April 24, 2025 • 31 mins
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Burnout can happen from just living your regular life, even when you don't think you're doing "too much" - and our bodies will eventually force us to slow down if we don't recognize the signs.
• Daily responsibilities like parenting, cooking, and running a business can lead to burnout without realizing it
• The mental and emotional load of life is often more exhausting than physical tasks
• Signs of burnout include losing interest in activities you normally enjoy
• Taking a real break means resting from your regular life, not planning stress-inducing vacations
• Learning to listen to your body's signals before reaching complete exhaustion
• Perfectionism keeps us trapped in unhealthy cycles of overworking
• We need to nurture each other and call out when we see others approaching burnout
• The mental load of parenting older children is often more exhausting than caring for babies
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome back to Wealthy Generation
Podcast.
So it's becoming a thing whenI'm recording solo episodes that
I am not recording at my deskwith my podcasting mic.
I today am currently hencebackground noise and music
(00:21):
sitting out on my balcony.
I have a tiny balcony, which Iappreciate, listening to the
birds, getting some sunshine andtalking to you.
So if you hear cars, birds,music, people talking in the
background, make pretend we'reon a walk together and this is
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ambient noise in the back andthere has been just a lot going
on in April and I'm here to talkto you about it.
It's the point of this episode.
I have been seeing this trendout in the social media streets
of just burnout and notrealizing it, and I'm in the
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same boat and I wanted to chatwith you about it today because
it, like it, just catches youoff guard sometimes.
And I have been working for awhile, like almost a year now,
with my ancestral healing coach,hassani, and she keeps telling
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me how I'm doing a lot, and Ikeep coming back to her and
telling her that I don't see howI'm doing a lot.
Welcome to coaching me,coaching me.
And it's just been really hardfor me to see it Because for me,
I'm just doing my everydayresponsibilities and it doesn't
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seem like a lot, and I'm surethat is similar for you, where
you're like I'm not even doingextra, I'm just living my
everyday life.
And I wanted to talk about itbecause, just literally in full
transparency of I'm a human andApril has been rough for me.
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And two, what can we do aboutit?
And the third, and the reasonwhy I realized because I've been
trying to work for a while on,like proactive rest and I, when
people ask me what I do formyself, I always say, oh, I go
to the gym, right, like that'skind of like my little alone
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break, but aside, it's stillwork in the sense that I need to
plan to go there, I need toshow up, I am putting my body
under stress, right, those kindsof things, and actually just
resting, like doing nothing,which includes not going to the
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gym and taking a break from mylife, doesn't really happen and
it's really hard for me to dothat until I get knocked out on
my ass, like what happened thismonth.
And I'm trying to get better atthat and I hope that me talking
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about this, hopefully you beingseen, hopefully we can have a
conversation like DM me, emailme If you feel seen, send me a
text on the show notes.
You're able to do that, thenlet me know, because it's
happening to so many of us rightnow and I'm literally recording
this episode and uploading itright away, because I usually
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have my podcast episodes readyto go at 5 am, eastern Time,
thursday mornings and I justdidn't get to it on time this
week.
Yesterday was my very firstmeeting with Sugar Mama and that
went to me.
It went so well.
It was so tender, honest,loving.
(04:04):
Everybody got a chance to talk,to feel heard, to share their
experience, mixed in withcoaching and learning and
guidance, and it just feltreally good to me and I felt
that and I hope that that energyand the participants of the
group also felt that way.
So after that I also had tofocus on making dinner and, you
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know, spending some time with myfamily.
So I was like you know what?
It's okay, I'm just going to.
I have time tomorrow.
So I'm just going Thursdaymorning, like right now, and I'm
just going to record this nowand get it out to my community.
And it's in line with somethingthat I'm going to talk about in
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another episode which is tryingto be perfect, and I'm trying to
hold myself accountable.
I have said multiple times thisweek that to my clients, to
other people where I have thisconcept.
I came up with thatperfectionism is petty and I'm
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like and I've been sitting withthe concept and with the idea
because it's developing as timegoes on in my mind to be more
clear as to how I want toexpress it and what I want to
say about it.
But it's basically this ideathat we focus on, like the short
term, like the minimalisticparts of it, and we pressure
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ourselves and guilt ourselves sobad that we can't move on.
So I'm going to use myself anexample with this If I wanted to
, like, push myself to be quote,unquote perfect, because it
really doesn't fucking exist,which is the first problem in
the first place and force myselfto record this episode last
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night when I was exhausted andbypassed my family time, then
it's to my detriment and yours,because I probably would not be
able to express myself the sameway, come with the same loving
energy that I want to come atthis with.
And then for what?
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When I could just do it now?
So, yes, it's been a strugglefor me to to be like this is how
I do things and this is how Iget things out, and it's broken.
But the real thing is that thepoint is to get this to you
right, to get this episode toyou, to get this information to
you, this insight I wanted to,and what quote unquote was
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perfect for me.
Then I wouldn't be sitting hereright now and having this
energy of service for you atthis moment.
