May 14, 2025 • 29 mins
We knew it when we were born and then forgot because others may have told us otherwise. We are supposed to enjoy our lives, not suffer through it. Get onboard with us!
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So what'sgood is we're talking about music.
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Yeah, we're just talking about, like,you know, songs and cover
versions and who the original artists wereand all that.
And it makes everyone feel good.
Something like it brings people together.
It's memories.
When people hear an older song,they think back to a time.
Hopefully that was a happy time for themand if it wasn't, they change the station
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or or go to another songbecause you can get really sad. Can.
I'm speaking about myself, right, right.
Me and my husband is alive.
And what we used to do,sometimes I can embrace that.
And sometimes I have to turn.
And some people do embrace sad songs likeElton John's had Sad Songs Say So Much,
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or Silly Love songs by Paul McCartneyand wings or whatever, though, and
but hey, in case you're just tuningin, by the way, I'm John, this is Joyce.
It's what's good with John and Joyce here.
It's available in all streamingplatforms, and.
All right.
And our
and our mission statement really is
just to get you awayfrom all the negativity out there.
I mean, it's kind of,you know, we're just hanging out here.
It's like coffee talk or water talk,watercooler talk.
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But good stuff, good stuff.
So what we're talking about todayis it abundance.
Abundance. It's always oh we can use that.
I mean, I have a deck situation.
You and I were talkingabout a deck situation
with someone to build a deck.
But now from the scratch.
I mean, I think the foundation is. Right.
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So I'm not sureabout the foundation of my deck, but
it needs some work,
right?
Somebody know a good person,a good carpenter?
Get in touch with him
or her?
Know where to find.
Right, right.
Listening from another country.
(01:51):
Right, right. It's amazinghow many people we.
We do the inside talk here, but,But our guy Dave and Robert,
who have been helping us hereand Stephanie
have been telling usthat people are tuning in from Europe,
in Europe right nowand, in other continents as well.
And it's like, wow, thank you.
Thank you.
Whatever you want to just share,share with us,
you know, share it with your friends.
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And, we appreciate you. Yes.
So attracting abundance has been
somethingthat has been near and dear to my heart.
You and me both.
Especially after lookingat some of the bills coming in lately and,
you know,we had tax day recently and, yeah.
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Yes. Yeah.
I drove through Dunkin Donuts yesterdaythat I had a little cup.
Right. And the price of that
okay.
This is up like 100%I think, since last year.
Are there tariffs on Dunkin Donuts coffee?
Or you go to Starbucksand you get a $22 latte, right.
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Right. Yeah. Laugh at this stuff.
So you know what?
If you have to come back different place.
And we we made it through the past.
We're here today.
We're going to make it through thisno matter what.
It may be 100%.
I remembermy father had a gas station in New Haven,
Connecticut all my life.
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I think he started when he was 17. Wow.
So I remember, gas shortages.
I remember talking about a lot of thingsdidn't they had the odd even thing
back in the day,the late 70s on your plates.
Like on an odd day you can get your gasand an even day somebody else.
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Was that like late 70s?
You and I weren't even born then,but I read about it in history books.
But my father.
He was very
rebellious in thathe didn't pay attention to those rules.
In fact,when some things came under taxation
and his gas station, he absorbed the cost.
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He would not pass it on. Wow.
So your dad was an amazing man.
You can't think of too many peopledoing that nowadays.
He just felt like it was unfair.
Right.
And, And that's what he did.
So we're talking about.
I'm talking about abundance. Yeah.
Why don't you show that book there?
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A book called well, Live Abundant it now.
Right.
I should I should be talking.
I should have a,
Should it be a picture of adeck in your book
and manifest it to Dunkin Donuts?
Oh, geez. Wow.
And that's. Yeah. You know what?
That's a simple story
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of just show how the grateful
and having, appreciation for your life
can make just good things happen.
So I am running late to a meeting.
I'm stuck in line at a Dunkin Donuts.
Once you're in line, you can't get out.
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Oh, you look in the back.
It's like, can't even go around.
All right.
You get through.
So I'm stuck.
I realize I'mnot going to make it to this meeting, and
I thought to myself,
Joyce,
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practice what you preach.
And by the way,there was a big truck in front of me,
so I couldn't see how long the line went,but it was at a standstill.
It's like something bad must have happenedat that.
Right, right. And people weren't leaving.
So I looked up.
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And I encourage anyone to do that,
that if it feels like every day,
just like look up to the heavens,sometimes I look up and I just say,
I love you to all the peoplewho have part of my life.
Or I say,what a beautiful day or whatever.
So I looked up and it was this massive,
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A Flock of Seagulls.
Hahahahaha! Right, right.
What is there? That song.
I ran and Space Age love song and wishingI okay, three of them.
Okay. Yeah, right.
But the birds are making
these beautiful, like like,
figure eights.
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I mean, it wasthe pattern was just amazing.
So I was looking up and smiling at it,thinking, wow,
that we have this nature that I have.
I just see this.
Why am I complaining about that?
And then I finally I got up to the window
and the man says,
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no charge.
And I thought, oh, I said,because something really bad happened.
And he said, no, the man in front of youin the truck paid for you.
And he was still there,kind of like stopped getting out.
And he looked in his rearview mirrorand I looked at him,
you know, and I went like this.
Anyway, you know,and I knew I made his day.
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It wasn't that he just made my day.
I just knew that he felt so good,you know, about doing that.
And the other thing I felt was,
this may seem a
little too metaphysicalfor some people, but
I felt that he felt my energy
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looking up and saw me smiling.
