December 30, 2023 • 13 mins
In this episode, host Terri Kellums discusses the importance of passion in life and how it can provide fulfillment, energy, and motivation. She shares her journey of finding her passion for helping midlife women and creating a podcast community. Terri emphasizes that not all passions lead to a purpose and suggests exploring new interests and keeping an open mind to discover passions. She also highlights the importance of aligning passions with core values and overcoming roadblocks to pursue them. Terri encourages listeners to let go of passions that no longer serve them and make room for new ones. The episode concludes with a reflection on new beginnings and a wish for a happy new year.
Takeaways
- Passions provide a sense of fulfillment, energy, and motivation in life.
- Not all passions lead to a purpose, and it's okay to have passions without turning them into a career or purpose.
- Explore new interests, keep an open mind, and put yourself in new situations to discover passions.
- Align passions with core values to create a meaningful connection.
- Overcome roadblocks and prioritize passions by scheduling them like important appointments.
- Let go of passions that no longer bring joy or fulfillment to make room for new ones.
- Embrace new beginnings and opportunities for personal growth.
Chapters
00:00
Introduction to Passion
01:26
Discovering a Passion
03:15
Finding Your Passion
05:37
Passions Aligned with Values
06:35
Exploring and Trying New Passions
07:04
Overcoming Roadblocks to Pursue Passions
08:59
Letting Go of Passions
10:53
Reflection on New Beginnings
11:20
Conclusion and New Year's Wishes
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
You're listening to the what Women Want Today
podcast.
If you love the idea of beingpart of a community of women who
are looking to thrive, not justsurvive, you're in the right
place.
Join hosts Terry Cullums andAmanda Keeper each week, as they
bring you topics and guests tohelp you improve your
relationships, your health andyour emotional and spiritual
(00:23):
well-being.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Hello and welcome to today's episode of the what
Women Want Today podcast.
I'm your host, terry Cullums.
Today is day six of our 12 Daysof Christmas series and today
we're talking about passion.
Well, I want to talk to youabout passion today because I
truly believe that having apassion in life, that pursuing
(00:55):
our passions, provides us with asense of fulfillment, it gives
us energy and excitement and itreally does motivate us and
challenge us.
And when I was thinking aboutthat earlier this morning, I was
thinking about the podcastactually, and I was thinking
(01:15):
about how I really had a passionfor helping midlife women feel
like they weren't going throughthis time alone.
If you've heard the story aboutmy mom and how I felt like she
suffered in silence and I didn'treally realize that until I
started going through themidlife journey myself.
So I became very passionateabout how can I help these women
(01:39):
.
I took a course for lifecoaching through the John
Maxwell group with my beautifulfriend, amanda and it took me a
while to figure out what Iwanted to do with that.
I knew I wanted to help women.
I didn't really know exactlyhow I was going to go about that
and then from that the podcastwas born.
(01:59):
But it wasn't just about I mean, the big picture was about the
podcast and helping women andproviding a community for women
to feel like they could go tosomebody and not have to go
through it alone, the stepsalong the way to learning how to
do a podcast, to overcoming allthe challenges, to learning the
(02:23):
software and learning how toedit and understanding the
platforms and all the manythings that go into podcasting.
It motivated me and challengedme and I think that's something
that we need in midlife.
I think, if I use my mom as anexample of something that I
(02:43):
really the path I really don'twant to take myself.
It's kind of settling in inmidlife and not fighting the
comfort zone and just kind oflike sitting in the chair and
watching a lot of Lifetime TVand letting her
uncomfortableness be themotivating factor to just stay
(03:06):
in her apartment and notsocialize and not pursue things.
So I do believe passions arevery important.
I will say that you will hear alot of people say that passion
leads to our purpose and I'm notgoing to say that doesn't ever
happen.
I just don't think it happenswith every single passion.
So if you're already passionateabout something and you think
(03:29):
well, how can I turn that intomy purpose?
How does that become my purpose?
I don't think they always do.
I have several passions that Idon't plan to do anything with.
Actually, I'm going to beinterviewing a woman for the
podcast Look at her beautifulcookbook right here.
I'm looking forward to myconversation with her.
Her name is Deborah Johnson,and I'm excited for y'all to
(03:54):
meet her and learn about herpassion and how it led to her
writing that cookbook.
But I think a lot of peoplemight say, like, how do I find
my passion?
Like I don't have any.
I don't know how to find them.
There are actually quizzes thatyou can do online.
You can go online and do a quiz.
But I think there are some stepsthat we can do.
