April 9, 2025 • 27 mins
Ask, and it is given! Are you paying attention to ALL the signs, messages and answers you are receiving? We’ll help you to pick up those calls you may be missing.
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Alone.
Hello? Hello.
Hello. Testing. One two.One two. One. Two.
Well, here we are once again.
Joyce.
Wow, what a day we have outside today.
It doesn't make any differencewhat the weather is.
We woke up today. It's a good day. So.
Yes it is.
Hello, universe.
Thank you. Right. Right.
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I say that,
I said that today
I can make a phone call if anyone'smayor from, literacy utility company.
Is it a phone callor is it a phone call or.
Oh, no.
Okay.
I was actually on my mindsince last night, and,
(00:44):
And then I had to remind myself.
Okay.
You're going to change this around,and then I just said a prayer,
and I asked God to,
just make this come easy.
Like, the anointment ofis the anointment of ease.
Yes. Yes.
And I must say yes.
Oh God forgive her. Oh what a way.
(01:07):
Yeah.
She was delightful.
She lived in Texasand she just started talking to me.
And I'll fix this for you.
And what happened towards the end,though, was my fault.
Call came in, and I thought I gotrid of that call I got rid of.
Oh, it's like.
(01:28):
No, but.
And then I had to, like,call again and say, now I just.
It's all taken care of.Yeah. At the end of it.
So, Yeah.
You know, I remember my mom always saying
that even the priest has to readthe Bible.
It's just you and I,you know, things happen.
(01:48):
They do.
No matter who you are.
And the thing is,if you're talking about that call, too,
sometimes you kind of dread it.
It's like a book that I read once calledEat the Bullfrog.
Ooh, that's an interesting.
And I mean, it's literally it's like, but
let's do something in the morningthat you least want to do during that day.
Get it done in the morning,and then the rest of your day
(02:08):
goes a little bit easier.
So just find that task.
That's something you're dreading doing.
Take care of it first thing in the morningafter you have a cup of coffee,
because coffee changes everything.
You can wake up groggy and miserable,
but the minuteyou had that cup of coffee, bam!
You feel good.
Take a deep breath.
Say a prayer like you did,and make that phone call.
And 95% of the time, it'snot as difficult as we think.
(02:30):
You get that wonderful customer service
like that one woman from Texasyou talk to, you could turn things around.
You can find a way to get it out more.
It reminds me of when I was a kid.
I would eat the worst thing on my plate.
It's kind of like eating the bullfrog,you know?
Right.
(02:50):
It just reminded me.
Oh, yeah.
Cause I wanted it. Savor that.
I wanted that to linger. Yes.
Like when I was a kid,I didn't like vegetables.
You know, we all know vegetables are goodfor us, but I just didn't like them.
Meat and potatoes.
Meat and potatoes.
This mommy potato.
Well, the thing is, right now, meat.You know. But.
But the thing is,I do love vegetables and fruit.
I'm just on a little bitof a different plant at the moment, but
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I would eat something I didn't like firstbecause mom and dad would make me eat it.
They would always say, oh,they're they're,
you know, childrenstarving over in Ethiopia or whatever.
They would use that argument.
That's all I gotta eat is that I feel badfor those kid, you know, or said, tip
over to the kids in Ethiopia.Let them have this. I don't want it.
Reminds me of my brother
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when I had a beloved Easter ham.
And he told me.
I said it was, 12:00,
but it was at 2:00, so he came in.
Really hungry.
You know, just complaining a little bit.
Yeah.
And I said, you know, in other countries,
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they know what real hunger is.
You're not experiencing real hunger.
And he said to me, I don't give.
My breakfast right out of the empty.
And five hours.
He wasn't going for that argument. Right.
That went right over his head.
Right over his head.
Wow. But, But it's morning.
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The one thing that I don't want to dois to eat that
bowl from is watch the news.
Totally agree.
Except for local news to get the weatherright.
Sure. Right. You know just a little.
It's light. It's light.
But you're right.
The first thing in the morninglike we talked about in the past,
many times you know, on and off. Yeah.
You and I, we want our dayto begin with intentionality.
(04:40):
So we want to take control of our daythe best way we can by,
you know, prayerful work, gratitude.
You know, and just focus on that.
Then a little bit later on, you can takea look at the news just to be aware.
We don't want to be ostricheswith our heads in the sand.
We want to be awareso we can pray about the world.
Do I pray about the world no matter what?
(05:00):
Yeah.
My head in the sand.
Because.
Are things out of my control, right?
And I see enough of it on Facebookor Instagram.
Things will pop up.
And, But the more you dowhat we call our prayer,
prayerful work, which, you know,whatever it is for you.
For talking to it.
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Just to the universe.
Sure.
You know, just,you know, putting it out there and
and you do get answers.
You really do.
So when we're sending stuff, our prayers,
our don't just pick up the same old anger.
Right? Right.
You have to really look and listen.
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Because you will get answers.
People do show up.
Or there could be something really greatto read.
Instead of getting angry.
You have angry conversation about thingsyou think you don't
know,and that's really good choice to do that.
The thing is, we arewe are getting signs all the time.
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We just have to be aware of.
Get your antenna up right.
I'm always thinking about that
because, you know, being in the radio biz,I'm always thinking about frequency.
You know, being on the river.
159 or country 92 or 5.
The stations. I'm around.
If you're at 92, 3 or 157,you're not honing in on the frequency.
But once you get to 105 nineand you have to be intentional about,
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go find all a sudden things.