And maybe he did the same thing,and maybe that matching energy
said, I'm going to uninvite this womanwhatever she's going to order.
Yeah, I mean, I mean,I buy that, no pun intended.
But, you know,the vibrations were all vibrations.
And you notice that when you walkinto a room of people sometimes
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and you could feel that if, people have a negative mindset
where there's tense, you feel,you feel it.
Right?You've been to some meetings like that.
You walk in and it's like, you know,you could just cut,
you know, the tension with a knife.
And it takes one person to kind of breakthat, like takes one person to
to take it off, switchand turn the light on.
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Right. Change everything.
But we've all been there.
But just one person who walks in with abig smile can put everybody at ease. Yes.
Or just cuts.
Joke or says something funny.
Reminded me of something.
There's one personthat I have a meeting with,
and he usually only has
meetings with meto tell me what he doesn't like.
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We all know that person.
No way.
That's not good.
So now that I know that.
I when I have a meeting with him
and I promise you this works,
I sit thereand while he's talking and complaining
I look at him and think I just wonderful.
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You're just marvelous person.
You're so smart.
You're so good looking.
I'm not saying any of this,
but he begins to calm downand it always ends up well.
Since I started doing thatbecause I was practicing the right right
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to see if I could send it over
to someone and, yeah.
And he told me not too long agothat there was a meeting
that I was that with him and someone else,
and if it weren't for me,he would have walked out of that meeting.
But he felt calm with me sitting there.
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So you can quietly do this.
You don't even have to say,why are you so angry?
Or put a smile on your face.
You don't have to say that you canquietly send an energy out to someone.
I totally agree, I think people pick upon the energy when they're around.
Just the body language.
The icon, your facial.
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I mean, are you likeyou smiling at that person, making them
feel good or you're lookingkind of judgmental or standoffish?
And a
lot of times you can mirror the person'sbody language by what they're doing.
If they're kind of like, you know,
you and I
are kind of like this with each other, andthen we just might lean into each other
or whatever.
But subtle things,they go, they mean a lot.
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Yeah.
You know, people who are,
I don't have this talk with someone.
Just the other day,and it was kind of a tough talk.
Because like I said, halfway
through, they are,
empaths.
So there's a difference between groupand empathetic. Yes.
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And then being an empath
or you absorb everything. Yes.
All the complaining and worriesand woes that she had
was because she cared about the people.
But it's like she became their pain.
She was internalizing it all.
She she became it.
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And then I let this go on for a while.
And then I just said,can I stop you for a moment?
I said, because I want to help youand I can see what you're doing.
And she said, but everyone, you know,I should care.
And I said, yes,but not to your detriment. Yes.
You know, so you can listen.
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But at some point,
and I think I got through a little bitand then finally I said to
her, hey, tell me something.
Yeah, there you go.
What's good with your life, I love it.
She did this stutter step like, And I said
something good.
Yeah. Great about your life.Probably something.
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It seems like they're in a trance.
And you broke that trance that.
That's that's what it was, a trance.
And we get caught in that trance,and it's so much easier for people
to be negative, and they don't realizethey're on that train.
Right.
That trance that just right.
Yeah.
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You abruptly like derail it a little bit.
Kind of jolt them. Yes. Right.
So so like that caffeine in the morningyou know so that
but the conversation ended up
where she said,
I am so glad I spoke with you todaybecause you were just what I needed.
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It's like the angels. Yes,
but I think the angels,
God, the universe sends peopleto us all the time
and it's up to us to
pay attention.
I think that's a real key piece of advicewe need to be, and intent
about what we do each and every day.
Just keep our antenna up out there.
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We're walking around for the messages outthere because they're there all the time.
Universe, God, you know, I call itGod's talking to us all the time.
We just have to be listening inand we let we were.
So we're too busy being busy
and we're not listening for guidance.
Right.
And you talked about,you know, the energy that.
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Yes, for manifesting.
So, you know, there's reasons why
certain things exist,like the rich get rich.
Same old, same old, you know, how'syour day.
And another day, another dollar for.
All right.
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So one thing goes for allof course it's more I live by.
No, don't live by.
I was talkingso as long as there's somebody before you.
Right. Who's Murphy?
Not Murphy Brown, right.
But, I mean, who is Murphy and like this?
Well, you know, all my it's been a toughday already, and things happen in threes.
I'm expectingat least two more things said.
You're plantingthat seed of expecting things to go wrong.
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And they will because you're expecting itright.
Change that thought.
How about threegood things that can happen today.
Minimum.
You know you're so right about thatbecause people have said
oh well two people time.
You know I'm waiting for the right.
And even if they don't know the third oneand it's,
a celebrity, they'll say,oh, that's the third one.
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And then I think I said tosomeone one day I said,
but everyone dies every day, right?
You can always find three people. Exactly.
Right.
Yeah, but people just
feel it's a justification or somethingto their their way of thinking.
But I would rather on the side of,you know, what good
things can happen today rather than justthree good things happening.
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Why don't we say that?
That's good.
But next time have a conversationwith somebody.
What three good thingshappened to you today?
Because things comes in threethey do. So yeah.
So we're going to changethe whole paradigm.
Nicely done.
You should you should pattern that choice.
You should pattern that.
That's right. Your next book.
That's right.
But abundance really is a mindset.
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We're not just talking about financialbut abundance and health.
Abundance in relationships.
Yeah. Peace of mind.
Abundance.
You know, abundance in your fulfillment.
At your job, in your relationshipwith your kids, your spouse, your friends.
Yeah. You know, just a joyful life.
It is a joyful lifeif you don't hold grudges.
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Grudges are dangerous
to your abundance.
