December 13, 2024 • 18 mins
What happens when the foundation of trust in a marriage begins to crumble? This episode takes you on an emotional journey through the lives of a marrie couple navigating the stormy waters of marital infidelity. First, we hear a gripping tale about a private investigator who never imagined he would need his professional skills to uncover signs of betrayal within his own home. After 18 years of marriage, peculiar late-night returns and admiration for a colleague/boss raise alarm bells, propelling him into a heart-wrenching quest for truth. The tension mounts as hidden conversations come to light, revealing the painful reality of emotional infidelity that threatens to unravel the life he once knew.
Our second story introduces Mr. T, a man caught in the turmoil of discovering his wife's unfaithfulness. His initial confrontation is met with tearful apologies, sparking a glimmer of hope for reconciliation. Yet, this hope is brutally dashed just weeks later as he finds her entangled again with her boss. Through Mr. T's poignant narrative, we explore the complex dynamics of trust and forgiveness in relationships put to the test. His resilience and courage in the face of repeated betrayal echo through this saga, leaving us pondering the resilience of the human heart and the challenging path to healing. Don't miss these compelling tales of heartache and the indomitable quest for answers.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Here we go.
Ladies and gentlemen, you knowwhat time it is.
It's your pod host, og GOAT,and we have a story for you
today.
I have a friend of mine who ismarried for a good 18 years.
He's been with his wife.
He's supported his family likea man's supposed to do.
(00:27):
He raised the children whilethe wife goes out and makes a
living.
He bought a house, several carsto have in the family house,
(01:16):
several cars to have in thefamily, and then one day, after
about 18 years, she job, only tofind out later that she is at
dream job.
I mean all the years it took toget to this point and to throw
it away on something I'm goingto have to say trivial, guys.
Something so trivial when itcomes to 18 years in a marriage.
Yes, one night stand is trivial.
(01:40):
I don't care how you think youfeel about the other person,
it's trivial.
But you know what, guys?
I'm already into this ongoingconversation with this gentleman
.
I want you to hear it.
Okay, so you got this feelingand she came home a little tipsy
(02:02):
.
She came home a little tipsyand she came home tipsy from
what?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
hanging out with the girls one night or well, I was
hanging out like her job, youknow oh, she came home tipsy
from work right now.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Do you think she came home directly from work or do
you think she went out after?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
work.
She came home directly fromwork.
Or whatever she works in wentout after work.
She came home directly fromwork, or whatever she works in
the food industry oh okay, allright, understood okay.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
So now she comes in tipsy, and then what happened?
Speaker 2 (02:33):
so then after she came home, tipsy whatever like
you know she was talking about,like you know she was starving,
so she came home it's like 12something at night, like 12, 15,
midnight.
So I was just like, first Ifound it a little bit weird
because you know, this is thefirst time she's ever worked in
like the food industry and thefirst time I've ever heard of
(02:54):
like you know, like a job whereyou come in and later, you know,
in the middle of the night,Right right.
Exactly, and by the middle ofthe night, you mean, like what
time?
Like you know, like 12 after 12midnight, you know, like it
just was a little, it just was alittle weird for me, you know
wow and uh, and she normallygets off of work around what
(03:15):
time?
Well, it depends.
Like normally she'll get off ofwork at like the pennings, like
they'll close at like 9 pm, butyou know there's no way you
should be getting home at like12 am.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
And how far are you from her job?
15 minutes, whoa, and so youdidn't have no idea of any
extracurricular activities afterwork.
She didn't mention anythinglike that Anything.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Right.
So so you know, it became athing to where you know I got um
, I got suspicious because I'mlike you know, it's just like,
don't make no sense.
You know what I'm saying right,right, definitely so this night
that she came home tipsy, shewas just like um, oh, did you um
make anything to eat orwhatever?
So I'm like no, because youknow it's 12 o'clock at night,
(04:10):
but you know what am I going tomake for food?
I didn't know what time you'dcome home.
You know what I'm saying.
So then she had made a comment,I guess, where she worked out
in the food industry.
Like you know whoever herperson was, she, you know
whoever like her person was.
She was like oh they, um, thankGod that they made food to me.
