July 16, 2025 • 26 mins
We’re diving into the importance of having at least one true friend in your life—because no matter your age or situation, someone out there is looking for connection too. We’ll share how to find that person and build a meaningful bond.
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Oh, boy.
We are back together again.
We had so much fun the first timewe decided to bring our best buddies back.
Joyce.
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Welcome to another,hopefully rousing edition of What's
Good with John and Joyce, availableon all the streaming platforms.
I'm John CadillacSeville from iHeart radio,
and I got my friend Joyce Loganwith me as well.
We teamed up on this thing a while back,and we've had so much fun doing this.
And just think about it.
We got together in a coffee shoplast year, last spring or summer,
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and I said, I want to do a podcast.
And Joyce said, me too.
And then we almost at the same timesaid, let's do one together.
And now look what's going on here.
We're doing that show.
And it's just been an absolute
it's been an absolute joyto be working with you, Joyce.
So again Sharon welcome back Joyce.
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Best buddyJake my best buddy here hanging out.
And it's just been a blast.
So the first time we got togetherwe kind of pretty much introduced
you guys let you know how we met you andhow important your friendship has been.
Now we're going to talk aboutthe importance of of wellness.
And when you have a really good friendthat can really help your health,
I mean, when you have somebody inyour life that really makes you feel good,
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makes you laugh,
but also tells you what you need to hearsometimes when you don't want to hear it.
And that's important,you know, being blunt,
psychiatrist that I knew said to me,
he was dealing with someone,with a tough case.
And, I also do some therapy work and
and he said to me, you know,if people just had one good friend,
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they can really do talk therapy with.
Because that'swhat a lot of people just need.
They need someone to hear them,and somebody not to judge them
and to let them express themselves.
He said half the time people wouldn'tneed to come to me, have that one friend.
And that's stuck with mefor many, many years since he said that.
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And I thought, how true that is.
That's a really good point, Joyce.
And again, it's very freeing.
We had said this in our first episodetogether, but it's very freeing.
It's very empowering
to have that friend and just knowingthat you can pick up the phone
and call them,or meet with them for a cup of coffee
and just put it all out thereand know that they're just
going to be there for youwithout again, judging you, you know?
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But I also want to address the peoplewho maybe have lost their friends,
maybe a little older in life,maybe had a couple of good friends
who are no longer around,or they moved or something happened
and it's not over,
you know, don't sit there alone.
You can make anew friend and have that bond
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almost just as deep.
It doesn't matter that you can't reminisceabout, you know, the old days.
You can hear their storyfrom the old days,
you know, share with them,like you and I were speaking about.
Some people get together and they bondabout aches and pains, right?
I know I was I ran a coffee shopI go to every now and then
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that same group of people, 3 or 4 people,and they talk about the aches and pains
and, you know, that's okay,you know, whatever.
But they seem to be having funtalking about their aches and pains.
That's right.
And let me tell you about my medsthat I'm on today.
Oh. Well, but the same thing I can recall as a kid,
you know, talking about our funand our games and parties and things
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that we're going to share together,that's going to be positive and fun.
And now
we talk about what medications or,
what we what we do to stay healthy.
And quite frankly, I'm I'm blessed.
I, I have very, very goodgenetic background.
My mother made it to almost 100.
Yeah, she
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she wasn't, yeah.
She didn't die from an illness.
She just went to sleep and didn't wake up.
Oh, no.
Yes. Or or to.
It was just a terrific thing.
So when, when people would ask herher secret,
she would always say, olé and red wine.
So, you know, I'm good.
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I'm good with the red wine.
I just started using,a product on my skin also.
That really kind of helps.
It makes a big differencebecause I feel better
and, I am, dealing with a companythat John knows
very well that, wewe eat the right things.
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They teach us all the right
vitamins to take and,
products to use to, stay clean and healthy
without affecting our bodiesin any negative way.
And,
I certainly, over the past years,have lost friends
that, probably weren't too carefulwith themselves and with their,
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their behavior and, some of the food that they eat or,
many people are on a lot of medicationsand maybe they don't have to be
if they are dealing with their bodiesthe right way.
So, I've been blessed that way,that's for sure.
Enjoy. Should I talk about that a lot?
Because we really are into the fitnessand wellness realm.
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You know as well about that.
We we are what we consume.
You know, we are what we read,we are what we eat.
And, we talk about our, you know, regimenin the morning, so to speak.
I mean, I read it in the morning,
and I know I like to get up in the morningand do my prayerful work early to know.
But you but you do you but prayerful work.
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Well, but I'll do my Pilates.
I'll be my yoga.
I do my breathing exercisesbefore I hit the gym.
Very, very strict with nutrition.
And it's really served mewell, you know, over the years, too.
And I see a lot of my peersand they'll see me all the time.
So how do you do it?
I haven't seen you in 20 years.And you haven't.
You know, you look the same.
I mean, what do you what do you do?
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And like you said, James, a lot of it isgenetics, but it's also about what you do.
Keeping a positive attitude, making theright choices, at least most of the time.
You don't have to be a purist,but you're also going to attract people.
You know, we we like like minded peopleand you're going to attract those people.
So if you lost a friend or whatever,you're going to make
a whole bunch of new friendsby putting yourself out there.
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And they can be great conversations,not necessarily about the major taking,
but about music or about what's going onwith your favorite TV shows.
Or, what movies did you go see?
Talk about positive things.
Where do you go to go seeyou in the green, a concert that night.
