December 10, 2025 • 34 mins
John and Joyce share foolproof ways to lift your spirits—even in tough times. They’ve lived it, they’ve done it, and now they’re sharing what truly works to help you feel better and move forward.
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Hello, Joyce. Hi.
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It's good to see you again.
I was looking forward to getting togetherand hanging out with you.
And, you know,I just hope everything's well, Yeah.
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I gotta tell you something.
Yes, I have the best morning,you know, why?
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Not only did I have a good sleep,but I had this dream.
And I know sometimes people get boredand people tell about their dreams.
But this one was really special to mebecause I'm a vivid dreamer.
But I'm not. It was good.
It. Now do youdream in color of black and white color.
I always call it. Really.
Okay.
And some of my dreams are prophetic.
(01:52):
Some of them arealmost like a minor pathetic,
not prophetic.
That's right.
Yeah.
Did you ever have a dreamwhere you wake up
and you have to go to the bathroom,you come back and you do a yes.
I'm always hoping I can dream.
Went on all night.And you know what I was doing?
What were you doing?
(02:12):
Hanging out with the Righteous Brothers?
Oh, Bill medley was there.
Bobby Hatfield, great voice.
Oh, both of them.
You know, I think I might
go back to the days where I work and,you know, Palace Theater, Oakdale theater.
So part of my job was entertaining people,
taking them to lunch or whatever,11 in the morning.
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But there's just not at 8:00 at night.
But I wasn't thinkingof the Righteous Brothers.
I didn't hear any of their songsthe whole night.
I was with these two em,
and I was asking them about their music,and I made a chicken.
Hahahahaha! Eating right.
Bobby said to me, do you want some coffee?
(02:56):
And I said, you know, I don't really knowhow to make coffee in the kitchen.
I'll show you how Bobby Hatfieldteaching you how to make coffee.
Ooh, it didn't matteras much with the ground
as it mattered, with the kind of wateryou used that caused it to taste better.
Thank you. Bobby, I didn't know that.
Well, bill medley
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sitting on the couch and I have to sayI always had a crush on him.
Yeah. Wait.
So I googled him this morningand I thought, man, you're 85.
You look terrific.And then I saw his wife title.
Yeah, yeah.
So, Bill medley,if you're looking for somebody.
Yeah.
I always had a question with the musicand they were talking about their music.
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Blue-Eyed soul, Blue-Eyed soul. Love it.
The first thing I did was I said,Alexa, play just once in my life.
Oh, yeah, and then that song came onand I just felt Ebb Tide,
another one of their not not as familiarI chant melody,
but that was first recordedby like 5 or 6 people back in the 50s.
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And you think you think about UnchainedMelody.
It never hit the top five in the charts.
For The Righteous Brothers,it peaked at number six,
and you lost that LovinFeelin was their biggie,
and that was the most playedsong of the 20th century vocals, right?
I loved it and
and Bill medleyhad a lot of people don't know this Joyce,
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but he had a successful semi in the 80s incountry music.
He had some solo songs on the countrycharts, which I played back
in the early days, and he was really goodfriends with Elvis Presley.
Elvis loved him and Bill loved him.
I mean, Bill would do his shows in LasVegas and Elvis would just go watch him
and he'd go to the back of the stageand he would cross the stage
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while Bill was singingand just say hi to the crowd.
And at first he thought he wasmaybe being kind of rude doing that.
And he said to Bill afterwardswhen Bill went to visit him in his suite,
you know, Bill,maybe I shouldn't do that.
It's kind of rude.
No, no, because every time you do it,it packs the house
people hear about Elvismight cross the stage because in.
(05:03):
Yeah.
So, Elvis, you just do it.Just cross the stage and wave.
And then Elvis would include you've lostthat loving feeling in his show.
After that.
It was always a highlight because I lovedElvis, his version of that song.
Listen to it sometime.
Yeah.
Forgot to tell me that history.
He was too busy listening to Bobbytell you about how to make coffee.
So about the water.
(05:24):
That was part of my my good feeling.
Good, right?
Listening to music.
Right. Waking up that way.That was like a.
Oh, I agree with you, Joyce.
I do the same thingbecause we can really determine our day,
but by how we wake upand how we get our mindset straight,
we're getting up in the morningand making a decision to have a good day.
You know, we have a choice.
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Well, we have a choice.Happiness is a choice.
Like Abe Lincoln said back in the day,you know, when we were hanging out, Abe
Lincoln and I had a dream about ushanging out Abe Lincoln.
I was there when he was.
I was therewhen he wrote the Gettysburg Address.
Oh, 29 seconds of it.
But, you know, just waking up with good,good music,
upbeat stuff that makes you feel good.
I'm not going to wake up with the news,go to my phone and check all this stuff.
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I don't want the day to happen. Random.
I want to be intentionalabout how my day starts.
Be intentional.
You know, someone just said,who has like a this mindfulness group
and she said that she took a walk.
I know I said, you know, take a walkat night and you walk at night.
You see what's going on in people's homes.
Every home has this big TV on the wall.
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Every one of them has the news on.
And she thought,no wonder why people are so upset.
Yeah, I turn the news. All right.
That's my one feel good thing.
Sometimes I, I see somethingand I want to watch it.
So, you know,
I watch the local news
to see what the weather is,what's going on maybe in my neighborhood.
And that's it.
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I don't want to do it.
I can't control it.
There's nothing I can do.
So that's a feel good thing.
And I know, I know a good buddy of minethat has on the news
all the time, and he's miserable.
And I'm saying, why do you do that?
You can't change anything.
Just go out thereand be the best person you can be.
I mean, I'll tune in occasionallythrough the day.
It's all on repeat anyway.
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It's like a cycle
I might check it for ten 50 minutes,see what's going on in the world
so I can have a conversation with people,but I'm not going to let it,
you know, plant the seed in my body
and turn me into an angry personand just be so negative.
We're only here for a little while.
We're here for a blip and were gone.
I'm not giving my energy.
No, no, rightcaved into it and made me angry.
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I said, nope, I can't do this to my body.
You know, my feel good formulais not only to listen to good music,
but there's a few things on YouTubethat I love, and I happen to love.
Esther Hicks slash Abraham.
And you know, you know,and if you don't, you can check it out.
But it takes her talksand puts them into it.
(07:58):
Most of themI lately have been into animated,
you know, like her animated mom,just like 15, 13 minutes.
Right.
That is so uplifting.
And someone asked her recently,
you know, if there's so much going onin my life, like, what do I do?
How do I get out of this?
How do I lift my energyand she just dance?
