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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, this is your pod host, folks, og, goat,
and we're back with Big T out ofupstate New York and we want to
continue on with this betrayalof the wife.
To give you a little recap,guys, Big T has been supporting
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the family, taking care of thewife, finance the house, cars
for the wife, everything, andthe wife just went off on her
own.
Like you know, this just wasn'tenough.
She got herself a littlemarketing gig on the side where
(00:47):
she's running her own business,got a few connections and next
thing you know the rest ishistory.
But we'll let Tom tell you andcatch you up to speed and then
we'll continue on from there.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
So, big T, tell us what's going on since the last
time we met and bring us up tospeed real quick, because you
know we only have, we're limitedon time yeah, well, pretty much
there's been a bunch of this,last time unacceptable and
unforgivable behavior that'stranspired and as a result of
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that, it's's taken a toll on myfamily and you know, it's just
been a trying time.
It was like you know,regardless of the fact of
forgiving and everything else,it just seems like she has more
interest in this other personwho she's with, who't even
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afford to, you know, take careof us, her boss from work, but
you know he has an establishmentwhich is fairly new and he's
married at that, and support himwhile I'm supporting my wife.
You know what I'm saying.
So it's like you got two peasin a pod who can't do it on
their own by themselves.
(02:08):
They still need somebody tosupport, but they're playing a
very dangerous game, you know.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Right.
So you're saying he's marriedalso her boss Right, with four
kids, with four kids and he'ssupporting his family and then
messing with your wife, right?
Or someone is supporting himand he's supporting his family
and then messing with your wifeRight, or someone is supporting
him and he's messing with him.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
His wife is help supporting him.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Wow, yeah, so his wife is helping to support him
while he run a business.
Meanwhile he's chasing.
Your wife Is that right, right.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Well, they're kind of chasing each other.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Oh, so your wife is chasing him and he's chasing
your wife, right?
So let me ask you now have theyactually gotten together and
done anything yet, or they'rejust, you know, playing this
little touch and go game?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Yeah, no, they actually got together and done
something in like December of 24.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
December of 24.
Now, if I have this correctly,you spoke to your wife about
this and she eventually coppedto the fact that she done
something.
Is that right?
That's correct, okay.
So now, after she copped to thefact that she's done it with
her boss, she promised you, if Ihave this correctly, that it's
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not going to happen again, orshe said no more.
And then what happened?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
yeah, that they got it, you know she, she spoke to
him or whatever, and that youknow, moving forward, none of
this would have made a mistake.
And then, um, you know I wasjust, I didn't turn a blind eye
to it, but you know, I had, Ihave clothes and I'm just
watching the situation clearly.
And then I seen, like afterthat time, where she was
(04:08):
sleeping with him.
Two weeks later I saw herkissing him in the parking lot
wow, now wait, wait, wait.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
How did you see her kissing him in the parking lot?
Speaker 2 (04:20):
oh, because um, on the car it has cameras from
factory and I was able to enablethe camera and then saw them
kissing in the parking lot.
So I just screen recorded.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Wow, wow, now has she seen these cameras.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
She's seen them, but they're part of the car, so has
she seen the footage from thecameras is what I meant to say I
showed her and then she triedto play it off like, oh, we just
said goodbye and I was likefive times oh, so there was five
kisses going on yeah, and likewhen he tried to turn around and
leave, like she grabbed his armand like kind of like spun him
(05:01):
around in her direction, likedon't go yet, man, again, you
know and this is wow.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
This is after they've already been caught.
She's admitted to it.
She promised that she wasn'tgoing to do it again, but now
you catch him again.
After what's the distance intime from the time she said she
wasn't going to do it againuntil the time that you caught
it now with the cameras on hervehicle?
Speaker 2 (05:29):
It was two weeks after that, wow.
So obviously it's more thanmeets the eye with that.
The feelings that's involved,you know it's more intense than
what I even thought.
You know because you know it'sjust, it's just too frequent.
You know what I'm saying andyou know just recently, when was
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it?
Last March?
Yeah, last week, you know, Ihad activated the cameras again
and then it showed him they wastalking in the back of the car
and then he came up to her andgave her like a kiss on the
cheek, but she didn't even move.