It's like building up.
And I think it's like putting up a shield,
so to speak, from getting what you wantfrom the universe.
When you put up that shield,you're blocking it.
There's only so much roomin your container, your human body.
And to focus it with all that negativity,you know, empty out that container
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and allow the positivenessthat come in, the vibes, the abundance
that that we all really,
I think, think deserve, quite frankly,it reminded me of,
Doctor Wayne Dyer that I love Doctor Dyer,
his writings and,and in a presentation once
he had a he a globe sort of like a,lighting that we have here.
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So like a round globe.
And he said,I want to use this as an example.
He said, this globewith this beautiful light,
this represents the heavens.
God, the universe, creator,and nothing but good
and love exist here, right?
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When you step out of this light
symphony, unforgiveness,
holding grudges, all of that,
you can feel that
because you just got you put yourself offtrack, right?
That light is always there for you.
And that was really impactful on me.
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And it took me back towhen I was in grammar school
and I was in, Catholic school.
And I remember raising my handand a priest was giving a talk,
and I was six years old.
And I said to him and he said, yes.
And I said,
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Who is God?
What is he?
And his answer was,
God is love, right?
And that stayed with me
even through my rebellious, I just remember that
when when Wayne Dyer was showingthat physical example, I thought, oh,
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he to feel that goodand to have that kind of.
You talked about abundance. Yes. Right.
You have to stand in that. Right.
But you can't stand in that lightfor a second
and do a prayerand step back out and go, yeah.
But I hate that person.
I hate my job. Right.
Because nowyou just put yourself out of it.
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But it doesn't meanthat you're still not loved and protected
and everythingyou need to go back into the light.
Yeah,we have to kind of look inward first.
You know, so many timesthings can change by the way we change.
Too many times we say, I really wish
my wife wouldn't do thator I wish that person wouldn't do that.
Well, what about us?
Why don't we change the waywe look at things inside?
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And by doing that, we can changethe behavior of the other person.
You know, if we don't think we're beingloved enough, will love that person more.
Yeah. Take the high road.
You know,I think that's really important too.
But looking inward,too many times, people look outward.
I wish I had more money,I wish I had more of this and this and
but how aboutI wish I didn't hate so much?
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You know,
I mean, I think that's really good, orI wish I wasn't so judgmental.
Yes, I want to have an abundance of love
and care,not an abundance of hate and judgment.
And as human beings, we're judgmental,
you know,but I try to find myself catching.
So if I do become judgmental aboutsomebody I may not like or a behavior
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I try to back off, say,listen, I'm not perfect.
I don't want people judging me.
I make a lot of mistakes.
So what's good about that person, right?
Find something goodabout that person you like?
Sometimes I just need to stop and say,okay, somebody loves them.
They have parents.
Things are right.
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Right, right right right. Yeah. There.
I think I know is it almost human naturelike to critique all the time.
You know because that's what you hearright.
That's more the norm.
Almost like people connect with each other
on the people they TV showsthey don't like.
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Or TV shows they do like you know,but there's always kind of this
critique going on.
So I, I do I that's something I work on isit's just not saying anything.
Right.
Like you said inward and thinking whyare we thinking this about this person?
I'm being a lot more proactiveabout that. Joyce too.
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The thing is, I want to be.
That's something I know I need to work on.
I think we all need as humans.
I just don't want to be so judgmental.
I find myselffeeling, almost, you know, dirty inside.
If I'm feeling so negativeabout somebody, I.
Because you're so on trackthat it's so good that you feel that.
Because when you do,that means it's showing you
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that that doesn't feel good, right?
You get back on trackwith a lot of people.
They never feel that.
And they only feel goodwhen they're commiserating
with someone else about how bad things are
and, you know, and being like I
said, I think many times before myself
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and my grandson and a lot of thingsat my doctor's offices, a lot.
And Iknow you hear a lot of negativity there.
So just again, we can just by being there,that could be a blessing.
That could be abundanceright there of spreading the cheer.
So when you can't
just leave the room.
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Because I had to do that with my grandson.
And a couple weeks agothat room was packed.
But again, because I'm going throughphysical therapy with them
people, they're in physical pain, right?
So when it started to become too much,I just said,
why don't we stand out in the hallway?
And we did that out in the hallway.
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And then we spoke,it was good to calm down
because I didn't want him absorbing that.
I mean, the people are in pain,you understand?
They're going to look at thingsin a more negative way.
You notice how, like they always say,when you're looking at a problem,
wait till the next day when you refreshafter a good night's sleep,
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you ever come back and you've been likehad a challenging day,
and then something happens
and you look at it and it's like it seemedlike the worst possible scenario.
And the best thing they say to dois take a deep breath, put it aside.
If you can get a good night's sleepand look at it from a fresh set of eyes,
the next morning.
And I'm finding myselfgetting better at that too,
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because that you don't find thingswelling up inside.
But you take a deep breath, respond,and not react.
You know, which is hard, which is hard.
But am I getting better? Yeah.
I mean, I'm not where I used to be,but it's like a Tim McGraw song.
I'm not where I used to am now,but I'm better than I used to be.
Yeah, each and every day.
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What are you better at?Each and every day.
What are you doing? Good.
Instead of focusing on bad,what improvement
have you made over the past day?
It's probably something.
Yeah.
Even if you felt like you ate too much.
Okay.
Don'tyou know, like, attack yourself for that?
Tomorrow's another day. Yeah.
And a lot of people do that.I've been guilty of that.
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Do you feel like you went off it?Then you binge.
I screwed it up.
I went off to the nutrition plan,the diet.
I'm just going to eat like this.