And she said the person's nameand I was just like why would
(04:34):
you mention another man's nameabout how he made you food and
everything else?
And, like you know, you actedreal shady towards me.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Wait, wait a minute.
So this other man it was one ofthe waiters or something- Well,
Wait a minute.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
So this other man it was one of the waiters or
something.
Well, I guess one of thewaiters, or yeah, something or
whatever that worked in theindustry that she works in.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Oh, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
You know, at her job.
So when she told me that, itthrew me so I was just like, wow
, like you know, like you'rebringing up this person and like
you're talking, you know, likein so much positive praises with
them, and person, and likeyou're talking, you know, like
in so much positive praises withthem, and that struck me a
little bit odd, because you knowyou don't do that with me.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Yeah, yeah, you know what I mean.
So, um, so after she said that,it made me really wary.
So I said you know what?
Um, by trade, I'm a privateinvestigator and everything else
.
So I guess she probably forgotthat you know what I mean,
because sometimes when you'rewith somebody long enough, you
(05:31):
get too comfortable and youforget how it started.
Right exactly, and so I putsome listening devices inside
the vehicle and, uh, less than24 hours, I got exactly what I
what I didn't want to hear yougot a hit big time wow now big
(05:55):
time now you say big time.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
I mean like what was involved in this hit?
Or I mean, what did you hearpeople want to know?
I want to know.
I mean, what did you hearPeople want to know?
I want to know.
What did you hear?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Tell me you didn't hear what I think you heard.
Well, no, I didn't hear likesexual acts, but I heard.
What I did hear was her talkingabout you know how come he
doesn't talk about it the nextday?
And he was just like you know,like talk about it, what do you
want to talk about?
And she was just like you know,like talk about it what you
want to talk about.
(06:30):
And she was just like you knowshe repeated again.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I just want to know how come you don't talk about it
the next day after some reallygood stuff?
Well, was it the restaurantfood, maybe?
Speaker 2 (06:37):
that's a delectable.
You're talking about somethingdelectable.
You're talking about food.
She's talking about some reallygood stuff as as if it was food
.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
You would just say that Right, but it wasn't food.
Oh okay, I see where you'regoing with this.
I see how you're going.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You know what I mean.
And then later on in theconversation he was telling her,
like you know, like, did shelike play with herself when she
was doing like autopilot in hercar?
And then she was like,absolutely, she was like, after
that moment I had to.
So I was just bugging it when Iheard that I was just like wow,
(07:12):
I was like yo, this, this shitreally went down.
Wow, you know what I'm saying.
And then she had later told him, like you know, um, because I
guess he called her jealous andstuff like that.
So she had told him, you know,you must have never loved
(07:33):
someone before to know whypeople get jealous.
So then it went through my mindso you're saying you love him
and that's why you act in acertain way with him when he's
around other people.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
You know what.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
I mean Like you get that jealous, or whatever.
You know what I'm saying, soget that jealous, or whatever.
You know what I'm saying.
So I'm hearing all of thisstuff firsthand and it's like it
just built its own blueprint.
You know what I mean, becauseit's like you just know what
happened.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Yes, definitely.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
You just know what happened and stuff like that.
And then she had told him lateron, like you know, she was like
a jealousness doesn't come fromlike whoever he talks to or
whatever she says, it comes fromthe attraction and love that
she has for a person and she waslike and I'm attracted to you.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Wow.
Now let's get a clear focus onthis.
This is your wife we're talkingabout.
You guys are married, or thisis your girlfriend?
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Nah, this is wife Married.
Yeah, Everything.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Do you have children with this woman?
Two, this wife.
Yep, wow, and how long have youguys been together?
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Since 2006.
Married 18 years 18 years yepWow.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Okay, go ahead.
Finish the story.
So what happens next?
Speaker 2 (08:55):
So then what happened next is that I had approached
her with it you know what I meanand I was just like yo, what
the fuck is going on?
Why did you say whatever?
She's playing dumb.
She didn't understand.
And I played the recording andshe was just like what the fuck
is going on, you know, like whydid you say whatever?
She's like, you know, playingdumb, like she didn't understand
, and I played the recording andshe was just like I'm sorry,
you know.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
And I'm like you know , like she heard the recording
and she says I'm sorry, right?