(04:16):
I'll just give you a few todayfor you to think about.
Put yourself in new situationsand keep yourself open to
possibilities.
I know for myself I'll speakfor myself for a moment as we
age and if we don't haveknowledge on something, we can
be pretty quick to reject it andbe fearful of it, and so I'm
(04:40):
going to encourage you toexplore new interests.
Keep your mind open topossibilities.
I'm reminded of a friend whosaid to me that she didn't know
what her passions and purposewere in life.
And we were talking about this,about like, what are you
interested in?
Is there anything from yourchildhood that could be revived,
(05:04):
that you might be interested in?
And the funny thing was, is itreally kind of?
What happened with her wasreally just born out of her
being really open and gettingherself out in her community and
volunteering for some things,and it just it was like I saw it
(05:25):
like a domino effect, like shegot involved with a campaign, a
political campaign, and it justkept leading to other new
opportunities and it wasexciting to watch that for her.
So, keep yourself open.
Don't automatically do what Isometimes do.
It's like no shut down, like ifsomeone said to me Terry, do
(05:49):
you want to go skydiving?
Nope, I wouldn't even have tothink about it.
I have no desire, and sosometimes I will use, I will
take an opportunity and shut itdown because of lack of
knowledge and fear.
So look at your core values andask yourself are there passions
that can be attached to myvalues?
(06:12):
So I will use my husband, brian.
I talked about him earlier thisweek in the podcast where I
said that he has gotten verypassionate about volunteering at
this animal shelter.
He has a very strong core valueto being generous, not just
with money but with his time aswell, and he channeled that into
helping this pet rescue, thisanimal rescue.
(06:33):
In fact, he's even gone so faras to getting or at least I
think he talked to them aboutI'm not sure if he was actually
successful, I think he was fornext year getting it so that
where he works they can channeltheir giving, their yearly
giving through the United Way.
They can channel it to thisanimal rescue.
(06:53):
So look at your values and askyourself if you can use that to
develop a passion.
And so you might be saying well, what if I put myself out there
and I pursue a passion and thenI decided I don't like it?
Great, now you know there's oneless thing that you have to try
(07:15):
, you know.
Then you just crossed off thelist and you move on to the next
one.
I will tell you this passionsare often a strong emotional or
intellectual connection to aparticular pursuit, and with
that comes roadblocks, so youmay run into roadblocks.
(07:36):
As women, we have so manypriorities on our plate.
We're pulled in differentdirections.
We have obligations.
These will always exist.
But if you are, if you feelstrongly about putting pursuing
passions on your list for 2024,you're just going to have to
schedule it like you would adoctor appointment.
You know, a couple of weeks agoI was going to go on a walk
(08:00):
with a friend and there was somany things conflicting with my
schedule that I Well, originallywe were going to go on Thursday
and she also was taking care ofsome things with her mom, who
is elderly and I offered that,you know, hey, let's just push
it to tomorrow.
It sounds like tomorrow willwork for both of us better.
Well, when I woke up thatmorning I don't know if you ever
(08:23):
have this happen, but you'relike thinking about your day and
you're like, oh my gosh, how amI going to get, how am I going
to get all this stuff done today?
And I was really tempted totake myself off the list.
I was really tempted to texther and say you know, gosh, I'm
really sorry but I'm going tohave to postpone again on you.
And I said, no, you know what?
(08:44):
I'm not going to take myselfoff the list.
This is very important to me indeveloping this new friendship.
It's also very important to meto get out and move my body.
So I am going to keep myself onthe list and I'm probably just
going to ask for help later,when Brian gets home.
I'm just going to ask him forhelp.
So you know, schedule it justas you would a doctor
(09:04):
appointment.
Um, what else do I want to tellyou about passions that I
believe strongly.
I think they wane over time.
I don't.
I think we need to giveourselves a little bit of
permission to let go ofsomething that's no longer
working for us.
So what would an example be?
Say that you know you enjoyedplaying piano for years and you
(09:28):
know you did it.
You stopped enjoying it as muchand then you did it to please
your parents for the longesttime.
And now you've just you'veinvested in this.
You know beautiful baby, grandpiano and all these lessons and
so much of your time, but youjust don't have the excitement
for it that you used to giveyourself permission to let it go
.
Make room for a new passion.
(09:50):
Um, I have had many passionsover the years.
If any of my daughters arelistening, they would probably
laugh, because they can probably, you know, start thinking of
things that I've gotten myselfinvolved in and then decided
that it just wasn't working forme, it wasn't right for me, it
wasn't, it just didn't fit mevery well.