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Or she can just be.
Whatever makes you happy.
Third turn your thoughts to that. Right.
Get your thoughts of that train.
Go to another train.
Okay. You can do that.
You know you can feel the feeling,you could feel the grief
but don't get stuck in that turn on musicthat makes you feel good.
(08:43):
Yeah.
That so true.
So true. It's like anything else.
If you don't like a certain TV show,you change the channel.
You know, like a certain song.
You just change and go somewhere else
where you're going to find a songyou like.
It's so easy, really, in theory.
But people, I think, get mired in drama,
and I don't want to letthat rent real estate inside my head.
(09:03):
Yeah,I want to focus really on good. Sure.
We get drawn in. We all do.
Some people will say to me and probablysay to you, you guys really all that up?
You do all the time.
How could anybody be that happyall the time?
Well, if people heard your storyabout what goes on every day in your life
and my story many times, you know,and I mean, I'm very grateful.
But we all have challenges.
I just choose to focus on what's goodeach and every day.
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And that's the title of the show.
Joyceand I talked about the title of the show.
It just came up like, you know what's goodwhen we talk to people,
what's good, we ask people what's good,
and it makes them think like, oh, changesthe whole trajectory of their day
to focus onwhat's good rather than how are you,
oh, same old, same old, another dayor another dollar, blah blah.
(09:47):
What's good today?
Yeah. Tell me what's good.
Yeah. No, that is how it started.
And, I certainly was not bornwith a silver spoon in my mouth.
I worked hard, I was hit with a silverspoon a couple of times.
Oh, my goodness.
My dad hadsomething bigger than a silver spoon, but.
Yeah, but I think that's whythis show works for us.
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Because we are everyday peoplewith experience.
Everything.
I mean, from losing loved ones to,
I mean, financial.
Oh, yeah. Yeah.
Through this, and we can still tell youthere's another way you can live.
Please don't live like the peoplethat I know who watch the news 24 seven.
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And they've every time they're awake
and they're watching like onecertain channel that skews it.
Yeah, yeah.
And then they begin to hate on the peopleon the other side of that.
And that's a terribleI don't want to hate anybody who enjoys,
you know, the same way, whether it be,I mean, even know certain people
in the arena out therewho wish people dead or harmed.
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And the arena we live in right now,we've become so divided.
I don't want to feel that wayabout anybody.
We we may have our strong beliefseither way about certain things.
We're not going to delve into that.
You know, that that river or that sea.
But I don't wish any harm on anyone.
I don't want to. Karma. Yeah.
Peacefully to Hahahahahahahaha.
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Yes, yes.
You know,you know, not to not to bring harm.
No, no. In your day.
So you want formula.
So let's sayyou had a particular, you know.
In your mind.
So what would your going to be.
Is it just to just quiet your mindfor a while to pray like.
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Yeah, I'm, I'm very open about my faith.
You and I have both been about that.
And I respect anybody who has a faith,you know.
But my thing is to go to to to God.
And I do that each and every thingbecause I know he's with me.
And he promised he would never forsake me.
And but it also said in the Biblethat rain falls on the
just and the unjust, and we'reall going to have our challenges,
but that's where our faith deepens.
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If everything was all peachy and key,we would never grow.
We would never maturespiritually or emotionally.
So I go right to him all the timeand realize, okay,
there's a reason I may complain to himbecause I look at him as a friend.
He my dad, but he's a friend.
I say, here's what's on my mind.
I don't know if this is fairand I like it.
I might complain, but nevertheless,I trust you.
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I'm not.
I'm not here to figure it out,but I trust you.
And I love thatyou also ask for a spiritual peace.
Yeah.
The anointment of ease,I, I do ask for that.
I say thank youfor your anointment of ease.
But I realize that's not asking forto be to be problem free.
But there is an ease about,you know, coming in the problems
and other problems that type of wayand just ask for guidance.
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I'm always asking for wisdom, discernment,guidance.
How do I handle this?
How do I attach myselfto your supernatural knowledge?
Take me beyond my own abilitiesand just plug into yours.
And that's when things open up.
If I try to do it on my own, Joyce,I screw it up all the time.
But if I give it to him,there seems to be something
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that good comes out of itbecause he knows more.
He sees the beginning for the end,the end from the beginning,
fed into the surrendering surrenderuniverse or God.
Or you just say, sorry,I'm surrendering this right, you know,
and things have a way of working outand nothing really stays the same forever.
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You know,we've got to get our ego out of the way
and just realize it's not about us,that there's something
bigger than us and give us to that.
That was trying to write downsome of the things that I do. So,
to a micro kindness.
Yeah, that helps for me.
Just send someone to knowthat thinking about them
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and send thema text is just so easy to do that.
That is awesome.
If you want to forgetabout your challenges
like you were saying, reach outand do something good for someone else.
If you're having a really bad day,just reach out and find out the letter.
There's a lot of other peoplethat have bad days.
Just scour your social media for a bit,Instagram or Facebook and send a message.
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Let them know you're thinking about themor praying for them.
Hey, they'rethey're in the hospital right now
and they're scared to deathabout an operation.
Reach out and say,hey, listen, I'm just thinking about you.
I'm praying for you.
That go that goes a long way with you.
Is thatwhat do you say? I'm praying for you.
People know you, right?
You get
like a little,jaded by the use of thoughts and prayers.
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Thoughts and prayersbecause you don't know what to say.
Right. And people say that.
But just imagineif they really are praying for you.
You're a part of the group of people.
I can assure you. Somebody is praying.
I agree.
And the thing is, knowing the personand knowing them as well as you do
based on your relationship with themand knowing what you know them
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about them with their faith.
Or maybe, maybe not a strong faithjust kind of personalize the message
so you're not trying to be overbearing.
And if you know they're not overlyreligious, you can send something.
And if you know somebody has a deep faith,
you could maybe sense in Scripturesomething that might resonate with them.
So it's like being a chameleon.
You have to know your audience.
But the bottom line is people just lovewhen you when you, when you say,
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hey, Joyce, I was just thinking about you,how how that warms you up.
And, and especially this time of yearwith the holidays and everything is
so magnified and people are really missingpeople this time of year.
They're really feeling
kind of sad in a lot of cases with that,maybe that empty chair at the table
or missing grandpa, grandma missingthat loved one, that spouse or something.
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So we need to be, I think, be overlysensitive, especially this time of year.
Now, that's when you, needto invite someone into that space.
So someone else that, you know,and maybe you feel
shy even about asking them to come over,but do it anyway.
Right.
