May 22, 2025 • 44 mins
Send Naihomy encouraging words!💕
We explore how to support loved ones on their wellness journeys without creating resistance or shame. When we experience positive health transformations, it's natural to want our family and friends to join us, but timing and approach matter tremendously.
• Understanding that everyone's wellness timeline differs – what motivated you might not motivate them
• Recognizing barriers like embarrassment, fear of change, generational trauma around food, and ingrained limiting beliefs
• Avoiding constant criticism, blame, or shame when loved ones don't make health changes
• Using invitations instead of instructions – invite them to try new foods or join activities without pressure
• Sharing knowledge at appropriate moments when they express curiosity rather than forcing information
• Leading by example and continuing your wellness journey regardless of whether others join you
• Acknowledging that individual needs differ based on age, hormones, and life circumstances
• Respecting autonomy while still creating opportunities for others to experience wellness benefits
If you've been wanting to lose weight your way, one last time, without shame or overwhelm, or if your hormones or perimenopause has you feeling disconnected, I invite you to book a free consultation call for my three-month program. Send me a DM on Instagram or email hola@naihomyjerez.com to learn more.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey friends, welcome back to Wealthy Generation
Podcast.
That's W-E-L-L-T-H-Y.
Wealthy.
By the way, if you have gottenanything out of this podcast, if
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different.
I speak about health andwellness can be a little unique
and different.
So, even if you want to shareepisodes with loved ones or
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really appreciate, if you feelcalled to, for your time in
leaving a review or rating it.
So thank you so much.
All right, let's get into thisweek's episode I want to talk
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about today, when you want toinvolve a loved one or introduce
them.
Loved one or friend, whoever togo on their own wellness journey
or to join you in what you'redoing, and it's a conversation I
have with every single one ofmy clients.
It never, ever fails where theyall of a sudden want to have
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mom or dad or a sibling, afriend, somebody join like start
their own health and wellnessjourney.
And it's happened to me as well.
When I first started and as Iwas going through my own journey
, I was like, oh my God, I wantmy mom or whoever to join me on
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this journey or to implementsome of these things that I'm
doing.
And this is because some ofthese things that I'm doing and
this is because what normally,what usually happens, is that my
client starts to learn all thisknowledge about food, food
labels, how food makes them feel, about their blood sugar, their
hormones, and they start tofeel better and reverse so many
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symptoms or illnesses right thatthey deemed they couldn't do
anything about, it washereditary, their mom has it,
their aunt has it right, andthey were just like, oh yeah, me
too, because it's generationalright, or it's hereditary, not
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necessarily generational, it'shereditary.
So yeah, and while we do ourwork together through one-on-one
coaching or coaching in general, whether it's a group program
or what have you, what my clientstarts to experience is that
now they have this knowledgebase of new, of wellness right
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and wellness like I'm nottalking about face masks and
massages and sound like thoseare all great too, but I'm
talking about real, like,scientific backed.
How do you create or how do youuse food and lifestyle for
healing?
That's what I'm talking about.
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So when they start to implementthese things, they reverse their
prediabetes, they no longerhave joint pain, they get rid of
their acne, they have nopainful periods or they get
their periods back.
They reverse or, like, healtheir PCOS or have it more under
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control.
You, you know it's more undercontrol.
There's just they have a betterexperience with perimenopause
compared to other family membersin previous generations.
They bring their blood pressureback to normal, their
cholesterol back to normal, theyfit in clothes again and reduce
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their belly fat in significantways.
So these are just a fewexamples of, let's say, results
that my clients have gotten,that they've probably family
members of past generations haveexperienced, or what have you.
So when they start to experiencethese things and they notice
that the changes are actuallynot that difficult to implement
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and they can keep up with themin their culture, in their
lifestyle, in a busy life, thenall of a sudden they're like, oh
my gosh, I have to teach thisto X, y, z, loved one.
I want them to also be healthy.
I know that they're sufferingfrom these things.
I want them to heal.
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I want them to feel better intheir skin.
I don't want them to be out ofbreath.
I don't want them to continuesuffering.
I don't want them to continueadding to the amount of
prescription drugs that they arealready taking, or the other
way around too.
I want to teach this to lovedones who are younger than me, to
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prevent them from even being inmy position or the position of
later generations.
I want to pass down thisinformation to them now, so that
they are equally as well as me.
And that is heavy, right,because you see loved ones
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suffering and now you have thisinformation you want to share
that you yourself have gottenresults from, and you're like
but but but just do this, justdo that Now.
It's tough because most of thetime, especially in the
beginning, what my clients wantto involve loved ones, they're
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not as receptive experience whythey might be avoiding these
kinds of things.
You know, like this kind oflifestyle and just like where
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they are in their journey.
And this is very general.
Let's say, everything that I'mgoing to talk about, either I
have experienced or my clientshave experienced to a certain
extent, but it can be many, manydifferent reasons as to why or
why not loved ones have joinedor have been encouraged to make
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changes with their own healthand recently I've been having
conversations with my clientsabout their partners is another
one.
Like you have a partner and youwant to grow old and well
together and you're here makingall these changes or feeling
better and you want your partnerto do the same so that you both
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feel well and you both areactually active and healthy, and
all that.
So it has ranged everywhere,from parents, who are a big, big
one, to siblings, to partnerswho are also a big big one, and
then like children or nieces andnephews, or another one where
they want to influencegenerations.
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So bear with me here as I kindof go into the different
sections of what can you do whenyou want to do something like
this, why they might be avoidingit right and why they may or
may not be implementing thesechanges.
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I try to organize it as best Ican, just so that that is a
little bit more clear tounderstand.
That is a little bit more clearto understand.
But yeah, let's, let's get intoit.
So I'm going to leave, what todo for last or things I've tried
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or my clients have tried.
Let me start by saying that weneed to respect everybody's
wellness journey, everybody'sjourney period.
Everybody gets motivated bydifferent things.
Everybody has their own lifeexperience and sometimes they
embark on these journeys.
Sometimes they don't.
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Sometimes the pace of it isslower than you would want, but
is right for them.
Sometimes they're notimplementing as many things as
you would like, but is right forthem.
Sometimes they're notimplementing as many things as
you would like, but is whattheir capacity allows them to do
.
So I want you to keep all thesethings in mind as we're going
through this conversation,because not everybody is going
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to be super receptive to theinformation that you are
providing for them.
They might not even care.
To be honest, and, to be frank,it probably took you some time
to want to take action in yourhealth and wellness, and you
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know why.
I know this Because I've spokento clients on consultation
calls and they don't joinone-on-one coaching.
And then, a year later, it'shappened like.
I can't even tell you how manytimes it's happened where.