Speaker 2 (09:19):
She says I'm sorry.
I'm like you know, like all ofthis time he was telling me
cause.
I had asked her before, likeare you having an affair?
Cause after I heard it Iimmediately started questioning
her.
You know what I'm saying.
So I'm like yo, do you have anaffair?
She was like no.
I was like are you fucking yourboss?
She was like no, that's my boss.
He writes my paychecks Likethat should change from what's
(09:42):
wrong to I'm sorry.
You know what I mean.
You're trying to gaslight me,to get me to believe one thing,
and it's not what it is.
You know, like that term, whoyou thought was them really?
Ain't they playing deja vu withthe games people play, you know
?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
And it was that type of shit misdirection.
You know, let me throw him offthe trail.
So this way he thinks somethingdifferent.
He thinks something different.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
And then she comes back to cop what she just did.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Exactly After she heard.
The recording is like no wayout.
Right, right, unbelievable.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
So now, so, so now when she cops to it.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
How do you take it from there?
What do you do?
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Do you forgive her or what do you do?
I was in a state of shock.
You know what I'm saying.
Pretty much it's like when youhear something so detrimental
like that, it's like a huge blow, you know, because you start
questioning yourself what did Ido wrong?
What made her do this or whydid she do it?
You know what I'm saying untilI realized that.
You know I mean don't get mewrong I cheated before 15 years
(10:49):
ago.
You know what I mean.
Okay, and she brings that up,like when I'm talking about a
current situation, she's talkingabout something from 15 years
ago.
So I'm like, oh, this, thisshit is, um, like revenge kind
of thing.
You know what I mean, becausewhy are you bringing up
something from 15 years?
How is that helping you now?
Speaker 1 (11:06):
okay, so she forgave the situation that you did when
you cheated.
She forgave you forget for thatright, but she didn't forget
right now is it possible thatthis could be a revenge from
that.
But would you wait, even wait15 years, to implement a revenge
(11:30):
tactic or on that?
Or do you think you have carteblanche now that you have one
get out of jail free cardbecause you cheated?
I mean, what do you think isgoing through her mind?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
well, I think that, um, I asked her, was it a
revenge thing, and everythingelse.
So she said no, it's not arevenge thing, or whatever the
case is that.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
So she said no, it's not a revenge thing, that this
is just just something,something stupid that happened,
right, because you did mentionshe fell for the guy because of
certain situations or certainfeelings she had for the guy,
right, okay, okay.
(12:15):
So now you know she had thisrelationship with this man, you
know it's sexual.
Okay, you have the recordingand what do you do at this point
?
I mean, are you looking toforgive her as she forgave you?
What do you do?
I mean, you guys been togetherfor 18 long years.
(12:40):
I mean that's a lot of timejust to throw away.
So how do you handle this?
Just to throw away?
So how do you handle?
Speaker 2 (12:48):
this?
Yeah, no, exactly, you know, 18years is, you know, too long of
a time, but then, at the sametoken, you know what is time.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Hmm.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Yeah, if you can throw it away that easy?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
what is time right?
So are you going to continuewith your marriage?
Are you going to forgive her?
What's the next step in thatsaga?
I mean, the whole thing is like.
(13:29):
I mean your wife for 18 yearscheated on you with the boss and
you're the one that built anopportunity for her to make
something of herself so she cando while you take care of the
kids.
I mean, you're going through alot right now for a wife to do
that to you.
I mean, what part of the gameis this?
(13:50):
And you know, it seems likeyour relationship or your
cheating was prior to having thechildren, am I correct, right?
So she cheated after you hadyour children, and how many
children you said you have nowTwo.
Two with the same woman, yes,with your children.
And how many children you saidyou have now Two.
Two with the same woman, yes,with your wife.
(14:10):
And her cheating is after youhad the two children, correct?
Wow, folks, this is a saga likeno other.
I mean 18 years with the wife.
What part of the game is that?
Let me ask you a question Is theboss married, does he have a
(14:34):
girlfriend or he's a singleavailable guy?
What's going on with the boss?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Well, and here's the other thing.