In fact, I remember a briefmoment in time where I decided
(10:14):
that I was going to crochet.
I was going to learn to crochet, or was it knit?
It was knitting.
Sorry, I know there's adifferent, I know there's a big
difference.
So I was going to learn to knit.
So I invested in the yarn andthe needles and I took some
lessons.
And you know, not just money buttime as well is a big deal for
us, right?
(10:34):
We got to get picky about whatwe spend our time on and I
thought you know what I reallywant to learn to do this?
Because it was a trend therefor a while.
Everybody was knitting orcrocheting and, um, after, you
know, trying to do it for alittle, I just wasn't.
I wasn't good at it and Iwasn't enjoying the frustration
that was coming along with it.
(10:54):
So I let it go.
I mean, I still have all thestuff.
I'm still leaving it as apossibility for the future, when
I'm able to sit still forlonger periods of time, but for
now I've taken that off the list.
So don't be afraid to let go ofsomething that no longer feels
like a passion for you.
Make room for the new passionsin your life.
(11:15):
All right, that's all I havefor you today on passions.
I do have a 12 week course onpursuing your purpose and you
know if you're interested inthat program, we can go a lot
more in depth on the purposepart of it.
But I do want to leave you todaywith the definition of the six
geese lane.
So six geese lane can symbolizefertility.
(11:37):
Well, I think if you'relistening to the podcast in your
midlife woman, that's probablyoff the table for us.
But it can also represent newbeginnings, which I love,
because 2024 is an opportunityfor a new beginning.
So just think about the conceptof renewal and starting fresh
and embracing new opportunities.
That is your reflection fortoday.
(11:59):
I'm so glad and thankful thatyou've joined me.
If you found value in today'sepisode and you're watching this
on YouTube, be sure to give ita like button.
Remember to subscribe so thatyou are notified when future
episodes become available.
All right, folks, for today, Ijust wish you a very happy new
year.
Stay safe out there and I'lltalk to you again tomorrow.
(12:19):
Amanda, I don't know if thisever happens to you, but I
sometimes will learn somethingreally cool on a podcast, on a
YouTube, video, audiobook,whatever.
I think I'm going to rememberit and then I forget.
Does that ever happen to you?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Yeah, I call it brain after 40 all the time.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
That's what we'll officially call it, but we've
come up with something.
Do you want to introduce it?
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Sure, Okay, it's from an app called Quick Jim Quick,
and it's an acronym called FAST.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Yeah, and the F stands for Facebook.
So we're inviting youofficially right now to come
over and join us on Facebook.
Get involved with the community, share your favorite episodes
with your friends on Facebook.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
Yeah, the A is go ahead and take an action, so you
can't remember anything if youdon't act.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
And S is for subscribe.
Make sure you're subscribed toour YouTube channel.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
And then T is teach what you've learned to somebody
else.
Share the love.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
All right, we hope that works for you.
Thank you for joining us.
We'll see you next week.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Bye, bye, love you guys so much.
You're listening to the what Women Want Today
podcast.
If you love the idea of beingpart of a community of women who
are looking to thrive, not justsurvive, you're in the right
place.
Join hosts Terry Cullums andAmanda Keeper each week, as they
bring you topics and guests tohelp you improve your
relationships, your health andyour emotional and spiritual
(00:23):
well-being.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Hello and welcome to today's episode of the what
Women Want Today podcast.
I'm your host, terry Cullums.
Today is day six of our 12 Daysof Christmas series and today
we're talking about passion.
Well, I want to talk to youabout passion today because I
truly believe that having apassion in life, that pursuing
(00:55):
our passions, provides us with asense of fulfillment, it gives
us energy and excitement and itreally does motivate us and
challenge us.
And when I was thinking aboutthat earlier this morning, I was
thinking about the podcastactually, and I was thinking
(01:15):
about how I really had a passionfor helping midlife women feel
like they weren't going throughthis time alone.
If you've heard the story aboutmy mom and how I felt like she
suffered in silence and I didn'treally realize that until I
started going through themidlife journey myself.
So I became very passionateabout how can I help these women
(01:39):
.
I took a course for lifecoaching through the John
Maxwell group with my beautifulfriend, amanda and it took me a
while to figure out what Iwanted to do with that.
I knew I wanted to help women.
I didn't really know exactlyhow I was going to go about that
and then from that the podcastwas born.
