Today I chat with Becca Flatt, who is a therapist and advocate specializing in adoption-related trauma, grief, and estrangement. A queer, Black, interracial biracial adoptee, she provides therapy exclusively for adoptees and consultations for both adoptees and adoptive parents. Becca facilitates an estrangement support group for adoptees with Adoption Mosaic and teaches an estrangement course for adoptive parents, helping clients navigate relational challenges with compassion, boundaries, and clarity.
We discuss:
-How she found the balance between accountability and understanding.
- How she defines what “Forced Empathy” looks like
-What accountability looks like when you burn it to the ground
- How she dealt with self hatred stemming from racism.
- Why adoptees forgo their comfort to support their adoptive parents.
- Misogynoir--what is it?
-And Becca does touch on but does not go into detail how she is a sexual abuse survivor.
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