She didn't do anything.
And in most cases, any womanwith common sense or some kind
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of empathy, knowing that you didsomething wrong or cheated on
your husband, you would try toshow your good foot forward.
You know like, I'm not doingthis, no more.
Look, you got to trust me.
She would have moved back orbeen like nah, you know it's
good or whatever, but she juststood there and let him kiss her
.
And then, when I saw that andquestioned her about it, she was
like but I'm not doing anythingwrong and I'm like of course
you are.
This is a person who previouslyfucked you, you kissed him and
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you still like around him andyou keep telling me you're not
doing that wrong.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Wow wow.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Now let me ask you.
You said he's married.
Do you think his wife has anyidea what's going on?
Absolutely not, and if I toldher she would, um, his wife
would, like I don't know,probably end up putting the
beats on my wife.
You know, know what I mean?
Just on GP alone.
Right right, your wife stillworks with him after all this.
Well, she's not working in thejob, she's doing like marketing
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for him.
So the marketing she does itdoesn't require her to be there,
but the fact is is that she'sstill involved some way with
that establishment.
So since he owns thatestablishment, he's involved
with him.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
So why is she no longer working with him anymore?
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Because the rest of the what you call it that's what
she likes to do.
He likes that marketing stuffand she likes that environment
that she's in.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Oh, so she chose to pull out of the job or the
position that she had with himto do marketing and not what she
was doing before, because, if Ihave this correctly, before she
was like a manager or hostessor something of the company
right, she was a manager of thecompany, right.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
What happened was it's not that she pulled out,
it's that his wife had putpressure on him to let her go.
That's why she pulled out.
It's not she pulled out becauseshe wanted to.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Why did the wife put pressure on him?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Because his daughter was working there.
And then he had her fire thedaughter, when he should have
did it, but he put her to do hisdirty work.
And then, when the wife foundout about it, the daughter went
to the mother crying like, ohyou know, she fired me, she did
this and blah, blah and all ofthis other shit.
And then, you know, the wifehad to talk with her.
(08:39):
It was like you know, like youdon't cross family, you got to
go.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Unbelievable, unbelievable.
So now she fired her boss whoowns the restaurant.
She fired her boss's daughterand he got his wife got tight
turned around and fired her, butshe's still working with him.
(09:04):
And did the wife get suspiciousat all by her just firing the
daughter, knowing that that'shis daughter?
Did the wife?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
She got suspicious because some of the staff
members had said that you knowthey see him drinking wine
together and all of this othershit you know by the bar.
Right.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Wow, and so now moving forward.
Okay, so she's doing marketing.
So she kind of like pulledherself out of the environment,
which gives her, I would presume, less time to be with him,
(09:48):
right, and more time to work onthe business in the marketing
aspect.
Right, is that working?
Is, are they staying apart, orthat's not working either.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Well, you know, she still goes there from time to
time because the marketing, ifshe's got to do, she's going to
update stuff, you know, on thesocial media, because that's all
the stuff that she controls.
You know she's the one doingall of that, right?
But you know, the other daythis was like around God's day,
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she, you know, I had my deviceor whatever in the vehicle and
then I heard them, like you know, they was eating sushi in the
car, as they was eating sushi inthe car or whatever, like I
heard, like moans you know whatI'm saying Like mmm, mmm, you
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know stuff like that, no, soit's just like at this point, I
just think it's a wrap.
You know what I'm sayingBecause you know.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
That's the thing Once again how long have you guys
been married?
Speaker 2 (11:01):
For 19 years.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
You've been married for 19 years and you have how
many children together?
Two.
And how old is your oldest?
18.
And your youngest Three.
Wow, so this kind of went sourbasically within the past three
years.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Right.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
And how long she's been with this boss.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Well, they've been working together for like about
a year now.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
So it actually went sour within the past two years.
Now, what do you plan to do atthis point?
Do you want to rekindle yourmarriage?
Do you want to let her go?
Speaker 2 (11:43):
It sounds like she's gone already.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I mean, so what do you want to do at this point?
Because I mean, I feel you'rehanging on to nothing.
And she's still living with you, right, Yep?
So what do you want to do atthis point?