The boss is married, he's withhis wife I think about seven
years or 15 years or somethinglike that and has four kids with
his wife.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Oh, wow, this is deeper than any television show
I've ever seen Go ahead.
So he's living with his wifeand he is.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
So you know he has four children, you know.
So you know my whole thing ofit is is like OK, do you leave
her, get the force.
That do you know, what do youdo?
You know what I'm saying.
So I say you know what us.
That do you?
You know what do you do?
You know what I'm saying.
So I said you know what.
She was crying and talkingabout how sorry she was about
(15:31):
the infidelity, and um, I thentold her I said, listen, you
know, she was like I movingforward.
I promise you I won't be doingthis again and everything else.
So you know, I know I wasn'tgoing to forgive so fast, but
you know, again I was very angry.
So I said you know what, let mejust see how things go.
(15:53):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Right, right, I'm sorry to tell you this sounds
like a train wreck, but go ahead.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
No, but it is what it is.
So you know, like I'm listeningto is.
So you know, like I'm listeningto her, and you know I felt a
little bad because I know, hey,you know what First time you got
caught this is probablysomething that you know,
whatever.
So I didn't like let her know,like, okay, look, I'm just, you
know, like I'm over it, becauseI wasn't, but I just wasn't
entertaining it to the extent ofso you're doing your best to
(16:26):
forgive her.
Trying to right Okay.
So I said you know what, Let mejust watch and see whatever the
case is or whatever.
So you know she's going to workand she was crying and you know
she's so sorry and movingforward like she said it's not
going to be happening again,okay, so keep this off your face
(16:48):
.
So you know me, I'm justwatching out because I just know
sometimes people just talk shitand they just say one thing and
do another and you're a shit.
Less than two weeks later Icatch her again with the same
dude.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
With the same dude.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Her dude With the same dude, her boss With the
same dude, her boss.
And this time I had it on video, not the sexual act, but it was
them kissing in the parking lot.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Oh my goodness, Hold on, mr T.
This is getting deeper anddeeper than I ever could have
imagined.
Mr T, we have to end thissession right here, but we're
going to come back.
Folks, you have to stay tunedfor part two.
This is out of control.
What part of the game is that,in a marriage, your wife cheats
(17:45):
after you had two childrentogether and after you made a
way for her to do something forherself and to be successful
while you take care of yourchildren?
Right, mr T, I have to commendyou on what you're doing.
I'm sorry you're going throughthis, but listen, I can't wait
(18:06):
to hear part two.
Thank you for coming on theshow today, mr T.
No problem, and we'll talk toyou soon.
And remember, folks, this isyour pod host, og Goat, and we
want to know what part of thegame is that we're out.
Here we go.
Ladies and gentlemen, you knowwhat time it is.
It's your pod host, og GOAT,and we have a story for you
today.
I have a friend of mine who ismarried for a good 18 years.
He's been with his wife.
He's supported his family likea man's supposed to do.
(00:27):
He raised the children whilethe wife goes out and makes a
living.
He bought a house, several carsto have in the family house,
(01:16):
several cars to have in thefamily, and then one day, after
about 18 years, she job, only tofind out later that she is at
dream job.
I mean all the years it took toget to this point and to throw
it away on something I'm goingto have to say trivial, guys.
Something so trivial when itcomes to 18 years in a marriage.
Yes, one night stand is trivial.
(01:40):
I don't care how you think youfeel about the other person,
it's trivial.
But you know what, guys?
I'm already into this ongoingconversation with this gentleman
.
I want you to hear it.
Okay, so you got this feelingand she came home a little tipsy
(02:02):
.
She came home a little tipsyand she came home tipsy from
what?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
hanging out with the girls one night or well, I was
hanging out like her job, youknow oh, she came home tipsy
from work right now.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Do you think she came home directly from work or do
you think she went out after?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
work.
She came home directly fromwork.
Or whatever she works in wentout after work.
She came home directly fromwork, or whatever she works in
the food industry oh okay, allright, understood okay.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
So now she comes in tipsy, and then what happened?
Speaker 2 (02:33):
so then after she came home, tipsy whatever like
you know she was talking about,like you know she was starving,
so she came home it's like 12something at night, like 12, 15,
midnight.