So clear upand you're able to get that great signal.
Same thing if we go out thereintentionally with our antenna up
looking for signs, they're everywhere.
It could be just looking out,seeing a beautiful sunset or sunrise.
It could be a message.
Or if somebody says something to youat the coffee shop
or the grocery store at the gas station,that could be a sign.
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They're everywhere.
We just have to be looking for them.
And too many timeswe look but we don't see.
You know, or we're not or listeningbut we're really not hearing.
Right. Yeah.
And it's tough I mean we're not sayingwe're perfect is that we're far from it.
We're all imperfect you know creatures.
But we're just doing the bestwe can each and every day.
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You know,but the one thing we do have control over,
and we'll say this over and over again,because I think you can't hear it enough.
I can't hear enough.
You have control over your thoughts. Yes.
You have control over your life.
And once you start on that pathof really seeing that,
it does makea big difference in your life.
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And when people say negative things
right it's hard right away.
Like the brain out of song cutslike a knife.
And words can really either bring peopleup or they could just slam you down.
And I've learned to practice the pausea lot more
because I have a tendencysometimes if I'm recording a radio show
or something,being totally transparent here,
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and all of a suddenI get to the end of the of the voice track
and I screw up, which I do all the time,and I slip over my tongue.
I have a tendency sometimes to say a wordwhich I don't want to repeat here.
You know, and a lot of us in the radiobiz can relate to that as like,
you know, and I'm so I'm trying to work onbeing more intentional with
what I say and, and how I respond.
(08:14):
Yeah. And, it's not always easy. Right.
I know some people are laughing right now.Do you stub your toe.
You say something if you say oh Fu,it doesn't have the same kind of feel.
Oh fu. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
That doesn't seem to come out.
Yeah, but we're trying to work on that,you know?
Well, how we, you know.
So right on that that vibration,
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you know, that, like that radio station,you know, when people say,
I want to listen to country,but why is this rock station on?
Because you turn to that freeway.
That's right.
So we have the powerto change the frequency.
So, you know,and even speaking about prayers
when you scream at the universe,
(09:00):
God, you know, whatever you call it, it's
I need money.
It's really screaming like a boomerang.
It gives you like, more of that.
Like. Yes.
I would love to have this in my lifebecause this is what I would do with it.
(09:22):
Right. Thank you so much for hearing me.
I don't go on complaining.
You know, out of your mouth ishow am I going to pay the bills?
I'm going to do that.
Just say it'll show up.
A pastor,a pastor said that to me once. Joyce.
Before that, when you start complaining,I mean, God cares about us.
So the universe, whatever you want to say.
And but, you know,if you're going to complain all the time,
(09:43):
I think that's where you kind of crosseshis arms, you know?
And it's just you. Okay, okay.You're done yet?
So the whole key is to follow that, followthat up
and I'll say, like, you know, I'mI talk to God like he's my friend.
You know, father, something hereis bothering me, this and that.
But nevertheless,
I trust you.
And I always follow up with that.
Never the less, but never.
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But nevertheless, I trust you.
I don't have to figure this all out.
All I have to dois believe I'm going to do my best today.
You take care of the rest.
It takes the pressure off us.
So it's like when someone gives youa gift,
God gives you what you ask for,and you kind of see it,
but you don't take itbecause you don't see it as a gift.
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And it's given again and again and again.And you're right.
And it is like,I'm going to stop doing that.
And it does remind me of my uncle Art.
Uncle art. What happened?
Uncle Art, was diagnosed with diabetes,
and, my mother was quite the baker.
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And you really, really.
And you're quite the baker, too.
So, Yes. right.
So my mom, being the baker, I remember hersaying she's going to find a way
to make them that apple pieand you like, oh, apples.
Back in the day that there weren't a lotof recipes about that sugarless anything.
Right.
But she found a way to make this applepie was his favorite.
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So she makes this applepie and she brings it over
and she never heard back from a vendor.
So my mom starts thinking
in disaster.
She made something elseand left it with my aunt.
Yeah. And nothing came back.
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So she's stopped making it now.
She died fairly young.
And just then she said to my mom,
I will never forget that apple pie.
It was the best time ever. Wow,
how devastating thing had she said that
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I would have made it every week right?
So I guess since I'm sayinghow much I love your baked goods and Patty
this, we're going to get themevery single week from now on.
And, you know, and I do remember Pattylike the banana one that I made, right?
She liked them all, liked them all.
But sometimes I just make things up.
And then I don't know how to recreate.
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It's all impromptu improvization.
It's all done with love. Exactly.
I love I was selling,you know, my my butterflies.
And when it became a businessand then it was not the same.
It's not the same.
I kept that going on and offfor almost 30 years.
Then I made the decisionthat I'm only going to make this
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right, and that's it.
I have joy making it.
Yes, you have Joyce making it.
So to do things with different intentions.
Right. Yeah.
Same thing.
You know, I'm thinking, like,that'll be the last time
that when you see someone who is homelessor someone that needs something
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and you do that second guess, like, oh,you probably deserve it, you're right.
But if your intention is good,
that'swhen we're blessed and you're blessed.
And we do have a tendencyto get judgmental.
If you see the same person
to the same area all the time,like when we get out of church on Sunday,
we see that same person at the bottomof the hill every single week.
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And I don't want to be judgmentalbecause a lot of people say, oh, you know,
I saw this guy in a different corneranother day and saw this person here.
Why don't they get a job?
