video cast.
I don't know what we're goingto call it, we're just going to
try it out.
I'm excited for her to be on totalk about things you don't
know about your wedding morningand let me tell you the things
that came out of our mouth thatquickly, in under 10 minutes.
You know what.
I'm going to stop wasting timeand get right into it.
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Here we go.
Let's invite Renee on.
Renee, thanks so much for doingthis very first video podcast
episode.
Is that a different name?
When you call it a video, it'slike a video cast.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Is it A video?
I'm just honored that I get tobe the first and we figured out
together.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yes, and I figured two people who wear red lipstick
should be the first.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Is it a rule for this video cast that everyone wears
a red list?
Oh, that would be such a goodidea.
They have to wear red lipstick.
Come on in, otherwise you'reout.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
You're out Red lip club only.
Maybe you should be the redlipstick series.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
That's what we tell the real, the real true, okay.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
So this is going to be a very quick episode, guys,
and so we are going to tell you.
We're saying we're gonna tellyou five things you don't know
about your wedding morning, butit will likely be 10, because
Renee and I can talk forever,but we're gonna get it done in
less than 10 minutes.
Yeah, let's go.
Yes.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Okay, you go ahead and shoot one off.
Number one you have to protectyour peace on the morning of
your wedding.
You think that everyone elsehas your best interests, but
they really just wanna spend asmuch time with you as possible.
If you are someone who does notwant that, you have to say it
early and often you have toschedule time for the people in
your life that you love to joinyou in that morning and be firm
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in that boundary, like I willsee you all at 10 am, not a
moment before, which soundsharsh, but the morning of the
wedding you're gonna loveyourself Like you're gonna love
past.
You who thought about this?
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Fully agree with you For me.
Someone will be late andsomeone will likely be lost, so
the best thing that you can dois send out texts like full
itinerary saying this is whattime I need you to be there,
just like when I said not before, not after.
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This is what time we need youshowing up at the door, walking
in the door and here's exactlywhere you need to go to and
here's exactly how to get thereText not just on the paper.
Don't send any email, even ifyou can do a graphic.
I love digital itineraries toget to everyone on your wedding
party.
This goes for anyone who isgetting ready with you or anyone
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who's getting ready with yoursignificant other.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Yeah, yeah.
And I also plus one this andsay even better if it comes from
your maid of honor, so thatthey have her email.
I'm here phone as a point ofcontact and not yours, if you
are the bride.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Such a good tip, love that.
Okay, what you got next.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
I have a note for the boys.
If there is a boy involved, ifthere is a groom, I find a lot
of my clients, the guys seem tothink that their wedding morning
plans are going to suddenlymaterialize, or like we will
figure out, or like we'll justget breakfast.
That's what they say to me.
Well, we'll just get breakfast,okay.
Well, where, at what time, withwho, who was invited?
What time will it end?
Guys can be a little too casualabout the morning and then it
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gets away from them and thensometimes they're late or at
late, or their partner is likewhere are they?
Make a significant plan, evenif the plan is we're gonna go
downstairs to the restaurant atthe hotel.
Just make a plan, make a choice.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Yes, fully agree with you on that, and make sure
everyone is in on that plan.
Again, digital attendee areasgo a long way.
Yes, you're gonna get asked amillion questions on your
wedding morning and at somepoint you are gonna be so over
it.
So, like Renee said, highlysuggest that you have someone
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assigned to be the answerer ofall things.
Like maybe turn your phone offand say my phone won't even be
on that day If you have aquestion, here's who you go to.
Yep, boundaries, boundaries,boundaries.
Love the boundary, I love it,what about?
from you Next.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
I'm really a big fan of still gonna go with like.
You are the same person you areon your wedding day that you
are every other day.
And I mean right, if you aresomeone who wakes up and does
yoga, guess what?
On your wedding day, you shouldwake up and do yoga.
If you wake up and have toimmediately have a cup of coffee
, do it.
You are not a different person.
You have to orchestrate yourday, design your day in a way
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that's going to make you yourbest self.
It's not a day for, like, awhole new plan, right.
It's not a day to suddenly trya new hobby.
No, you need to do what youalways do.
If you need to take the dog fora walk, do it Like there is no
perfect wedding day itinerary.
There's only what's right foryou.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Yeah, and setting yourself up for that and not
throwing things off from the getgo is the way to go.
Now, obviously, you may notalways be getting up at that
time, but anything you can do toset yourself up for success,
which is going to lead me to mynext thing I think you're going
to bring this up as well Y'allyou need to plan to hydrate and
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eat Hydrate.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Listen, there is not enough makeup in the world to
cover up your dehydrated ashyskin.