So I was just like, first Ifound it a little bit weird
because you know, this is thefirst time she's ever worked in
like the food industry and thefirst time I've ever heard of
(02:54):
like you know, like a job whereyou come in and later, you know,
in the middle of the night,Right right.
Exactly, and by the middle ofthe night, you mean, like what
time?
Like you know, like 12 after 12midnight, you know, like it
just was a little, it just was alittle weird for me, you know
wow and uh, and she normallygets off of work around what
(03:15):
time?
Well, it depends.
Like normally she'll get off ofwork at like the pennings, like
they'll close at like 9 pm, butyou know there's no way you
should be getting home at like12 am.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
And how far are you from her job?
15 minutes, whoa, and so youdidn't have no idea of any
extracurricular activities afterwork.
She didn't mention anythinglike that Anything.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Right.
So so you know, it became athing to where you know I got um
, I got suspicious because I'mlike you know, it's just like,
don't make no sense.
You know what I'm saying right,right, definitely so this night
that she came home tipsy, shewas just like um, oh, did you um
make anything to eat orwhatever?
So I'm like no, because youknow it's 12 o'clock at night,
(04:10):
but you know what am I going tomake for food?
I didn't know what time you'dcome home.
You know what I'm saying.
So then she had made a comment,I guess, where she worked out
in the food industry.
Like you know whoever herperson was, she, you know
whoever like her person was.
She was like oh they, um, thankGod that they made food to me.
And she said the person's nameand I was just like why would
(04:34):
you mention another man's nameabout how he made you food and
everything else?
And, like you know, you actedreal shady towards me.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Wait, wait a minute.
So this other man it was one ofthe waiters or something- Well,
Wait a minute.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
So this other man it was one of the waiters or
something.
Well, I guess one of thewaiters, or yeah, something or
whatever that worked in theindustry that she works in.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Oh, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
You know, at her job.
So when she told me that, itthrew me so I was just like, wow
, like you know, like you'rebringing up this person and like
you're talking, you know, likein so much positive praises with
them, and person, and likeyou're talking, you know, like
in so much positive praises withthem, and that struck me a
little bit odd, because you knowyou don't do that with me.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Yeah, yeah, you know what I mean.
So, um, so after she said that,it made me really wary.
So I said you know what?
Um, by trade, I'm a privateinvestigator and everything else
.
So I guess she probably forgotthat you know what I mean,
because sometimes when you'rewith somebody long enough, you
(05:31):
get too comfortable and youforget how it started.
Right exactly, and so I putsome listening devices inside
the vehicle and, uh, less than24 hours, I got exactly what I
what I didn't want to hear yougot a hit big time wow now big
(05:55):
time now you say big time.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
I mean like what was involved in this hit?
Or I mean, what did you hearpeople want to know?
I want to know.
I mean, what did you hearPeople want to know?
I want to know.
What did you hear?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Tell me you didn't hear what I think you heard.
Well, no, I didn't hear likesexual acts, but I heard.
What I did hear was her talkingabout you know how come he
doesn't talk about it the nextday?
And he was just like you know,like talk about it, what do you
want to talk about?
And she was just like you know,like talk about it what you
want to talk about.
(06:30):
And she was just like you knowshe repeated again.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I just want to know how come you don't talk about it
the next day after some reallygood stuff?
Well, was it the restaurantfood, maybe?
Speaker 2 (06:37):
that's a delectable.
You're talking about somethingdelectable.
You're talking about food.
She's talking about some reallygood stuff as as if it was food
.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
You would just say that Right, but it wasn't food.
Oh okay, I see where you'regoing with this.
I see how you're going.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You know what I mean.
And then later on in theconversation he was telling her,
like you know, like, did shelike play with herself when she
was doing like autopilot in hercar?
And then she was like,absolutely, she was like, after
that moment I had to.
So I was just bugging it when Iheard that I was just like wow,
(07:12):
I was like yo, this, this shitreally went down.
Wow, you know what I'm saying.
And then she had later told him, like you know, um, because I
guess he called her jealous andstuff like that.
So she had told him, you know,you must have never loved
(07:33):
someone before to know whypeople get jealous.