(01:59):
But it wasn't just about I mean, the big picture was about the
podcast and helping women andproviding a community for women
to feel like they could go tosomebody and not have to go
through it alone, the stepsalong the way to learning how to
do a podcast, to overcoming allthe challenges, to learning the
(02:23):
software and learning how toedit and understanding the
platforms and all the manythings that go into podcasting.
It motivated me and challengedme and I think that's something
that we need in midlife.
I think, if I use my mom as anexample of something that I
(02:43):
really the path I really don'twant to take myself.
It's kind of settling in inmidlife and not fighting the
comfort zone and just kind oflike sitting in the chair and
watching a lot of Lifetime TVand letting her
uncomfortableness be themotivating factor to just stay
(03:06):
in her apartment and notsocialize and not pursue things.
So I do believe passions arevery important.
I will say that you will hear alot of people say that passion
leads to our purpose and I'm notgoing to say that doesn't ever
happen.
I just don't think it happenswith every single passion.
So if you're already passionateabout something and you think
(03:29):
well, how can I turn that intomy purpose?
How does that become my purpose?
I don't think they always do.
I have several passions that Idon't plan to do anything with.
Actually, I'm going to beinterviewing a woman for the
podcast Look at her beautifulcookbook right here.
I'm looking forward to myconversation with her.
Her name is Deborah Johnson,and I'm excited for y'all to
(03:54):
meet her and learn about herpassion and how it led to her
writing that cookbook.
But I think a lot of peoplemight say, like, how do I find
my passion?
Like I don't have any.
I don't know how to find them.
There are actually quizzes thatyou can do online.
You can go online and do a quiz.
But I think there are some stepsthat we can do.
(04:16):
I'll just give you a few todayfor you to think about.
Put yourself in new situationsand keep yourself open to
possibilities.
I know for myself I'll speakfor myself for a moment as we
age and if we don't haveknowledge on something, we can
be pretty quick to reject it andbe fearful of it, and so I'm
(04:40):
going to encourage you toexplore new interests.
Keep your mind open topossibilities.
I'm reminded of a friend whosaid to me that she didn't know
what her passions and purposewere in life.
And we were talking about this,about like, what are you
interested in?
Is there anything from yourchildhood that could be revived,
(05:04):
that you might be interested in?
And the funny thing was, is itreally kind of?
What happened with her wasreally just born out of her
being really open and gettingherself out in her community and
volunteering for some things,and it just it was like I saw it
(05:25):
like a domino effect, like shegot involved with a campaign, a
political campaign, and it justkept leading to other new
opportunities and it wasexciting to watch that for her.
So, keep yourself open.
Don't automatically do what Isometimes do.
It's like no shut down, like ifsomeone said to me Terry, do
(05:49):
you want to go skydiving?
Nope, I wouldn't even have tothink about it.
I have no desire, and sosometimes I will use, I will
take an opportunity and shut itdown because of lack of
knowledge and fear.
So look at your core values andask yourself are there passions
that can be attached to myvalues?
(06:12):
So I will use my husband, brian.
I talked about him earlier thisweek in the podcast where I
said that he has gotten verypassionate about volunteering at
this animal shelter.
He has a very strong core valueto being generous, not just
with money but with his time aswell, and he channeled that into
helping this pet rescue, thisanimal rescue.
(06:33):
In fact, he's even gone so faras to getting or at least I
think he talked to them aboutI'm not sure if he was actually
successful, I think he was fornext year getting it so that
where he works they can channeltheir giving, their yearly
giving through the United Way.
They can channel it to thisanimal rescue.
(06:53):
So look at your values and askyourself if you can use that to
develop a passion.
And so you might be saying well, what if I put myself out there
and I pursue a passion and thenI decided I don't like it?
Great, now you know there's oneless thing that you have to try
(07:15):
, you know.
Then you just crossed off thelist and you move on to the next
one.
I will tell you this passionsare often a strong emotional or
intellectual connection to aparticular pursuit, and with
that comes roadblocks, so youmay run into roadblocks.
(07:36):
As women, we have so manypriorities on our plate.
We're pulled in differentdirections.
We have obligations.
These will always exist.
But if you are, if you feelstrongly about putting pursuing
passions on your list for 2024,you're just going to have to
schedule it like you would adoctor appointment.
You know, a couple of weeks agoI was going to go on a walk
(08:00):
with a friend and there was somany things conflicting with my
schedule that I Well, originallywe were going to go on Thursday
and she also was taking care ofsome things with her mom, who
is elderly and I offered that,you know, hey, let's just push
it to tomorrow.
It sounds like tomorrow willwork for both of us better.