And then you feel like you feel terrible.
So just give yourself some grace.
Give yourself.
Give yourself grace.Don't beat yourself up.
This is from a guy who's done that.
I beat myself up with that. You know?
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And just, Tomorrow'sa brand new day to start again. Yes,
that.
Listen, for that abundant thinking.
You know, that positive thinkingthat, there's plenty of grace for you.
There is, there is.
And you can,
you can do that in any time.
Abundance.
I really feel likewe're we're designed for abundance.
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And I think some people feelwe're designed to suffer.
No, I can't understand that.
You know, we havea, I understand where people sometimes
have their feelings about,you know, God, the universe in that,
but I just believe that your father,
you know, your heavenly father,
like your father.
My father.My dad didn't want me to suffer.
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He wanted to take care of me. He loved me.
He wanted the best for me.
And I think that's how he feels about us,even though some people
might differ with that.
If he loved us so much, this wouldn'thappen to this wouldn't happen.
And I understand that thoughtthat some people may have right now.
They might be going some throughsome pain.
They.
Why is a loving Godallowing this to happen per se?
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But my whole thing is,I know we live in a broken world right now
without getting too deep, but many timesif I don't understand the choice,
I'll put it in theI don't understand file in my brain
that I'm not meant to understand thatright now,
but I'm still going to have empathyfor someone who has doubts.
And because I have doubts, I'm
a believer and I have my doubts every day.
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Okay, thank the apostles.
They had their doubts.
The the the disciples walked with him.
They saw the good works he did.
And they still doubted.
They still does.
So cut yourself some slackif you doubt. It's okay.
You know something?
We're going to have father and, loveFather Ed.
Mr. TikTok. He is Mr..
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Today. Yeah
I love that guy
it early90s and he's he's just a fabulous. Yes.
But there were things I brought up ofthanks to him.
And he'll answer any question
with such honesty and
the one thing I love about himis that he loves God.
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He loves Jesus and Mary.
And there's some, well,we'll talk to about this, but I know
there are some people who feel like, oh,the Catholics worship Mary.
And he's like, we don't want worship inoh God, it's that.
But when Jesus changed the wineto the Lord for his mother,
that was his first miracle.
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Mother who asked him to do it.
That's right.
And they used it as a petition.
But but the one thing I do want to ask himis about the suffering.
But I think it means to turn
your suffering into,like, a sacrifice to God.
Like if it's somethingyou can't get rid of,
it's really like turning it over,which is really what we call surrender.
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Submitting.
I'm doing my best.That's what I do each and every day.
I try to submit more because I know that
the more I try to do thingsin my own power, the more I fail,
the more I feel like when I submit and try
to get out of my own way, things happen.
Things happen.
That's what's good, you know,it happens in my life with that.
But Mother Teresa,she doubted at times when she saw it.
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I mean, she was in the lion's den,
in the trenches, and she doubted at times
if you read some of her journalsthat even she doubted.
Yeah.
So, I mean, she was a woman of greatfaith, so.
Absolutely. Yeah.
So before we before we close,I want to talk about that
five minutes again. Yes.
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Everyone need to do and I it's somethingthat I just love to do.
So for just five minutesbefore you fall asleep at night
and in the morningto forget about the money,
your career, your fears, problems, pain.
And during those five minutes,
the feelings
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you mostwant to feel for the rest of your life.
It might seem awkward
at first, and that's okay,
but I could implore you to do anythingit would it be
this little five minute exercise,nothing else that you might do?
Whatever.
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A profound effect
on your fortunes,your friendships, your happiness.
It's when you do this because when
your mind is feeling that
you have already manifested it,
what you desire
or that dread starts to go away.
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And when you do this for five minutesand you start out your day and your day
with that, you're going to see that thingstart showing up in your life.
You're going to see you're
you can hear things,do things that you weren't aware of,
that may have always beentrying to reach you these messages,
but because what you focus on appearsabsolutely right.
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And the thing is the gratitude,at the end of the day, what happened?
That was good,you know, who did you come across that
that day that really made you feel goodor said something really nice?
Or maybe you saw
somebody was really hurting or suffering,maybe pray for that person.
You may not know their name,but I'll say so many times, you know, God,
I saw that personwho was having a hard time walking today.
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I don't know their name, but you do,and that's all that matters.
So if each one of us
does our part to go out thereand do something good each and every day,
you know, whatever, I just
I just think that's going to take us,I think spiritual bonds
or I'm a generational cursesthey talk about sometimes could be broken.
Yes. You know,
and the more spiritual bondscan actually bring us closer together.
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Right. Oh my generation.
No, no, we don't want those.
But we've heard about those.I've read about those.
We got to that generational curseis being broken right now.
Right now.
But we appreciate you so muchfor tuning in to our podcast.
What's good
I'm John Cadillac Seville, Joyce Logan,my friend, and we appreciate you.
You're part of our family as well.
We wish nothingbut the best for you and your family,
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and can'twait to see you through the lens.
Next time you'll see us.
And with this new technology,there's new technology.
We could see you too. Okay.
That's right.
Yeah. By.
So what'sgood is we're talking about music.
(00:03):
Yeah, we're just talking about, like,you know, songs and cover
versions and who the original artists wereand all that.
And it makes everyone feel good.
Something like it brings people together.
It's memories.
When people hear an older song,they think back to a time.
Hopefully that was a happy time for themand if it wasn't, they change the station
(00:23):
or or go to another songbecause you can get really sad. Can.
I'm speaking about myself, right, right.
Me and my husband is alive.
And what we used to do,sometimes I can embrace that.
And sometimes I have to turn.
