May 7, 2025 • 28 mins
When YOU change your thoughts – everything will change. We’ll show you how to get to that place in a quick way with ease!
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Oh, my goodness.
What is this?
This is. This is what's good. Joyce.
This is what's good.
Whoa! Yummy yummy yummy.
I didn't judge them
for what's good.
You don't eat.
I know I always enjoy.
You know, when I looked at this as a joy,you know, I just started the 72 hour fast
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72 hours and people are thinking,is that it?
How could you do that?
How could you eat,you know, or not eat in 72 hours?
But I've done this before.
You know, I would have been fine,but I have done a lot of research on it.
But it's really like building a brandnew immune system after that 72 hours.
Yeah.
(00:43):
If I don't fall off the chair first.
Oh, but as I look at it, this say,oh my goodness.
But what do you say 72 hours fast.
So you'reyou're drinking our drinking water?
I'm drinking a lot of black coffee.
Water. Seltzer water. No. No beer
but oh my goodness.
But I do that maybe onceevery couple months,
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you know, just basicallyto clean out the system.
It's like buildinga brand new immune system.
But again, don't do this at homeunless you've done your research
about this because everybody's different.
You want to consult your doctorbefore you do something that,
you know, crazypeople have a medical problem, right?
Right.
Yeah. But, yeah.
So the first.
But now you're used to it.
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I'm used to it now. Typically.
Typically what I'll do is off fastone day a week, 24 hours one day.
And I eat one meal a day between like fourand eight in the afternoon.
And that's, usually, pretty much keto.
You know, I'm good mix of vegetables,lots of meats too.
And it's just it's just me.
I want to stay away from the processedfoods.
(01:45):
Just taking care of the temple.
Yeah.
See your post and what you eat.
And that makes me.
So, I'm married to the Iron Chef.
My wife Patty is amazing.
Puts up with all my stuff.
Most timesI think you're in a restaurant, but she.
She is making it.
I mean, you're in a maze even thoughyou're a baker, but you also make more.
(02:06):
And I like to cook, right? Right.
Okay. She just. Honey.
And this is what's good with John and Joy.
So our podcastand we appreciate you having us on
what we just, you know, talk about stuff,but we try to keep it light.
You know inspirational.
Just be your respite from all thenegativity out there in the world today.
And so many peoplehave been watching Joyce.
And I'm just sayingwe really love the laid back approach
(02:28):
and the fact that you guysjust are staying away from the politics
and all the negativity in the world,and that's what we want to do.
Just put a little smile on your face.
Yeah, we want everyone to be happy andthat's why we have our legs to feel good.
We have our legs crossed for casual.
That's the delusion of being casual.
Legs are crossed, you know,
(02:48):
even though one guy told me
at the gym, Joyce, it'snot manly for a guy across his legs.
And I'm saying,what are you talking about?
I'm comfortable with. Well.
Thank you. See you take that, Rob.
Okay.
You do?
I mean, life is really about the mindsetlike you do with your fast.
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Yeah. You get that tunnel vision.
It's like a horse with blindersyou know like.
Yeah.
You know some people might sayoh I wish I had that.
But we really all have everybody does.
Everybody has discipline.
Yes. Yeah.
Just we want to do something.
You'll find a way.
You'll find a way that discipline about
so many people say I can never do that.
(03:31):
Well just say how can I do it?
You know, it'show badly do you want to do it?
And if it's somethingyou don't want to do,
you're not going to have success at it.You have to find something
you really want to doand just have an end goal in mind.
Have an end goal in mind.
And I know, likewhen you wake up in the morning,
in a waywithout even saying maybe what's good,
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which we always ask people, what's fun?
You are already thankfulfor what gratitude is.
You go first thing in the morning.
So many people will say to me,how's everything going today?
I said, well, I made a decision todayto have a good day right now.
I made that decision. And people go, well,I like that.
I like that because we can make a decisionto be happy or miserable, right?
(04:14):
Right.
Happiness is an inside choiceeach and every day.
It's not easy.
It's not easy when you get up, you know,you got to deal with the kids.
And maybe the coffeemaker didn't work.
Or are you going outside?The car didn't start.
You have a flat tire or something, or,you know, I got a bill in the mail
that you're wondering,how are you going to pay?
But just take a deep breathand realize that this will pass.
(04:36):
Yeah.
You know, you've
you've been bailed out many,many times in the past during your life.
And this will pass, too, even thoughit doesn't seem that way at the time
for certain.
You've been there, you've been there,you've been there.
We've all been there.
As I was getting ready this morning,the phone call came in
and I could see it was this carpenter,because I need, my deck repaired.
(04:57):
Oh, join the club.
We should.
So as I'm feeling all happy
getting ready to see you in the studio,
he starts giving me the the the price.
If they don't find a problemand he'll be this amount
if there is a problem.
And that's not good.
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That's not good.
I can feel myself sinking, like.
Yes, I think I even said what?
Yeah.
Then I thought,you know, no, don't check that.
Check that because, I know,and it was really nice guy.
Yeah.
And he said, get other pricesand let me look at them
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because I'll be able to tellif they're doing it right or something.
You don't have to do it,you know, to anyone or anything.
He was taking the high road on that.
I like that he took the high road,but it was a little too high.
Right? Right.
I see I set up a softballfor you there. Joyce.
So maybe we
can find someone that is not as high.
(05:59):
So I have I have hopes for thatbecause my deck is kind of.
Yeah, mine's rickety to it.
It needs work for us to be out on it.
But when I, The reasonwhy I'm saying this is,
I think many moons ago,
I would have been the person saying,oh, my God, you know,
of course it's this price and go like,
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you're right, you're,
put yourself upfor kind of a down, down you do.