So one it would have come offlike not in the in how I wanted
to last night.
It would have been added stressfor me.
So there's no recovery or resttime and you wouldn't be served
in the same way, whereas it'sgoing to come out at some point
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Thursday, right, and you'llstill get it and it'll still be
here.
So that's the point to get thisout at some capacity.
The point is not how I got itdone.
Does that make sense?
I hope it serves you.
I'm going to talk about itdeeper in another episode
because I really want to getback to burnout, because this
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whole back and forth that Iwould have occasionally with my
ancestral coach, where I wouldbe tired or there would be
things happening and I'd be likeI just don't see it and
basically my life revolvesaround my kids and school.
If you don't know, my kidscommute to school is super long.
Their school is an hour awayfrom us and it's a two hour trip
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to take them to school, so it'snot like the school is a few
blocks away and it takes a totalof 15 minutes to drop them off.
It's literally two hours andsometimes more depending if the
train wants to be all messed up.
So there's a lot of rushinginvolved and getting ready early
because I want to make surethat my kids are not getting to
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school late all the time, andthen I have to run back to eat
breakfast and to serve myclients and get my stuff done
for the day.
I also am the main person fordinner, thinking about what
we're going to eat and preparingfood.
So that mental load is on me,which is consistent when you
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have other loads, and somepeople actually think about
laundry a lot, but I like to useit as an example where you're
not necessarily doing laundryevery single day or taking that
action, or maybe you are, Idon't know, but food is
something that you have to thinkabout multiple times a day.
Not only do I make our dinners,but our kids also take lunch
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and snacks from home, so weprepare that in the morning.
Then it's like what am I havingfor lunch and breakfast and
then dinner for the family,right?
So there's a lot of mental loadwhen it comes to that.
Then I also have my business.
I'm a small business, so notonly am I coaching my clients
and am I making space for that,I also have my new small group
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program, which I am dedicatingmy time to, especially because
it's the first time I'm runningit and I am developing things at
the same time as I'm executingthem.
And then there's also the otherparts of the entrepreneur, where
there's marketing and you haveto pay attention to your
finances and back end stuff.
That also falls on me, althoughI have a fabulous, amazing,
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super trustworthy OBM onlinebusiness manager, alexa, who
supports me.
But a lot of the mental load iscoming from me.
Again, this mental load concept, right.
And then there's my ownwellness, where I take myself to
the gym and I'm making sure I'mfeeding myself appropriately,
getting to bed at a decent time,um other things I might want to
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do, like get my nails done andgo to therapy and go to see
Hassani and get my hair done andjust, and and the kids
appointments right, like when isthe dentist appointment, when
is their physical appointment?
My older one is graduatingelementary school, so there's a
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lot of activities going on withthat my younger one.
We have been having challengesin school, so I consistently
have to go to school meetings.
I consistently have to reply toteachers emails, which happens
about once a week.
I take him to therapy on aweekly basis and I'm in
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communication with the therapyteam, right, and I'm the lead on
all of these things.
So, even talking about it, I'mexhausting myself and I'm sure
that you're feeling exhaustedfrom sharing the stuff I have to
do in my life.
But because it kind of doesn'tlook like other people, I'm like
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I don't have a nine to five,you know, I don't have a commute
necessarily to work, right, Idon't have to be in an office.
Then I invalidate myexperiences.
Office, then I invalidate myexperiences.
So it wasn't until I saw thispost by a therapist on Instagram
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Nidra Tawab I hope I'mpronouncing her name correctly
where she posted this post.
That said, I'm not sure whoneeds to hear this, aka me, but
burnout can also happen due toand then she says parenting
check.
Being a good listener check.
Adulting check.
Being a partner husband or wifecheck.
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Being a caregiver that's likemidway right, always having it
together.
Check, oh my God, that's likemy MO Always see me like I have
it fucking together.
Being emotionally mature whenothers aren't.
Oh my God.
Check.
Repeating your needs to people,check, listen.
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There is one thing I hate moreright now than people asking me
questions for things that theycan figure out themselves.
In my personal life.
I'm like, please just use youreyes, look one side relationship
dynamics.
I don't know if that's a check,but, as you can see, over 50%
of this list is checks for meand I freaking crashed, I don't
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know.
And so, okay, yes, I mentionedall the work stuff too, girl, I
sprained my ankle in late Marchand that really pissed me off
because it forced me to slowdown right like I really had to
take a break from exercising.
Um, I had to rest my ankle andthen I got fucking COVID and it
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I was so sick.
I was so sick.
I took myself to urgent care,which is something I don't
generally do.
I usually, you know, make myhome remedies, rest, take naps
and I get better.
But I wasn't feeling better.
I was just feeling worse andworse and worse.
Hence you still hear me nasallyand like clearing out my throat
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, which I'm sorry if you're, ifyou're experiencing this with me
, but I'm still not 100% back.
And I caught COVID like thefirst week of April or something
like that, and it is April 24that the moment.
So it had to.