There are jobs available for everyone,and I don't want to go down that route.
I don't want to be judgmental like thatbecause I don't know his story.
Whether it's true or not,that's not up to me to decide.
But if I feel like giving to him, I'mgoing to give to him
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and not feel guilty about it.
What he does with the money is not on me.
We don't own the moneyanyway, you know it's on loan.
Yeah, you know we don't own anything.
We're all stewards.So that's the way I look at it.
From a spiritual perspective,that's really true.
I saw a homeless man.
He had a sign, and it was a sign that I never saw before.
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Maybe you have, but his sign said
I hate being in this position.
I hate begging you, but this is what I'm.
I'm up to at this time. In, in, out.
And I didn't have any money on me.
I drove by and I kept. Yes.
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So I went to Dunkin Donutswhere I had my credit card and I bought,
you know, a couple of sandwichesand that's great juice.
And I drove back and I handed it to himbecause I think, God bless you.
God bless you. Yeah.
He was on the corner.
I was going to turnthe corner was zero traffic.
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It was a very quiet day.
And as soon as I gave it to him,I pulled away.
I looked in my rearview mirrorand I promise you, he was gone. Wow.
I didn't even give him enough timeto cross the street or to go anywhere.
And it just. I thought,
okay,he's not here and I have that feeling.
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So a few people had,
you know, and that from the Bibleand it's one of my favorite stories.
You probably know exactly where it is.
I don't,
but I think when the Pharisees weresaying, when are we ever talking to Jesus?
Right?
When are we ever seeing you hungryor homeless or in prison or sick?
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We said, man,you don't do it to the least of these.
You're not doing it to me.
That's right.
And I had that feeling come over me
when that happened.
If you think about that, Joyce,I think about that
as I get older, a little bit more aboutonce we go to the pearly gates someday.
And one thing we all have in common.
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We'll never get out of this worldalive, any of us.
And when you're face to face with Jesus,
remember that personyou passed by on the street corner?
That was me. Yeah.
You know,but even if I don't have money like you,
there's a gentleman I see at the radio,right by the radio station
when I go up to Hartfordat the end of the ramp.
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And if I stop, it'snot like one of these things
where I want to stopor try to go in the other lane
or put my head down like I'm busy.So I have to avoid him.
I still roll down the window and ask him,what's your name?
And that personalizes it.
And I said, then if I have time I'll saytell me your story.
Right. Well what happened. Yeah.
And it's like they look right at you like
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why are you looking at meand look him in the eye.
Because you're still a human being.
You know, just for that short time.
You're there. You're there anyway.
At least show them respect.You don't know their story.
That could be you.
I mean, every single person we know.
Well, not every person,but a lot of people are only two or 3
or 4 paychecksaway from losing their their home.
There's a lot of people that way.
So if we're going to be on our high horseall the time, I don't know.
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Yeah.
And it doesn't have anything to do
with not working hard enoughor whatever things people keep.
Prices go up and taxes, sure.
So, you know, I've been in a position,you know, I was told to,
find out where your your friends are,and I was I was in danger of that, too.
A couple of times.
I was in danger earlier in my lifeof, of bankruptcy,
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I was in danger of losing my home.
I was in danger.
I had I had my car, you know,I towed away in the past.
I mean, this is real, folks. This is real.This is real life here.
We've lived through a lot of this.
We know. Yeah.
Sitting here on golden age today.
No, not and not at all.
And the thing is, when we, we saidwhen we going to do this podcast
what's goodthat we're going to be transparent
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and we are far from perfect people.
We're not here to preach to anybody,
but we're just here to say, hey, listen,we know how you feel and in many ways
and how you feel and,and we really do have inner peace.
But it's something that we work at.
Yeah.
You know, it's not something that we takefor granted and,
and we want that for all of you.
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And that's why we're, we're,we're doing this show to say that
we've been through a lot of stuffand we're still standing,
and we're standing
with a smile on her faceand thankful every morning, every morning,
we can see when we get out of bedthat, you know, whatever it is.
And that's right.
I mean, yesterday morning, for instance,you know, I mean, over the past
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three weeks,you know, I, I, you know, I was,
at a doctor appointment and I came outthere was a flat tire.
And on this particular car,with the all wheel drive,
you have to replace all four tires.
You can't replace just one choice.
So there was a big giant bill,and then a week later,
Patty went to an appointment.
She came up with a flat tire. Same thing.
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Two weeks.
And then yesterday
we had someone come over to take a lookat our water system, you know, yearly,
you know, checkup and said, okay,your tank is riding 1600 bucks.
And then for the service and everythingelse, 2100 bucks.
But we took a deep breath.
Patty and I said, God will provide.
God will provide.
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And this could be a warning,
I mean, and then I said, babe,this is an investment in our house anyway.
Investment in our cars.
She always said,you look at the positive side.
Yeah, well I basicallyit's like our cars have brand new tires.
We're set for a while.
We got the new tank.We're gonna have to get it anyway.
We don't have to worry about, you know,the, the water being a bad quality.
We don't have to worry about the pressuregoing down.
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You're in the middle of the shower,and all of a sudden it goes down.
You're washing your hair,and you got to wait,
you know, two minutes for the rinse off.
We don't have to worry about that anymore.
So I'm always tryingto catch the positive.
But we all have those things, right.
That happened to us all the time.
And we it's how do we respond to it?
I know I've learned to say,because a lot of those things
have happened to melately, especially with the accident.
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Yes. Right.