And some people do embrace sad songs likeElton John's had Sad Songs Say So Much,
(00:47):
or Silly Love songs by Paul McCartneyand wings or whatever, though, and
but hey, in case you're just tuningin, by the way, I'm John, this is Joyce.
It's what's good with John and Joyce here.
It's available in all streamingplatforms, and.
All right.
And our
and our mission statement really is
just to get you awayfrom all the negativity out there.
I mean, it's kind of,you know, we're just hanging out here.
It's like coffee talk or water talk,watercooler talk.
(01:09):
But good stuff, good stuff.
So what we're talking about todayis it abundance.
Abundance. It's always oh we can use that.
I mean, I have a deck situation.
You and I were talkingabout a deck situation
with someone to build a deck.
But now from the scratch.
I mean, I think the foundation is. Right.
(01:30):
So I'm not sureabout the foundation of my deck, but
it needs some work,
right?
Somebody know a good person,a good carpenter?
Get in touch with him
or her?
Know where to find.
Right, right.
Listening from another country.
(01:51):
Right, right. It's amazinghow many people we.
We do the inside talk here, but,But our guy Dave and Robert,
who have been helping us hereand Stephanie
have been telling usthat people are tuning in from Europe,
in Europe right nowand, in other continents as well.
And it's like, wow, thank you.
Thank you.
Whatever you want to just share,share with us,
you know, share it with your friends.
(02:11):
And, we appreciate you. Yes.
So attracting abundance has been
somethingthat has been near and dear to my heart.
You and me both.
Especially after lookingat some of the bills coming in lately and,
you know,we had tax day recently and, yeah.
(02:31):
Yes. Yeah.
I drove through Dunkin Donuts yesterdaythat I had a little cup.
Right. And the price of that
okay.
This is up like 100%I think, since last year.
Are there tariffs on Dunkin Donuts coffee?
Or you go to Starbucksand you get a $22 latte, right.
(02:54):
Right. Yeah. Laugh at this stuff.
So you know what?
If you have to come back different place.
And we we made it through the past.
We're here today.
We're going to make it through thisno matter what.
It may be 100%.
I remembermy father had a gas station in New Haven,
Connecticut all my life.
(03:15):
I think he started when he was 17. Wow.
So I remember, gas shortages.
I remember talking about a lot of thingsdidn't they had the odd even thing
back in the day,the late 70s on your plates.
Like on an odd day you can get your gasand an even day somebody else.
(03:35):
Was that like late 70s?
You and I weren't even born then,but I read about it in history books.
But my father.
He was very
rebellious in thathe didn't pay attention to those rules.
In fact,when some things came under taxation
and his gas station, he absorbed the cost.
(03:56):
He would not pass it on. Wow.
So your dad was an amazing man.
You can't think of too many peopledoing that nowadays.
He just felt like it was unfair.
Right.
And, And that's what he did.
So we're talking about.
I'm talking about abundance. Yeah.
Why don't you show that book there?
(04:17):
A book called well, Live Abundant it now.
Right.
I should I should be talking.
I should have a,
Should it be a picture of adeck in your book
and manifest it to Dunkin Donuts?
Oh, geez. Wow.
And that's. Yeah. You know what?
That's a simple story
(04:37):
of just show how the grateful
and having, appreciation for your life
can make just good things happen.
So I am running late to a meeting.
I'm stuck in line at a Dunkin Donuts.
Once you're in line, you can't get out.
(04:57):
Oh, you look in the back.
It's like, can't even go around.
All right.
You get through.
So I'm stuck.
I realize I'mnot going to make it to this meeting, and
I thought to myself,
Joyce,
(05:18):
practice what you preach.
And by the way,there was a big truck in front of me,
so I couldn't see how long the line went,but it was at a standstill.
It's like something bad must have happenedat that.
Right, right. And people weren't leaving.
So I looked up.
(05:38):
And I encourage anyone to do that,
that if it feels like every day,
just like look up to the heavens,sometimes I look up and I just say,
I love you to all the peoplewho have part of my life.
Or I say,what a beautiful day or whatever.
So I looked up and it was this massive,
(06:04):
A Flock of Seagulls.
Hahahahaha! Right, right.
What is there? That song.
I ran and Space Age love song and wishingI okay, three of them.
Okay. Yeah, right.
But the birds are making
these beautiful, like like,
figure eights.
(06:25):
I mean, it wasthe pattern was just amazing.
So I was looking up and smiling at it,thinking, wow,
that we have this nature that I have.
I just see this.
Why am I complaining about that?
And then I finally I got up to the window
and the man says,
(06:48):
no charge.
And I thought, oh, I said,because something really bad happened.
And he said, no, the man in front of youin the truck paid for you.
And he was still there,kind of like stopped getting out.
And he looked in his rearview mirrorand I looked at him,
you know, and I went like this.
Anyway, you know,and I knew I made his day.
(07:10):
It wasn't that he just made my day.
I just knew that he felt so good,you know, about doing that.
And the other thing I felt was,
this may seem a
little too metaphysicalfor some people, but
I felt that he felt my energy
(07:30):
looking up and saw me smiling.
And maybe he did the same thing,and maybe that matching energy
said, I'm going to uninvite this womanwhatever she's going to order.
Yeah, I mean, I mean,I buy that, no pun intended.
But, you know,the vibrations were all vibrations.
And you notice that when you walkinto a room of people sometimes
(07:51):
and you could feel that if, people have a negative mindset
where there's tense, you feel,you feel it.
Right?You've been to some meetings like that.
You walk in and it's like, you know,you could just cut,
you know, the tension with a knife.