What do you think is your bestmove?
Because obviously you haven'tthrown her out and you're doing
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a lot of detective work here andyou're finding out a lot of
stuff, so I'm presuming that youstill have a lot of feelings
for her.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Well, I do.
But you know, like with thestuff that I've uncovered or
whatever, like that, it kind ofmakes the feelings go void, you
know, because you can't lovesomebody that don't love you.
You know, that's just stupidthat's a good point, you know
what I'm saying.
At that point, when you see thesituation clearly, you kind of
make your determination to thesituation clearly.
(12:38):
You kind of make yourdetermination to push that or
leave that and, being that thefact that I tried to push that
and have her do better, shedidn't do so, so now you got to
leave that.
You got to be firm on what.
You leave that because youcan't let feelings complicate
the situation.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Yeah, excellent, very well put.
So the last issue that you'vehad is that she was eating sushi
with him in the car and you'rehearing these moaning and
groaning sounds in thebackground, and this was around
(13:21):
Valentine's Day.
So far, so good.
Yep, well, is it possible?
Maybe it could have been a lovesong that was playing in the
background, or something.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Absolutely not.
I mean even sushi.
You know the whole duration ofthe time well, 80% of it, you
know.
You just don't eat sushi and gommm, like I mean it's not that
fucking good, you know.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Sushi's not that good , huh no.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
Unless somebody's eating her sushi, and that's how
she's acting.
You know that's when you getthat, mmm that's where the mmm
come in.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
Huh, exactly, wow.
And so, moving forward, what doyou think would be your best
move at this point?
What's going to be?
Are you going to continue tomonitor and build a case on this
, or you're just about done?
We got about three minutes left.
(14:28):
What is your next move fromthis point?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Well, I figured at this point here I think she's
pretty much done with thismarriage and I'm pretty much
done with the fucking abuse andI just think that it's just fair
enough to say, because she's socomfortable, to get her out of
that comfort zone, divorce herass, and then I'll be able to
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move forward strategically,meaning like things for the kids
and everything else, becauselove don't live here anymore.
You know what I mean.
She's with her continuedbehavior, after you know, giving
her signs and telling her whatshe's done wrong and give her
the option to change herself andbeing at the fact that she
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didn't.
It shows that you obviouslylike what you're doing.
So if you like it that much,you like it, I love it, keep on.
You know what I'm saying.
You like it, I love it, keep on.
You know what I'm saying.
But there's a cost to it.
There's definitely a cost.
You know what I'm saying.
And her comfortability is just.
You know, with me here payingeverything and doing all of what
I'm doing.
You know what I'm saying.
(15:34):
It's just.
You know.
There's just no help.
There's just no help.
There's no contribute.
You know she's not contributingto anything.
You're just comfortable.
You're just here, like you know.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
So you know it's just time to check out.
I mean, I think she checked outa while ago, but now that you
know I finally came to gripswith that, now it's time for me
to just check out.
Right, right, you know youcan't just remain in some just
for the fact that you know youlove a person, or love them, or
whatever the case is, or evenjust for the kids.
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You can't sit there and letyourself be susceptible to, you
know, like abuse, cause that's adifferent form of abuse.
It ain't like beating your ass,but it's just a different form
of abuse.
And when they go on like you'redoing the things that they doing
, it shows clearly and presentlythey have no respect for you as
a person right right so at thatpoint you know what I'm saying
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I mean I don't need, I don't youknow, I don't need no receipt
to take me back to the store.
You know what I mean.
Like if this is how you feeland you show me you don't have
no respect by what you're doingand on top of that, you're not
even respecting your kidsbecause you're doing shit and
you got a family.
You know what I'm saying.
You gotta hold for the higheststandards.
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You got kids.
I wouldn't want my daughtergrowing up like that and
thinking it's okay to, when shegets married, to cheat on her
husband because mommy did itright kids emulate.
mother is the face of God tominds of all children, and
they're going to tend to dowhatever their mother does or
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whatever their father does.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
That's true.
I hear the daughter.
That's your daughter, right?
Yep, yeah, I hear your daughterin the background.
So you're currently, as wespeak, you're taking care of the
child.
Where is she?
Is she anywhere around?