Well, when I woke up thatmorning I don't know if you ever
(08:23):
have this happen, but you'relike thinking about your day and
you're like, oh my gosh, how amI going to get, how am I going
to get all this stuff done today?
And I was really tempted totake myself off the list.
I was really tempted to texther and say you know, gosh, I'm
really sorry but I'm going tohave to postpone again on you.
And I said, no, you know what?
(08:44):
I'm not going to take myselfoff the list.
This is very important to me indeveloping this new friendship.
It's also very important to meto get out and move my body.
So I am going to keep myself onthe list and I'm probably just
going to ask for help later,when Brian gets home.
I'm just going to ask him forhelp.
So you know, schedule it justas you would a doctor
(09:04):
appointment.
Um, what else do I want to tellyou about passions that I
believe strongly.
I think they wane over time.
I don't.
I think we need to giveourselves a little bit of
permission to let go ofsomething that's no longer
working for us.
So what would an example be?
Say that you know you enjoyedplaying piano for years and you
(09:28):
know you did it.
You stopped enjoying it as muchand then you did it to please
your parents for the longesttime.
And now you've just you'veinvested in this.
You know beautiful baby, grandpiano and all these lessons and
so much of your time, but youjust don't have the excitement
for it that you used to giveyourself permission to let it go
.
Make room for a new passion.
(09:50):
Um, I have had many passionsover the years.
If any of my daughters arelistening, they would probably
laugh, because they can probably, you know, start thinking of
things that I've gotten myselfinvolved in and then decided
that it just wasn't working forme, it wasn't right for me, it
wasn't, it just didn't fit mevery well.
In fact, I remember a briefmoment in time where I decided
(10:14):
that I was going to crochet.
I was going to learn to crochet, or was it knit?
It was knitting.
Sorry, I know there's adifferent, I know there's a big
difference.
So I was going to learn to knit.
So I invested in the yarn andthe needles and I took some
lessons.
And you know, not just money buttime as well is a big deal for
us, right?
(10:34):
We got to get picky about whatwe spend our time on and I
thought you know what I reallywant to learn to do this?
Because it was a trend therefor a while.
Everybody was knitting orcrocheting and, um, after, you
know, trying to do it for alittle, I just wasn't.
I wasn't good at it and Iwasn't enjoying the frustration
that was coming along with it.
(10:54):
So I let it go.
I mean, I still have all thestuff.
I'm still leaving it as apossibility for the future, when
I'm able to sit still forlonger periods of time, but for
now I've taken that off the list.
So don't be afraid to let go ofsomething that no longer feels
like a passion for you.
Make room for the new passionsin your life.
(11:15):
All right, that's all I havefor you today on passions.
I do have a 12 week course onpursuing your purpose and you
know if you're interested inthat program, we can go a lot
more in depth on the purposepart of it.
But I do want to leave you todaywith the definition of the six
geese lane.
So six geese lane can symbolizefertility.
(11:37):
Well, I think if you'relistening to the podcast in your
midlife woman, that's probablyoff the table for us.
But it can also represent newbeginnings, which I love,
because 2024 is an opportunityfor a new beginning.
So just think about the conceptof renewal and starting fresh
and embracing new opportunities.
That is your reflection fortoday.
(11:59):
I'm so glad and thankful thatyou've joined me.
If you found value in today'sepisode and you're watching this
on YouTube, be sure to give ita like button.
Remember to subscribe so thatyou are notified when future
episodes become available.
All right, folks, for today, Ijust wish you a very happy new
year.
Stay safe out there and I'lltalk to you again tomorrow.
(12:19):
Amanda, I don't know if thisever happens to you, but I
sometimes will learn somethingreally cool on a podcast, on a
YouTube, video, audiobook,whatever.
I think I'm going to rememberit and then I forget.
Does that ever happen to you?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Yeah, I call it brain after 40 all the time.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
That's what we'll officially call it, but we've
come up with something.
Do you want to introduce it?
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Sure, Okay, it's from an app called Quick Jim Quick,
and it's an acronym called FAST.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Yeah, and the F stands for Facebook.
So we're inviting youofficially right now to come
over and join us on Facebook.
Get involved with the community, share your favorite episodes
with your friends on Facebook.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
Yeah, the A is go ahead and take an action, so you
can't remember anything if youdon't act.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
And S is for subscribe.
Make sure you're subscribed toour YouTube channel.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
And then T is teach what you've learned to somebody
else.
Share the love.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
All right, we hope that works for you.
Thank you for joining us.
We'll see you next week.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Bye, bye, love you guys so much.
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!