It could be about uplifting things.
Positive attitude is essential.
It is essential.
You know, life is about 10%of what happens to you and 90% of
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how you respond to it. Excellent. James.
Glad you said that because it made merealize that our conversation, Sharon,
it's never negative.
You know, even if it starts outwith all this happened,
we always think about something.
I mean, it's you find the humor,you find the humor. Yes.
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Obviously we shouldn't,
Yeah.
Like, yeah, yeah, we have to laughabout it, but think I think the.
And sometimes you laugh so hardyou are crying.
But but but in a good way.
But, Jesse, every time we get together,you know, as couples,
we never, ever talk about aches and painsor any
that we're always talkingabout joyful things.
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Uplifting things.
No, no.
Same here, same here. Blessed.
Good for you.
Sure she was.
Yeah.
And spiritually, that's another story.
I mean, like, that really keepsyou focused on, staying healthy
because, spiritual mind is, pretty healthy mind.
And, I'm very fortunate to be part
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of a church, in my town, Guilford.
That is, been a blessing to mefor the last 30 years,
and, I enjoy it very much.
That's the vineyardshoreline vineyard church.
And it's a small church. Pastor Chris.
Church.
But, I love it.
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I enjoy it very much.
And spiritually,it just keeps your mind and your
your mind healthy,and your body just follows.
And. Sure.
And I know you're in the same churchthere.
You and like I am that was just
in it's a different buildingfrom where the church started.
The church started.
And you have an understandingthat used to be, I believe, a fish market.
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And then,
then moved to Hamden and then
because they had two buildingsand there was one that was smaller.
And when they decidedit was time for a larger sanctuary,
they added to,
and so and now it's it's a great place.
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What's the name of the church haveand give it a shout out.
Absolutely. Yes. Yeah.
I got to share something
about, Sharon's wedding.
You may have.
Was that when you were dancingon the table, Joyce?
That time?
Oh, that was another one.
Oh, okay.
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So, yeah.
So at your wedding,I'm I'm, you know, one of the bridesmaids.
Well, insertthat picture, you know, into this
into this segment.
Okay.
And Sharon'smother was a classiest woman, Evelyn.
And she was right on top of everything.
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So as one of the bridesmaids,
I was the only white lady of a,
like a life, right? Right.
Yeah, yeah. So,
but Evelyn wanted everything to match,and I have got the wrong size
pearl earrings, and she said, no, no, no,you know, and I said, oh, I'm sorry,
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because she meant, like,everything down to the detail. Wow.
As we walk down the aislewith these lovely gray dresses
and she said, and your stockingshave to match, they have to be this color.
So I got that color.
And the was standing thereand she looked me up and down and I said,
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Evelyn,there's nothing I can do about the color.
Hahahahahahaha.
That is funny.
But again, laughter, laughter.
Oh that's funny.
It's just so funny.
And then your grandmother, you know, thatwas sitting there and she was so kind.
You know that wonderful lady.
Right, right.
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And that was her first grandchild.
Oh you mean the end. Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
You could do you know what.
But but Joyce you were saying before aboutyou know
some people can be very lonelythat are watching this right now.
And they wish they,they wish they had someone in their life.
But you have to really kind ofput yourself out there a little bit.
You have to be a friend to. Exactly.
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So just
and there's so easy with social media nowor just going out to church functions
or functions you see
listed on social boards or whatever,and just put yourself out there.
There's so many opportunitiesto make a friend
and somebody is looking for you too.
Somebody is looking for you.
You still have a lot to offer.
That'swhy God breathed breath in your lungs
this morningthat you have a purpose, right?
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You know,I lost my wife about 16 years ago, and,
I was celibate for a while.
I, hung around with some bachelorguys on a beach house in Madison,
living pretty large by myself,and I was okay.
I didn't date,
and I have a client that was, sellingadvertising, and he came in one day.
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He was talking tome about buying an ad, and,
he said,you know, there's a girl that I work with.
He says,I think she'd be a good match for you.
I said, Don, I'mnot interested in a relationship.
Thank you.
I said, my wife passed awaythree years ago.
I'm living large with a bachelor, guys.
I had him on the beach at Madison. Happy?
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I'm good. Leave me alone.
Leave me alone.
I said thank you.
I'll call you. But I bought the ad.
Well, a few weeks goes byand I run into Don's wife
and she says, oh, hi, how are you doing?
I said, great, I said, she says,by the way, do you ever go and meet Nikki?
Always.
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And I said,I forgot to send that check for that ad.
She said, perfect opportunity.
Why don't you just go ahead and go,come and get a check.
Now. It was a hot July afternoon.
I was not looking to try to impress anyonein any way.
Shorts flip flop.
So I go home, grab a check, and I run overto where she works, and I walk in.
I only see her employer.
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I don't see her right away, but,he he says, can I help you?
And I said, well, I'm here to see Nikki.
I figured I she gets the check.
I didn't know I could have just handed himthe check.
But the Lord had some assumptions.
Yes, he did.
So, yeah.
So here's a little petition, and she says,can I help you?
And she looked at me and I said, wow.
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I said, Don, totally. You were nice.
But he didn't tell me or church.
So she laughed. She's very quick.
And she came right back and she said,well that's a good one.
She said if you
got anotherone I'll put the boots on right now.
Hahaha.
No seriously, he told me that you wouldn'tmind fooling around
with a hairdresser from Gilford.
So now she knows a little bit about mebecause he told her about me also.