So then it went through my mindso you're saying you love him
and that's why you act in acertain way with him when he's
around other people.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
You know what.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
I mean Like you get that jealous, or whatever.
You know what I'm saying, soget that jealous, or whatever.
You know what I'm saying.
So I'm hearing all of thisstuff firsthand and it's like it
just built its own blueprint.
You know what I mean, becauseit's like you just know what
happened.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Yes, definitely.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
You just know what happened and stuff like that.
And then she had told him lateron, like you know, she was like
a jealousness doesn't come fromlike whoever he talks to or
whatever she says, it comes fromthe attraction and love that
she has for a person and she waslike and I'm attracted to you.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Wow.
Now let's get a clear focus onthis.
This is your wife we're talkingabout.
You guys are married, or thisis your girlfriend?
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Nah, this is wife Married.
Yeah, Everything.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Do you have children with this woman?
Two, this wife.
Yep, wow, and how long have youguys been together?
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Since 2006.
Married 18 years 18 years yepWow.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Okay, go ahead.
Finish the story.
So what happens next?
Speaker 2 (08:55):
So then what happened next is that I had approached
her with it you know what I meanand I was just like yo, what
the fuck is going on?
Why did you say whatever?
She's playing dumb.
She didn't understand.
And I played the recording andshe was just like what the fuck
is going on, you know, like whydid you say whatever?
She's like, you know, playingdumb, like she didn't understand
, and I played the recording andshe was just like I'm sorry,
you know.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
And I'm like you know , like she heard the recording
and she says I'm sorry, right?
Speaker 2 (09:19):
She says I'm sorry.
I'm like you know, like all ofthis time he was telling me
cause.
I had asked her before, likeare you having an affair?
Cause after I heard it Iimmediately started questioning
her.
You know what I'm saying.
So I'm like yo, do you have anaffair?
She was like no.
I was like are you fucking yourboss?
She was like no, that's my boss.
He writes my paychecks Likethat should change from what's
(09:42):
wrong to I'm sorry.
You know what I mean.
You're trying to gaslight me,to get me to believe one thing,
and it's not what it is.
You know, like that term, whoyou thought was them really?
Ain't they playing deja vu withthe games people play, you know
?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
And it was that type of shit misdirection.
You know, let me throw him offthe trail.
So this way he thinks somethingdifferent.
He thinks something different.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
And then she comes back to cop what she just did.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Exactly After she heard.
The recording is like no wayout.
Right, right, unbelievable.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
So now, so, so now when she cops to it.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
How do you take it from there?
What do you do?
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Do you forgive her or what do you do?
I was in a state of shock.
You know what I'm saying.
Pretty much it's like when youhear something so detrimental
like that, it's like a huge blow, you know, because you start
questioning yourself what did Ido wrong?
What made her do this or whydid she do it?
You know what I'm saying untilI realized that.
You know I mean don't get mewrong I cheated before 15 years
(10:49):
ago.
You know what I mean.
Okay, and she brings that up,like when I'm talking about a
current situation, she's talkingabout something from 15 years
ago.
So I'm like, oh, this, thisshit is, um, like revenge kind
of thing.
You know what I mean, becausewhy are you bringing up
something from 15 years?
How is that helping you now?
Speaker 1 (11:06):
okay, so she forgave the situation that you did when
you cheated.
She forgave you forget for thatright, but she didn't forget
right now is it possible thatthis could be a revenge from
that.
But would you wait, even wait15 years, to implement a revenge
(11:30):
tactic or on that?
Or do you think you have carteblanche now that you have one
get out of jail free cardbecause you cheated?
I mean, what do you think isgoing through her mind?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
well, I think that, um, I asked her, was it a
revenge thing, and everythingelse.
So she said no, it's not arevenge thing, or whatever the
case is that.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
So she said no, it's not a revenge thing, that this
is just just something,something stupid that happened,
right, because you did mentionshe fell for the guy because of
certain situations or certainfeelings she had for the guy,
right, okay, okay.
(12:15):
So now you know she had thisrelationship with this man, you
know it's sexual.
Okay, you have the recordingand what do you do at this point
?