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I had to really stop, like oneday my kids didn't even go to
school because I just could not,right, I really couldn't, and I
had to take a break from myentire life and literally sit on
the couch and recover and takenaps and do the bare minimum,
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and leading up to spraining myankle and getting COVID and all
that, I feel like I was alreadyin a burnout state and I'll tell
you how.
Like now, looking back, I cansee why um and I wasn't
listening to my body.
Another thing that I've beendealing with or not dealing with
, but like in communication withwith Hassani, is oh, I'm sorry,
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the back, the back end beepingis happening here because I'm
all tight all time.
Um was or is um not not ignoringmy body, because sometimes I do
realize what's happening and Ibypass it, because I can still
keep pushing through, um, and Idon't make any necessary changes
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to give myself a break, becauseI'm like I could just keep
going.
You know, some of us wear thislike invisible badge of like you
could just push through.
That's work for me too.
I need to like relax on that.
So, yeah, I, I just had to takethis break intensely.
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I.
I canceled all my calls for aweek.
For an entire week I literallycouldn't show up.
I didn't take my kids to school.
I didn't really cook anything.
Um, I was.
We were all literally eatingfrozen food.
I barely had an appetite, butyou know, the family still had
to eat and I still had to eat.
So I ate like chicken, fuckingtenders that I made in the
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toaster oven, uh, and and likebread.
I really wanted bread and stuff.
Just very simple things, verysimple flavors, um.
So I was like damn, my bodyreally crashed out and I really
had to take a break.
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Now, the reason why I say I knewI was already in a burnout
state before all of thishappened was because I didn't
enjoy.
I wasn't enjoying doing, I hadno interest in doing things that
I normally do enjoy doing,mainly cooking.
Like, I usually cook threemeals and it's nothing fancy to
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let y'all know is like pastawith ground meat.
Um, frozen raviolis for thekids that they take for lunch, a
taco night, things like that.
A taco night, things like that.
And I had absolute zerointerest.
I actually had disgust incooking.
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That is.
That is exactly it.
I did not want to cook, I didnot want to turn on the stove I
had, I wanted nothing to do withit, and I thought that was
weird a little bit because I waslike, damn, I'm like really
avoiding this, I don't want todo this.
And now that I've rested somuch and I'm feeling more like
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myself, I have not mindedcooking.
This week I did make threemeals for the family, and
usually the three meals has somesort of leftovers.
We have them, we use them forthe rest of the days, or we we
go back to frozen food.
Um, so this has been and youknow my trainer and Hassani.
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They both remind me of thelessons that we need to and I
know because I coach people onthe same thing but when it comes
to yourself, you never want tohear it.
You never want to hear it.
So they're like there's lessonshere.
What is the lesson?
What do you, you know, and Ithink that one of the biggest
lessons for me is really, Ifinally realized how my regular
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life really can lead me toburnout and I just and I need a
break from my regular life, justthe regular things I do.
Because in my book I was likeI'm not going out every night,
I'm not doing events, I'm nothanging out, like on the
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weekends, like that, I'm notdoing extra.
So to me I wasn't doing thatmuch.
But now between Hassanicontinuously telling me, hassani
continuously telling me, andthen this Instagram post that
just like put it out there in myface because I was just in this
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kind of disbelief where theregular things I do could lead
to burnout, um, so sorry, I gotdistracted because I hear
somebody walking, um, so I waslike, oh, the lesson, the lesson
for me is how do I take a breakfrom my regular life?
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And now that I've realized this, I've been getting coached on
this since 2020.
Because I distinctly remembermy other coaches being like
Naomi, you need to get away,naomi, you need a break.
And I'd be like, yeah, I dotake a break, I go to the gym.
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And now I'm realizing, girl,five years later, of all of this
adding up right, because thecircumstances after covet has
just been different.
There was homeschooling andthen there was like a bunch of
stuff like on and off, but nowwe're like things are just
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rocking and rolling.
The kids are older.
If you have older kids, Ididn't realize how much of a
mental load that would be like,more than when they're babies.
I'm like shit.
I thought this was gonna geteasier and I realized that it
gets easier in like the physicalstuff, meaning I don't have to
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shower them, I don't have tofeed them, I don't have to do, I
don't have to get them dressed.
They do all those things forthemselves now.
But the freaking mental load,the emotional load, oh my God,
that is more exhausting than thephysical stuff.
Okay, um, so I need to figureout how to take a break from my
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life and just hibernate, and Idon't know if, like once a
quarter, I don't know.
Actually I'm not going to put atimeline on it, Because the
real thing that I should bedoing is listening to my body
and being able to betteridentify when I'm reaching
burnout or when I'm tired, andthen taking a rest.
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So I think that planning a timegoes back to perfectionism is
petty because I'm trying to be,I'm trying to demand from my
body something that I don't knowit will be able to handle.
Do you know what I mean?
Like I was about to say, once aquarter, I'll plan a week off
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and I'll take everything off.
But, bitch, you don't know.