And then the worst thing to dois start telling everybody, oh, no.
Yeah, but that guy, you know,
I looked at it as, oh, find someone,I'll get this done.
And this guy was really, really nice.
(06:44):
Yeah,it was a classy response on his part.
Yeah,
but you're right.
I mean,we really don't have so many minutes
in the day or hours in the dayand only so much time on this planet.
And, they say youthis wasted on the young so many times,
you know, that we don't find a lotof this stuff out until later in life.
So can we go back?
But if you are, you're young,listening in right now.
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Like you say, don't sweat the small stuff.
And most of it is small stuff.
At 95, 97% of what we worry about
really doesn't come to fruition yet.
We still worry,and we all have that in common.
We're human beings.
And if you do worry like that,you know, cut yourself some slack.
Because we all do.
We all do. We just, you know,just need to correct our thought
and and you need to learn how to,
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manifest. You're stronger.
You're more creativethan what you realize, right?
You need to call it in. Call in that.
Good day.
It's what we say.
And what we speak over our lives.
Says so much about the kind of day we'regoing to have if we're like, you are.
I'm I'm I'm Charlie Brown.
You're going to bring thatinto your life. Yes.
I speak to many people like that.
(07:50):
Being in a type of businessthat I'm in, my type of,
you know,helping people with their mindset.
Well, your books help.
I mean, starving your fearsand living abundantly.
The two books that, I've read already,they've helped me more.
People should know about this book.
It is in that black.
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I'm your agent.
I'm helping you.
You know,this is going to help more people.
However, there are people
who call me about my book,and then they spend.
And I'm not kidding.
2 to 3 hours on the phone with me
complaining.
Yeah.
And I have to keep nudging themright back.
(08:32):
Well if you read this and you like this
you can do this.
But then I realize that some people like
me may need to it that right.
And I know in my,my first book started your fears.
I do strongly believe this, thatif something happens
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and Iand I said this on one of the other shows,
but I can never say it enough, apparently.
And I need to hear it too.
It's, Stop telling
the same story to everyone
that there's really only three peoplethat need to hear your story.
You know, your spouse, your doctor,your minister,
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you know, and or good friend.
And that's it.
Right.
Because other than that,your brain does not know
the differencebetween that experience happening now
and that experiencing experiencethat you experienced five, ten years ago.
And we see that happen.
I when I watch a true crime. Yes.
(09:38):
Like we have a and Lisa right.
What a great guest. You us yes.
And and watch that showif you haven't watched it about
what my murder is.
Yeah. Told me. Yeah.
I mean, that was international news, like,not ten years ago.
Yeah. I'm like that.
And I was concerned about her,but she knows how to deal with,
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because she has to retell that story now,
and she's promoting herright over and over and over again.
I watch these true crime documentaries
that are on,you know, 2020 and Dateline 48 hours.
And even though it's a cold caseand it may have been 20 years ago
that happenedas they were interviewing the people.
(10:23):
Now use your crime theory, right?
I mean, theythey're going through it again.
And I'm always hoping that
they protect themselves right away.
So that doesn't seep in and linger again,
I think
I think when Annie tells her story, she'sbeen able to put things in compartments,
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and it's so importantto be able to do that.
But you're right.
It's like,
it's like a channel, you know,there's like a 55,000 channels out there.
And if you don't like the channel,change it.
The same thing with that realthat's in your head, that low light, real.
You know, let's focus on the highlightreel.
Yeah. And you can do that.
You can change. Yeah. That's right. Yeah.
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And you may send me which I'm gonna.
Joyce I'm stuck at this job.
You might be right now
because you need to make that incomeand have that in Charlotte.
But you can plan on something else. Sure.
You can always make plansor even a sign job.
Oh. Or something.
Right?
Always somethingI think that we all can do.
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And I think about that job situation.
I've been in some situations in the past.
I wasn't crazy about, but I had a job.
There's some people that didn't have a job
and they would have loved to had the job.
I have because think about the end result.
You're learning.
You're maybe blessingpeople in the workplace.
You're making new friends,you know, you're learning a new skill,
or you're sharing that skillwith somebody else.
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There's always a positive side of itrather than, oh, I got to go to that work.
I hate that work.You get, you get to go to work.
You don't have to go to work.You get to go to work.
Yes, I know
and that down there.
That's right.
Has no wife in the seven drawers, right.
You know what she. Wow.
Yeah.
But you have to, you know, again,you're the creator of your life.
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And and again, I've said this, I'm
going to keep saying itis that the greatest paradox in life
is thatunless you love where you are right now,
it's difficultto get to where you want to be.
Or are there steps in life?
How many timesyou've been through a situation
and you'll look back at a later?
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You dreaded the choice at the time,but you look back at it now.
I know why I had to grow through that.
I don't say go through that.
I say grow through that because everythingis a growing experience.
You were growing either spiritually,mentally, physically, whatever it may be.
Look at it as a growing experience.
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And again, we're not preaching here.
We know because,I mean, I screw up all the time
and I have to correct my thoughtsa lot too.
Yeah, I think we live it.
And, you know, and it wasn't always,
Pollyanna that some people come by,
you think that it was, in fact,you know, I was called a sullen teenager.
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Sullen teenager.
I was, you know, I was I was angry about,
about so many things.
Right.
So my parents were right about.
Yeah. You were a teenager.
It's amazing how as we get older,we realize how smart our parents were.
The older we get, the smarter they become.
But you know, something that.
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You get upsetbecause parents don't give up on people.
I mean, people in generaldon't give up on him because the things
that were told to me when I was youngerand didn't believe it
later on, it's. Yes.
And I could hear those wordsand I could pull on that.