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Yeah, so she says
she says you're funny.
I said funny ha ha. Or funny? Strange.
And she said it.
I said, I don't know,I just thought it takes her.
Yeah.
Yeah.
She's very pointed.She's great, she's great.
No B.S., I said, listen,they have this jazz on Sunday nights
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at the Thai restaurant,and I said, I'd like to take you.
She says,I love Thai food. I'd like to go.
I said, how on Sunday?
She says, well,I can't, I have a family commitment.
She says, why don't why don't we doso next week, next following Sunday?
And I said, well,I can't, I'm going to be out of town.
So I said,well, we'll make a date for three weeks.
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She says, I'll meet you there.
Very safe, you know.
So now, after three years,I'm finally interested in
somebody to spend some time with.
So we make this date for three weeks.
But I'm puzzled because, I'm
excited about seeing somebody newand I called her the next day
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on some pretense about the advertisementthat she's explaining it to me.
And as she's explaining, I said, Nikki,that's not really why I called.
I don't want to wait three weeks to seeyou give me a day this week
that you're available.
She said, well,I could be available on Saturday night.
I said, great, I said,do you like Italian food?
She says, I love Italian food.
Terrific.
I, pick you up, say 630, and we'll makea reservation at a nice restaurant.
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She said, well, why don't you come at six?
She says, we'll have a glass of wine.
Oh, I'll meet you there now.
A glass of winehalf hour early into her home.
Well, of course, women are first.
Get to meet somebody for the first timeto go on a date with somebody.
What do they do?
They go home, call their best friendand start asking questions.
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Well,she did a little survey and found out
that,he's got a little business in town, and,
he lost his wife a few years ago, but,you know, he's he's nice guy.
He's not a creep. Yeah.
So she's comfortableenough to invite me into her home.
I show up with a bottle of wineand a dozen roses,
glass jars,
and went to a nice Italian restaurantin New Haven.
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Afterwards,we went for a lovely walk on the beach
under a moonlit August sky.
You know, you can't
hallmark movie, hallmark movie.
Yep. It is, it is.
And they've been together ever since,and we socialized with them all the time.
They're just a wonderful couple together.
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13 years.
Yeah. We're engaged.
Yeah, they've been engaged for 13 years.
When are you going to frigginmake it legal?
Jesse?
Yeah.
That's right. Put a ring on it. Exactly.
Well,she does have a right there, right? Right.
I didn't ask her to marry me,but I asked her
if she would be my girlfor the rest of my life.
Hey, the bottom line is,you guys are together.
Whatever you decide to do.
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Absolutely.
So snag somebody in my lifethat keeps me healthy and vice versa. Yep.
That's my friends. No one.
No one says I got somethingfor you to meet.
Joyce.
My husband passed away five years agoand everyone just looks at me like that.
I think you're past their age limit or.
No, no, you're never are.
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No. You're ageless. Joyce
at age 81.
Yeah.
Last time for us. That's right.
Yeah.
My father.
You know what? God'snot God's not going to let you.
God is not going to let you settle it.
God's not going to let you settle, right?
You shouldn't have to settle to see it.
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Well, I like when people you meet peoplethe way
your friends sayyou should meet this person rather than,
I know a lot of people afraid to go onlinebecause, you know, I'm.
Yeah.
You know, like a friend says,
this person is a good right?
Yeah.
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You trust that?
You trust that reference, so to speak.
Yeah.
Passed away three years prior, and,he was ten years older than mom.
So we started to see signs of,depression with mom.
And we suggestedthat she go to Florida for the winter
because she has some widowed friendsdown there.
And we thought thatthat would be a nice environment for her.
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Well, a couple of weeks later,she decided to go.
A couple of weeks later, she calls meand she says, the lady upstairs wants me.
This man. I said, meet this man.
She said,
she says, you know me. I love your father.
I can't be bothered with a relationshipat this stage of the game.
I'm 81. I don't need a man in my life.
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I said, mom, relax.
If the guy's a jerk,you never have to see him again.
If he's a nice man, somebodyto have a conversation
with once in a while,you're not going to marry him.
Later. They were married.
Well, on that she say okay.
Yeah. The man worshiped the ground.
She walked off.
They were married for nearly 20 years.
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He died at age 99, and mom dated foranother four and a half years after that.
Wow, wow.
They did, they did. Yes. Yes.
Sorry I've ever seen that. Great.
Yeah. It gives you hope, doesn't it?
And that'swhat it's all about. It's all about hope.
Right.
And again,
through a friend. Right.
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You know, it was justit started out as a friendship and for,
you know, it, you know, it was,they got married on Friday the 13th. Wow.
There was very special of it.
It was wonderful. Wow.
Yeah. Wow.
And you told her every dayhow much he loved her
with that.
Yeah. Yes.
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It waswonderful. Was a blessing a real blessing.
And as a son you love to see that.
Oh absolutely.
Yeah. Best man. Wow. Yeah.
That's so awesome.
It does, it does.
Yeah.
You know and I think because I had such
a great husband and great relationshipand someone told me
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every day that he loved me,you know, until he didn't know who I was.
And said Alzheimer's.
But, like,I think you mentioned it once, John.
It's a credit to the person that you want
and the person in your lifebecause they have that bond. Yes.
That's my friend.
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Yes.
You know everything.
And you miss that.
Yeah.
I think if I didn't have a greatrelationship, I would say I'm done right.
You know?