You don't know, Like you don'tknow, if you're going to be so
exhausted in two weeks from nowand you'll need another break,
right?
So that's what I mean you don'tknow if you're going to need
another break in a month.
So the real work here is beingeven more attuned with myself
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and not bypassing the signs ofburnout.
So if I am detesting, I'mdisgusted by cooking again, then
that's a sign.
And there might be more signs,but that's the first one that
comes to mind.
Like I'm just not enjoyingthings I know I normally enjoy
and taking a break from thosethings from my life.
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Oh, my god, because before andit's something that we're used
to doing it's like, oh, I'mgonna take a break when I go on
vacation.
Like I'm going to plan a tripand all this.
But guess what?
That's fucking work.
To plan a trip, it's work.
To get to the trip is work.
To come back from the trip.
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It's work.
So I'm trying to figure out howI can be boring as fuck and just
literally sit around exactlyhow I'm doing right now.
How can I simplify my life andstill serve in a way that feels
really good, in a way that I'mserving and also meeting my own
needs, because I am having areally great time just being
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outside right here.
Not outside, I need to take aflight and go to the beach in
Las Terrenas, dr.
Like no, I'm just sitting righthere in the sunshine, I'm
listening to the birds, I'mtalking to you, and that is
serving me instead of being inmy office, which I love and
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appreciate, but it's not what Ineed right now.
So I don't have any one, two,three tips for this or anything
like that.
All I know is that I keep seeingposts pop up from entrepreneurs
and people who I really admireon Instagram talking about how
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they've also felt burnt out, howthey've also had to take a
break, cancel things, reallyfeeling it in their body.
I'm in the same exact boat andI want I think that what I want
for all of us is to the thoughtdo better came, but I don't want
to.
I don't want it to be do better, because again, I think that
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goes back to perfectionism ispetty.
I want to go deeper.
Let's say that I want to honormyself more and I want to
understand that better, and thatmeans going deeper and honoring
that.
So that's what I hope you getout of this.
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How can you make adjustmentsfor this?
You get out of this.
How can you make adjustmentsfor this?
I know that.
One quick tip, though when I hada nine to five I would take if
this is possible for you,because I had quote unquote
unlimited days off or vacationdays, whatever.
I would schedule one day off amonth and I would just do
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whatever I needed to do.
One time I got got a tattoo.
Other times I just did whateverI wanted, right.
So you take a break in that wayand I need to figure out how to
do a better job of that in thisseason of my life as an
entrepreneur, with long commutesand all that.
So I'll leave you with that.
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Let's be, let's go deeper, let'sbe more attuned.
Try your best.
Let's not continue to bypasswhat our body's telling us,
right?
And sometimes it's a process toget to know what it is that is
telling us anyway.
So let's just work on thattogether.
All right, I want to see youwell, I want to be well.
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We need to shorten theseburnout cycles that happen in
our community way too often.
We need to nurture each other.
We need to call each other outand be like hey, sis, I think, I
think that you might need abreak.
Let's do that for each other.
Okay, all right, with that said, I haven't I've made, I guess,
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a small announcement on this,but I am transitioning my
one-on-one program from sixmonths to three months and I'm
really excited about that.
You're getting the same thing,except that from 24 calls we're
doing 12 calls, but you're stillgetting personal access to me
(26:15):
through WhatsApp.
You are receiving a food andlifestyle tracking app so that
we can collect data andinformation and make informed
modifications and choices.
You are getting access to aportal and just very
personalized information data tomake changes to your lifestyle
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so that you can support yourhealth, support your hormones
and really live your best life.
And yeah, that's a change I'mmaking.
A lot of people come work withme one on one when they have
health concerns like PCOS, orthey want to adjust their
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relationship with food.
They have been struggling tofind what works for them
wellness wise.
What has worked for them in thepast is not necessarily working
now.
They want to lose weight in away that's sustainable and a
health first approach.
They want to look better intheir clothes, and that's a
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totally a valid goal, right?
So we can work on all of thosethings.
If you're confused, if you don'tknow if I'm able to help you or
not, if you don't know, most ofthe time almost pretty much all
the time there is a solutionthat can be done, can be made
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when you're not feeling well.
Oftentimes my clients havehopped from doctor to doctor to
doctor trying to find answers,trying to feel better, and that
has not happened, and I havebeen able to help them build the
pieces, make the lifestylechanges that are needed to feel
really, really great andactually improve their lab work.
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So those are a few of thescenarios and reasons why women
have come to work with me.
With that said, I want toinvite you to come and explore
this for yourself.
With the time change alsoobviously comes a price or an
investment change.
So the investment for the threemonths of one-on-one food and
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hormone health coaching is$2,555 for the one-on-one
private coaching.
I hope that this is somethingthat serves you.
If you want to chat more aboutit and see if you're a good fit
or not, then send me a DM onInstagram or you can write on
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the show notes.
There's a link to book a freeconsultation call, to a free
consultation call to discussthis, where you'll share your
challenges and I'll share how Ican help you and we can move
forward from there.