The worst thing about that is they'll sayno, they're busy but reach out
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to someone else because guaranteedwe all go through the same thing.
And so many peoplemay not invite somebody over
because they think, oh,my house is a mess.
It needs this and this and this.
That's kind of like, you know, taken away.
They're not coming over to see your house,that type of thing, that they're there
because you invited them therebecause they, they're
there's somebody who needs somethingthat you can offer.
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We need to get ourselves out of the way.
And I'm guilty of,you know, getting myself in the way a lot.
And the other thing is,
say one good thing out loud.
Say it out loud.
Like, I'll say I love my life.
And it may not be at a particular timewhere you think I'm.
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As soon as I say that,
I begin to look aroundand say I have eyes to see.
Here I have, I always say I got a house.
Yes, I got a mortgage. Right. Yeah.
That I had this and that.
So that gets me out of,you know something where I'm from feeling
like happy about that I, I like youyou've mentioned I get to yes.
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Yes you do this and you can just switchyour thoughts with your words.
Important thing to methat happens happens immediately.
I know you've said this to me many times.
It's a breath. Yes.
You take a deep belly thread
and it has to register in your brain
and everything is okaybecause if you breathe from your chest
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all the way up
here and tightens itand your brain thinks you're.
That's right.
And those you know stress.
Yeah.
That fight or flight type thing. Yes.
But the moment you let your belly go looselike a Raggedy Ann,
and you just take an deep belly breath,
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your brain helps you to relaxand helps you to feel better.
That is the most fast free thing.
Yeah, I totally agree.
If I'm feeling stressed
sometimes your situation comeson, I breathe, I take those deep breaths,
you know, in through my noseand then write out a long exhale.
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And I do that each and every morning, too.
It's all part of my routine.
First and foremost,I do my prayers and then I do my,
you know,spiritual, mental, physical work.
So prayers get my mindset by what I'm saying to myself,
looking forward to the dayand expecting good things to happen,
even though they may not all happen,but I'm still expecting it, right?
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And then I do my TaiChi and yoga and Pilates.
That's meditation and motion movement,movement in the morning first thing,
even if you have trouble moving,move a little bit and massage your arms.
Massage your calves, you know, massageyour body and like underneath
your arms too, in the back of your neckbecause you want
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you want to get the blood flowto your brain.
So I'll spend30s of massaging the back of my neck.
Then I go behind my ears, and then I rubacross my nose and I'm rubbing my face.
I'm tapping my face.
I'm tapping my entire body all the waythrough, rubbing behind my knees and just,
you know, and stretching my, my legs,my ankles up and down, rotating them,
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you know, each and every every morningbefore I even get out of bed for about
ten, 15 minutes, I do that.
I do something, you know, similar.
I have to remember to do all that.
And I tell myself,thank you, body, for healing.
You're doing your job,I feel great, I am young,
I am healthy,I am, you know, and you know, my life.
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And the next thing I have to dois go to the doctor.
Right.
I feel it inside.
So sometimes you have to speak by faith.
Not so much by what you feel like.
You speak by faith.
You can't say to us, well,I don't know what I'm going through,
but yeah, I probably do,and I probably don't in some areas,
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but we've all been through somethingbut speak.
Yeah. Yeah.We just love cheering people on.
I love cheering people onbecause so many people are hurting.
Every everybody watching this podcastand are listening to it
right now is battling something.
We're cheering you on
because because chances areyou don't know us all that
well outside of the podcast right now.
But I can assure you we are as well. Yes.
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And talking about moving.
And that's what I wrote down here.
Walk to the mailbox,
stretchyour arms up, dance in the kitchen. Yes.
Releases good, feel good chemicals
even if you don't feel like.
Right, right.
So many people.
It's a good point because so many people
I got to be motivated,know, do the activity first
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and then the motivationwill kick in too many times.
If you're waiting to be motivated,nothing's going to happen, right?
So you just have to like
you may not feel like it,like first thing in the morning
when I wake up many times,I don't want to get up
and do the movement exercises,but I get up and do them anyway,
and once I start movingand dancing around, I feel so much better.
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My cats both look at me like,dad's going kind of wacko here,
and they just watch their heads.
They're going back and forth watching.
Yeah, you're right,they're watching this one.
I'm going up this.
I'm on their back and forth with theirtheir beautiful little faces.
I love my kitty cats. Yeah.
And then the other thing is, changeyour words.
Your words are really important.
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Instead of saying,I feel stuck, say, I'm learning.
Instead of saying I can't.
You can say, I'm figuring this out.
Or, you know, your words changeyour emotions that change your outcome.
I always say, if something is really hard,don't say it's really hard.
Just say it's a bit of a challenge rightnow. That's a great point.
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We don't have problems.We have challenges.
We we don't say we can't.
We say, how can we, likeyou were saying in a previous episode,
you know, I don't have to go to work.
I get to go to work. Right? So.
And it changes your whole mindset
when you send love to a personthat you have a difficult time.
And I say this topeople who work in offices,
(22:11):
time.
But if you can change itto walking by your office and going,
to I love you,I don't know why you act this way,
but I'm sending loveas one human to another.
If you could be as simple as that,you're going to see a change.
Not only you, but in.
Now I know what you're thinking right now.
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If you're watching or listening,you don't know the person I'm working with
right now. And maybe we don't.
But that's where we have to speakby faith.
Yes, in many times, because it can change.
I really believe our internal thoughtsand the way we handle ourselves
can change the external and that and thatand that goes to other people as well.
And you've told me about many examplesin your life, Joyce,
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and there have been examples in my lifeto her.
It's like, that's not the same person.
Just by the way, I changed so many.
So instead of asking God or somebodyto change that person, say, well,
what do I need to change about meand how I look at this situation?
And then things can reallyand you might be looking like a week
or a month or a year later, say, wow,I never saw that coming.
(23:16):
I know we have to changefirst. Internally.
I think I'm sure of this before,but you just remind me
and and you don't even have to be,you know, the person.
You're the person.
Because there was something going onin my life for 20 years
with someone that was,and I've always said, if I wrote it out
and told you, you would say,pick a person for your life.
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But, I just remember sitting down,this was not that long ago.
And it was a really it was a hard time
when my husband was,you know, the dying phase of it.
I just sat on my bed and I said, God,
I am so tired of being a mom,and I'm really tired.
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And it's draining my body,being angry at this person.
I don't know what made them this wayor what they went through.
Right now I love themand I'm only going to send them love,
and I'm never going to speak anythingnegative about them again.