But let's just say I am open to thepossibilities.
I believe that
without question.
I mean, I worked with your with Wayneand many times when I did weddings
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and he, also photographed, you know,
my first wife, my by my late wife, Darcy.
Sharon and I were at your wedding.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So I was married for 23 years.
We were together for 25 years.
And, Darcy had a long battle.
Yeah, yeah, had a long, long battle.
And, so much like what you went through,James to.
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I mean, we had a chance to prepare for it.
It wasn't like a sudden thing,but still doesn't make it any less.
You went through the same thing, Joy.
It was it was long.
Yeah.
And, Darcy was sickfor a long period of time as well.
But when she passed away,I never got angry with God,
realizing that I never owned her,that she was on loan to me.
None of us own each other.
But I knew that I was,open to dating again.
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And within six months,I was out dating a lot.
Over the summer because I knew thatI had way too much love to give.
And it was a and it was honoring Darcybecause I had such a great relationship
with her.
And even,you know, with Patty, my, my, my wife
now of God, 17 yearsI married the love of my life twice.
Twice.
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I urgeeveryone to look at your Facebook page
because he has a picture with his nowwife.
Patty. Patty, her daughter.
Yeah.
Lindsey and Darcy picture.
And that's something, yeah.
At the Oakdale Theater.
It was a it was when Brooks and Dunnand Trace Adkins
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were there for the openingof the new Oakdale Theater and, you know,
and and Patty,my wife now had won a contest
to go to the concert, and Darcy and I,my first wife and I were there as well.
So, Patty was one of the winners.
She was there with Lindsay,and we all had dinner together backstage,
and my late wifetook a picture of my now wife
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that was on her living roomtable for years.
Imagine that.
So I mean,
that was all orchestratedbehind the scenes by God.
Anyway,so I really believe that that was destiny.
It was destiny.
Was destiny.
Nope. He doesn't make mistakes at all.
But I know that we're all never get up,never get up, never, ever, ever.
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If it happen for James,you know it happen for me.
It can happen for you.
You know, and say yes to things.
If somebody invites youor go play with that check.
But sure.
Be on a podcast.
Yeah.
And the whole thing isyou can always make a new friend.
And Pattyand I have always said that before,
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even when I was dating, beforesomebody wanted to get together.
I always say yesbecause I can always gain a new friend.
Like you said, with your mom before,you could always go out there
and just chat or have dinner,and if it doesn't work out, you move on.
But I'm always going to say yesto making a new friend, right?
You can never, never have enoughnew friends or acquaintances.
You know, I
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recently, not that recently, actually.
For the last 6 or 7 years,I've been singing with a gospel group,
here on the shoreline.
It's called Shoreline Gospel. And,
we have two concerts a year.
It's run by a wonderful,wonderful lead singer.
Her name is Angela Clements.
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She works with Michael Jackson,Aretha Franklin, among others.
She's phenomenal, phenomenal,and she's a phenomenal person.
Yes, yes.
Yep. And, she's put together, fabulous,
songs for us to sing at these concerts.
We sing together at one of the churchesin Guilford or in Madison,
another one in Branford occasionally.
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And we even have a, a Jewish, church
that we go to in, at Christmastimeand do a mini concert.
And, so I love to sing.
My mother was a singer, and, she gave methat blessing as well as my sister
and her six of us in the family.
And, we love to sing.
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And, I'm enjoying this, gospel concert.
I've met so many new friendsthere, so many amazing things.
We just had a concert.
I think it was about three weeks agoin Guilford at the, Congregational Church.
And Angelabrings the house down from the church.
It's incredible.
And gospel music is just just amazing.
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It's a little different than, regular songs that you might hear, but
beautiful stuff.
Hey, I love the energy, I love it,I love it, too.
I love the energy.
And the thing is, like you were sayingbefore, you make a lot of new friends.
So that's if you're lookingfor a friend out there, get involved.
You love music, get involved in a gospelcourse, do some community theater,
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go out there, do something.
There's all these programswith the rec centers in your town.
There's so many bus trips.
Yeah, bus
trips to go see a show in New York Citytogether or something.
Yeah, or a movie night.
So many great, great way.
So you don't have to go throughlife alone.
And that scares a lot of peopleto be alone, you know, especially if you.
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Yeah.
So we pray for youthat you find that special person too.
Because we certainly did, Joyce, didn'twe got lucky.
We got we got lucky here.We have found the special person.
But how about our special friendsright here
that came back for a second edition.
Bless.
Yeah. Same here.
I mean, you're,
Yeah.
Thank you. Yep.
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Happy together baby, like the turtles.
You know,
but thank you so much for, you know,
tuning in, watching, listeningto what's good with John and Joyce.
You can find us on all the streamingplatforms.
Please tell a friend about us,
especially with this episodeabout friends,
because there's always hope for all of us.
We pray for you and your familyand only the best.
And thank you so much.
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You've always got a friend in us here.
What's good with Johnand Joyce? Amen. That's all.
Yeah.
Subscribe,subscribe. Tell your friends about us.
Till next time. Love you. Bye bye.
Thank you John. Thank you JC, thank.
Oh, boy.
We are back together again.
We had so much fun the first timewe decided to bring our best buddies back.
Joyce.
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Welcome to another,hopefully rousing edition of What's
Good with John and Joyce, availableon all the streaming platforms.
I'm John CadillacSeville from iHeart radio,
and I got my friend Joyce Loganwith me as well.