So I hope you have an amazingday and we nurture each other
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and hold ourselves accountableto resting.
I hope you have a great day.
Bye.
Hello and welcome back to Wealthy Generation
Podcast.
So it's becoming a thing whenI'm recording solo episodes that
I am not recording at my deskwith my podcasting mic.
I today am currently hencebackground noise and music
(00:21):
sitting out on my balcony.
I have a tiny balcony, which Iappreciate, listening to the
birds, getting some sunshine andtalking to you.
So if you hear cars, birds,music, people talking in the
background, make pretend we'reon a walk together and this is
(00:44):
ambient noise in the back andthere has been just a lot going
on in April and I'm here to talkto you about it.
It's the point of this episode.
I have been seeing this trendout in the social media streets
of just burnout and notrealizing it, and I'm in the
(01:07):
same boat and I wanted to chatwith you about it today because
it, like it, just catches youoff guard sometimes.
And I have been working for awhile, like almost a year now,
with my ancestral healing coach,hassani, and she keeps telling
(01:30):
me how I'm doing a lot, and Ikeep coming back to her and
telling her that I don't see howI'm doing a lot.
Welcome to coaching me,coaching me.
And it's just been really hardfor me to see it Because for me,
I'm just doing my everydayresponsibilities and it doesn't
(01:52):
seem like a lot, and I'm surethat is similar for you, where
you're like I'm not even doingextra, I'm just living my
everyday life.
And I wanted to talk about itbecause, just literally in full
transparency of I'm a human andApril has been rough for me.
(02:12):
And two, what can we do aboutit?
And the third, and the reasonwhy I realized because I've been
trying to work for a while on,like proactive rest and I, when
people ask me what I do formyself, I always say, oh, I go
to the gym, right, like that'skind of like my little alone
(02:35):
break, but aside, it's stillwork in the sense that I need to
plan to go there, I need toshow up, I am putting my body
under stress, right, those kindsof things, and actually just
resting, like doing nothing,which includes not going to the
(02:55):
gym and taking a break from mylife, doesn't really happen and
it's really hard for me to dothat until I get knocked out on
my ass, like what happened thismonth.
And I'm trying to get better atthat and I hope that me talking
(03:17):
about this, hopefully you beingseen, hopefully we can have a
conversation like DM me, emailme If you feel seen, send me a
text on the show notes.
You're able to do that, thenlet me know, because it's
happening to so many of us rightnow and I'm literally recording
this episode and uploading itright away, because I usually
(03:41):
have my podcast episodes readyto go at 5 am, eastern Time,
thursday mornings and I justdidn't get to it on time this
week.
Yesterday was my very firstmeeting with Sugar Mama and that
went to me.
It went so well.
It was so tender, honest,loving.
(04:04):
Everybody got a chance to talk,to feel heard, to share their
experience, mixed in withcoaching and learning and
guidance, and it just feltreally good to me and I felt
that and I hope that that energyand the participants of the
group also felt that way.
So after that I also had tofocus on making dinner and, you
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know, spending some time with myfamily.
So I was like you know what?
It's okay, I'm just going to.
I have time tomorrow.
So I'm just going Thursdaymorning, like right now, and I'm
just going to record this nowand get it out to my community.
And it's in line with somethingthat I'm going to talk about in
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another episode which is tryingto be perfect, and I'm trying to
hold myself accountable.
I have said multiple times thisweek that to my clients, to
other people where I have thisconcept.
I came up with thatperfectionism is petty and I'm
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like and I've been sitting withthe concept and with the idea
because it's developing as timegoes on in my mind to be more
clear as to how I want toexpress it and what I want to
say about it.
But it's basically this ideathat we focus on, like the short
term, like the minimalisticparts of it, and we pressure
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ourselves and guilt ourselves sobad that we can't move on.
So I'm going to use myself anexample with this If I wanted to
, like, push myself to be quote,unquote perfect, because it
really doesn't fucking exist,which is the first problem in
the first place and force myselfto record this episode last
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night when I was exhausted andbypassed my family time, then
it's to my detriment and yours,because I probably would not be
able to express myself the sameway, come with the same loving
energy that I want to come atthis with.
And then for what?
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When I could just do it now?
So, yes, it's been a strugglefor me to to be like this is how
I do things and this is how Iget things out, and it's broken.
But the real thing is that thepoint is to get this to you
right, to get this episode toyou, to get this information to
you, this insight I wanted to,and what quote unquote was
(06:47):
perfect for me.
Then I wouldn't be sitting hereright now and having this
energy of service for you atthis moment.
So one it would have come offlike not in the in how I wanted
to last night.
It would have been added stressfor me.
So there's no recovery or resttime and you wouldn't be served
in the same way, whereas it'sgoing to come out at some point
(07:10):
Thursday, right, and you'llstill get it and it'll still be
here.
So that's the point to get thisout at some capacity.
The point is not how I got itdone.
Does that make sense?
I hope it serves you.