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Right. You know,I used to have to go to church.
I have towhen I was younger, I didn't want to be.
There was just something that I had to do.
But later on it stays with you,
so you just don't give up.
As my mom used to say,
sometimes you give people adviceand it sounds like
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they're just dismissing you.
But in The Still of the nightsounds like a song
that some in the nightwhen they think about what you said.
So never feel like your words are wasted,
especially the positive ones.
And how many times you think people aren'treally getting it, but they are,
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they come up to you later on like there's a young man at the gym
was not such a young man anymore.
And I would always talk to this guy.
I'd always say hello to himall the time, ask him about his day.
He didn't really say much at the time,but he told me, like, years later,
that you saying hello to memade me feel so good and made me feel like
I matter because nobody, ever,nobody else had asked me about my day.
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And even though he didn'trespond all that much because he was very,
very shy and had a troubled home life,you said that meant a lot to him.
So sometimes when you don't thinkyou're getting through, you are,
oh my gosh, just by being kind to people.
When we talk about that, talk aboutwhat's good, you know, just being kind
and never throw in the towel on people.
I don't care who they are.
You don't want to enable people at times,but I have a hard time
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giving up on anybody because I know that,he doesn't give up on me
with all the, you know, crazy stuff I do.
I mean, you also have to stay engaged,know you can love people from a distance.
Certain family members of that way.
Right?
Yeah, there's a lot of things like that.
So what I always told people
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that I worked with,you know, like one on one,
a therapy, especially for
anxiety, phobias, I mean, you
name it, it's just, you know, acalm box of things like depression
is that every night,
I urge you all to do this.
I still do this, thatwhen you turn everything off
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and you're going to sleepfor five minutes.
Just five minutes,
you say to yourself every day
and in every wayI'm getting better and better.
And that could mean in your financesthat could mean anybody.
I'm certainly living that now
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due to the car accident that I was in and,but imagine it happening.
Don't just say the words
feel it in your body.
Imagine what your life will be
and is like without that, that.
Oh how does it feel not to have to worryabout paying the bills?
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That money is coming in.
How does it feel waking up in the morningwithout pain?
You know, feel that in your brainisn't listening
and sends out these transmitters, right?
Because that's just the way it works.
We, one of the greatest therapists
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I know, was going to writea book called My Stupid Brain. Wow.
Because your brain is the portal,is the computer that runs our bodies.
And what you keep feedingit will show up in your life.
So if you keep saying,I feel sick and I'm paying
and I never make enough money, then it'skind of like, that's what you attract.
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You get on that vibrationand you get stuck on that track.
I'm never going to go on that vacation.You know what you are?
You're not going to go on a vacationif you keep saying that.
But if you have pictureslike vision boards,
I think that's a great thing,a vision board.
You put pictures up there,maybe a vacation you want to go on,
and you look at them and say,I can't wait to go.
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I can't wait to go to Ireland.
I can't wait to go seethe northern Lights in Iceland.
I can't wait to go to Italy.
You're speaking like it's alreadyin the schedule.
It's amazing like you said, Joyce, howthat can come into existence.
Because the universe or God, whatever canmirror that and it can bring it into so.
And I rather
speak abundance over myselfthan, you know, beat myself up.
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The world beats us up enough.
So let's speak.
You know, like you said, claim it.
I mean it right?
Yeah.
If if anything, be for yourself.
Be on your own side.
Yeah, it's pretty easy to do,although it seems to me.
Well, in theory,it's easy to do it right. But.
But one just like you with the fasting,
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once you start doing something,it becomes easier
and your body starts like, yes, yes,
initially the very first time you did it.
It was a little hard
and just the thought of ittoo, with the fasting,
the thought of it like last week,I think, you know, I got that coming up.
But then once you're actually doingit and you made your mind up
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tunnel vision,
no matter what happens, I made my mind upthat I'm going to do it, you know?
And then it gets easier.
The first day is always the hardest.
Second day a little bit easier.
Third day gets easier. Yeah.
And and you're still plenty.
Plant plenty of energy, less brain fog.
And my workouts are still good.
You know, I just feel likelike I'm lighter on my feet.
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Yeah, I like that. Yeah.
So make up your mind to do thatbecause you're
your mindset changes your life.
And you can do that and that.
Sometimes it's gradual.
Sometimes it's not so gradual.
I try to do everybody's different.
Everybody's different.
Don't compare yourself to other people,you know,
because comparisons are the thief of joy.
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What works for somebody else may not workfor you, so you just run your own race.
Walk your own race. Yes.
And when you look atpeople who have great wealth,
I urge
you not to say somethingnegative about them.
You know, that brings down
you and your abilityto have that same kind of wealth.
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I think, you know,the great wealth is a good thing
when it's used in the right way.
A lot of these people, they took risks.
Yeah.
And a lot of these people employa lot of other people out there.
So I've never been one of these peopleto say, oh, they're so rich this and that.
I'm going to say I'm happy for them.
I'm sure for them, because the only thing
we really want in life,you know, we've talked about this
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and we will always talk aboutthis isn't even the wealthiest person.
They.
I think they really want happiness.
Sure they do. They want to have choices.
I think what happens is when it cross overthat and it becomes about right.
Talking about
or talking about,
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having an abundance of moneyand great health, right?
So that we can enjoy our lives and helpour families and help our community.
That's that's your.
Because when you do have that overflow,it blesses other people as well.
It really does. And you're right.
The love of money.
Yeah.
That's a that's as I believe that'syou know, but when you have that
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extra moneyand you're able to help other people
and be humble about it, and sure, howyou spend your money, that's up to you.
