Day 12 - New Beginnings and Twelve Drummers - Kellums & Grossi Podcast

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
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Speaker 2 (00:32):
Hello and welcome to today's episode of the what
Women Want Today podcast.
For those of you who may be newhere, welcome.
I'm your host of the podcastand for my regular listeners,
I'm so thankful that you join mefor day 12, the final episode
in the series the 12 Days ofChristmas.
Holy cow, it is freezing herein Southern Arizona today.

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I went out for my morningsunrise walk and it was 21
degrees While I was out.
I remember that I haven't evenmentioned to you that our lovely
co-host is currently inPutacana, dominican Republic,
probably walking on the beach.
Maybe we can get her to post apicture on our Facebook group

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page.
So I have a question for youtoday have you ever gotten a
tattoo?
Most of you probably don't knowthat I have a couple of them.
Why would you?
But they are both in a spotthat people would not normally
see, and I've gotten somereactions from people in the
past that don't really see me assomeone who would get a tattoo.
I myself never thought I wouldget a tattoo until I was in my

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early 40s.
I found myself in Kansas City,missouri, stopping at a
convenience store to get one ofthose little mini bottles of
wine for some liquid courage.
Well, let's back up a step.
I had been talking to Brian, myhusband, about this for a
little while.
He kind of planted the seedduring some very funny text
message conversations we hadwhen we first started dating,

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and everyone that I mentioned toyou said well, what's it going
to be?
You know, your tattoo has tohave meaning.
It needs to mean something toyou personally.
I thought I didn't know that asmy mind was flashing to people
I knew that had tattoos.
I started asking people what isthe significance of your tattoo
?
What does it mean to you?
And it turns out this is a veryinteresting conversation to

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have and you could learn somethings about a person you might
not otherwise have ever known.
Anyway, I ended up getting atattoo across the top of my back
, between my shoulders, of thelotus flower, and the lotus
flower represents new beginnings, and that is what we are
talking about today.
My friend, by the way, I am inno way recommending a tattoo,

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but I do love the idea ofrecognizing a new beginning with
something significant.
For a while now, maybe sincelate fall, I've had this feeling
and I struggled to put it intowords, but I'm really going to
give it a shot here.
For you today, this feeling isit feels like something is not
quite right and I know this isso silly, but like, have you

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ever had an item of clothing inyour closet that you really
loved when you bought it?
But you've had it for a longtime and you just kind of keep
it in there because I don't knowyou loved it right?
But now here, years later, whenyou go to pull it out of your
closet and you put it on, itjust doesn't feel right anymore.
And for me, along with thatfeeling of still trying to wear

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this old, beloved item ofclothing, I also feel a sense of
restlessness that I can't quiteput my finger on.
But I'm okay with this becausethis means I've grown in my own
self-awareness and it means thatI'm open and preparing for
change.
Now my husband will admitreadily to you that he does not
like change.
He even notices if I move apiece of furniture or change the

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bedding, and I asked him why.
And he said well, if it's notbroke, why fix it?
And my response was well, maybeit's not broke, but what if it
could be better?
His resistance to change ispolar opposite of my desire to
continually look for ways toimprove.
When we talk about the newdesign items for our new home
build we're working on, he wouldgladly recreate the home we

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built back in 2014 because inhis mind, it all worked together
.
Why reinvent the wheel?
But to me, those items workedat the time, but since then I've
been exposed to new things andnew design inspiration.
Do you know why a snake shedsits skin?
It's because, even though thesnake continues to grow, its

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skin does not, so they shedtheir skin to create a new,
roomier skin layer.
It also helps them to removeparasites, but that's probably a
different topic altogether.
Sometimes, before you are readyfor a new beginning, you have
to shed some things that are nolonger working for you and,
spoiler alert, that probablymeans change.

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When I tried to get Brian to godeeper on his resistance to
change, he said why don't youfigure out why you enjoy it so
much?
And then my reasoning isprobably completely opposite.
Touche darling, I did tell him.
By the way, this conversationwas on the record and probably

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would be discussed duringtoday's episode.
Okay, so let's talk aboutresistance to change, because
understanding often leads toacceptance.
Resistance to change is verycommon and tends to become more
pronounced as we age and it canstem from various psychological,

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emotional and even practicalreasons.
But I'm going to give you fourcommon reasons why people resist
change.
Okay.
Number one fear of the unknown.
Change often introducesuncertainty and the unknown can
be frightening for some people.
They may resist change becausethey're unsure of what the new

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situation will bring.
Okay, number two loss ofcontrol.
Change can make people feellike they are losing control
over their circumstances, andthe loss of autonomy can be
uncomfortable and lead toresistance.
Number three comfort with thefamiliar.
People often find comfort andsecurity in the familiar.