I'm going to talk about itdeeper in another episode
because I really want to getback to burnout, because this
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whole back and forth that Iwould have occasionally with my
ancestral coach, where I wouldbe tired or there would be
things happening and I'd be likeI just don't see it and
basically my life revolvesaround my kids and school.
If you don't know, my kidscommute to school is super long.
Their school is an hour awayfrom us and it's a two hour trip
(07:56):
to take them to school, so it'snot like the school is a few
blocks away and it takes a totalof 15 minutes to drop them off.
It's literally two hours andsometimes more depending if the
train wants to be all messed up.
So there's a lot of rushinginvolved and getting ready early
because I want to make surethat my kids are not getting to
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school late all the time, andthen I have to run back to eat
breakfast and to serve myclients and get my stuff done
for the day.
I also am the main person fordinner, thinking about what
we're going to eat and preparingfood.
So that mental load is on me,which is consistent when you
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have other loads, and somepeople actually think about
laundry a lot, but I like to useit as an example where you're
not necessarily doing laundryevery single day or taking that
action, or maybe you are, Idon't know, but food is
something that you have to thinkabout multiple times a day.
Not only do I make our dinners,but our kids also take lunch
(09:01):
and snacks from home, so weprepare that in the morning.
Then it's like what am I havingfor lunch and breakfast and
then dinner for the family,right?
So there's a lot of mental loadwhen it comes to that.
Then I also have my business.
I'm a small business, so notonly am I coaching my clients
and am I making space for that,I also have my new small group
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program, which I am dedicatingmy time to, especially because
it's the first time I'm runningit and I am developing things at
the same time as I'm executingthem.
And then there's also the otherparts of the entrepreneur, where
there's marketing and you haveto pay attention to your
finances and back end stuff.
That also falls on me, althoughI have a fabulous, amazing,
(09:50):
super trustworthy OBM onlinebusiness manager, alexa, who
supports me.
But a lot of the mental load iscoming from me.
Again, this mental load concept, right.
And then there's my ownwellness, where I take myself to
the gym and I'm making sure I'mfeeding myself appropriately,
getting to bed at a decent time,um other things I might want to
(10:14):
do, like get my nails done andgo to therapy and go to see
Hassani and get my hair done andjust, and and the kids
appointments right, like when isthe dentist appointment, when
is their physical appointment?
My older one is graduatingelementary school, so there's a
(10:34):
lot of activities going on withthat my younger one.
We have been having challengesin school, so I consistently
have to go to school meetings.
I consistently have to reply toteachers emails, which happens
about once a week.
I take him to therapy on aweekly basis and I'm in
(10:55):
communication with the therapyteam, right, and I'm the lead on
all of these things.
So, even talking about it, I'mexhausting myself and I'm sure
that you're feeling exhaustedfrom sharing the stuff I have to
do in my life.
But because it kind of doesn'tlook like other people, I'm like
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I don't have a nine to five,you know, I don't have a commute
necessarily to work, right, Idon't have to be in an office.
Then I invalidate myexperiences.
Office, then I invalidate myexperiences.
So it wasn't until I saw thispost by a therapist on Instagram
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Nidra Tawab I hope I'mpronouncing her name correctly
where she posted this post.
That said, I'm not sure whoneeds to hear this, aka me, but
burnout can also happen due toand then she says parenting
check.
Being a good listener check.
Adulting check.
Being a partner husband or wifecheck.
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Being a caregiver that's likemidway right, always having it
together.
Check, oh my God, that's likemy MO Always see me like I have
it fucking together.
Being emotionally mature whenothers aren't.
Oh my God.
Check.
Repeating your needs to people,check, listen.
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There is one thing I hate moreright now than people asking me
questions for things that theycan figure out themselves.
In my personal life.
I'm like, please just use youreyes, look one side relationship
dynamics.
I don't know if that's a check,but, as you can see, over 50%
of this list is checks for meand I freaking crashed, I don't
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know.
And so, okay, yes, I mentionedall the work stuff too, girl, I
sprained my ankle in late Marchand that really pissed me off
because it forced me to slowdown right like I really had to
take a break from exercising.
Um, I had to rest my ankle andthen I got fucking COVID and it
(13:12):
I was so sick.
I was so sick.
I took myself to urgent care,which is something I don't
generally do.
I usually, you know, make myhome remedies, rest, take naps
and I get better.
But I wasn't feeling better.
I was just feeling worse andworse and worse.
Hence you still hear me nasallyand like clearing out my throat
(13:34):
, which I'm sorry if you're, ifyou're experiencing this with me
, but I'm still not 100% back.
And I caught COVID like thefirst week of April or something
like that, and it is April 24that the moment.
So it had to.
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I had to really stop, like oneday my kids didn't even go to
school because I just could not,right, I really couldn't, and I
had to take a break from myentire life and literally sit on
the couch and recover and takenaps and do the bare minimum,
(14:15):
and leading up to spraining myankle and getting COVID and all
that, I feel like I was alreadyin a burnout state and I'll tell
you how.