It is that you have to drink.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
You have to drink water, a lot of water, and you
need to start the day before ortwo days before because,
especially if you're havingwelcome parties, rehearsal
dinners, pre-wedding parties,where you're putting in all the
alcohol, you need to flush itout.
So start in advance with thehydration.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
And here's a fun tip that I learned when I was an
actor when your body registersthirst, like if you have the
thought, oh, I'm thirsty, you'realready dehydrated.
Oh yeah, because your brain islike trying to take care of you.
That's okay.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
That's real.
To start well in advance,meaning that drink a little bit
more, you know, and again,you're probably going to be
having some alcohol intakethroughout the day and it's just
going to dissipate as the daygoes on.
So, yeah, and if you need tohave someone responsible for
making sure that you'rehydrating throughout the day,
that would be a good way to go.
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Timing, two things are going tohappen You're not going to have
enough time and you're alsogoing to have too much time, and
what I mean by that is notenough time is.
There's going to be timesduring the day where you're
going to feel really rushed,where, like, it seems like you
can't get everyone in and out ofhair and makeup chairs, or you
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have to be into your dress andthe photographer is waiting and
the videographer wants you toread the letter and you know you
have to.
You have to get on the limo,get in the limo and get to the
church or wherever you're going,and this is going to seem like
a big rush.
At the same time, there is somuch freaking hurry up and wait
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on wedding morning, wouldn't you?
Speaker 2 (09:32):
agree, oh yeah, Especially because for most
brides who are doing beauty withtheir people, you're not
scheduled until midstream.
So people are so like your.
Your makeup artist is gettingthere at like I don't know 7AM
and your first bridesmaid willarrive at 7, at 7 for that, or
7.15, and you're not gettingyour makeup done until noon.
That's real.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
That's real and you're like you're.
Hopefully, you're surrounded bypeople that you love and enjoy,
who make you feel good, butsome parts of the day you're
just going to feel like I overpatted this.
I should be doing something.
No, you can just like chill andsoak it all up, yeah, so this is
a time for you, if somethingmakes you feel good.
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You know, when you have momentslike that, like writing, or you
know going for a walk, or justtaking a breather, having
another cup of coffee, mimosa,you know like you said, putting
your little earbuds, do a littlelisten to a little podcast,
whatever you need to like settleyour nervous system a bit, yeah
.
Or maybe you need to have adance party in the middle of the
night.
(10:35):
I'm all for that.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
I love that too, and that's another thing, renee.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Some people think that they're going to have like
a relaxed state in a relaxedstate and just want to be like,
oh, I'm going to set myself forlike a spa day, like I want to
be quiet.
And then they get in there andthey're like I wish I had some
like hip hop going right now.
I want to have a dance party,so maybe playing for both, like
candles ready and like thesteamers, and then also have
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awesome, maybe a coupledifferent playlists ready to
roll.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Yeah, I agree, I'm really nimble with that.
Yeah, like with your emotionstoo, like checking in, like how
am I feeling now?
Like how is my belly feeling,how is my chest feeling, how is
my head, how's my heart?
Because, like you might just be, I liken it to like bees
buzzing under your skin, thatkind of nervous, like fluttery
energy, and you don't know whatto do and you might need to try
a couple things.
(11:27):
You might need to do the danceparty and then go sit quietly,
or vice versa, like you have tojust be ready to soothe yourself
, right?
Yes, for lack of a better termwhenever you can.
And I'll also add plus ontothis you know that morning vibe
of like everyone getting ready.
Some people love it andsometimes for my clients,
especially if there's likeparents and in-laws involved in
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that getting ready portion,sometimes we just say you're
going to arrive 10 minutesbefore your scheduled hair and
makeup time and not a minuteearlier, to sort of minimize who
is in the space at any givenmoment.
It makes for a much more avibey, chill wedding morning if
you do it that way.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Renee, look what we did.
We did in under 10 minutes.
I mean, I feel like that's areally like we got some good
stuff out there.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Like take that everyone who follows this
episode Can you do it.
Can you do it?
Can you beat 937?
Don't think so.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
I don't know, and I don't know if they're going to
wear red lipstick as well as wedo either.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Listen, this was a groundbreaking episode.
Obviously you did it.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
All right, thanks so much.
These are great tips andhopefully we'll have you back on
for another one.
Thank you, bye Renee.
I'm so glad to be able to sharemy wedding experiences and
expertise with you, and that myco-hosts are so giving it theirs
.
We truly do want you to havethe best time at your wedding,
and our hope is that thispodcast is helping you to make
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your engagement time whileplanning your wedding that much
easier.
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If this is the case, would youjust take a moment to leave a
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I would love to hear from youand maybe, just maybe even have
you as a wedding guest on afuture episode.
How fun.
Here's to another great wedding.
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