We're not going to judge,
but when you get so many of these people,and I know a lot of wealthy people
that are just have good hearts,they give so much of it away.
You know,
they're deeply spiritual in many,many ways,
and they're grateful for what they have.
What's A Christmas Carol? Yes.
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Think of Scrooge.
It's one of my favorites to watch.
It's timeless.
The message is, it is.
And especially the ending,because that kind of euphoria,
you know, happened when he realized
his whole lifeand the future and everything.
And he saw the suffering of people.
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Yeah, it helped them and it just made him
and not only help others, but my gosh,he enjoyed.
Yeah.
But just having that guyand you know, the the big,
you know, the grim Reaper outfitwould scare the heck out of me too.
I'm going to be good to everybody if I seehim showing up in my bedroom, you know.
But but seriously, when he sees Tiny Timand and how he's able to help and benefit
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that family and just realize that,wow, it's not just about me.
It's about other peopleand just appreciating your employees.
Who are your team?You're only as good as your employees.
And I think he had
a greater appreciation for himrather than thinking he's just my servant.
Exactly. That's servanthood.
And saving the money.
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Not spending. Right? Right, right. Yeah.
Saving for what?
You can't.
Then you can't take it with you, right?
You can take it with him. Yeah.
So mindset is everything.
And from the timeyou wake up in the morning and you say,
I'm going to make this a great day,it is a great day in time.
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You go to bed at night and just say,wow, wasn't a great day and everything.
Everything was so good.
And I know how much it saves.
Whoa.
Because when I go to physical therapy.
And they point outwhat's still not healing.
(23:24):
Right.
I hurt for a while until I remind myself,
no I am you are healed.
You're speaking in the affirmative.
Better I am doing that.
But something like that.
If you have someone always saying, well,what's wrong with you?
Right?
This isn't happening.
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You have to build that foundation.
But then you you really do sothat nothing really takes you off track.
And that just comes withgratitude throughout the day.
You know, no matter what it is.
Doctor called you about something.
Say you have a doctor, right?
(24:04):
I lucky that I can go for some blood testand and do that.
And we have some really great people.You know.
No, I don't like these shoes.
Well, be grateful that you have feet
where you can put the shoes on, you know,I mean, it's just,
you know, twisty and I could find myselfgetting in a mood once in a while.
My wife will correct my thought,rather correct her thought.
And we'll look at each othergo, yeah, you're right about that.
It just changes everything.
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So if you have somebody who's really goodat correcting your thought,
that's that's good accountabilitypartner is always good to it.
If you're able to have that person.
Yeah, I'm a few
people in my life that won't stop me.
Right.
Enough already.Enough, enough. Be grateful.
Yeah.
You know, the first time that happened tome, you know, I remember feeling like,
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fuck.
But this is happening in my life.
Like when my husband was dying.
And I was asked by someone,
you know that I adore and how is it going.
And I started to go downthat dark way of reality. Yes.
And she just said stop.
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She said tell me how you are right now.
Like I didn't ask about this, thisand that
and tell me where your mind isat right now.
Yeah.
And how you see yourself, you know,
coping right.
And she made me change the way I spoke.
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Right.
And to uplift me.
And that's a good friend.
That's a really good friend.
Yes. Her name is in my finebook, abundance.
I dedicated the book. Right.
Because she's always been the one.
Yeah.
Hold up the mirror.
You know, kept me on track.
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Now, you may say, aren'tyou lucky to have a friend like that.
Well, I've kept a friend like that.
Right.
I think there are other peoplethat might say I don't want to hear it.
Right.
But I wanted to hear it.
I wanted to improve my life. So.
But even when you don't necessarilywant to hear it, but you need to hear it,
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that friend is there.
And I have a couple of those friendsin my life to say, hey, listen.
And it's all how you preface it.
Listen, you know I love you.
You know, everythingI say is here to your benefit.
But I've got to tell you something here,you know, and just please take this
the right way,because it's coming from a place of love.
So I think it's really importantto preface your comment like that
rather than coming acrossas being accusing, accusatory.
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You're right.
That's, that's, that's very strong,you know, but
but yeah, I mean, at the end of the day,like Joyce, like you said
before, the beginning of the day, expectgood things to happen.
At the end of the day,I like to go through my entire day
and say, you know,I'm really grateful for that person.
I met the coffee shop today.
I'm really grateful for thatnice thing somebody at the gym said today,
you know, I'm really gratefulthat my little things I'm grateful for my
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for my bride at home, that I that I haveher at home, that she's such a great cook,
but she's so supportive of meand everything that I do and vice versa.
I'm grateful for my kitty cats
who greet me and love me unconditionallyevery time I come in the house.
I mean, it's just things like that.
I'm grateful for the you know, Daveand Stephanie here at the studio that we,
you know, broadcast from in Brantford.
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You know, I'm grateful foryou and your friendship all these years.
You know, just gratitude.And it just lifts you up and your
pointout all the things you're grateful for.
And we wish that for all of you,you can do it.
You can.
And this is what's goodwith John and Joyce
available on all your streaming platforms.
So please tell a friend about us.Somebody who needs a pick me up.
Somebody who needs an escapefrom all the negativity out there.
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And we appreciate youand we appreciate you watching.
And, we're just so grateful for you.
We want to lift everyone and we pray foryou and your family, your health,
your happiness,
your your abundance, and nothingbut the best for you and your family.
Thank you, thank you. Okay.
Oh, my goodness.
What is this?
This is. This is what's good. Joyce.
This is what's good.
Whoa! Yummy yummy yummy.
I didn't judge them
for what's good.
You don't eat.
I know I always enjoy.
You know, when I looked at this as a joy,you know, I just started the 72 hour fast
(00:22):
72 hours and people are thinking,is that it?