And less than 48 hours,
(24:24):
that person sent in email and said,
I don't even know why we don't speak,
but I'm sure it was my fault. Wow.
For each time it changed.
Yeah, we are very close now
and I saidI will never speak negative about you.
And she said,I will never speak negative about you.
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Wow, this special different bond now.
And I did itwith one other person in my family
and we are now very close.
And it really was supernatural, right?
Sure. I didn't call them.
I just sat
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down and talked to God about itand said I just send them love.
I don't want to carry this heaviness.
You know, I just what you said surrender.
Yeah.
Surrender dayand it took place and I still get when I,
when I see these peopleI it just like it's so cheerful.
It's like my heart. Yeah.
(25:27):
It's like I'm so alone in this right now.
I've got that.
There's only so much room in our bodylike energy in our, space in our cup.
Do you have in body?
And I want to fill itwith as much good as possible.
I don't want
I mean, a lot of times I'll say, God,I want to release all offenses,
all peopleI've been offended by in the past,
all people that I may have, negative feelings toward,
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whether it be, you know, cognizant of itor it's buried away inside my body.
I want to release all thatto you. Offended.
Right. Exactly.And I know I have offended people.
We all have. You know.
You know, please forgive me for thatand let that message travel too.
Yeah.
Because so many times,and I've learned a long time ago,
I prefer to leave voice messages becausepeople can hear my voice and the intent.
(26:13):
If you text somebody or send an email,think about it
first for like 24 hoursbefore you send it right.
But if you leave a voice messagefor someone, they can hear your voice
and not misinterpretthe text or the email they can hear.
You know how you go up and downand know that you're speaking from from
from a place of love and they canunderstand where it's coming from.
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At least I hope that's the placeyou're coming from.
My, that's happened to mewhere it's like I wrote back.
It's.
No, that's I, I've, I've had that happento me too, many times in the past.
So what else do you do?
Well, I love the.
I love to get out of the house,get outside, get the fresh air,
get the vitamin D, do some grounding,walking barefoot out there and just,
(26:55):
you know, getting in touch with the earth,so to speak. Yeah.
I love going to the coffee
shop, you know, and seeing peoplebecause it's such a happy occasion.
So I have my routine pretty much every daywith how I start my day, but
I love to be able to go to the gymbecause it's all positive.
And the serotonin, the dopamine,all those good feeling chemicals come out.
Nothing like moving the body.
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Yeah, if you can't,this is something that that surprised me.
I'm goingto kind of do a little bit about it.
But this is something that was writtenby a doctor
that actually mostpeople are walking around dehydrated,
and dehydrationmimics sadness and anxiety.
So a glass of water
to perk you upmore than first thing in the morning.
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Two large glasses of waterbefore I have my coffee.
You want to have the water beforeyou have your coffee,
give your digestive system or your tummya little bit of a break.
You don't want the acidity coming inright away.
And then I throw a little, you know,maybe pinch of sea salt in there.
Celtic salt gives me the electrolytesI need.
And then I have my coffee,usually a half hour, 45 minutes after
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with a little bit of MCT oilin there, coconut oil.
And it's really a good, goodkind of fat, you know.
And I can't do that. Yeah.
The coconut oil.
Yeah. Again it depends on you.
It depends on your situation.
It's so good for you.
So then we'll get there and breathe.
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Do the micro kindness.
That's right.
Is important.
I like this one.
Light a candle.
I love to like.
And straighten out a corner of your home.
Make it your super speciallittle guy downstairs.
You got a such a cozy downstairsI love when I,
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when I look at some of these magazinesand you see these people like with
and they have
these beautiful little cabinsor they're tucked away somewhere in there
and they had placestucked away in their home
and it's like a little window seat.
Then you see the cat next to themand there and they have a picture of the,
the hot cup of coffeeor tea or hot chocolate.
I, I don't have a place like thatwhere I am.
You can make that.
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Yeah, but your your whole being is a,
my wife will agree with you sometimes.
And other times. Oh, not so much.
So you really talked about like,step outside because that's another one.
Get that vitamin D always help me.
I look up at the sky, looking up at the.
It's a bird. It's a plane.
No, it,
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Is healing.
So healing.
You know, I found that outmany, many years ago when and I felt like
that God really first touched my lifereally unexpectedly, really unexpectedly.
And then I saw him and everything.
The trees, the birds, everything was,Oh, God is nature.
Yeah, I get it now. Right? It was.
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It was a beautiful awakening.
Oh, first thing in the morning,I'm looking out the window
when I'm doing my exerciseof when it starts getting light.
And I see the birds, like yousaid, in the squirrels.
And I'm just blown away by the squirrels,their aerodynamics and how they move.
And I'm like, wishing with all the TaijiI'm doing right now, I'll never be able
to move like a squirrel.
Yeah, they are just fascinatingcreatures to watch.
I know a lot of people think that they're,you know, they're not so happy to see.
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I love squirrels,you know, a lot of people will say
they're stupid,but no, they're not stupid.
They don't remember whereI put them. Right.
But they're here for for the,for acorns and all that.
But they cost forces, too.
Oh, exactly.
Sure, they're not meant to remember right.
And eat everything.
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So this is this might be a good thingto do to end the show on,
catch yourselfwhen you're thinking something,
you know, really negative and interpret itthis way.
Is this the truth or just my fear talking?
And just stop with that question.
And the other thing to do is ask yourselfwhat's good.
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And this was not written by me again.
This was written by wow.
You ask yourself what's goodand your brain automatically searches
for more of it and whatever you look for.
So if you're feeling down to I'mlooking for a really good comedy,
I absolutely, but I'm looking fora real good comedy to watch and of
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if I'm not reading or listeningto a podcast or watching a podcast, Patty
and I like to just get on the couch
for an hour and a halfand find a really good movie, a classic.
So like last night,I was on the phone saying,
show me the best movies of the 1990s,and I try to find a good comedy.
Then back to the 80s.
I love the classic 80s 90s stuff,and I know you go
even farther back with the movies,and I like them too.
(31:38):
But but my, my, my hot spot is 80s90s movies, and I love them.
So we watched Independence Daythe other night, you know, love that movie
with Tommy Lee Jones and Will Smith.
It was just so goofy. It was just fun.
And what I watch the other night,well, I had the ice pack on my back right?
Trying like, you know, chill.
And I watch serendipity real.
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I remember serendipity, yes.
And I love Cusack.
Yeah, that was just a nice right?
Yeah.
I love a good love story.
So yeah, it was great.
And we wish that for all of you findyour own what's good formula for yourself.