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Change disrupts routines andthe status quo, causing
discomfort for those who preferstability.
Okay.
Number four risk aversion.
Change often involves a levelof risk and some individuals are
naturally risk averse.
Fear of failure or negativeconsequences can lead to
resistance.

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We started this journey togetherby looking at the past year and
reflecting on it, maybe evenfarther back for some of us.
It is helpful to reflect onthings, to acknowledge our
behaviors and our responses tochallenges, but we don't need to
dwell on them.
Those are in the past and weare in the now.
We've learned that gratitudehelps us shift away from

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negative thoughts and helps usdevelop a positive mindset that
allows us to appreciate thepresent.
If you're like me and the Clearthe Clutter episode resonated,
you've already begundecluttering, or at least you
acknowledge where this needs tohappen.
I started here in my office Onday four.
We talked about health andreally, if we don't have our

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health, it will be the thingthat distracts us from
everything else that we want.
I was talking to a coworkerthis morning and heard that a
woman he had worked with inPhoenix died six months after
retirement, after working forthe company for 40 years.
We can't control everything,but we can control within our

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power.
We can control not just havingyears in our life, but life in
our years.
On day five, we talked aboutcreating a vision.
Whether you choose thetraditional vision board or some
digital product like Pinch'slatest or your phone, or simply
taking the time to create apowerful daydream or mind movie,
we need to take our vision andadd the details, the sights,

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sounds and smells and theemotions that we can feel when
we imagine ourselves there.
We talked about the power ofconnection and its impact on our
sense of belonging, reducingloneliness, increasing feelings
of joy and contentment, and howit helps with stress reduction,
gives us opportunities forgrowth, enhances our mental

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health.
On day eight, we visited thetopic of continued personal
growth, and on day nine, wetalked about the importance of
celebrating our achievements.
We talked about our tendenciesas Gen X and even as women, to
downplay some of our milestonesand accomplishments.
And day 10 and 11 led us tomore tangible topics like time

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management and SMART goals, toreally help us get more
intentional and granular, notonly on setting the goals and
intentions, but how we can weedout the time wasters to make
room for the sparkling visionthat we've created.
And so that brings us here tothe conclusion of our series,

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and I hope, with some of thetools that you've learned, you
will use them to move forwardthis year.
As I said in an earlier episode, I'm doing this right along
with you, so I will take thenext week to map out my goals
and intentions, but I canalready tell you that 2024 will
look different for me and forthis podcast.

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If you've enjoyed this seriesand would like me to customize a
coaching program to assist you,or maybe you're in leadership,
like I was, and you're trying toplan some activities this year
for your team and you'd like meto help with that.
Please reach out to me at ourpodcast email, which is
wwwthenumber2daypodcastcom.

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Those things are all in theshow notes.
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That's all I have for you today.
We'll see you next week.
Amanda, I don't know if thisever happens to you, but I
sometimes will learn somethingreally cool on a podcast, on a
YouTube video, audio book,whatever.
I think I'm gonna remember itand then I forget.
Does that ever happen to you?

Speaker 3 (10:52):
Yeah, I call it Brain After 40 all the time.

Speaker 2 (10:55):
That's what we'll officially call it.
But we've come up withsomething.
Do you wanna introduce it?

Speaker 3 (11:01):
Sure, it's from an app called Quick Jim Quick and
it's an acronym called FAST.

Speaker 2 (11:07):
Yeah, and it stands for Facebook.
So we're inviting youofficially right now to come
over and join us on Facebook.
Get involved with the community, share your favorite episodes
with your friends on Facebook.

Speaker 3 (11:17):
Yeah, the A is go ahead and take an action, so you
can't remember anything if youdon't act.

Speaker 2 (11:23):
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Make sure you're subscribed toour YouTube channel.

Speaker 3 (11:27):
And then T is teach.
Teach what you've learned tosomebody else.
Share the love.

Speaker 2 (11:32):
All right, we hope that works for you.
Thank you for joining us.
We'll see you next week.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
Bye-bye.

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