How could you do that?
How could you eat,you know, or not eat in 72 hours?
But I've done this before.
You know, I would have been fine,but I have done a lot of research on it.
But it's really like building a brandnew immune system after that 72 hours.
Yeah.
(00:43):
If I don't fall off the chair first.
Oh, but as I look at it, this say,oh my goodness.
But what do you say 72 hours fast.
So you'reyou're drinking our drinking water?
I'm drinking a lot of black coffee.
Water. Seltzer water. No. No beer
but oh my goodness.
But I do that maybe onceevery couple months,
(01:04):
you know, just basicallyto clean out the system.
It's like buildinga brand new immune system.
But again, don't do this at homeunless you've done your research
about this because everybody's different.
You want to consult your doctorbefore you do something that,
you know, crazypeople have a medical problem, right?
Right.
Yeah. But, yeah.
So the first.
But now you're used to it.
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I'm used to it now. Typically.
Typically what I'll do is off fastone day a week, 24 hours one day.
And I eat one meal a day between like fourand eight in the afternoon.
And that's, usually, pretty much keto.
You know, I'm good mix of vegetables,lots of meats too.
And it's just it's just me.
I want to stay away from the processedfoods.
(01:45):
Just taking care of the temple.
Yeah.
See your post and what you eat.
And that makes me.
So, I'm married to the Iron Chef.
My wife Patty is amazing.
Puts up with all my stuff.
Most timesI think you're in a restaurant, but she.
She is making it.
I mean, you're in a maze even thoughyou're a baker, but you also make more.
(02:06):
And I like to cook, right? Right.
Okay. She just. Honey.
And this is what's good with John and Joy.
So our podcastand we appreciate you having us on
what we just, you know, talk about stuff,but we try to keep it light.
You know inspirational.
Just be your respite from all thenegativity out there in the world today.
And so many peoplehave been watching Joyce.
And I'm just sayingwe really love the laid back approach
(02:28):
and the fact that you guysjust are staying away from the politics
and all the negativity in the world,and that's what we want to do.
Just put a little smile on your face.
Yeah, we want everyone to be happy andthat's why we have our legs to feel good.
We have our legs crossed for casual.
That's the delusion of being casual.
Legs are crossed, you know,
(02:48):
even though one guy told me
at the gym, Joyce, it'snot manly for a guy across his legs.
And I'm saying,what are you talking about?
I'm comfortable with. Well.
Thank you. See you take that, Rob.
Okay.
You do?
I mean, life is really about the mindsetlike you do with your fast.
(03:10):
Yeah. You get that tunnel vision.
It's like a horse with blindersyou know like.
Yeah.
You know some people might sayoh I wish I had that.
But we really all have everybody does.
Everybody has discipline.
Yes. Yeah.
Just we want to do something.
You'll find a way.
You'll find a way that discipline about
so many people say I can never do that.
(03:31):
Well just say how can I do it?
You know, it'show badly do you want to do it?
And if it's somethingyou don't want to do,
you're not going to have success at it.You have to find something
you really want to doand just have an end goal in mind.
Have an end goal in mind.
And I know, likewhen you wake up in the morning,
in a waywithout even saying maybe what's good,
(03:53):
which we always ask people, what's fun?
You are already thankfulfor what gratitude is.
You go first thing in the morning.
So many people will say to me,how's everything going today?
I said, well, I made a decision todayto have a good day right now.
I made that decision. And people go, well,I like that.
I like that because we can make a decisionto be happy or miserable, right?
(04:14):
Right.
Happiness is an inside choiceeach and every day.
It's not easy.
It's not easy when you get up, you know,you got to deal with the kids.
And maybe the coffeemaker didn't work.
Or are you going outside?The car didn't start.
You have a flat tire or something, or,you know, I got a bill in the mail
that you're wondering,how are you going to pay?
But just take a deep breathand realize that this will pass.
(04:36):
Yeah.
You know, you've
you've been bailed out many,many times in the past during your life.
And this will pass, too, even thoughit doesn't seem that way at the time
for certain.
You've been there, you've been there,you've been there.
We've all been there.
As I was getting ready this morning,the phone call came in
and I could see it was this carpenter,because I need, my deck repaired.
(04:57):
Oh, join the club.
We should.
So as I'm feeling all happy
getting ready to see you in the studio,
he starts giving me the the the price.
If they don't find a problemand he'll be this amount
if there is a problem.
And that's not good.
(05:18):
That's not good.
I can feel myself sinking, like.
Yes, I think I even said what?
Yeah.
Then I thought,you know, no, don't check that.
Check that because, I know,and it was really nice guy.
Yeah.
And he said, get other pricesand let me look at them
(05:39):
because I'll be able to tellif they're doing it right or something.
You don't have to do it,you know, to anyone or anything.
He was taking the high road on that.
I like that he took the high road,but it was a little too high.
Right? Right.
I see I set up a softballfor you there. Joyce.
So maybe we
can find someone that is not as high.
(05:59):
So I have I have hopes for thatbecause my deck is kind of.
Yeah, mine's rickety to it.
It needs work for us to be out on it.
But when I, The reasonwhy I'm saying this is,
I think many moons ago,
I would have been the person saying,oh, my God, you know,
of course it's this price and go like,
(06:22):
you're right, you're,
put yourself upfor kind of a down, down you do.
And then the worst thing to dois start telling everybody, oh, no.
Yeah, but that guy, you know,
I looked at it as, oh, find someone,I'll get this done.
And this guy was really, really nice.
(06:44):
Yeah,it was a classy response on his part.
Yeah,
but you're right.
I mean,we really don't have so many minutes
in the day or hours in the dayand only so much time on this planet.