And hopefully we gave them some goodand right.
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I gotta tell you something.
Yes, I have the best morning,you know, why?
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Not only did I have a good sleep,but I had this dream.
And I know sometimes people get boredand people tell about their dreams.
But this one was really special to mebecause I'm a vivid dreamer.
But I'm not. It was good.
It. Now do youdream in color of black and white color.
I always call it. Really.
Okay.
And some of my dreams are prophetic.
(01:52):
Some of them arealmost like a minor pathetic,
not prophetic.
That's right.
Yeah.
Did you ever have a dreamwhere you wake up
and you have to go to the bathroom,you come back and you do a yes.
I'm always hoping I can dream.
Went on all night.And you know what I was doing?
What were you doing?
(02:12):
Hanging out with the Righteous Brothers?
Oh, Bill medley was there.
Bobby Hatfield, great voice.
Oh, both of them.
You know, I think I might
go back to the days where I work and,you know, Palace Theater, Oakdale theater.
So part of my job was entertaining people,
taking them to lunch or whatever,11 in the morning.
(02:34):
But there's just not at 8:00 at night.
But I wasn't thinkingof the Righteous Brothers.
I didn't hear any of their songsthe whole night.
I was with these two em,
and I was asking them about their music,and I made a chicken.
Hahahahaha! Eating right.
Bobby said to me, do you want some coffee?
(02:56):
And I said, you know, I don't really knowhow to make coffee in the kitchen.
I'll show you how Bobby Hatfieldteaching you how to make coffee.
Ooh, it didn't matteras much with the ground
as it mattered, with the kind of wateryou used that caused it to taste better.
Thank you. Bobby, I didn't know that.
Well, bill medley
(03:16):
sitting on the couch and I have to sayI always had a crush on him.
Yeah. Wait.
So I googled him this morningand I thought, man, you're 85.
You look terrific.And then I saw his wife title.
Yeah, yeah.
So, Bill medley,if you're looking for somebody.
Yeah.
I always had a question with the musicand they were talking about their music.
(03:38):
Blue-Eyed soul, Blue-Eyed soul. Love it.
The first thing I did was I said,Alexa, play just once in my life.
Oh, yeah, and then that song came onand I just felt Ebb Tide,
another one of their not not as familiarI chant melody,
but that was first recordedby like 5 or 6 people back in the 50s.
(04:00):
And you think you think about UnchainedMelody.
It never hit the top five in the charts.
For The Righteous Brothers,it peaked at number six,
and you lost that LovinFeelin was their biggie,
and that was the most playedsong of the 20th century vocals, right?
I loved it and
and Bill medleyhad a lot of people don't know this Joyce,
(04:20):
but he had a successful semi in the 80s incountry music.
He had some solo songs on the countrycharts, which I played back
in the early days, and he was really goodfriends with Elvis Presley.
Elvis loved him and Bill loved him.
I mean, Bill would do his shows in LasVegas and Elvis would just go watch him
and he'd go to the back of the stageand he would cross the stage
(04:42):
while Bill was singingand just say hi to the crowd.
And at first he thought he wasmaybe being kind of rude doing that.
And he said to Bill afterwardswhen Bill went to visit him in his suite,
you know, Bill,maybe I shouldn't do that.
It's kind of rude.
No, no, because every time you do it,it packs the house
people hear about Elvismight cross the stage because in.
(05:03):
Yeah.
So, Elvis, you just do it.Just cross the stage and wave.
And then Elvis would include you've lostthat loving feeling in his show.
After that.
It was always a highlight because I lovedElvis, his version of that song.
Listen to it sometime.
Yeah.
Forgot to tell me that history.
He was too busy listening to Bobbytell you about how to make coffee.
So about the water.
(05:24):
That was part of my my good feeling.
Good, right?
Listening to music.
Right. Waking up that way.That was like a.
Oh, I agree with you, Joyce.
I do the same thingbecause we can really determine our day,
but by how we wake upand how we get our mindset straight,
we're getting up in the morningand making a decision to have a good day.
You know, we have a choice.
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Well, we have a choice.Happiness is a choice.
Like Abe Lincoln said back in the day,you know, when we were hanging out, Abe
Lincoln and I had a dream about ushanging out Abe Lincoln.
I was there when he was.
I was therewhen he wrote the Gettysburg Address.
Oh, 29 seconds of it.
But, you know, just waking up with good,good music,
upbeat stuff that makes you feel good.
I'm not going to wake up with the news,go to my phone and check all this stuff.
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I don't want the day to happen. Random.
I want to be intentionalabout how my day starts.
Be intentional.
You know, someone just said,who has like a this mindfulness group
and she said that she took a walk.
I know I said, you know, take a walkat night and you walk at night.
You see what's going on in people's homes.
Every home has this big TV on the wall.
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Every one of them has the news on.
And she thought,no wonder why people are so upset.
Yeah, I turn the news. All right.
That's my one feel good thing.
Sometimes I, I see somethingand I want to watch it.
So, you know,
I watch the local news
to see what the weather is,what's going on maybe in my neighborhood.
And that's it.
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I don't want to do it.
I can't control it.
There's nothing I can do.
So that's a feel good thing.
And I know, I know a good buddy of minethat has on the news
all the time, and he's miserable.
And I'm saying, why do you do that?
You can't change anything.
Just go out thereand be the best person you can be.
I mean, I'll tune in occasionallythrough the day.
It's all on repeat anyway.
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It's like a cycle
I might check it for ten 50 minutes,see what's going on in the world
so I can have a conversation with people,but I'm not going to let it,
you know, plant the seed in my body
and turn me into an angry personand just be so negative.
We're only here for a little while.
We're here for a blip and were gone.
I'm not giving my energy.
No, no, rightcaved into it and made me angry.
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I said, nope, I can't do this to my body.
You know, my feel good formulais not only to listen to good music,
but there's a few things on YouTubethat I love, and I happen to love.
Esther Hicks slash Abraham.
And you know, you know,and if you don't, you can check it out.
But it takes her talksand puts them into it.
(07:58):
Most of themI lately have been into animated,
you know, like her animated mom,just like 15, 13 minutes.
Right.
That is so uplifting.
And someone asked her recently,
you know, if there's so much going onin my life, like, what do I do?
How do I get out of this?
How do I lift my energyand she just dance?
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Or she can just be.
Whatever makes you happy.
Third turn your thoughts to that. Right.
Get your thoughts of that train.
Go to another train.
Okay. You can do that.
You know you can feel the feeling,you could feel the grief
but don't get stuck in that turn on musicthat makes you feel good.