We teamed up on this thing a while back,and we've had so much fun doing this.
And just think about it.
We got together in a coffee shoplast year, last spring or summer,
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and I said, I want to do a podcast.
And Joyce said, me too.
And then we almost at the same timesaid, let's do one together.
And now look what's going on here.
We're doing that show.
And it's just been an absolute
it's been an absolute joyto be working with you, Joyce.
So again Sharon welcome back Joyce.
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Best buddyJake my best buddy here hanging out.
And it's just been a blast.
So the first time we got togetherwe kind of pretty much introduced
you guys let you know how we met you andhow important your friendship has been.
Now we're going to talk aboutthe importance of of wellness.
And when you have a really good friendthat can really help your health,
I mean, when you have somebody inyour life that really makes you feel good,
(01:28):
makes you laugh,
but also tells you what you need to hearsometimes when you don't want to hear it.
And that's important,you know, being blunt,
psychiatrist that I knew said to me,
he was dealing with someone,with a tough case.
And, I also do some therapy work and
and he said to me, you know,if people just had one good friend,
(01:54):
they can really do talk therapy with.
Because that'swhat a lot of people just need.
They need someone to hear them,and somebody not to judge them
and to let them express themselves.
He said half the time people wouldn'tneed to come to me, have that one friend.
And that's stuck with mefor many, many years since he said that.
(02:17):
And I thought, how true that is.
That's a really good point, Joyce.
And again, it's very freeing.
We had said this in our first episodetogether, but it's very freeing.
It's very empowering
to have that friend and just knowingthat you can pick up the phone
and call them,or meet with them for a cup of coffee
and just put it all out thereand know that they're just
going to be there for youwithout again, judging you, you know?
(02:39):
But I also want to address the peoplewho maybe have lost their friends,
maybe a little older in life,maybe had a couple of good friends
who are no longer around,or they moved or something happened
and it's not over,
you know, don't sit there alone.
You can make anew friend and have that bond
(03:00):
almost just as deep.
It doesn't matter that you can't reminisceabout, you know, the old days.
You can hear their storyfrom the old days,
you know, share with them,like you and I were speaking about.
Some people get together and they bondabout aches and pains, right?
I know I was I ran a coffee shopI go to every now and then
(03:20):
that same group of people, 3 or 4 people,and they talk about the aches and pains
and, you know, that's okay,you know, whatever.
But they seem to be having funtalking about their aches and pains.
That's right.
And let me tell you about my medsthat I'm on today.
Oh. Well, but the same thing I can recall as a kid,
you know, talking about our funand our games and parties and things
(03:44):
that we're going to share together,that's going to be positive and fun.
And now
we talk about what medications or,
what we what we do to stay healthy.
And quite frankly, I'm I'm blessed.
I, I have very, very goodgenetic background.
My mother made it to almost 100.
Yeah, she
(04:07):
she wasn't, yeah.
She didn't die from an illness.
She just went to sleep and didn't wake up.
Oh, no.
Yes. Or or to.
It was just a terrific thing.
So when, when people would ask herher secret,
she would always say, olé and red wine.
So, you know, I'm good.
(04:29):
I'm good with the red wine.
I just started using,a product on my skin also.
That really kind of helps.
It makes a big differencebecause I feel better
and, I am, dealing with a companythat John knows
very well that, wewe eat the right things.
(04:50):
They teach us all the right
vitamins to take and,
products to use to, stay clean and healthy
without affecting our bodiesin any negative way.
And,
I certainly, over the past years,have lost friends
that, probably weren't too carefulwith themselves and with their,
(05:12):
their behavior and, some of the food that they eat or,
many people are on a lot of medicationsand maybe they don't have to be
if they are dealing with their bodiesthe right way.
So, I've been blessed that way,that's for sure.
Enjoy. Should I talk about that a lot?
Because we really are into the fitnessand wellness realm.
(05:33):
You know as well about that.
We we are what we consume.
You know, we are what we read,we are what we eat.
And, we talk about our, you know, regimenin the morning, so to speak.
I mean, I read it in the morning,
and I know I like to get up in the morningand do my prayerful work early to know.
But you but you do you but prayerful work.
(05:53):
Well, but I'll do my Pilates.
I'll be my yoga.
I do my breathing exercisesbefore I hit the gym.
Very, very strict with nutrition.
And it's really served mewell, you know, over the years, too.
And I see a lot of my peersand they'll see me all the time.
So how do you do it?
I haven't seen you in 20 years.And you haven't.
You know, you look the same.
I mean, what do you what do you do?
(06:14):
And like you said, James, a lot of it isgenetics, but it's also about what you do.
Keeping a positive attitude, making theright choices, at least most of the time.
You don't have to be a purist,but you're also going to attract people.
You know, we we like like minded peopleand you're going to attract those people.
So if you lost a friend or whatever,you're going to make
a whole bunch of new friendsby putting yourself out there.
(06:35):
And they can be great conversations,not necessarily about the major taking,
but about music or about what's going onwith your favorite TV shows.
Or, what movies did you go see?
Talk about positive things.
Where do you go to go seeyou in the green, a concert that night.
It could be about uplifting things.
Positive attitude is essential.
It is essential.
You know, life is about 10%of what happens to you and 90% of
(06:57):
how you respond to it. Excellent. James.
Glad you said that because it made merealize that our conversation, Sharon,
it's never negative.
You know, even if it starts outwith all this happened,
we always think about something.