At minimum three times you.
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How many times it's happenedwhere?
At minimum three times.
Where I speak to somebody andthey're like, no, no, no, I'll
do it on my own or I don't needthis, or whatever have you?
The reason is, and then a yearlater, they come back and they
sign up and they have awonderful experience and then
they're like, oh my gosh, Idon't know why I didn't sign up
for the first time, but it'sfine.
The reason why is because theywere not ready yet, and that's
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often what happens with ourloved ones, where they are not
ready yet.
So when you are, when we'reworking together and you're
learning all these things, andnow you want your loved ones to
join you, you've already done somuch work to get to where you
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are.
You've already processed andthought and felt and had your
own personal experiences thatbrought you to this moment of I
want to do this now.
Or I'm deciding to do this now,or I'm going to pull the
trigger now.
Whatever have you.
So to go from, not like whereyou are in coaching, it might've
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taken you years and years andyears of trial and error, of
disappointment, of scaryexperiences, all of these
different things of just havinga different level of knowledge
and education, sometimes havinganother experience with trauma
or growing up or things likethat that has brought you to
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that moment, and usually withloved ones.
They're probably not there yetand you want them to be, because
you want them to start gettingthe results and the healing that
you are also experiencing alsoexperiencing, but it's not that
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simple a lot of times to getthem to just do what you're
telling them or join you,because they are just not ready
yet in their journey.
So why might it be hard forpeople to make these kinds of
changes?
And let's see, I'm readingthrough my notes because I tried
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to write this down, but I wroteway too many things.
So give them what I usually sayis or actually I'm going to go
back to why might they beavoiding this type of journey?
So number one is what I justspoke about that they're just
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not ready for the journey rightnow, and it has been no
different from you.
So I would just say plant theseeds right.
They will eventually grow andevolve the same way that it has
for you, and I'm going to giveyou some tips on that.
Some people might just feelembarrassed or scared of change.
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How scary is change?
How scary is it to sign up forone-on-one coaching right On
food and hormones, how, how,maybe scared, embarrassed,
shameful, whatever have you.
It is to realize that,unknowingly to you, that you
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have done some things and thenyour health have turned out a
certain way, where sometimesit's like we can't blame
ourselves for things that we donot know, things that we have
grown up with.
This is exactly what I try andinstill in my clients.
It's like there's no shame.
We all come to this moment ofwanting to learn and pivot at
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different times and it's justsomething that we don't know.
So a lot of people feelembarrassed about where they are
with their health and theydon't want to face it.
It's really like the firstthing that needs to happen to
create change is just acceptingand admitting where you are and
then wanting to take empoweredaction after that.
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And some people are just notready because the embarrassment
or the shame is just too strongand they might be comfortable
where they are too, whether youknow it or not.
Some people are verycomfortable in their discomfort
and they kind of don't want todo anything about it because
that's how they've experiencedlife all this time and it's too
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scary to try and change that andtry to find themselves again,
because oftentimes that's kindof what happens in this journey,
where you kind of have to findyourself again and you have to
let go of, maybe, things thatreally brought you joy or
comfort for a good part of yourlife.
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Right Another thing hopping inon that is the generational
trauma or bringing beliefs thatyou might have that are so, so
strong.
I know a lot of times, at leastfrom my experience with my own
loved ones they are team, eatall the food and don't waste
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food and save money, so buy thecheapest thing at the
supermarket.
And it's not because they wantto be like that and they chose
that.
It's literally because of theway they grew up, where food was
scarce, food was scarce to comeby.
They didn't know where theirnext meal was coming from.
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Maybe they had just one meal aday.
So, yes, they would finishtheir plate.
Yes, there was no food that wasgoing to be thrown away.
You had to take advantage ofthose opportunities.
Opportunities because food wasreally not as abundant now, like
for them before, as it was now.
And realizing that and lettinggo of that like belief that kept
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them safe for so long and aschildren where, like, a lot of
these beliefs are cemented.
It's really difficult to lookat a plate and decide and know
that you're full and that you'renot going to continue eating
and that it's safe to put thisfood away because now we have
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refrigeration and ways to heatthings back up.
That is fairly easy and itmight sound like I'm making fun
of or like or something likethat, but I'm really, really,
really not.
My family members and loved onescome from the Dominican
Republic in the country, andthey didn't have access to just
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modern refrigeration and modernstoves and all this, everything
and just supermarkets that youcan just grab whatever in.
It's a different experience.
So, especially for our oldergenerations, it can be a lot to
go on a health journey whereyou're trying to help them not
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overeat or pointing things outlike that.
For them it can be pretty scary, Um, and it might feel unsafe
for them to leave food behind.
Okay, because your parentsmight've had their own
experiences.
I know of my Asian friends whotheir parents went through war
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and it was so unsafe and it wastraumatic and they didn't know
where they were going to findfood.
So, living in the US now wherefood is so, so, so abundant, and
they might have the money nowto purchase certain things.
Thoughts and beliefs are sodeeply ingrained in us that that
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is the main block in creatingchange.
Money was also not abundantlike that, and this is where I
get into.
You know, like most of the time, our generation has more access
to money and different careersand things like that, where we
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do have the resources to investin our health in different ways,
whether it is through investingin coaching or personal
training or certain supplementsor, you know, or foods that are
of better quality or somethinglike that and because we grew up
with our parents where it wassurvival only and they had to
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put food on the table and otherkinds of wellness experiences
were seen as a luxury, it's hardfor us too, and, believe it or
not, a lot of the work I do withmy clients is not in just like
teaching somebody a food labelor why one food product might
benefit their health more thananother.
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That's the easy part.
It's very straightforward.
Science is behind it.
The hard part the difficultpart, the part that takes time
is the mindset piece and thebeliefs and the thoughts that
come up when they don't takeadvantage of a sale of something
that's three, four, five orthey are worried about spending
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an extra $3 for a food productthat might be better for their
health.
Um, they have the resources andthe funding and they want to
invest in a personal trainer,but they don't, because they
view it as frivolous or as aluxury or things like that.
So that's where a lot of thework happens, and this is what I
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feel like stops a lot of peoplein their tracks from really
living a life rooted in wellness, and they're not even realizing
it.
And all these crash diets orother kinds of methods whether
it's injections or pills orshakes or challenges, or all of
that is very short lived becausethey really do not address the
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root of why we don't continuewith whatever it is, aside from
the fact that most of the thingsare super, super, super
unsustainable, okay, anotherreason is whether it might be
hard for them to take action isthat some people just need to
experience life firsthand totake action Point blank, like
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they need a scare where they endup in the hospital or they end
up somewhere that's a littletraumatic for them and they
realize that their body isreally going to break down if
you don't take care of it.
