DAY 9 Celebrating with Nine Ladies Dancing

Summary
In this episode, the host discusses the importance of celebrating achievements and milestones along the way. She shares a story about a woman dealing with complicated grief and how therapy and celebrating small goals helped her. The host also highlights the characteristics of the Gen X generation and their tendency to downplay achievements. She emphasizes the benefits of celebrating, such as boosting morale and self-confidence. The episode concludes with the meaning of the song 'Nine Ladies Dancing,' which represents joy and celebration.

Takeaways

• Celebrate your achievements and milestones along the way.
• Recognize the importance of therapy in dealing with complicated grief.
• Gen Xers tend to downplay their achievements, but it's important to celebrate them.
• Celebrating small goals boosts morale, self-confidence, and motivation.

Chapters

00:00
Introduction and Setting the Topic

00:29
Story of Complicated Grief

01:16
Intensive Therapy and Celebrating Goals

02:09
Characteristics of Gen X

03:09
Benefits of Celebrating Achievements

04:06
Reflecting on Past Accomplishments and Setting Goals

04:34
Meaning of Nine Ladies Dancing

04:57
Conclusion

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
You're listening to the what Women Want Today
podcast.
If you love the idea of beingpart of a community of women who
are looking to thrive, not justsurvive, you're in the right
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Join hosts Terry Cullums andAmanda Keeper each week, as they
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(00:23):
well-being.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
Hello and welcome to this, to today's episode of the
what Women Want Today podcast.
I'm your host, terry Cullums,and today is day nine of the 12
Days of Christmas series that weare working through.
Today we are going to talkabout celebrating your
achievements.
So, as we're thinking about thegoals that we're setting for

(00:51):
2024, I want you to beginthinking about celebrating
achievements along the way.
And as I was preparing fortoday's episode, I remembered a
book that I read recently wherethe woman had the woman in the
story had lost someone in a likea complicated relationship.
They were kind of in that onand off, they weren't really

(01:12):
recognized as a couple in theirsocial circle, and so when he
died tragically, her friends andeven her family didn't really
recognize or understand hergrief.
Two years after his death, shewas still grieving, she still
was dealing with trauma andpanic attacks, and she finally
sought therapy to help her dealwith it.

(01:33):
The counselor that she saw toldher she had something called
complicated grief.
So she began an intensivetherapy where every day she had
daily assignments to help herwork through some of her
triggers and her trauma, and shealso had to pick out something
that she would use to celebrateit when she actually hit that

(01:54):
goal, that assignment that shehad for the day.
They didn't have to becomplicated things.
Sometimes they were very simplethings like taking a walk on
the beach or going to get apedicure, or going out for a cup
of coffee with a friend, orreading part of a good book that
she was trying to read.
So, as I'm thinking about this,I'm thinking about you and how

(02:20):
you might fall into the scope ofthe audience that listens to
the podcast.
So most likely, you're a GenXer like me, and here's some
things that we know about Gen X.
We are referred to as theforgotten or invisible
generation.
We are the first generation tobe known as latchkey kids.
We were the least parented andthe least nurtured generation.

(02:44):
There is a likelihood that weare looking after both our
parents and our children, and wewere born at the same time when
women more women began workingout of the home, technology
started changing and divorcerates were on the rise.
So I'm not telling you this asan excuse for us to forego

(03:06):
celebrating our achievements andaccomplishments and our
milestones.
What I'm wanting to do, rather,is point out our tendencies to
maybe downplay your achievementsor not celebrate the
accomplishments.
There are so many benefits totaking the time and setting the

(03:27):
time aside to celebrate oursmall achievements.
It boosts morale, gives you apositive mental outlook.
Some studies even show that itmay be more beneficial to
celebrate your smallachievements along the way than
to wait to the end and celebratethe big one.
Celebrating motivates us tocontinue on our path.

(03:50):
It shows us that we're capableand boosts our self-confidence
and self-esteem.
It even helps us recognize ourown level of resilience.
So, as you're thinking aboutsetting your goals and your
accomplishments for the year, Iwould like you to take a moment
to do two things, or take a fewmoments to do two things.

(04:10):
Take some time to reflect onyour past accomplishments and
ask yourself did you celebratethem?
Did you wait till the very endor did you celebrate the small
steps and milestones that youreached along the way?
And, number two, also take sometime to write out a list of the
things that you would do tocelebrate those achievements

(04:32):
along the way.
I mean, I don't have a beachnear me, but I would definitely
love to celebrate by walking onthe beach.
I hope, if your intention is toset some goals for 2024, you
will think about some milestonesin your journey and celebrate
them along the way.
You definitely deserve it, andI'll wrap up today's episode by

(04:53):
giving you the meaning of thenine ladies dancing and this is
the first time that thereflection for today and the
meaning of the song actuallycorresponds with the topic, so
kind of excited about that.
The meaning of nine ladiesdancing represents joy and
celebration.
So today I encourage you tocelebrate achievements and find
joy in your journey, and that'sall I have for you today.

(05:15):
Make it a great day.
I look forward to being herewith you again tomorrow.
Take care, amanda.
I don't know if this everhappens to you, but I sometimes
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Does that ever happen to you?

Speaker 3 (05:36):
Yeah, I call it brain after 40 all the time.

Speaker 2 (05:39):
That's what we'll officially call it, but we've
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Speaker 3 (05:45):
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Speaker 3 (06:20):
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