Speaker 2 (17:26):
She had a meeting to go to Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
She's with the boss now.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Nah, she's with other co-workers or whatever
different business she got, ohokay.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
So listen, I really appreciate you coming back on
and bringing us up to date.
I'm sure the audience is goingto be amazed at what just went
down, and they've been waitingpatiently to hear the details of
how this is going.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Absolutely, you know.
It's just a thing they couldalways just keep in mind Always
love yourself first.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
Right.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
And everything else will fall into place, because
then you'll have a clear mindwhere you can assess the
situation clearly and know thatthe way you're moving, it's 100%
without changing direction,because you already know what
you're dealing with.
You just got to know how toaccept it and make what's
happening a reality in both youreyes and that person's eyes.
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Because you know what I'velearned.
You know what I've learned whenyou're with a person and
married to that person.
And if they give youunforgivable behavior like that,
like cheating and all of thatother stuff, and if you say you
know what, fuck you andda-da-da-da-da, I'm not going to
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deal with this shit, no more,I'm leaving.
And then your ass, don't leave.
They could do that shit againbecause you didn't leave the
first time after some major shit.
So they're going to keep goingsome major shit.
So they're going to keep going,right, you know what I'm saying
.
And the more they keep going,then you don't show them what
the fuck they're really dealingwith.
Think it's a game, becausethey're going to be like he
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ain't going to go nowhere, he'sjust going to get mad, blow up
shit.
He's still going to be here,still paying the shit.
I'm still going to be heredoing my shit.
Love yourself.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Right, right, wow, we're going to check back with
you in a couple of weeks.
Big T, I really once againappreciate you coming in and
bringing us up to date.
This is the end of this episode, though, and look forward.
We should have it uploaded andyou should be live in a day or
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two.
Once again, keep your eye onthose comments and let's see
what the audience has to say.
Thanks again, big T, for comingin.
This is what Part of the Game,is that?
And I'm your host, og Go, andwe're out, thank you.
All right, this is your pod host, folks, og, goat,
and we're back with Big T out ofupstate New York and we want to
continue on with this betrayalof the wife.
To give you a little recap,guys, Big T has been supporting
(00:26):
the family, taking care of thewife, finance the house, cars
for the wife, everything, andthe wife just went off on her
own.
Like you know, this just wasn'tenough.
She got herself a littlemarketing gig on the side where
(00:47):
she's running her own business,got a few connections and next
thing you know the rest ishistory.
But we'll let Tom tell you andcatch you up to speed and then
we'll continue on from there.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
So, big T, tell us what's going on since the last
time we met and bring us up tospeed real quick, because you
know we only have, we're limitedon time yeah, well, pretty much
there's been a bunch of this,last time unacceptable and
unforgivable behavior that'stranspired and as a result of
(01:24):
that, it's's taken a toll on myfamily and you know, it's just
been a trying time.
It was like you know,regardless of the fact of
forgiving and everything else,it just seems like she has more
interest in this other personwho she's with, who't even
(01:46):
afford to, you know, take careof us, her boss from work, but
you know he has an establishmentwhich is fairly new and he's
married at that, and support himwhile I'm supporting my wife.
You know what I'm saying.
So it's like you got two peasin a pod who can't do it on
their own by themselves.
(02:08):
They still need somebody tosupport, but they're playing a
very dangerous game, you know.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Right.
So you're saying he's marriedalso her boss Right, with four
kids, with four kids and he'ssupporting his family and then
messing with your wife, right?
Or someone is supporting himand he's supporting his family
and then messing with your wifeRight, or someone is supporting
him and he's messing with him.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
His wife is help supporting him.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Wow, yeah, so his wife is helping to support him
while he run a business.
Meanwhile he's chasing.
Your wife Is that right, right.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Well, they're kind of chasing each other.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Oh, so your wife is chasing him and he's chasing
your wife, right?
So let me ask you now have theyactually gotten together and
done anything yet, or they'rejust, you know, playing this
little touch and go game?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Yeah, no, they actually got together and done
something in like December of 24.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
December of 24.
Now, if I have this correctly,you spoke to your wife about
this and she eventually coppedto the fact that she done
something.
Is that right?