And it takes one person to kind of breakthat, like takes one person to
to take it off, switchand turn the light on.
(08:13):
Right. Change everything.
But we've all been there.
But just one person who walks in with abig smile can put everybody at ease. Yes.
Or just cuts.
Joke or says something funny.
Reminded me of something.
There's one personthat I have a meeting with,
and he usually only has
meetings with meto tell me what he doesn't like.
(08:34):
We all know that person.
No way.
That's not good.
So now that I know that.
I when I have a meeting with him
and I promise you this works,
I sit thereand while he's talking and complaining
I look at him and think I just wonderful.
(08:54):
You're just marvelous person.
You're so smart.
You're so good looking.
I'm not saying any of this,
but he begins to calm downand it always ends up well.
Since I started doing thatbecause I was practicing the right right
(09:15):
to see if I could send it over
to someone and, yeah.
And he told me not too long agothat there was a meeting
that I was that with him and someone else,
and if it weren't for me,he would have walked out of that meeting.
But he felt calm with me sitting there.
(09:37):
So you can quietly do this.
You don't even have to say,why are you so angry?
Or put a smile on your face.
You don't have to say that you canquietly send an energy out to someone.
I totally agree, I think people pick upon the energy when they're around.
Just the body language.
The icon, your facial.
(10:00):
I mean, are you likeyou smiling at that person, making them
feel good or you're lookingkind of judgmental or standoffish?
And a
lot of times you can mirror the person'sbody language by what they're doing.
If they're kind of like, you know,
you and I
are kind of like this with each other, andthen we just might lean into each other
or whatever.
But subtle things,they go, they mean a lot.
(10:20):
Yeah.
You know, people who are,
I don't have this talk with someone.
Just the other day,and it was kind of a tough talk.
Because like I said, halfway
through, they are,
empaths.
So there's a difference between groupand empathetic. Yes.
(10:43):
And then being an empath
or you absorb everything. Yes.
All the complaining and worriesand woes that she had
was because she cared about the people.
But it's like she became their pain.
She was internalizing it all.
She she became it.
(11:05):
And then I let this go on for a while.
And then I just said,can I stop you for a moment?
I said, because I want to help youand I can see what you're doing.
And she said, but everyone, you know,I should care.
And I said, yes,but not to your detriment. Yes.
You know, so you can listen.
(11:26):
But at some point,
and I think I got through a little bitand then finally I said to
her, hey, tell me something.
Yeah, there you go.
What's good with your life, I love it.
She did this stutter step like, And I said
something good.
Yeah. Great about your life.Probably something.
(11:46):
It seems like they're in a trance.
And you broke that trance that.
That's that's what it was, a trance.
And we get caught in that trance,and it's so much easier for people
to be negative, and they don't realizethey're on that train.
Right.
That trance that just right.
Yeah.
(12:07):
You abruptly like derail it a little bit.
Kind of jolt them. Yes. Right.
So so like that caffeine in the morningyou know so that
but the conversation ended up
where she said,
I am so glad I spoke with you todaybecause you were just what I needed.
(12:28):
It's like the angels. Yes,
but I think the angels,
God, the universe sends peopleto us all the time
and it's up to us to
pay attention.
I think that's a real key piece of advicewe need to be, and intent
about what we do each and every day.
Just keep our antenna up out there.
(12:50):
We're walking around for the messages outthere because they're there all the time.
Universe, God, you know, I call itGod's talking to us all the time.
We just have to be listening inand we let we were.
So we're too busy being busy
and we're not listening for guidance.
Right.
And you talked about,you know, the energy that.
(13:12):
Yes, for manifesting.
So, you know, there's reasons why
certain things exist,like the rich get rich.
Same old, same old, you know, how'syour day.
And another day, another dollar for.
All right.
(13:32):
So one thing goes for allof course it's more I live by.
No, don't live by.
I was talkingso as long as there's somebody before you.
Right. Who's Murphy?
Not Murphy Brown, right.
But, I mean, who is Murphy and like this?
Well, you know, all my it's been a toughday already, and things happen in threes.
I'm expectingat least two more things said.
You're plantingthat seed of expecting things to go wrong.
(13:55):
And they will because you're expecting itright.
Change that thought.
How about threegood things that can happen today.
Minimum.
You know you're so right about thatbecause people have said
oh well two people time.
You know I'm waiting for the right.
And even if they don't know the third oneand it's,
a celebrity, they'll say,oh, that's the third one.
(14:18):
And then I think I said tosomeone one day I said,
but everyone dies every day, right?
You can always find three people. Exactly.
Right.
Yeah, but people just
feel it's a justification or somethingto their their way of thinking.
But I would rather on the side of,you know, what good
things can happen today rather than justthree good things happening.
(14:41):
Why don't we say that?
That's good.
But next time have a conversationwith somebody.
What three good thingshappened to you today?
Because things comes in threethey do. So yeah.
So we're going to changethe whole paradigm.
Nicely done.
You should you should pattern that choice.
You should pattern that.
That's right. Your next book.
That's right.
But abundance really is a mindset.
(15:02):
We're not just talking about financialbut abundance and health.
Abundance in relationships.
Yeah. Peace of mind.
Abundance.
You know, abundance in your fulfillment.
At your job, in your relationshipwith your kids, your spouse, your friends.
Yeah. You know, just a joyful life.
It is a joyful lifeif you don't hold grudges.
(15:24):
Grudges are dangerous
to your abundance.
It's like building up.
And I think it's like putting up a shield,
so to speak, from getting what you wantfrom the universe.
When you put up that shield,you're blocking it.
There's only so much roomin your container, your human body.