And how fast I am able to say, especiallyif something happens with my house.
I need a roof with which I know,and I got this for you.
I get to have.
Yes, yes, these are rich people homes
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because we have a house,so something goes wrong with the house.
So now I have a house, right?
I have a house that.
Yes, I still have a mortgage on it,but this is my my home.
So something needs to be fixed.
You know,I ask for the right people to show,
you know, and to know.
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And that does happen.
You know, I was sitting inwas talking about it.
This show was kind of aboutlike the universe and and calling out.
And sometimes things happen super fast
with me to the point where I didn'twrite it in my book because I thought
people would leave this kind of the truth,
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and I was going to send it from home.
I'm sitting in the parking lot and I am.
And while I'm in the parking lot,our mutual person, you know, you know,
Randy, I'll say.
Oh, he worked at the local theater.
Right. Great guy, great guy.
And a very, very spiritual. Yeah.
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Yes, man.
And I happened to be.
And just before Easter and he calledchecking on me and and when we hung up.
And then it's still too early to go in,I said, no, let's go.
I'm really, you know, because I wasI was raised
in the Catholic Church,not really raised by my parents.
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They kind of just sent me to,
and I looked at the stained glass.
And I love I love the army to me too.
So I just sat thereand I said, I would just love to connect
with the priest and talk to himand just get back into that.
That would be a great thing.
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And then guess what
happens while I'm still in the car?
The woman I know who does marketing,
she said, hey Joyce,I just wanted to connect with it was Rene.
And she said, I'm sitting here with,Father Ed.
Oh, the father.
Ed. Whoa.
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And he's looking for some helpwith marketing.
And I said, okay.
And, you know, given my number.
So he called me the next day and,and we had lunch.
And it was quite remarkablebecause he sat in the booth
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and he looked at me like, John Seville,look at you.
And he didn't ask me whatnormal people asked me about marketing.
So here's what I got going on.
What could you do to me?
He looked at meand he said, tell me about jewels.
Wow. When he said that, I welled up.
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How many people do that?
They don't.
Right?
I mean, how many people say, well,how is your how is your day?
The people are.
So you wait for the answer right people
to is he talking about their favoritesubject was just in the cells.
And we're all guilty of that at times.
But when you ask somebodyabout them in their day, like Father Ed,
you know,we're going to get as a guest eventually.
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By the way, as a guest,you just love this guy.
You give his full name there.
Joyce father and the doll.
Yeah.
He's got like a gazillionwatt followers on TikTok.
He has over 2 million, 2million, 2 million.
It's like number five, right?
So he's an amazing guy.
(23:50):
He really is.
Yeah.
But, he he he walks the talk.
Yeah. 100%.
So what we're having this breakfasttogether.
His phone kept ringingand I know he puts billboards up
throughout Connecticut and,and has a phone number on it.
And I realized
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wait a minute,is that phone number on there.
You're so he said yes.
He said hey, how is it.
How are you dealing with all of this.
He says, no, I do.
I have a fact, everybody.
So what did they ask you for?
He said they usually ask for prayer.
We ask for forgiveness.
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Or do you want me to go?
Oh. Oh, really?
Some people say that.
Oh for that.
But but he's.
But he's so real.
So he's so real. So.
Yeah, he calls me.
Always tells me he loves me. Yeah.
So am I ever going to see youbefore the second coming of Jesus?
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Yeah, yeah.
That's right, I can't wait, I can't wait.
You know,
we need more and more people like him toput his cell phone number on there, too.
And I learned that, like, in business
with, with withmy business is to my deejay business.
I will put my cell phone out there
on all my cars,but also on my radio commercials.
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And when we did a billboard,we I did the same thing
because I want them to know that they'retalking to the owner of the business.
So we we live in a worldwhere customer service is kind of lacking,
right from what I hear.
But when you talk directly to the it'sold school and I want them to talk to me,
knowing that it's not just,you know, my DJ
that I'm sending out to the event or me,you have access to the entire company.
(25:38):
We're all here to help you.
But but especiallythe owner of the business.
And I think that's cool.The father, Ed, does that right.
You know, I just say, wow,you really care enough to put that?
Yeah.
And we're going to get back to youright away. Yeah.
At least within 24 hours anyway.
I mean, people just need to knowthey matter.
We live in a very, very coldworld, and people just think, God,
nobody cares anymore, you know, botherbecause of social media, right?
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We're just talking online.You're talking text.
How many people?
You know, a lot of people talk at you,but not to you, right?
So just just what you were saying
when you get the thoughts,when you ask for something
to God,
to the universe, and you put it outthere, you're speaking to the voice.
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That's right. Exactly.
Because again, like we were saying before,we don't own anything.
We're stewards here.
We have complete access to the boss.
And that's a beautiful thing.
No matter where we are,we have access. So.
So the whole key,
joyous, is just to go out there and just,you know, always look for good,
always look for the good out there becauseit's easy to go down that negative.
The rabbit hole.
(26:43):
But you know, bea little bit more intentional.
And I know this is advice to myselfto look for the good.
Yeah.
It's like a song by Jason Mraz.
Look it up. It's called Look for the good.
It's a great song, very, very positive.
It's got kind of a reggae feel to it.
But look for the Good by Jason Mraz.
Mira's It's a must every day.
(27:04):
Look for what's good in your lifebecause there's always something good.
And what's good for meis I love when you say
a little prayerbecause when you send that to me,
it really impacts my day.
Amen. Until next time.