Like now, looking back, I cansee why um and I wasn't
listening to my body.
Another thing that I've beendealing with or not dealing with
, but like in communication withwith Hassani, is oh, I'm sorry,
(14:39):
the back, the back end beepingis happening here because I'm
all tight all time.
Um was or is um not not ignoringmy body, because sometimes I do
realize what's happening and Ibypass it, because I can still
keep pushing through, um, and Idon't make any necessary changes
(15:03):
to give myself a break, becauseI'm like I could just keep
going.
You know, some of us wear thislike invisible badge of like you
could just push through.
That's work for me too.
I need to like relax on that.
So, yeah, I, I just had to takethis break intensely.
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I.
I canceled all my calls for aweek.
For an entire week I literallycouldn't show up.
I didn't take my kids to school.
I didn't really cook anything.
Um, I was.
We were all literally eatingfrozen food.
I barely had an appetite, butyou know, the family still had
to eat and I still had to eat.
So I ate like chicken, fuckingtenders that I made in the
(15:48):
toaster oven, uh, and and likebread.
I really wanted bread and stuff.
Just very simple things, verysimple flavors, um.
So I was like damn, my bodyreally crashed out and I really
had to take a break.
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Now, the reason why I say I knewI was already in a burnout
state before all of thishappened was because I didn't
enjoy.
I wasn't enjoying doing, I hadno interest in doing things that
I normally do enjoy doing,mainly cooking.
Like, I usually cook threemeals and it's nothing fancy to
(16:34):
let y'all know is like pastawith ground meat.
Um, frozen raviolis for thekids that they take for lunch, a
taco night, things like that.
A taco night, things like that.
And I had absolute zerointerest.
I actually had disgust incooking.
(16:55):
That is.
That is exactly it.
I did not want to cook, I didnot want to turn on the stove I
had, I wanted nothing to do withit, and I thought that was
weird a little bit because I waslike, damn, I'm like really
avoiding this, I don't want todo this.
And now that I've rested somuch and I'm feeling more like
(17:18):
myself, I have not mindedcooking.
This week I did make threemeals for the family, and
usually the three meals has somesort of leftovers.
We have them, we use them forthe rest of the days, or we we
go back to frozen food.
Um, so this has been and youknow my trainer and Hassani.
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They both remind me of thelessons that we need to and I
know because I coach people onthe same thing but when it comes
to yourself, you never want tohear it.
You never want to hear it.
So they're like there's lessonshere.
What is the lesson?
What do you, you know, and Ithink that one of the biggest
lessons for me is really, Ifinally realized how my regular
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life really can lead me toburnout and I just and I need a
break from my regular life, justthe regular things I do.
Because in my book I was likeI'm not going out every night,
I'm not doing events, I'm nothanging out, like on the
(18:34):
weekends, like that, I'm notdoing extra.
So to me I wasn't doing thatmuch.
But now between Hassanicontinuously telling me, hassani
continuously telling me, andthen this Instagram post that
just like put it out there in myface because I was just in this
(18:55):
kind of disbelief where theregular things I do could lead
to burnout, um, so sorry, I gotdistracted because I hear
somebody walking, um, so I waslike, oh, the lesson, the lesson
for me is how do I take a breakfrom my regular life?
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And now that I've realized this, I've been getting coached on
this since 2020.
Because I distinctly remembermy other coaches being like
Naomi, you need to get away,naomi, you need a break.
And I'd be like, yeah, I dotake a break, I go to the gym.
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And now I'm realizing, girl,five years later, of all of this
adding up right, because thecircumstances after covet has
just been different.
There was homeschooling andthen there was like a bunch of
stuff like on and off, but nowwe're like things are just
(20:00):
rocking and rolling.
The kids are older.
If you have older kids, Ididn't realize how much of a
mental load that would be like,more than when they're babies.
I'm like shit.
I thought this was gonna geteasier and I realized that it
gets easier in like the physicalstuff, meaning I don't have to
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shower them, I don't have tofeed them, I don't have to do, I
don't have to get them dressed.
They do all those things forthemselves now.
But the freaking mental load,the emotional load, oh my God,
that is more exhausting than thephysical stuff.
Okay, um, so I need to figureout how to take a break from my
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life and just hibernate, and Idon't know if, like once a
quarter, I don't know.
Actually I'm not going to put atimeline on it, Because the
real thing that I should bedoing is listening to my body
and being able to betteridentify when I'm reaching
burnout or when I'm tired, andthen taking a rest.
(21:04):
So I think that planning a timegoes back to perfectionism is
petty because I'm trying to be,I'm trying to demand from my
body something that I don't knowit will be able to handle.
Do you know what I mean?
Like I was about to say, once aquarter, I'll plan a week off
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and I'll take everything off.
But, bitch, you don't know.
You don't know, Like you don'tknow, if you're going to be so
exhausted in two weeks from nowand you'll need another break,
right?
So that's what I mean you don'tknow if you're going to need
another break in a month.
So the real work here is beingeven more attuned with myself
(21:49):
and not bypassing the signs ofburnout.