And to focus it with all that negativity,you know, empty out that container
(15:47):
and allow the positivenessthat come in, the vibes, the abundance
that that we all really,
I think, think deserve, quite frankly,it reminded me of,
Doctor Wayne Dyer that I love Doctor Dyer,
his writings and,and in a presentation once
he had a he a globe sort of like a,lighting that we have here.
(16:10):
So like a round globe.
And he said,I want to use this as an example.
He said, this globewith this beautiful light,
this represents the heavens.
God, the universe, creator,and nothing but good
and love exist here, right?
(16:31):
When you step out of this light
symphony, unforgiveness,
holding grudges, all of that,
you can feel that
because you just got you put yourself offtrack, right?
That light is always there for you.
And that was really impactful on me.
(16:51):
And it took me back towhen I was in grammar school
and I was in, Catholic school.
And I remember raising my handand a priest was giving a talk,
and I was six years old.
And I said to him and he said, yes.
And I said,
(17:11):
Who is God?
What is he?
And his answer was,
God is love, right?
And that stayed with me
even through my rebellious, I just remember that
when when Wayne Dyer was showingthat physical example, I thought, oh,
(17:35):
he to feel that goodand to have that kind of.
You talked about abundance. Yes. Right.
You have to stand in that. Right.
But you can't stand in that lightfor a second
and do a prayerand step back out and go, yeah.
But I hate that person.
I hate my job. Right.
Because nowyou just put yourself out of it.
(17:57):
But it doesn't meanthat you're still not loved and protected
and everythingyou need to go back into the light.
Yeah,we have to kind of look inward first.
You know, so many timesthings can change by the way we change.
Too many times we say, I really wish
my wife wouldn't do thator I wish that person wouldn't do that.
Well, what about us?
Why don't we change the waywe look at things inside?
(18:20):
And by doing that, we can changethe behavior of the other person.
You know, if we don't think we're beingloved enough, will love that person more.
Yeah. Take the high road.
You know,I think that's really important too.
But looking inward,too many times, people look outward.
I wish I had more money,I wish I had more of this and this and
but how aboutI wish I didn't hate so much?
(18:41):
You know,
I mean, I think that's really good, orI wish I wasn't so judgmental.
Yes, I want to have an abundance of love
and care,not an abundance of hate and judgment.
And as human beings, we're judgmental,
you know,but I try to find myself catching.
So if I do become judgmental aboutsomebody I may not like or a behavior
(19:01):
I try to back off, say,listen, I'm not perfect.
I don't want people judging me.
I make a lot of mistakes.
So what's good about that person, right?
Find something goodabout that person you like?
Sometimes I just need to stop and say,okay, somebody loves them.
They have parents.
Things are right.
(19:21):
Right, right right right. Yeah. There.
I think I know is it almost human naturelike to critique all the time.
You know because that's what you hearright.
That's more the norm.
Almost like people connect with each other
on the people they TV showsthey don't like.
(19:42):
Or TV shows they do like you know,but there's always kind of this
critique going on.
So I, I do I that's something I work on isit's just not saying anything.
Right.
Like you said inward and thinking whyare we thinking this about this person?
I'm being a lot more proactiveabout that. Joyce too.
(20:03):
The thing is, I want to be.
That's something I know I need to work on.
I think we all need as humans.
I just don't want to be so judgmental.
I find myselffeeling, almost, you know, dirty inside.
If I'm feeling so negativeabout somebody, I.
Because you're so on trackthat it's so good that you feel that.
Because when you do,that means it's showing you
(20:25):
that that doesn't feel good, right?
You get back on trackwith a lot of people.
They never feel that.
And they only feel goodwhen they're commiserating
with someone else about how bad things are
and, you know, and being like I
said, I think many times before myself
(20:46):
and my grandson and a lot of thingsat my doctor's offices, a lot.
And Iknow you hear a lot of negativity there.
So just again, we can just by being there,that could be a blessing.
That could be abundanceright there of spreading the cheer.
So when you can't
just leave the room.
(21:06):
Because I had to do that with my grandson.
And a couple weeks agothat room was packed.
But again, because I'm going throughphysical therapy with them
people, they're in physical pain, right?
So when it started to become too much,I just said,
why don't we stand out in the hallway?
And we did that out in the hallway.
(21:27):
And then we spoke,it was good to calm down
because I didn't want him absorbing that.
I mean, the people are in pain,you understand?
They're going to look at thingsin a more negative way.
You notice how, like they always say,when you're looking at a problem,
wait till the next day when you refreshafter a good night's sleep,
(21:48):
you ever come back and you've been likehad a challenging day,
and then something happens
and you look at it and it's like it seemedlike the worst possible scenario.
And the best thing they say to dois take a deep breath, put it aside.
If you can get a good night's sleepand look at it from a fresh set of eyes,
the next morning.
And I'm finding myselfgetting better at that too,
(22:08):
because that you don't find thingswelling up inside.
But you take a deep breath, respond,and not react.
You know, which is hard, which is hard.
But am I getting better? Yeah.
I mean, I'm not where I used to be,but it's like a Tim McGraw song.
I'm not where I used to am now,but I'm better than I used to be.
Yeah, each and every day.
(22:29):
What are you better at?Each and every day.
What are you doing? Good.
Instead of focusing on bad,what improvement
have you made over the past day?
It's probably something.
Yeah.
Even if you felt like you ate too much.
Okay.
Don'tyou know, like, attack yourself for that?
Tomorrow's another day. Yeah.
And a lot of people do that.I've been guilty of that.
(22:51):
Do you feel like you went off it?Then you binge.