We wish you and your familynothing but the best. Again.
Search for what's good and ensureour podcast with other people.
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It's on all the streaming platforms.
And until next time, blessyou and your family.
Bye bye. Bye.
Alone.
Hello? Hello.
Hello. Testing. One two.One two. One. Two.
Well, here we are once again.
Joyce.
Wow, what a day we have outside today.
It doesn't make any differencewhat the weather is.
We woke up today. It's a good day. So.
Yes it is.
Hello, universe.
Thank you. Right. Right.
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I say that,
I said that today
I can make a phone call if anyone'smayor from, literacy utility company.
Is it a phone callor is it a phone call or.
Oh, no.
Okay.
I was actually on my mindsince last night, and,
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And then I had to remind myself.
Okay.
You're going to change this around,and then I just said a prayer,
and I asked God to,
just make this come easy.
Like, the anointment ofis the anointment of ease.
Yes. Yes.
And I must say yes.
Oh God forgive her. Oh what a way.
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Yeah.
She was delightful.
She lived in Texasand she just started talking to me.
And I'll fix this for you.
And what happened towards the end,though, was my fault.
Call came in, and I thought I gotrid of that call I got rid of.
Oh, it's like.
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No, but.
And then I had to, like,call again and say, now I just.
It's all taken care of.Yeah. At the end of it.
So, Yeah.
You know, I remember my mom always saying
that even the priest has to readthe Bible.
It's just you and I,you know, things happen.
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They do.
No matter who you are.
And the thing is,if you're talking about that call, too,
sometimes you kind of dread it.
It's like a book that I read once calledEat the Bullfrog.
Ooh, that's an interesting.
And I mean, it's literally it's like, but
let's do something in the morningthat you least want to do during that day.
Get it done in the morning,and then the rest of your day
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goes a little bit easier.
So just find that task.
That's something you're dreading doing.
Take care of it first thing in the morningafter you have a cup of coffee,
because coffee changes everything.
You can wake up groggy and miserable,
but the minuteyou had that cup of coffee, bam!
You feel good.
Take a deep breath.
Say a prayer like you did,and make that phone call.
And 95% of the time, it'snot as difficult as we think.
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You get that wonderful customer service
like that one woman from Texasyou talk to, you could turn things around.
You can find a way to get it out more.
It reminds me of when I was a kid.
I would eat the worst thing on my plate.
It's kind of like eating the bullfrog,you know?
Right.
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It just reminded me.
Oh, yeah.
Cause I wanted it. Savor that.
I wanted that to linger. Yes.
Like when I was a kid,I didn't like vegetables.
You know, we all know vegetables are goodfor us, but I just didn't like them.
Meat and potatoes.
Meat and potatoes.
This mommy potato.
Well, the thing is, right now, meat.You know. But.
But the thing is,I do love vegetables and fruit.
I'm just on a little bitof a different plant at the moment, but
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I would eat something I didn't like firstbecause mom and dad would make me eat it.
They would always say, oh,they're they're,
you know, childrenstarving over in Ethiopia or whatever.
They would use that argument.
That's all I gotta eat is that I feel badfor those kid, you know, or said, tip
over to the kids in Ethiopia.Let them have this. I don't want it.
Reminds me of my brother
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when I had a beloved Easter ham.
And he told me.
I said it was, 12:00,
but it was at 2:00, so he came in.
Really hungry.
You know, just complaining a little bit.
Yeah.
And I said, you know, in other countries,
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they know what real hunger is.
You're not experiencing real hunger.
And he said to me, I don't give.
My breakfast right out of the empty.
And five hours.
He wasn't going for that argument. Right.
That went right over his head.
Right over his head.
Wow. But, But it's morning.
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The one thing that I don't want to dois to eat that
bowl from is watch the news.
Totally agree.
Except for local news to get the weatherright.
Sure. Right. You know just a little.
It's light. It's light.
But you're right.
The first thing in the morninglike we talked about in the past,
many times you know, on and off. Yeah.
You and I, we want our dayto begin with intentionality.
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So we want to take control of our daythe best way we can by,
you know, prayerful work, gratitude.
You know, and just focus on that.
Then a little bit later on, you can takea look at the news just to be aware.
We don't want to be ostricheswith our heads in the sand.
We want to be awareso we can pray about the world.
Do I pray about the world no matter what?
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Yeah.
My head in the sand.
Because.
Are things out of my control, right?
And I see enough of it on Facebookor Instagram.
Things will pop up.
And, But the more you dowhat we call our prayer,
prayerful work, which, you know,whatever it is for you.
For talking to it.
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Just to the universe.
Sure.
You know, just,you know, putting it out there and
and you do get answers.
You really do.
So when we're sending stuff, our prayers,
our don't just pick up the same old anger.
Right? Right.
You have to really look and listen.
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Because you will get answers.
People do show up.
Or there could be something really greatto read.
Instead of getting angry.
You have angry conversation about thingsyou think you don't
know,and that's really good choice to do that.
The thing is, we arewe are getting signs all the time.
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We just have to be aware of.
Get your antenna up right.
I'm always thinking about that
because, you know, being in the radio biz,I'm always thinking about frequency.
You know, being on the river.
159 or country 92 or 5.
The stations. I'm around.
If you're at 92, 3 or 157,you're not honing in on the frequency.
But once you get to 105 nineand you have to be intentional about,
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go find all a sudden things.
So clear upand you're able to get that great signal.