And then it's like, oh shit, Ineed to do something about this.
I can't just ignore it.
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I'm just not going to be okay,like I need to take action and
hopefully is not too late.
And with modern medicineusually you can reverse that.
But sometimes it might be rightand it just takes that
traumatic experience for someoneto decide to make a change.
I know of people who've neededopen heart surgery as an
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emergency or are dealing with alot of health issues that they
probably did not need to becausethey didn't take care of their
health or think it was importantor knew otherwise or something
like that, and again, it's to nofault of their own.
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Everybody experiences their ownjourney, the way that they have
the capacity for, and somepeople just really don't want to
.
Some people don't want to.
Some people they see theirloved ones struggling, they see
what their family members hadneeded to go through and how
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hard it's been.
Or they have also experiencedsomething traumatic with their
own health and they still choosenot to do anything about it.
And I know that that is sopainful to watch.
It's like literally watching atrain wreck that you're like,
hey, the brake is right here,all you have to do is pull this
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lever.
But sometimes people just don'twant to, and we have to respect
that.
Okay, we have to respect it.
So I'll tell you some things toavoid when these kinds of things
are happening.
And it's avoiding toconsistently pointing out what
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they can do better, right?
It's like don't eat thisbecause it has too much sugar,
don't eat that because you'reprediabetic, like your diabetes.
Don't do this, don't do that,don't do that.
And consistently pointing outto people like something that
that quote unquote they're doingwrong or that they will affect
their health, can fill them upwith more embarrassment and
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shame, because they probably doknow and understand that they
shouldn't be doing that orthat's causing adding on to
their health issues, and theychoose to do it anyway, right?
So don't consistently pointthings out that they can be
doing better or things that theyare doing wrong.
Also, don't blame them for howthey're feeling.
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We don't want to pile on andblame them.
You see, because you're eatingthis way, because you don't move
, because this, this is why youfeel like crap, this is why your
diabetes is over the roof, thisis why you know X, y, z.
It can be super frustrating,but this is where we need to
manage our own emotions and ourown feelings, because it can be
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more hurtful than it is helpfulfor them, and don't shame them
for not doing anything about it.
What we need to do again ismanage our own emotions around
that and our own feelings aroundthat, because it can make
things worse for the otherperson when we're shaming them
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of like I told you to do thisand you're not doing that.
You don't care.
This is why you're in thesituation that you're in, so we
want to take it lightly.
Of course, there is space andtime for deep, honest
conversations around this topic,but we really do want it to
come from a place of love andhonesty and more of sharing how
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you feel, instead of blaming orshaming the other person.
So I'm going to share with youways that I've encouraged,
motivated I don't even know howthey felt about it, I guess is
encouraged or introduce them tothings in wellness that I think
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will serve them.
And I share with my clients aswell in different situations.
The number one thing that I dois I invite people.
When you give somebody aninvitation, like when you
receive an invitation, then it'sup to you to decide to go or
not to go.
It's an RSVP, right, likeyou're not forcing anyone.
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You're inviting them and thenit's their decision if they're
going to show up or not.
So, for example, I've had lotsof loved ones and lots of
friends tell me they don't eat agazillion things.
They don't eat beans, potatoes,brown rice, brussels sprouts,
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broccoli, avocado.
The list goes on and on and onand on of what people have told
me that they don't eat, forexample.
And anytime I've made that kindof food at home and they're
here or we're at a holiday eventlike Christmas or something
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like that, I just invite peopleto try it.
Usually, if we're having aconversation about it, I'll ask
them like oh, why don't you likeit?
You want to be curious, youwant to understand if they've
had a terrible experience withthis food before or they have
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certain food aversions totextures and tastes and how
things are made and things likethat.
Just like, find out a littlebit without judgment.
It's just curiosity and tryingto get to know the person in a
new way.
So sometimes I'll ask that it'slike what's your experience
with this food?
Do you like it or not?
And most of the time they'vehad, it's either a texture thing
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or they've had a really badexperience with that food in the
past.
So usually what I do is I say,oh, okay, yeah, that makes sense
, and I'll say something like Imade this version of whatever
the food is in a different way,with different seasonings.
So I invite you to give it atry if you would like.
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I think that you would like it.
When people have tried it beforethey have enjoyed it, I will
say this I'll say sometimes inthe first try might not be the
best because you have thesepreconceived thoughts in your
mind.
Your palate is tasting it forthe first time.
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So what I would encourage youto do, if you do decide to try
it, is taste it like three timesand if after the first third
time you really hate it, thenyou, you're good Like you.
You did what you had to do,which was give it a try, right?
So there's no pressure for theperson, it's an invitation.
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You're giving them a little bitof guidance by letting them
know that the first time theytry it they might not love it.
That to give it a little bit ofa shot, that their thoughts
might be getting in the way thefirst time.
So just really sit with it andsee how they enjoy it.
That's with food, usually withmovement is the same thing.
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Invite people to go with you,whether it's on a walk, a gym
class, whatever it is.
If you invite somebody tosomething you love and that's
all you say, you're not like, oh, this is so good for your blood
sugar and we should always bewalking.
There's always a time and aplace for that.
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It doesn't have to be when it'sfirst starting off.
It could just be like hey, dad,I'm going out for a walk.
I would love it if you wouldjoin me.
Would you like to come?
See?
Invitation.
If it's a girlfriend that canprobably keep up with you in
your gym class, hey, friend, Ihave a free gym pass.
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I would love it if you wouldjoin me.
Do you want to come with me?
Invitation.
You are there with them.
You are introducing them to newexperiences.
That's really important.
Remember how we spoke about howpeople grew up their thoughts,
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generational trauma, limitingbeliefs.
So if you are ready on thisjourney, you know and you have
seen the benefits of it and youwant other people who you know
it would be helpful for for tojoin you, then invite them in a
way that's nonjudgmental andpreachy.
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That's nonjudgmental andpreachy and, like you should be
doing X, y, z, invite them,plant those seeds, show them the
new experiences, let themdevelop their own thoughts
around it, let it settle inright as you go on your journey,
all right, and maybe check inwith them how did you like it,
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what was your experience?
So on and so forth.
Number two right Like in waysyou can help is look for those
opportunities to share theknowledge, and I'm not saying
going back to like things toavoid doing is to be very
preachy and it's at the rightmoment.
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Like right moment, right time,and maybe they are the ones that
are curious about it andthey're asking you.
Or if they're noticingsomething different happening
with them, be like oh my God, Ifelt so much better after I went
on that walk with you.
I didn't even need the energydrink I used to have or that
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extra cup of coffee.
I actually felt energized.