I mean, it's you find the humor,you find the humor. Yes.
(07:17):
Obviously we shouldn't,
Yeah.
Like, yeah, yeah, we have to laughabout it, but think I think the.
And sometimes you laugh so hardyou are crying.
But but but in a good way.
But, Jesse, every time we get together,you know, as couples,
we never, ever talk about aches and painsor any
that we're always talkingabout joyful things.
(07:38):
Uplifting things.
No, no.
Same here, same here. Blessed.
Good for you.
Sure she was.
Yeah.
And spiritually, that's another story.
I mean, like, that really keepsyou focused on, staying healthy
because, spiritual mind is, pretty healthy mind.
And, I'm very fortunate to be part
(08:00):
of a church, in my town, Guilford.
That is, been a blessing to mefor the last 30 years,
and, I enjoy it very much.
That's the vineyardshoreline vineyard church.
And it's a small church. Pastor Chris.
Church.
But, I love it.
(08:20):
I enjoy it very much.
And spiritually,it just keeps your mind and your
your mind healthy,and your body just follows.
And. Sure.
And I know you're in the same churchthere.
You and like I am that was just
in it's a different buildingfrom where the church started.
The church started.
And you have an understandingthat used to be, I believe, a fish market.
(08:42):
And then,
then moved to Hamden and then
because they had two buildingsand there was one that was smaller.
And when they decidedit was time for a larger sanctuary,
they added to,
and so and now it's it's a great place.
(09:03):
What's the name of the church haveand give it a shout out.
Absolutely. Yes. Yeah.
I got to share something
about, Sharon's wedding.
You may have.
Was that when you were dancingon the table, Joyce?
That time?
Oh, that was another one.
Oh, okay.
(09:25):
So, yeah.
So at your wedding,I'm I'm, you know, one of the bridesmaids.
Well, insertthat picture, you know, into this
into this segment.
Okay.
And Sharon'smother was a classiest woman, Evelyn.
And she was right on top of everything.
(09:46):
So as one of the bridesmaids,
I was the only white lady of a,
like a life, right? Right.
Yeah, yeah. So,
but Evelyn wanted everything to match,and I have got the wrong size
pearl earrings, and she said, no, no, no,you know, and I said, oh, I'm sorry,
(10:10):
because she meant, like,everything down to the detail. Wow.
As we walk down the aislewith these lovely gray dresses
and she said, and your stockingshave to match, they have to be this color.
So I got that color.
And the was standing thereand she looked me up and down and I said,
(10:30):
Evelyn,there's nothing I can do about the color.
Hahahahahahaha.
That is funny.
But again, laughter, laughter.
Oh that's funny.
It's just so funny.
And then your grandmother, you know, thatwas sitting there and she was so kind.
You know that wonderful lady.
Right, right.
(10:51):
And that was her first grandchild.
Oh you mean the end. Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
You could do you know what.
But but Joyce you were saying before aboutyou know
some people can be very lonelythat are watching this right now.
And they wish they,they wish they had someone in their life.
But you have to really kind ofput yourself out there a little bit.
You have to be a friend to. Exactly.
(11:11):
So just
and there's so easy with social media nowor just going out to church functions
or functions you see
listed on social boards or whatever,and just put yourself out there.
There's so many opportunitiesto make a friend
and somebody is looking for you too.
Somebody is looking for you.
You still have a lot to offer.
That'swhy God breathed breath in your lungs
this morningthat you have a purpose, right?
(11:32):
You know,I lost my wife about 16 years ago, and,
I was celibate for a while.
I, hung around with some bachelorguys on a beach house in Madison,
living pretty large by myself,and I was okay.
I didn't date,
and I have a client that was, sellingadvertising, and he came in one day.
(11:52):
He was talking tome about buying an ad, and,
he said,you know, there's a girl that I work with.
He says,I think she'd be a good match for you.
I said, Don, I'mnot interested in a relationship.
Thank you.
I said, my wife passed awaythree years ago.
I'm living large with a bachelor, guys.
I had him on the beach at Madison. Happy?
(12:13):
I'm good. Leave me alone.
Leave me alone.
I said thank you.
I'll call you. But I bought the ad.
Well, a few weeks goes byand I run into Don's wife
and she says, oh, hi, how are you doing?
I said, great, I said, she says,by the way, do you ever go and meet Nikki?
Always.
(12:33):
And I said,I forgot to send that check for that ad.
She said, perfect opportunity.
Why don't you just go ahead and go,come and get a check.
Now. It was a hot July afternoon.
I was not looking to try to impress anyonein any way.
Shorts flip flop.
So I go home, grab a check, and I run overto where she works, and I walk in.
I only see her employer.
(12:54):
I don't see her right away, but,he he says, can I help you?
And I said, well, I'm here to see Nikki.
I figured I she gets the check.
I didn't know I could have just handed himthe check.
But the Lord had some assumptions.
Yes, he did.
So, yeah.
So here's a little petition, and she says,can I help you?
And she looked at me and I said, wow.
(13:16):
I said, Don, totally. You were nice.
But he didn't tell me or church.
So she laughed. She's very quick.
And she came right back and she said,well that's a good one.
She said if you
got anotherone I'll put the boots on right now.
Hahaha.
No seriously, he told me that you wouldn'tmind fooling around
with a hairdresser from Gilford.
So now she knows a little bit about mebecause he told her about me also.
(13:39):
Yeah, so she says
she says you're funny.
I said funny ha ha. Or funny? Strange.