Same thing if we go out thereintentionally with our antenna up
looking for signs, they're everywhere.
It could be just looking out,seeing a beautiful sunset or sunrise.
It could be a message.
Or if somebody says something to youat the coffee shop
or the grocery store at the gas station,that could be a sign.
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They're everywhere.
We just have to be looking for them.
And too many timeswe look but we don't see.
You know, or we're not or listeningbut we're really not hearing.
Right. Yeah.
And it's tough I mean we're not sayingwe're perfect is that we're far from it.
We're all imperfect you know creatures.
But we're just doing the bestwe can each and every day.
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You know,but the one thing we do have control over,
and we'll say this over and over again,because I think you can't hear it enough.
I can't hear enough.
You have control over your thoughts. Yes.
You have control over your life.
And once you start on that pathof really seeing that,
it does makea big difference in your life.
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And when people say negative things
right it's hard right away.
Like the brain out of song cutslike a knife.
And words can really either bring peopleup or they could just slam you down.
And I've learned to practice the pausea lot more
because I have a tendencysometimes if I'm recording a radio show
or something,being totally transparent here,
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and all of a suddenI get to the end of the of the voice track
and I screw up, which I do all the time,and I slip over my tongue.
I have a tendency sometimes to say a wordwhich I don't want to repeat here.
You know, and a lot of us in the radiobiz can relate to that as like,
you know, and I'm so I'm trying to work onbeing more intentional with
what I say and, and how I respond.
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Yeah. And, it's not always easy. Right.
I know some people are laughing right now.Do you stub your toe.
You say something if you say oh Fu,it doesn't have the same kind of feel.
Oh fu. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
That doesn't seem to come out.
Yeah, but we're trying to work on that,you know?
Well, how we, you know.
So right on that that vibration,
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you know, that, like that radio station,you know, when people say,
I want to listen to country,but why is this rock station on?
Because you turn to that freeway.
That's right.
So we have the powerto change the frequency.
So, you know,and even speaking about prayers
when you scream at the universe,
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God, you know, whatever you call it, it's
I need money.
It's really screaming like a boomerang.
It gives you like, more of that.
Like. Yes.
I would love to have this in my lifebecause this is what I would do with it.
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Right. Thank you so much for hearing me.
I don't go on complaining.
You know, out of your mouth ishow am I going to pay the bills?
I'm going to do that.
Just say it'll show up.
A pastor,a pastor said that to me once. Joyce.
Before that, when you start complaining,I mean, God cares about us.
So the universe, whatever you want to say.
And but, you know,if you're going to complain all the time,
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I think that's where you kind of crosseshis arms, you know?
And it's just you. Okay, okay.You're done yet?
So the whole key is to follow that, followthat up
and I'll say, like, you know, I'mI talk to God like he's my friend.
You know, father, something hereis bothering me, this and that.
But nevertheless,
I trust you.
And I always follow up with that.
Never the less, but never.
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But nevertheless, I trust you.
I don't have to figure this all out.
All I have to dois believe I'm going to do my best today.
You take care of the rest.
It takes the pressure off us.
So it's like when someone gives youa gift,
God gives you what you ask for,and you kind of see it,
but you don't take itbecause you don't see it as a gift.
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And it's given again and again and again.And you're right.
And it is like,I'm going to stop doing that.
And it does remind me of my uncle Art.
Uncle art. What happened?
Uncle Art, was diagnosed with diabetes,
and, my mother was quite the baker.
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And you really, really.
And you're quite the baker, too.
So, Yes. right.
So my mom, being the baker, I remember hersaying she's going to find a way
to make them that apple pieand you like, oh, apples.
Back in the day that there weren't a lotof recipes about that sugarless anything.
Right.
But she found a way to make this applepie was his favorite.
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So she makes this applepie and she brings it over
and she never heard back from a vendor.
So my mom starts thinking
in disaster.
She made something elseand left it with my aunt.
Yeah. And nothing came back.
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So she's stopped making it now.
She died fairly young.
And just then she said to my mom,
I will never forget that apple pie.
It was the best time ever. Wow,
how devastating thing had she said that
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I would have made it every week right?
So I guess since I'm sayinghow much I love your baked goods and Patty
this, we're going to get themevery single week from now on.
And, you know, and I do remember Pattylike the banana one that I made, right?
She liked them all, liked them all.
But sometimes I just make things up.
And then I don't know how to recreate.
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It's all impromptu improvization.
It's all done with love. Exactly.
I love I was selling,you know, my my butterflies.
And when it became a businessand then it was not the same.
It's not the same.
I kept that going on and offfor almost 30 years.
Then I made the decisionthat I'm only going to make this
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right, and that's it.
I have joy making it.
Yes, you have Joyce making it.
So to do things with different intentions.
Right. Yeah.
Same thing.
You know, I'm thinking, like,that'll be the last time
that when you see someone who is homelessor someone that needs something
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and you do that second guess, like, oh,you probably deserve it, you're right.
But if your intention is good,
that'swhen we're blessed and you're blessed.
And we do have a tendencyto get judgmental.
If you see the same person
to the same area all the time,like when we get out of church on Sunday,
we see that same person at the bottomof the hill every single week.
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And I don't want to be judgmentalbecause a lot of people say, oh, you know,
I saw this guy in a different corneranother day and saw this person here.
Why don't they get a job?
There are jobs available for everyone,and I don't want to go down that route.
I don't want to be judgmental like thatbecause I don't know his story.
Whether it's true or not,that's not up to me to decide.