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Yeah.
That so true.
So true. It's like anything else.
If you don't like a certain TV show,you change the channel.
You know, like a certain song.
You just change and go somewhere else
where you're going to find a songyou like.
It's so easy, really, in theory.
But people, I think, get mired in drama,
and I don't want to letthat rent real estate inside my head.
(09:03):
Yeah,I want to focus really on good. Sure.
We get drawn in. We all do.
Some people will say to me and probablysay to you, you guys really all that up?
You do all the time.
How could anybody be that happyall the time?
Well, if people heard your storyabout what goes on every day in your life
and my story many times, you know,and I mean, I'm very grateful.
But we all have challenges.
I just choose to focus on what's goodeach and every day.
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And that's the title of the show.
Joyceand I talked about the title of the show.
It just came up like, you know what's goodwhen we talk to people,
what's good, we ask people what's good,
and it makes them think like, oh, changesthe whole trajectory of their day
to focus onwhat's good rather than how are you,
oh, same old, same old, another dayor another dollar, blah blah.
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What's good today?
Yeah. Tell me what's good.
Yeah. No, that is how it started.
And, I certainly was not bornwith a silver spoon in my mouth.
I worked hard, I was hit with a silverspoon a couple of times.
Oh, my goodness.
My dad hadsomething bigger than a silver spoon, but.
Yeah, but I think that's whythis show works for us.
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Because we are everyday peoplewith experience.
Everything.
I mean, from losing loved ones to,
I mean, financial.
Oh, yeah. Yeah.
Through this, and we can still tell youthere's another way you can live.
Please don't live like the peoplethat I know who watch the news 24 seven.
(10:33):
And they've every time they're awake
and they're watching like onecertain channel that skews it.
Yeah, yeah.
And then they begin to hate on the peopleon the other side of that.
And that's a terribleI don't want to hate anybody who enjoys,
you know, the same way, whether it be,I mean, even know certain people
in the arena out therewho wish people dead or harmed.
(10:53):
And the arena we live in right now,we've become so divided.
I don't want to feel that wayabout anybody.
We we may have our strong beliefseither way about certain things.
We're not going to delve into that.
You know, that that river or that sea.
But I don't wish any harm on anyone.
I don't want to. Karma. Yeah.
Peacefully to Hahahahahahahaha.
(11:15):
Yes, yes.
You know,you know, not to not to bring harm.
No, no. In your day.
So you want formula.
So let's sayyou had a particular, you know.
In your mind.
So what would your going to be.
Is it just to just quiet your mindfor a while to pray like.
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Yeah, I'm, I'm very open about my faith.
You and I have both been about that.
And I respect anybody who has a faith,you know.
But my thing is to go to to to God.
And I do that each and every thingbecause I know he's with me.
And he promised he would never forsake me.
And but it also said in the Biblethat rain falls on the
just and the unjust, and we'reall going to have our challenges,
but that's where our faith deepens.
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If everything was all peachy and key,we would never grow.
We would never maturespiritually or emotionally.
So I go right to him all the timeand realize, okay,
there's a reason I may complain to himbecause I look at him as a friend.
He my dad, but he's a friend.
I say, here's what's on my mind.
I don't know if this is fairand I like it.
I might complain, but nevertheless,I trust you.
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I'm not.
I'm not here to figure it out,but I trust you.
And I love thatyou also ask for a spiritual peace.
Yeah.
The anointment of ease,I, I do ask for that.
I say thank youfor your anointment of ease.
But I realize that's not asking forto be to be problem free.
But there is an ease about,you know, coming in the problems
and other problems that type of wayand just ask for guidance.
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I'm always asking for wisdom, discernment,guidance.
How do I handle this?
How do I attach myselfto your supernatural knowledge?
Take me beyond my own abilitiesand just plug into yours.
And that's when things open up.
If I try to do it on my own, Joyce,I screw it up all the time.
But if I give it to him,there seems to be something
(13:03):
that good comes out of itbecause he knows more.
He sees the beginning for the end,the end from the beginning,
fed into the surrendering surrenderuniverse or God.
Or you just say, sorry,I'm surrendering this right, you know,
and things have a way of working outand nothing really stays the same forever.
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You know,we've got to get our ego out of the way
and just realize it's not about us,that there's something
bigger than us and give us to that.
That was trying to write downsome of the things that I do. So,
to a micro kindness.
Yeah, that helps for me.
Just send someone to knowthat thinking about them
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and send thema text is just so easy to do that.
That is awesome.
If you want to forgetabout your challenges
like you were saying, reach outand do something good for someone else.
If you're having a really bad day,just reach out and find out the letter.
There's a lot of other peoplethat have bad days.
Just scour your social media for a bit,Instagram or Facebook and send a message.
(14:05):
Let them know you're thinking about themor praying for them.
Hey, they'rethey're in the hospital right now
and they're scared to deathabout an operation.
Reach out and say,hey, listen, I'm just thinking about you.
I'm praying for you.
That go that goes a long way with you.
Is thatwhat do you say? I'm praying for you.
People know you, right?
You get
like a little,jaded by the use of thoughts and prayers.
(14:28):
Thoughts and prayersbecause you don't know what to say.
Right. And people say that.
But just imagineif they really are praying for you.
You're a part of the group of people.
I can assure you. Somebody is praying.
I agree.
And the thing is, knowing the personand knowing them as well as you do
based on your relationship with themand knowing what you know them
(14:50):
about them with their faith.
Or maybe, maybe not a strong faithjust kind of personalize the message
so you're not trying to be overbearing.
And if you know they're not overlyreligious, you can send something.
And if you know somebody has a deep faith,
you could maybe sense in Scripturesomething that might resonate with them.
So it's like being a chameleon.
You have to know your audience.
But the bottom line is people just lovewhen you when you, when you say,
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hey, Joyce, I was just thinking about you,how how that warms you up.
And, and especially this time of yearwith the holidays and everything is
so magnified and people are really missingpeople this time of year.
They're really feeling
kind of sad in a lot of cases with that,maybe that empty chair at the table
or missing grandpa, grandma missingthat loved one, that spouse or something.
(15:34):
So we need to be, I think, be overlysensitive, especially this time of year.
Now, that's when you, needto invite someone into that space.
So someone else that, you know,and maybe you feel
shy even about asking them to come over,but do it anyway.
Right.
The worst thing about that is they'll sayno, they're busy but reach out
(15:55):
to someone else because guaranteedwe all go through the same thing.
And so many peoplemay not invite somebody over
because they think, oh,my house is a mess.