Then maybe, given the situationand your loved one, you can
share why the walk helped themfeel that way.
Right, so you can makesuggestions, you can share
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things that are interesting toyou or help them connect the
dots when it's an appropriatetime for that.
Right, it's a slow process.
Meet them where they are at intheir journey, all right.
The next one is lead by exampleNumber three.
Okay, continue to live yourlife rooted in wellness.
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Continue to follow your journey, your path, your goals, right.
Other people will notice yourenergy, your light, how you feel
will be evident to them.
People are curious.
You become magnetic, you becomeenergetic.
They see your joy and howyou've changed and how you look
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right and they might ask youwhat you've done to look and
feel and move the way you do.
They might be so curiousbecause when people are well and
in good health, that isattractive.
You have a different energy.
You have a different glow andyou've done nothing more than to
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take really good care ofyourself.
Glow and you've done nothingmore than to take really good
care of yourself.
It is evident to other peopleand they're like damn, you know
what?
What are they drinking?
What's the Kool-Aid?
I want to know what.
What are they having?
And this is another opportunityfor you to share.
Okay, what I will say is thatwhat happens a lot of times is
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that because the loved one thatyou want to join you on this
journey is not ready to make thechanges that you want them to
make or to join you at yourcadence, then you slow yourself
down right, or you don't keepincorporating the things that
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you have to do for your ownjourney and remember everybody's
individual.
So even what you might needmight not be exactly what the
other person needs also.
So I always encourage you mindyour business, continue on your
journey, continue on your path.
If there are certain foods youneed, if there's certain
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movements you need, continue todo that and lead.
This goes back to the lead byexample right, where you are
doing this in front of them, aredoing this in front of them,
and by that I mean when it's theholidays, when you're out at a
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restaurant, when you go to thathappy hour where you're being
served in a buffet.
Right, the hardest part of thejourney is being yourself,
living your life rooted inwellness, in front of other
people, especially people whoyou've consistently been around.
And now you've created changein yourself.
Remember going back to whatholds some people back.
You've created this change andpeople start commenting on it.
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Or they're like, oh, you'redifferent, or you used to eat
like this, or you did not go tothe gym consistently, or
whatever.
Have you right, did not go tothe gym consistently or whatever
, have you right, Model this forthem.
It's the same thing like if youhave children or little people
in your life or pets right,model it for them.
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You do not have to say a wordto the other person of what they
are doing or not doing, of whatthey're doing or not doing when
you model it for them.
People pay attention.
They want to be nosy AF most ofthe time on what you're doing,
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especially when they notice thatthings are a little bit
different.
It's like oh, you've lost acouple of pounds.
Oh, my gosh, your acne wentaway.
Oh, you have so much energy.
You look so well, rested, right, you look like you're glowing
and you're not even wearingmakeup.
Dude, right.
So people will notice.
Lead by example.
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Continue to live your liferooted in wellness.
You don't need to kind of slowdown on your end to have
everybody else catch up.
You can continue to be grounded, to be humble, to do your thing
and I promise you people willwant to join you and come along.
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But going back to beingrespectful of their capacity and
their own journey and alsoknowing that what they need
might not be what you need andvice versa, because I've run
into situations where, let's say, is a mom with young children
and they want to manage theircarbohydrates the same way that
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they are, and it's like no, no,we also need to understand the
individual, what we needindividually in our perspective.
Genders right or maybe gender isnot a right word Like what
would be the right word.
If you know, send it to me,because I know that gender can
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be switched.
But like, what is your rulinghormone in your body?
I think somebody has mentionedit in the way before of are you
a penis owner or are you avagina owner?
I think that's a good way toput it, because then it's like,
depending on what the rulinghormone is in your body, your
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body might need somethingdifferent.
It also depends on your age.
It also depends, especially forfemales, where you are in your
reproductive years.
Are you in your twenties?
Are you, you know, gettingready to conceive?
Are you in perimenopause?
These things look different.
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So just because something isworking for you and you need a
specific type of, let's say,combination on your plate or
something like that, does notmean that it is the same exact
for someone else.
Let's say, is your husband oryour children, or something like
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that.
They might need somethingdifferent.
So knowing the difference isalso important, because
sometimes it's like, oh, I wantyou to do it this way, like this
.
What's worked for me, that'sgreat, but it might not be for
everybody else, and this is whymy work is so personalized to
that specific person and I don'tnecessarily give out general
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advice, because for things towork for you, I need to know a
lot of details about you and howyou feel and how you process,
manage your stress, and whatdoes your day-to-day look like,
what kind of job you have.
There's so much to take intoconsideration and this is why I
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practice holistic health,holistic healing, because it is
your whole body and your lifeexperience and that looks
different for everybody, right,it just looks different.
So you continue to lead byexample.
You can manage your emotionsabout what your loved one is
doing or not doing, but thereare opportunities to invite them
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, to introduce them, to holdtheir hand, to share information
in a way that it is empoweringfor them as well, instead of
guilt tripping, shaming,embarrassing Okay, even for your
kids as well.
You don't want to scare themabout food and eating and things
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like that.
You want to educate them andyou want to help them understand
how sometimes what they'refeeling in their body is
connected to stuff that they ateand we're not taught that right
, and respect their fullnesslevels and certain things, but
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we also don't want to scare themor restrict them and cause some
sort of eating disorder becauseof what we're telling them
might or might not happen, likewe also want to have boundaries
and awareness around that.
So I hope this was helpful,especially if you're on this
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journey and you're like, oh myGod, I want my mom this, I want
my auntie that, right.
There are so many differentways to implement.
And when I work with my clientsone-on-one and they share with
me what's happening, I also workwith them on strategies, on how
to invite them or how tosupport them in a way that is
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empowering and encouraging,right, but we would need to
speak about that specificsituation.
So if that's something thatyou're interested in, if you are
really wanting to work onyourself and create those
generational health patternsright, like wealthy generations,
whether that's the generationsbefore you or after you then
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that's something we candefinitely discuss as part of
one-on-one food and hormonehealth coaching.
If you have not heard, my threemonth program is back until
July.
So if you're interested inworking for 12 weeks together,
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that is now available and Iinvite you to book a
consultation call right, I thinkthat we can redefine weight
loss together, we can supportyour hormones and we can also
discuss how to build your bestlife rooted in wellness.
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If you have been wanting to loseweight your way, one last time,
without shame or overwhelm, wecan work together.
You're using things like weightloss injections and you want to
create real sustainable habitsfor the longterm with those
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tools, then that's something wecan work on as well.
One-on-one coaching is for you.
And if your hormones orperimenopause has you feeling
super disconnected, unsure whatworks for you anymore, what's
actually healthy anymore for you, we should work together.