But if I feel like giving to him, I'mgoing to give to him
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and not feel guilty about it.
What he does with the money is not on me.
We don't own the moneyanyway, you know it's on loan.
Yeah, you know we don't own anything.
We're all stewards.So that's the way I look at it.
From a spiritual perspective,that's really true.
I saw a homeless man.
He had a sign, and it was a sign that I never saw before.
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Maybe you have, but his sign said
I hate being in this position.
I hate begging you, but this is what I'm.
I'm up to at this time. In, in, out.
And I didn't have any money on me.
I drove by and I kept. Yes.
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So I went to Dunkin Donutswhere I had my credit card and I bought,
you know, a couple of sandwichesand that's great juice.
And I drove back and I handed it to himbecause I think, God bless you.
God bless you. Yeah.
He was on the corner.
I was going to turnthe corner was zero traffic.
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It was a very quiet day.
And as soon as I gave it to him,I pulled away.
I looked in my rearview mirrorand I promise you, he was gone. Wow.
I didn't even give him enough timeto cross the street or to go anywhere.
And it just. I thought,
okay,he's not here and I have that feeling.
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So a few people had,
you know, and that from the Bibleand it's one of my favorite stories.
You probably know exactly where it is.
I don't,
but I think when the Pharisees weresaying, when are we ever talking to Jesus?
Right?
When are we ever seeing you hungryor homeless or in prison or sick?
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We said, man,you don't do it to the least of these.
You're not doing it to me.
That's right.
And I had that feeling come over me
when that happened.
If you think about that, Joyce,I think about that
as I get older, a little bit more aboutonce we go to the pearly gates someday.
And one thing we all have in common.
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We'll never get out of this worldalive, any of us.
And when you're face to face with Jesus,
remember that personyou passed by on the street corner?
That was me. Yeah.
You know,but even if I don't have money like you,
there's a gentleman I see at the radio,right by the radio station
when I go up to Hartfordat the end of the ramp.
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And if I stop, it'snot like one of these things
where I want to stopor try to go in the other lane
or put my head down like I'm busy.So I have to avoid him.
I still roll down the window and ask him,what's your name?
And that personalizes it.
And I said, then if I have time I'll saytell me your story.
Right. Well what happened. Yeah.
And it's like they look right at you like
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why are you looking at meand look him in the eye.
Because you're still a human being.
You know, just for that short time.
You're there. You're there anyway.
At least show them respect.You don't know their story.
That could be you.
I mean, every single person we know.
Well, not every person,but a lot of people are only two or 3
or 4 paychecksaway from losing their their home.
There's a lot of people that way.
So if we're going to be on our high horseall the time, I don't know.
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Yeah.
And it doesn't have anything to do
with not working hard enoughor whatever things people keep.
Prices go up and taxes, sure.
So, you know, I've been in a position,you know, I was told to,
find out where your your friends are,and I was I was in danger of that, too.
A couple of times.
I was in danger earlier in my lifeof, of bankruptcy,
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I was in danger of losing my home.
I was in danger.
I had I had my car, you know,I towed away in the past.
I mean, this is real, folks. This is real.This is real life here.
We've lived through a lot of this.
We know. Yeah.
Sitting here on golden age today.
No, not and not at all.
And the thing is, when we, we saidwhen we going to do this podcast
what's goodthat we're going to be transparent
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and we are far from perfect people.
We're not here to preach to anybody,
but we're just here to say, hey, listen,we know how you feel and in many ways
and how you feel and,and we really do have inner peace.
But it's something that we work at.
Yeah.
You know, it's not something that we takefor granted and,
and we want that for all of you.
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And that's why we're, we're,we're doing this show to say that
we've been through a lot of stuffand we're still standing,
and we're standing
with a smile on her faceand thankful every morning, every morning,
we can see when we get out of bedthat, you know, whatever it is.
And that's right.
I mean, yesterday morning, for instance,you know, I mean, over the past
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three weeks,you know, I, I, you know, I was,
at a doctor appointment and I came outthere was a flat tire.
And on this particular car,with the all wheel drive,
you have to replace all four tires.
You can't replace just one choice.
So there was a big giant bill,and then a week later,
Patty went to an appointment.
She came up with a flat tire. Same thing.
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Two weeks.
And then yesterday
we had someone come over to take a lookat our water system, you know, yearly,
you know, checkup and said, okay,your tank is riding 1600 bucks.
And then for the service and everythingelse, 2100 bucks.
But we took a deep breath.
Patty and I said, God will provide.
God will provide.
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And this could be a warning,
I mean, and then I said, babe,this is an investment in our house anyway.
Investment in our cars.
She always said,you look at the positive side.
Yeah, well I basicallyit's like our cars have brand new tires.
We're set for a while.
We got the new tank.We're gonna have to get it anyway.
We don't have to worry about, you know,the, the water being a bad quality.
We don't have to worry about the pressuregoing down.
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You're in the middle of the shower,and all of a sudden it goes down.
You're washing your hair,and you got to wait,
you know, two minutes for the rinse off.
We don't have to worry about that anymore.
So I'm always tryingto catch the positive.
But we all have those things, right.
That happened to us all the time.
And we it's how do we respond to it?
I know I've learned to say,because a lot of those things
have happened to melately, especially with the accident.
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Yes. Right.
And how fast I am able to say, especiallyif something happens with my house.
I need a roof with which I know,and I got this for you.
I get to have.