And, they say youthis wasted on the young so many times,
you know, that we don't find a lotof this stuff out until later in life.
So can we go back?
But if you are, you're young,listening in right now.
(07:05):
Like you say, don't sweat the small stuff.
And most of it is small stuff.
At 95, 97% of what we worry about
really doesn't come to fruition yet.
We still worry,and we all have that in common.
We're human beings.
And if you do worry like that,you know, cut yourself some slack.
Because we all do.
We all do. We just, you know,just need to correct our thought
and and you need to learn how to,
(07:29):
manifest. You're stronger.
You're more creativethan what you realize, right?
You need to call it in. Call in that.
Good day.
It's what we say.
And what we speak over our lives.
Says so much about the kind of day we'regoing to have if we're like, you are.
I'm I'm I'm Charlie Brown.
You're going to bring thatinto your life. Yes.
I speak to many people like that.
(07:50):
Being in a type of businessthat I'm in, my type of,
you know,helping people with their mindset.
Well, your books help.
I mean, starving your fearsand living abundantly.
The two books that, I've read already,they've helped me more.
People should know about this book.
It is in that black.
(08:10):
I'm your agent.
I'm helping you.
You know,this is going to help more people.
However, there are people
who call me about my book,and then they spend.
And I'm not kidding.
2 to 3 hours on the phone with me
complaining.
Yeah.
And I have to keep nudging themright back.
(08:32):
Well if you read this and you like this
you can do this.
But then I realize that some people like
me may need to it that right.
And I know in my,my first book started your fears.
I do strongly believe this, thatif something happens
(08:53):
and Iand I said this on one of the other shows,
but I can never say it enough, apparently.
And I need to hear it too.
It's, Stop telling
the same story to everyone
that there's really only three peoplethat need to hear your story.
You know, your spouse, your doctor,your minister,
(09:14):
you know, and or good friend.
And that's it.
Right.
Because other than that,your brain does not know
the differencebetween that experience happening now
and that experiencing experiencethat you experienced five, ten years ago.
And we see that happen.
I when I watch a true crime. Yes.
(09:38):
Like we have a and Lisa right.
What a great guest. You us yes.
And and watch that showif you haven't watched it about
what my murder is.
Yeah. Told me. Yeah.
I mean, that was international news, like,not ten years ago.
Yeah. I'm like that.
And I was concerned about her,but she knows how to deal with,
(10:01):
because she has to retell that story now,
and she's promoting herright over and over and over again.
I watch these true crime documentaries
that are on,you know, 2020 and Dateline 48 hours.
And even though it's a cold caseand it may have been 20 years ago
that happenedas they were interviewing the people.
(10:23):
Now use your crime theory, right?
I mean, theythey're going through it again.
And I'm always hoping that
they protect themselves right away.
So that doesn't seep in and linger again,
I think
I think when Annie tells her story, she'sbeen able to put things in compartments,
(10:46):
and it's so importantto be able to do that.
But you're right.
It's like,
it's like a channel, you know,there's like a 55,000 channels out there.
And if you don't like the channel,change it.
The same thing with that realthat's in your head, that low light, real.
You know, let's focus on the highlightreel.
Yeah. And you can do that.
You can change. Yeah. That's right. Yeah.
(11:06):
And you may send me which I'm gonna.
Joyce I'm stuck at this job.
You might be right now
because you need to make that incomeand have that in Charlotte.
But you can plan on something else. Sure.
You can always make plansor even a sign job.
Oh. Or something.
Right?
Always somethingI think that we all can do.
(11:29):
And I think about that job situation.
I've been in some situations in the past.
I wasn't crazy about, but I had a job.
There's some people that didn't have a job
and they would have loved to had the job.
I have because think about the end result.
You're learning.
You're maybe blessingpeople in the workplace.
You're making new friends,you know, you're learning a new skill,
or you're sharing that skillwith somebody else.
(11:51):
There's always a positive side of itrather than, oh, I got to go to that work.
I hate that work.You get, you get to go to work.
You don't have to go to work.You get to go to work.
Yes, I know
and that down there.
That's right.
Has no wife in the seven drawers, right.
You know what she. Wow.
Yeah.
But you have to, you know, again,you're the creator of your life.
(12:13):
And and again, I've said this, I'm
going to keep saying itis that the greatest paradox in life
is thatunless you love where you are right now,
it's difficultto get to where you want to be.
Or are there steps in life?
How many timesyou've been through a situation
and you'll look back at a later?
(12:33):
You dreaded the choice at the time,but you look back at it now.
I know why I had to grow through that.
I don't say go through that.
I say grow through that because everythingis a growing experience.
You were growing either spiritually,mentally, physically, whatever it may be.
Look at it as a growing experience.
(12:53):
And again, we're not preaching here.
We know because,I mean, I screw up all the time
and I have to correct my thoughtsa lot too.
Yeah, I think we live it.
And, you know, and it wasn't always,
Pollyanna that some people come by,
you think that it was, in fact,you know, I was called a sullen teenager.
(13:16):
Sullen teenager.
I was, you know, I was I was angry about,
about so many things.
Right.
So my parents were right about.
Yeah. You were a teenager.
It's amazing how as we get older,we realize how smart our parents were.
The older we get, the smarter they become.
But you know, something that.
(13:38):
You get upsetbecause parents don't give up on people.
I mean, people in generaldon't give up on him because the things
that were told to me when I was youngerand didn't believe it
later on, it's. Yes.
And I could hear those wordsand I could pull on that.
(13:58):
Right. You know,I used to have to go to church.
I have towhen I was younger, I didn't want to be.
There was just something that I had to do.