And if you're done with the allor nothing diets right and you
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want sustainable wellness thatincludes your culture, your joy,
your social life like actuallyliving your life, and also going
through the mindset stuff thatI spoke about these limiting
beliefs like thoughts you grewup with, thoughts you've
inherited then this is also agreat opportunity for one-on-one
food and hormone healthcoaching.
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If you're interested in workingtogether, I invite you to book
a free consultation call withthe link in the show notes.
You are also welcome to send mea DM on Instagram or an email
at hola at naomijerascom, and wecan discuss and I can help you
through the process.
All right, I hope this has beenhelpful.
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I hope you go out here and livelead by example as you support
your loved ones in their healthand wellness journey as well.
I'll see you next week.
Bye.
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All right, let's get into thisweek's episode I want to talk
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about today, when you want toinvolve a loved one or introduce
them.
Loved one or friend, whoever togo on their own wellness journey
or to join you in what you'redoing, and it's a conversation I
have with every single one ofmy clients.
It never, ever fails where theyall of a sudden want to have
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mom or dad or a sibling, afriend, somebody join like start
their own health and wellnessjourney.
And it's happened to me as well.
When I first started and as Iwas going through my own journey
, I was like, oh my God, I wantmy mom or whoever to join me on
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this journey or to implementsome of these things that I'm
doing.
And this is because some ofthese things that I'm doing and
this is because what normally,what usually happens, is that my
client starts to learn all thisknowledge about food, food
labels, how food makes them feel, about their blood sugar, their
hormones, and they start tofeel better and reverse so many
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symptoms or illnesses right thatthey deemed they couldn't do
anything about, it washereditary, their mom has it,
their aunt has it right, andthey were just like, oh yeah, me
too, because it's generationalright, or it's hereditary, not
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necessarily generational, it'shereditary.
So yeah, and while we do ourwork together through one-on-one
coaching or coaching in general, whether it's a group program
or what have you, what my clientstarts to experience is that
now they have this knowledgebase of new, of wellness right
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and wellness like I'm nottalking about face masks and
massages and sound like thoseare all great too, but I'm
talking about real, like,scientific backed.
How do you create or how do youuse food and lifestyle for
healing?
That's what I'm talking about.
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So when they start to implementthese things, they reverse their
prediabetes, they no longerhave joint pain, they get rid of
their acne, they have nopainful periods or they get
their periods back.
They reverse or, like, healtheir PCOS or have it more under
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control.
You, you know it's more undercontrol.
There's just they have a betterexperience with perimenopause
compared to other family membersin previous generations.
They bring their blood pressureback to normal, their
cholesterol back to normal, theyfit in clothes again and reduce
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their belly fat in significantways.
So these are just a fewexamples of, let's say, results
that my clients have gotten,that they've probably family
members of past generations haveexperienced, or what have you.
So when they start to experiencethese things and they notice
that the changes are actuallynot that difficult to implement
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and they can keep up with themin their culture, in their
lifestyle, in a busy life, thenall of a sudden they're like, oh
my gosh, I have to teach thisto X, y, z, loved one.
I want them to also be healthy.
I know that they're sufferingfrom these things.
I want them to heal.
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I want them to feel better intheir skin.
I don't want them to be out ofbreath.
I don't want them to continuesuffering.
I don't want them to continueadding to the amount of
prescription drugs that they arealready taking, or the other
way around too.
I want to teach this to lovedones who are younger than me, to
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prevent them from even being inmy position or the position of
later generations.
I want to pass down thisinformation to them now, so that
they are equally as well as me.
And that is heavy, right,because you see loved ones
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suffering and now you have thisinformation you want to share
that you yourself have gottenresults from, and you're like
but but but just do this, justdo that Now.
It's tough because most of thetime, especially in the
beginning, what my clients wantto involve loved ones, they're
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not as receptive experience whythey might be avoiding these
kinds of things.
You know, like this kind oflifestyle and just like where
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they are in their journey.
And this is very general.
Let's say, everything that I'mgoing to talk about, either I
have experienced or my clientshave experienced to a certain
extent, but it can be many, manydifferent reasons as to why or
why not loved ones have joinedor have been encouraged to make
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changes with their own healthand recently I've been having
conversations with my clientsabout their partners is another
one.
Like you have a partner and youwant to grow old and well
together and you're here makingall these changes or feeling
better and you want your partnerto do the same so that you both
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feel well and you both areactually active and healthy, and
all that.
So it has ranged everywhere,from parents, who are a big, big
one, to siblings, to partnerswho are also a big big one, and
then like children or nieces andnephews, or another one where
they want to influencegenerations.
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So bear with me here as I kindof go into the different
sections of what can you do whenyou want to do something like
this, why they might be avoidingit right and why they may or
may not be implementing thesechanges.
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I try to organize it as best Ican, just so that that is a
little bit more clear tounderstand.
That is a little bit more clearto understand.
But yeah, let's, let's get intoit.
So I'm going to leave, what todo for last or things I've tried
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or my clients have tried.
Let me start by saying that weneed to respect everybody's
wellness journey, everybody'sjourney period.
Everybody gets motivated bydifferent things.
Everybody has their own lifeexperience and sometimes they
embark on these journeys.
Sometimes they don't.
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Sometimes the pace of it isslower than you would want, but
is right for them.
Sometimes they're notimplementing as many things as
you would like, but is right forthem.
Sometimes they're notimplementing as many things as
you would like, but is whattheir capacity allows them to do
.
So I want you to keep all thesethings in mind as we're going
through this conversation,because not everybody is going
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to be super receptive to theinformation that you are
providing for them.
They might not even care.
To be honest, and, to be frank,it probably took you some time
to want to take action in yourhealth and wellness, and you
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know why.
I know this Because I've spokento clients on consultation
calls and they don't joinone-on-one coaching.
And then, a year later, it'shappened like.
I can't even tell you how manytimes it's happened where.
At minimum three times you.
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How many times it's happenedwhere?
At minimum three times.
Where I speak to somebody andthey're like, no, no, no, I'll
do it on my own or I don't needthis, or whatever have you?
The reason is, and then a yearlater, they come back and they
sign up and they have awonderful experience and then
they're like, oh my gosh, Idon't know why I didn't sign up
for the first time, but it'sfine.
The reason why is because theywere not ready yet, and that's
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often what happens with ourloved ones, where they are not
ready yet.
So when you are, when we'reworking together and you're
learning all these things, andnow you want your loved ones to
join you, you've already done somuch work to get to where you
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are.
You've already processed andthought and felt and had your
own personal experiences thatbrought you to this moment of I
want to do this now.