I mean, are you looking toforgive her as she forgave you?
What do you do?
I mean, you guys been togetherfor 18 long years.
(12:40):
I mean that's a lot of timejust to throw away.
So how do you handle this?
Just to throw away?
So how do you handle?
Speaker 2 (12:48):
this?
Yeah, no, exactly, you know, 18years is, you know, too long of
a time, but then, at the sametoken, you know what is time.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Hmm.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Yeah, if you can throw it away that easy?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
what is time right?
So are you going to continuewith your marriage?
Are you going to forgive her?
What's the next step in thatsaga?
I mean, the whole thing is like.
(13:29):
I mean your wife for 18 yearscheated on you with the boss and
you're the one that built anopportunity for her to make
something of herself so she cando while you take care of the
kids.
I mean, you're going through alot right now for a wife to do
that to you.
I mean, what part of the gameis this?
(13:50):
And you know, it seems likeyour relationship or your
cheating was prior to having thechildren, am I correct, right?
So she cheated after you hadyour children, and how many
children you said you have nowTwo.
Two with the same woman, yes,with your children.
And how many children you saidyou have now Two.
Two with the same woman, yes,with your wife.
(14:10):
And her cheating is after youhad the two children, correct?
Wow, folks, this is a saga likeno other.
I mean 18 years with the wife.
What part of the game is that?
Let me ask you a question Is theboss married, does he have a
(14:34):
girlfriend or he's a singleavailable guy?
What's going on with the boss?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Well, and here's the other thing.
The boss is married, he's withhis wife I think about seven
years or 15 years or somethinglike that and has four kids with
his wife.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Oh, wow, this is deeper than any television show
I've ever seen Go ahead.
So he's living with his wifeand he is.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
So you know he has four children, you know.
So you know my whole thing ofit is is like OK, do you leave
her, get the force.
That do you know, what do youdo?
You know what I'm saying.
So I say you know what us.
That do you?
You know what do you do?
You know what I'm saying.
So I said you know what.
She was crying and talkingabout how sorry she was about
(15:31):
the infidelity, and um, I thentold her I said, listen, you
know, she was like I movingforward.
I promise you I won't be doingthis again and everything else.
So you know, I know I wasn'tgoing to forgive so fast, but
you know, again I was very angry.
So I said you know what, let mejust see how things go.
(15:53):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Right, right, I'm sorry to tell you this sounds
like a train wreck, but go ahead.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
No, but it is what it is.
So you know, like I'm listeningto is.
So you know, like I'm listeningto her, and you know I felt a
little bad because I know, hey,you know what First time you got
caught this is probablysomething that you know,
whatever.
So I didn't like let her know,like, okay, look, I'm just, you
know, like I'm over it, becauseI wasn't, but I just wasn't
entertaining it to the extent ofso you're doing your best to
(16:26):
forgive her.
Trying to right Okay.
So I said you know what, Let mejust watch and see whatever the
case is or whatever.
So you know she's going to workand she was crying and you know
she's so sorry and movingforward like she said it's not
going to be happening again,okay, so keep this off your face
(16:48):
.
So you know me, I'm justwatching out because I just know
sometimes people just talk shitand they just say one thing and
do another and you're a shit.
Less than two weeks later Icatch her again with the same
dude.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
With the same dude.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Her dude With the same dude, her boss With the
same dude, her boss.
And this time I had it on video, not the sexual act, but it was
them kissing in the parking lot.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Oh my goodness, Hold on, mr T.
This is getting deeper anddeeper than I ever could have
imagined.
Mr T, we have to end thissession right here, but we're
going to come back.
Folks, you have to stay tunedfor part two.
This is out of control.
What part of the game is that,in a marriage, your wife cheats
(17:45):
after you had two childrentogether and after you made a
way for her to do something forherself and to be successful
while you take care of yourchildren?
Right, mr T, I have to commendyou on what you're doing.
I'm sorry you're going throughthis, but listen, I can't wait
(18:06):
to hear part two.
Thank you for coming on theshow today, mr T.
No problem, and we'll talk toyou soon.
And remember, folks, this isyour pod host, og Goat, and we
want to know what part of thegame is that we're out.
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