And she said it.
I said, I don't know,I just thought it takes her.
Yeah.
Yeah.
She's very pointed.She's great, she's great.
No B.S., I said, listen,they have this jazz on Sunday nights
(14:02):
at the Thai restaurant,and I said, I'd like to take you.
She says,I love Thai food. I'd like to go.
I said, how on Sunday?
She says, well,I can't, I have a family commitment.
She says, why don't why don't we doso next week, next following Sunday?
And I said, well,I can't, I'm going to be out of town.
So I said,well, we'll make a date for three weeks.
(14:23):
She says, I'll meet you there.
Very safe, you know.
So now, after three years,I'm finally interested in
somebody to spend some time with.
So we make this date for three weeks.
But I'm puzzled because, I'm
excited about seeing somebody newand I called her the next day
(14:44):
on some pretense about the advertisementthat she's explaining it to me.
And as she's explaining, I said, Nikki,that's not really why I called.
I don't want to wait three weeks to seeyou give me a day this week
that you're available.
She said, well,I could be available on Saturday night.
I said, great, I said,do you like Italian food?
She says, I love Italian food.
Terrific.
I, pick you up, say 630, and we'll makea reservation at a nice restaurant.
(15:09):
She said, well, why don't you come at six?
She says, we'll have a glass of wine.
Oh, I'll meet you there now.
A glass of winehalf hour early into her home.
Well, of course, women are first.
Get to meet somebody for the first timeto go on a date with somebody.
What do they do?
They go home, call their best friendand start asking questions.
(15:30):
Well,she did a little survey and found out
that,he's got a little business in town, and,
he lost his wife a few years ago, but,you know, he's he's nice guy.
He's not a creep. Yeah.
So she's comfortableenough to invite me into her home.
I show up with a bottle of wineand a dozen roses,
glass jars,
and went to a nice Italian restaurantin New Haven.
(15:53):
Afterwards,we went for a lovely walk on the beach
under a moonlit August sky.
You know, you can't
hallmark movie, hallmark movie.
Yep. It is, it is.
And they've been together ever since,and we socialized with them all the time.
They're just a wonderful couple together.
(16:14):
13 years.
Yeah. We're engaged.
Yeah, they've been engaged for 13 years.
When are you going to frigginmake it legal?
Jesse?
Yeah.
That's right. Put a ring on it. Exactly.
Well,she does have a right there, right? Right.
I didn't ask her to marry me,but I asked her
if she would be my girlfor the rest of my life.
Hey, the bottom line is,you guys are together.
Whatever you decide to do.
(16:34):
Absolutely.
So snag somebody in my lifethat keeps me healthy and vice versa. Yep.
That's my friends. No one.
No one says I got somethingfor you to meet.
Joyce.
My husband passed away five years agoand everyone just looks at me like that.
I think you're past their age limit or.
No, no, you're never are.
(16:57):
No. You're ageless. Joyce
at age 81.
Yeah.
Last time for us. That's right.
Yeah.
My father.
You know what? God'snot God's not going to let you.
God is not going to let you settle it.
God's not going to let you settle, right?
You shouldn't have to settle to see it.
(17:17):
Well, I like when people you meet peoplethe way
your friends sayyou should meet this person rather than,
I know a lot of people afraid to go onlinebecause, you know, I'm.
Yeah.
You know, like a friend says,
this person is a good right?
Yeah.
(17:38):
You trust that?
You trust that reference, so to speak.
Yeah.
Passed away three years prior, and,he was ten years older than mom.
So we started to see signs of,depression with mom.
And we suggestedthat she go to Florida for the winter
because she has some widowed friendsdown there.
And we thought thatthat would be a nice environment for her.
(18:00):
Well, a couple of weeks later,she decided to go.
A couple of weeks later, she calls meand she says, the lady upstairs wants me.
This man. I said, meet this man.
She said,
she says, you know me. I love your father.
I can't be bothered with a relationshipat this stage of the game.
I'm 81. I don't need a man in my life.
(18:22):
I said, mom, relax.
If the guy's a jerk,you never have to see him again.
If he's a nice man, somebodyto have a conversation
with once in a while,you're not going to marry him.
Later. They were married.
Well, on that she say okay.
Yeah. The man worshiped the ground.
She walked off.
They were married for nearly 20 years.
(18:43):
He died at age 99, and mom dated foranother four and a half years after that.
Wow, wow.
They did, they did. Yes. Yes.
Sorry I've ever seen that. Great.
Yeah. It gives you hope, doesn't it?
And that'swhat it's all about. It's all about hope.
Right.
And again,
through a friend. Right.
(19:03):
You know, it was justit started out as a friendship and for,
you know, it, you know, it was,they got married on Friday the 13th. Wow.
There was very special of it.
It was wonderful. Wow.
Yeah. Wow.
And you told her every dayhow much he loved her
with that.
Yeah. Yes.
(19:24):
It waswonderful. Was a blessing a real blessing.
And as a son you love to see that.
Oh absolutely.
Yeah. Best man. Wow. Yeah.
That's so awesome.
It does, it does.
Yeah.
You know and I think because I had such
a great husband and great relationshipand someone told me
(19:46):
every day that he loved me,you know, until he didn't know who I was.
And said Alzheimer's.
But, like,I think you mentioned it once, John.
It's a credit to the person that you want
and the person in your lifebecause they have that bond. Yes.
That's my friend.
(20:07):
Yes.
You know everything.
