Wet Dreamz

In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman dive into Step 4 of their eight-step recovery model: defining the real problem behind compulsive sexual behaviors like porn use. They emphasize that while porn might seem like the core issue, it’s actually a symptom of deeper emotional needs—such as a lack of affirmation, respect, or validation—that aren’t being met in healthy ways. The conversa...

In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman break down what to expect during your first visit to a sex therapist. They discuss common anxieties and misconceptions—like embarrassment, fear of judgment, or not knowing what sex therapists actually do—and reassure listeners that sex therapy is professional, confidential, and supportive.

The conversation covers what typically happens in a first...

In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, Jose and Brad get real about divorce—how messy, confusing, and emotionally tough it can be, especially for guys. They talk about everything from couples using divorce as a threat, to the weird “should we/shouldn’t we?” dynamic around sex during and after splitting up. The hosts dive into how divorce can seriously mess with a guy's sexual confidence, self-worth, and even lead to things like...

In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman dive into the topic of men experiencing lower libido than their partners—an issue they note is more common than people might think. They discuss the emotional challenges men face, such as feelings of shame, fear of rejection, and worries about not living up to societal expectations regarding masculinity and sexual desire. The conversation covers...

In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman discuss STEP 3 of their eight-step recovery model for addressing out-of-control sexual behavior—"Progression." Building on previous steps (creating distance from the behavior and examining sexual history), they dive into understanding the ups and downs of sexual behavior over time. They explore why it's crucial to identify periods ...

In this insightful episode of the Wet Dreams Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman delve into the widespread issue of erectile dysfunction (ED), exploring its causes, effects, and potential solutions. The discussion highlights how ED is increasingly becoming a concern for younger men, not just older demographics. By examining both biological and psychological aspects, the hosts aim to shed light on why this condition is ...

In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we talk openly about what dads really go through during pregnancy and those early months of fatherhood. We shared our personal stories, highlighting the excitement, anxiety, and even feelings of being left out that often come with the territory.

We discussed how easy it is for men to ignore their own emotions while focusing on providing for their family—something that can lead to isolat...

Join us as we delve into the world of sex therapy, sharing our personal journeys and insights. Learn how our specialized training enhances therapy sessions by incorporating discussions about complex sexual issues. Discover the dynamics of sex therapy compared to conventional therapy, and explore the challenges and rewards we face as therapists. This episode offers an informative look into our profession, providing guidance for anyo...

In Episode 23 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast we continue our series on addressing problematic sexual behaviors and pornography recovery with STEP 2 of our model. This episode focuses on exploring sexual history as a crucial step in treatment. We discuss the importance of understanding a person's sexual past, including porn use, sexual experiences, and relationships, to identify patterns and themes. Dr. Hinman emphasizes the value of...

In this engaging episode of the Wet Dreams podcast, Dr. Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez introduce STEP 1 of an innovative eight-step model designed to assist in overcoming pornography and sex addiction. We discuss the importance of creating distance from addictive behaviors as a crucial initial step and explore this approach in depth.

We provide useful insights into the world of sex addiction therapy, revolving around pivotal actions ...

Join hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman as they dive into the complexities of pornography and its impact on relationships in this engaging episode of the Wet Dreams podcast. They explore diverse definitions, cultural perceptions, and the psychological nuances of porn consumption, drawing insights from interviews with college students. Discussing the interplay of pornography with loneliness, stress, and intimacy, they also touc...

In Episode 21 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we discuss the importance of talking to children about sex and pornography from a young age, focusing on kids between the ages of 1 to 10. We emphasize starting these conversations by age four, as children are likely to be exposed to related content early, often at school or through peers. The episode underlines the importance of having age-appropriate, ongoing discussions around sex, consen...

In this enlightening episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman delve into the intricate world of sexting, exploring its potential risks and benefits. They unravel the complexities surrounding this modern form of communication, particularly focusing on how sexting can impact both minors and adults. The hosts share insightful anecdotes from their professional experiences, drawing attention to the legal an...

Join sex therapists Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman as they dissect the portrayal of therapy and relationships in the TV show "Private Practice". This episode delves into the fictional portrayal of therapists' boundaries, client choices, and the complexities of sex and relationships. The hosts offer insights on handling sensitive topics like marriage woes, sexual dysfunctions, and more, while reflecting on how real ther...

In Episode 16 of the "Wet Dreamz Podcast," hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman explore the complexities of relationships during pregnancy from the male perspective. They emphasize the importance of communication and intentional relationship nurturing throughout the pregnancy journey, cautioning against complacency during more stable periods like the second trimester.

The episode highlights the pressures men face while...

In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman react to street interviews about why people watch porn, uncovering various reasons such as trauma, disconnection, and unmet personal needs. They explore how social media can serve as a gateway to porn and discuss the chemical stimulation that makes it addictive. Brad addresses common misconceptions, highlighting that porn use often stems from emotion...

In Season 2, Episode 5 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman explore the intricate process of rebuilding trust and intimacy after infidelity. They debunk the myth that cheaters always want to leave their partners and underscore the importance of patience and slow-paced physical intimacy. The episode emphasizes the need to avoid pressuring a partner into sex, manage the harmful effects of compulsive porn use...

5 Part Series (Part 4)In Episode 14 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast titled "Initial Fallout," hosts Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez explore the emotional chaos following infidelity in relationships. They discuss:

- The injured partner's search for validation and the offending partner's shame.

- Trust issues leading to extreme monitoring behaviors, which can exacerbate guilt and shame.

- The need for constructive trust rebuil...

5 Part Series (Part 3)In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast we, your hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman, dive into the complex world of relationship boundaries and infidelity. We explore problematic sexual behaviors such as compulsive porn use, online sexting, and emotional affairs, shedding light on the emotional and psychological reasons behind these actions.

We highlight the importance of affirmation, respect, and open comm...