I screwed it up.
I went off to the nutrition plan,the diet.
I'm just going to eat like this.
And then you feel like you feel terrible.
So just give yourself some grace.
Give yourself.
Give yourself grace.Don't beat yourself up.
This is from a guy who's done that.
I beat myself up with that. You know?
(23:11):
And just, Tomorrow'sa brand new day to start again. Yes,
that.
Listen, for that abundant thinking.
You know, that positive thinkingthat, there's plenty of grace for you.
There is, there is.
And you can,
you can do that in any time.
Abundance.
I really feel likewe're we're designed for abundance.
(23:34):
And I think some people feelwe're designed to suffer.
No, I can't understand that.
You know, we havea, I understand where people sometimes
have their feelings about,you know, God, the universe in that,
but I just believe that your father,
you know, your heavenly father,
like your father.
My father.My dad didn't want me to suffer.
(23:56):
He wanted to take care of me. He loved me.
He wanted the best for me.
And I think that's how he feels about us,even though some people
might differ with that.
If he loved us so much, this wouldn'thappen to this wouldn't happen.
And I understand that thoughtthat some people may have right now.
They might be going some throughsome pain.
They.
Why is a loving Godallowing this to happen per se?
(24:16):
But my whole thing is,I know we live in a broken world right now
without getting too deep, but many timesif I don't understand the choice,
I'll put it in theI don't understand file in my brain
that I'm not meant to understand thatright now,
but I'm still going to have empathyfor someone who has doubts.
And because I have doubts, I'm
a believer and I have my doubts every day.
(24:38):
Okay, thank the apostles.
They had their doubts.
The the the disciples walked with him.
They saw the good works he did.
And they still doubted.
They still does.
So cut yourself some slackif you doubt. It's okay.
You know something?
We're going to have father and, loveFather Ed.
Mr. TikTok. He is Mr..
(24:59):
Today. Yeah
I love that guy
it early90s and he's he's just a fabulous. Yes.
But there were things I brought up ofthanks to him.
And he'll answer any question
with such honesty and
the one thing I love about himis that he loves God.
(25:23):
He loves Jesus and Mary.
And there's some, well,we'll talk to about this, but I know
there are some people who feel like, oh,the Catholics worship Mary.
And he's like, we don't want worship inoh God, it's that.
But when Jesus changed the wineto the Lord for his mother,
that was his first miracle.
(25:43):
Mother who asked him to do it.
That's right.
And they used it as a petition.
But but the one thing I do want to ask himis about the suffering.
But I think it means to turn
your suffering into,like, a sacrifice to God.
Like if it's somethingyou can't get rid of,
it's really like turning it over,which is really what we call surrender.
(26:07):
Submitting.
I'm doing my best.That's what I do each and every day.
I try to submit more because I know that
the more I try to do thingsin my own power, the more I fail,
the more I feel like when I submit and try
to get out of my own way, things happen.
Things happen.
That's what's good, you know,it happens in my life with that.
But Mother Teresa,she doubted at times when she saw it.
(26:30):
I mean, she was in the lion's den,
in the trenches, and she doubted at times
if you read some of her journalsthat even she doubted.
Yeah.
So, I mean, she was a woman of greatfaith, so.
Absolutely. Yeah.
So before we before we close,I want to talk about that
five minutes again. Yes.
(26:52):
Everyone need to do and I it's somethingthat I just love to do.
So for just five minutesbefore you fall asleep at night
and in the morningto forget about the money,
your career, your fears, problems, pain.
And during those five minutes,
the feelings
(27:13):
you mostwant to feel for the rest of your life.
It might seem awkward
at first, and that's okay,
but I could implore you to do anythingit would it be
this little five minute exercise,nothing else that you might do?
Whatever.
(27:34):
A profound effect
on your fortunes,your friendships, your happiness.
It's when you do this because when
your mind is feeling that
you have already manifested it,
what you desire
or that dread starts to go away.
(27:56):
And when you do this for five minutesand you start out your day and your day
with that, you're going to see that thingstart showing up in your life.
You're going to see you're
you can hear things,do things that you weren't aware of,
that may have always beentrying to reach you these messages,
but because what you focus on appearsabsolutely right.
(28:20):
And the thing is the gratitude,at the end of the day, what happened?
That was good,you know, who did you come across that
that day that really made you feel goodor said something really nice?
Or maybe you saw
somebody was really hurting or suffering,maybe pray for that person.
You may not know their name,but I'll say so many times, you know, God,
I saw that personwho was having a hard time walking today.
(28:41):
I don't know their name, but you do,and that's all that matters.
So if each one of us
does our part to go out thereand do something good each and every day,
you know, whatever, I just
I just think that's going to take us,I think spiritual bonds
or I'm a generational cursesthey talk about sometimes could be broken.
Yes. You know,
and the more spiritual bondscan actually bring us closer together.
(29:04):
Right. Oh my generation.
No, no, we don't want those.
But we've heard about those.I've read about those.
We got to that generational curseis being broken right now.
Right now.
But we appreciate you so muchfor tuning in to our podcast.
What's good
I'm John Cadillac Seville, Joyce Logan,my friend, and we appreciate you.
You're part of our family as well.
We wish nothingbut the best for you and your family,
(29:26):
and can'twait to see you through the lens.
Next time you'll see us.
And with this new technology,there's new technology.
We could see you too. Okay.
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Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
Ridiculous History
History is beautiful, brutal and, often, ridiculous. Join Ben Bowlin and Noel Brown as they dive into some of the weirdest stories from across the span of human civilization in Ridiculous History, a podcast by iHeartRadio.