So if I am detesting, I'mdisgusted by cooking again, then
that's a sign.
And there might be more signs,but that's the first one that
comes to mind.
Like I'm just not enjoyingthings I know I normally enjoy
and taking a break from thosethings from my life.
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Oh, my god, because before andit's something that we're used
to doing it's like, oh, I'mgonna take a break when I go on
vacation.
Like I'm going to plan a tripand all this.
But guess what?
That's fucking work.
To plan a trip, it's work.
To get to the trip is work.
To come back from the trip.
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It's work.
So I'm trying to figure out howI can be boring as fuck and just
literally sit around exactlyhow I'm doing right now.
How can I simplify my life andstill serve in a way that feels
really good, in a way that I'mserving and also meeting my own
needs, because I am having areally great time just being
(22:58):
outside right here.
Not outside, I need to take aflight and go to the beach in
Las Terrenas, dr.
Like no, I'm just sitting righthere in the sunshine, I'm
listening to the birds, I'mtalking to you, and that is
serving me instead of being inmy office, which I love and
(23:19):
appreciate, but it's not what Ineed right now.
So I don't have any one, two,three tips for this or anything
like that.
All I know is that I keep seeingposts pop up from entrepreneurs
and people who I really admireon Instagram talking about how
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they've also felt burnt out, howthey've also had to take a
break, cancel things, reallyfeeling it in their body.
I'm in the same exact boat andI want I think that what I want
for all of us is to the thoughtdo better came, but I don't want
to.
I don't want it to be do better, because again, I think that
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goes back to perfectionism ispetty.
I want to go deeper.
Let's say that I want to honormyself more and I want to
understand that better, and thatmeans going deeper and honoring
that.
So that's what I hope you getout of this.
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How can you make adjustmentsfor this?
You get out of this.
How can you make adjustmentsfor this?
I know that.
One quick tip, though when I hada nine to five I would take if
this is possible for you,because I had quote unquote
unlimited days off or vacationdays, whatever.
I would schedule one day off amonth and I would just do
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whatever I needed to do.
One time I got got a tattoo.
Other times I just did whateverI wanted, right.
So you take a break in that wayand I need to figure out how to
do a better job of that in thisseason of my life as an
entrepreneur, with long commutesand all that.
So I'll leave you with that.
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Let's be, let's go deeper, let'sbe more attuned.
Try your best.
Let's not continue to bypasswhat our body's telling us,
right?
And sometimes it's a process toget to know what it is that is
telling us anyway.
So let's just work on thattogether.
All right, I want to see youwell, I want to be well.
(25:32):
We need to shorten theseburnout cycles that happen in
our community way too often.
We need to nurture each other.
We need to call each other outand be like hey, sis, I think, I
think that you might need abreak.
Let's do that for each other.
Okay, all right, with that said, I haven't I've made, I guess,
(25:53):
a small announcement on this,but I am transitioning my
one-on-one program from sixmonths to three months and I'm
really excited about that.
You're getting the same thing,except that from 24 calls we're
doing 12 calls, but you're stillgetting personal access to me
(26:15):
through WhatsApp.
You are receiving a food andlifestyle tracking app so that
we can collect data andinformation and make informed
modifications and choices.
You are getting access to aportal and just very
personalized information data tomake changes to your lifestyle
(26:40):
so that you can support yourhealth, support your hormones
and really live your best life.
And yeah, that's a change I'mmaking.
A lot of people come work withme one on one when they have
health concerns like PCOS, orthey want to adjust their
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relationship with food.
They have been struggling tofind what works for them
wellness wise.
What has worked for them in thepast is not necessarily working
now.
They want to lose weight in away that's sustainable and a
health first approach.
They want to look better intheir clothes, and that's a
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totally a valid goal, right?
So we can work on all of thosethings.
If you're confused, if you don'tknow if I'm able to help you or
not, if you don't know, most ofthe time almost pretty much all
the time there is a solutionthat can be done, can be made
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when you're not feeling well.
Oftentimes my clients havehopped from doctor to doctor to
doctor trying to find answers,trying to feel better, and that
has not happened, and I havebeen able to help them build the
pieces, make the lifestylechanges that are needed to feel
really, really great andactually improve their lab work.
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So those are a few of thescenarios and reasons why women
have come to work with me.
With that said, I want toinvite you to come and explore
this for yourself.
With the time change alsoobviously comes a price or an
investment change.
So the investment for the threemonths of one-on-one food and
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hormone health coaching is$2,555 for the one-on-one
private coaching.
I hope that this is somethingthat serves you.
If you want to chat more aboutit and see if you're a good fit
or not, then send me a DM onInstagram or you can write on
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the show notes.
There's a link to book a freeconsultation call, to a free
consultation call to discussthis, where you'll share your
challenges and I'll share how Ican help you and we can move
forward from there.
So I hope you have an amazingday and we nurture each other
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and hold ourselves accountableto resting.
I hope you have a great day.
Bye.
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