It needs this and this and this.
That's kind of like, you know, taken away.
They're not coming over to see your house,that type of thing, that they're there
because you invited them therebecause they, they're
there's somebody who needs somethingthat you can offer.
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We need to get ourselves out of the way.
And I'm guilty of,you know, getting myself in the way a lot.
And the other thing is,
say one good thing out loud.
Say it out loud.
Like, I'll say I love my life.
And it may not be at a particular timewhere you think I'm.
(16:38):
As soon as I say that,
I begin to look aroundand say I have eyes to see.
Here I have, I always say I got a house.
Yes, I got a mortgage. Right. Yeah.
That I had this and that.
So that gets me out of,you know something where I'm from feeling
like happy about that I, I like youyou've mentioned I get to yes.
(17:04):
Yes you do this and you can just switchyour thoughts with your words.
Important thing to methat happens happens immediately.
I know you've said this to me many times.
It's a breath. Yes.
You take a deep belly thread
and it has to register in your brain
and everything is okaybecause if you breathe from your chest
(17:29):
all the way up
here and tightens itand your brain thinks you're.
That's right.
And those you know stress.
Yeah.
That fight or flight type thing. Yes.
But the moment you let your belly go looselike a Raggedy Ann,
and you just take an deep belly breath,
(17:51):
your brain helps you to relaxand helps you to feel better.
That is the most fast free thing.
Yeah, I totally agree.
If I'm feeling stressed
sometimes your situation comeson, I breathe, I take those deep breaths,
you know, in through my noseand then write out a long exhale.
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And I do that each and every morning, too.
It's all part of my routine.
First and foremost,I do my prayers and then I do my,
you know,spiritual, mental, physical work.
So prayers get my mindset by what I'm saying to myself,
looking forward to the dayand expecting good things to happen,
even though they may not all happen,but I'm still expecting it, right?
(18:34):
And then I do my TaiChi and yoga and Pilates.
That's meditation and motion movement,movement in the morning first thing,
even if you have trouble moving,move a little bit and massage your arms.
Massage your calves, you know, massageyour body and like underneath
your arms too, in the back of your neckbecause you want
(18:55):
you want to get the blood flowto your brain.
So I'll spend30s of massaging the back of my neck.
Then I go behind my ears, and then I rubacross my nose and I'm rubbing my face.
I'm tapping my face.
I'm tapping my entire body all the waythrough, rubbing behind my knees and just,
you know, and stretching my, my legs,my ankles up and down, rotating them,
(19:16):
you know, each and every every morningbefore I even get out of bed for about
ten, 15 minutes, I do that.
I do something, you know, similar.
I have to remember to do all that.
And I tell myself,thank you, body, for healing.
You're doing your job,I feel great, I am young,
I am healthy,I am, you know, and you know, my life.
(19:38):
And the next thing I have to dois go to the doctor.
Right.
I feel it inside.
So sometimes you have to speak by faith.
Not so much by what you feel like.
You speak by faith.
You can't say to us, well,I don't know what I'm going through,
but yeah, I probably do,and I probably don't in some areas,
(20:00):
but we've all been through somethingbut speak.
Yeah. Yeah.We just love cheering people on.
I love cheering people onbecause so many people are hurting.
Every everybody watching this podcastand are listening to it
right now is battling something.
We're cheering you on
because because chances areyou don't know us all that
well outside of the podcast right now.
But I can assure you we are as well. Yes.
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And talking about moving.
And that's what I wrote down here.
Walk to the mailbox,
stretchyour arms up, dance in the kitchen. Yes.
Releases good, feel good chemicals
even if you don't feel like.
Right, right.
So many people.
It's a good point because so many people
I got to be motivated,know, do the activity first
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and then the motivationwill kick in too many times.
If you're waiting to be motivated,nothing's going to happen, right?
So you just have to like
you may not feel like it,like first thing in the morning
when I wake up many times,I don't want to get up
and do the movement exercises,but I get up and do them anyway,
and once I start movingand dancing around, I feel so much better.
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My cats both look at me like,dad's going kind of wacko here,
and they just watch their heads.
They're going back and forth watching.
Yeah, you're right,they're watching this one.
I'm going up this.
I'm on their back and forth with theirtheir beautiful little faces.
I love my kitty cats. Yeah.
And then the other thing is, changeyour words.
Your words are really important.
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Instead of saying,I feel stuck, say, I'm learning.
Instead of saying I can't.
You can say, I'm figuring this out.
Or, you know, your words changeyour emotions that change your outcome.
I always say, if something is really hard,don't say it's really hard.
Just say it's a bit of a challenge rightnow. That's a great point.
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We don't have problems.We have challenges.
We we don't say we can't.
We say, how can we, likeyou were saying in a previous episode,
you know, I don't have to go to work.
I get to go to work. Right? So.
And it changes your whole mindset
when you send love to a personthat you have a difficult time.
And I say this topeople who work in offices,
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time.
But if you can change itto walking by your office and going,
to I love you,I don't know why you act this way,
but I'm sending loveas one human to another.
If you could be as simple as that,you're going to see a change.
Not only you, but in.
Now I know what you're thinking right now.
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If you're watching or listening,you don't know the person I'm working with
right now. And maybe we don't.
But that's where we have to speakby faith.
Yes, in many times, because it can change.
I really believe our internal thoughtsand the way we handle ourselves
can change the external and that and thatand that goes to other people as well.
And you've told me about many examplesin your life, Joyce,
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and there have been examples in my lifeto her.
It's like, that's not the same person.
Just by the way, I changed so many.
So instead of asking God or somebodyto change that person, say, well,
what do I need to change about meand how I look at this situation?
And then things can reallyand you might be looking like a week
or a month or a year later, say, wow,I never saw that coming.
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I know we have to changefirst. Internally.
I think I'm sure of this before,but you just remind me
and and you don't even have to be,you know, the person.
You're the person.
Because there was something going onin my life for 20 years
with someone that was,and I've always said, if I wrote it out
and told you, you would say,pick a person for your life.
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But, I just remember sitting down,this was not that long ago.
And it was a really it was a hard time
when my husband was,you know, the dying phase of it.
I just sat on my bed and I said, God,
I am so tired of being a mom,and I'm really tired.
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And it's draining my body,being angry at this person.
I don't know what made them this wayor what they went through.
Right now I love themand I'm only going to send them love,
and I'm never going to speak anythingnegative about them again.
And less than 48 hours,
(24:24):
that person sent in email and said,
I don't even know why we don't speak,
but I'm sure it was my fault. Wow.