That's correct, okay.
So now, after she copped to thefact that she's done it with
her boss, she promised you, if Ihave this correctly, that it's
(03:42):
not going to happen again, orshe said no more.
And then what happened?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
yeah, that they got it, you know she, she spoke to
him or whatever, and that youknow, moving forward, none of
this would have made a mistake.
And then, um, you know I wasjust, I didn't turn a blind eye
to it, but you know, I had, Ihave clothes and I'm just
watching the situation clearly.
And then I seen, like afterthat time, where she was
(04:08):
sleeping with him.
Two weeks later I saw herkissing him in the parking lot
wow, now wait, wait, wait.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
How did you see her kissing him in the parking lot?
Speaker 2 (04:20):
oh, because um, on the car it has cameras from
factory and I was able to enablethe camera and then saw them
kissing in the parking lot.
So I just screen recorded.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Wow, wow, now has she seen these cameras.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
She's seen them, but they're part of the car, so has
she seen the footage from thecameras is what I meant to say I
showed her and then she triedto play it off like, oh, we just
said goodbye and I was likefive times oh, so there was five
kisses going on yeah, and likewhen he tried to turn around and
leave, like she grabbed his armand like kind of like spun him
(05:01):
around in her direction, likedon't go yet, man, again, you
know and this is wow.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
This is after they've already been caught.
She's admitted to it.
She promised that she wasn'tgoing to do it again, but now
you catch him again.
After what's the distance intime from the time she said she
wasn't going to do it againuntil the time that you caught
it now with the cameras on hervehicle?
Speaker 2 (05:29):
It was two weeks after that, wow.
So obviously it's more thanmeets the eye with that.
The feelings that's involved,you know it's more intense than
what I even thought.
You know because you know it'sjust, it's just too frequent.
You know what I'm saying andyou know just recently, when was
(05:51):
it?
Last March?
Yeah, last week, you know, Ihad activated the cameras again
and then it showed him they wastalking in the back of the car
and then he came up to her andgave her like a kiss on the
cheek, but she didn't even move.
She didn't do anything.
And in most cases, any womanwith common sense or some kind
(06:12):
of empathy, knowing that you didsomething wrong or cheated on
your husband, you would try toshow your good foot forward.
You know like, I'm not doingthis, no more.
Look, you got to trust me.
She would have moved back orbeen like nah, you know it's
good or whatever, but she juststood there and let him kiss her
.
And then, when I saw that andquestioned her about it, she was
like but I'm not doing anythingwrong and I'm like of course
you are.
This is a person who previouslyfucked you, you kissed him and
(06:36):
you still like around him andyou keep telling me you're not
doing that wrong.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Wow wow.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Now let me ask you.
You said he's married.
Do you think his wife has anyidea what's going on?
Absolutely not, and if I toldher she would, um, his wife
would, like I don't know,probably end up putting the
beats on my wife.
You know, know what I mean?
Just on GP alone.
Right right, your wife stillworks with him after all this.
Well, she's not working in thejob, she's doing like marketing
(07:15):
for him.
So the marketing she does itdoesn't require her to be there,
but the fact is is that she'sstill involved some way with
that establishment.
So since he owns thatestablishment, he's involved
with him.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
So why is she no longer working with him anymore?
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Because the rest of the what you call it that's what
she likes to do.
He likes that marketing stuffand she likes that environment
that she's in.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Oh, so she chose to pull out of the job or the
position that she had with himto do marketing and not what she
was doing before, because, if Ihave this correctly, before she
was like a manager or hostessor something of the company
right, she was a manager of thecompany, right.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
What happened was it's not that she pulled out,
it's that his wife had putpressure on him to let her go.
That's why she pulled out.
It's not she pulled out becauseshe wanted to.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Why did the wife put pressure on him?
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Because his daughter was working there.
And then he had her fire thedaughter, when he should have
did it, but he put her to do hisdirty work.
And then, when the wife foundout about it, the daughter went
to the mother crying like, ohyou know, she fired me, she did
this and blah, blah and all ofthis other shit.
And then, you know, the wifehad to talk with her.
(08:39):
It was like you know, like youdon't cross family, you got to
go.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Unbelievable, unbelievable.