Or I'm deciding to do this now,or I'm going to pull the
trigger now.
Whatever have you.
So to go from, not like whereyou are in coaching, it might've
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taken you years and years andyears of trial and error, of
disappointment, of scaryexperiences, all of these
different things of just havinga different level of knowledge
and education, sometimes havinganother experience with trauma
or growing up or things likethat that has brought you to
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that moment, and usually withloved ones.
They're probably not there yetand you want them to be, because
you want them to start gettingthe results and the healing that
you are also experiencing alsoexperiencing, but it's not that
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simple a lot of times to getthem to just do what you're
telling them or join you,because they are just not ready
yet in their journey.
So why might it be hard forpeople to make these kinds of
changes?
And let's see, I'm readingthrough my notes because I tried
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to write this down, but I wroteway too many things.
So give them what I usually sayis or actually I'm going to go
back to why might they beavoiding this type of journey?
So number one is what I justspoke about that they're just
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not ready for the journey rightnow, and it has been no
different from you.
So I would just say plant theseeds right.
They will eventually grow andevolve the same way that it has
for you, and I'm going to giveyou some tips on that.
Some people might just feelembarrassed or scared of change.
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How scary is change?
How scary is it to sign up forone-on-one coaching right On
food and hormones, how, how,maybe scared, embarrassed,
shameful, whatever have you.
It is to realize that,unknowingly to you, that you
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have done some things and thenyour health have turned out a
certain way, where sometimesit's like we can't blame
ourselves for things that we donot know, things that we have
grown up with.
This is exactly what I try andinstill in my clients.
It's like there's no shame.
We all come to this moment ofwanting to learn and pivot at
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different times and it's justsomething that we don't know.
So a lot of people feelembarrassed about where they are
with their health and theydon't want to face it.
It's really like the firstthing that needs to happen to
create change is just acceptingand admitting where you are and
then wanting to take empoweredaction after that.
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And some people are just notready because the embarrassment
or the shame is just too strongand they might be comfortable
where they are too, whether youknow it or not.
Some people are verycomfortable in their discomfort
and they kind of don't want todo anything about it because
that's how they've experiencedlife all this time and it's too
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scary to try and change that andtry to find themselves again,
because oftentimes that's kindof what happens in this journey,
where you kind of have to findyourself again and you have to
let go of, maybe, things thatreally brought you joy or
comfort for a good part of yourlife.
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Right Another thing hopping inon that is the generational
trauma or bringing beliefs thatyou might have that are so, so
strong.
I know a lot of times, at leastfrom my experience with my own
loved ones they are team, eatall the food and don't waste
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food and save money, so buy thecheapest thing at the
supermarket.
And it's not because they wantto be like that and they chose
that.
It's literally because of theway they grew up, where food was
scarce, food was scarce to comeby.
They didn't know where theirnext meal was coming from.
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Maybe they had just one meal aday.
So, yes, they would finishtheir plate.
Yes, there was no food that wasgoing to be thrown away.
You had to take advantage ofthose opportunities.
Opportunities because food wasreally not as abundant now, like
for them before, as it was now.
And realizing that and lettinggo of that like belief that kept
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them safe for so long and aschildren where, like, a lot of
these beliefs are cemented.
It's really difficult to lookat a plate and decide and know
that you're full and that you'renot going to continue eating
and that it's safe to put thisfood away because now we have
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refrigeration and ways to heatthings back up.
That is fairly easy and itmight sound like I'm making fun
of or like or something likethat, but I'm really, really,
really not.
My family members and loved onescome from the Dominican
Republic in the country, andthey didn't have access to just
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modern refrigeration and modernstoves and all this, everything
and just supermarkets that youcan just grab whatever in.
It's a different experience.
So, especially for our oldergenerations, it can be a lot to
go on a health journey whereyou're trying to help them not
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overeat or pointing things outlike that.
For them it can be pretty scary, Um, and it might feel unsafe
for them to leave food behind.
Okay, because your parentsmight've had their own
experiences.
I know of my Asian friends whotheir parents went through war
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and it was so unsafe and it wastraumatic and they didn't know
where they were going to findfood.
So, living in the US now wherefood is so, so, so abundant, and
they might have the money nowto purchase certain things.
Thoughts and beliefs are sodeeply ingrained in us that that
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is the main block in creatingchange.
Money was also not abundantlike that, and this is where I
get into.
You know, like most of the time, our generation has more access
to money and different careersand things like that, where we
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do have the resources to investin our health in different ways,
whether it is through investingin coaching or personal
training or certain supplementsor, you know, or foods that are
of better quality or somethinglike that and because we grew up
with our parents where it wassurvival only and they had to
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put food on the table and otherkinds of wellness experiences
were seen as a luxury, it's hardfor us too, and, believe it or
not, a lot of the work I do withmy clients is not in just like
teaching somebody a food labelor why one food product might
benefit their health more thananother.
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That's the easy part.
It's very straightforward.
Science is behind it.
The hard part the difficultpart, the part that takes time
is the mindset piece and thebeliefs and the thoughts that
come up when they don't takeadvantage of a sale of something
that's three, four, five orthey are worried about spending
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an extra $3 for a food productthat might be better for their
health.
Um, they have the resources andthe funding and they want to
invest in a personal trainer,but they don't, because they
view it as frivolous or as aluxury or things like that.
So that's where a lot of thework happens, and this is what I
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feel like stops a lot of peoplein their tracks from really
living a life rooted in wellness, and they're not even realizing
it.
And all these crash diets orother kinds of methods whether
it's injections or pills orshakes or challenges, or all of
that is very short lived becausethey really do not address the
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root of why we don't continuewith whatever it is, aside from
the fact that most of the thingsare super, super, super
unsustainable, okay, anotherreason is whether it might be
hard for them to take action isthat some people just need to
experience life firsthand totake action Point blank, like
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they need a scare where they endup in the hospital or they end
up somewhere that's a littletraumatic for them and they
realize that their body isreally going to break down if
you don't take care of it.
And then it's like, oh shit, Ineed to do something about this.
I can't just ignore it.
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I'm just not going to be okay,like I need to take action and
hopefully is not too late.
And with modern medicineusually you can reverse that.
But sometimes it might be rightand it just takes that
traumatic experience for someoneto decide to make a change.
I know of people who've neededopen heart surgery as an
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emergency or are dealing with alot of health issues that they
probably did not need to becausethey didn't take care of their
health or think it was importantor knew otherwise or something
like that, and again, it's to nofault of their own.
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Everybody experiences their ownjourney, the way that they have
the capacity for, and somepeople just really don't want to
.
Some people don't want to.
Some people they see theirloved ones struggling, they see
what their family members hadneeded to go through and how
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hard it's been.