For each time it changed.
Yeah, we are very close now
and I saidI will never speak negative about you.
And she said,I will never speak negative about you.
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Wow, this special different bond now.
And I did itwith one other person in my family
and we are now very close.
And it really was supernatural, right?
Sure. I didn't call them.
I just sat
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down and talked to God about itand said I just send them love.
I don't want to carry this heaviness.
You know, I just what you said surrender.
Yeah.
Surrender dayand it took place and I still get when I,
when I see these peopleI it just like it's so cheerful.
It's like my heart. Yeah.
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It's like I'm so alone in this right now.
I've got that.
There's only so much room in our bodylike energy in our, space in our cup.
Do you have in body?
And I want to fill itwith as much good as possible.
I don't want
I mean, a lot of times I'll say, God,I want to release all offenses,
all peopleI've been offended by in the past,
all people that I may have, negative feelings toward,
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whether it be, you know, cognizant of itor it's buried away inside my body.
I want to release all thatto you. Offended.
Right. Exactly.And I know I have offended people.
We all have. You know.
You know, please forgive me for thatand let that message travel too.
Yeah.
Because so many times,and I've learned a long time ago,
I prefer to leave voice messages becausepeople can hear my voice and the intent.
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If you text somebody or send an email,think about it
first for like 24 hoursbefore you send it right.
But if you leave a voice messagefor someone, they can hear your voice
and not misinterpretthe text or the email they can hear.
You know how you go up and downand know that you're speaking from from
from a place of love and they canunderstand where it's coming from.
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At least I hope that's the placeyou're coming from.
My, that's happened to mewhere it's like I wrote back.
It's.
No, that's I, I've, I've had that happento me too, many times in the past.
So what else do you do?
Well, I love the.
I love to get out of the house,get outside, get the fresh air,
get the vitamin D, do some grounding,walking barefoot out there and just,
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you know, getting in touch with the earth,so to speak. Yeah.
I love going to the coffee
shop, you know, and seeing peoplebecause it's such a happy occasion.
So I have my routine pretty much every daywith how I start my day, but
I love to be able to go to the gymbecause it's all positive.
And the serotonin, the dopamine,all those good feeling chemicals come out.
Nothing like moving the body.
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Yeah, if you can't,this is something that that surprised me.
I'm goingto kind of do a little bit about it.
But this is something that was writtenby a doctor
that actually mostpeople are walking around dehydrated,
and dehydrationmimics sadness and anxiety.
So a glass of water
to perk you upmore than first thing in the morning.
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Two large glasses of waterbefore I have my coffee.
You want to have the water beforeyou have your coffee,
give your digestive system or your tummya little bit of a break.
You don't want the acidity coming inright away.
And then I throw a little, you know,maybe pinch of sea salt in there.
Celtic salt gives me the electrolytesI need.
And then I have my coffee,usually a half hour, 45 minutes after
(28:02):
with a little bit of MCT oilin there, coconut oil.
And it's really a good, goodkind of fat, you know.
And I can't do that. Yeah.
The coconut oil.
Yeah. Again it depends on you.
It depends on your situation.
It's so good for you.
So then we'll get there and breathe.
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Do the micro kindness.
That's right.
Is important.
I like this one.
Light a candle.
I love to like.
And straighten out a corner of your home.
Make it your super speciallittle guy downstairs.
You got a such a cozy downstairsI love when I,
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when I look at some of these magazinesand you see these people like with
and they have
these beautiful little cabinsor they're tucked away somewhere in there
and they had placestucked away in their home
and it's like a little window seat.
Then you see the cat next to themand there and they have a picture of the,
the hot cup of coffeeor tea or hot chocolate.
I, I don't have a place like thatwhere I am.
You can make that.
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Yeah, but your your whole being is a,
my wife will agree with you sometimes.
And other times. Oh, not so much.
So you really talked about like,step outside because that's another one.
Get that vitamin D always help me.
I look up at the sky, looking up at the.
It's a bird. It's a plane.
No, it,
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Is healing.
So healing.
You know, I found that outmany, many years ago when and I felt like
that God really first touched my lifereally unexpectedly, really unexpectedly.
And then I saw him and everything.
The trees, the birds, everything was,Oh, God is nature.
Yeah, I get it now. Right? It was.
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It was a beautiful awakening.
Oh, first thing in the morning,I'm looking out the window
when I'm doing my exerciseof when it starts getting light.
And I see the birds, like yousaid, in the squirrels.
And I'm just blown away by the squirrels,their aerodynamics and how they move.
And I'm like, wishing with all the TaijiI'm doing right now, I'll never be able
to move like a squirrel.
Yeah, they are just fascinatingcreatures to watch.
I know a lot of people think that they're,you know, they're not so happy to see.
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I love squirrels,you know, a lot of people will say
they're stupid,but no, they're not stupid.
They don't remember whereI put them. Right.
But they're here for for the,for acorns and all that.
But they cost forces, too.
Oh, exactly.
Sure, they're not meant to remember right.
And eat everything.
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So this is this might be a good thingto do to end the show on,
catch yourselfwhen you're thinking something,
you know, really negative and interpret itthis way.
Is this the truth or just my fear talking?
And just stop with that question.
And the other thing to do is ask yourselfwhat's good.
(30:55):
And this was not written by me again.
This was written by wow.
You ask yourself what's goodand your brain automatically searches
for more of it and whatever you look for.
So if you're feeling down to I'mlooking for a really good comedy,
I absolutely, but I'm looking fora real good comedy to watch and of
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if I'm not reading or listeningto a podcast or watching a podcast, Patty
and I like to just get on the couch
for an hour and a halfand find a really good movie, a classic.
So like last night,I was on the phone saying,
show me the best movies of the 1990s,and I try to find a good comedy.
Then back to the 80s.
I love the classic 80s 90s stuff,and I know you go
even farther back with the movies,and I like them too.
(31:38):
But but my, my, my hot spot is 80s90s movies, and I love them.
So we watched Independence Daythe other night, you know, love that movie
with Tommy Lee Jones and Will Smith.
It was just so goofy. It was just fun.
And what I watch the other night,well, I had the ice pack on my back right?
Trying like, you know, chill.
And I watch serendipity real.
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I remember serendipity, yes.
And I love Cusack.
Yeah, that was just a nice right?
Yeah.
I love a good love story.
So yeah, it was great.
And we wish that for all of you findyour own what's good formula for yourself.
And hopefully we gave them some goodand right.
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And people are going to be a lot happier
if they're watchingwhat's good with John and Joyce.
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