But later on it stays with you,
so you just don't give up.
As my mom used to say,
sometimes you give people adviceand it sounds like
(14:21):
they're just dismissing you.
But in The Still of the nightsounds like a song
that some in the nightwhen they think about what you said.
So never feel like your words are wasted,
especially the positive ones.
And how many times you think people aren'treally getting it, but they are,
(14:41):
they come up to you later on like there's a young man at the gym
was not such a young man anymore.
And I would always talk to this guy.
I'd always say hello to himall the time, ask him about his day.
He didn't really say much at the time,but he told me, like, years later,
that you saying hello to memade me feel so good and made me feel like
I matter because nobody, ever,nobody else had asked me about my day.
(15:04):
And even though he didn'trespond all that much because he was very,
very shy and had a troubled home life,you said that meant a lot to him.
So sometimes when you don't thinkyou're getting through, you are,
oh my gosh, just by being kind to people.
When we talk about that, talk aboutwhat's good, you know, just being kind
and never throw in the towel on people.
I don't care who they are.
You don't want to enable people at times,but I have a hard time
(15:28):
giving up on anybody because I know that,he doesn't give up on me
with all the, you know, crazy stuff I do.
I mean, you also have to stay engaged,know you can love people from a distance.
Certain family members of that way.
Right?
Yeah, there's a lot of things like that.
So what I always told people
(15:50):
that I worked with,you know, like one on one,
a therapy, especially for
anxiety, phobias, I mean, you
name it, it's just, you know, acalm box of things like depression
is that every night,
I urge you all to do this.
I still do this, thatwhen you turn everything off
(16:14):
and you're going to sleepfor five minutes.
Just five minutes,
you say to yourself every day
and in every wayI'm getting better and better.
And that could mean in your financesthat could mean anybody.
I'm certainly living that now
(16:35):
due to the car accident that I was in and,but imagine it happening.
Don't just say the words
feel it in your body.
Imagine what your life will be
and is like without that, that.
Oh how does it feel not to have to worryabout paying the bills?
(16:58):
That money is coming in.
How does it feel waking up in the morningwithout pain?
You know, feel that in your brainisn't listening
and sends out these transmitters, right?
Because that's just the way it works.
We, one of the greatest therapists
(17:18):
I know, was going to writea book called My Stupid Brain. Wow.
Because your brain is the portal,is the computer that runs our bodies.
And what you keep feedingit will show up in your life.
So if you keep saying,I feel sick and I'm paying
and I never make enough money, then it'skind of like, that's what you attract.
(17:41):
You get on that vibrationand you get stuck on that track.
I'm never going to go on that vacation.You know what you are?
You're not going to go on a vacationif you keep saying that.
But if you have pictureslike vision boards,
I think that's a great thing,a vision board.
You put pictures up there,maybe a vacation you want to go on,
and you look at them and say,I can't wait to go.
(18:02):
I can't wait to go to Ireland.
I can't wait to go seethe northern Lights in Iceland.
I can't wait to go to Italy.
You're speaking like it's alreadyin the schedule.
It's amazing like you said, Joyce, howthat can come into existence.
Because the universe or God, whatever canmirror that and it can bring it into so.
And I rather
speak abundance over myselfthan, you know, beat myself up.
(18:22):
The world beats us up enough.
So let's speak.
You know, like you said, claim it.
I mean it right?
Yeah.
If if anything, be for yourself.
Be on your own side.
Yeah, it's pretty easy to do,although it seems to me.
Well, in theory,it's easy to do it right. But.
But one just like you with the fasting,
(18:45):
once you start doing something,it becomes easier
and your body starts like, yes, yes,
initially the very first time you did it.
It was a little hard
and just the thought of ittoo, with the fasting,
the thought of it like last week,I think, you know, I got that coming up.
But then once you're actually doingit and you made your mind up
(19:06):
tunnel vision,
no matter what happens, I made my mind upthat I'm going to do it, you know?
And then it gets easier.
The first day is always the hardest.
Second day a little bit easier.
Third day gets easier. Yeah.
And and you're still plenty.
Plant plenty of energy, less brain fog.
And my workouts are still good.
You know, I just feel likelike I'm lighter on my feet.
(19:28):
Yeah, I like that. Yeah.
So make up your mind to do thatbecause you're
your mindset changes your life.
And you can do that and that.
Sometimes it's gradual.
Sometimes it's not so gradual.
I try to do everybody's different.
Everybody's different.
Don't compare yourself to other people,you know,
because comparisons are the thief of joy.
(19:49):
What works for somebody else may not workfor you, so you just run your own race.
Walk your own race. Yes.
And when you look atpeople who have great wealth,
I urge
you not to say somethingnegative about them.
You know, that brings down
you and your abilityto have that same kind of wealth.
(20:13):
I think, you know,the great wealth is a good thing
when it's used in the right way.
A lot of these people, they took risks.
Yeah.
And a lot of these people employa lot of other people out there.
So I've never been one of these peopleto say, oh, they're so rich this and that.
I'm going to say I'm happy for them.
I'm sure for them, because the only thing
we really want in life,you know, we've talked about this
(20:33):
and we will always talk aboutthis isn't even the wealthiest person.
They.
I think they really want happiness.
Sure they do. They want to have choices.
I think what happens is when it cross overthat and it becomes about right.
Talking about
or talking about,
(20:53):
having an abundance of moneyand great health, right?
So that we can enjoy our lives and helpour families and help our community.
That's that's your.
Because when you do have that overflow,it blesses other people as well.
It really does. And you're right.
The love of money.
Yeah.
That's a that's as I believe that'syou know, but when you have that
(21:14):
extra moneyand you're able to help other people
and be humble about it, and sure, howyou spend your money, that's up to you.