Or they have also experiencedsomething traumatic with their
own health and they still choosenot to do anything about it.
And I know that that is sopainful to watch.
It's like literally watching atrain wreck that you're like,
hey, the brake is right here,all you have to do is pull this
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lever.
But sometimes people just don'twant to, and we have to respect
that.
Okay, we have to respect it.
So I'll tell you some things toavoid when these kinds of things
are happening.
And it's avoiding toconsistently pointing out what
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they can do better, right?
It's like don't eat thisbecause it has too much sugar,
don't eat that because you'reprediabetic, like your diabetes.
Don't do this, don't do that,don't do that.
And consistently pointing outto people like something that
that quote unquote they're doingwrong or that they will affect
their health, can fill them upwith more embarrassment and
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shame, because they probably doknow and understand that they
shouldn't be doing that orthat's causing adding on to
their health issues, and theychoose to do it anyway, right?
So don't consistently pointthings out that they can be
doing better or things that theyare doing wrong.
Also, don't blame them for howthey're feeling.
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We don't want to pile on andblame them.
You see, because you're eatingthis way, because you don't move
, because this, this is why youfeel like crap, this is why your
diabetes is over the roof, thisis why you know X, y, z.
It can be super frustrating,but this is where we need to
manage our own emotions and ourown feelings, because it can be
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more hurtful than it is helpfulfor them, and don't shame them
for not doing anything about it.
What we need to do again ismanage our own emotions around
that and our own feelings aroundthat, because it can make
things worse for the otherperson when we're shaming them
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of like I told you to do thisand you're not doing that.
You don't care.
This is why you're in thesituation that you're in, so we
want to take it lightly.
Of course, there is space andtime for deep, honest
conversations around this topic,but we really do want it to
come from a place of love andhonesty and more of sharing how
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you feel, instead of blaming orshaming the other person.
So I'm going to share with youways that I've encouraged,
motivated I don't even know howthey felt about it, I guess is
encouraged or introduce them tothings in wellness that I think
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will serve them.
And I share with my clients aswell in different situations.
The number one thing that I dois I invite people.
When you give somebody aninvitation, like when you
receive an invitation, then it'sup to you to decide to go or
not to go.
It's an RSVP, right, likeyou're not forcing anyone.
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You're inviting them and thenit's their decision if they're
going to show up or not.
So, for example, I've had lotsof loved ones and lots of
friends tell me they don't eat agazillion things.
They don't eat beans, potatoes,brown rice, brussels sprouts,
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broccoli, avocado.
The list goes on and on and onand on of what people have told
me that they don't eat, forexample.
And anytime I've made that kindof food at home and they're
here or we're at a holiday eventlike Christmas or something
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like that, I just invite peopleto try it.
Usually, if we're having aconversation about it, I'll ask
them like oh, why don't you likeit?
You want to be curious, youwant to understand if they've
had a terrible experience withthis food before or they have
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certain food aversions totextures and tastes and how
things are made and things likethat.
Just like, find out a littlebit without judgment.
It's just curiosity and tryingto get to know the person in a
new way.
So sometimes I'll ask that it'slike what's your experience
with this food?
Do you like it or not?
And most of the time they'vehad, it's either a texture thing
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or they've had a really badexperience with that food in the
past.
So usually what I do is I say,oh, okay, yeah, that makes sense
, and I'll say something like Imade this version of whatever
the food is in a different way,with different seasonings.
So I invite you to give it atry if you would like.
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I think that you would like it.
When people have tried it beforethey have enjoyed it, I will
say this I'll say sometimes inthe first try might not be the
best because you have thesepreconceived thoughts in your
mind.
Your palate is tasting it forthe first time.
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So what I would encourage youto do, if you do decide to try
it, is taste it like three timesand if after the first third
time you really hate it, thenyou, you're good Like you.
You did what you had to do,which was give it a try, right?
So there's no pressure for theperson, it's an invitation.
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You're giving them a little bitof guidance by letting them
know that the first time theytry it they might not love it.
That to give it a little bit ofa shot, that their thoughts
might be getting in the way thefirst time.
So just really sit with it andsee how they enjoy it.
That's with food, usually withmovement is the same thing.
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Invite people to go with you,whether it's on a walk, a gym
class, whatever it is.
If you invite somebody tosomething you love and that's
all you say, you're not like, oh, this is so good for your blood
sugar and we should always bewalking.
There's always a time and aplace for that.
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It doesn't have to be when it'sfirst starting off.
It could just be like hey, dad,I'm going out for a walk.
I would love it if you wouldjoin me.
Would you like to come?
See?
Invitation.
If it's a girlfriend that canprobably keep up with you in
your gym class, hey, friend, Ihave a free gym pass.
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I would love it if you wouldjoin me.
Do you want to come with me?
Invitation.
You are there with them.
You are introducing them to newexperiences.
That's really important.
Remember how we spoke about howpeople grew up their thoughts,
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generational trauma, limitingbeliefs.
So if you are ready on thisjourney, you know and you have
seen the benefits of it and youwant other people who you know
it would be helpful for for tojoin you, then invite them in a
way that's nonjudgmental andpreachy.
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That's nonjudgmental andpreachy and, like you should be
doing X, y, z, invite them,plant those seeds, show them the
new experiences, let themdevelop their own thoughts
around it, let it settle inright as you go on your journey,
all right, and maybe check inwith them how did you like it,
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what was your experience?
So on and so forth.
Number two right Like in waysyou can help is look for those
opportunities to share theknowledge, and I'm not saying
going back to like things toavoid doing is to be very
preachy and it's at the rightmoment.
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Like right moment, right time,and maybe they are the ones that
are curious about it andthey're asking you.
Or if they're noticingsomething different happening
with them, be like oh my God, Ifelt so much better after I went
on that walk with you.
I didn't even need the energydrink I used to have or that
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extra cup of coffee.
I actually felt energized.
Then maybe, given the situationand your loved one, you can
share why the walk helped themfeel that way.
Right, so you can makesuggestions, you can share
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things that are interesting toyou or help them connect the
dots when it's an appropriatetime for that.
Right, it's a slow process.
Meet them where they are at intheir journey, all right.
The next one is lead by exampleNumber three.
Okay, continue to live yourlife rooted in wellness.
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Continue to follow your journey, your path, your goals, right.
Other people will notice yourenergy, your light, how you feel
will be evident to them.
People are curious.
You become magnetic, you becomeenergetic.
They see your joy and howyou've changed and how you look
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right and they might ask youwhat you've done to look and
feel and move the way you do.
They might be so curiousbecause when people are well and
in good health, that isattractive.
You have a different energy.