And you miss that.
Yeah.
I think if I didn't have a greatrelationship, I would say I'm done right.
You know?
But let's just say I am open to thepossibilities.
I believe that
without question.
I mean, I worked with your with Wayneand many times when I did weddings
(20:28):
and he, also photographed, you know,
my first wife, my by my late wife, Darcy.
Sharon and I were at your wedding.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So I was married for 23 years.
We were together for 25 years.
And, Darcy had a long battle.
Yeah, yeah, had a long, long battle.
And, so much like what you went through,James to.
(20:52):
I mean, we had a chance to prepare for it.
It wasn't like a sudden thing,but still doesn't make it any less.
You went through the same thing, Joy.
It was it was long.
Yeah.
And, Darcy was sickfor a long period of time as well.
But when she passed away,I never got angry with God,
realizing that I never owned her,that she was on loan to me.
None of us own each other.
But I knew that I was,open to dating again.
(21:14):
And within six months,I was out dating a lot.
Over the summer because I knew thatI had way too much love to give.
And it was a and it was honoring Darcybecause I had such a great relationship
with her.
And even,you know, with Patty, my, my, my wife
now of God, 17 yearsI married the love of my life twice.
Twice.
(21:35):
I urgeeveryone to look at your Facebook page
because he has a picture with his nowwife.
Patty. Patty, her daughter.
Yeah.
Lindsey and Darcy picture.
And that's something, yeah.
At the Oakdale Theater.
It was a it was when Brooks and Dunnand Trace Adkins
(21:56):
were there for the openingof the new Oakdale Theater and, you know,
and and Patty,my wife now had won a contest
to go to the concert, and Darcy and I,my first wife and I were there as well.
So, Patty was one of the winners.
She was there with Lindsay,and we all had dinner together backstage,
and my late wifetook a picture of my now wife
(22:21):
that was on her living roomtable for years.
Imagine that.
So I mean,
that was all orchestratedbehind the scenes by God.
Anyway,so I really believe that that was destiny.
It was destiny.
Was destiny.
Nope. He doesn't make mistakes at all.
But I know that we're all never get up,never get up, never, ever, ever.
(22:45):
If it happen for James,you know it happen for me.
It can happen for you.
You know, and say yes to things.
If somebody invites youor go play with that check.
But sure.
Be on a podcast.
Yeah.
And the whole thing isyou can always make a new friend.
And Pattyand I have always said that before,
(23:07):
even when I was dating, beforesomebody wanted to get together.
I always say yesbecause I can always gain a new friend.
Like you said, with your mom before,you could always go out there
and just chat or have dinner,and if it doesn't work out, you move on.
But I'm always going to say yesto making a new friend, right?
You can never, never have enoughnew friends or acquaintances.
You know, I
(23:27):
recently, not that recently, actually.
For the last 6 or 7 years,I've been singing with a gospel group,
here on the shoreline.
It's called Shoreline Gospel. And,
we have two concerts a year.
It's run by a wonderful,wonderful lead singer.
Her name is Angela Clements.
(23:48):
She works with Michael Jackson,Aretha Franklin, among others.
She's phenomenal, phenomenal,and she's a phenomenal person.
Yes, yes.
Yep. And, she's put together, fabulous,
songs for us to sing at these concerts.
We sing together at one of the churchesin Guilford or in Madison,
another one in Branford occasionally.
(24:10):
And we even have a, a Jewish, church
that we go to in, at Christmastimeand do a mini concert.
And, so I love to sing.
My mother was a singer, and, she gave methat blessing as well as my sister
and her six of us in the family.
And, we love to sing.
(24:31):
And, I'm enjoying this, gospel concert.
I've met so many new friendsthere, so many amazing things.
We just had a concert.
I think it was about three weeks agoin Guilford at the, Congregational Church.
And Angelabrings the house down from the church.
It's incredible.
And gospel music is just just amazing.
(24:54):
It's a little different than, regular songs that you might hear, but
beautiful stuff.
Hey, I love the energy, I love it,I love it, too.
I love the energy.
And the thing is, like you were sayingbefore, you make a lot of new friends.
So that's if you're lookingfor a friend out there, get involved.
You love music, get involved in a gospelcourse, do some community theater,
(25:15):
go out there, do something.
There's all these programswith the rec centers in your town.
There's so many bus trips.
Yeah, bus
trips to go see a show in New York Citytogether or something.
Yeah, or a movie night.
So many great, great way.
So you don't have to go throughlife alone.
And that scares a lot of peopleto be alone, you know, especially if you.
(25:35):
Yeah.
So we pray for youthat you find that special person too.
Because we certainly did, Joyce, didn'twe got lucky.
We got we got lucky here.We have found the special person.
But how about our special friendsright here
that came back for a second edition.
Bless.
Yeah. Same here.
I mean, you're,
Yeah.
Thank you. Yep.
(25:57):
Happy together baby, like the turtles.
You know,
but thank you so much for, you know,
tuning in, watching, listeningto what's good with John and Joyce.
You can find us on all the streamingplatforms.
Please tell a friend about us,
especially with this episodeabout friends,
because there's always hope for all of us.
We pray for you and your familyand only the best.
And thank you so much.
(26:17):
You've always got a friend in us here.
What's good with Johnand Joyce? Amen. That's all.
Yeah.
Subscribe,subscribe. Tell your friends about us.
Till next time. Love you. Bye bye.
Thank you John. Thank you JC, thank.
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