Yes, yes, these are rich people homes
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because we have a house,so something goes wrong with the house.
So now I have a house, right?
I have a house that.
Yes, I still have a mortgage on it,but this is my my home.
So something needs to be fixed.
You know,I ask for the right people to show,
you know, and to know.
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And that does happen.
You know, I was sitting inwas talking about it.
This show was kind of aboutlike the universe and and calling out.
And sometimes things happen super fast
with me to the point where I didn'twrite it in my book because I thought
people would leave this kind of the truth,
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and I was going to send it from home.
I'm sitting in the parking lot and I am.
And while I'm in the parking lot,our mutual person, you know, you know,
Randy, I'll say.
Oh, he worked at the local theater.
Right. Great guy, great guy.
And a very, very spiritual. Yeah.
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Yes, man.
And I happened to be.
And just before Easter and he calledchecking on me and and when we hung up.
And then it's still too early to go in,I said, no, let's go.
I'm really, you know, because I wasI was raised
in the Catholic Church,not really raised by my parents.
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They kind of just sent me to,
and I looked at the stained glass.
And I love I love the army to me too.
So I just sat thereand I said, I would just love to connect
with the priest and talk to himand just get back into that.
That would be a great thing.
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And then guess what
happens while I'm still in the car?
The woman I know who does marketing,
she said, hey Joyce,I just wanted to connect with it was Rene.
And she said, I'm sitting here with,Father Ed.
Oh, the father.
Ed. Whoa.
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And he's looking for some helpwith marketing.
And I said, okay.
And, you know, given my number.
So he called me the next day and,and we had lunch.
And it was quite remarkablebecause he sat in the booth
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and he looked at me like, John Seville,look at you.
And he didn't ask me whatnormal people asked me about marketing.
So here's what I got going on.
What could you do to me?
He looked at meand he said, tell me about jewels.
Wow. When he said that, I welled up.
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How many people do that?
They don't.
Right?
I mean, how many people say, well,how is your how is your day?
The people are.
So you wait for the answer right people
to is he talking about their favoritesubject was just in the cells.
And we're all guilty of that at times.
But when you ask somebodyabout them in their day, like Father Ed,
you know,we're going to get as a guest eventually.
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By the way, as a guest,you just love this guy.
You give his full name there.
Joyce father and the doll.
Yeah.
He's got like a gazillionwatt followers on TikTok.
He has over 2 million, 2million, 2 million.
It's like number five, right?
So he's an amazing guy.
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He really is.
Yeah.
But, he he he walks the talk.
Yeah. 100%.
So what we're having this breakfasttogether.
His phone kept ringingand I know he puts billboards up
throughout Connecticut and,and has a phone number on it.
And I realized
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wait a minute,is that phone number on there.
You're so he said yes.
He said hey, how is it.
How are you dealing with all of this.
He says, no, I do.
I have a fact, everybody.
So what did they ask you for?
He said they usually ask for prayer.
We ask for forgiveness.
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Or do you want me to go?
Oh. Oh, really?
Some people say that.
Oh for that.
But but he's.
But he's so real.
So he's so real. So.
Yeah, he calls me.
Always tells me he loves me. Yeah.
So am I ever going to see youbefore the second coming of Jesus?
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Yeah, yeah.
That's right, I can't wait, I can't wait.
You know,
we need more and more people like him toput his cell phone number on there, too.
And I learned that, like, in business
with, with withmy business is to my deejay business.
I will put my cell phone out there
on all my cars,but also on my radio commercials.
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And when we did a billboard,we I did the same thing
because I want them to know that they'retalking to the owner of the business.
So we we live in a worldwhere customer service is kind of lacking,
right from what I hear.
But when you talk directly to the it'sold school and I want them to talk to me,
knowing that it's not just,you know, my DJ
that I'm sending out to the event or me,you have access to the entire company.
(25:38):
We're all here to help you.
But but especiallythe owner of the business.
And I think that's cool.The father, Ed, does that right.
You know, I just say, wow,you really care enough to put that?
Yeah.
And we're going to get back to youright away. Yeah.
At least within 24 hours anyway.
I mean, people just need to knowthey matter.
We live in a very, very coldworld, and people just think, God,
nobody cares anymore, you know, botherbecause of social media, right?
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We're just talking online.You're talking text.
How many people?
You know, a lot of people talk at you,but not to you, right?
So just just what you were saying
when you get the thoughts,when you ask for something
to God,
to the universe, and you put it outthere, you're speaking to the voice.
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That's right. Exactly.
Because again, like we were saying before,we don't own anything.
We're stewards here.
We have complete access to the boss.
And that's a beautiful thing.
No matter where we are,we have access. So.
So the whole key,
joyous, is just to go out there and just,you know, always look for good,
always look for the good out there becauseit's easy to go down that negative.
The rabbit hole.
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But you know, bea little bit more intentional.
And I know this is advice to myselfto look for the good.
Yeah.
It's like a song by Jason Mraz.
Look it up. It's called Look for the good.
It's a great song, very, very positive.
It's got kind of a reggae feel to it.
But look for the Good by Jason Mraz.
Mira's It's a must every day.
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Look for what's good in your lifebecause there's always something good.
And what's good for meis I love when you say
a little prayerbecause when you send that to me,
it really impacts my day.
Amen. Until next time.
We wish you and your familynothing but the best. Again.
Search for what's good and ensureour podcast with other people.
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It's on all the streaming platforms.
And until next time, blessyou and your family.
Bye bye. Bye.
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