So now she fired her boss whoowns the restaurant.
She fired her boss's daughterand he got his wife got tight
turned around and fired her, butshe's still working with him.
(09:04):
And did the wife get suspiciousat all by her just firing the
daughter, knowing that that'shis daughter?
Did the wife?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
She got suspicious because some of the staff
members had said that you knowthey see him drinking wine
together and all of this othershit you know by the bar.
Right.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Wow, and so now moving forward.
Okay, so she's doing marketing.
So she kind of like pulledherself out of the environment,
which gives her, I would presume, less time to be with him,
(09:48):
right, and more time to work onthe business in the marketing
aspect.
Right, is that working?
Is, are they staying apart, orthat's not working either.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Well, you know, she still goes there from time to
time because the marketing, ifshe's got to do, she's going to
update stuff, you know, on thesocial media, because that's all
the stuff that she controls.
You know she's the one doingall of that, right?
But you know, the other daythis was like around God's day,
(10:23):
she, you know, I had my deviceor whatever in the vehicle and
then I heard them, like you know, they was eating sushi in the
car, as they was eating sushi inthe car or whatever, like I
heard, like moans you know whatI'm saying Like mmm, mmm, you
(10:46):
know stuff like that, no, soit's just like at this point, I
just think it's a wrap.
You know what I'm sayingBecause you know.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
That's the thing Once again how long have you guys
been married?
Speaker 2 (11:01):
For 19 years.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
You've been married for 19 years and you have how
many children together?
Two.
And how old is your oldest?
18.
And your youngest Three.
Wow, so this kind of went sourbasically within the past three
years.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Right.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
And how long she's been with this boss.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Well, they've been working together for like about
a year now.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
So it actually went sour within the past two years.
Now, what do you plan to do atthis point?
Do you want to rekindle yourmarriage?
Do you want to let her go?
Speaker 2 (11:43):
It sounds like she's gone already.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I mean, so what do you want to do at this point?
Because I mean, I feel you'rehanging on to nothing.
And she's still living with you, right, Yep?
So what do you want to do atthis point?
What do you think is your bestmove?
Because obviously you haven'tthrown her out and you're doing
(12:09):
a lot of detective work here andyou're finding out a lot of
stuff, so I'm presuming that youstill have a lot of feelings
for her.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Well, I do.
But you know, like with thestuff that I've uncovered or
whatever, like that, it kind ofmakes the feelings go void, you
know, because you can't lovesomebody that don't love you.
You know, that's just stupidthat's a good point, you know
what I'm saying.
At that point, when you see thesituation clearly, you kind of
make your determination to thesituation clearly.
(12:38):
You kind of make yourdetermination to push that or
leave that and, being that thefact that I tried to push that
and have her do better, shedidn't do so, so now you got to
leave that.
You got to be firm on what.
You leave that because youcan't let feelings complicate
the situation.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Yeah, excellent, very well put.
So the last issue that you'vehad is that she was eating sushi
with him in the car and you'rehearing these moaning and
groaning sounds in thebackground, and this was around
(13:21):
Valentine's Day.
So far, so good.
Yep, well, is it possible?
Maybe it could have been a lovesong that was playing in the
background, or something.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Absolutely not.
I mean even sushi.
You know the whole duration ofthe time well, 80% of it, you
know.
You just don't eat sushi and gommm, like I mean it's not that
fucking good, you know.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Sushi's not that good , huh no.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
Unless somebody's eating her sushi, and that's how
she's acting.
You know that's when you getthat, mmm that's where the mmm
come in.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
Huh, exactly, wow.
And so, moving forward, what doyou think would be your best
move at this point?
What's going to be?
Are you going to continue tomonitor and build a case on this
, or you're just about done?
We got about three minutes left.
(14:28):
What is your next move fromthis point?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Well, I figured at this point here I think she's
pretty much done with thismarriage and I'm pretty much
done with the fucking abuse andI just think that it's just fair
enough to say, because she's socomfortable, to get her out of
that comfort zone, divorce herass, and then I'll be able to
(14:52):
move forward strategically,meaning like things for the kids
and everything else, becauselove don't live here anymore.
You know what I mean.