You have a different glow andyou've done nothing more than to
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take really good care ofyourself.
Glow and you've done nothingmore than to take really good
care of yourself.
It is evident to other peopleand they're like damn, you know
what?
What are they drinking?
What's the Kool-Aid?
I want to know what.
What are they having?
And this is another opportunityfor you to share.
Okay, what I will say is thatwhat happens a lot of times is
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that because the loved one thatyou want to join you on this
journey is not ready to make thechanges that you want them to
make or to join you at yourcadence, then you slow yourself
down right, or you don't keepincorporating the things that
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you have to do for your ownjourney and remember everybody's
individual.
So even what you might needmight not be exactly what the
other person needs also.
So I always encourage you mindyour business, continue on your
journey, continue on your path.
If there are certain foods youneed, if there's certain
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movements you need, continue todo that and lead.
This goes back to the lead byexample right, where you are
doing this in front of them, aredoing this in front of them,
and by that I mean when it's theholidays, when you're out at a
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restaurant, when you go to thathappy hour where you're being
served in a buffet.
Right, the hardest part of thejourney is being yourself,
living your life rooted inwellness, in front of other
people, especially people whoyou've consistently been around.
And now you've created changein yourself.
Remember going back to whatholds some people back.
You've created this change andpeople start commenting on it.
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Or they're like, oh, you'redifferent, or you used to eat
like this, or you did not go tothe gym consistently, or
whatever.
Have you right, did not go tothe gym consistently or whatever
, have you right, Model this forthem.
It's the same thing like if youhave children or little people
in your life or pets right,model it for them.
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You do not have to say a wordto the other person of what they
are doing or not doing, of whatthey're doing or not doing when
you model it for them.
People pay attention.
They want to be nosy AF most ofthe time on what you're doing,
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especially when they notice thatthings are a little bit
different.
It's like oh, you've lost acouple of pounds.
Oh, my gosh, your acne wentaway.
Oh, you have so much energy.
You look so well, rested, right, you look like you're glowing
and you're not even wearingmakeup.
Dude, right.
So people will notice.
Lead by example.
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Continue to live your liferooted in wellness.
You don't need to kind of slowdown on your end to have
everybody else catch up.
You can continue to be grounded, to be humble, to do your thing
and I promise you people willwant to join you and come along.
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But going back to beingrespectful of their capacity and
their own journey and alsoknowing that what they need
might not be what you need andvice versa, because I've run
into situations where, let's say, is a mom with young children
and they want to manage theircarbohydrates the same way that
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they are, and it's like no, no,we also need to understand the
individual, what we needindividually in our perspective.
Genders right or maybe gender isnot a right word Like what
would be the right word.
If you know, send it to me,because I know that gender can
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be switched.
But like, what is your rulinghormone in your body?
I think somebody has mentionedit in the way before of are you
a penis owner or are you avagina owner?
I think that's a good way toput it, because then it's like,
depending on what the rulinghormone is in your body, your
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body might need somethingdifferent.
It also depends on your age.
It also depends, especially forfemales, where you are in your
reproductive years.
Are you in your twenties?
Are you, you know, gettingready to conceive?
Are you in perimenopause?
These things look different.
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So just because something isworking for you and you need a
specific type of, let's say,combination on your plate or
something like that, does notmean that it is the same exact
for someone else.
Let's say, is your husband oryour children, or something like
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that.
They might need somethingdifferent.
So knowing the difference isalso important, because
sometimes it's like, oh, I wantyou to do it this way, like this
.
What's worked for me, that'sgreat, but it might not be for
everybody else, and this is whymy work is so personalized to
that specific person and I don'tnecessarily give out general
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advice, because for things towork for you, I need to know a
lot of details about you and howyou feel and how you process,
manage your stress, and whatdoes your day-to-day look like,
what kind of job you have.
There's so much to take intoconsideration and this is why I
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practice holistic health,holistic healing, because it is
your whole body and your lifeexperience and that looks
different for everybody, right,it just looks different.
So you continue to lead byexample.
You can manage your emotionsabout what your loved one is
doing or not doing, but thereare opportunities to invite them
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, to introduce them, to holdtheir hand, to share information
in a way that it is empoweringfor them as well, instead of
guilt tripping, shaming,embarrassing Okay, even for your
kids as well.
You don't want to scare themabout food and eating and things
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like that.
You want to educate them andyou want to help them understand
how sometimes what they'refeeling in their body is
connected to stuff that they ateand we're not taught that right
, and respect their fullnesslevels and certain things, but
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we also don't want to scare themor restrict them and cause some
sort of eating disorder becauseof what we're telling them
might or might not happen, likewe also want to have boundaries
and awareness around that.
So I hope this was helpful,especially if you're on this
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journey and you're like, oh myGod, I want my mom this, I want
my auntie that, right.
There are so many differentways to implement.
And when I work with my clientsone-on-one and they share with
me what's happening, I also workwith them on strategies, on how
to invite them or how tosupport them in a way that is
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empowering and encouraging,right, but we would need to
speak about that specificsituation.
So if that's something thatyou're interested in, if you are
really wanting to work onyourself and create those
generational health patternsright, like wealthy generations,
whether that's the generationsbefore you or after you then
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that's something we candefinitely discuss as part of
one-on-one food and hormonehealth coaching.
If you have not heard, my threemonth program is back until
July.
So if you're interested inworking for 12 weeks together,
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that is now available and Iinvite you to book a
consultation call right, I thinkthat we can redefine weight
loss together, we can supportyour hormones and we can also
discuss how to build your bestlife rooted in wellness.
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If you have been wanting to loseweight your way, one last time,
without shame or overwhelm, wecan work together.
You're using things like weightloss injections and you want to
create real sustainable habitsfor the longterm with those
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tools, then that's something wecan work on as well.
One-on-one coaching is for you.
And if your hormones orperimenopause has you feeling
super disconnected, unsure whatworks for you anymore, what's
actually healthy anymore for you, we should work together.
And if you're done with the allor nothing diets right and you
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want sustainable wellness thatincludes your culture, your joy,
your social life like actuallyliving your life, and also going
through the mindset stuff thatI spoke about these limiting
beliefs like thoughts you grewup with, thoughts you've
inherited then this is also agreat opportunity for one-on-one
food and hormone healthcoaching.
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If you're interested in workingtogether, I invite you to book
a free consultation call withthe link in the show notes.
You are also welcome to send mea DM on Instagram or an email
at hola at naomijerascom, and wecan discuss and I can help you
through the process.
All right, I hope this has beenhelpful.
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I hope you go out here and livelead by example as you support
your loved ones in their healthand wellness journey as well.
I'll see you next week.
Bye.
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