We're not going to judge,
but when you get so many of these people,and I know a lot of wealthy people
that are just have good hearts,they give so much of it away.
You know,
they're deeply spiritual in many,many ways,
and they're grateful for what they have.
What's A Christmas Carol? Yes.
(21:37):
Think of Scrooge.
It's one of my favorites to watch.
It's timeless.
The message is, it is.
And especially the ending,because that kind of euphoria,
you know, happened when he realized
his whole lifeand the future and everything.
And he saw the suffering of people.
(21:58):
Yeah, it helped them and it just made him
and not only help others, but my gosh,he enjoyed.
Yeah.
But just having that guyand you know, the the big,
you know, the grim Reaper outfitwould scare the heck out of me too.
I'm going to be good to everybody if I seehim showing up in my bedroom, you know.
But but seriously, when he sees Tiny Timand and how he's able to help and benefit
(22:20):
that family and just realize that,wow, it's not just about me.
It's about other peopleand just appreciating your employees.
Who are your team?You're only as good as your employees.
And I think he had
a greater appreciation for himrather than thinking he's just my servant.
Exactly. That's servanthood.
And saving the money.
(22:40):
Not spending. Right? Right, right. Yeah.
Saving for what?
You can't.
Then you can't take it with you, right?
You can take it with him. Yeah.
So mindset is everything.
And from the timeyou wake up in the morning and you say,
I'm going to make this a great day,it is a great day in time.
(23:04):
You go to bed at night and just say,wow, wasn't a great day and everything.
Everything was so good.
And I know how much it saves.
Whoa.
Because when I go to physical therapy.
And they point outwhat's still not healing.
(23:24):
Right.
I hurt for a while until I remind myself,
no I am you are healed.
You're speaking in the affirmative.
Better I am doing that.
But something like that.
If you have someone always saying, well,what's wrong with you?
Right?
This isn't happening.
(23:44):
You have to build that foundation.
But then you you really do sothat nothing really takes you off track.
And that just comes withgratitude throughout the day.
You know, no matter what it is.
Doctor called you about something.
Say you have a doctor, right?
(24:04):
I lucky that I can go for some blood testand and do that.
And we have some really great people.You know.
No, I don't like these shoes.
Well, be grateful that you have feet
where you can put the shoes on, you know,I mean, it's just,
you know, twisty and I could find myselfgetting in a mood once in a while.
My wife will correct my thought,rather correct her thought.
And we'll look at each othergo, yeah, you're right about that.
It just changes everything.
(24:25):
So if you have somebody who's really goodat correcting your thought,
that's that's good accountabilitypartner is always good to it.
If you're able to have that person.
Yeah, I'm a few
people in my life that won't stop me.
Right.
Enough already.Enough, enough. Be grateful.
Yeah.
You know, the first time that happened tome, you know, I remember feeling like,
(24:47):
fuck.
But this is happening in my life.
Like when my husband was dying.
And I was asked by someone,
you know that I adore and how is it going.
And I started to go downthat dark way of reality. Yes.
And she just said stop.
(25:09):
She said tell me how you are right now.
Like I didn't ask about this, thisand that
and tell me where your mind isat right now.
Yeah.
And how you see yourself, you know,
coping right.
And she made me change the way I spoke.
(25:30):
Right.
And to uplift me.
And that's a good friend.
That's a really good friend.
Yes. Her name is in my finebook, abundance.
I dedicated the book. Right.
Because she's always been the one.
Yeah.
Hold up the mirror.
You know, kept me on track.
(25:53):
Now, you may say, aren'tyou lucky to have a friend like that.
Well, I've kept a friend like that.
Right.
I think there are other peoplethat might say I don't want to hear it.
Right.
But I wanted to hear it.
I wanted to improve my life. So.
But even when you don't necessarilywant to hear it, but you need to hear it,
(26:13):
that friend is there.
And I have a couple of those friendsin my life to say, hey, listen.
And it's all how you preface it.
Listen, you know I love you.
You know, everythingI say is here to your benefit.
But I've got to tell you something here,you know, and just please take this
the right way,because it's coming from a place of love.
So I think it's really importantto preface your comment like that
rather than coming acrossas being accusing, accusatory.
(26:34):
You're right.
That's, that's, that's very strong,you know, but
but yeah, I mean, at the end of the day,like Joyce, like you said
before, the beginning of the day, expectgood things to happen.
At the end of the day,I like to go through my entire day
and say, you know,I'm really grateful for that person.
I met the coffee shop today.
I'm really grateful for thatnice thing somebody at the gym said today,
you know, I'm really gratefulthat my little things I'm grateful for my
(26:55):
for my bride at home, that I that I haveher at home, that she's such a great cook,
but she's so supportive of meand everything that I do and vice versa.
I'm grateful for my kitty cats
who greet me and love me unconditionallyevery time I come in the house.
I mean, it's just things like that.
I'm grateful for the you know, Daveand Stephanie here at the studio that we,
you know, broadcast from in Brantford.
(27:15):
You know, I'm grateful foryou and your friendship all these years.
You know, just gratitude.And it just lifts you up and your
pointout all the things you're grateful for.
And we wish that for all of you,you can do it.
You can.
And this is what's goodwith John and Joyce
available on all your streaming platforms.
So please tell a friend about us.Somebody who needs a pick me up.
Somebody who needs an escapefrom all the negativity out there.
(27:37):
And we appreciate youand we appreciate you watching.
And, we're just so grateful for you.
We want to lift everyone and we pray foryou and your family, your health,
your happiness,
your your abundance, and nothingbut the best for you and your family.
Thank you, thank you. Okay.
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