She's with her continuedbehavior, after you know, giving
her signs and telling her whatshe's done wrong and give her
the option to change herself andbeing at the fact that she
(15:13):
didn't.
It shows that you obviouslylike what you're doing.
So if you like it that much,you like it, I love it, keep on.
You know what I'm saying.
You like it, I love it, keep on.
You know what I'm saying.
But there's a cost to it.
There's definitely a cost.
You know what I'm saying.
And her comfortability is just.
You know, with me here payingeverything and doing all of what
I'm doing.
You know what I'm saying.
(15:34):
It's just.
You know.
There's just no help.
There's just no help.
There's no contribute.
You know she's not contributingto anything.
You're just comfortable.
You're just here, like you know.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
So you know it's just time to check out.
I mean, I think she checked outa while ago, but now that you
know I finally came to gripswith that, now it's time for me
to just check out.
Right, right, you know youcan't just remain in some just
for the fact that you know youlove a person, or love them, or
whatever the case is, or evenjust for the kids.
(16:04):
You can't sit there and letyourself be susceptible to, you
know, like abuse, cause that's adifferent form of abuse.
It ain't like beating your ass,but it's just a different form
of abuse.
And when they go on like you'redoing the things that they doing
, it shows clearly and presentlythey have no respect for you as
a person right right so at thatpoint you know what I'm saying
(16:26):
I mean I don't need, I don't youknow, I don't need no receipt
to take me back to the store.
You know what I mean.
Like if this is how you feeland you show me you don't have
no respect by what you're doingand on top of that, you're not
even respecting your kidsbecause you're doing shit and
you got a family.
You know what I'm saying.
You gotta hold for the higheststandards.
(16:50):
You got kids.
I wouldn't want my daughtergrowing up like that and
thinking it's okay to, when shegets married, to cheat on her
husband because mommy did itright kids emulate.
mother is the face of God tominds of all children, and
they're going to tend to dowhatever their mother does or
(17:10):
whatever their father does.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
That's true.
I hear the daughter.
That's your daughter, right?
Yep, yeah, I hear your daughterin the background.
So you're currently, as wespeak, you're taking care of the
child.
Where is she?
Is she anywhere around?
Speaker 2 (17:26):
She had a meeting to go to Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
She's with the boss now.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Nah, she's with other co-workers or whatever
different business she got, ohokay.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
So listen, I really appreciate you coming back on
and bringing us up to date.
I'm sure the audience is goingto be amazed at what just went
down, and they've been waitingpatiently to hear the details of
how this is going.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Absolutely, you know.
It's just a thing they couldalways just keep in mind Always
love yourself first.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
Right.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
And everything else will fall into place, because
then you'll have a clear mindwhere you can assess the
situation clearly and know thatthe way you're moving, it's 100%
without changing direction,because you already know what
you're dealing with.
You just got to know how toaccept it and make what's
happening a reality in both youreyes and that person's eyes.
(18:32):
Because you know what I'velearned.
You know what I've learned whenyou're with a person and
married to that person.
And if they give youunforgivable behavior like that,
like cheating and all of thatother stuff, and if you say you
know what, fuck you andda-da-da-da-da, I'm not going to
(18:53):
deal with this shit, no more,I'm leaving.
And then your ass, don't leave.
They could do that shit againbecause you didn't leave the
first time after some major shit.
So they're going to keep goingsome major shit.
So they're going to keep going,right, you know what I'm saying
.
And the more they keep going,then you don't show them what
the fuck they're really dealingwith.
Think it's a game, becausethey're going to be like he
(19:14):
ain't going to go nowhere, he'sjust going to get mad, blow up
shit.
He's still going to be here,still paying the shit.
I'm still going to be heredoing my shit.
Love yourself.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Right, right, wow, we're going to check back with
you in a couple of weeks.
Big T, I really once againappreciate you coming in and
bringing us up to date.
This is the end of this episode, though, and look forward.
We should have it uploaded andyou should be live in a day or
(19:52):
two.
Once again, keep your eye onthose comments and let's see
what the audience has to say.
Thanks again, big T, for comingin.
This is what Part of the Game,is that?
And I'm your host, og Go, andwe're out, thank you.
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